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Guys i am going to study CS to emigrate from my shithole country and work abroad. But is it really the only way i can do this? I think i might actually like to work outside more but I know that realistically there are people that don't have a cubicle job that wish the opposite.
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>>27375697
You can easily find work from home jobs with a CS degree. My best friend’s husband does CS (he didn’t go to college just self-taught) and works at home. Spends a crap load of time in his office but he’s home with his family and finds time to go hiking/hunting/fishing etc multiple times a week, from what I can tell.
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>>27375707
Will do, I actually want to learn electronics. But how is it related to the degree?
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>>27375712
I heard about it but the issue is that i live in Italy and as far as i can tell most jobs are required to be done at the office. Which is another reason why i want to go out of this place. (other than the fact that the pay is 1/3 of what you guys get even considering normal life expences)
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>>27375712
How does one self-learn CS and get a job out of it?? What the fuck. Does he get paid well? How long did it take?
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>>27375721
Electrician work can be very hands-on in the literal sense, while it also somehow relates to CS.

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I am pretty successful with women.

I'm at an airport with about an hour to spare

feel free to ask anything on the matter
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>>27375869

Why do you feel the need to make a board within a board?
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>>27375869
kys faggotincelnigger
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>>27376036
depends what the board is for
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What would you say to me to pick me up, OP? Let's test this theory.
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>>27376085
depends entirely on the context

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is learning another language cultural appropriation?
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>>27375219

Stop being so woke.
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>>27375219
>is learning another language cultural appropriation?
Yeah, and that culture belongs to you now, because you deserve it
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>>27375219
>cultural appropriation
It's only cultural appropriation if you copy parts of the culture and being generally disrespectful to it. I don't think most people would feel it being disrespectful to have an interest in a culture and learning its language.
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>>27375219
Anon, you're ngmi
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>>27375670
Cultural appropriation is not real or negative. In a society where people mix their cultures mix. Why as a white man would I get upset at Michelle monkey Obama straightening her hair, when she should have curly hair. Why would I get upset at Xi Jinping wearing a suit and not the traditional Chinese formal garb? Why would I get upset at Filipinos wearing baseball caps? Culture mixes when different groups mingle.

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Be it loveness. Be it happiness. Be it angerness. Be it sadness.

I always forget it. A day or two, maybe a week. I don't remember the event at all.

On one hand, I don't think I can ever be heart broken.
On the other, it's hard for me to love. As I forget the emotions associated with love.

It's hard to function in a world like that. My brain just blocks that out or makes it feel equal. When anything feels equal, you don't remember shit.
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It doesn't mean your a sociopath or anything. It's just how you're wired. I am an emotional person and I like making people happy, for example. But for the life of me, I cannot remember anyone's birthdates. Not my parents', not my sister's, not my boyfriends. I hate it, but I just can't seem to retain it. My brain doesn't want to work that way.
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>>27376000
Also yes, it's easier going to the dentist, because I simply don't remember it properly.
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>>27376030
Sometimes I'm very worried of being a sociopath, because I'm an weird person, like not a good.

However.. I'm also an emotional person and don't really see the point of taking the piss out of others. I like to see other people happy, unless they fuck with me. That I think is normal.

I also can't remember anyone's birthday. Only my mothers. I think this is normal though, most people don't remember it.

>have relationship, job, friendship, or similar
>something that I do or, much much more often, don’t do, upsets them
>they become snitty and/or distant
>I can tell there is some problem but don’t know what it is or why they are suddenly cruel/distant
>I get increasingly paranoid about them having a problem with me and think it’s [insert randomly-chosen immutable trait I am insecure about]
>I decide it’s hopeless and bail
>6-18 months later it dawns on me what I neglected to do/say or, rarely, what I did do/say that upset them and feel like a stupid asshole
How do I short circuit this cycle? Is this what autism is? What is this? Why is this?

God has given me the best life. Where are you? Where you planning to be?
why?
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Send me to Austria please. Find me a job too. With a nice apartment
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>>27375114
I do not want to use my power for you. I just want to know about you.
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>>27375133
AAAAAAAAAA I FEEL FOR THE TRAP FAAAAAAAAAAK
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>>27375108

1 Corinthians 10:12 "Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall."

Don't get cocky.

So one dude in our group is diagnosed with schizophrenia about year ago. When he relapse, it's usually harmless. He would just rambling about how this world isn't real and he's the only one who have consciousness and he can move between parallel universes everyday.

But lately it's getting a bit creepy. He would stalk one of my friends office building and tag along when my friend is having lunch with his coworker. Or come uninvited to one of my friends house on weekend and stay for hours. I myself just got a new place and went through a lot of effort to hide it from him.

At this rate, i'm afraid he'll eventually kill one/all of us. And to make it worse, he's smart. He used to be smartest guy in the faculty. I can totally see him planning a perfect crime or something like that. Should i call the psych ward or the police?
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>>27375517
yea, we're taking this approach for now.
but in worst case scenario where police gets involved and they let him off with just a warning, i'm afraid it'll agitate him even further.
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>>27375508
>I can totally see him planning a perfect crime or something like that
To put you at ease a little: legit schizos like your friend are terrible at masking their illness. You already mentioned a ton of weird shit about him that everyone notices. If someone ends up dead he's gonna be the prime suspect.
Schizos who cannot mask are super obvious. That said yeah there's a real possibility he'll be in your living room covered in his own blood screaming about the aliens in his brain or something.
Unless he does something really egregious I don't think you can have him committed. Just be wary of him.
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>>27375622
i agree but
>If someone ends up dead he's gonna be the prime suspect
it would better if none of use ends up dead in the first place
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>>27375568
HOL UP now... how sure are you that this guy can't really travel through parallel universes? This is the kind of friend we all need and really don't want to turn into enemies!
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>>27375920
It's a skill that's hard to control, sometimes I'll use it to evade jannies by flipping to another dimension but moot calls his CIA buddies to track me down via the fibrillation of entangled quarks from the semen socks and life energy threads and I think I see moot outside my fucking window, I'm going to stretch my legs and yell at him, HOWEVER, and he was a good friend

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I constantly get the urge to delete all my social media and block all my contacts except for my mum, dad and uncle but I never go through with it, nobody but them knows where I live so it's not like my friends can come to track me down or anything, I've been getting this urge for years, what's wrong with me?

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Sometimes i realise somebody is trying to manipulate me to get something by being nice like getting something from me like a favour, money, whatever…

in those causes, should i pretended like i didn’t realise or say i did?
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>>27373593

This is how the world works. You do it too. Even altruists get a high off helping people.
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>>27373593
fuck it bro, if its obvious manipulation just call em out fuck they gonna do, try to manipulate you into not realizing ur being manipulated
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>>27373593
smile like this cat maybe it can solve some mysteries
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>>27373593
Depends. Just say no man. If you notice a pattern you can say "I notice this and that". Ask him/her if that rings true to them. Also don't let the given favours stack up. Ask them for something for a change. Don't be their dog fulfilling every wish of theirs
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bump

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How do i enjoy the company of others? I love spending all my time alone only socialising on 4chan talking about my interest. I hate talking about other people because i'm a cunt. Parents are seething saying i need friend so how do i make them or how do i enjoy being around others?
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Why are you living with your parents? Go to the pub, go to church, talk to coworkers, its not that hard. Nobody actually likes talking about other people they don't know that well [unless they're mentally damaged], just pretend to be interested until you actually are.
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>>27373825
Friendship is about giving and receiving. You get what you put in. If you put in the effort and want to be their friend and hang out with them, they'll see that, and their reaction to your clear and concise efforts to be friends should indicate if they're good friends or not.

Try not to do any assuming regarding how other people see you, they don't think the same way, you need to voice your desire to want to get together, by telling them how you would like to be friends.

In other words, you give them opportunities to be your friend while you make the effort to be the friend you would want others to be for you. Treat others the way you want to be treated.

If they go on to reciprocate your advances of bringing together a friendship, you've found yourself a friend, and if not, and they're still nice, that's an acquaintance, someone you don't hang out, but can be friendly with.

Then you have best friends, whom are the ones you hang out with most.

You'll have a lot of acquaintances, and a couple of friends who you could hang out with you on occasion, but your best friend(s) are the ones you hang out with a lot more than others. Your Best Friends care about you most.

Now, It's important to note that Friends have an end. "fri-end." What I mean by this, is some people don't stick around forever, and people can change, and come and go. But always remember that you'll always be there for you.


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I wasn't even a big monarchist or anything, but I am British and there's just something about the Queen dying after being on the throne for so long. 70 whole years and then she's just gone. It feels like everything has changed and the country is darker than it was before. Time is moving on and the constant truths and standards we had grown accustomed to are crumbling. It just has made me think a lot about change, and mortality in general, and it's not a good feeling.
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>>27372866
Britain can go fuck itself ugly cunts
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>>27372866
Imagine asking internet strangers for permission to feel emotion
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That queen was a disgusting cunt who ruled over most of the world for a period of time while hundreds of millions under her thumb starved. I'm glad she is dead. You are a faggot also.
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>>27375836
I think you've mistaken the late 20th century for the late 19th century.
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>>27372866
Your problem isn't the Queen, her death just made you realize existencial things.

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Starting at the beginning of this year, there was this girl at work who developed a crush on me, I kept ignoring her though since at the time I was already seeing someone. Fast forward to three months later and I break up with her for personal reasons and immediately got with another girl that I already had on the side, I then told the girl at work this and she seemed sad, eventually the second girl I got with ended up moving to California, so now I'm practically all alone, and the obvious choice would be to try the girl who's been crushing on me, except she now has a boyfriend. But to be honest I've been developing a crush on her the more I've gotten to know her, but I don't know if I should even come clean with my feelings since she's in a relationship so now I'm feeling like shit, what's the best course of action here /adv/?
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Another thing I forgot to mention is that I actually did end up going out with the girl from work once and it didn't go well at all, not only was it incredibly awkward but she also informed me an hour before we were supposed to meet that it wasn't a date and that she only saw me as a friend, which of course was a result of me curbing her for 6 months straight, so she figured she'd just give up and keep the relationship platonic, which I was cool with at the time considering I was already with another girl, but as I've stated previously I'm kind of starting to regret not getting with her in the first place, I feel like an idiot right now and it's a little embarrassing going back to her and saying "hey you know what I actually do like you, just forget all those months i ignored you and let's give it another go".
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bamp

Femanons, what does this mean? She doesn’t respect me, right?
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>>27373319
I’m kind of turned on by the prospect I’m not going to lie. I’d also kind of like to have sex with the guy along with my girlfriend. But I’m not going to do it just because I feel like if she were to see me have sex with a man, or watch her fuck another man, she’d lose respect for me so. Best not to.
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It means break the fuck up you poor schmuck.
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>>27373681
>she’d lose respect for me
She wants to fuck other men. She already doesn't respect you, you pathetic faggot. She isn't attracted to you but wants to keep using you for money.
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>>27372509
Dump her.
Walk away.
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>>27372738
This is not a tea leaves thing.

It's a you dumb fucking retard get the fuck away from this dumb ho and wash your hands of her completely now, right now.

The ONLY, ONLY reason to stay is to monkey branch over, find another girl then when you have a new one, gtfo.

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So I have a very tiny boney body but my boyfriend always like throws me around and stuff during sex and stuff and I always get really hurt how do I like tell him to like calm down it really hurts and he won't listen
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>>27373976
If you told him and won't listen, you should try again. If he doesn't respect your feelings you might have to rethink your relationship. Sex is not all about granting every wish for the man. It should be enjoyable for you both.
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>>27375486
>has sex
>"incel"
What?
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>>27373976
Have you tried saying "no" or "please stop doing this, I don't enjoy it"?
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Be honest with him about the way you feel. If he loves you, he'll understand and act accordingly.
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The only way is to freak out in the moment when he dies it. He needs to see how much he hurts you. Men are kinda dumb and need to learn by experience and can't be told. If you take his orgasm away cause he's being a stupid gorilla he will understand.

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I have multiple organ failure, I'm going to die probably in 2-10 years, a transplant will not happen because my liver, kidneys, heart, lungs, and brain are all damaged. I've accepted that I'm going to die, and I've technically died twice already, my heart stopped and in the 15 seconds before losing consciousness I willed myself to breathe and restarted it. I can say that I've been to the other side, there is no afterlife, god does not exist, it's just black. I don't want to die, and I'm extremely depressed. I jog every morning, but my body is giving out, I have severe tendonitis. I'm unwilling to make friends because I don't want to be missed or mourned when I pass. I'm asking for advice on how to find happiness and overcome feeling alone.
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Not everyone finds happiness or even finds meaning. Just tough it out. That's all you can do. If you don't mind it doesn't matter.
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>>27374504

Get off 4chan if your time really is that limited. You said your heart gave out once. Is jogging something you should be doing then? 2-10 years is a decent amount of time. You should be able to fill your head with pleasant memories in that time frame before checking out. I don’t know your financial situation but try to work as little as possible. Don’t alienate yourself from others just because you’re going to die. If they feel sadness and mourn your loss that means you had a positive influence on their life and they’ll eventually get over it. I hope you find peace, anon.
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>>27374504
You have not died anon I too have flat lined but it wasn’t darkness or nothing that you experienced your brain went into shock we are on a rock spinning on a molten core rotating around a star in a galaxy on the edge of infinity and that is not a coincidence maybe scripture is not the exact truth but there is certainly a greater power
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>>27374508
I want happiness.
>>27374626
I can't make friends, I would feel guilty when I die. I know it sounds cringe, but I stand alone.

>>27374664
Technically I did die twice, I want to believe that there is a god, but there isn't. The best I can do is practice Buddhism.


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