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my girlfriend, now fiance, has been gaining weight steadily for about 2 years now. when we met she was ~130# 5'5", no she is close to 180#

today she went to get blood work and they couldnt find a vein in her arm. how do i just tell her shes a fat fucking slob and to stop eating like a fucking pig. she is a nurse, she knows the reason you cant find a vein and she told me years ago; its because youre too fucking fat. need a good way to tell her to lose weight. i barely want to fuck her anymore. any ideas?
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most probably she won't fix herself because she's fine with it
now god forbid you accidentally make a kid with her in that case, you're fucking doomed
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>>22268649
Are you in shape? I mean, I can tell you calling her a fat slob isn't the right way to go about things

If you are in shape:
>offer to make food with / for her
>offer to take her with you to the gym

If you aren't in shape
>Start eating better with her
>Start exercising with her

Set up an open line of communication about health and fitness

I am going to guess you aren't a looker either, however, on the off chance that you aren't fat or ugly it might be time to consider breaking it off not because of superficial reasons like looks but for reasons such as an unhealthy lifestyle dating someone with a healthy lifestyle
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>>22268649
Just be like "oh honey it's such a nice day today let's go out for a bike ride together" and "sweetie I cooked you a nice romantic dinner of chicken and spinach yum yum"

>>22268693
>since she knows that already.
Most people who are fat are not aware of it or they're in active denial.
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Just straight up tell her. If she went through medical school she should be smart enough to take the truth. OH WAIT she's a woman. HAHA good luck!!
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>>22268765
womanfag

How frequently should I text my new gf? Its long distance for now until she comes back this Fall for uni. I dont want to bore her by texting her all the time but also dont want to be too distant. Is 1-2 times a week a good amount?
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>>22268639
Text her when you want you faggot, it doesn't matter because she's going to tire of your insecurity and dump you.
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>>22268639
Can't imagine not talking to my boyfriend every day.
Like, I have aquaiantances I text more often than twice a week.
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At least send gm and gn text because idk how you could go that long without at least calling between. Drop a subtle, I don't want to get in the way of what you got going on IRL but this made me think of you or something.. Trust she'll tell you when its too much.
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>>22268639
Why are you asking a board full of khv's when you could just ask her?
Seriously, just ask her. I make sure to know what my dates' expectations are and that includes communication. Just ask her how often she'd like to text/call with you while you two are apart.

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I keep getting jobs that have a probation period of out 6 months, when the period is over they decide wether or not to hire you usually, I keep getting jobs where, no matter how hard I work or how nice I am, i keep getting told they don't have the work or just choose not to renew my contract. I'm 27 this has happened for years and it's getting annoying.
I'm a really good worker, and I never complain, but am I missing something?
What can I do about it?
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>>22268530
I work currently in the pukka pie factory believe it or not, and I already got told that I'll only be there for 2 more months, coming from a guy that's been there 18 years and hates the place, thats not even the manager.

I just do factory or warehousing work. I don't really have anything else to go on.
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>>22268561
They instituted hardcore austerity and privatisation measures for 10 years.
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>>22268561
fuck dude I hate to imagine what your qualifying criteria for right wing is.
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>>22268607
Telling people to get back to work instead of clapping.
Leaving the eu within 2 years
Freedom of speech.
Nhs for UK citizens only.
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>>22268607
You've got to be kidding me. How about not handing over your country to invading hoards of hostile invaders that refuse to assimilate or contribute to your society in any way? Your ancestors would be ashamed. Your ancestors fought and died to protect their land and their way of life and you just threw it into the garbage because you didn't want to seem "racist."

This leftist garbage is unbelievably stupid. Look at countries like China, Japan, and Russia. There's no such thing as "racism" in those countries because they put their own people first. To do otherwise sounds insane to them (and it is). I want to live in America, not Mexico, Sudan, or anywhere else. By inviting foreigners in by the MILLIONS, it makes it impossible for them to assimilate to our culture. They become separate little countries within our country. All we've done then is give away our land, resources, and the future of our children for absolutely NO benefit.

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I read about Hana Kimura's suicide recently. She was hated to death.
I think my nerves strong enough to take any hate. How to test it?
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Become rich. Envy is much more powerful than disdain.
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>>22268448
publicly call someone a nigger on your facebook
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>>22268448
Convince people that you are black. People of color are hated and oppressed by our white supremacist society, it's the reason why they are so poor and disenfranchised and are forced to turn to crime.
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>>22268768
More like entire generations stuck in a cycle caused by socioeconomic status and culture surrounding them. A lot of these young people don't know any better and only those that make it to adulthood without committing serious offenses have a good chance to make it.
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>>22268781
LIVIN JUUUUST ENOUGH
JUST ENOUGH FO THE CIIIIITYYYYY

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What's a nice download manager for Firefox that automaticaly sorts downloaded files in folders depending on file extensions?
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>>22268596
>>22268602
Just tried, it doesn't
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>>22268624
That does sound nice, but I know absolutely nothing about programming. Do you have a guide for that?
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>>22268626
If you're using windows, just forget it. Shell script is a linux/mac os thing.

If you're not on windows, you may create a file
starting with #!/bin/bash on line 1, then as many lines as you wish, each containing the following :

mv ~/Downloads/*.extension Destfolder

then change that file to be executable (you may look up 'chmod') and have it run automatically every once in a while (you make look up 'cron', or 'then', or run it manually everytime)

My instructions aren't perfect but figuring things out would be a neat little introduction to shell scripting
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>>22268659
Rip the dream, am on Windows
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>>22268659
With some effort he could write a javascript extension for greasemonkey on windows, but that would be far more trouble than it's probably worth.

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I know this is a weird thread but I could use any kind of opinion right now. Feel free to say anything you like please.

I'm 22. I'm trans and I look horrid even though I've been taking hormones for 2-3 years now. I don't present as female in public or anywhere else and just wear unisex type clothes. I don't quite fit "agp" and "pseudo-bisexuality" categories but I don't feel like I'm trans or belong in the girl's club either. But I also can't quit and try to live like a man. I think I'll never fit into society in any way.
I can't think of a way out of this suffering other than just ending it.
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>>22268531
>You don't provide any specific solution.
There is no "solution." It's a process that you have to work through. There's no such thing as a cure or a quick fix. This is why continued therapy is absolutely essential. And I never said they were crazy. There are many types of mental illnesses, most of which don't make a person crazy. It depends on the type and severity of the illness.
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>>22268531
>Yeah and the psychiatrist might just tell them that what they need is hormones. Or in the worst case just try to hook them on some anti depressants that dont work, until it's too late to start using hormones.
If all a psychiatrist wants to do is give you pills then they're a really shitty psychiatrist. There are other options without any side effects, and those should be explored first.
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>>22268554
>There are other options without any side effects, and those should be explored first.
It's dangerous because there really is no time to waste, when you are trans you are unfortunately living on a very real countdown clock, just like a movie where the bomb will go off.
I wasted 4+ years with therapy that insisted I should try other things before hormones and it just resulted in my waiting for too long. My body kept changing naturally into more male features as I aged and I can only dream of what I could have achieved if I had started earlier.
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>>22268206
>I'm 22. I'm trans and I look horrid even though I've been taking hormones for 2-3 years now
Oh no no no
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>>22268206
Hey op
What if youre just really unsatisfied with your life or you ve been through a trauma that left an emotional scar, but you're not aware of it so you blame it on your gender and try to change it?

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I recently got diagnosed with ADHD, but I dont fully believe it. I just feel like my "symptoms" are just personal character failures. Like I feel like should be able to organize my thoughts and direct my attention, but I dont. I never really had too much issues with school either, I got decent marks and was able to pass without putting out too much effort. This is in AP and other accelerated courses too (except eng/lit since I never read the books). I don't know it just doesn't feel real to me. I dont feel like I have a disability; I'm just a bum who cant get their shit straight, but my Psychologist thinks I have some sort of brain problem. Anyone else go through anything similar? Just looking for general thoughts on my situation.

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How to protect your son against the psychological impact of bullying when you can't be next to him at school?
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>>22266813
Homeschool. Bullying fucked me up for years and years.
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>>22266813
I know sons of single Moms who almost got beaten to death with just one punch because they were skinny and small and targeted by a huge black kid three years older than them. He has brain damage to this day. His mom didn't protect him.
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>>22266813
>Put a lock in a sock
>Give the bad guy a knock!
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>>22266813
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Let him know it is acceptable to stab a motherfucker in the throat with a broken bottle if he is bullied. And That you won't punish him for self defense .

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I fell in love with the best guy I ever knew. He passed away more than two years ago. I never fell out of love. I feel like I can never even be attracted to anyone else. I always wanted to live out my life with someone I loved but how can I? I can't love anyone else the same way.
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Nobody has filled the shoes of the girl who dumped me 5 years ago. I've been lonely ever since. So all I can say is take your time. You might not love anyone else the same way but maybe you should love a different person a different way.
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Love is different every time. Don't try to replace him. You can't. The truth is, you will never lose that sense of loss. You'll never "get over" him. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't experience new love. If you try to "replace" him you're gonna have a bad time. It's impossible to replace what you've lost. But that doesn't mean you can't have feelings for someone else. It's okay to feel like a piece of yourself is missing. It is. But you can give another piece of yourself to someone else.
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>>22268449
It's so difficult for me because he was my boyfriend. We were together and monogamous. I was so deeply in love with him. I feel unfaithful to him when I even think about other guys. The concept of going out with another guy feels like I'm cheating on him. I know he's not here anymore but there's something telling me I can't betray him. It hurts so badly because I'm lonely and yet I don't want to lose him. It feels like as long as I don't get together with anyone else, he's still my boyfriend.
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>>22268250
>how can I? I can't love anyone else the same way.
Guess you can't.
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>>22268651
>It feels like as long as I don't get together with anyone else, he's still my boyfriend.

But he's not, sweetheart. He is no longer your boyfriend and he never can be again. You need to realize that love and boyfriend are separate things. Just because he's no longer your boyfriend and/or because you get another boyfriend doesn't make that love you have for him go away.

Imagine this. Imagine you found out that you got switched at the hospital and your mom is no longer your mom by blood. Does that invalidate the love you share for each other? She's not your mom anymore, but that doesn't mean your love is gone. It just means she's not your mom.

It's not a perfect analogy, but it's as close as I can come up with. Concepts such as "mother" and "boyfriend" are only abstractions. They exist in objective, physical reality. But love is separate from physical reality.

As I said before, you can NOT replace him or the love you have for him. You can however replace the boyfriend and learn to love someone else too.

Do you think he would want you to go on forever alone, too sad to find happiness or love without him? If he loved you as much as you love him, he would want you to be happy, no matter what it took. If your situation were reversed, would you want him to never find happiness again?

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>>22268758
You're a pan? Get back into the closet (the kitchen one)
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like idk how to feel or act like is there a way can I just carry on or like do I gotta be apart of a community or like know about the culture and shit.

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I feel like everything I do is wrong. I also feel like everything others do is wrong. I feel like there are no certainties in life. I don't know what to do with life. Does anyone know the right answer to life?
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As faggy as it sounds, the right answer to life is happiness

How do you stop being a perfectionist and over analyzing everything?
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>>22268548
Set your confidence requirement to 80% and watch doors fly open.

I work at about 70% and I'm wrong sometimes but it's really always better to act and be diligent about collecting data that would indicate you need to change course. If you're the galaxy brain you're pretending to be then you should realize the wealth of information you get from any good faith attempt.

If you're slumped over trying to put together 2 + 2 because "d-depends upon the metric space" then I'd just ask you to stop masturbating. It's 4 until you get information contrary.
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>>22268593
Never claimed to be a genius asshole, just that I like my work to be the best i can make it before putting it on the market. The world deserves our best doesn’t it?
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>>22268548
If you're a legitimate perfectionist, this more reckless approach still beats the hell out of not actually completing and accomplishing anything of value due to performance paralysation courtesy of irrational anxiety. Unless it's something that's being shipped with no looking back (and in a professional work environment getting the job done's all that ultimately matters anyway) there's almost always the opportunity to edit and augment the thing afterwards, such is the nature of iterative development, albeit you have to fucking start with some foundation. Also goes without saying perfection (with the exception of anime girls, who don't exist) is an unattainable fantastical ideal and the enemy of progress.
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>>22268622
Nope, and it really doesn't appreciate it.

If you can do a 70% and then another 70% based on what you learned from your first 70%, your second 70% will be more successful than your first 95% because when you we're 95% you didn't have the knowledge you do now. If you have put more thought into [thing] than your customer or audience has and you're pretty sure you're right, you're close enough to push forward.

Mistakes can also be randomly wildly successful.
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I used to have a perfectionistic tendency until I understood that you get better after you make mistakes, and the faster you make mistakes, the faster you get better. So if you live your life trying to make zero mistakes, you're just going to sit there and get nothing done and you won't learn anything AND you'll make mistakes eventually anyway so it's lose / lose / lose

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So my best friend knows i like girls, and ive known her for around 9 months? We're super close and we tell eachother everything. Before quarantine we always held hands and she sat on my lap and we cuddled and stuff like that. We always tell eachother we're pretty and sexy, like in a really genuine way, (and she constantly compliments my ass lol) we emotionally support eachother and we've both said that we see our friendship lasting a lifetime. She says i make her feel seen and understood, and she told me that to her im perfect the way i am...we often just have long talks where we tell eachother how much we mean to eachother. She said she doesnt know what she'd do without me. She thinks im literally the coolest person on earth. She's mentioned before how she doesnt think about the future much, in terms of relationships. Recently she said to me,"you never know, maybe someday we'll be lesbian lovers". I just brushed over it, but I've been feeling differently towards her. In truth or dare, she kept asking risque questions like turn ons, and weather or not we liked anybody that we were really close to (we both aren't really close to many ppl lol). Also i was complaining about how men have disappointed me in the past and said that ill probably be girl-exclusive for a while, she was like god what a mood. She's supposedly straight, though she's never been in a relationship. I value our friendship an insane amount, but i cant help but wonder if anything is possible in the future and if shes a closeted lesbian or nah?
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>>22268724
She's probably straight, but would swing lesbian in the right setting.
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>>22268724
Can i join.
I have a penis and shes straight so it won't be weird.

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What does one do about friendships where you used to get along really well and had fun with a person, but their values just don't align with yours anymore?

Part of me feels bad for abandoning people I once really had a great time with, but the other part of me feels like I'm being a bitch if I don't cut out people who fundamentally support dumb shit.
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>>22268599
I mean, good on you for doing what's right, but you can't have it all, if you cut people out for relatively petty reasons you have to deal with the repercussions. Personally I've never given a fuck about what my friends do or don't believe in and would only really consider breaking off a friendship if they were a serial rapist or murderer or some shit. The obvious advice would be to make more friends with believes that are compatible with yours so you don't throw your toys out of the pram and then come whining to 4channel, sorry nigga
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>>22268613
This whole situation has brought people out of the woodwork with a whole load of crazy. There's shit going on with people I never knew about them, but now it's all out on social media and they can't shut up about their opinion.

I used to think I didn't give a shit until things went this way.
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>>22268599
just ghost them. i did this to all my friends after college. i became a shut-in /pol/ tier incel and they were all liberal faggots
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>>22268599
I feel kind of bad about it but I just remind myself how much of a selfish asshole some of them were. Or that they never read books and research interesting things. Or that they think smoking weed is a hobby. And so on.

What are some good books for aspiring leaders on war strategies?
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Off the top of my head:

The Art of War
The Prince
On War
Infantry Attacks
War of the Flea
Starship Troopers
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>>22268686
I'm looking for more practical military tactics shit.
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>>22268692
Read Fry the Brain then, Infantry attacks also applies even if it's old.

Also /k/ might be a better place to ask for this.


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