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I think I'm about to ask out a girl on Tinder and she might probably even say yes. This would be my first romantic interaction with a girl ever and I have several questions:
>should I go in for a kiss at the end?
>Should I pick her up in a car? I only got this old ugly one, that sounds like its about to die. Can I ask to meet by train?
>What should I talk about? What topics should I avoid. Please give some examples.
>How to dress?
>Where should the date take place? Corona has shut down most activitys. I was thinking of a place where I live, thats like a giant indoor zoo only that its also a shop, what allows them to stay open and you have to pay no entrance.
>Should I take her out for dinner after the date? Does it have to be somewhere fancy?
Female advice would be most appreciated, thanks
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>>24627103
How do you get dates?
I'm average looking at best.
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>>24626868
Tinder is for horny people and scammers.

You don't date off of tinder, you fucking moron.

It's literally an app just for fucking and fucking people over.
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>>24626868
listen to >>24627103 this is solid advice
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>>24627110
You could try friends of friends, getting into voluntary work, even workplace (for me works this way because I switch jobs often), college if you are in one, events.
You can literally pick up woman everywhere you are if you like them.
Just grab yourself by the balls, go say hi, strike a convo, ask for a phone number and ask on a date.
You can make it bro, even if you are ugly. And if it doesn't work out, be cool and get over it.
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>>24627103
thanks a lot. I definitely should take her t an activity, since Im really not to good at holding a tight conversation and at the zoo I would always have things to talk about.

Hey 4chan I need advice, I have been talking to a guy for a couple months and I have been getting anxiety on trying to make a relationship with him even though I care about him, I know he really wants one. Thing is, I feel this guy doesn't try to grow, or do better, with careers (no ambition or drive), with physicality, or with spiritualness (I always try to be better in those aspects with the gym and yoga). I feel that in life its important to try and be the best version of yourself you can be. I really care about him, is it wrong that I feel this way... Should I give him a chance? Am I being too critical thinking this way...
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Is he a neet or he does have some kind of job/goes to college?
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>>24625802
You should have more pacience towards him. If you really care about him then you should talk about this subject and see if is willing to change, of course a change like that will take a long time, he is probably depressed about something. What did you liked about him?
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You are most definitely being too critical torwards him. Did you ever mentioned those things to him? Do you still talk to him? Be careful to no break his heart
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You need to give him time to settle down.

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So previously I posted here about a job application I sent where I included an AI generated fake image on my CV, maybe someone will remember. This was 2 days before the interview, and this is an update

>As soon as I turn up for the interview they question the image, which is obviously not of me
>I tell the boss guy something like that he shouldn't play on looks when looking for applicants for a car dealership because it isn't the film industry, like you guys said
>Boss guy looks like pic related, and is super mad aty this
>Was hard to get a word in but I tell him another thing you guys suggested, that Im not ok with him hiring people based on looks
>Boss looks like he's about to hit me, then he walks into the next room
>He's on the phone for like 10 minutes, in hindside I should have left at this time probably
>Then the boss screams at me to get the fuck out
>Two cops grab me as soon as I come outside
>They tell me to come with them to the station
>Go through whole process, police treat me like a school shooter the entire time
>don't get released until 9 at night
>Today I find out there's a investigation of fraud against me


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So previously I posted here about a job application I sent where I included an AI generated fake image on my CV, maybe someone will remember. This was 2 days before the interview, and this is an update

>As soon as I turn up for the interview they question the image, which is obviously not of me
>I tell the boss guy something like that he shouldn't play on looks when looking for applicants for a car dealership because it isn't the film industry, like you guys said
>Boss guy looks like pic related, and is super mad aty this
>Was hard to get a word in but I tell him another thing you guys suggested, that Im not ok with him hiring people based on looks
>Boss looks like he's about to hit me, then he walks into the next room
>He's on the phone for like 10 minutes, in hindside I should have left at this time probably
>Then the boss screams at me to get the fuck out
>Two cops grab me as soon as I come outside
>They tell me to come with them to the station
>Go through whole process, police treat me like a school shooter the entire time
>don't get released until 9 at night
>Today I find out there's a investigation of fraud against me


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>>24627172

Did you seriously sperg out like this? Link to original thread, I need to read the responses to work out how badly you fucked up
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>>24627177
Here's my other thread >>24627127
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>>24627190
top kek

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My mother and I moved back to my grandma 5 years ago when I was 14 because there were multiple break in attempts to her house. Ever since then there wasn't a day I could be alone at home.

Before that my mother worked 3-4 days a week and that meant I had plenty of time to just be in peace and calmness.

This house and the garden are really big, but I can't even take a shit or piss without someone trying to come in on me, and this is by no means an exaggeration. It doesn't matter if I go to shower at 8pm, 11pm or 2 in the morning, same happens. I can't even leave my room without somebody showing up in 2 minutes. I go out to the garden, a few seconds and somebody is there.

I hate my room, I my pc, I hate the internet but at least rarely comes anybody in. It's been like this since we came back here and until last year I didn't really give shit about it, but when I started to notice that sometimes the moment I stand up to go somewhere I see the light turning on and now I just scream in my head that how is this possible.

I literally just want to take a shit with open doors and sing while dancing naked in the house, even if for like half an hour a month.

Talking about this doesn't work, I tried already and the only """effective""" thing is that when I yell at them, but even then it only lasts for ~2 weeks max and who the hell wants to do that with his family?

I'll go to uni this september, but that won't help, the city is near so there is no need fro me to live there and I wouldn't even want to, because I hate cities and it's not like I have money to live on my own.

What the hell should I do?
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>>24627178
>This house and the garden are really big, but I can't even take a shit or piss without someone trying to come in on me,
this is pretty contradictory, can you elaborate on this?

I’m sick of relationshit threads. Penises and vaginas were a mistake. Make a new board for relationship advice.
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>>24627100

they don't -that's why this isn't a thing
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>>24627139
But every post on this sub is relationship advice
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>>24627094
hi

you deserve a cute hi without caps <3
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Agree. They are a waste of space.
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>>24627143
Usually people who don’t have a relationship or when the relationship is a gigantic shitshow

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How do I connect truly with people? I can get along with just about anyone but I can't truly connect and just feel off talking to everyone. Even when people reveal deep feelings and how they truly feel I still feel nothing. How do I become human and actually connect?
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>>24627034
Why not use a doctor?
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>>24627035
He'd probably throw some shitty drugs or tell me to wait 6 months on a list to speak to a therapist. Plus i kinda hate talking to people despite me getting along with everyone
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>>24626925
Emotion. you have to connect with and relate to yourself, and do the same for others. This can be done concurrently. Also go to therapy mate.
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>>24627133
How do i know i'm not getting ripped off? Plus isn't therapy for depressed cunts
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>>24627142
ignore people saying therapy, someone telling you what you already know ain't gonna help

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Over the past year I've developed a pretty terrible personality (superiority complex, have pretty controversal opinions, effectively turning into an incel etc). How should I go about fixing this? I don't really have any friends beyond surface level and acquaintances so I'm kinda on my own here.

What's worse is that I feel like I'm content with this and it feels like it's permanent.
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>>24625246
They’re clearly genetic
When they are raised by adoptive white parents they don’t perform as well as white adoptees
East Asians raised outside of Asia free of their culture also outperform whites in academia and have faster reaction times
Some of it maybe be cultural, and failure does breed failure in society and so the genetic differences get amplified
This isn’t to say there might be outliers, as there always are. There are some black with IQ above 130, but it's going to be 10x rarer than a European. Closer to the mean the differences are less pronounced, but because society focuses on the elite so much, which tend to have higher IQs, the difference seems much more extreme.
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>>24625246
They mostly are.
I'm telling you this as a person who has been through something like what you described for a few months.
I felt lonely and being in edgy online communities made me feel like I had a purpose, that I found the truth that everyone is trying to hide from me and that I was thus smarter than those I deemed to be ignorant.
After a while of coping with my loneliness with hate I decided to simply just leave those places and I felt much better.
So, in the end, just take a break and meditate, hear different opinions, there's nothing wrong with being wrong sometimes.
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>>24625498
I think you're cherry picking your data dude. There were IQ tests among different races and the conclusion was that the race was to blame for the difference of scores but in reality many people couldn't read english so they obviously did end up getting a lower IQ.
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>>24625696
I specifically said controlling for people adopted by white parents (for argument’s sake, Americans)
Controlling for ability to speak English and actually fill out a test, yes there are differences
If you have got this far in life and haven’t noticed this there is another website which may be more up your alley
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>>24626895
What website might that be?

How do I get a job with the interviewer give me advice
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>>24627138
Look up the company doing the interview
Type in "good interview questions" in your search engine
Dress presentably. A simple collar button up and some ironed pants
Don't stumble your words. Instead of saying "um," every two seconds, pause if you can't think of words.

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best way to help the world/people? volunteering? picking up trash? anything constructive to do?
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>>24626608
>volunteering
Good idea, look into organizations in your area where you can volunteer for causes you care about.
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>>24626608
You could just get a real job and contribute to society.
Then you get paid too, and you can start building a future for yourself.
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>>24626608
ask /pol/

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How do I use my looks here. I'm 24/M, im very shy and I was very religious, a moral type who didn't want to take advantage of anybody. Now that I'm in the real world I'm tempted to try new things but I don't really know how. My friends don't really do bars or go to parties, i don't really relate to normal folk. I kind of want to pick up a girl at a bar like in the movies.
I do construction so I'm in good shape, I'm tanned and tall. Girls check me out and some make conversation but if they're pretty I find myself too nervous to even think straight. What do I do?
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Meet her at Church & slowly build up the relationship based upon mutual respect. Tell her you were tempted to bang some slut from a bar just to get your carrot wet & fear of missing out...but you thought better of it.

Come out of Babylon. It falls soon.
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>>24627010
ye the based church roasty who got gangbanged in college but is now the pure vrgin who found jesus

literal joke
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>>24626837
Go back to rebbit
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Go to a bar get drunk try to find a girl that’s just as drunk and retarded as you, take her home.

50\50 she accuses you of rape if she doesn’t find you attractive when she wakes up.

I'm too depressed to do anyting I used to enjoy. I have lots of free time but I can't sit down and get into something.
I used to enjoy playing vidya and at first I thought I might be jaded but it has to be the depression because I'm sacred it might impact my enjoyment of it (which it does) so I rather wait and put it off for a better time to play. I tried forcing myself to play anything but I will just give up after half an hour of playing. Is there anything I can do to get my enjoyment back?
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How old are you?
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>>24627126
25

>be me
>invite friend over
>friend's family is dirt poor, literally lives in a fucking cabin in the outskirts of town
>has anger issues, reeks of cigarettes
>mom complains about the smell
>have another mutual friend over, mutual says he doesn't care about selection of videos
>friend loses shit and goes to my garage to grab an axe, I lock the door and calm him down
>ffw to today, that friend was over and was on rule 34 the entire time on our bandwidth for 2 whole hours
>dad loses it saying him browsing that site may compromise his job
Do I still stay friends with this guy?

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I am going into my junior year of college and I have zero friends there. I had plenty of friends in high school but my college (about 2000 students) is intensely cliquey and I can't seem to break in. What do?
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>>24625380
talk
start with the college stuff, was a good start
try to keep the conversation going, try to get them to ask you, and dont be a liar and proud, we want make acquaintance, not enemy
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>>24625380
start going to the gym and DON'T listen to music. people will be more likely to talk to you if you dont have headphones in. I've made a lot of friends, and a few really good ones, doing that.
also keep in mind that it wont happen immediately. no one will even notice you there until youve been going consistently for 3 months
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>>24625380
You peaked in highschool. I know that feel too, bro. It's all downhill from here.
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>>24625380
So what have you actually attempted on your behalf to make friends?

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A guy just brought me a big child support packet.
It says I'm being sued by my ex to pay support for our son.
We split ways when he was 1 because we were young and constantly arguing to the point where it got physical. She flew back to her home state to live with her jailbird mom and sisters, and I was on my own drifting. We agreed I'd send her money and we continued to talk, albeit casually. It felt softer, it felt like we were both just sorry for letting one another down. The idea was always to get back together once we matured a bit. But I was struggling to keep a job and spending time in a mental hospital coping with depression and thoughts of suicide. Whenever I managed to hold my job, I was sending every dime to her and our child, sending big boxes of presents for Christmas,

Time passed and she had started to move forward. She finally got a job... A little backstory here. We met online and she came to stay with me for a week. During that week, her mother "suddenly" went to prison, and she couldn't go back. I was too young and dumb to see it, I should have listened to my older brother. But I had to be with her. No one and nothing else matters. So we were drifting together for a bit, stayed with her grandma (who hated the hell out of me), then moved to stay with some other distant family. That was when I got het pregnant. Eventually we moved in with my mom and I was working several jobs to pay our share, During these months, we loved our son. We did everything we could for him, even though we struggled. We were just two dumb, punk kids who did stupid things and landed way in over their head. Ended up with a responsibility they frankly didn't deserve yet.
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I'm currently living with my girlfriend. We've been together about a year and a half. She knows about my ex and child, and is supportive of me doing something about all this. In a lot of ways, I'm sure the news of the lawsuit will be a relief to her as well. We live in a one bedroom apartment in a dense beach city. I can speak for my partner and I when I say we're eager for them (my child) to come stay for as long as they want to visit.

I have some screenshots from my ex's social media of her admitting to drug use as well as saying some discerning and potentially threatening things.

I know my ex isn't a bad mother. I saw her when our child was small, I saw how she was with them. I know she has dealt with a lot of shit in her life, I know she's strong... I know I'm not perfect either, and I know none of this is the ideal situation, but I also truly believe that everyone involved wants to make it the ideal situation for our child.

I've never been sued. I don't know law. I think I've only ever paid taxes once, I don't know jack shit about anything. I want to pay my taxes, I want to pay support for the times where my ex cared for our child, I want to know that money isn't going to fund new tattoos or drugs... If I'm going to get in trouble for anything, please let my sentence include people who can help teach me about stuff like this. There was no animosity in anyone's actions here, I think. Why would we want to be bad to each other?
I'm seeing a therapist to figure out how to handle my schizophrenia. I'm going to a doctor to fix my broken nose so that I might be able to breathe through it again. I'm trying to go back to school, find the right medication to fix my damaged brain... I'm sober. After more than a decade of struggling, I'm doing what I have to, to be a good man.
I just need help now. What can I do? What is your advice?
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Fuck, I'm a bit shook and accidently deleted the middle post of the story.

Well, I basically talked about my ex. We parted ways because our arguments grew harsher, our depressive tendencies grew worse. Things became physical more than once. She went to go be with her mother and sisters and I drifted for a bit, trying to hold a job. I spent some time in some mental hospitals, tried a couple different mood medications but nothing has really worked so far. Whenever I was holding a job, I was sending money for our kid. She seemed to be regressing in to her old drug habits with her new boyfriend and was growing more distant. I saw on her social media that she was getting more tattoos, spending all her time with him, not talking about our child at all. I told her if she wanted me to keep sending money, I wanted to at least get pictures and videos of him. I know the money is considered a gift and won't count toward any legal child support I owe, and I'm fine with that. The money isn't a factor in the well-being of our child.
I saw her change over time through her social media profiles. She grew harsher. Using drugs more often, posing sexually with her boyfriend, bragging about shoplifting like some sort of perpetual teenager. And worse yet, her narrative on our separation was becoming more hostile toward me.
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>>24626891
Call a lawyer, bro.
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>>24626918
Sue for custody.

Document all the bad shit she posts online to be used as evidence in court.

All you have to do is prove to the court that the kid would be better off with you than her.
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>>24626881
If the guy who handed you a support packet isn't a lawyer, tell him to fuck off.
Also, go consult a lawyer yourself

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need the input of other dudes pls. so i have a gf and she's very sweet and loving and cool. she loves vidya and good music. she's very funny and being around her is like being with your best bro. but the thing is she isn't very attractive. she's not UGLY per se but she's definitely not above a 5. i love her and care about her and trust her with my life, we've been together for 3 years now, but i have to admit i'm jealous when i see dudes with hot and pretty girlfriends and i feel like i'm missing out (i'm not a bad looking guy). i know i should be grateful i found a girl i get along with and connect with but i want to fuck hot girls. i know it's selfish. i don't want to hurt my gf though, she's been nothing but good to me since we met. thoughts?
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>>24626738
you dont rly love her if you want to fuck other girls mate
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>>24626738
>virgin
So she was the first and only girl you've ever been with and now you feel tied down because you've been together 3 years. This isn't about you wanting to fuck hotter women, it's about you being afraid of commitment. It's okay to be afraid and overwhelmed. But don't ruin what sounds like a good thing because you feel like you're missing out on promiscuity. There's not a lot of happiness in sleeping around. Sure it's fun in the moment and it makes your dick feel good, but that novelty wears off so quick. It starts to feel empty and unfulfilling. You'll be wanting the comfort of a relationship back before you know it.

Obviously I don't know the whole situation but it sounds like your girlfriend is a frumpy nerdy type, maybe overweight. Start working out together, or go clothes shopping together. Take her to get her hair done. Few women have natural, effortless beauty. I'm sure your girlfriend can be made into a solid 7 unless she has some sort of deformity. If you really love her and her personality, why would you give that up?

You're young. I'm not saying settle down. If you're truly unsatisfied break up with her asap so she can begin the process of moving on. And don't be cruel about it if you do. If she's done everything right and has treated you well, she doesn't deserve anymore hurt than necessary. Good luck dude.
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>>24626695
if she's fat, get her to lose weight. If she's just "unconventionally attractive" I would get over it. a good girl is hard to come by. Enjoy what you have.
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>>24626762
Bullshit

You can love a woman and want to fuck others. It's acting on it that matters
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>>24626695
Do not feel bad about yourself. You need a mutual attraction for a good couple. And attraction is not only about looks. It may be small details and signs from your instinct and intuition.




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