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This is really, really embarrassing, but I have nowhere else to go. Ever since I was about 15 (I’m 18 now) there’s this one fictional character who I really admired and tried to act like and I still do. I’m not saying who it is just because that’s too much but they’re not some wacky out-there anime character, but still, I hate that I do this and I want to stop. I just want to be myself but it feels like I’m betraying the character if I don’t try to be their exact copy? I know how ridiculous this is, they’re a fucking fictional character but I can’t stop.
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>>27399375
So are you just ashamed of acting like that character or don't want to anymore but can't?
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>>27399936
Do you have the slightest idea of how little that narrows it down?
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>>27399375
OP COME ON. WHO IS ITTTTTTTTTTT
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>>27399375
calm down adn listen to
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FYfDEMoeQB

you take it too seriously and need to joke sometimes
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>>27399936
wait i got it
was it a south park character?

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Why do I suck at programming?
I've literally been coding since I was a child, starting out with C, but here I am, unable to convert a simple fucking hex string to ascii. What the fuck? This should take me 2 minutes.
EVERY time I try to solve a trivial coding problem, it takes me FOREVER. Sometimes I don't even finish but just give up because it's been 4 days and I can't do something the average programmer could do in one sitting if not in just a couple minutes.
Is my brain alright? Am I literally retarded? Why is everyone else so fucking good at everything while I suck?
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>>27398237
You have to parse the string, and think about hex and binary representations. Then you'd do some conversion. The people who you see solving this problem in 2 minutes aren't solving this kind of a problem for the first time. Experience in programming != experience in solving problems with certain patterns. You need to be familiar with those patterns -- i.e, you have to get more diverse experience. If you don't know these things, you will have to figure them out for the first time, and properly design the solution. That takes time.
>>27398500
OP wants to convert a hex string to ascii. That means the information for one character is stored using two characters in the input string.
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>>27398237
I would reccomend going through a data structures univesity class and doing the projects.

Ideally one through a local university, because assignemtns put fire under your ass and give you a community to study with.

If that's not possible, I would recommend going through the projects at cs61bl.org, in particular I would recommend going through the projects with a high degree of scrutiny, those are the places you will improve the most. Especially gitlet.

let me know if you have any issues accessing content on that site
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>>27398237
>I've literally been coding since I was a child
Means absolutely nothing because:
1) we don't know your age
2) or how much time per day you dedicate to practicing
3) or what you actually do when you practice
As a guy whose programming attempts did not work out, here's what the big roadblock for me was - I was treating programming as an academic subject, and not as a skill or a craft. It absolutely is a craft. You don't learn stuff from textbooks and reproduce it. You sit down and you torture your brain as much as possible in order to figure how to make a given program work, then figure out why exactly it works. There's no such thing as "I can't do it" - you torture your brain, just like working out tortures your body but also builds it up. You go out of your way to seek out anything that can help you finish the program - you scour the web, or books, or whatever to find the information you need to complete the program, or improve it. If you throw yourself against the task as if it is a wrestling match, you will win, and you will learn. Just make sure not to pick too big a task for your skill, because then you may still learn, but you'll learn less, you'll fail to make it work and you'll feel demoralised.
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IQ?
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>>27398237
I've found that the best quality a coder can have is attitude

Everytime I work on a complex problem and can't find the solution
It ends up being being something obvious
The best way I get there is by staying calm, focussed and keeping the bigger picture in mind.
Giving creativity the room it needs to do its work

Personal habits reflect how well you can give creativity room to do it's thing
If you don't sleep well you can't focus enough
If your mind is occupied with other things you forget the bigger picture
If you get frustrated you can't stay calm

I've seen amazing programmers become horse shit withing a couple of minutes
Just by letting themselves get frustrated or distracted by not related topics

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As an autistic living in the world where social media has rotted everyone's minds, everything feels so fake and superficial. Everyone has their own fake persona they put on, everyone has their thought terminating cliches to shut down anything that makes them uncomfortable, everyone has their set of fake rhetoric that they repeat to be the loudest and most annoying activist possible instead of having sincere beliefs in anything. I see through empty rhetoric and words every day, and it only reminds me even more of how fake everything is. No one is sincere.
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>>27399104
I'm not looking down on them, my point is that people on 4chan constantly bemoan office work and have an idealized view of "the trades" (I half suspect that they got this idea from watching Office Space). I've done both, and found out firsthand that working in a trade can be pretty miserable compared with working in an office.

This is part of a bigger trend of younger people putting on pretenses of authenticity - for right-leaning people it seems to come with affectations of religiosity/traditionality/Ted K stuff and for left-wing people it's affectations of working-class dress/mannerisms ("Y'all").

In either case the irony is that their attempts at authenticity are themselves inauthentic.
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>>27399124
>In either case the irony is that their attempts at authenticity are themselves inauthentic.
How?
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I enjoy life the most when I get away from the Internet and just focus on my own personal real life and living in the moment. The internet is going to do what it does. The world is going to do what it does but you have some control over your exposure to it and how much control you give it over your life. You aren't the only one who feels the way you do, but as long as you sit around on 4chan commiserating and pontificating you're just not doing anything about it.
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Since circa june/july this year I have a bizarre problem. 3 or 4 times already I have been waken up by ass pain of sorts that goes away after a few minutes. Sometimes it hurts worse (one time it gave me chills and made me shake so much the bed was making noise) and sometimes not so much (today it didn't last long and didn't hurt as badly).
So what the fuck is it?
It's not urgent as it happens rarely, but I still want to know
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>>27401666
You have a rape dwarf infestation
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https://www.webmd.com/digestive-disorders/what-is-proctalgia-fugax#:~:text=Proctalgia%20fugax%20is%20temporary%20rectal,going%20to%20work%20or%20school.

I've had this happen to me too. It's nothing.
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>>27401684
I try to not move a lot when it happens, next time I'll try
>>27401696
yep, that's the only thing that shows up on google. I was just thinking if it could be prostate cancer or other shit like that
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>>27401714

believe me..the more you move your legs when you're in this kind of pain the quicker it goes.
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>>27401666

Sounds like you might have a digestive issue.

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I love redheads ....!?
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>>27401253

That is not even a picture of a redhead you dweeb.
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>>27401471
You taking an extra mile for trolling. More power to you I guess
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>>27401482
Trolling?
I'm saying we are simple humans, and just evolved animals. We often like things simple.
Or you can often try to simplifiy any complex thing if you try. Our subconcious, that helps drive our concious is simple.
I'm just trying to give exsplanations for stuff.
I might just be slightly autistic. But i'm not trolling, not on purpose.

Do you disagree, and why?
Go into detail if you can.
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I think I could only really love a blonde woman
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>>27401253
its unfair
girls like this can do literally ~anything~ in life and succeed.

All they have t odo is not eat like a pig and boom you are set for life
its unfair

18 years old, currently in my 1st year of college, live in a country where having any type mental disorder means you're retarded. My cousin is diagnosed with ADHD and I think I might also have it or some type of anxiety disorder. I was ranked 9 in my batch when I graduated high school but this is mostly because I copied off of my valedictorian friend. I noticed that I can't do simple shit like homework, everytime I'd try it's like someone's taking a drill through my fucking skull. When I was in middle school I didn't study for major tests or quizzes because it was mind-numbing for me but I still managed to score a passing grade, I remember only answering half of my math exams because I always got bored and just stared at the trees outside my classroom window. I've been constantly daydreaming ever since I was in elementary school. I've always been scolded by my parents for being messy, forgetting chores or procrastinating. I can't listen for shit during my college lectures. I can't leave the house without having a huge wave of anxiety come over me, I feel like everyone is watching my every move. I tried asking for help from my mother but she said that I can't have that type of shit because I'm her "perfect little boy", and even if we did try to get diagnose there is no specialist close to where we live and we're living paycheck to paychek so we can't even afford it. Been having suicidal and homicidal thoughts these last few months and recently took a knife to try to cut my chest thinking it might help release some rage or something. I came into my senses when it didn't cut through because it was dull. I've tried to get over it, I've tried to push myself to do shit but I just can't. I'm afraid that if I continue like this for another month, maybe a year l might just kill myself.
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>>27401557

Not really. You are just using the idea of a disability as a way to cop out of having responsibility because you dont want to train your brain.
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>>27401563
I hope you're right. Chugging pills to cope with the day ain't exactly my preferred way of living. But I've tried finding motivation to do the things I'm struggling with, I know it needs to be done and it pains me to ignore it but everything I'm doing seems meaningless somehow no matter how hard I try.
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>>27401638

You just explained your problem right there. You are demotivated by things in life or how the world works. You need to find the motivation in yourself. You need to find a reason to get up every day and work.
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>>27401652
Shit you're probably right. I might have just overcomplicated things. Thanks for the advice. I wish you a prosperous life, anon!
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>>27401688

You are welcome.

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besides excitement its hard for me to feel strong emotions, especially guilt. this makes me feel bored or displeased with life which fucking sucks. has anyone else felt this way, how did you fix it
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>>27401682
Had this for approx 2 years and so far no end in sight.
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>>27401682
What's the problem? You should be trying to get rid of your remaining emotions, that way you won't care.
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>>27401682
If you feel no guilt then use it to your advantage and see how far can you go. How bold can you be in front of girls? How bold can you be in front of a pointing gun? How bold can you be in front of a high end law firm paying 7 figures? If you are bored with your dull emotions, you are simply under stimulated by your current lifestyle.
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>>27401682

Post cat pictures on 4chan. It clears up.

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i went on a date with a woman. we went out for dinner and went for a walk. she was holding my arm with both hands and pressed right up against my body every time we walked. she complimented me the entire night on both my looks and personalities. when I was dropping her off, she asked for me to come inside to her place. when I did we ended up making out. when I left she gave me a hug and talked about future dates. the entire date lasted 4 hours

the next day I tried texting her and she didnt respond. now its been a few days so I can assume I was ghosted

I'm just curious on what factor(s) caused the ghost so I can better improve myself. the following are what reason i think, and im hoping you can pick the most likely candidate(s) to help me narrow down what I need to improve on

>1) promiscuous: met her at a club days prior, so she may want to fuck multiple men rather than be stuck with just me
>2) chemistry/connection: she was very social and full life and energy (way more than me). I would say we are different in this regard and perhaps she didnt see a long term connection as a result
>3) text: I texted "sleep well" at the end of the date night, shortly after making out. according to google anything along the lines of a good night on a first date instantly kills the interest
>4) drinking: she said she drank, I told her I didn't period. she was surprised at this. probably assumed I was boring
>5) bad breath: I sadly didnt have mints after the meal (was fresh prior) and I did warn her before making out my breath probably stinks, but she said she didnt care

please try to be civil I am putting myself out here just trying to improve myself so this doesnt happen with the next person.
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>>27400369
this
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>>27400398
So he should be punished for wanting to 'do the right thing' and not mistreat her? An intelligent woman would realise she found a good man, not resent him for it. No, I'm not deluded and think girls are all angels, nor do I think there is anything "morally" wrong with "casual sex". But the truth is: 1) girls will only fuck guys they are, in some way, interested in and truly like; 2) it takes longer for remorse and regrets surrounding misplaced love and sex with someone they shouldn't have fucked to set in for women versus men. Men get "post-nut clarity"; for women, this takes weeks. Combine those two truths and you undersand trivial things why women lie about their body count; once the regret eventually sets in, they come to see those encounters as not having "really happened" cos they didn't actually like the guy. Girls may feel slighted if it appears you "don't want to fuck" but over time they will respect you more for this, either because you avoided giving them something to regret and have to lie over for their next boyfriend, or (if it turns out they are into you) they realise you're a good guy and only wanna fuck you more cos you don't come across desperate. But sure, let's blame the guy here, even though he provided her with a lovely evening and respected her boundaries.

Of course, we can throw all of this out of the window and say "just fuck her if you want to". In many ways, that's the optimal thing to do. She will probably respect you more if you do mistreat her in certain ways. But let's not get carried away and act like OP is sick in the head for being a "nice guy". This might be a learning curve for the future though, innocence lost...
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>>27401094
I'm not blaming him, I even called him a respectable gentleman. She realized they're not compatible.
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>>27400398
>Why do men think they are the only ones with sex drive.
Because women almost never show overt sexual attraction towards men unless she's rich and famous. Men are bombarded by women's constant complaining about men caring way to much about sex and how women don't really care about looks. We constantly see how women weaponize their pussy against men they supposedly love/care about. Are you really surprised when most men think women don't have a sex drive.
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>>27401102
kek gay ass wall of text refutes in one sentence

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Best place to let my body rot and never be found ? im planning to od on 90 xanax + 2 quarts of my fav liq and some beta blockers . Still got 3 years before I go through with it . No leaving any note btw.
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>>27399649
go camping in the woods. if you gonfar out enough, your body will likely be eaten by animals before it is found. however, in order not to arouse suspicion and a search you should probably spend the next three years developing this as a hobby. go on a quick trip this autumn before it gets super cold. learn outdoorsmanship, fieldcraft, then make your trips gradually longer and longer. you want to make it so that it's a month or two before anyone wonders why they haven't heard from you. Remember if you don't do all this your body WILL be found. Start NOW, don't fuck this up. Read "Into The Wild" for inspiration.
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>>27399649
that pic always gets a laugh out of me
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>>27401336
this is a good idea but I live in a shit country that barely has any camping grounds . Most of the rugged wild land is full of cartel ppl . A desolate desert could be a good idea .
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>>27401336
OP do this. worst case is you'll start liking to live again thru learning a valuable skill and best case scenario your dream of vanishing w/o a trace is completed
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>>27399649
Just do it now so I don't have to see any more of your attention starved posts.

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I'm addicted to cuck and blacked porn and I think too much about porn in my day to day life. What do I do, friends? Accidentally posted this on /wsr/ at first
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>>27401406
Stop overvaluing your days and just do what makes you happy. If it's making you happy then what's the problem?
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>>27401406

you like that kind of porn because you hate yourself.
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>>27401406
Eh I was addicted to the same type of stuff then did nofap/noporn and things got better.
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>>27401406
Stop watching blacked porn
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>>27401406
read easypeasy.

is this site worth it if I want to learn a foreign language? self study is hard and slow so thinking about hiring an online tutor to help speed things up and make sure I'm pronouncing correctly.
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>>27400840
Hellotalk is free if you just want language exchange practice over video chat with randos, and I can vouch for italki if you're willing to pay as not being fake, being around longer, and being pretty cheap for video style language exchange - especially if you're willing to accept talking to native speakers in unstructured conversation.
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It's good, but really expensive if you're learning something other than Spanish (where there's thousands of spics in third world countries willing to teach for practically nothing).

I was learning a language with the natives in a first world country, and I was making good progress. But my tutor wasn't cheap and it was making a big dent in my bank account, so I'm self studying for awhile.

It's worth it for sure if money is no object.

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>>27393859
Imagine having a disease that tries to kill you everyday, and most people don't understand it, or confuse it with a COMPLETLY DIFFRENT disease that for some reason has the same name, or they ignore it.
>what disease
I aleady said you can't understand.
Try taking a a dozen needles EVERYDAY for YEARS, then we will talk.
But you still won't understand.
You privlaged normie.

Also, any age past 30 is slow death. I mean people have diffrent idea's of peak age, 16, 18, 21, 25. But I would say by 30 things go down hill fast.
I mean, if you think life is bad at 25, tell me how you feel in 5 years. I guarentee that unless you win lotto, or find long lasting love or shit, it will be worse.

To be fair, if you ever watched a sci fi of a person who lives forever, and watches all the people/family they know die, and society crumble, and they are left alone.
It makes you wonder, whats worse?
Death or eternal life?
I'd take a shot at eternal life.

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>>27393859
Good. If you weren't you probably wouldn't be alive.

I know thing or two about death. You can't stop it, and it comes for all of us. Some people thing this is it, others think there's a whole lot more to the universe. Either way, death is a fact. Physical, mental, spiritual.

My advice would be to live your life to the fullest and enjoy it. Don't take it for granted, and don't pretend like death doesn't exist, because that's not healthy. Known asking you to Edgar Allan Poe this, but running away from the truth doesn't make it go away. That's all :)
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>>27401490
And don't let it take over your life. Don't be a slave to this fear. It's a very primal fear. It's always something to consider, but don't let it rule your life.

I knew a guy once who never took any risks, who never went on a plane or are sushi because he was terrified of death. Don't be like that, please. Life is meant to be lived, not feared.
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>>27401490
There's a lot of religions out there too that play on your fear of death.

LET ME BE CLEAR

Nobody who's a good person takes advantage of a fear like that to get you to think a certain way or do something. You want to know what the difference is between a death threat and a religion? The religion says it nicer.
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>>27401218
In the scale of the universe, life and death have little meaning.

One day all humans, earth, sun, and universe will die, all the stars in the sky will burn out.
And we are crazy small.
Like if you compared a microscopic cell against the sun, we are much smaller then that.
The size of the univearse makes our exsistence less then nothing.
That's right, Less then nothing.
Is that even possible? I say it is.
And as i said, it's not just space, and size.
It's also time.
The stars live for billions of years.
we live for 80-110? And any age past 60-70 seems hard? Unless your a fitness athlete with lots of muscules?
But even at 100 years we are like less important or impactfull then an ant.
We sorta are like smart ants.

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20 yo. I usually masturbate out of boredom or as a study aid. I can't remember the last time I felt genuinely horny. I told myself that I will not jack off until the desire is organic. I am at three days, but my libido does not seem to be kicking in; a result of overdoing it?
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>>27401444
>How often do you jack off?
Like once a week. I don't have a stablished timeframe, but there's nothing wrong with not being horny as such. Just give it time. Look for gf.
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>>27401455
Are you supposed to get horny through choice? The porn addicts seem to be unable to stop it.
>>27401463
Usually 2-D shit. Sometimes personally-curated 3-D porn when the former doesn't cut it. I prefer hentai since I feel less dirty looking at it.
>>27401509
I look forward to earning a nut through patience. A gf is unfortunately out of the question for now; I'm socially inept.
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>>27401537
>Are you supposed to get horny through choice?
Well, yes and no. Teenagers get horny growing up at random places and times, that’s just their reproductive organs waking up to puberty. Generally humans only get aroused through sensory input, meaning: there has to be something to arouse you in order to get horny. However if you never get aroused despite seeing something arousing in front of you, then you may have sexual disfunction. Generally there’s no way to “overdo it” because sexual organs work the opposite way. The more you do it, the more you want it, and the less you do it, the less you want it. You can even get penile atrophy from never having sex, which is why you may hear the term “use it or lose it”.
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>>27401583
>never having sex
Or masturbating* sorry.
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>>27401444
Get your testosterone checked and go from there.

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Just call it my intuition.
Idk what’s up, but knowing you it’s never anything good.
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>>27400917
You’re making me blush
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>>27402500
>>27402513
ur a clown! honk!
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>>27394433
Too much fucked up stuff you’re not allowed back in my life.

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How do i get rid of my 5 'o clock shadow? I don't want to grow a beard out cause my stache doesn't connect and it'd look awful so I'd rather just go clean, but it's too noticeable even in the morning right after shaving.
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>>27401503

Anyone who says "simp" unironically is a fucking reject who has never touched pussy. Of course a reject like yourself would only want to please yourself because no one else wants to touch you. OP should not take any advice from a limp dicked frogposter like yourself.
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>>27401400
Go to a Youtube channel that focuses on safety razor shaving. They provide a superior shave but need a little care to use. You will learn about single, double and third pass shaving. Do this now. Don't ignore my advice because it sounds old fashioned. It is the right answer.
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>>27401484
Sorry, but actual women do not. Girls like it because they have never experienced chafing on their faces and thighs. Ask an actual woman.
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>>27401565

I am a women and its hot as hell. How about you STFU. Thanx ^_^
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>>27401574
Trannies don't count. What are you, 20?


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