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everybody gets A+ for the last thread, keep it up
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>>23490211
I have.
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>>23490223
It doesn't enrage me at all. It is just not a believable LARP and I am calling you out on being fake and gay.
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Prime example of why you don't want your SO have opposite sex friends >>23490228
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Would women date a man without a dick? Before you answer remember that a strap on will feel exactly the same and will never get you pregnant or cum too early.
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>>23490232
Imagine imagining letting your SO out of your kitchen

I’m going to meet my online?/LDR boyfriend/best friend for the second time and we are going to have sex
I’m 23 years old and panicking as the day gets closer
I’m just so stressed
I am naturally an anxious person and I’m so worried because I don’t feel like my body is perfect even though he loves it. I am not worried about penetration at all... i just worry about being ‘bad’

Should i get high or something? I don’t even smoke....
I thought i was going to be a virgin forever
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>>23490014
larp
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>>23490014
Just make sure you use a rubber.. you don’t want an accident happen before you are in fact together

I moved from one state to another to a apartment that is a house divided into 4 apartments. There is a woman that lives downstairs in the apartment below mine. I saw her through the window when I was walking my by house. I think she is kind of cute. What could I do to talk to her.

I know I should be knocking on her door if I want to talk to her, but what I mean is that I don’t know what to say if I knock on her door. “Hi, I’m new to the area” is something I could say, but how would I elaborate?

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I'm a college sophomore studying Engineering (civil). I go to a top 3 university for engineering in my state and I pay less than $500 a semester due to scholarships. Would it be worth it to transfer to a top 5 Civil Eng university in the country, in a town which I want to live in, on a beautiful campus with great sports but pay upwards of 12k a year? Any Civil fags in here want to tell me how much difference it would make to have that on my resumé
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>>23489747
So I can't tell you how the workplace actually is. I do know that where I live is heavily engineering based, and I know a couple lower-level engineers
who have to work their asses off. It's highly competitive and you're expected to a do a lot of work. I've been told that the schoolwork is a lot less fun than the actual job.

It is, however, important to find out what interests you more, I found more interest as a kid building cities from scratch with legos, and I've always liked designing roadways/bridges/transportation related stuff in games like roblox when I was younger. I have a lot of friends who are into mechanical and it just doesn't interest me. I know a guy who was doing civil, and hated it, he switched to mechanical and loves his job. Be sure to know what interests you, because you will be working your ass off the first couple of years.
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>>23489737
>IIRC engineering isn't really one of those fields where school prestige matters
Prestige isn't really the issue; my school is where an overwhelming number of engineers come from in my city, but I don't want to live in my city, I want to live in Austin, and I'm afraid my school doesn't carry the same amount of weight there, and I can't really enjoy my college years couped up at my college.
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>>23489552
>I pay less than $500 a semester due to scholarships
>pay upwards of 12k a year?

Don't be fucking retarded. Concentrate on getting a good GPA and finishing your bachelor's which is basically your 21st century high school diploma. Haven't you learned anything from seeing people throw themselves into horrendous debt and you want to subject yourself to that when you've been given a scholarship? What's even worse is you want to do it for superficial shit like pretty buildings and physical activity options. You're a fucking engineering student. Study hard, lift some weights and jerk off to decompress.
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>>23490187
This school carries a lot of weight where I'm from. It's like someone from California going to Stanford, or someone from Massachusetts going Boston college. My family would be extremely proud and it's something I would be proud of for the rest of my life. 24k is nothing when it comes to the salary I and my Fiancée will be making
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>>23490180
>I can't really enjoy my college years couped up at my college.
Ignore everyone else telling you to stay. Your college years are probably the best years of your life and you don't want to waste it at some shitty no name university in some who cares state. 12k is chump change to go to the college of your dreams where you can experience all the joys of youth whilst building an amazing career for yourself in a fantastic city.

I live with my mom and my brother, and my brother is starting to get very sick. Covid is on the rise where I live, and if my mom gets it she might die. She’s very high risk and has Heath issues.

What do I do
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>>23490170
>worrying over nothing
What do you mean? She has bad reactions to any sickness she gets
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>>23489967
Your moms odds of dying are still low af. dont worry
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>>23490179
Rightoid politics means science isn't real and anything the liberals say must be false.
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>>23490179
Get your brother to quarantine in his room, don't let your mom go on that side of the house. Don't let him leave. Bring him his food when he wants it, and be sure to get him clean the entire room after he is well, don't allow for cross-contamination. Get your mom eating fresh vegetables, onions, garlic, and orange-juice. Ask her to start taking a multivitamin to help build up her immune system and lower the added health risk of malnutrition
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>>23490179
>What do you mean? She has bad reactions to any sickness she gets
What do I mean? Healthy people are not scared. Unhealthy people are scared. Simple as.
>>23490188
>right
kill yourself, diseased fat
>left
cope and rope, diseased fat
Imagine "being into politics" reminder that your masters don't give a shit about you and want you to suffer.

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I'm still living with my ex because of coronachan. It's awkward yet okay because we're great friends and still have fun together and are able to communicate and tell about our feelings without shitting all over the place.

But you know... it's over. Now we gotta move on. But since she's having a hard time finding an appartement I told her to stay here since anyway we have been living together for the past decade so it's not a few more months that will worsen the deal. Still we need to part ways, and that part feels weird. I feel we both don't really want to part ways, we want to live separately, our couple is definitively not coming back, but I guess staying friends and hanging out from time to time would be cool.

BUT it's the weirdest fucking thing, it's a pipe dream and I understand that anybody else would find that pretty awkward. Especially other girls I could meet in the future.

So basically, we're stuck together, we are not a couple anymore but we like to chill together from time to time (totally platonic FYI; it's been for YEARS) and parting ways sounds sad to us.We have so many memories together we don't want to shit on everything, we don't hate each other... wat do???
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I was in the same position last march... Basically your life is on hold until one of you moves out.

I'm still friends with my ex, we just wanted different things, and the lockdowns were bad timing.

>Wat do
Move out?
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>>23488700
Definitely the only solution I agree. How did it go for you? You still talk and it’s better or more awkward than before the move?

I love her and wish her the best but sometimes she just talks and I want to rip her head off :-/ I feel I’ve had enough... I knew the only solution would be that she moves out but I guess I still fear living alone maybe. I’m sure everything will be okay, we’re not the first ones to go through that.

Thanks for your reply anon
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Anybody else been through the same?
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>>23488678
>we're stuck together, we are not a couple anymore
You’ll never grow as a person with ex gf still in your life.

I was almost in the same situation as you, but grew some balls and send her packing. I for one was not going to support a grown ass woman that’s not even sucking my dick to live with me.

You feeling sorry for her is you secretly wanting to get back together. She using you until another dick walks into the picture. Enjoy hearing her new big dick Chad pound her around at night, while you listen to that.

Hear my warning or that will be your future

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I'm a 25 years old virgin girl. How weird is this? Non meme answers about wanting a pure virgin perfect wife. Reality is not that simple. I've only been in 2 relationships my whole life, none of them lasted, and the guy I talked to since last summer ghosted be hard. I don't think I'm ugly or anything, pretty damn average I'd say. Also, WHY would it even be weird, if it is? I'd guess it has something to do with "since it's easy to have sex and you haven't, there must be something wrong with you" but following that stupid logic, isn't it the other way around? Since it's so easy to have sex and you haven't, it means that you don't want to or don't see value in it.
>why am I virgin
It started with me wanting to save myself for marriage, and I'm being very serious and unironical when I say this. But as it is right now, I guess I'm ashamed and even somewhat afraid of sex. My main issue is being repressed and since I still live with my parents, I wouldn't even know where to have sex.
>go at the guy's place
Yeah, no.
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>>23487957
It is unusual, but not in a negative sense. Men who are also waiting until marriage will be very happy to find someone doing the same, and once you eventually do find a guy, you'll both be very happy neither of you gave up on your principles.

The only people who would give you any shit for this are unrepentant degenerates, the same type of person who would call you a coward for not doing meth "socially".

>>23488007
You are VASTLY overthinking what most men will assume. At "worst" (and it's actually useful, since it saves you time and protects you from being used), men who expect sex from you will leave very quickly once they hear you're waiting. Most men would either think it neutral or they'd outright see it as a positive if they're also saving themselves.

>>23488031
You ARE superior to most other women in this regard. Many lack self-restraint or the willingness to refuse the advances of some horny bonehead. You don't have to flaunt it, but you should hardly feel guilty for having strength of character.
>I can't trust anyone
Well, you're right to be wary of the types who want sex and then leave--but waiting until marriage is the best way to avoid those types. They are never willing to commit to get sex, and obviously, a guy who wans to spend the rest of his life with you
As long as you aren't getting into a rushed marriage, and you genuinely want to marry your partner as well, you shouldn't be afraid of waiting.
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>>23488055
>how can you expect to date someone if you're not sexually compatible?
You hedonistic retards used to say "how can you expect to marry", now it's just dating? Face it, this is nothing but a weak copout to justify your emphasis on sex rather than commitment

>>23488313
kys degenerate
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>>23490055
go get them, you righteous culture warrior
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>>23487957
Are you religious? I could recommend you a great book on the subject if you are.
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>>23490096
The Catholic School Girl's Guide to Sin-Free Anal Sex?

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I was raised to be a well trained puppy who'd come when called and immediately shirked at the first sign of hostility or anger.

Social isolation has been good for me because it allowed me to develop a sense of self away from others, but obviously it can't last forever.

How to act like a human being and actually pursue my own interests instead of calibrating my efforts to whoever the scariest person in the room is like a good slave?
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>>23489539
You sound like a fucking furry
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>>23489813
Which is why you match ultra sub qts with the best and most good men, actual Kings. Sub doesn’t mean stupid or weak, it means she is dutifully deferent to her superior
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>>23489839
I never learned how to humanize myself fully so maybe i talk the same way that they do. I imagine most furries lack a core identity like i do

>>23489846
What if she runs into a stronger man with bad intentions? My people experiences indicate the more autonomy the better and that's true across the board. Why do you think i'm trying to change?
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>>23489813
And? Don't manipulate her and treat her well. These women are more likely to be used and abused but that is just the price they pay for actually being loveable women.
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That behavior is rooted in insecurity, so if you become combative instead, you will only be trading one cope for another. It might be an improvement of your condition but don't think your cope won't be apparent to both others and to yourself. The first priority should be, if you can, to find people who don't try to fuck with you. That's the only way to develop true confidence in your relationships with others.

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Having your gf go out with 1 guy "friend" always makes me extremely anxious.
But what if it's 2 guy friends?

Gf got invited to hang out by a guy friend she hasn't hung out with in a while, they settled on today, I was kind of sceptic because the messages the guy sent inviting her seemed kinda flirty (he just randomly invited her out without them talking in over a month or something). As it turns out in the end one more mutual guy friend of theirs has gone out with them even though that wasn't the plan originally.

Should I feel safer knowing it's 2 guys and my gf instead of just my gf and 1 male friend?
Tell me it's more okay this way, cushion my insecurities and anxiety
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> Should I feel safer knowing it's 2 guys and my gf

No. If anything that's worse. I was on a thread earlier today where someone was really sus about a single dude in his girl's group of friends and the general census was that he shouldn't make a move until the guy starts acting possessive. >>23486434#

So if I were you I'd definitely keep an eye on it but not take it to any violent levels unless the guys initiate something.
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>>23489841
>If anything that's worse
Why? Isn't it less intimate and less of a going out with someone because you like them when there are 2 people and it's not 1 on 1 "date-like" thing
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>>23489853
Well alright that's one way of looking at it, and a good point.

But there's also where I was originally coming from if there IS really a chance of something conniving going on there the other guy's definitely going to be there for the threesome js.

Then again like you said it's less like a date when it's with two people so hopefully the other guy's morals aren't that fucked up and he calls them out and tells OP if anything's going on.
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>>23489884
>guy's definitely going to be there for the threesome
to make things worse they went to one guys home since everything's closer after 6PM because of covid

But I really doubt something like this would happen. I saw the messages where guy #1 invited her out, even if it was flirty it was more so in a shy / hidden way which means it wouldn't come down to this.

I hope she at least told him she has a boyfriend, to me that would be number one thing to mention, at least casually, when someone of the opposite gender invites me to hang out.
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/cheaters/ general
Cheaters is for people who cheat on their significant others to give each other advice and strategies

No moralfagging
Don't come here if you don't like or agree with the content
No LARPing. Let's keep this a place for serious discussion. Not a shit posting general
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>>23489525
Everyone in this world*
That's why cheaters exist, fren. You'll learn one day.
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>>23480180
>use an obscure one full of Asian girls called tantan
thanks for the info
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>>23482960
>soi beta males who got cucked
You’re naive if you think only betas get cucked. Any guy can get cucked, as long as the girl is in a cheating mindset and sees an opportunity then it’s over. There are loads of chads out there who get regularly cheated on by their wives and never find out.
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>>23484496
>pic from story
>712px width

LAAARP. nice try neckbeard
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Why not try ethical nonmonogamy?
maybe you should change this to /narcissists/ general?

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Stepdad recently killed himself. I don’t really know how to cope with the grief. If anyone has any method or just general advice I’d be more than happy to hear it. Stay safe peeps :)
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>>23490060
haha boom. imagine saying suicide is god's beautiful plan.
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>>23490085
Ah yes, killing YOURSELF is certainly gods plan. That fkn got to me then, I’ll be honest.
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>>23490094
Sometimes a traumatic thing does have ironic consequences, like a near death experience reaffirming a person's purpose and values.
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People are too damn attatched to their existence. Suicide is based.
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>>23490094
I really like the alternative of it being no longer able to be rectified in any way possible

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why do i feel innate rage when i see an anime character in something?

for example, there is this timetabled graph on how to progress in your pullup reps, its a whole schedule. but at the bottom there is a animoo girl athlete telling me to 'go get it'
when i see the fact that picture is there i do no longer want to do the program
why is this? if it was a picture of a real athlete flexing id be even more motivated
another thing, there was a really nice piece of art, like really well drawn and detailed. but it was of a anime styled charachter. even though the art was extremely skillfull. i just despise it
why?
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>>23488345
because you are a faggot. send me that chart
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>>23488345
DROP THE CHART FAGGOT
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>>23490008
IDK, the thought that most doujins and hentai is done by men makes the faps more enjoyable. Like, you're not simping you're just enjoying the creative potential of humanity.
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>>23488345
you're not alone, use it to your advantage
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>>23488345
Here:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cute_aggression

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Ok so a scab started to form and I started using iodine because I ran out of peroxide and the scab tissue got destroyed because of that and now I have a gross looking open wound and its been 2 days and mo scab tissue has developed. I have no infection because im on antibiotics. Should i just keep applying antis, rinse it in the shower once a day, and keep it covered with non-stick gause?
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>>23490181
>in compressions with jeans
obviously no clothing if you want to leave it undressed
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>>23490176
Doesnt applying neosporin now make a scab less likely to grow back/make it take longer? Also can i leave it covered for 2 days at a time before re-dressing?
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>>23490193
As in leave it covered in the shower tmrw and re-dress on thurs? To conserve supplies
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>>23490193
yes, it makes the scab softer underneath. And yes you can leave it covered for 2 days at a time if you don't get it wet.
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>>23490205
Would u say the trade-off is worth it?
Longer hardening process but a (mostly) guarentee of no infection?
Last question, promise. Thank you for putting my mind at ease.

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I'm 21 years old, I've been in uni for 3 years, got 2.5 years left on an engineering degree. I know I'm not mature for my age, people I graduated high school with are getting their college diplomas this semester and I'm changing my major again. I hate studying and have zero interest in the content, especially with online classes and all of this Covid bull shit. I just want a job I can live off of where I'm working with my hands.
My parents pay for my college and housing, which I hate. I have a job but part time isn't enough to pay for shit. If I could go back and do it over I'd have gone straight into a trade or the military and not taken a dime from them. I hate taking the money my dad made, we never had a good relationship and it feels gross to live on someone elses dime. I don't get how NEETs can tolerate this lack of self sufficiency but it feels infantile.
I'm thinking about dropping out and living in my truck or getting a cheap room in a house while doing an electrician's apprenticeship. Obviously this wouldn't pay as well long term as an engineer but I could start making decent $ right away and not be dependent on my parents any more. I'd also have more time to do stuff I like, such as climbing. I want to be a professional alpine guide eventually.
Honestly its fucking with my psychology, if I was on loans I'd probably care a lot more but instead I don't feel like I earned my place in school and don't particularly want it.
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Control your hormones, dumbass.
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>>23490093
What do hormones have to do with my situation? I'm probably low T but most of my position is a result of me just being a retard
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i'm going to jail for the next 15 months for rape. I'm real scared because every single person tells me I'm going to get raped. they said if you're raped in jail the law don't do anything, they just laugh. Is there any step I can take to not get raped in jail? This is surprisingly hard to get info about.
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>>23490189
>surprisingly hard to get info about
You can't talk to ex cons about it or find some studies?
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>>23490189
Serious answer: hire a prison consultant before you get locked up. Don't know how much they charge, but can you really put a price on your precious ringpiece?
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>>23490189
Now I want to heat the story, did you do it and if yes why destroy your life for a roastie?
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>>23490201
we were both drunk, and I don't remember any of it. her friend was a witness though and saying that I raped her. so I am being punished for something I din't even do. they gave me a ligiht sentence because of the fact we were both drunk.




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