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There’s this guy I’ve known for 5 years from my first job. He’s relatively successful now and he is getting a masters degree. He’s a bit of a weird dude and smokes a lot of weed and says dumb shit but he’s fine enough to chat to.
Recently though he’s been practically begging me to ask my dad to give him a job at his company (he just works there, he doesn’t own it). It’s been basically 2 weeks of just getting messages from this guy about how he just wants to know the name of my dads company or to let him talk to my dad or whatever, at first I just said that my dad can’t give him a job but now I’m just ignoring his questions, he said today “wont even tell me the name, that’s lame” which pissed me off.
Should I just cut this guy off? I’m getting annoyed that he seemingly only wants to talk to me when he thinks he can get a job or something from me.
He actually wanted your father to be his referral for the application of his master degree.
Well he doesn’t have much of a good character lol…
Yeah because he’s being real sketchy now. He’s fishing for any little bit of info he can get and clearly not respecting the boundary you’ve set. That would be enough for me to pull the plug on any contact whatsoever
you dont have to do anything for him, right -but dont pretend he's crazy. He knows what he wants and you're too chickenshit to tell him to fuck off to his face. Why? Because he might be useful to you in the future.
I love how Cluster A and Cluster C are in opposite directions to Cluster B. Even both those Clusters know well enough to be paranoid of them and to avoid the fuck out of them lmao

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Is my bf just trying to be cute or is he being serious when he says men have a need to keep their gfs safe? He's trying to argue against my getting a motorcycle and he's brought that up a few times. He wants me to get a regular car instead.
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I wouldn’t let my wife get a motorcycle. I also don’t let her take motorcycle ubers(common in her country)
>somehow spin it on bf
u retarded. motorcycle won't protect you from cars retarded faggot
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how long have you been driving? how old are you? have you ridden motorcycles/manual small engine vehicles before? Are you comfortable riding a bicycle at high speeds? Do you live somewhere that a motorcycle can be used year round? Do you need a daily morning commuter vehicle?

Even safety aside, there is a huge practicality argument to be made for owning a car instead of a motorcycle.

Here's the reality. If you are a new driver, even a relatively new driver, and you have no prior experience on two wheeled manual vehicles, the conversation ends there. Do not get a motorcycle. Period.

Have a practical car that you can use as a daily driver. Once you learn the rules of the road better, get a motorcycle and have that be your fun ride on the side.

Choosing to daily a motorcycle as your main vehicle is a bold and often retarded decision in most places in the US.
>i felt like it would save money in the long run
lmao, even

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Should I get a 55 inch or a 65 inch TV? My head would be 12 feet 8 inches (380 centimetres) from the TV. I heard people say I should go for the bigger, but there are also people who recommended me that I go for the smaller. Those who said I should choose the bigger said that if I bought the smaller one, I would wish that I would have gone for the bigger one instead. Those who told me that I should go for the small one, they told me that if I choose the bigger one my head will hurt or I will feel symptoms similar to nausea if I watch the tv for long enough. So which one should I choose? I absolutely don't know at this point.

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Dealing with the PTSD from being raised by a devouring, narcissistic single mother who has become an obese, emotionally unstable, near-death mess, along with my experiences in the dating world, has slowly turned me into a misogynist. I don't know if I should really feel bad about it or not. I only see women as sex objects because in my experience, they're the shittiest "friends" or "partners" you can have.
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Glad you asked. Stop being such a fucking pussy. We live in a world with tacos and chili cheese Fritos. Life is good.
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>We live in a world with tacos and chili cheese Fritos. Life is good.

You are definitely a teenager
In a messed up way, anon is right. I was raised by a bipolar, narcissistic drug addict for a parent and technically have PTSD but the trick is not to think of your experience as "traumatic" but just a shitty upbringing. Slapping pop psychology labels onto yourself is just going to make you feel sorry for yourself at the end of the day. It's better to acknowledge your problem areas and work on them without the woe is me.

Anyway, back to your issue: move out and cut contact with your mom, if you haven't already. Avoid manosphere type stuff and unironically hang out with more women in a casual way. Women in this day and age can be more entitled and self absorbed unfortunately but there are still some decent ones out there. Their brains just work differently from men, and oftentimes they perceive things in a more childish way. You're going to have to learn to forgive them for it if you want to stop hating them. But obviously keep your eyes peeled for red flags but yeah
>Their brains just work differently from men, and oftentimes they perceive things in a more childish way. You're going to have to learn to forgive them for it if you want to stop hating them. But obviously keep your eyes peeled for red flags but yeah

That's the general conclusion I've been coming to. I've had a lot of contact with my mother over the past few days and her deteriorating health/mental state is bringing out the worst of her.

I just think my views are probably a little warped due to my experiences...but I can see I'm not alone
Women are stupid, they're not inherently malevolent.
They're all entitled to a greater or lesser degree.
You need to find the less entitled women and move out.

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There is a girl that's very obviously into me. We're just friends as of now, how to make her into girlfriend?
Netflix and chill

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We are both 21 and live together. We are almost a whole year living together and it has been a whirlwind, not because of ourselves but rather my family that made hell into our lives by not accepting her.

But now that we are by ourselves, we are being able to focus on each other way more. She takes care of me, she has been on my side even when our financial lives was brim, we went through months of financial struggle and she still stayed by my side. She's almost helped with home duties and also cared for me more than anyone else.

However, the only problem is her temper. She can become really angry at times for the smallest things ever. There are days she is calm and quite ok, but there are some that she is simply unbearable with all her anger. She has POS (a condition which is known to unbalance hormonal levels on females and often lead to emotional instability) and we have talked to each other about that.

The good thing is that she recognized that she feels a lot of anger sometimes, I talked to her about seeing a doctor to check her hormones or even some therapist (since she has gone through some traumatic events in her life), I am glad she accepted.

Meanwhile, how can I deal with her when she is exploding?

I know that some may think it's not a good idea to keep someone with such temper, however, it's clear that she fights for me. Whenever I am ill she gladly takes care of me, she will cook and even work in order to help us. Sex is also not a problem, she doesn't have a problem with that and we both have similar goals in life.
Take her to boxing or martial arts
An angry woman wants an angry partner to destroy each other. She enjoys the adrenaline and testosterone from verbally attacking you. If you’re the quiet type she will sooner or later calm down but will eventually explode again because she wants you to fight back until she starts crying and apologizing (this will inevitably kill the relationship).
Use that anger of her on a better more productive activity.
what you are describing is literally all women.

not a real thing. all women with active hormones are like this. some just worse than others.

>how can I deal with her when she is exploding?
don't. remind her that her behavior is damaging and unhealthy and if she doesn't want to check herself at the door she can check out of your life. getting on with this type of shit is how domestic abuse situations happen against men, and at that point there is just nothing you can do because abuse against men is just laughed out of courts.

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>grew up without a mom
>never made friends with other girls because I was just this weird tomboy nerd from taking on my brothers' interests
>got lost in comics and video games for years
>feel awkward trying to date guys, but not a lesbian
>dad assumed I'm a lesbian and tried to encourage it
>highschool ends, brother got the savings dad had for college & I just stayed home as a neet helping dad around the house
>feel like I would be bad at being a mother/wife if I ever do find a guy because I have the least feminine personality in the world
>one year later, dad says he has the money for me to go to college now if I want

I kind of want to learn how to draw but idk if I'd be any good at it. I don't feel like I'll ever be a good mom, but I could make like cartoons and stuff for kids to enjoy, and that would be nice?

Is that a bad idea for college? What would be a good idea if not that
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If youve got a hobby that can make profit go to college for that. If you don't know what to do, its a waste of money.

Try volunteer work if youre thinking about working with animals/kids. Won't make money, but you'll get a better idea if thats what you really want to do.
Don’t listen to him, marry me.
You can be my NEET princess
>But if I’m being honest you should just date a nice guy and have a family. Careers will do nothing but suck your soul dry.
Having a kid with the wrong person and/or regardless if you really want them or not can do all that and more. Of course a male and a 4chan user would never understand this though, he thinks he's the "nice guy" he's describing
Why would you spend your dad’s money to go to college if you don’t know what you want to do?
>I feel like most guys would rather have some princessy type
NTA but I like both archetypes of women. Tomboy and little miss princess. Both are good. Stay skinny though, don't turn into a dyke either

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Well the title says it all. I hate everything. I hate society, I hate people, I hate stupid animals and I hate this disgusting rock that I am stuck on with y'all shittards. If I could choose I would kms asap but I got some duties that I ain't running away from. All this hate takes a toll on my energy tho as I am flooded by anger 24/7.
People complain and I'm pretty tired. I need to keep going for another four to five years so I need to adapt to this and smile at all those fuckers around even though I'm sick of life and just done.
>Well the title says it all. I hate everything. I hate society, I hate people, I hate stupid animals and I hate this disgusting rock that I am stuck on with y'all shittards. If I could choose I would kms asap but I got some duties that I ain't running away from. All this hate takes a toll on my energy tho as I am flooded by anger 24/7.
>People complain and I'm pretty tired. I need to keep going for another four to five years so I need to adapt to this and smile at all those fuckers around even though I'm sick of life and just done.
What does the picture mean lol

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I have no woman, I have no house, I have no money and live paycheck to paycheck. When will it be my turn to be the alpha bros? I'm tired of this life, I'm tired of this world just very very tired that's all.
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> I have no money and live paycheck to paycheck
How about I treat you to a nice hot meal? You have a PayPal or cashapp? Everyone deserves a nice hot meal. Warms the soul.
Wont be around this thread long enough to find out but if youre insinuating youre gonna buy op a hot meal, youre a good man and I like you for it
Yeah that's what I'm offering
Considering you’re down to spamming this same thread, I don’t think you’ll be getting a turn.
just delusionmaxxx: play vidya, watch anime, masturbate. Your life is over, now there is only left waiting for inevitable death

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>What is /htgwg/?
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting (and dealing with) women here. Some people on this website actually get laid, and a small subset of them even want to help others. All anons are welcome to ask questions from more experienced anons, share experiences, get a second opinion, and give updates on advice received. It doesn't matter what you're struggling with, we know how hard it can be, we got you brah.

>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incel-dom, hopelessness, etc... Yes, meeting women and dating today can be hard, but /htgwg/ is about overcoming the challenges, not complaining about them. Ignore the miserable posters who refuse to put in any effort. They have many other threads and boards to pollute, so be smart and spot the bait without engaging.

>How to ask for advice
Reminder that context is important. Please be more specific than: 'This girl ghosted me, why?' We can't help if we don't understand your situation, so try to provide as much (useful) background as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out and .....", what your relationship is with the girl, how long have you known her, screenshots or outline of conversation if any, etc). Don't forget to ask an actual question.

>Books and Resources
1. Books: "Models", "No More Mr Niceguy", both at: https://gofile.io/d/UafSqD
2. The old PasteBin link: https://pastebin.com/cMHcY4dc
3. A bit cringe, but Dr. NerdLove has decent advice: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/category/basics/
4. Old Tom Leykis shows from the 2000s: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyU1jahEf7GwmiFhWEUoacB4v3ihAK3-a (if you'd rather listen than read)
(New link suggestions are welcome)

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I just finished reading “metamorphosis” how do I deal with the post but clarity?

how do I break this cycle?
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>become resentful of normie relationships with friends/family/partners
How come? What do you resent about these relationships? Are you not getting enough personal space? Is the give/take ratio not in your favor? Do you feel like you can't truly express yourself?
>>After 17 to 27 months of treatment, both haloperidol- and olanzapine-treated monkeys had an equivalent and highly significant 8% to 11% decrease in fresh brain weight and volume when compared with the sham group.
I want to form meaningful connections and genuine relationships with people. It isn't realistic to live in isolation for the rest of my life.
anyone who has thought like this (including myself) was/is miserable.
I'm jealous that I can't form them with anybody.
>I act rude, cold, and distant when people talk to me
>People distance themselves from me
Can't fix that step sorry, try a different one
>I become more of a loner
Probably can't fix that one at that step
>Become resentful of normalfags

I'd recommend becoming satisfied with life and also satisfied with normalfags and their normalfaggotry, and also not being rude cold or distant. Should work.
Keep seething, incel.

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My life is not perfect. It's full of problems, poverty, sickness, depression, traumatic events, etc.
When I try to vent and find comfort with my mother, she just pushes me away.
My father, too.
My brothers, too.
Friends? Don't have any, and if I had, they'd not listen to me too.
Discord servers, esp. mental health and self improvement? Don't complain at all!
Steam friends? They just want to play video games.
Yet, whenever my mom's sad over some stupid, meaningless shit, I have to be "empathic" and do "active listening" and all that crap.
What the hell?
What to do at this point? I am suffering in silence.
a therapist? duh
You ought to try journaling
Do the same to your mother then, just ignore her. Or first tell her that why should you listen to her problems when she doesn't listen to yours problems.

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>been developping premature ejaculation recently, I'm not having fun and neither does she
>I'm 5'9 and she's almost my height
>gf insinuates that normal penetrative sex is dissatisfying and underwhelming to her because she "tends to compare too much"
>"it's not too big, not too small" and "the big ones, like 8 inches, they hurt"
>Wants to measure my dick and I let her because I can tell it's over anyway and I don't want it to appear like it's affecting me
>it's barely 7.4"x5.125" bone pressed, and only around 16cm of "useable length" according to her
>calls me cute and beautiful and refers often to me as "little boyfriend"
>she wants me to crossdress, paint my nails and plans on playing with my ass with toys
>I'm suffering greatly. The mornings are the worst, this is when everything is so brutally clear and disgusting
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But I like it when I drive and she rests her head on my shoulder or when she hugs me and squeezes me and wimpers
Nigger you can do that with a girl who doesn’t disrespect and humiliate you.
>>she wants me to crossdress, paint my nails and plans on playing with my ass with toys
the dream
Yeah... The problem is I actually like these ideas
I won't deserve that until I make myself a social circle and get jacked, which will take me years that I don't have

i want to get railed by a homeless guy. it’s not because i’m actually attracted to them, i just have low self esteem and i’m attracted to someone that also has low self esteem and is doing poorly in life. i think it would fix me honestly. i can try grindr but i’m not on prep so i’m worried about stds. what should i do?
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no. save urself. think about Joan of Arc. thats not feminism to me
“I think have sex with a homeless man will fix me.”

>what should i do?

Go into therapy.

The track you're on will leave you with STDs and won't solve your problems.
You wrote that you believe that getting fucked by a homeless man would fix your low self-esteem issues.
I am asking how did you come to this conclusion.

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