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why do most men get so attracted to young girls?
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Generally I find women who are in their 30s or 40s to be the hottest, I'm 24
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>>23182421
t. masturbates to GILFs
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>>23182478
I actually do believe it or not. Milfs and even college age, but that’s as young as I’ll ever go. You guys are built differently
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>>23182421
Cope, cunny is the future
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>>23182483
E bro I'd slit this mans cock off fucking kanker pedo.

How can you tell a man is a loser at 30 in a first world country?
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>>23179597

Well I am 31 and at home, My gf just turned 32 and shes at home also.

Put it this way...I have felt like a loser many times..but when you think about it logically..If I moved out next week all of a sudden I wouldnt be a loser anymore.

So is it just the fact who you live with that makes you a loser?

I stopped caring what people think and my depression went away.
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>>23179597

Their social station in life really determines where they are. The biggest thing is their education and their salary. If you are over the age of 25 and making less than 50K per year, and especially if you are still making minimum wage, you are a fucking loser.
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>>23179616
I pass all of those but I still feel like a loser. I have no job and no gf. I think the most important one is 3. As long as you are making a genuine effort to get better you should be proud, but it has to be a real effort.
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>>23179616
> 7. The most beta trait of all he is a follower
Follower of what? TF does this even mean.
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>>23179616
Hey buddy.
Number 4 you can stick up your arse.
Want me to teach you a little about life little man?

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I used to be a very passionate and devoted writer who could spend every waking moment thinking about my stories and do that for months at a time. At some point around a year or two ago, around the same time that I got a new job and started playing DnD, that stopped and ever since I've been feeling that flow of passion and creativity drift away from me.

I'm not sure how to get it back, though I assume the fact that I've mostly been obsessing about DnD since is an indication that stopping that is a the key. I just want to feel some sense of purpose again
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>>23182435
>I'm not sure how to get it back
It sounds like writing was just a hobby or a pastime which you swapped for D&D. Usually a person writes with the intent of being published or at least of being read. If you felt you weren't making progress toward that goal perhaps that's why you quit.
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>>23182435
It's called aging.
You're like 22-27?
It doesn't come back. You just get tired
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>>23182435
Do you play real DnD? How the hell does DnD stop you imagination, it's what the drives the damn game. Be the GameMaster for once

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Is this an anxiety thing or what? I have no idea what I do but it seems most people want to talk to me or hang out with me (new people) and they always change their mind it seems. I've even had people I use to be friends with from work or something just stop talking to me and seem to not want to talk to me anymore. I don't even do anything. Literally. I don't talk to many people except my close friends I've always had. I'm like borderline autistic so I never even say much around anyone. I don't gossip at least. I'm awkward but I don't think I ever do weird shit. I just always feel invisible. Is it me? Is this shit in my head? It's like anyone ever comes at me saying I did some fucked up shit or anything. No drama in my life socially. Just feels like everyone avoids me for no reason. It's the worst feeling.
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>>23182492
Why would anyone want to talk to a wall? Try talking back next time, ask them personal questions
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>>23182523
I guess I meant that I don't say much to anyone most of the time. Obviously if I'm trying to talk to a new person or something I do things like this. This is a good example though because the person I wanted to hang out with recently bailed on me an hour before I was supposed to pick them up. I added them on Snapchat and they exchanged one message and ignored me. I was just asking them personal questions in this context. They seemed like they really were interested in me prior to this. Doesn't make any sense.

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So my mom has this best friend (let’s call her Kat) and she and I have always been really close. She’s known me all my life from when I was born until today (I’m 22 now). She always treated me like an equal growing up and she’d always do cool stuff with me like play video games with me, give me gifts like money/consoles/whatever, take me to go eat places, etc. (I grew up poor and my mom could never afford to do any of this stuff for me).

I matured sexually at a very young age. I started going through puberty at the age of 7 and I actually started growing a beard by age 8. I start noticing women (i.e. my teachers, random women on the street, etc.). I overheard Kat telling my mom that I was starting to mature and how “cute” I was when I would try to discreetly check out women. My mom took me to the doctors to find out why I was going through puberty so early and the doctor just shrugged and said “I dunno, but thanks for the $400.” Such is the state of American medicine.

I didn’t want to confide in my mom about this (it was just too weird/awkward), but I felt comfortable enough around Kat to talk to her about how I was starting to see women differently. I admitted to her that I had looked at some porn (and begged her not to tell my mom). She just laughed and told me not to worry and that it was “normal,” though I was an “early bloomer.” I started telling her about the porn I watched and she asks: “How big were her boobs? Were they as big as mine, or were they bigger?” I sheepishly tell her that they weren’t as big as hers and that I bet her boobs must be really squishy (hey, I’m 7 years old here, don’t judge me!).
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Fuck off Biff Spigler, you fucking pedo.
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Nothing wrong with it. It's sad that we as a society want to shun sexual relations between young people and adults. As long as there's no rape or painful penetration it's all good and most problems people have later in life are due to society telling them that it was wrong. If a girl rubs herself against her father and feels good about it whats the harm?
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>>23179272
>asking/begging isn't coercion.. she had every chance to say no
She did tell me no sometimes. I think she just felt sorry for me.
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>>23179611
fuck off you disgusting virgin mutt obese tranny cunt faggot nigger

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How do I come to terms with the fact that I'm a mostly horrible person?
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>>23177346
>Then when people are horrible to you, instead of feeling hurt and wanting to get back at them, you see that they are basically like you and they just didn't take a step back from themselves and the situation.
Ayo, fuck that shit. If I gave them a pass, that doesn't mean I won't get on their ass in the future. Get back gang.
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>>23175182
Fuck a few whores a few bottles of the cheapest booze you can find and maybe whooping someone's ass or if you drink first having the fuck stomped out of you.
Also kick over a babies stroller
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>>23179402
>>Do you have an urge to kill people?
>I have occasional power fantasies involving killing people.
So do superheroes.
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>>23175182
Get better. You are horrible because you are selfish. You are selfish because you have a lot of fear and so your empathy brain turns off.

You want to be a better person? Learn to identify and conquer your fear. More empathy, happier person
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unless your in a gang and out here causing trouble and pimping hoes and kidnaping people shut the fuck up cause i know your not. fuck your pitty party

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I (19) am in a loving relationship with my girlfriend (20) of one year, it's honestly near perfect. We both never fight, have an electric connection, and are always open with one another.
But for some reason I can't stop thinking about the one time she had sex before me. She regrets it and was pressured into it by an abusive ex who lied about being serious, but we both wanted to save ourselves for the right one.
I know it's not right I feel this way, especially considering she only had sex once before me, but I'm not sure why I keep obsessing over it. She has trauma from her relationship so I stopped bringing it up despite her invitation to do so. Maybe if I did have sex before her I wouldn't be feeling this way since we'd be in the same boat.
Anyone else struggle through similar feelings? How did you end up resolving them? Is it just because I'm insecure about something?
Thanks for reading.
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>>23175124
I was a virgin until my current bf. He wasn't a virgin before me. I felt exactly like you thinking it was wrong to feel that way but still it bothered me. I obsessed non stop over my bf having a sexual past and it made me sick inside. It was so bad we broke up but after months of separation are now back together. The thoughts still pop up sometime but they don't bother me as much I don't have as strong as a reaction. Basically what happened is I stressed myself about it so much I tired myself out. Just like rewatching something eventually gets boring the feelings of excitement aren't there anymore. Just entertain those thoughts till you tire yourself out. My only caution is that you don't take it out on others and especially your gf. Best of luck :)
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I'm 24 and virginity literally does not matter to me at all. Virginity is some shit made up to make women feel like one dick can suddenly change them or make them "unpure" bullshit.

I don't care about how many people a partner has been with. I don't ask. It's not my business and it makes no difference.
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>>23175124
The Bible teaches that virginity is a precious gift offered by a woman to her husband.

It is natural to feel robbed if you marry a non-virgin because you aren't getting your end of the deal.

A man is expected to provide for the needs of his wife and his children. The least she could do is devote her body to him and him alone.

Imagine you as a man came home after 12 hours of being treated like a slave by your boss which you grit through to put food on the table only to come home to your cumslut whore of a wife who went through LSU football team in an attempt to "find herself".

Frankly the thought makes me sick. Some other dude fucks the woman who's supposed to be your wife and you're footing the bill?

It's a gross miscarriage of justice.

You have two options
>Forgive her and let it go

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my friend, i know this thread has several replies but i hope u read this because it helped me. Just try to think of it as your girl is with you, and she chooses you. You get to have your first time with her. You weren't in her life when she had her first time so you can't really blame her for that. As you get older, more people have experience and you won't really find virgins you're attracted to. Also, virginity isn't all it's hyped up to be. I've been w virgins, and people who have 10+ bodycounts - pussy is pussy. Once you fuck, you'll realize it's more of a societal thing and it's all in your head and you can enjoy sex more.
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>>23175531
fuck yes. knowing you were a persons first time (bonus points for each others first time) is the best feeling in the world. that love is bliss

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recently quit my job because it was draining my mental health. I have about 2 grand saved up that should last me a couple months. don't want to be a food wagie again, but having trouble forcing myself to look for online work
Im only 25 and I wish I had chosen a life path much earlier, now it seems like everything is slipping away from me with alcohol and vidya and I don't know what to do
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Do you live alone?
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You're an idiot, don't quit a job without another one. You need to have an income. You are choosing a path in life and it's a retarded one. Get another job and develop a productive routine. Otherwise you will just be broke and depressed.
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>>23179583
I have handed my resignation in recently because work has been getting me down, I have had extended period of being down about work and I knew I needed to get out. I don’t have any other work lined up, I don’t have any direction for what I want to do. I have enough money to live for quite a while so I can afford to not work for a couple of months. I am in my late 20s and I don’t know what I will do next.

It sounds like you are in a not dissimilar position to me. I am planning on have a month of not working by aiming to sort myself out with a small
Income in a couple of months time.
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>>23181721
Then I wish you luck, Anon. Hopefully I can get myself sorted out, too.
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>>23179583
at least you got paid. I'm a real estate agent and i dont get paid for shitposting on 4chan.

Never talk to psychiatrists, psychologists, therapists, or counsellors etc.

It can wreck your future. Shrinks have the power to slander you with a diagnostic label. This can strip you of your rights, freedoms, and limit your prospects.

Shrinks will assure you that their sessions are completely confidential and private. But it’s not entirely true. Every silly little thing you say to them and every silly little thing they think of you will be written down and recorded. This will create a paper trail that will follow you around like a criminal record. If you want a job in emergency services, aviation, intelligence, military, or security, these people will ask for your “mental health history”. You could choose not to hand over your records, but then you’re not gonna get the job. You no longer have confidentiality. Confidentiality is a meme when you are forced to hand over these records. And force is the removal of choice.

Shrinks are the wrong people to confide in. They cannot be trusted because they operate on ulterior motives; they have little interest in helping you. Their sessions aren’t a friendly meet and greet or a fun exchange of personal trivia. A session with a shrink is a form of interrogation. They are conducting psychological reconnaissance on you. Their tactical questions are intended to extract incriminating information from you. They are trying to obtain “evidence” of pathologies from your character. Their questions are specifically designed to make you confess to “symptoms” until they collect enough to group them together into some “disorder”. Shrinks operate on passive-aggressive manipulation through implication and omission. Everything you tell them will be interpreted through the lens of the DSM. Admissions of weakness will be used against you. These professional gas-lighters can even pathologize perfectly normal behaviours and reactions with their repertoire of silly questions.
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>>23182101
but he's still correct, though. they're not there to help him, they're there to wrangle him like a tard
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>>23182084
it was not a retort! just a statement of fact!!
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>>23182338
> implying the two can only be mutually exclusive
yeah, why don't you upload your IQ results. I don't believe you anymore... dumbass
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>>23182399
that's actually another guy that jumped in but if you want to respond to >>23182067, I'm all ears
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What really surprised me about psychiatrist is just how trite and useless their advice is. These people are highly educated and over socialized, but they are very lacking in wisdom. I have never ever heard a profound or wise idea from a health professional. These people only function, and some function well. But they do not think.

It's true that they do not listen to you. The reason is aforementioned; they believe they are more intelligent than you and they don't need to listen to you. They are just trying to figure out which label to slap on you.

But you can definitely use their arrogance to your advantage. Because these people are not interested in listening to you it means you can easily fly under the radar with grey man tactics. Just as stated, say as little as possible. In fact, let them do the talking. Let them say whatever they want. If by the end of the session they got nothing on you, you win.

Leave their office and do not return.

It’s good for my anxiety but I’ve noticed that it makes me gassy as fuck. Why is this? Anyway I get around this without having to stop taking it?

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Ive been questioning myself like I feel so fucking weird inside my body and always felt like an outsider. I was an average student in high school and just played videogames online. My dad never spent time with me neither my mom I spent all of my time in front of the computer.
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>How the heck do I know if Im autistic or not?

If only there where professional people that could diagnose you.

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Am I a bad person for believing that women who don't have children shouldn't be allowed to vote?
I think that they make poor decisions for themselves and society as a whole unless they have a direct stake in it (children).
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It's your opinion. A lot of the major political powers, such as communism, fascism, and monarchy are completely against the idea of women's rights. But they're also aligned commonly against the rights of men too.

>>23180755
Based
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>>23180763
>>23180775
Based
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>>23180753
The problem with voting this day and age isn't that people of a certain class should be the only ones to vote it's that our current system of voting has been tailored to be easily manipulated by media and political misinformation. There are plenty of uniformed or misinformed voters that would fit your criteria and vice versa. We need to get rid of first past the post and institute ranked voting. This would almost entirely do away with the spoiler effect and allow voters to vote honestly without fear of "wasting" their vote.
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>>23181203
You literally just proved OP's point you spastic moron. You're drinking from a poisoned well and you are too stupid to notice it. Read another fucking book and get your ass off of /pol/. It's called a containment board for a reason, ya dingus.
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>>23180753
In that case men without children shouldn't be allowed to vote either

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"If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you" - Jimmy Soul

Is this good advice?
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>>23176767
>Ah, so it’s like we’re just placeholders until the lady finds the better guy.
Yes, and the better guy is also a placeholder for an even better one.
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>>23175005
she didn't even jump at least one i hate teases like this
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>>23175005
The best advice about marriage you'll ever get is from a divorce lawyer
>“Do not let any sweet-talking woman beguile your good sense with the fascination of her shape. It's your barn she's after.”
But those hooters.....
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>>23180822
>The best advice about marriage you'll ever get is from a divorce lawyer
>>“Do not let any sweet-talking woman beguile your good sense with the fascination of her shape. It's your barn she's after.”
>But those hooters.....
That rack over rules all advice
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>>23175005
Anyone who consistently has options presented to them is going to not only be tempted to take them, but to question the choice (you) they have already made.

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How can I learn about a new match on tinder without it sounding like 21 questions or being boring. How long should I wait before asking for a date?
Also, I learn best by example so of you could provide one, I'd appreciate it. I'm not looking for a hookup btw.
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>>23179943
Can you give an example of what an appropriate double text would look like?
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>>23181283
You ask a girl "Wyd", she leaves you on read. 2 days letter you say "Hey"

Most guys are afraid to do this, im not.
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https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html

This is the cheat code for this shit OP.
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>>23179943
Nah fuck that childish shit. She rejects you move on. You're a king, don't let a hoe play you like you're a fiddle. Be up front with your intentions and expections and if she doesn't meet them or match them then move the fuck on.


Double texting is good. I spam women. I'm constantly sending messages to all of my friends. Funny thoughts, interesting articles, memes, just talking about anything.
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>>23176182
>How can I learn about a new match on tinder without it sounding like 21 questions or being boring

Assuming you're already talking and not just breaking ice, ask her something you're genuinely curious about. For example, just say "What are some of your favorite bands/artists? If they're trash I might have to roast you" and just go from there. With practice it'll flow naturally and you'll learn how and where to flirt.

>How long should I wait before asking for a date?
Honestly depends on the girl. Does she just seem super friendly or is she blowing your phone up with selfies or emojis and shit? If the latter, just offer to take her out to coffee or get sushi or some shit. Whatever you're both into. If the former, just keep talking and eventually you'll get a feel for when to ask her. Just fucking go for it, this is only Tinder after all.. It's not real.

For reference, I've been on 78 Tinder dates and have hooked up/been fwb with 30 of them. Others I dated or am still good friends with to this day. Even if you strike out, you'll learn from the experience. It's a numbers game, and practice makes perfect.

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