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Why do different women say you look a different age?

I'm 28 and I get younger girls saying I look about 22 and older women saying I look 30. Is it some kind of mind game or are they trying to make themselves feel better?
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>>23189922
Checked.
To answer your question, some people are just generally not good with determining people's age. Could also be you looking differently on different days if you're unkempt/have an odd look in your eyes.
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People will always assume you are closer to their current age. Thats wil younger women say you look younger and why older women say you look older.
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>>23189922
Work out and grow some hair on your face
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>>23189922
because different women are different and have different perceptions of you.
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>>23189928
But why though?

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Alright gents I'm asking for your input on options that might be available that I haven't yet considered. I'll try to be quick.

It's possible I have a deficiency in my attention span. In earlier years it was still prominent but I worked through it utilizing what free time a teenage kid usually had. My current situation includes employment, military duty, a girlfriend and working on a passion project.

Undiagnosed; and I'm in a position where I cannot obtain any efficient medication legally. Marine Corps is intolerant on said medication and possible conditions.

My diet is reasonable and my fitness is 1st class. Coffee is a staple in the mornings and although it's impossible for me to maintain a constant sleep schedule (I work under the deputy coroner, retrieving bodies of the county 24/7)

In short I'm looking for an alternative way to stay sharp through the days I can focus on my personal work. If any.

Thanks in advance.
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>Coffee is a staple on the mornings, and I should add that it's impossible for me to maintain a constant sleep schedule*

[Bump] Used to come to this board when I was younger. Thought it'd be my first stop.
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you have add, bro
get a prescription for adderall
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>>23189165
wait nvm lol didnt read whole post
sorry
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>>23187860
I know the answ - oh look, a butterfly!
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>>23189168
>>23189343

OP here. Yeah that's what I've figured. It's the only disorder that really fit the bill. It's an exaggeration to say that I absolutely cannot focus, but many of my peers can zero in to whatever they set their mind to naturally where as mine is always a conscious effort to continually pull myself back in; requiring unreasonable discipline to work on something that I actually am interested in and enjoy working on. I am fortunate it never destroyed my work ethic but I often wonder what I could be capable of it were out of the picture.

Thanks gents.

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>be 24 year old femanon
>all my former childhood friends/acquaintances have gotten married already
>I'm not hideously overweight or deformed but crippling autism has left me with literally no social skills and everyone gets bored of me after one outing
>don't want to die alone
So what's my best option here
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>>23187106
Hey, another socially retarded femanon here. When you say people get bored of you after one outing, do you mean they just don't reach out to see you again, or that they actively avoid making plans? Because if it's the former, it might just be that you need to initiate contact more (within reason, obviously) but if it's the latter, it might be that there are specific behaviors that others find off-putting/annoying, and you can definitely learn to avoid those if you can identify them.
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I’m a 24 femanon who just got broken up with my fiance. I love him so much and I wish me and him were together again. It feels like a horrible dream. Me and him had equal amounts of autism so we were perfect for each other. Met online through Twitter and he lived down the street from me. I feel like I will never find anyone like him and I can’t bring myself to date a normal guy. I will be in the same boat too because before him dating was horrible for me because my autism was too much for people. Asides from my little vent, I find it best to find someone online. If they live close to you then you are set. If you are on the chubby side it’s ok because boys also like tummy girls. But it’s easy to lose weight, I was 140lbs and dropped to 100lbs from going on long walks, cutting out alcohol, less snacks, no soda.
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>>23189863
I asked him to shoot me an email because we had fun talking to each other.
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>>23189852
because I am hyperautistic and it has compromised every relationship i have ever been in with a woman
ive had non-sperg friends but they never last, my longest lasting friendships are with fellow autists
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>>23189859
can i have a threesome with you

I just want to make sure I'm not the bad guy here. My dad recently touched me in a very sensitive spot. Right around my hips and waist. I was shirtless at the time making dinner and he just came over and pinched/grabbed that area and make a weird kissing sound that I'm certain was jokingly. I'm a 23 year old guy, and I don't usually get touched there so I got startled and gave him a very firm "don't touch me there".

Later on in the day I apologized and tried to explain to him that I just don't like being touched there especially without consent. He then told me that he was offended by my "tone" and "attitude" which I then apologized for but not until he told me that he felt like he had a right to touch me wherever he wanted. To which I said "I don't believe you do". Apparently I had a bad tone there to, because he told me that I must think I'm some invincible tough young man and that now that I'm becoming a man I must be acting up and being disrespectful and crossing the lines or whatever.


I don't think I was crossing any lines. I said I was sorry for being rude but he doesn't have a right to touch me wherever he wants. I don't pay attention to tone because I'd rather not lie to people and say something differently to how I truly feel about it. Why should I censor myself because my dad can't take the heat? I grew up with him screaming in my face all the time. So much that I'm willing to bet drill sergeants won't be able to get much out of me. Am I in the right? Pls help.
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old people are prone to doing stupid, irrational shit that they normally wouldn't have any real impulse to do. I swear sometimes they just go on autopilot and say or do whatever shit pops into their head. I bet he's being a dick about it because he's embarrassed he did it and he doesn't really know why.
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>>23188760
t. autist
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>>23187802
You're never going to move out if you keep waiting like that. Move out. Find a way to make it work right now.
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>>23187576
???????????????

are you a fucking homo?
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Now my mom texted me and told me that I "seriously hurt his feelings" and that I was being "incredibly rude and disrespectful"

I don't feel like blowing the house up so I just lied and said I was sorry. She still wants to "talk to me" when I get home though. I can't believe they're blowing it up like this. Whatever. I just want to get this shit show over with. Seems like my whole life with my parents has been a series of trying to shut them up and move things along. Shit shows like these happen in a weekly basis practically.

I’m obsessing. I can’t get over my ex boyfriend. He was horrible to me when it came to emotions. I begged him over the course of 8 months to show interest in me. To be romantic. The relationship was toxic. We always fought and it was usually because I wanted him to be there for me or further the relationship and he was never ready. Never felt the same way. Would cuss me out and call me names every time I needed reassurance. I would always help him. Be there for him...hold him when he cried. I paid for every dinner, every day, every cup of coffee. He didn’t have any money and when he did he’d spend it on himself. I helped him and was his support through everything. Any time it was my turn and I needed him to reciprocate... he couldn’t.

Never mind about that. We broke up. He did unforgivable stuff and had no remorse. I loved him unconditionally. I gave him so many chances. I hoped that he would be nicer. That he would love me back. That he’d care. Now that it’s over I can’t stop thinking about how much I loved him. It’s been a month since we broke up. I tried going to some random guys house off a dating app yesterday. I ended up not getting enough courage to make a move. When I left I hugged and kissed him. I felt nothing. I felt like I was cheating on my ex even though we aren’t together. I didn’t get aroused or feel a spark like I’ve done before. I felt empty and could only think about him. I can’t stop. It hurts I want to die. I wish he wanted me back but I’d be disrespecting myself by letting him into my life again. I’d lose myself to let him into my life again. I know that there isn’t any going back but I can’t stop wishing things were different. I can’t let go and it’s destroyed me.
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very scary post
like a real life ghost story
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I know your kind, you won't fool me. I imagine the fucking shit your ex had to put up with, the illogical conversations you forced upon him till his sanity broke.

Live and forget about him. I hope he will too.
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>>23189891
>wishing things were different
You need to say FUCK this attitude for the rest of your life. If you keep thinking about what happened yesterday or last week you're going to question your choices but never be able to change them, so what's the point? Learn from your mistakes and focus on the present.
Enjoy every pleasure, feel every pain. But let them come and go, don't dwell.

Why do people have sex
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>>23189696
Idk bro
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>>23189696
>Have sex with roastie for first time
>A week later I come blood
>kept cooming blood every time
I jacked off
>Was dealing with a bunch of financial issues so I couldn’t be seen
>Take to long, the bacteria does its damage
>My left testicle is now permanently blocked off by scar tissue, attempting to cum is extremely painful

Sex is over rated. Use a condom and don’t be like me
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>>23189696
It's fun
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>>23189696
Feels amazing and strengthens the bond between me and my partner
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>>23190287
>strengthens the bond between me and my partner
I wish it worked like that. I’d have raw sex with her then she’d ghost me for weeks, I’m ready to meet someone that would actually like to get closer to me.

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Are there any video games where I can revise a little bit for chem, bio, or physics?
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>>23190267
you know what would be more rewarding than playing that game

doing the thing youre supposed to be doing
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>>23190276
You are right, but I managed to get a good studying routine going, and I was wondering whether I could maybe modify my free time a bit, and I don't really have the energy to continue studying at night.
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>>23190284
thats weakness talking

keep studying
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>>23190267
Grand Theft Physics
World Of Water-based lifeforms
Super Mario Chemists
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>>23190307
>grand theft phsyics
so either a nigga steals newton's third law or he steals a car and gets stolen by the car as well
lmao

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I can't talk to girls for shit. This was the second Tinder girl I met, and I always end up chatting about random shit, convo literally never goes anywhere, I mean I talk to them like I would with any other person, aka I don't know how to steer the convo in the right direction, sex or a relationship. That's the final goal, doesn't have to happen immediately, and I'm not thirsty or horny, I'm just pissed off because I can feel them lose interest because I just chat about typical shit like uni, travelling etc. I met with this girl today on a square, and we went or a walk around the center, talked etc. I didn't feel awkward and I don't think she did either, she was open to talk, but yeah I didn't ask for a number or anything. When we were separating she literally said "thanks for everything" and it made it sound like a GG.

I sent a text saying "I really enjoyed your company and talking to you, I'm up to meet again."

Maybe I'm looking too hard into this, but if they were willing to meet up in the first place, I clearly keep fucking up somewhere. Looks aren't a problem obviously as they wouldn't be willing to meet up imo, so it's my non-sexual behavior or something. How to stop cock blocking myself?
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bump

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how do i deal with the faggot voice?

one of my teachers in my cs class has that quee flamboyant faggot voice and i fucking hate hearing him talk i just want to beat him up so badly i cannot stand it.my face goes from rested to pic related the instant i hear him talk its like he is able to cripple my sanity and focus on demand

and also when im away from that class i have to deal with the university having so many faggots that voice is everywhere
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imagine being so insecure you feel your own masculinity is threatened by another man's voice
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>>23190288
>>23190280
it is painful to hear it you fucking retards
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>>23190293
Why don't you put a tampon in and try and control your emotions a little?
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>>23190230
Right on, bro. You should beat up everyone who is the slightest bit different from you. They have to learn.
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>>23190304
no i will stay irritated at his voice. i have him muted on teams and often tell him to lower his voice so i can focus in class. luckily i wont be with him next semester just have to bare these next few weeks

true say though, you white people are fucked, i dont think ive seen so many faggots in one area before until i joined this 95% white uni. feels good not being one of you

I used to be a 6/10, and went bald and am now a 4/10. I think women still want to date ugly guys, but for some reason dating isn’t as fun, watching anime and pretending to be a ninja isn’t fun, playing games where I have to decide what my character’s hair should be like isn’t fun, daydreaming about going to some country and exploring and trying to be a cool interesting person is also no longer fun.

Losing my hair has really made me realize how much I consider my image when enjoying things, and the obvious thing people are going to say is “Well do the things you really care about, retard!” but in truth I don’t think I care about much. I vaguely care about helping people, but not that much, and that’s about it. I just wanted to pretend to be a cool ninja scholar who fucks chicks and is bohemian, and now I’m not sure what to be or enjoy since my ideal is impossible.

I have no intrinsic desires any longer. I have become strange and unknowable. Have a good day and thank you for your time.
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Women liking handsome dudes is meme. They like dudes who are capable of doing things aka to protect, to deliver food, to fuck good and so on.
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>>23190309
Yeah, I just think I’m like anhedonic (Or whatever) over this. I guess it’s bad but like I think the most important thing to me in the world is like aesthetic (including the inner aesthetic)

I think I still like me on some level, but I like me the way I like Old Man Logan as opposed to Wolverine. I respect me, and think I’m mature, but like I’m no longer in my peak form.

I feel like I’m supposed to die. I feel like I’m supposed to wait for something to die for, and die for it.

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my boyfriend said he's a trans and wants to be a woman. he had some signs of dysphoria but it wasnt too much. I literally want to kill myself. I don't think I can mentally get over this, I'm so broken. I think I'm going insane. He was my first love and now he decide to be a woman, the man I knew now will something else. I don't know what to do. I'm heatrbroken
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>>23189746
Diode
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>>23189285
This happened with the dude my ex monkey branched me for. After four years together as a dude he turned into a fem-dude and they joined a polycule (a group of overlapping polyamorous couples) so my ex could still have an actual man and he could get fucked in the ass by a real man. They've been in couples counseling for over a year now, and are probably going to break up after having been together for 7 years or so now. Kind of laughing my ass off actually, as I was dumped because I'm not a wokeflake, but he was, and now he's a BITCH. xD And she's getting old and her biology is freaking the fuck out.
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>>23189881
lol
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>>23189285
Don't worry. In no time you will leave him without remorse. This is what all women do. They want proper man. If you try googling, you won't find any happily ever after trooning out.
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>>23189746
It’s not transphobic is someone doesn’t want to date a trans person. That’s call sexual preference.

Well, lads, I'm a self-diagnosed depressive bipolar and I don't want to get my parents involved. Now what?
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>>23187640
avoid triggers and get a strict routine
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>>23187640
go.to.therapy. self diagnosis aint shit since most the time its just a shitty online quiz, go to a real doctor, get a real diagnosis, and then either work with them or get medicated, dumbass. and if youre an adult you should be able to at least manage that
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>>23187640
professional help
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>>23187640
get therapy.

stop giving yourself labels. let a professional tell you if you need more than someone to help guide you through your issues.

as of now think of yourself as a 100% normal person who just needs some help.
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Wow, congrats you’re a normalfag!

Is wiping after every shit you take really that necessary? I've never really felt it was a big deal but my new girlfriend has a problem with me not wiping regularly. Unless I have the runs I just pull my pants up because I usually wear boxers.
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Reminder that you fucking stink and need to start wiping like a big boy
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>>23190034
Are you a pajeet by any chance?
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don't listen to the haters, OP
what you are doing is totally fine
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>>23190034
First I hear about people not washing their ass after a shit but now I hear not even wiping?

What the fuck dude.
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>>23190034
I’m gonna be honest, this is straight up disgusting. Wipe your fucking ass, it takes 5sec.

Found out he still likes his first gf and she has big tits.
i do not
lmao
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>>23190183
Fuck off loser.
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>>23190218
definitely make sure hes not associating with his ex. that is a red flag.

however, your constant fear and insecurity is also a red flag. you need to remember he is with you and likes your body the way it is. you have to trust him sometimes. if you are constantly battling mistrust and fear you will drive him away. self-fulfilling prophecy.
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>>23190218
>>23190261
also would like to add, loads of dudes like all kinds of tiddies. big tits have pros and cons. smaller perky tits imo look more aesthetically pleasing.
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Do you know his preferences? Maybe his ex had juicy fat ass and he prefers that over tits?
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>>23190270
>Maybe his ex had juicy fat ass
nigga don’t make it worse

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I just hate life, I am not suicidal probably because I live with parents and they give me everything, but I think I would be suicidal if I had to move out and find job, I study computer science but I am not interested in it, actually I am not interested in anything, I don't enjoy anything, I just sit in front of computer and exercise to stay healthy, is there a way to stop hating life?
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>>23189775
I need all of these except physical well-being (except sexual expression because kissless virgin here)
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>>23189575
I feel you OP. I'm honestly just going to embrace nihilism. Everything NPC people do is just a distraction. Money, love, a job, or honor, these things are just distractions so we don't get bored with life.

At least you still have parents and are somewhat comfortable. I'm also struggling to find anything enjoyable since I realized that God does not love us, assuming he even exists.




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