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Why does my mom keep asking why I haven't brought a girl home yet? How do I get her to stop? I'm only 18, why does she want me to get my dick wet so bad?
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>>20345227
Social skills are overrated. OP if you live in an actual hood, then focus on wealth building. Get you and your mom out that situation first before you start chasing pussy. I can't imagine the kind of bitches you've had to deal with. Ghetto women are the worst.
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>>20345235
Social skills are the difference between fitting into society and being that 30yo who dates 40yo women with 4 kids by 3 baby daddies hoping if you live together she won't make you sell your things or share them with the kids.
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>>20345235
I think I understand why so many of you are able to put pussy above everything else in your life. You guys never actually grew up dirt poor, actually going days without eating. You people grew up in middle to upper middle class homes and the most you've ever seen of the poor areas are in movies, TV, etc. It's real out here. Get your bread OP. A bitches loyalty can be bought and sold. But money will always be there for you.
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>>20345245
The majority of people on this board alone likely grew up the way you described. Doesn't mean their input is any less valid. It just means OP is the outlier.
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You took "disregard women, acquire currency", too literally.

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Why does my friend insist on not thinking islam is violent/evil?

I don't think christianity is better but at least it doesn't explicitly tell you to deceive and kill unbelievers. That's what the Quran literally says. Heck even some muslims admit to the fact you should not trust a muslim, as a non-muslim. Just by judging this, one should at least GUARD or be somewhat WARY of muslims. Instead he just says 'islam is used by some with evil purpose or in evil ways'. Like what the fuck

Not evne guillable anymore, just plain stubborn and/or stupid.
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>>20345270
To preface, anons who say 'x is worse' are stupid. Bowel cancer might be worse than stomach cancer, but that doesn't make stomach cancer any more enjoyable now, does it?

People are bombarded from birth to accept what they are told, and to buy into lies. Only through consistent debunking can you achieve something, and even then it's a slim chance.

Consider him a lost cause, but continue to be vocal about the truth in a subtle way. Don't annoy or force him into the truth, but sow the seed of doubt and let his mind do the rest (if he can)
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>>20345296
Nobody is saying it's telling the truth. Just that people are following a religion that has such precepts
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>>20345296

Yea sur. what do our woke beings do when the gullible sluts, who eventually will come at us learn "ape together strong" and become decapitating shitbags.?
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OP here, more a problem of logic and mindset. I'm not even picking on islam, necessarily. I just take the facts.

>religious terrorists and their message
>religion gives hostile commendments towards deceiving and killing infidels in the name of the god
>their shariah law
>places where muslim congregate and they make their own rules, shun and attack people of other religions

Christianity or other religions
>not commiting any of these in this day and age

So what's the point of sticking to the only 'argument' that not everybody is the same or that 'there is good in people, a few rotten apples here and there' . This reasoning pisses me off more than his tolerance/acceptance of this religion or whateve
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>>20345313

Tell him all this.

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I want to become a better person. A better person in how I treat my boyfriend, my friends, and a better person in my mental health. I want to try and make small choices to, I dunno, just get karma, for a lack of how to explain this. (Don't actually believe in that but yknow) I mostly want to train myself to be nicer, stop judging, and control my anger/annoyance/etc. Or, be the Customer-Service-Voice 24/7. Can anyone give me some tips and ideas?

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post, check the FAQ.
Try to keep questions concise. Use paragraph breaks.
It helps if you address your question "Guys," "Girls,"

FAQ:
>What do girls/guys think about <any trait, such as: looks, physical or personality traits, virginity, penis traits, or lack of dating experience>?
>Do <most/any> <girls/guys> like <an insecurity over the above>?
There is no one answer. Preferences differ and worrying about some complex only ever makes things worse. In fact, worries like complexes are very often the real problem.

>I'm shy and afraid of <people/rejection>.
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, bit by bit, step by step. You can't rely on some "magic moment" (or activity) to instantly change you.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?

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Why do girls take so long to answer to the messagez? Ive been texting this hirl for 3 weeks and she always replies a few hours later, but sometimes I see shes online so she must be purposefully ignoring me
It pisses me off so much
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>>20344618
Respond please
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>>20345244
Pretext is usually established with mutual friends or mutual interests. At the same concert? Go talk about the band. At the same hobby? Go talk about the hobby. On the same hiking trail? Strike up a conversation.

Pretext is all about having something meaningful (meaningful can also just be that you are being friendly because you like to be friendly) to say to her. While a girl might be vaguely internally flattered by random dudes coming up to them just to say hi, you are very clearly only approaching them for their physical beauty and they will write you off as a shallow guy with nothing to say that's worth hearing. When you have that pretext you have reason to engage her and you establish common ground between the two of you that allows the girl to invest some of her attention in you instead of deciding you're a shallow creep.
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>>20345294
She's super duper not interested.

As an aside, if youre using Facebook messenger it has a lot of weird bugs surrounding showing people as online or not. My friend recently told me that I was displayed as online all night even though my computer was off and I wasn't using my phone or anything.
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>>20344618
I like kids as well, and hope to get some at some point. So I mean, if not attractive, it's at least a good sign.

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Is it possible to become one of those people who just seem to be naturally good at everything/almost everything?

Like they have skills in so many areas and it's just like how the fuck do you know all this shit and even when they're learning something new they pick it up super fast or if they don't know about something they can reason out the correct response or at least figure out how to find the correct response.

I'm not dumb but I've got a friend like this. He's super smart. Sometimes I think it's related to that. He doesn't have any trouble learning things and gets good really fast and you can hit him with any discussion topic and he'll have at least some idea of what you're talking about. How the fuck do people do this? Do I have to be top-tier intelligent to do it?
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>>20345240
examples?
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>>20345262
No.
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He might be smart but also the more you know the easier it is to apply to new skills and learn faster. Start somewhere instead of complaining. In all your spare time you waste they likely are trying new things.
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>>20345262
I don't know if I can explain anything clearly enough to be honest. He doesn't flaunt his intelligence except sometimes it comes and goes in the way he speaks. He's told me before that he actually tries to keep his language in check so that people don't think he's a huge nerd or an ass. Other than that all I can tell you is that you can see it on his face when you put something to him that he might not know much about or have thought about, you can see his brain go off and start thinking almost and then he'll reply, but it's lightning fast. Pretty much anything that he can use logic to figure out is easy as for him.
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>>20345304
Sounds like he is genuinely intelligent. Good for him.

made a different post earlier but due to some (understandable) responses I just wanted to get some input on this specifically

pic completely unrelated

I'm (F) a sexual sadist, I always have been and probably always will be. I shunned sexuality when I was a kid, because even at a young age it was tied to sadism and it made me feel guilty. I ended up accepting it in my teenage years. I'm now 19 and heading to college

I like when guys play dead. There's a gay porn I like where a guy is getting fucked while he's acting like he's passed out on anesthesia, and when I watch it, I always imagine he's dead. One of my favorite mental images is that of a guy's eyes open, but staring into absolutely nothing, or the concept of taking a big strong guy and making him into a lifeless puppet for me to play with

I'm sort of concerned. The sadism and desire for control isn't new to me, and I enjoy these fantasies immensely - and they will remain fantasies, I will never act upon them - but it's an unusual thing to like, to say the least. Is this something to be worried about? And be honest

don't bother commenting "that's creepy as fuck" I know lol
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>>20344703
Serious question, as a guy what red flags can I look out for to avoid girls like you?
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And this is bad how?

I like sleepplay, where girls play it like they are sleeping or actually take drugs that make them pass out.

It is a fantasy and it is alright, hell it is actually great if you find a partner who lets you fulfil it.

Ah how exciting would it be...
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>>20344716 >>20345053
glad to hear

>>20344718
but what do I do about it?

>>20345066
I honestly can't tell you cuz I've never been singled out as weird
like I had friends all throughout middle school and high school
I don't dress weird, I'm not goth or whatever
idk
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>>20344703
Naw we all have fucked up fantasies. Like I want to fuck someone literally to death.

Just don't tell anyone your interested in right away. Wait for them to tell you about their fucked up fantasy first.
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>>20344703
>Is this something to be worried about?
Yeah. I think some fetishes are just poorly covered up mental issues. Sadism is definitely not something healthy and your necrophiliac tendencies are creepy as fuck and also something I would try to deconstruct and get rid of, if I were you.

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>Can't sleep because I'm stressed
>Stressed because I can't sleep
>Sleeping pills do nothing but cause debilitating headaches
help
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>>20344396
>HIIT
I have no idea what that is.
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Meditate, breath, relax, stress won't help you get your results you need. Plan on what you need to do and simple work hard at it with a calm but diligent mindset.
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>>20344367
Stop talking sleeping pills.
FULLY STOP TAKING SLEEPING PILLS.

Have a strong drink.
Exercise regularly.
Address what is causing you anxiety.
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>>20344367
I had that problem when I quit smoking. You can break your body when you start scheduling sleep.

So, as an example, I worked third shift, 11pm-7am. So I would say that I could sleep from 10am-10pm. And I stuck to that. For three days, I got less than 1 hour of sleep per day. The rest of the time, I read Stephen King's "IT." The fourth day, my body broke and I slept just fine, and have slept fine ever since.
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Also take melatonin instead.

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I'm 19 and I don't last more than 5 seconds inside her, I'm not particularly experienced (only had 1 other partner, didn't have much sex with her) but Ive noticed that this girl takes much longer to climax than my other partner.

I've tried taking a few steps such as thicker protection but that didn't seem to help so i took the easy option and got gud with my hands.

I've got the strength, I've got the stamina, I WANT to go for ages but I just can't and it's beginning to get to the stage where I just feel inadequate no matter how many excuses she makes for me.

my cock let me down lads, how do I get out of this? pic related, how I feel about myself after sex
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>>20345264
funny enough I'm actually not white so at least I got something over you
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>Have more sex, if you cum early try to have sex again that night and again the next morning.
>Masturbate before going out to pick up.
>Treat masturbation not as something to do when you're bored but as practice for sex. Bring yourself right to the edge, then stop until your only semi or even flacid, repeat. Try to build up how long you will last.
>I've had the best results utilising this method with a Tenga Flip Hole, well worth the money.
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>>20345206
Have you tried a cockring, or maybe some numbing spray? Jerk off beforehand, train yourself to last longer, there's a lot of ways.
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>>20345295
looked into numbing spray and I've heard about cock rings but don't actually know what they do.

jerking off before hand wouldn't be a bad idea if I didn't cum so quickly even after climaxing 3 times let alone once
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>>20345293
I get the same results no matter how many times I've cummed before hand.

I've started to try and "practice" with masturbation but haven't really got a clue what I'm doing. People keep saying to do what your describing and I'm doing that (as far as I can tell) but it doesn't really seem to have any effect. I last a little longer in my hands but not nearly as long as I want to last

the problem could be that I maybe enjoy it TOO much?

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How would one sustainably kill their libido?
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>>20345113
Remove your testicles.
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>>20345113
Propecia aka Finasteride

Met this girl in a pub a couple of days ago we were flirting alot I got her Instagram and have been messaging her.
she goes to Australia in about 2 weeks which she told me at the time and she was very excited.
I asked her out again and she used Australia as an excuse do you believe here what should I do?
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>>20343854

Send your number and tell her to text you.
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>>20343990
Looking good bro dont listen to the haters. How much you benching these days?
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>>20343887
Or schizoid Bitch.
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>>20345271
only around 100kg bench has always been a weak area for me, my deads are my best lift
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>>20343741
British here, you still sound like a faggot. I bet you also type "haha"

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About to go on date with a highschool crush.
Wish me luck; advice is appreaciated
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use the nicest cologne you have
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Get a nice haircut while lifting under the shower, being yourself
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>>20344421
Good luck anon

Just remember
Bee urself
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The less you say the better if you are quite autistic. Ask her questions and try to let the whole thing be just her talking about herself.

Is it an actual date? She might assume it was a catchup with highschool fren.

Don't pay for everything. meh equality etc.. BUT if she spends money she is more 'invested' in the date so will like you more, eg. benjamin franklin effect.

Obviously make sure you wash thoroughly and wear a nice outfit.

Best to stay away from talking about poltics, religion, abortion, anime. You are meant to have fun on the date so no autistic babbling.

Don't go to a restaurant, keep it casual so get drinks or ice cream or something. A fancy sit down meal with put too much pressure on both of you.

If you have silent moments, don't feel you have to say something, you will inevitably force out some autistic drivel, better to wait until you think of something.

Eye contact is extremely important, look her in the eyes, but not like an axe murderer. Studies where they made random couples who didn't know each other just hold eye contact for 5 mins resulted in several relationships and even a marriage.

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>>20344421
Don't be too eager

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>mfw i found out my current gf gas had over 20 cocks in her pussy, plus an abortion, plus her last ex bf works in the same fucking office

Welp, time to tell her to fuck off I guess. It's just so hard when you become 25+.
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>>20345147
Taking a virginity being on your bucket list is just as creepy and gross as being a slut.
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>>20345171
>that level of cope

Lmao, fuck off back to tumblr roastie whore.
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>>20345179
It's okay, I'm sure you feel like a big man and aren't hiding a Napoleon complex or anything. Just make sure to cry about roasties while you actively cause them.
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>>20345171
having a bucket list sounds like something a boring/easily scared person would do.
Some guy congratulated me on it and said he wished he would have been his gf's first but really it was no big deal for me.
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>>20345135
hello there 19y old anon

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I graduated with a Bachelor's of Science (double major in math and physics) with a 3.8 GPA and I can't find a decent job. What the fuck is wrong with me? I worked on campus while I was in school and I am currently working at a fast-food restaurant in the same town as the college I graduated from.

I'm so sick of being treated like dirt by potential employers. Today I called one employer (I interviewed with them 2 weeks ago, a simple office job) to check on my application only to find out that they chose not to hire me, and just didn't bother to tell me. What the fuck? I know I have to just keep applying, but it's so depressing. I busted my ass in school so that my education would distinguish me from other applicants. Instead I'm $30,000 in debt, I've lost 5 years of my life, and I'm stuck working a slightly-above-minimum-wage job. What do I do?
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>>20343484

Many office jobs are only a small step up from fast food. Management will be less loud and violent but just as manipulative and petty. You will notice coworkers getting away with murder if the boss likes them enough and you will be helpless to do anything about the spiraling chaos around you.
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>>20343880

You mean defense contractors and civilian public sector positions with the military.

Actually joining the armed forces is a terrible idea for someone like OP.
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>>20343429
>>20343456
>tfw also double physics/math major who wants to get a PhD in astrophysics
What the fuck
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>>20344372
I’d recommend only trying to get a PhD in astrophysics if you have a really good research experience and great letters of rec as well. Otherwise, I’d focus on something more applied in grad school. From my last graduating class all the double physics/math majors easily got into decent grad schools, but they they did more applied work. On the other hand a lot of the astro people had a tough time getting into grad school.
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>>20343429
Find your local CRM/ERP company and apply for a traineeship.

They will take most anyone with an okay degree and are in want of capable workers. WIll probably train you internally.

Godspeed.

Boobs sagging is inevitable after having children

Would you still think you're wife is attractive even if her tits end up flat after breast feeding, or would you not be sexually attracted to her anymore?

I'm not pregnant, but i really want kids. The thought of my husband no longer finding me attractive after kids is really hard for me, though
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>>20345224
wrong you dumb cunt. use google for once

>inb4 the pics are photoshopped
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>>20345269
Instead of using insults, why not give me examples?

I've googled this subject plenty and can provide a lot of material relating to my point.
Can you provide any examples of your claim?
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>>20345224
>>20345126
>tits will sag no matter what you
Oh yeah ? Has there been rigorous studies to prove that ?
Or are you talking out of your ass ?
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I think breast feeding is important for child's health but after learning what the demon babies do to my beautiful tits I think I'm gonna pump into a bottle desu.

You can have a nice body shape by being fit because good posture lifts them up. I also massage them daily. Dunno if the nipples can be saved but I've seen many naked moms and didn't see any issues. (Public baths)
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>>20345278
Yes, there is
https://www.webmd.com/parenting/baby/after-nursing
It's pretty common knowledge and there's tons of advice online on how to reduce the sagging, but it's widely accepted that it's a byproduct of the sudden growth then reduction in breast volume

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There's a girl at work I've had a crush on for a few months. Finally grew the balls to ask for her number last week. Asked her out last Sunday and she responded with sounds fun, but i'm pretty busy this week, will let you know. She's had multiple opportunities to just lie and say she's seeing someone else so I'm not sure if she's actually busy, on the fence, or just being nice.

We rarely see each other at work and haven't spoken since Sunday. I was thinking of texting her again tomorrow or Thursday with an exact time/date/place.

I did some e-stalking and found her reddit account. Last week she was talking about one of her favorite bands that's playing near us soon. Would it be too suspicious if I said "hey I won some tickets on the radio this morning, you want to go?" Should I try one more time to ask her out on a regular date and if she declines offer the tickets as a last resort? Just forget about it entirely if she declines a second offer?
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>>20344608
>>20344611
This is what i thougt. Rip.

>>20344666
Lmfao I’m not spending money on tickets unless she actually says yes.

She’s out of my league anyway so i wasnt expecting much.
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>>20344599
Chances aren't in your favor OP. A lot of people will say some random shit like "wow what if she's like, legitimately busy you no lifer" but if it's been a couple of days or past the weekend and she hasn't texted you back, it more likely she doesn't care than she forgot.

You can go ahead and text her tomorrow if you want. It won't hurt either way she feels, she probably thought about it the final answer already. If she says no but she suggests another time I'd say she's interested. If she just makes up some bullshit about "being busy" she's trying to let you down easy
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>>20344599
ring her up and ask her?
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>>20345156
OP here. Going to after work today.

Tbh besides her being hot af, one of the reasons im into her is she came to work in a twitch shirt one day. Was also thinking of sending her a message along the lines of “hey if you dont want to hang out it’s fine. Just thought i had to at least try and talk to you because i saw you wearing a twitch shirt and my main hobbies are vidya games, twitch, reddit and 4chan”

Thats probably awkward as fuck too though and i doubt she’ll bite but i don’t really see any other options.
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>>20345177
do no not say if you don't want to hang out that's fine say the second part but say thought it'd be fun to hang out because...
also report back on the call


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