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2 weeks ago woman at work spilled her guts to me and confessed herself to me. I am an electrician and she is a accountant but we both work for the same company. I do a lot of work in their department fixing shit. Anyway, on lunch she came up to me at the table I was sitting alone at and basically confessed all this stuff such as she likes me a lot and she gets butterflies when I am around. I was truly flattered. In my head I was thinking "Wow girl, you are on some true samurai shit to even come up to me and say all this." I was really flattered and appreciative of what she did. However, I did turn her down. Mostly because she had 4 kids already which I saw on her desk in a family photo. She is a nice person but I strongly prefer women who don't have kids because I don't have kids and I feel as if that would be skipping a big step for me. I am already not well versed in shit like this. She took it well and she said sorry for spilling so much on me but I was truly not mad at her. I still talk to her when I go to accounting occasionally. My question, do you think more women like me and just don't say anything? I was always under the impression that I am absolutely hideous and that no woman could ever love me. However, this woman told me she thought I was in great shape and have really kind eyes. That was probably the only compliment I have gotten in like 10 years. A different friend was telling me that most women are TREMENDOUS COWARDS when it comes to telling me they like them outright. Which is why women will try to send signals rather than just speak it. So women that speak it are usually pretty genuine. What are your thoughts? I felt bad about turning her down but I believe it was the right choice because the last thing I want to do is lead anyone on.
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>>26474286
she just needed a father her kids and wanted you to be her betabux anon. its not that deep and you're just overthinking it
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>>26474286
>do you think more women like me and just don't say anything?
This is true for both sexes. Most people in friendship and in love are simply waiting for shit to fall out of the sky, for people to approach them, to be interacted with. Most people aren't those active types, and it's why friendly or funny or flirty people can be so charming, it's not magic, it's just that they're doing the basic motions. It's ok to let this go to your head op. Confidence is hot, people who know their attractiveness are hot, and even the less hot people who act hot are hotter because of that attitude.
>I felt bad about turning her down
Why? No harm no foul, you're being true to yourself and true to her, she clearly values authenticity. You guys can even be friends and joke about this years later.
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Did you seriously reject her like that? You could've at least agree to go out on a date with her and test the waters. Do not be scared by her kids, you can be a father, you can do it.
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>>26474286
9/10
I applaud you. Rare to see such fine craft these days
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>>26474286
She knows her value is almost zero since she's heavily used goods with a shitton of baggage to boot

Thus the uncharacteristic move

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Now she's been texting me near nonstop asking why I've been ignoring her and avoiding her on campus. Her friends have asked me if everything's alright but I have just dodged and ignored them too. How should I proceed?
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>>26475146
Cope, sounds like it's way too high to actually say out loud. A relationship with you would be pointless because your pair bonding ability has been fried by the cock carousel. By the way, i wouldnt even have to ask your body count overtly, there are several red flag indicators that i would be able to get out of you via innocently worded but probing questions, along with your style of dress, social media follower count, post count, frequency, travel history, tattoos, snap score, etc. Also if you put your hands on me, i'd slap the goofy out of you
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bump
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>>26474803
Men would fuck anyone sure, they just don't stay afterwards. They go on to fuck someone else
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>>26471925
Please for the love of god don’t tell her this
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>>26475108
Someone needs to slap the taste of dick out of your dad's mouth for failing as a father and raising a whore.

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My parents are kicking me out for being a NEET and all I have is my car, some clothes, a phone which they'll continue to pay for, and a .22 caliber Gamo air rifle.

I have $800 in savings, what can I buy that'll make living in a car a smoother experience? I'll most likely be driving to West Virginia or Canada from NY.
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>>26475036
Where should I go?
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>>26474851
Putt putt
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>>26474903
This. In particular, watch the video that Bob made about what to do when you have only two weeks before eviction. That sounds like what you need right now.
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First priority is getting a steady income. How tf you're going to afford to keep and use a car without a job?
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>>26474851
>I have $800 in savings

You're gonna burn through this so fast it'll make your head spin

I’ve been dating my gf for 3 months right now and things are getting serious. I’m going to her brother’s wedding next week and meeting her entire family.

I like her a lot and she really likes me, but she’s really liberal whereas I’m more centrist/slightly right leaning on certain issues like gun control and abortion. I typically avoid bringing up politics with her (mostly because I don’t like talking about politics in general) but she just assumes that I agree with her on most things.

I’d like to think that we can come to a mutual respect about each other’s political beliefs because we like each other so much, but a part of me is worried she’s so far left that she may be unable to overlook even minor political disagreements.

Is it possible/sustainable to continue dating someone with different political beliefs or is it basically doomed from the start?
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>>26475330
You seem upset but I’m not sure why
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>>26473077
Women are NPC drones that regurgitate the current popular political opinions of other women in her current demographic. Friendly reminder that the most far left blue haired pansexual SJW would have been holding this sign if she was simply born a few decades sooner
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>>26473153
Lots of people just don’t care and can be swung over plus girls tend to be less interested in politics
A kernel of truth to your ravings
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>>26475622
Pretty much this. We’re all products of our environment but women seem especially susceptible to falling head over heels for social trends. Also, if you hold the same exact political beliefs that you did as a 16 year old then you are effectively brainwashed and probably will not ever change your mind regardless of what new information you come across.
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>>26475689
>girls tend to be less interested in politics
My man I implore you to look at the gender breakdown of the woke crowd and the people at those BLM riots in 2020

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I live with a cig AND pot smoker. How do I prevent the smell from seeping into my clothes in my bedroom? Here's what I've come up with:

- keep clothes that I will be wearing outside (when I'm around people / working / whatever) in closed storage containers with some baking soda
- keep two sets of clothes: one set I'll wear around the apt only, and another set that is strictly for when I leave. and I'll keep the second set in my car
- keep all clothes in vacuum sealed bags (pain in the ass to get dressed for anything)
- keep clothes in dresser like normal, but with baking soda or smell catchers placed in there
- get an air filter for my bedroom

inb4 move out, accept you'll smell like smoke and get over it

I feel like I should leave 4chan. You people are assholes, you’re not very smart, and every interaction here seems like a waste of my time. But I think I’m addicted to the abuse. It reminds me of being bullied when I was a child. I think something’s wrong with me.
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>>26473205
Yes I am a huge asshole, but I'm incredibly smart.
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For me, it's the McChicken. The best fast food sandwich. I even ask for extra McChicken sauce packets and the staff is so friendly and more than willing to oblige.

One time I asked for McChicken sauce packets and they gave me three. I said, "Wow, three for free!" and the nice friendly McDonald's worker laughed and said, "I'm going to call you 3-for-free!".

Now the staff greets me with "hey it's 3-for-free!" and ALWAYS give me three packets. It's such a fun and cool atmosphere at my local McDonald's restaurant, I go there at least 3 times a week for lunch and a large iced coffee with milk instead of cream, 1-2 times for breakfast on the weekend, and maybe once for dinner when I'm in a rush but want a great meal that is affordable, fast, and can match my daily nutritional needs.

I even dip my fries in McChicken sauce, it's delicious! What a great restaurant.
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>>26475232
Macchickens are terrible
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>>26473205
>You people are assholes, you’re not very smart, and every interaction here seems like a waste of my time.

Pretty sure everyone on here thinks that about everyone else on here.
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>>26473205
Bye

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Why doesn't my best friend's boyfriend like me? He says I'm annoying and a nerd. I assured them that I'm not at all attracted to her and that we are just friends. But he seems forced whenever I hang out with them both and my friend tells me he simply "doesn't understand me"
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>>26475003
You have autism and he's a normalfag
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>>26475003
It’s understandable to be uncomfortable around a third wheel. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with just hanging out with your friend when the boyfriend is not around.
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>>26475003
Men do not have female friends. You have a girl you are trying to fuck but are either too much of a pussy to try ,or you are unattractive to her. He is right to not want bottom feeders around his woman constantly scheming to sleep with her.

A young guy contacted me on LinkedIn earlier today. He’s a recruiter I connected with years ago. “I need help”, he said, so I offered to jump on a call.

He had hopped between several agencies since we last spoke. “It’s a toxic environment”, he said. Indeed, recruiting agencies are notoriously bad, so I didn’t find that statement too alarming. I noticed after our phone call that he removed most of those previous positions from his professional profile, however.

“I want to move into your industry. Do you have any advice?”, he asked. I spent the next thirty minutes being interrupted every other sentence. It quickly became clear his problem was poor communication skills, especially as he opened up about not having any friends and being asked by his last manager if he was autistic. At one point, he brusquely stated “let’s wrap this up — I have a life to get back to and we’ve spent, like, thirty minutes on the phone”. I spent the next minute or so going along with everything else he said to end the call out of disbelief.

He wants to meet up tomorrow evening at a coffee shop far away from my neighborhood. He wants to bring his laptop so that I can show him how to code. To recap, I offered him my time over the phone, as well as my time tomorrow both as a tutor and friend.

The sad truth is that his problem exceeds hard technical skills. He doesn’t know how to communicate, and he doesn’t strike me as particularly bright. I want to overcome these harsh judgments and help him; however, the rational part of my brain is screaming “don’t waste your time — cut all contact”.

What is the moral thing to do?
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>>26475344
As an addendum, I regret assuming the worst about what would happen. While my concerns weren’t without reason, I should probably work on that.
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>>26469895
Holy shit why would you even bother

I would've hung up the first time he interrupted me
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>>26475417
That’s a pretty big question. I guess that, to me, I want to help someone going through something I struggled with, too, even if there’s a risk of getting disappointed or frustrated. Life isn’t easy for anyone. If you want to live a fulfilling, virtuous life then you will have ups and downs — more than the average person. That’s just the deal as far as I can tell.
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>>26475344
Mission complete

This is probably the first instance of someone actually following advice from here that I’ve ever seen. I’m glad things went well.
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>>26475643
Thanks, anon. It would really warm my heart if we all did better on /adv and truly helped each other.

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Since few years my throat constantly hurts as in something feels like being "stuck" inside as i often regurgitate food from it

It gets worse when i lay down, i start getting nervous and dry and then i have drink lot of water

Anyone know what could it be? I went to an ENT he told me i had no infection or post nasal drip, clean nose
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does it aft up when you eat certain things like maybe spicy stuff or stuff with tomatoes or something really greasy?
If so, acid reflux.
If not, the muscles in your throat are spasming due to changes in ambient temperature or anxiety.
I had this same problem for two years. Went to multiple ENTs that said I had acid reflux and that I need to change my diet and take prilosec. None of it helped.
Went to one more ENT and he smacked me on the head with a stack of intake papers and told me to stop being a hypochondriac because I didn't have acid reflux and there was literally nothing wrong with my throat.
It went a way the following day because I stopped worrying about it.
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>>26474821

Sounds like acid reflux, I have the same problem when laying down from time to time after eating too much / too late / too spicy. Try swallowing some sodium bicarbonate (one teaspoon) with water around 15 min before laying down, it will neutralize some of the acid and raise the pH of your stomach acid. If your symptoms get better, you can be sure it's acid reflux.
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>>26475148
>>26475204
>>26475294

Thanks for the advices

I have it constantly. Its 100% not my nose acting up or any kind of infection ,as its been this since few years for no real reasons

I will ask about GERD
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Sounds like you've been sucking too many cocks, OP
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I had similar symptoms for years and took meds to manage it. Stopped the meds and made them go away on my own. How badly do you want it gone, OP because it’s going to take some lifestyle changes? First thing to understand is I had issues even though I am in shape and athletic. If you’re fat, lose weight in addition to what I list below. Here’s what I did to manage most of my reflux symptoms:

>eliminated all liquids from my diet except water (NO fluids except water is probably the most important)
>drink a full glass of water when I first wake up
>have a natural fruit smoothie for breakfast (I do strawberry and banana in a Ninja)
>lunch is light, usually a salad with grilled chicken or plain chicken
>dinner is no later than 7pm. Keep the menu simple. Tonight I had steak, potatoes, and salad
>no snacks after dinner

Do this for a couple of weeks. If you don’t notice a difference then quit, but you’ll notice. The goal is to reduce the workload of your gi tract by reducing the complexity of things it has to digest.

>31
>have no social life
>have no friends
>haven't dated
>obese
>depressed
>stuck in a shitty town
>still living with parents(long story)
>no car, no job, no place of my own, no career, not a dime to my name
Why are people telling me that I'm fine and things will be ok? Am I really the bad guy for just admitting that a lot is, and has been over for me? Or is it just the normie bullshit optimism I've became tired of? I'm not happy where I'm at in life either, and I've had a lot of wasted time and set backs, I just can't admit it? I don't think that I have that great of a future ahead of me, or if at all.
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>>26472836
If you have no money, getting an education and living on your own is going to be tough. So if your parents are really causing problems, I would look into getting a job as soon as possible so you can move out.

You will probably still need to live with the for a while longer until you can save some money. Every second you aren't saving is just making things worse, so I think this should be your first priority. After that, one option is to share a room with someone to make things affordable while you start increasing your pay through either promotions or changing jobs.
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>>26474276
Yeah, that's the thing I'm worried about. I'm just trying to not get stuck here because I have been for about 3 years and I've lost a lot of time I wanted to be doing something. COVID hit hard in this small town and it was impossible to find a job because people wanted to keep who they had and ride things out. So I was unemployed for a while, then it was a lot of strain on me and my parents and decided to try the disability thing. Then half way through it realized it wasn't about me at all, it was really something that I was being forced into for years. I did it to help them out, and ended up accidentally screwing myself over because of it. I lost almost another 2 years doing that and since it's been done and over with and didn't work out I wanted to get back to work is what I wanted to do in the first place. Not being allowed to buy a car(I still don't get that), set me back a lot because it put such a damper on employment and fucked up the independence I've been trying to have, and thought I finally did. I have no problem working, now the stress is coming from the fact things aren't working out as fast as I wanted them to.
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Don't give up hope, fren. I didn't get laid until Im was 28 and now I have a family. You need to take risks and chances and be in places where the opposite sex is. It's a numbers game and don't be upset by rejection, just keep on tucking until you find someone.

If you're really stuck then go to see an escort just to give you some experience, if will help. Ignore pic relates pls
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>>26475698
>tucking
i mean trucking lel, please be aware. Dont hide your dick
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>>26471398
Go on the keto diet until your fat evaporates into nothing. If you really stick to it for a few months you'll be skinny in no time. I lost like 20kg in just over a month after 2 week fast then keto. When you're health and physicality is in shape your confidence should go up and you'll do much better at any job and socialising, at least that's how I broke out of my shitty 15yr NEET coma.

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Need help with a prom.
So basically the girl I was supposed to go out with to prom cancelled and now I don't know what the hell I am supposed to do.
I don't want to be the guy that will be alone on prom night, so I thought of a plan.

So here's the plan:
Day before the prom I will go out with my friend and then he will beat the shit out of me. Before that I would punch some shit so that my hands are bruised and that I don't look like a pussy. The story would be that I went out for some fresh air, got jumped by 2 dudes and my friend helped me fight them off. He has agreed to do that, but I'll keep this as a plan B. I just don't have plan A.

What should I do?

I'm 18 btw
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Do you literally not know any other girls? Do your parents’ friends not have any daughters? Do your sisters have no friends? How about your cousins’ friends? Hell, your cousins?

When I was in high school, I was a lonely no gf dork, but I still had options for these kinds of things. And honestly, what teenage girl is going to pass up a change to glam up and have some fun for a night on someone else’s dime?
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>>26473548
Take ur mom
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>>26475516
Im already taking her
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>>26475301
OP, do this.
Ask a girl out, ANY girl out. Whoever she may be just ask her and she will come.
If there is a girl even a finer of you likes ask her to prom. And see if you can connect closer later on
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just dont go anon, i went with a girl and it was miserable anyways. people who give a shit if you went or not arent worth your time anyways.

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Any way to build confidence? I want to take up boxing but I can't shake the anxiety of going to the gym. I talk really quietly even when i feel like i'm screaming. I can be in a group of friends and if theres one guy i don't know I don't talk even though i want to. Any advice? I just want to be normal. Thanks
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>>26475290
start with at home/outdoor exercises. Do push ups and sit ups and pull ups and get some basic home gym equipment like a kettlebell a couple of dumb bells a chest expander and one of those bars that's two handles welded to a metal spring and you just twist and bend and any one of those grip strength things you can shove in a desk drawer and forget about

also go running outside, even that might be a huge source of anxiety for you idk so find the best places to run near you so you can blend in with the other runners. I had a bit of anxiety at first but you get over it real fast.

You count your reps and like the time you ran & the distance and make a not of it and keep at it and you can track progress where you generally keep getting better. that's confidence.

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>22
>NEET
>live in NYC
>no job experience whatsoever
>no life experience whatsoever

I've applied to 20 different places including target, McDonald's, Wendy's, multiple gas stations, and dollar tree and none of them get back to me. What am I doing wrong? I thought getting a job was easy nowadays? Here's the resume I've been using, with names and specific locations changed of course.

https://docs.google.com/document/d/15g2xY59e_QbROa99KX7RBGwjuta5qPXX/edit?usp=drivesdk&ouid=117909125284460511449&rtpof=true&sd=true
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>>26475562
>>26475575
>>26475581
My bad
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Hows your social media presence? Recruiters stalk that too. Guess you have to work on doing better job applications and CVs
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>>26475647
I don't have an Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, ect. I only use this place.

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Any tips for sex with strangers you meet through internet? It'll be gay sex, i'll be toping, this is my first time doing this kind of thing so I don't know what to expect.
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Remember God blew up 2 cities because they were too gay. Coomers will have a hard time reaching the Kingdom of heaven.
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>>26472630
they were too sexually frivolous more than gay, exactly like the site you go to and the pictures you fap to, faggot


>>26470948
rip if you don't wear a condom

rip if you live somewhere where only this way of expressing sexuality is possible

if you live in globohomo resort i would recommend you find yourself a sweet boyfriend, ons are overated for anyone that isnt monkey
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i've done this a lot, but i've never topped.

yes condoms.

i have quite a bit of social anxiety and these situations tend to be very awkward, at least at first. alcohol helps, benzos fix it entirely. depending where you're meeting, you may want to offer the guy something too.

i'm sure you've had sex with men before so you don't need all that instruction lol.

have fun!!
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>>26472581
The man i'll meet offered to bring them but yeah im bringin mine now.

>>26472687
Surprisingly no, this will be my first time having sex with men.
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>>26473425
If this is the first time you're fucking a man remember there is no such thing as too much lube and don't expect it to feel like fucking a woman, anal feels different

Also expect some Santorum
Crack that back anon!

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>be me
>start uni this year
>find a social circle relatively fast
>make friends with this guy from said circle, let's call him Humphrey
>I overall like hanging around Humphrey and my other mates from my circle
>one day in April we all go drink after class
>I don't remember the exact subject of the banter, but Humphrey said he enjoys watching people having sex
>everybody (including me) gets caught offguard, I'm almost drunk and I nearly spit the beer that's on my mouth and I say, "hahahah, you serious? Are you a voyeur?
>Humphrey was misunderstood and he states he was just kidding
>everything seemingly is normal after that day
>one week or two later, I notice Humphrey is avoiding me and I have no idea why, he just is
>I don't like how he's playing games and I wish he just told me, I assumed he was upset at me over something
>come up to him after class and ask "hey mate, I've been noticing you're avoiding me for a while, are you upset at me for some reason?"
>"yes"
>"over what? spill the beans. you're a pretty cool guy, i want to know so i can apologize and make up for it."

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>>26475250
>>26475297

I'm not sure if Humphrey is a CRTfag, it's entirely possible he simply joined the hate bandwagon because it was convenient. "Everybody is lynching anon in the group chat, might join in as well."

Both of your replies make sense, I'm currently inclined to take the approach of staying in the friend group. One guy there is more or less of a normie, but he's a cool guy nonetheless and he doesn't buy into the social justice meme, while the other guy that I dig being friends with is also an imageboard user.
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>>26475435
Well that's good. Good luck OP.
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>>26475270
I don't consider myself exactly a chad, but I think it's fair to say Humphrey is a beta. He knows I fight a little bit of thai boxing and he specifically chose to tell me to go fuck himself through the internet on the comfort of his home. He's not even close to being this edgy and assertive in person.
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he's a bitch
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>I don't know if the ENTIRE group is like him.
Very probably yes.




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