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I’ve already made up my mind. A former friend of mine was the most manipulative, backstabbing piece of shit. I dealt with him for many years and was loyal to him and he never deserved it. He ruined my life and gave me serious mental health issues. I have never felt such a sheer level of hatred towards someone before and I mind as well been telling a stranger every detail about my life just so they can use it against me. I’ve already made up my mind, I want to expose him for his behavior and watch his life, his ego, fall apart. I want to humiliate him the way he did to me. It would at least be some form of justice for the abuse I suffered.
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>>24692737
a narcissist is really gonna care about that.
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>>24692918

Well if they lose their job, get a divorce, and get a public reputation for being an asshole that affects their future games, they won't like it

Don't forget that narcissism often overlaps with other behaviors
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>>24692932
Narcissist is such a cool word so I really like to say it. I heard Jordan Peterson say it once.
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>>24692958
I’m trans btw
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>>24692989
Don't forget, narcissism overlaps with other behaviours. Lol

How do I become more confident?
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>>24688428
Self worth is difficult, it's way easier to see everything and everyone else as worthless. You should not give a shit about any human standards or values, the people that come up with them are idiots. Humanity is a joke and failed species, do what you want while the world falls apart. Nothing on this planet matters now, the only person you should care about pleasing is yourself. Strength through hopelessness.
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>>24692296
Normal testosterone levels
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>>24688694
A small price to pay
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>>24688694
so don't drink to get fucked up? one vodka tonic an hour to talk to girls won't make anyone into a drunk
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>>24688441
>>24692850
>small price to pay
like fuck it is, I started drinking in HS to be more confident and all it did was delay my life by ~5 years. Now I'm 25 but still only working an entry level programmer job, haven't finished my masters yet, am not enrolled in a PhD or working at FAANG. Don't drink.

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>good relationship with parents
>no mental illnesses
>eats healthy
>has an active social circle
>uses social media
>has a good relationship with god

anyone can think of any others?
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>>24692959
>has a good relationship with god
Especially that one. How can you be in a relationship with someone who's fucking god?

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Bros my penis length is just under 6 inches and my girth is 5 inches. It's above average but is it enough? Does it even have any use?
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If it's average or above, you're good
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Better than half the population my dude
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Yah bro, all fine.
But measure it from the top not the bottom, bottom tends to look longer.
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>>24692007
Mine is 7 inches long, 5.5 inches thick. Not that it matters tho cus I'm a virgin.
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The average girth is around 4.6, and women prefer a girthier cock than a longer one. So you should be doing great.

My landlord put a notice on all the doors in my building saying that sometime in the next 7 days the landlord will let some team into each apartment inspection. They may leave some device in the apartment and it asks us not to remove the device until they retrieve it. The note also asks that tenants lock up their pets for the inspection

I called and asked if I could know when specifically the inspection would be because I don't want to lock up my pet for a whole week. The landlord's office told me to just deal with it

State law says that I as the tenant cannot refuse a reasonable entry request to my apartment, but this request seems to be very unreasonable since there's no specific time given. What's the legal standard for an unreasonable request / how can I legally assert my right to deny my landlord entry
All I wanted was to know a specific date and they couldn't even do that
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>>24690347
Simply inform the landlord that you need 24 hours notice.
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>>24690347
I hate to recommend on 4channel, but leddit /r/legaladvice is good with this kind of thing.
Make sure to say what state this is in
But yeah this is fucking weird and probably violates your right to quiet enjoyment, at the very least you should get your rent prorated for this time
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>>24691799
This. This is the law in most places
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>>24691865
Most people on that sub are at least sound of mind (no guarantees politically) so check it out OP I second this
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>>24692360
Yeah politics they're all butthurt at the slightest hint of racial insensitivity but it's mostly legit.

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I don't want to wake up years from now and realize that everything I ever did with my limited time on this planet was in vain. I want to live a happy and fulfilling life, but the problem is that even the people who I look up to and would consider successful display some sort of regret and inner turmoil, which leads me to believe that I can never truly achieve a state of contentedness without perhaps dedicating a near insurmountable effort towards being productive and placing myself in novel situations so as to experience as much of life as possible. But if I'm being honest with myself, I most likely don't have in myself to do such a thing.
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>>24692283
But it is even possible to transcend the ego and accept the precariousness of my situation? That's sounds really scary...
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>>24692289
Sure you can.
It takes a lot of hardwork going into philosophy/religion/meditation and at the end of the cycle you will be in the same spot as you started. The difference will be found in your perspective on life and the universe.
If you ask me, your attention and your perspective on things are among the few things YOU truly control and own. Your mind often wanders, thoughts just come out of nowhere, your body functions without your conscience attention and deteriorates regardless of how much you try to stop it.

The ego is not your enemy, it is the interface with which you connect with your surroundings. Just beware not to identify with it too much.
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>>24692277
it doesn't matter what you or other people do necessarily in that context. a poor or stupid man can be happy with nothing if he was right in his spirit. but he wouldn't have nothing because his spirit is good, and you are rewarded for that by nature or god himself. to those with nothing more will be taken, to those with everything more will be added. the reason for that is that the people who have things have good spirit and the ones who have nothing have bad spirit and that's how they got there in the first place. and that doesn't mean material things only because many rich people have corrupt spirits which causes them problems too. the point is that you as an individual are not capable of doing anything really, you can't even control your own thoughts, so stop expecting yourself to fix it and just let god fix it after you figure out how to fix your character and spirit, because that's the only thing you can even change. if you don't believe in god you still believe in good and bad, and if you choose as good as possible you still, in a way, are believing in god/doing god's will and things will be given to you for having good character. after you get some things more will be added to you, if you stay that way. it's out of your control. just become good as good as you can be and the fulfilling life will happen to you no matter what you have, but, because you have good character you will also have everything you want given to you, not earned.
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>>24692277
for example, why do you feel like you wasted time? who are you to even know whether or not time is wasted? you don't even know what you should have been doing with that time, so how can you say it was wasted? what do you actually expect from yourself? you think you have the answers but you're upset right now about having no answer. you are judging yourself about not having a fulfilling life when you don't even know for sure what having a fulfilling life means, so you're really hurting yourself because of an illusion that came from you. you are attacking yourself, your own nature, and in any circumstance if you attack nature you will lose and probably go insane. another example, if you hate someone for how they are, you are attacking their nature, and the emotional energy you get from that hatred will literally destroy you if it's strong enough. because you transgressed against nature and destroyed your character by hating that person, bad things happen to you and things are taken from you. be careful and really examine yourself. this despair you feel is just you attacking yourself, and you really don't know where it's coming from either but it's inside you. and you can't defeat it by yourself because it is part of nature. only god can do something like that. say you grow up with bad parents and are poor, and you hate them for that. you grow up with this hatred that causes you to be a mean or lazy or whatever kind of undesirable person even in a minor way. over time you are denied friends, love, money, self esteem, security, everything because of how you are acting because of this hatred, and you might not even know the hatred is there because you consider it part of you. but it isn't. this despair you feel about life is not actually part of you. how can i put this

TLDR you are by nature vain, so if you try to make purpose by yourself, you will literally go insane and have everything taken from you because you are attacking nature
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>>24692277
Life is nothing but struggle why are you trying to find purpose in it lmao

I have diagnosed mental health issues that make me behave in strange ways sometimes. I’m terrified of people judging me for them, since I don’t want to be pitied. At the same time though, I don’t feel good about myself when I have to explain that my health issues have impacted my career prospects and what I’m comfortable with doing. I really don’t want to be a buzzkill.

How do I get over this paranoia?

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I am 5'9" and would like to date a girl who is 5'11"+. Is this possible and how?
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It's possible if you compensate in other areas or if she's alot ugglier than you

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I come from a very wealthy family, we have multiple homes and nice cars. My dad was in PE and also inherited a lot through his family. People say money gets girls but I'm an incel. I don't know how to display how rich i am to girls because when they find out i have money they're just like "oh... cool" and look at their phones.

I tried flexxing with expensive clothing but it looked pathetic because it was obvious what i was doing and a lot of people wear fake stuff so I had no way to distinguish myself from others. It seems like there's no way to get girls attention long enough to show off money. I have a lot of girls who are friends but they're not the type who care at all.

I tried going to a club and getting the expensive seat and ordered fancy stuff with my friends and invited girls over but they were all "Busy" which is bullshit but not much i could say.
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>>24689212
>Women can smell inauthenticity within a 30 mile radius
Kek. Women go for fake assholes all the time.
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>>24692184
But those guys are authentic phonies
Imagine trying to be a tryhard
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>>24688388
Glad to see there is rich people living in the shadows of their ancestors. Let me ask you a question, better to question your family about their enterprise and grow as a person, relationships will come naturally.
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>>24688388
Being rich is not enough (if you are a total dork) unless you go to a third world nation like China to get your women. Pic related.
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>>24688388
If you're rich, just use it to invest and become more rich. Elon Musk dated Amber Heard. Why? He is making rockets go to the moon, he gets hair plants, ect Zuckerberg got an ugly wife. Why? Hes socially awkward, hes small, hes a stuck up nerd.
If you're rich, do cool things. Go to Mars. Take pics on Mars. You don't even need a gym if you are traveling to cool places & eating tasty yet healthy food. Go to the spa. Treat yoself.

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Hello anons, yesterday I was pissdrunk at a birthday party and kinda hooked up with a girl I was thinking about a lot these past few days. Didn't have sex because I didn't have protection, so still a virgin, but at least I fingerbanged her and gave aswell as got head. We did this for like 6 hours and mostly laid in bed cuddling, but I just can't decide if she just wanted a one night adventure or if she actually likes me. She felt so warm and nice plus she's a 9/10 big titty goth so I'd love to lose my virginity to her seeing as she's a virgin aswell. All I can think about is us cuddling and holding hands. She showed some kind of interest before but I'm unsure if she was just being friendly or flirty. I know this isn't a lot to go on but could someone please help me decide if she is worth chasing?

Inb4 "post pics" no, kys
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You are the only one able to answer this question. Otherwise, get laid, that's an opportunity, don't waste it, plus she is good looking, what else do you need ?

Have fun son
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>>24692651

The thing is, there aren't many opportunities for me to meet her that often, I live a 2 hour train ride away but I come here to stay at my cousins place, and meet up with friends. I only come here 2-3 times a year and spend around 1 month in total. I'm afraid the sex ship has sailed already but I'm hoping that a good opportunity comes up soon. The worst part is that I was daydreaming the day before of doing something with her and even thought about buying some condoms but I talked myself out of it because it seemed too far fetched.
Thank you for the reply.

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>>24692469
Do it publicly. Larp as religious fanatic. More fear points earned.
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>>24692483
nah if i do it publicly someone will just call the fire department. plan is to pass out and die not be saved and be crippled. also its better to do it in a closed space.
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>>24692469
if you aren't saved before you die you will ben for the rest of eternaty

Make shure you go to heaven when you die
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>>24692469

Well if you lost purpose, are you not free to create any purpose without fear of death now?
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>>24692587
Imagine believing a YouTube video or an old book will take your soul beyond the stars into the sky after death instead of the life leaving your body and your burial in the dirt. You’re better off living.

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>plays videogames
>reads fiction books
>has a cat
>had a non-white boyfriend
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>>24691915
are you trying to find yourself a virgin or something? if you're looking for a partner you want a person capable of some independence. if you see a woman living alone and the first thing you think of is competition then you should remove yourself from the dating pool until you address your insecurities.
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>>24691969
thanks mate youre right
women who live alone are still uber-whores tho
but youre right about me
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I’m so confused as to how living alone is bad. I can’t wait to move out of my parents house and live alone w no roommates…
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>>24691970
if she's an uber-whore, there will be plenty of other red flags
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>>24691977
It's not, ignore the incel

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How do you know if a girl likes you if no girl has ever liked you in the past?
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>>24692616
What do you mean? It's not something that happens regardless of circumstance. You have to look like a catch, and unless you're aware of what that archetype looks like and try to mimic it deliberately, you'll only find out when you stumble into it. Plenty of guys never do.

OP: if she puts on more vibrant make up than usual. if she agrees with stupid shit you say and laughs at jokes that don't quite hit a bit too much. if she shows up "coincidentally" in other areas of your life (i.e. you're part of a reading circle that she joins). women are sneaky, I think with a lot of socially oblivious guys they're able to make all of this feel completely natural, and you'd end up in a relationship thinking it "just happened to work out that way".
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>>24692616
Because I'm a late bloomer. I was pretty close to being a 30 year old virgin
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>>24692752
I am ugly despite taking care of myself. Does this mean that no girl will ever be romantically interested?
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>>24692817
I'm pretty sure beauty perception varies between ethnicities. for example, Asian girls seem to think most white guys look handsome so long as they're reasonably in shape and the same goes the other way around.
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You can only tell with her behavior over a decent amount of time, girls are really good at pretending to be into you if they think they can benefit from you in someway. Just because a woman goes on a date with you, or even has sex with you, doesn't mean she genuinely likes or respects you as a person. If that doesn't make sense now, you'll learn with experience. I have had many girlfriends and sex with women but I never really felt genuinely liked until my current girlfriend. She invests in me in many different ways. She seems genuinely engaged with every word I speak and likes to learn about things that I am interested in.

Where should I start?
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>>24692794
It technically counts. The NT was written by Greeks.
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>>24692396
Ask your pastor lmfao. >4chan
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>>24692823
The average priest/pastor knows less about the bible than the average anon from here.
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>>24692396
Genesis is honestly the only book that matters. Dunno why the Jews turned it into their history chronicles.
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>>24692396
https://yewtu.be/watch?v=inTU69aeb-E
AVOID Book of Enoch and similar nonsense, that is just jewish mysticism designed to steer you away from monotheism into polytheism.
Also you start at the beginning.

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I'm 20, male, and my mom just keeps telling me I'm ugly recently.
I don't know, makes me feel bad, I'm already depressed & anxious and I have suicidal thoughts sometimes, I tried explaining this to my mom once and she told me she didn't believe in psychologists or therapy or anything like that and that I should "just be happy". I don't know, I love my parents but this is making my life at home pretty hard, I always had my doubts if I was ugly or not and I've been going to the gym and everything talking to girls online and all and it was going OK I didn't really think that I was ugly, just average or even good looking some days but this is just making me feel bad about my appearance again, I lose weight she tells me im too skinny and ugly, I gain weight and she tells me I'm fat, I let my hair grow she tells me I look like a girl, I cut my hair she tells me it looked better long.
Is there just no winning with old people? Why is she doing this to me??
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>doesn’t believe in psychology
And what credentials does she have? None. That’s right. Do what you must
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>>24692742
>Credentials determined by psychologists
Nice circular reasoning. Why are libtards so stupid 100% of the time?
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>>24692704
It’s not illegal to move out while in college. You’re just lazy and would rather be verbally abused then actually work for something. Most people work while in college.
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>>24692760
Nice reading comprehension. I didn’t say psychological credentials you autist. I meant has she ever read a peer reviewed article about the efficacy of therapy, does she recognize the authority of any educational or medical boards? Nah, she’s a layman with no clue who probably trusts Facebook more.
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Stop talking to your mom




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