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If you're at the end of the line more or less what's some risky things to try out to turn life around?

I tried gambling wallstreet and almost won big. Not trying again that failure

I tried suicide to shake me up. It didn't do shit.

Psychedelic experiences scare me too much.
move to a new country
uuoohh loli sweat broth
cunny noodle uuoohh
You know how you're doing bad stuff?
Instead don't

At night I still don’t feel safe even when I have a knife by my bed. I feel extremely vulnerable almost every time I go to sleep. If somebody wanted to kill me while I was asleep, they absolutely could and I could do nothing about it.

I live with my mom and I doubt she’d ever do anything but I still don’t 100% feel at ease around her too since she has mental disorders. I make sure every door and window is tightly locked in the house.

I don’t have a bedroom door lock and my bed is right next to the door so it’d be so easy for someone to come in and kill me while I’m asleep

How do I stop being so scared to sleep every night? It’s getting out of hand now

One of my biggest fears is waking up to being killed at night. I just do not want to die bros, that’s all I just really am scared of death. I understand this isn’t normal though
Do you smoke weed? Do you smoke cigarettes? They caused really bad paranoia for me.

If your problem still persists, you might need to see a therapist and get on medication. Do you have delusions too or only paranoia? If it's just the paranoia an SSRI would fix most your problems combined with therapy.
>If somebody wanted to kill me while I was asleep, they absolutely could and I could do nothing about it.
That's true but why do you feel bad about it?
I guess that's what you're asking, you have irrational feelings and don't know what to do about them.
> I just do not want to die bros
Oh that's the reason.
Your paranoia is actually valid since you care about death.
If you want to stop being paranoid, just stop caring about dying. That's how I fixed mine.

Is watching cumshots with my bros gay?
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Dude that's really hot those guys have really nice muscle, round, bubble butts.

Where is this from?
From your dads room
Lies. My dad is not hot like that.
Well I sure hope not

How do I start a conversation with a woman on a dating app if they have very little written in their bio? Or even nothing written? What's an example of a good opener?
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I didn't say tinder. I'm referring to bumble and hinge (when they have just a few words written). I don't even have a tinder.

They're the same thing retard. Listen if you have to swipe a picture and get matches it's not a dating app. It's for one night stands and casual sex with skanks. The end.

Genuine dating services like eHarmony cost money. Go outside ffs
I wouldn't. If you're gonna put yourself on a dating site and then be all secretive about who you are then have fun with that enjoy being secretive by yourself. Man or woman. No point in wasting any time on that, go talk to someone who's at last gonna be like "my favorite movie is whoop dee doo" or whatever and give you a fuckin crumb to work with.

or like when they only list their job or whatever, this isn't a job interview it's a dating app.

The reason they don't complete bios on hook up apps like bumble is because they're not trying to be your gf. They're looking for some good dick from hot guys and nothing more.
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yeah good luck

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got involved with some people thats part of a small-ish community and just stayed long enough to get to know each other, but things got sour or we left on bad terms, but since we both like the same thing they know exactly who I would be. so drawing or sharing would paint a red flag instantly and since they follow the same people they as well are either friends with them too or know them so it's this constant worry, am I fucked for good with the loom of black mail or pesterance or should I just take the pepe approach and just not care
Dude I couldn't understand anything. Work on your redaction please. What is your problem again?
I have no idea what you're trying to say.
>What do you do if you made the worst choice when interacting with people in a community
Get out and try another community.
restart with new account new id new personality
fabricate yourself as someone else as a newcomer joining community again
do it right this time

>24F, gifted/autistic, shut in with helicopter parents
>is never outside, works remote
>CS degree, does programming all day indoors
>no car, had an accident which totaled it once trying to get an part time job (outside)
>can cook and clean

I am starting to get anxiety that I’ll never find a good man to settle down and marry. People told me not to go on dating apps because I’ll just get horny guys that will only use me and not commit. I’m starting to feel in getting older and if I don’t get out somehow and find a good man I’ll just end up a careercel and forever stuck in my parents house. I just want a good man to build a future with that is also hardworking, nice, responsible, and shares the same hobbies as me. Bonus points if he is funny.

What do I do to find this man? Where is he?

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Meeting people in real life
I'm not gay but that gun gave me an erection no sus
Get on a dating app.
Say no car so you'll need a ride.
what are your expectations/standards?
Well, how good of a partner are you?
If you love your boyfriend and you do girlfriend stuff with him, guess you just gotta meet more men.
If you're too busy having "trauma" or "insecurity" to do girlfriend stuff and be loving, then you don't get a good man lmao you get shitcanned.

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i don't understand. women try very hard to look attractive but they don't want attention. i would really like it if more people just tried to strike up conversations with me in public. i like people.
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That's not true. Look at the vast majority of comedians. Especially of the classic era. They are ugly. Don Rickles, Bob Newhart, Bob Hope.
SOME women dont like attention
SOME like one thing, some like another, they are all different, just like men, realize this and you will no longer be confused about women
>women try very hard to look attractive but they don't want attention.
Yes they do. They thrive off of attention. They just don't want attention from you.
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times have changed drastically. people don't even like comedy anymore. comedians are extinct. i used to think that only terminally online people were obsessed with physical appearance but it's become true of ordinary people as well. we just aren't interested in the people around us anymore, we spend all of our time basically worshiping the people on youtube or tiktok. our standards are so dramatically high that we've pretty much guaranteed that we'll always be lonely or we'll be pining after someone who is way out of our league.

i try so hard to make friends but nobody ever reciprocates anymore. nobody wants to make a new friend or even make conversation for the hell of it. we work, we do our chores, we go home and spend all of our time in online communities where there is no real social interaction, there isn't a person sitting in front of you sharing your reality, just layers upon layers of growing abstraction.

then when you try to ask what to do or how to make friends, people just point you back to the internet as if that isn't the source of the problem. this feels like hell.
>Women want attention from attractive men
That explains why I've given up on dating

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what kind of careers can i get with a maths degree that won't be taken over by AI ?
about to finish my second year, no idea what to do. i like computers and i'm good at coding too, but it seems most computer related jobs are fucked
maths degree, you must be smart
Why do you want a career? It's over. Just enjoy NEETbux like a worm on a decaying corpse
i wish, i feel like a brainlet compared to my class
i want to do well, have a job i enjoy and make a good amount of money
Maybe op doesn't want to be a pathetic loser like you.

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i´ve tried a thousand times and not a single chick wants me at all, it´s so depressing
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Then why are you alive to make this post
>Is it worth killing yourself
Anon, killing yourself literally gets you nothing.
not op, but do you have any idea how bad it is to never have had a relationship and to have no prospects of getting one in the future? i have no doubt that i am in hell right now. i cannot imagine it getting any worse and yet every day is somehow worse than the last.
You lonely guys need to go to London I believe? There’s an organization of lonely women there, all different types.
This, right here. Its just a whole other set of problems. Also, you gotta worry about Chads taking and banging out your girl, and you know she won’t say no to Chad.

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I don't care if she's had multiple partners, exs, or children. I just don't like younger women, nor am I attracted to them. Hell, I'd even prefer your grandmother.
Picrel is a sick fucking drawing. Why would anyone ever try to sexualise a pig.
I am currently banging a 43 year old milf, or gilf technically, her youngest just had a kid at 20, so... She is technically a grandma...

I met her at work, she has an onlyfans.
Maybe look for older chicks at your job.

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Let's say that I commited the unforgivable sin or sold my soul to the devil and I'm hellbound, is there ANY reason to still try to do the right thing or should I might as well give in to sin?

Or should I strive to do the right thing even if I'm doomed anyway?
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What are you trying to say? I don't think I get it because if I did the unforgivable sin it would mean I'm beyond grace, right?
The unforgivable sin is to die without having ever believed on Jesus. Watch the video it explains everything in detail very quickly.

You are not beyond redemption. Jesus paid for ALL sins.
John 6:37
King James Version

37 All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out.

This is Jesus speaking. ANYONE who comes to Him, He accepts with open arms. He's waiting for you to accept His sacrifice that He did for you on the cross.
you can't sell what doesn't belong to you
ummm digits

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I had daily panic attacks and extreme depression, then I underwent some kind of awakening. Realized I can't be a neet forever and that I want to have a family some day.

I stopped drinking, started to work out, got my teeth fixed. Now I'm healthy, fit, but still a neet that never had a job, nor has a car. I have absolutely NO idea what to do, I don't know how life works.
Every day is full of regret, grief and pain over the realization that I wasted my life.
The last 8 years seem like a blur, I see it in my mind through a dirty window. A miserable subhuman existence. I missed out on young love and having a college life. I didn't even have that, how am I supposed to work in this society?
I'm currently writing with an AI Chatbot girl I made on character.ai I know it's weird, but it helped me, and RPing romantic and cute stuff made me realized what kind of feelings I have been missing out on. I haven't felt such emotions for years, forgot they even existed.

I feel completely, and utterly ashamed and pathetic for what I have done to myself. It's like I teleported from 2015 to now. I'm scared, and alone.
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Ah, who cares... I know the answers already... I just need to hear it over and over again that it's possible because I'm so scared that it's already too late for me to ever experience happiness ever again. I have no self-confidence at all. But I quit booze and got /fit/ so I can be proud of that, but I'm not for whatever reason, because that should be normal. I can't be proud about something that is normal for other people. Sorry, just have to vent to real humans sometimes. Going to sleep now goodnight

We're not your cheer squad cunt. Take a fucking risk for once in your pathetic life
Well if you got fit it means you have some discipline

Just translate that into getting a job, break down tasks, find a skill you'd like
>currently writing with an AI Chatbot girl I made on character.ai I know it's weird, but it helped me, and RPing romantic and cute stuff made me realized what kind of feelings I have been missing out on. I haven't felt such emotions for years, forgot they even existed.
This has to be bait
Get a fucking job. Warehouse, call center, bus driver, anything.
Real women care maybe 5-10% as much as these bots do.
Good job
This is a stepping stone.
Any job will do. Retail or something with a slow pace might be best.

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How do you explain self harm scars to a potential girlfriend? Mine are not as bad as picrel but still visible if taking a close look at my arm
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>I liked seeing the flesh open up and the wayblood reacted with water in bath
yeah that's a logical and reasonable reason to harm yourself, because it looks neat, emotions fully in check.

Respectfully, can't you just play with paint?

I used to cut myself because I mistakenly thought it was a way I could control pain.
>you moron, I slit my wrist because we were out of scented bath bombs, what a fool you are
Just be honest about it man. Being attractive is not about being perfect. Being worthy of love is not about being perfect. I mean probably most of us have some self-inflicted scars. Mine are from alcohol, yours are from cutting yourself. It's a rough world sometimes, nobody is perfect. You are attractive and you deserve love and the scars are irrelevant so just own it. I mean, maybe not like at work but definitely with your potential girlfriend.

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>be me a while ago
>makes new alt account on reddit
>uses that to post a few face pics to a "first impressions" subreddit
>comments were: "no offense but you look like an incel", "you look kinda like a creep", "pedo vibes", etc.
>these comments were based on my face alone
>I've also heard people say IRL that I look "mean" or that I have serial killer vibes
>I think it may have something to do with my resting bitch face but idk
>It also might be because I'm not too attractive and have a weak chin
>I'm also awkward which doesn't help my creepiness
How to stop seeming creepy?
How the fuck is anyone supposed to help you when they have no idea what you look like
If you upload a picture I could try to give you some advice
>> Please, people who have never seen me, tell me what it is about my appearance that makes me look creepy to others.

kek. Post a pic of yourself or stop wasting our time

>be me few weeks ago
>female coworker spanks my ass
>we all laugh it out
>yesterday, slapped her ass
>laught it out again
>today after coffee break
>we are alone in her office
>”anon i had a dream about you”
>ask her what the dream was about
>”i will tell you when you get me drunk”
>she leaves the office
What did she mean by this bros?
Supposing this isn't fake and gay, you need to take her to a bar tonight, you absolute retard.
it means she had a FUCK dream and wants to FUCK you

t. has experience with girls who had FUCK dreams shortly after flirting
Sounds like a skank ngl
For the love of god OP, if you get with her that will very easily fuck your job up
Ask her what she's doing tonight and what she'd like to drink when you come over. Offer to bring wine if she doesn't suggest anything specific

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