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Is it normal if I'm not sexually attracted to Black women as a Black man?

I fail to see them as sexual interests because I see my sisters, aunties, mom etc... in them, and I naturally don't get hard on those people. I can't fuck a sister, so it's hard for me to want to have sex with a sister. I'm also much more concerned about how her family would feel if I pumped and dumped her, while with a White or Asian women I just fuck without caring about the ho's feelings or her family or her psychological state.

I also often "sisterzoned" them. Like when I was a teen, a girl was attracted to me, and while I saw her as very beautiful, I just couldn't hook up with her, but I told her that I still like her, like my sis. She was really disappointed.

I can't even watch porn with Black women in it, and I tried. When I watch porn with non-Black girls, I'm like "yeah bitch suck that dick hahaha", but when I (try) to watch porn with Black girls in it, I'm like "why is she doing that nasty shit on camera? Doesn't she have an ounce of shame? Geez. A shame upon her family". Interracial porn with a Black woman and a White man in particular disgusts me a lot. I don't know why but I feel anger and disgust when I even catch a glimpse of it.

With mixed women it's different because I don't see my sisters, aunties, cousins etc... In them. So I fucked a few light skinned girls.

Am I normal? Is that a problem? Should I do something about it?
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>>22277597
>Black girls are the only female demographic who post em masse on r9k lmfao
source?
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>>22277626
>the Model Minority and will do anything to be well behaved pets.
What? Since when is not wanting to rape people, murder people, steal, or do drugs the same as being a submissive pet?

Declining birth rates is a GOOD thing. World is already overpopulated as fuck and people are being forced to live without basic necessities like housing.

Unit 731 is nothing compared to the atrocities committed by white nations. America literally dropped a nuke on 2 cities of elders, women and children, the most atrocious war crime in history.

But keep on thinking your nation is superior. Just look at how America handled coronavirus. The worst response in the entire world. Highest death count BY FAR. Just goes to show how weak western nation's have become. No wonder China has been gaining on the US in gdp for decades.
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>>22275258
Most black woman in the developed world have fucked a white guy at least once.
Maybe you know that already and/or maybe you're racist.
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>>22276944
Read the OP for like the 4th time now, he doesn't say this:
>>He doesn't like the fact that black girls date outside their race so he does the same so he doesn't have to deal with the consequences of taking advantage of women.

Tell me where is specifically says that.
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100% guarantee that some retarded zoomer wrote this
Grow the fuck up

How do I figure out what my delusions are and fix them?

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How will I know I found my unicorn? I'm 20, some girls say I'm cute and I had gfs before, but things just dont go right. How did you found your wife/,husband? I just want to be loved and live a good life with someone I care the most
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>>22277859
>your wife
Bro your 20 years there is no reason why should you even be thinking of marriage your not even mentally prepared. Wanna be loved? Start by loving your self

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I'm seriously thinking of joining the US Military but whether that's as a weekend warrior or active duty is where I'm hung up on. I'm weighing active duty vs the national guard vs the reserves. I want a bachelor's degree with little or no student debt so I'm leaning towards the NG right now because they get an almost instant full ride to any state or community college in my state on top of the GI bill and an additional kicker for even more benefits. Before I pursue college In the NG I can even try for something beneficial like 17c(they have a unit in my state with men based in my city). I feel like it's a good decision but I see loads of people recommending active duty without much explanation online. Does anyone have an opinion on this? I'd be going to college for computer science and the military experience, certs and training for cybersecurity could be a major gamechanger for me.
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>>22277176
>>22277176
I'm AD Navy and I would reccomend it. GI bill and TA can cover schooling both while you're in and after you get out, plus pay and benefits aren't that bad even as lower enlisted (I understand that base pay alone with no sort of special pay isn't outstanding when you first look at it, however if you are able to manage your money properly and aren't in debt then even base pay by itself can be easily saved given the fact that most costs of living like food, shelter, electricity, health care and so on are covered). Plus, there are some decent ways to set up retirement funds even if you chose to leave after your first enlistment.

Now some may reccomend commissioning but I can't vouch for it as I enlisted and had no school beforehand so couldn't have commissioned as an officer anyway, but from what I gather it's not such a bad deal.

Anyway, you said you want to go to school for comp sci or something right? Well active duty can give you good experience in the field if you get the appropriate job. Now my job (or rating, as they are called in the Navy) is HM, however I've heard good things about IT and CT (information technologist and cryptologist) when it comes to pursuing things that you seem to be interested in. With the clearances, experience and so on that you can obtain from these jobs you may be able to be set up with a pretty good job should you decide to get out - even without a degree (from what I have heard), but again, I'm not in either of those fields so I'm not speaking from personal experience.

This is already quite a long post but I hope it helps, I'll be glad to provide some more info if you'd like, do you have any more specific questions?
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>>22277176
Are you physically ready to pass bootcamp right now? How long have you been studying for the ASVAB?

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Am I the only one who is becoming discreet? I had never thought that way but now I feel like is not worth talking to anyone your real thouhgts/feelings. You must just tell what they want to listen. I know it feels good talking sincerely to people but it's not worth it. Here I can post a brief example.

>me: man, I'm fucked... I feel lone because I've realized my relationship with my coworkers is bad and I have no one to talk to on the office
>*weeks later i tell him i don't want to go out because i'm tired"
>"if you continue that way you are going to lose every friend you have in the world"

So I told him something deep from my heart and he just uses it to ridiculize me at some point.
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>>22277185
Though love .
I hope its written correct.
People are dicks some times but sometimes some can be decent .
Think about grandma she always gave a shit .
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>>22277185
Congratulations, you're growing up. Most people aren't worth your private thoughts.

Is watching porn cheating?
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>>22276044
Man the political climate in the US has been toxic and terrible af and christians are only one small group thats compromised.
Everyone wants anyone not like them dead over mexicans, police, doctors, goddamn haircuts.
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>>22276229
That's why I just take refuge in my small bubble and watch the world collapse from safety, only interacting when I need or have to.
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>>22275844
>everybody does it
>that means its perfectly ok
60% of americans are FAT
does that mean its mostly ok to be fat?
NO
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>>22274646
WTF NO DKFHJS
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>>22275592
>logic is busy.
If two people enter a relationship and one considers porn to be cheating, then it is cheating.

Is software engineer a bad career if you like having free time? I have about a year of experience coding and plan on going back to school to get a comp sci degree. I chose this career goal for myself because I basically spent my entire youth at the computer and I get a lot of enjoyment out of tech. I enjoy coding and find it fulfilling. I'm definitely not a workaholic though and I like having extra time to relax and do other things I enjoy.

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I had a crush on a man who made it clear he only wanted a fwb but he would hang out with me, talk to me until midnight, and flirt with me all while knowing I liked him. It went on for two years. I turned down other men. I was at a crap job thinking he's going to marry me. Never even kissed him. Why did I do this to myself?
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>>22276938
Lol. You offered nothing of value to him that captured his interest.
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>>22277513
That's not a joke come over . Im into some real kinky shit ,Mein Sturmbandführer . Ja ja
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>>22276765
He didn't disrespect you at all. He was clear of his intentions, he showed you friendship. You had unrealistic expectations and you're projecting on him as if it's his doing.
What does your shitty career and prospects have anything to do with this? You expected him to solve life's problems for you?

Here's my advice:
Grow. Up.
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>>22277190
Well it's a good thing if he doesn't want you for intelligence.

Last night my boyfriend hit me for the first time in the 4 years we've been together. It came out of nowhere, I wasn't expecting it at all and it caught me completely off guard. We were arguing. I got close to his face, he lost his temper and struck me across my left cheek. It was a very hard hit. His hand was closed. As soon as it happened, his face went white and he became completely silent. It seemed like he was just as shocked as I was. I started tearing up and I ran out of the room to lock myself in the toilet. A few minutes later he knocked on the door practically grovelling for my forgiveness, apologising over and over. I didn't say anything back. I stayed in there for about an hour and then I went to find him and we sat down together to have a long discussion. He was apologizing all the way through, saying that he takes full responsibility and that it will never happen again. I told him that I feel afraid of him now and I don't know how to get over it. I know that he can't say for sure he'll be able to control himself the next time he loses his temper like that, no matter how many promises he makes. I'm afraid that the next time it will be more than one hit. He doesn't know what to do, all he can say is that he will do whatever it takes to gain my trust back and he understands if I need to take a break from our relationship. I don't know what I should do. What do you think?
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>>22272524
Bill burr has a stand up where he talks about this whole "in your face thing" women like to do because it's not acceptable to hit a woman. The problem with getting aggressive in a discussion is that if you do it and you're a woman the guy either HAS to look like a bitch or a psycho, no in-between. That being said, 4 years is a long time for people on a chan be able to give you solid advice. I feel like this is more of a venting thread than anything else. He obviously can and probably will hit you again tho. I would end the relationship and not force these awkward situations on the next one. I dont think you should stay, but its really fucking easy to tell you that since all i know from the whole relationship is this fucked up story on how you got hit and hid on the bathroom. It's not like it's your fault tho, i suppose you've done this ufc yelling before and didnt got hit, maybe hes just a lunatic and blasted you without warning, maybe he would regardless. The important thing is he is capable of hitting you and thats not necessarily related to the situation. The normal was things never getting to this point. If he thinks you're a bitch for doing that, the usual non psychotic person reaction would be breaking up. He got white because thats what happens when your body think you'll have to fight, its the blood going to the extremities. Really hope I helped somehow.
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>>22276868
Spare the rod spoil the thot
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>>22277233
Remember, if your girl is starting shy with you it’s because you suck at laying pipe or she’s just shit at taking it. Everything comes back to sex.
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>>22273880
Have sex and go space like that on reddit.
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>>22277223
>If he thinks you're a bitch for doing that, the usual non psychotic person reaction would be breaking up.

No, that would be the usual /adv/ reaction. /adv/ has made it abundantly clear time and time again that you people don't live in the real world. In the real world, people can have an occasionally ugly, intense fight then talk it over and heal from it.

>inb4 retards with no reading comprehension think that I'm defending the guy for hitting her
No, I'm responding to anon's hypothetical situation where the guy never hit her, but instead broke up with her because she screamed at him a single time in a period of four years. Jesus Christ, there's not a single marriage or relationship anywhere in my family where one or both of the parties involved don't scream at each other at least every once in a while.

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Today I told a very close friend that I think I seriously need help. He has known for a while but this is the first time I've openly said something. He doesn't know that I've had suicidal thoughts and how I spiral into a dark pit. When he heard it, he scoffed and just stayed on him phone. Did I put to much on him?
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>>22277936
noxd hes being weird about it

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this morning i sent a girl i went out on a date with a text that i hoped to see her again etc. but haven't heard back but she did read the text. while on our date she did say she had been very busy at her job recently and our date was almost like a little break from work. it would be so easy just to say "had fun but i'm seeing someone" or whatever but now i'm in limbo. does this mean she may be deciding/afraid to make a decision?
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>>22277650
Preach
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>>22277670
>How did we even get to this point?
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>>22277670
women are hardwired this way. they have higher investment in reproduction, a man can pump and disappear. a womens stuck with that choice for 9 months then 20 years. so they are more selective, this mean she wants to do the best she can, and that means to a reasonable extent someone on her level if not a bit better
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>>22277678
>that means to a reasonable extent someone on her level if not a bit better

Yeah that’s why average women on dating apps literally only want 6’+ male models. Women are horseshit
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>>22276718
Ok, now what other dates have you lined up?

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how do I stop being so dumb? I feel like I'm dumber than the average person even though people say I'm smart.
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>>22277792
idk:( i feel the same
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>>22277792
does it really matter if you're dumb?
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>>22277865
Being dumb kind of sucks, especially when I'm reminded of how much of an idiot I am.
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>>22277792
50% of the world is dumber than the average. It has to be somebody, it just so happens it's you. What you're doing is conflating intelligence with happiness and success. You don't need to be the smartest person in the room to be successful, hell businessmen usually surround themselves with people smarter than they are.

Talk less, listen more. Organize your life and mind. Establish goals for yourself and break them down into smaller manageable tasks and milestones.
Look outward toward those who need and deserve assistance.

In the end, no one is going to criticize that polite, sucessful dude who helped others because he wasnt the sharpest tack in the box.
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idk man.just remember that here is 8 kinds of smart or something

How to get a girlfriend if you're short? I understand that women view short men the same way men view fat women. And I am not attracted to fat women, so it would be hypocritical of me to want a skinny girlfriend. Also even fat women would only settle for a short man as a last resort.

The only way to get women to actually be attracted to you even though you're short is if you're famous or wealthy. For example Aamir Khan is only 163 cm tall, but he got married. How do I become rich or famous?
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>>22277759
Date a midget
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>>22277759
I was so short growing up that my mom tried to have a doctor give me hormones to accelerate growth.
I rejected the hormones and accepted that I was short.
I started to value myself for the simple fact that I am strong enough mentally to handle my... shortcomings.
I got invited to a party by the most popular girls in my grade, they invited everyone from my class.
I decided to live a little and go even though my friends all said no way, we're not cool enough.
Day of party, I'm literally the only one besides these 4 popular girls who showed up.
Everyone else was scared to go because they undervalued themselves.
We go to a baseball game, girls rich mom buys me ticket and hotdog.
They talk to me for the first time since I met them, literally 5 years in the same classes.
The birthday girl (the tallest in our grade of boys and girls) gives me her phone number. At some point a few days later I call it on a whim.
She tells me her friend wants to date me, I act like I'm not reaction.gif and chuckle. Jokingly tell her I wish she was into me too.
End up making out with the tallest girl in the grade as the shortest boy in the grade every day for 2 weeks before my parents announce we're moving because my mom was cheating but they want to stay together and start over in a new town.
You don't have to believe the story, just get the moral of it.
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>>22277759
You don't have ti be mega rich, you just have to be productive. Are you working to eliminate your debt and build wealth?
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>>22277759
The same way any guy gets a girlfriend. I won't lie: it's harder. I say this as a short guy. But it's not impossible, either.

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are self help books worth reading?
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>>22276847
I read some of themwhen I was completely down and lost in my life, as if I would have some epiphany (spoiler : I didn't).
But I kept reading other books, mostly novels. Finally, I stumbled upon "Oyasumi, Punpun" and it helped me a long to get through my depression.

So yeah, just read stuff that inspires you.
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>>22276847
Most books of that nature deny that you were made in the image and likeness of God, on purpose, with love, and with a mission. As a result, they’re at least one step removed from the truth, so the “help” they provide will eventually fail you in the end.
Besides, they’re amalgamations of texts on psychology, poorly synthesized at that, and psychology itself is palliative. We have to start somewhere though, I suppose.
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>>22276847
read psychology and philosophy instead
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>>22277332
thisss

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Am I too skinny? Should I gain weight? What body type do women find most attractive?
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>>22277731
You're fine, weight and body type are not that important actually. Confidence is key to be attractive tho
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>>22277746
everybody has different preferences. I said get cut because that's my own personal ideal. I feel the best when I'm not flubby. I'm also in the best shape when my muscles and abs are edged and visible. "Twisted steel and sex appeal".
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>>22277731
How's the dick? I think that's the more relevant part.
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>>22277731
You got that bird chest boy hit the floor and give me 30 and not that close grip shit you Mexicans like to do
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>>22277731
Maybe worry about being happy and relatively healthy. You're the one you have the rest of your life, might as well aim to please yourself and not so much others.


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