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Why is Reddit so shit? It has the widest userbase and most diverse subreddits but those different rules protecting minorities or using filters for specific words that get you shadowbanned, autoreported or filtered (post is not visible on the wall, just your profile) is just killing me.

Why Reddit? Because /adv/ is shit and you barely get any responses.

What other good forums could I use? No quora.
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>>27401930
>gives advice while simultaneously telling him that you shouldn't look for advice
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>>27400207
I've discovered most of the posts here are trolls with weak bait and anons who are never happy with what they hear. If you don't create a fucking extensive diagram for them they get mad. I do try to help, but most OP's are idiots.
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Relationship forums are filled with social retards and borderline trainwrecks by definition.
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Still no answer to OPs question
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Reddit is shit because it has the same userbase as 4chan. It's not any different except for the platform and the way you can post. You have the same people who aren't doing shit looking to ruin your life off the smallest things. Or maybe it's huge and you post it to reddit or 4chan for advice and the first response is gonna be "break up and leave". It's 100% true, just go on any relationship advice post on the internet and that's the response.

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Previous thread >>27393985

Date was ok. But like nothing went well at all.

She was the one who ask to go on a date. She planned coffee and then arcade.

She was sad before the date bc our french teacher told us that for the speaking exam we would be arranged with other classmates. She was bitching about it so I told her I would go and ask if they can arrange us together. They couldn't.

Anyway, we went to a coffee. She asked for some cheesecake and i for a black coffee. The cheesecake barely had any flavor and the cookie base was so had. And the coffee had a really weird taste. We were given our money back. The loli was so embarrassed, man it was so funny.

The arcade was okey, but neither of us ever went to one so we ask a girl to help a machine that never let us withdraw out tickets, and it was her first day. So we lost like half our tickets there.

Then we were walking back home. We were practicaly neighbors, she is like 5 homes away form mine. In our way back home we were a small old dog start barking at us, the loli was walking on the street, so push her to the sidewalk, then we were walking net to each other, I'm between the dog and the loli, the dog bites my shoe and makes a hole on it.

Funniest date ever. I don't think is ment to be.
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>>27403193
>date with a 17yo loli
>17
>loli
you're mentally ill and you should stop interacting with that person
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>>27403193
>17yo
>loli

>previous thread
>tip toe'ing around the age 'issue' like a retard because she's 17 years 364 days 23 hours 59 minutes 59 seconds old

I fucking hate Americans.
Just fuck her like in any normal country in the world. Even your politicians fuck literal kids, what's wrong with that?
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If you like her dont waste the opportunity. You'll regret it. But only if you really like her

I find with a regular schedule, or at least a typical cadence, I am reminded to stay on track with my improvement efforts. Part of that includes journaling.
What I also tend to respond well to is being held accountable by others (either forcing myself to share my status within my efforts or seeking continuous feedback about it). I've gotten more into journaling lately, and it helps keep me organized, but would it be more beneficial to make it a public journal like a blog or vlog of some kind? Or am I potentially setting myself up for bad shit through engaging a public discourse in this manner?
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>>27403245
So you don't go to school or have a job?
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>>27403255
I have a full time job and a part time job.
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>>27403263
So how do you have time to psychoanalyse yourself and write a journal? I'm not trying to make a point I'm just trying to learn something for myself here.
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>>27403287
Again, scheduling it out. A 30 minute timeslot before bed is all that is generally needed at the most. Progress builds over time.
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>>27403296
I wouldn't publish that because I believe published info should be of a certain standard and relevance to other people. I'm also the type to take that thirty minutes to relax with breathing exercises or doing something I enjoy. To each their own. You seem pretty in touch with your personality whereas I'm kind of an angry non-person who sees personality as an illusion. Also you have the dedication to take the thirty minutes. Most people do not unless they think they're going to get magical benefits. Once people realize the modest benefit for for instance light cardio exercise, they don't want to do it anymore.

Is there a board/thread for IA generated images like pic related?
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>>27403260

Yeah.
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>>27403260
yeah i seen some
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>>27403277
>>27403283
Share the link please

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How do I become less boring or annoying?
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>>27403161
what do you really want anon?
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>>27403161

Get new hobbies and learn how to do something people like to do.
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>>27403197
I want to be able to have interactions with people that don't end negatively. I'm not a fustrating person to talk to, but I definitely bore everyone, and when I try to be less boring I come off as annoying.
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>>27403197
I don't really want friendships companionship, I just want to reliably talk to people in a way that doesn't make the write me off. I don't see myself surviving in any scenario that can happen in life if I can't talk to people correctly.
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>>27403226
>>27403233
you found the problem, now all you need to do is watch fight club the movie

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My dad is Canadian who moved to the US as a child. According to Canadian law I'm an American-Canadian dual-citizen who's never touched Canadian soil despite living in a border city.
I applied for my citizenship and bam, I'm now a citizen of two countries at the same time. I can cross the border without any issues and can take advantage of both America's and Canada's laws and systems. What should I do with my newfound citizenship and what are the pros and cons?
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Bump
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Bump
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>>27401030
Enjoy your free healthcare
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Bump
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>>27401030
Sell American guns to canadians

Is it bad to leave a job after 9 months? This is my first real job with benefits and I’m looking for something new.
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>>27401093
Try to get two different years on your resume.

So just make it to January 2023.

That way you can format your resume to only show the years, and for this job, you can show 2022-2023. Eventually it will give the appearance that you worked there for two years even though in reality it was only a year.
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>>27401774
I agree with that. At this job I make $52k but I work 10-12 hours a day with some weekends so I’m trying to find something more reasonable. I’m also hoping that whatever I find next I’ll stick with for at least 2 years.
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>>27401785
To add on to this, I'm in a similar spot. I just started a new job in Q1 2022 and the salaries in my industry keep rising. I can probably make 15k more by hopping now.

I'm waiting for the new year to hop so I can put "2022-2023" for this job on my resume. Only three months to go, not a huge deal.
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>>27401806
Thanks for the tip. I’m planning on sticking around here until the year mark because in addition to getting two years on my resume, I can also use all my PTO.
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>>27401093
This is a new world where the old rules don’t really apply. Most people jobhop as much as they can. Employers understand

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How do I stop being so angry at the irrelevant faggots on this shitty incel site? The idea of a 4chan social reject thinking that he's superior to me leaves a beating pulse on my fucking forehead, how do I cope?
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>>27403131
go back to where you came from, twitter, Leddit etc
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>>27403131

Maybe you should realize you are the defective one. You sound like you belong here. These are your people. Congrats.
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Leave? Nobody is forcing you to stay here faggot.
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>>27403131
>The idea of a 4chan social reject thinking that he's superior to me leaves a beating pulse on my fucking forehead, how do I cope?
Take a page out of the rejects handbook. Who gives a shit about your hierarchy when your ego is a jenga tower that's always one poke from collapsing. You seethe, you lose.

every single job nowadays require human contact, talking, communicating, and social skills, and as an autist who's essentially a mute, extreme social anxiety, 0 talking, soft weak voice, completely awkward silence as hell, like some robot, no usual employers want someone like this. What do I do?
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>>27403181
most jobs require people skills. perhaps the vast majority. why don't you try growing as a person? you don't have to be a car salesman. some jobs will be more interpersonally demanding than others.

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I want to live alone. I want to live a solitary life. A part of me really craves for the romantic and sometimes depressing freedom of being with oneself and oneself only.

I am not single and I have friends, but my friends I feel stuck with rather than happy to have. Most are so fucked up emotionally they're not good companions while the others are kind of braindead zombies. I can't bare having false relationships with people who stress me out/I don't feel close to. My relationship isn't a problem, but they have different tastes and habits, are far more comfortable with normie life, so I feel to be fulfilled I'll have to do more on my own than with them. My family is unstable and abusive so I am as distant from them as I can be. I am seriously disillusioned with friendship and other close connections. It's so bad that even when exposed to potentially like-minded people online, I feel a strong aversion and distrust towards them and don't reach out because I know I'll just be overwhelmed and ghost them for weeks or months out of fear. I want to gradually disappear from my friend's lives but I'm scared that in some years time I'll regret it and not be able to find friends ever again. I just wish it was easier to find other introverts who aren't offended by meaningless things, which makes others walk on eggshells with them, and can maintain a friendship with minimal contact. I constantly worry about that with my friends now. I feel like over the past few years I've developed a social phobia. It feels like I'm allergic to people/socializing and I only feel lonely when stuck around people, not when alone.
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>>27403052
You want to be comfortable. Being alone is comfortable. You don't have to deal with anybody's bullshit. When I was growing up, my parents would constantly fight. I would get caught in the crossfire.

I learned it pretty young age then being alone and not seeing anything is much better than putting myself out there and getting hurt. I tried reaching out to my parents so much and every time I got burned. I got yelled at or scolded or hit. So I got it in my head that all people are like this. This is what the world is like. I was a kid, my parents were my world.

Being alone is comfortable. Not taking risks for engaging people is easy. But something I learned is that the only comfort you get in this life is in death. So if you want to get comfortable, the end of this road is death. Life is about taking risks, and I realize now that not everyone is like my shitty parents. Some people out there are genuinely good people. People who aren't pieces of work. People who will add something to my life. People, who actually make me want to see them again. She don't lie to me and tell me you want to be alone because you don't. You want to be comfortable. And I understand! But you and me both know deep down that this is wrong. You want to know what happens when you live alone? You die alone.
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>>27403052
>>27403122
Sorry, but I had to say that first before I actually read your post.

The people you surround yourself with define who you are. If these people are rude or dumb or generally unsavory or bad. Then it says a lot about you too. These people who make your life difficult, you don't have to hang out with them. Hang out with people who add something to your life. Not subtract something from it. You deserve better. You deserve good friends, good family, and a good nation. Solitude is a good thing to have, God knows I have a brooding room in my house for me to be alone with my thoughts. That's healthy. Just don't take it too far. Take care of yourself, and find someone who's worth having in your life. It's not your job to fix their issues.

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As a 20 year old unattractive guy, should I visit a prostitute to lose my virginity? Or would that make me hate myself even more? I basically have no friends and my social skills are ridiculous. I will never catch up to normal people. What to do?
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>>27402195
No one cares about what you personally think is shameful.
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>>27402375
No one cares about your reply either.
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desu thought about this myself, don’t do it.
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>>27402074
If you're the type of person who would feel bad about it, then yeah you will feel bad about it.
Just don't.
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>>27402074
Go see a hooker if you want. No one cares and you may find out that you like sex and want to find a girl who is not a hooker

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Gonna go try college again after basically being a semi-neet all these years, trouble is that most of my peers will be 18/19 years old. Is it too weird if i try and be friends with them (i really need friends as i have almost none)? I just feel like the age difference might be too great...
Also, how can i maximize my chances of getting a gf? Since i know college is my best chance at getting one
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On a similar situation here, going back to school at 23 for a compSci degree, hope it goes well
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>>27400047
Retard
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>>27399848
No it’s not weird at all. You should try to sleep with hot 18 year olds. Idk why this is even a question
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>>27400071
>I will say as an older man these young girls are BORING. they all seem like little kids
Cringe
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>>27399848
I’m 22 and my best friend on campus is 30. Nobody’s going to make it a big deal unless you make it a big deal.

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A big ass boil grew on my jaw and its kinda spreading a bit

what do i do about it
only antibiotic i got is doxycyclin
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>>27402320

You wait for it to pop naturally. It will take a week. After that it will take a few more weeks for the scar to go away. There really is not much else you can do.
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Go to the doctor, they can lance it and give you something for healing. Or if not soak it in warm water and wait for it to pop

Should I grow a mustache?
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>>27399987
Yeah, go for the Stromboli
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Staches are for pedos
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>>27402965
Nope, see >>27401877
also Heisenberg
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>>27402595
That isn't a mustache.

Life is actually gonna get worse. Alot of Gen Z people and later generations like me might live in poverty for a long time, and will be forced to dedicate our lives to shitty jobs with little to no possibility of benefits or retirement. I'm most likely won't afford nice things in life like a home, privacy, or free time. Theres also climate change, water shortage, and famine. Don't forget possible 2nd American Civil War, WW3, or next great depression.

It's not looking too bright this century. What do we do? What are your plans for the future?
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>>27399690
Did you experience the year without a summer in 1816?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Year_Without_a_Summer
Did you experience the great gale of 1880?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Gale_of_1880
Once in a century storm
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>>27403076
not that crybaby, but what about that time there was no sunlight for 18 months in the northern hemisphere?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Volcanic_winter_of_536

or how 100 years ago folks our age were likely getting their legs blown off in piss-filled trenches in Europe and then dying a shitty death after inhaling too much mustard gas and drinking too much diarrhea water

>>27399690
>I've never experienced a heatwave this bad in my life
all 20 years of it yeah
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>>27403101
>Have you endured the heat wave that happened? It's the worst that its been since ever. I've never experienced a heatwave this bad in my life. I never went outside during that time. California experienced a tsunami wave a couple months back, that was unheard of. Florida is going underwater in the next couple of decades lol, it's probrably gonna be the same for the west coast too.
536 was clearly the worst year ever
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>>27398577
You don't know what poverty is and you don't sound like you've ever been in a classroom you weren't legally required to be in.
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>>27402705
I genuinely hate westerners for this.
I literally live in your ""dystopian nightmare"" just man the fuck up holy shit it's not even that bad.
"Oooh noo i can't get my fruits all year" go fuck yourself


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