No matter how hard I try to grow my self-esteem, I'm reminded that I can not process information the same way most average people can. It's hard to think positively about myself when I'm reminded how braindead I am when interacting with someone visibly annoyed with my lack of awareness and slow reasoning. I notice how often I ask advice about the same fucking things over and over, I'm not lazy, I'm just fucking retarded. I literally cannot process the advice being given to me, and there's nothing I can do about it. It's soul crushing and makes gathering the confidence to like myself.
>>30253425admitting your retarded is a huge and important first step. there are many retards out there that still do well for themselves, and there is nothing stopping you from doing the same. i'm going to assume you have the brain of a fucking baby, but here goes this:1. start working out, this is a baby skill and it makes you feel good almost instantly. everything involved with it is easy enough to learn and easy enough to get good at/master. just do it, if you're gonna be retarded might as well mog smart skinny freaks2. read a book: huge meme but seriously, some books can be seriously lifechanging. maybe start with something small with a cat in the hat. you don't need to read something you can't understand like aristotle or some shit, but try a self help book. atomic habits is a great one. 3. make a friend, a real friend: out in the insipid hellhole of the real world many people are vultures that laugh and thrive off other peoples suffering. you must try and fall and make a fool of yourself until you finally find your one true friend: someone who has patience, someone who genuinely likes you for who you are, and someone who will accompany you through hardship. doesnt even have to be a girl, having a bro makes life so much better. step 3 is extremely difficult, especially for aspies like us. but it can be done: join a club, volunteer somewhere in your little local community, or find a silly little hobby to do. best wishes my friend, and if you cant find a friend, remember you always have jesus :)
>>30253447It's extremely fucking bleak that I meet the criteria for everything here. I do all these things, not even for self-improvement purposes I just like working out because of HS football and I enjoy reading books, even if they're dumb ones like WWZ, Hogg, Blood Meridian, etc. I also have 2 close friends who put up with my retardation and recently was in a relationship with a girl who left me for being a dumbass.
>>30253477Hey there you go! HS football, hone in your craft at a sport. Seriously, if there's anything that retarded people can do to convert to smart, well rounded people is a sport. 18 years of lacrosse changed my life. I'm sorry my advice was no help, some other things I can recommend is just reading a shit ton and really trying to hone it in on a new skill. You say you're slow, and I will take your word for it. It will be tough, you will fail over and over but you must be confident with whatever path you take and have some faith that you will end up okay. I recommend gardening, because that's common and easy to get into (many good books on it). Personally I love circuit bending, i know it may seem daunting but fuicking around with circuit boards/soldering shit is so fuckijng fun. Try it sometime, find a workshop around you
>>30253425You know, your grammar and writing style suggests that you are not a complete idiot. Those who are genuinely stupid, like sub 90 in IQ, would actually struggle to string coherent sentences together.I reckon you are being too critical of yourself. Maybe you are comparing yourself with people who are actually way above average with achievements, or talents. Don't.Also worth nothing when you are feeling down, it's lot harder to process information and being able to carry out tasks. You are probably impaired by your own depression. No one learns anything when they lack of motivation or have no interest. >>30253447Follow this anon's advice. It's good. Additionally, eat better, and look after your physical health. It has direct correlation with mental acuity. When you start feeling better by improving self-esteem, you will also start feeling more energetic, alert and will be able to do more.Also, look into doing careers in the trades industry. They can be fulfilling.
I just got out of a relationship and I am realizing how cripplingly lonely I am now. Especially at night. I have no friends and before the relationship it didn't bother me. But then I guess I adjusted to the new higher level of connection and socialization. Now being alone feels unbearable and I have no friends to lean on. I need to make friends and I need to try and start dating again and I'm going to make an attempt. But in the meantime, what do I do? I used to literally make fun of people for this, for an inability to be alone. Now here I am on the other side of it, feeling suicidal every night because I have no one to talk too.
>>30254008cont.Things I am currently doing;>working out>going on walks>listening to podcasts>going to bed early>meditation>cleaningAll of it helps for a bit, when I'm engaged with it, but as soon as I stop moving I'm just ready to kill myself
>What is /htgwg/?How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting (and dealing with) women here. Some people on this website actually get laid, and a small subset of them even want to help others. All anons are welcome to ask questions from more experienced anons, share experiences, get a second opinion, and give updates on advice received. It doesn't matter what you're struggling with, we know how hard it can be, we got you brah.>What is /htgwg/ not?These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incel-dom, hopelessness, etc... Ignore the miserable posters who refuse to put in any effort. They have many other threads and boards to pollute, so be smart and spot the bait without engaging.>How to ask for adviceReminder that context is important. Please be more specific than: 'This girl ghosted me, why?' We can't help if we don't understand your situation, so try to provide as much (useful) background as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out and .....", what your relationship is with the girl, how long have you known her, screenshots or outline of conversation if any, etc). Don't forget to ask an actual question.>Books and Resources1. Books: "Models", "No More Mr Niceguy", both at: https://gofile.io/d/UafSqD2. The old PasteBin link: https://pastebin.com/cMHcY4dc3. A bit cringe, but Dr. NerdLove has decent advice on many topics: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/category/basics/4. Only want to casually date? Old Tom Leykis shows from the 2000s: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyU1jahEf7GwmiFhWEUoacB4v3ihAK3-a(New link suggestions are welcome)Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
For all the blackpillers out there, explain how a woman who looks like Princess Jasmine irl fell for a short, skinnyfat Chinese dude? Bear in mind, this dude was not rich, and also had health problems.
When is it appropriate to make a move (e.g kissing her or hugging)?How do I get myself a date?What do girls like to talk about?What advice would you give me to improve my game?Advice on being charismatic and playful with women?
I haven't had sex in a long time. I'm also not very experienced in general. there's a girl I can fuck today but she's not that attractive, I've rejected better looking girls but I'm going insane without sex. should I go for it?
>>30250263lots of foreplay, good oral
>>30254588No. Better to go insane, it'll make you more interesting as a person.
What should I do? My girlfriend is babymaxxing and drinking out of baby bottles
>>30254012I suggest you babymaxx as well and shit and piss on the floor and wake her up for tits at 3 am in the morning. see how she likes it
>>30254050?
Why the fuck did I even get married. My wife is insufferable and always knows the most terrible thing to say to ruin my day 1st minute in the morning.Should I just ignore her and do my thing? Today I said I'll go to the gym because I've been sitting at home all weekend doing literally nothing, and she drops me the bomb that she will be going to the mall by herself if i go to the gym (again, after sitting at home all weekend not even going 1 step outside).I feel like this is another one of her shitty games, I'm tempted to ignore her and just go to the gym like I plannedI know this sounds small and stupid but it adds up. Day in and day out, minute by minute I'm always met with resistance, it's never "OK honey do your thing and we'll see you at home"Idk man this happens often, she puts me in an irritating position. I hate this and I hate her family, everything I do is a constant upstream battle against her whole genetic exisistence.Any married anons have experienced this? How did ignoring her and doing your own thing work out? Did it eventually lest to divorce (you're never there for me) or did she clean up her game? Honestly the only thing keeping me around her is the prospect of children, since we agreed we'll try to have a kid next year.
>>30251647The issue is that the OP is a horribly unreliable narrator and gives zero examples of her "going ape shit" or anything like that. Going ape shit = she wants to go to the mall. Why is it bad she wants to go the mall? People have their theories, but OP came back again and wouldn't say. He also goes off on weird tangents, like inexplicably saying he hates his wife's family and never mentioning it again.
>>30248426>Day in and day out, minute by minute I'm always met with resistanceCan you explain how this is resistance and not just you perceiving it as resistance?
>>30248426>Why the fuck did I even get married.Kek so many cases. Good luck escaping with your assets
>>30248426What are you guys, 16?
>>30248465> I'd try to fix this using my own means if possible.Because that’s been working out so far?
Is 25 old or not? Just give it to me straight.
>>30252159>Is 25 old or not?for women, maybe. Internationally, that's the average age at which you should have been married. As a man, you can marry even later. But women don't have it so easy as they visibly age quicker than men do- they don't look good older than 25. As far as finances and careers go, you should already have something established around this time. It is evidence of your progress and hardwork since 18. But I suppose the saying still remains>no one takes you seriously before age 25
You're not young anymore, or well, we're not young anymore anonWe're "adults" now. Nobody will sugarcoat it anymore, it's all seriousness from here.
>>30252159Old for what? It's old to be 25 and a virgin. It's old to be a post-high school neet. It's young if you're genuinely trying and improving yourself.
>>302521590-24 = Young25-29 = Neither young or old30+ = Old
>>30252218>>30253711Can confirm >t. 23 year old zoomer that still feels like a teenager
It's been about 5 months since I lost my gf, Apartment, dog and career. Yeah all at once. Left my job and everything else fell apart. Been unable to get any traction. Anyone here ever want to fucking give up? Like seriously
get a job
>>30253771Yeah I'm trying. Maybe I need to switch up my approach. I'm in a professional field and it's just been slow
>>30253760Nearly every day I want to give up, OP. Sorry about the dog. I’ve a feeling that one might’ve stung the most, it would if it were me, anyway.Sometimes it’s okay to give up. But only if it’s giving up things that’s killing us, or hopes and dreams that weren’t meant to be. Just refuse to give up on yourself, bro. It’s all you can do.Remember who it was who saw themself into a career in first place, into an apartment, into what you thought was a good relationship, yeah it went bad but you still brought your half to it. Point is, all the good things you’ve had, that was from your efforts. You might be wiped out, you might’ve fallen from a height but bro, the depth of that fall is evidence of the lofty height you are capable of. And that shit is untouchable, your capability. But only if you refuse to give up on that much. So be good to yourself when you can. Process the pain, let it hurt as it needs to, and then heal up.
>>30253760Same situation as you OP, except the dog. I know the feels.As other anon said, get a job. Just about any job. Financial security and roof above your head is priority. Then slowly work on other aspects of your life. If you stay at home and brood all day, it's going to destroy you. Stepping outside, like working will distract you and mend you. Good luck man.
I've had about 30 jobs in my life. None of them paid enough to enjoy a reasonable quality of life.The cost of renting/owning goes up every year compared to the prevailing wage of any area. Every year regular people lose financial ground. Quality of life decreases.if you are poor in USA you will live near Mexicans and blacks. You will hear car/tire noises all night long. Gunshots. People give you dirty looks like its prison. Trash all over the ground. Pitbulls running loose more often than you can believe.
It's ok if I wish to die alone and miserable because I can't forgive myself?
>>30252805Yes
>>30253210It will never go away.But it will get easier.You just have to become stronger.Become the better person you've always dreamt of becoming, do this as a way to apologize truly and deeply to those you've wronged.Start small and work your way up. Listen to Team Sesh. Develop esteem and learn how to appreciate your positive traits you lock in that vault.If you don't believe it's possible for you then I will believe in you.
>>30253304Why would you believe me? I'm so deep in self hatred that Ive Lost touch with myself, I dont feel special to me anymore. I hit the gym, have friends, help people, but i feel bad constantly and feel that the only way to makes things right is to suffer Alone, isolate myself and die like a lone animal.
>>30253304>It'll never go away but it'll get easierWhy is that enough? If it won't go away, there's no point no matter how easy it gets
>>30252805Yep, now please go do so and stop shitting up the board with your sympathy bait threads.
Is there a superior method to hanging?>only needs a rope>only 10 seconds of discomfort>followed by an eternity of peace
How do I stop being good with people?Story short: I always help people when I can, which is most of the time. I'm asking this question due to y habit of helping hobos. First one is okay. He's been around our third-worlder neighborhood for at least a decade and hasn't brought any problems. Second one is, to put it simply, crazy. He has enough charisma to make you pity him, so I've even bought him a lot of food, worth for two weeks. However, I've noticed he has problems with cops in the area (he actively avoids them). Last time I encountered him he went on this ramble how he was hit with a stone in the back of the head by this other hobo. He told me he turned and slashed his face with the very same stone. While doing this, he dramatized it as well as he could to the point he even gripped my jacket with his dirty hands. After that he had the face to ask me for actual money and not just spare change. After seeing that I've got the feeling he's an actual crackhead.How do I stop helping this guy I can always encounter in the street? How do I strip myself of these preconceived beliefs of human dignity? Simply put, how do I become a careless piece of shit? I know these people don't change and that they are disgusting, but I don't have the straight face to simply say "no" to people.
>>30253723They’re not animals though. They’re broken people. Either broken by something else, or someone else, or they broke themselves. Showing them dignity is how to remind them they can still mend themselves.
>>30253723This is what I feel with the second hobo. He actually asked me to buy him more food, so I now know he expects me to keep helping him like last time.>>30253697>>30253747I feel this could work out with a minute set of people. But how can you tell sincerity starts and self-centred behaviour ends? Sometimes I feel even hobo 1 just engages in conversation with me so he can ask me stuff at the end. I doubt self-amendment too. One's too old, the other is a nutjob with rotten-teeth.
>>30253747Most of them can't mend themselves though, and humans are in fact animals. There's an abundance of assistance a available on top of all that it would take to have the average persons family and friend group abandon them. People that suffer true homelessness are almost always some version of largely unstable whether it's mental illness, addiction, or multiple factors. All that to say, I dont want raccoons so I bag and cover my trash. I dont want roaches so my home is cleaned consistently. Roaches and raccoons have their place in this world and in their ecosystems but it ain't on my property where I'd have to deal with the negative consequence of their attraction to my area. I did have a coon once and he was really persistent. Its illegal in my state to kill or even trap and relocate raccoons. I put a heavy brick on my trashcan lid and he could not longer eat from it. Once his incentive was removed he moved along in short order unharmed and no worse for wear, off to find his next incentive.
>>30253797>Most of them can't mend themselves though, and humans are in fact animals.Do you feel like an animal?
>>30253813Yes because of am one. Thats like asking a born blind person if they "feel" blind. Uh yeah I guess but I've never been sighted so I feel how I've always felt. Just how any animal would feel. You don't feel like you should have wings cause you've never had them
>be me>wait for a sign from God>fast forward two weeks, have a night of vivid dreams after eating too much nutmeg (accidentally)>first, you visit a buddhist temple>then, a priest pulls you into a church to pray>at last, you realize you're being blessed by a rabbiSo... atheism it is?
Bump.
>>30246482Pump.
Trump.
How does a 19.5 year old guy go about becoming a femboy? As fast as possible preferably, and without explicitly crossdressing or having to wear a bunch of makeup
>>30248086Im just bi chill plz
Hey, man. Listen up.You have been fooled by internet degenerates and high speed pornography into thinking that you should be a girl or something.If there's a dick and a pair of balls between your legs, God created you a Man and you should behave as such. Go forth protecting the weak while treading the path of justice.
>>30251532Rather just be pretty and peaceful
get a waist binder for exercising so you can make your waist slimmer
>>30251932Does that actually work?
Does it matter that you grew up on government assistance such as food stamps/section 8 and if your parents didn't have it itd be difficult to raise you?
>>30253688Yeah but im not saying people cant push to be successful, im asking if its bad when people make fun of you for growing up on all this help. Basically saying you're a loser because without help you wouldn't exist.
>>30253735>im asking if its bad when people make fun of youwho cares? You are an adult. Why do other people's opinions matter to you?>Basically saying you're a loser because without help you wouldn't exist.Maybe that doesn't look good on your parents. But you didn't have a choice in it. Once you're grown, that shouldn't matter at all. It only looks bad on you if you've grown into an adult NOW and still get gibs from taxpayers like a lazy stereotype. Get on your own feet now and feed yourself with the work with your own hands. That's more respectable. Don't be like your parents.
>>30253666Of course it does. Remember Ratatouille. Anyone can cook. Perhaps not everyone can be a great chef, but a great chef can come from anywhere.
>>30253749My parents do look bad for having children and not being able to support them. Its annoying hearing people say they shouldn't have children if they cant support them. That's what you have to live with because of your parents.
>>30253772like no normal people can support children easily now. Why do you think every first world country is having to import shit loads of immigrants
when people find out I'm schizo (diagnosed) they just walk awaycan't make any friendsis this it for me?
Don't let people know that you're schizoThat's how serial killers got away so often
>>30253348I like to get it out of the way earlyI'm also autistic and have BPD (self-diagnosed, for now) so I have the holy trinity of socially fuckedthe cruel part is I deeply desire connections with people, and I'll never get them because people do not want to befriend crazyoh well
>>30253348Serial killers aren't schizo you fucking retard.
>>30253407then why does everyone hate schizo so much? they're only 1% of the population and everyone is afraid of them
My parents passed and left me alone as their only child at 25 with $3,000,000 and their estimated $450,000 house. I just finished my PA schooling and was about to look for a job before they passed. My plan was to sell the house and put it all into any account with a garunteed 2-5% and live off the interest. My idea is that I’ll move to a SE Asian or Latin American country and live like a king in paradise until I’m 30 or so. I need to choose a place that my money will go the farthest that has relatively safe areas for white Americans. Other considerations would be nice weather, good food, lax laws for pot and alcohol, pretty women, easily learned language, and adequate hygiene and hospitals. Where would be good places to move to? What else would you recommend I do with my life now that I’ll likely never have to work if I manage it well and don’t fall into bad habits?
>>30252786What you should do is buy a small property for yourself and pay it off in full. Put a huge chunk of the money in CDs or shit that pays interest. Work social jobs for fun like Bar Tender, Bouncer, Theme Park, etc.Instead of moving to another country, just go on vacations. You'll have a permanent place in USA, have fun overseas no hassle to where your shit is, then you come back and relax. If you ever meet someone you can rent out your property for extra income.
>>30253146you sound like a faggot and i hope your family leaves you nothing
>>30253146Fuck off, don't listen to this piece of shit OP
>>30252786Sorry for your loss. Most people reccomend not making any huge life changes right after a big loss (I don't know how long it's been but I assume this is somewhat recent) so you may want to sit on it and live lofe as you were before, just for a little while. That said, if it's been a while, I'm not sure where you should move, but you should pursue artistic desires in your alone time and do humanitarian volunteer work if you are looking for a sense of fulfillment in a new life where I assume you know no one. Try to forge some level of relationship with any family you have left, if any, because the lonliness of a move like that is rough, especially if you have no one to call.
>>30253435>>30253453Am I crazy here? I literally cannot imagine enjoying the experience. The entire time, I would be worried that everything that remained of my family was burning. I mean, your parents work their entire lives to provide an inheritance to you. Even then, it's good fortune to have any since end of life care can suck up all but the most massive fortunes. It's not like I'm saying to take the money and burn it here. He can use it for good things, and the money freed in doing so can be spent elsewhere. You know usually people ask what you did with an inheritance. Does he really want to explain to people for the rest of his life that he spent his family's money on Costa Rica?
