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Why, when and how do fuckbuddies type of arrangements usually end?
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>>23432375
One falls in love with someone else and decides to be monogamous.
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>>23432375
could someone translate this i can't read this shit
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When I moved away for a new job
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>>23432712
-Look babe, that's why it's always necessary to employ contraception
-One day I will become a great businessman and I will be envied

-Holy shit he made it. How did he do it?
-I sold the child bit by bit
-trikitrakatelas (no fucking idea)
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>>23432375
>>23432856
>Familiar with the original comic
>"I sold the child but by bit"
>Wat
>Look at comic more closely
This is hilarious

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Me and the girl I'm talking to finished talking on Sunday then went 4 days radio silence.

Today I sent a message for her to reply with something I didn't understand so I asked her to clarify but was left on read. Should I even bother anymore?
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>>23429170
>>23429193
So i should have never messaged her again? Even ignore her when she messages me or when I see her at work?
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>>23429172
>Are you drunk already?
This could be interpreted as you criticizing her or acting like a parent
Like imagine 'already' was written in italics, that's a potential angle someone might have on it
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>>23429172
Haha you blew it by insinuating you consider her an alcoholic
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>>23430267
>>23430589
She is a bit of an alcoholic. Drinks wine & gin with her family or dog at home late at night most days. Also can you make sense of her message? That's the only reason I said
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I think I'll wait until she messages me again if she does at all. Anything else and it'll make me seem needy.

I'm thinking about joining a gang in Los Angeles. Which one? I want one where I could profit well from and make friends from. (Pic above is me)
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>>23433474
this is probably bait, but if you want to join a gang while posting your face on 4chan maybe you're not fit for any of them.
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LAPD.
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join the sinaloa cartel bro

I'm a girl so it should be easy for me to connect, but for some reason I get too anxious and choke up whenever I try to initiate conversation with someone at work. I've been asked out, given numbers, and invited to outings, but my adrenaline spikes whenever I even think about growing a connection to someone. Like what if they leave me? What if they laugh at me? What if I neglect them bc of my anxiety???
I can't even start a conversation for God's sake. I just sit there all quiet like a dumbass.
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>>23432457
>get mugged
>well at least I feel really good!
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Force yourself to accept the invitations. Say yes. It sounds like you may have abandonment issues. See a therapist or work on that yourself.
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>>23432476
Unironically, yes.
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>>23432453
this is not a good idea, unless you want other people to immediately think less of you.
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>>23432430
Sounds like AvPD:
Avoidance of job-related activities that involve interpersonal contact because they fear that they will be criticized or rejected or that people will disapprove of them
Unwillingness to get involved with people unless they are sure of being liked
Reserve in close relationships because they fear ridicule or humiliation
Preoccupation with being criticized or rejected in social situations
Inhibition in new social situations because they feel inadequate
A view of self as socially incompetent, unappealing, or inferior to others
Reluctance to take personal risks or participate in any new activity because they may be embarrassed

The cure is becoming a cynical narcissistic bitch.

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How do I stop being emotionally upset when I lose or something doesn't go my way?
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>>23433597
No, I actually can't. Even when I try, it never works. I just end up thinking about it for the rest of the day, and it makes me feel like shit
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>>23433013
Accept the only thing you control is your behaviour. Identify and change your internal beliefs. These probably are something along "I have to win" or maybe "I have to show people I am better than them". Rationally, you do not need to win all the time nor are you capable of it.
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>>23433607
I don't think ‘sucking it up’ necessarily means “never thinking about it again”.
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>>23433650
What does it mean, then?
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>>23433670
I think it's more about not letting it stop you in the future.

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A debt collection attorney on behalf of a debt collection agency who bought the debt that was charged off from a bank for 2 credit cards I didn't pay have sent me a letter. Basically saying I have 30 days to request validation or the debt is assumed mine. They are trying to collection on the agencies behalf or they own it now, not really sure. Is it worth sending a letter back asking for validation if I know the debt is mine and it is still within the SOL? Should I just reply back with a settlement offer that is 30% of the debt's worth (because this is all I have at the moment). If all else fails I might just file bankruptcy. At this point my credit is already shit. I might just do it if they decide to sue, which they might from what I've read about this firm.

Is there anything I can add to this or avoid doing? Not really sure how to handle this as this is the first time I'm dealing with this and I am young and dumb. Also is debt consolidation a scam or would it help?
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>>23433257
>all you have to do is send a cease & desist letter to them and they can no longer call you, mail you, your family, work nor anything or anyone
He didn’t pay 2 whole credit cards, retard. Cease n desist isn’t going to get you out of this. I see you all the time on the board go get a job.
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>>23433274
I remember the first debt collector only sent me a copy of my last statement from the credit card company. Is that enough to proof the debt is mine?
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>>23433326
prove*
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>>23433280
>Cease n desist
It's a legal obligation for them. It will do exacly what I said it'll do, it'll disarm them completely and reduce their options down to two and only two things:
>sue you
>give up

>go get a job.
I'm a multimillionaire.

>>23433326
Maybe not, but it would be trivially easy for them to just call up your credit card company, ask for the original contract, and then bring it down and fax it to you. I mean it's not worth it. It won't work. Challenging the debt was the other anon's idea, not mine. I don't suggest you do it as you're just wasting your time.

My advice is the same as before
>negotiate the debt down to 30% of its value
or

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My new worry.... I ask for validation and paint a target on my head. Or ignore and hope they forget about me.

Is a bank statement enough to validate?

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A guy once rejected me because I came off too dull and innocent, too boring. That stuck in my head for a while and I don't know anymore how to dress myself. Once I tried to dress "hot", I got called a th0t, I nearly got groped.
I am asking myself wether what makes someone good to hang out?
I get either ghosted all the time because I am perceived as "too innocent/boring" or being seen as a booty call.
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>>23432698
Damn forgot this is 4chan
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>>23432722
Thats - again - not a bait. I really do have those problems I was posting on here and I am not kidding you. I wish I was kidding, lol.
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>>23432714
This is god damn not a bait. I mostly have female friends only that are left and that don't ghost me when I don't put out.
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>>23433400
Post your face with a timestamp then. I'll give you some actual advice.
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>>23428453
Have you tried beeing yourself?

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it probably is a common issue out here, but i can't socialize with people. couldn't do it before the whole virus situation, can't do it now.
i've had several groups of friends that lasted a month at best and then we just went different ways.
i can't seem to find any people with interests like mine because my interests consist of being on forums for people who like japanese animation and shitty music. at this point i don't know what i wanna do with my life, what are my interests.
it seems as if others got it figured out and i'm the one missing out something important.
when did i became like this, i once had something i loved doing, now i can't do it anymore.
social pressure adds to the pile, bunch of people expect me to behave in a way i can't behave.
anons, please help.
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You think your life is hard bro? Try to be a 5'2 balding indian janitor with social anxiety living in New York. Man the fuck up.
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>>23433662
you know what, fuck it, for Pajeet Kajeesh, i can do better than this.

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can i live off of flour and one or two eggs a day?
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>>23433454
I rather be free.
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idk add some milk at least and some fruit
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>>23433510
Noted
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>>23433301
50 dollars a month you'll be just fine.

sweet potatoes, rice, corn starch, water, oil, dry beans (soak them yourself to cook with), salt, sugar, kale/spinach will take you a long way. a long fucking way. you can do this brother. eggs are great too.
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a key will be making sure you never let food go bad by accident, especially produce. learn how to store things before you buy them.

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who needs specific instructions for how to interact with you sexually, every time? I'm a girl in that kind of relationship now with a guy and it sucks. I wish I too had autism so that I didn't find this off-putting. I pleasure him frequently and I do a good job, and he loves it, but he doesn't really reciprocate, and I only have myself to blame for not communicating exactly what I want. It's just not my style though. He will literally do nothing if I don't make it happen or verbally request it (which is why it's so much easier to simply pleasure him all the time). Has anyone been in this situation?
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Does he have no interest or get no enjoyment from pleasing a partner?
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Cuck him with a BBC
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>>23433636
I think that he would claim that this is the case, but how can it be if it never happens? I think I know the answer, it just sucks for me personally. I need to tell him exactly what I want at all times.

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Why do I always wear the same clothes? All of my friends tell me that I am weird and I am sure that people at my job think the same about me but just don't bring it up. I usually just wear the same sweater shoes shirt and pants changing only my socks and underwear. I just feel like I've been doing this for so long that I can't change it up now, and I really don't care about what others think of me but my friends and family usually bring it up when I am around. Has anyone else experienced this feeling, and should I do something about it? It doesn't even feel like a problem to me in the first place.
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>>23431857
Tbh I always wanted to wear the same clothes too. Being caught up in fashion, comparing yourself to others and spending money on clothes are shit things to do. I wish I wasn't scared of dropping all of those shits
Keep doing what you do anon
You've escaped the npc trap
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Good target for mugging.
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I do it because it's easy. Everything is clean though. It's like a uniform I created. Nobody cares if you don't care. Steve Jobs and Mark the Zucc do it too. You don't have to waste a bunch of time considering what to wear.
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I live in a shitty 3r world country, the only clothes I can buy is when something is in sale, I've been going to the same clothing store for sales for 6 years and I wear my father's old clothes from the same store
Shoes the same thing, I fucking hate my commie country
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>>23431857
what kind of work do you do?

You should do as this guy said >>23432422

You dont need a huge wardrobe but just a set of clothes that you can alternate with each other. Keep your casual shirts neutral colors and stay away from patterns or shirts with any kind of art on it. Have a pair of black and blue jeans to rotate between and two or three jackets for different weather (light jacket, heavy jacket, fancier jacket for business casual). Two pair of shoes, a pair of active/casual shoes (nikes, vans, you get the point) and a nice pair of shoes for business casual (something leather).

She had her period 2 days ago, haven’t had sex in 9 days. she tested negative for pregnancy test. I wanna break up with her but feel bad about it cause she keeps telling me not to leave her ever.
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>>23433421
She sounds like a manipulative cunt.
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>>23433479
She kinda is. Making me feel bad for being busy with work and messaging her here and there throughout the day instead of a long period during the day. Idk. I’m getting really tired of it. We’ve only been dating a few months too. I’d much rather be single.
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>>23433421
You have to be over 18 to post here.

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How do I live life?
I know it is such a broad question but hear me out since I think this is the most important issue.
I am in the same boat as so many are, especially on this website. I spend all my time just passively absorbing media and turned my brain into mush. I have no attention span, my eyesight seems to get worse, I am worn out tired, foggy, dumb, sad, regretful and embarrassed.
I am decaying like this for years and years and time zips bye causing existential horror that manifested into a psychotic period the last months with violent mood swings.
Now I just feel dull, nothing is going on right now. The sky is white, everything is closed, uni is closed things that I was a little bit excited to do can't be done due to lockdown. I have zero social contacts and can't form friendships.
It is so hard to get out of the situation and habits that I am since this is really all I have.
The usual advice is so half hearted and from people that probably aren't doing better or never really had the same problem to begin with.
I just want to know from someone that was in the same situation and genuinely changed.
I need to change.
I can't go on this way anymore, and I have had that realization before but I am really killing myself. I want to evolve and I want to live.
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>>23433595
you are here forever.
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>>23433595
I know how you feel like, but a 4chan post won't fix you. If you really wanna talk about this and get serious you can join this discord server: https://discord.gg/r83PMvj8
I'll be there and you could tell me more about you.
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>>23433622
we can also talk here a little, but a voice call would be easier.

How do I stop verbally abusing my GF. I learned it from my parents and I hate doing it. I feel its evil. But she keeps making the most idiotic mistakes that fucks everything up.
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>>23433488
No, no, I don't mean the face itself, just the pictures, i.e angle, face expression and all that other bullshit.
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>>23433335
(S)he looks mentally unstable
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>>23433505
Nah, not really. I mean she is making a slutty face in that one but I request things like that. She does look better in person, but she also is not a picture person, neither am I. So her photography skills are not great.
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>>23433503
This thread is full of autists, I see.
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>>23433505
eh, pretty telling she is still pretty despite the angles and expressions etc. good job croc, keep on shining.

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How normal is it to want to get stoned (in both senses, regarding alcohol and pot) all the time so I can either fall asleep and forget about life for a bit, or numb my feelings while I wait to get sleepy enough to go to bed?
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>>23432850
I live in Europe.
The medication was prescribed by a psychiatrist, who I believe is in contact with the therapist, so as to monitor progress. I would much rather have him (the psychiatrist) as a therapist, as he also does that, but he already deals with my sister, and apparently he can't take two people from the same family, so they assigned me to her.
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Selfbump
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I can't tell you whether it's "normal" or not--we live in a pathological society so it's likely plenty of people feel this way, perhaps even the majority--but it's not good for you. If you don't want to call it an addiction, it's at least a dependency; if you need the help of a substance to do a normal task like sleeping then, by definition, you're dependent on it.

You describe issues with motivation, which causes you emotional distress, which makes you feel the need to drink/smoke to calm down/unwind. The thing is that alcohol and weed can both cause the motivation issues you describe, so what you're doing is creating a destructive cycle for yourself. One aspect has to stop for the cycle to end, and drinking and smoking is the one variable you really have the power to remove here. This might involve going cold turkey, or it could involve just making a rule for yourself like only drinking/smoking on weekends, or with friends, something like that. The philosophy with the 12 step program is cold turkey is really the only effective method, but ymmv.
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>>23433208
>if you need the help of a substance to do a normal task like sleeping then, by definition, you're dependent on it.
It's not that I need those things to sleep. Rather I'd use those things to sleep as much as I can.

I'm not even truly sure it's a motivation issue. I usually refuse to do things that require effort, even when there's something long-term in it for me. I have no long-term vision. I often think about doing something, and I will try my hardest to stop myself from doing anything.
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>>23433547
>It's not that I need those things to sleep. Rather I'd use those things to sleep as much as I can.

You say you don't need them to fall asleep, but in that case why use them? The benefits of not using these substances is obvious: better health, saves money, no hangover, etc.

>I'm not even truly sure it's a motivation issue. I usually refuse to do things that require effort, even when there's something long-term in it for me.
What you described in the last sentence is precisely a motivation issue. Motivation is our drive to act in the world, to recognize goals and pursue them.

I'll tell you now that alcohol and especially weed use has a significant negative impact on motivation. I've experienced this in my own life, other people have told me about experiencing it, and there's a huge amount of research which supports this. Taking a couple of examples I quickly googled: https://www2.hse.ie/healthy-you/alcohol-blogs/tend-to-feel-low-after-drinking-here-are-7-reasons-why.html https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6062456/




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