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Sup bro, I have been having a particularly unpleasant couple of months. A lot of bad things have happened to me and almost all of them were done maliciously. These past couple days have been especially hard on me mentally. I cannot escape my tormentor nor can I just beat them up. So day after day I am left feeling increasingly angry, frustrated, and depressed. I have no irl friends, I don't have a car, can't afford therapy, and I don't know how much more I can possibly take without developing a mental illness of some sort. How can I cope for the time being?
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>>22605908
Without specifics all I can give you are vague answers.

You are only ever going to live up to the image that you create for yourself. They can't take your soul and they can't get in your mind.
Show me someone who has always had an easy life and has never touched insanity and I'll show you a weak mind.
All they're giving you is fuel, you can use it for self destruction or to destroy others or you can see the truth, they can't hurt you not really.
They can beat your body, torment you, leave you in a dark closet but at the end of it all you're still there.
Let the rage fuel you, push beyond your self doubt, push past what you believe is possible.
Embrace what you perceive as danger, but be wise to not be self destructive, everything you need is being built within you. Embrace your growing insanity while it can still be controlled, maybe it's the change you need.
There is no truly great person who has not had to drag themselves up from the fiery darkness where they were forged.
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>>22605908
get into a routine and find things to occupy your time. read books, learn a language, watch movies, do calisthenics outside, go jogging, etc. Exercise reduces your stress levels. don't just sit and stew. I've done that for awhile and i developed the kind of insomnia where i can't sleep more than 4 hours. it really sucks.
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>>22605908
>I'm about to lose it yo
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I can't stop being paranoid that people that don't like me are trying to poison me or give me cancer. What's wrong with me?

I fell out with a guy at my last workplace and I'm literally convinced he murdered me.
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>>22605098
I have to go to bed, but thank you again for trying to help me, take care
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>>22605188
goodnight, anon. hope you find answers.
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I’ve had a similar situation going on in my life for the past 12 years, peaking when I was like 12 or 13. It sounds like schizophrenia. I wouldn’t ignore this shit because it just gets worse and worse.

I remember having shit where I thought the universe chose me to be an antagonist for another person’s life and that I was born to fail. Or that people thought I was stalking them and that they would call the police on me. Or that my body was going to change genders for wearing the color yellow. This shit will fuck u up OP I would seek help. And in these days it’s pretty easy since essentially everyone and their mother goes to therapy.
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>>22604199
>I'm literally convinced he murdered me.
And you have no evidence since then of being alive?
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>>22606799
As in he irradiated me or put something like asbestos on my food or stuff, I just haven't gotten ill yet.

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How do I stop being jealous of other girls and actually have a girl best friend? I've become threatened by women because of my insecurities, I will always compare myself to her no matter how hard I try. But deep down I really want a female best friend, sorta like Daria and Jane. But I'm worried that if I find a guy, that he'll find her more attractive than me.

How do I move on from this? Thank you for any help!
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Threaten you physically? Contact the police
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>>22606818
Lmao no, sorry I meant threatened that they have better looks and personality than me.

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My good buddy's girl (now ex girl) used the shit out of him like a puppet and dumped him afterwards like nothing. I'm planning to make a "dame da ne" deepfake with her pic and post it on her wall. Does this count as serious cyberbullying or just a petty effort?
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yea that helps your friend big time if his friend is a bitch. and you can google punishment for defamation your self you lazy bitch.
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>>22606693
undeniably based
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>>22606693
Pretty petty. Should find better revenge
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>>22606693
And in precisely what way is this any of your business?

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Is there anything I can practise to change my smile? I'd like to smile or laugh without exposing my upper gums.

Besides that, are there any particular characteristics of an attractive smile?
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>>22606546
Bend your head down when you smile like a retard or learn to smile with your mouth closed :)

I’m 23, unemployed due to Covid, a daily coomer and addicted to porn. Advice on quitting porn and gaining control of my sex drive and cooming addiction? The longest nofap I have probably ever gone was 8 days.

At my worst, I was cooming at work and sending nudes daily to a list of Snapchat thots.
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>>22605855
I see what you’re saying, but if I had the self control to take away video games for three days, wouldn’t I have the self control to not coom? I feel like I need distractions which may lead to better discipline. FWIW, porn is shit. I barely get hard from it anymore because of how fake and gay it is. Which is not something I’m proud of
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Start exercising REGULARLY or whatever physical activity you can do. The dopamine hit from that will help you from when first abstaining from porn and jerking off. Emphasis on it doing it regularly so your brain chemistry goes back to normal. Eating healthy will help too. Best of luck OP.
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>>22605832

Melbourne?
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Don't jack it, focus on better things. And quit 4chan
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>>22605698
Fuck you Stacy

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Colleges are soon to start for Fall in the U.S., but things are getting weird. Some schools have cancelled on-campus activities altogether, yet mine, despite having the 3rd highest rate of coronavirus cases among universities here, is still requiring in person meetings despite almost all of the student body and staff being firmly against it.

So I'm in a weird place here. I don't even live in the same state as my college right now, and I'm scheduled to start on August 20th, but I haven't booked my room yet due to laziness and all this uncertainty. They're having another meeting to discuss stuff on August 11th which is when the switch to online could be made, but until then the future is unclear. I doubt housing would give me a refund for my dorm if they went full online, so essentially they could just be preparing to snatch our money for a service we don't need and get away with it.

What would you do in this situation? Doesn't it seem fucked?
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>>22605408
damn.
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>>22605102
Quit being a fucking pussy, you have a 1/2000 death rate at your age
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>>22605589
You misunderstand, I don't care about the disease, I care about not wasting $3000 on a dorm room I don't need
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>>22605102
Contact university. Tell them your state is in lockdown and you can't get there. They have to work something out with you.
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Buy a 3 months worth of food email you're uni to let them know you want be coming in you're a giant pussy, barricade the door to the house and sit in the corner staring at a wallp

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21 years old, still don't know how to drive. Will driving be hard for an autist like me? My social anxiety is pretty bad, I walk like a retard outside and get startled easily. I feel like I might get anxious from other drivers staring at me, and this would make me a danger in the roads.
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>>22604150
I'm 27 and I never did driving tests
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>>22606503
>2400 USD
Damn
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>>22604150
Actually driving might be easier for you if you can super-focus on what you're doing and not be distracted
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>>22606532
There is a massive difference between perceiving another vehicle and "looking at people"
I never look people in the face while driving but I'm still aware of my surroundings. If someone drives off course into me, my reptilian brain would probably jerk the wheel and try to dodge. I've been driving 5 years and have seen some idiots but never anything that's unhandlable
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>>22606532
Also if you paid so much detail to each driver that by looking at them you could tell they were fucking off, you would not be paying anywhere near enough attention to the road.

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Without an overdose or obvious suicidal signs like slitting my wrists again, or hanging myself; how do I mildly fuck up my body just enough to wind up in the back of the weewoo meat wagon, or in the ER?
Tried injecting 140ml room air into my median cubital vein over the past two days, 20 ml at first, then 40, then 80 yesterday and I'm still kicking. Thoughts? Need it done fast.

For referance; 170cm tall, 64kg F
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>>22605338
>Will not break up with my partner, she's hot and she makes me feel really happy. All rapey stuff aside; she is a lovely person and treats me really well.

Lelno
She is an unhealthy influence, sorry (notsorry) to say. She's not treating you well at all, cut her off.

Take care.
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>>22605338
>if I didn't have other people living in the same house as me

Oh dear, we're 80+ posts deep and finally this comes up.

Tell us about your family and the people in your house, OP. What's your relationship with them, what kind of people are they? Yoga anon here, btw
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>>22606583
I don't have any contact with my family at all. I live with other people, two adults. They're nice but super messy and I'm super neat so I do all the cleaning. They're also both lazy and loud.
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>>22606593
>I live with other people, two adults
How did you end up living with them, what's their relationship with you? Are they male or female? What's their age? Do they work?

>They're nice
In what way?

>super messy
>also both lazy and loud
Explain
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>>22606609
Living with them was came from homelessness. They are male & female. Can't say anything else without being identifying.
They're nice because they let me stay here and they're understanding.
They never clean up after themselves or clean the house.

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since i stopped playing ive learned a lot and done a lot and been super productive, but sometimes i think about the game for hours and really want to play it again, i was addicted to it for about a year, what do?
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>>22605490
So you waited like what? 30min?
How about you stop being an impatient faggot
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>>22605614
yeah how did you know? ive struggled with it for so long ive been trying to box it away and not download it and ive been successful for like 8 months its just really hard and i need help, i spent so much money on that game it wont get out of my head and everyone thinks im retarded
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>>22605778
I bet your parents are divorced.. daddy issues
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>>22605778
Read about sunk cost fallacy, here's an oldass article
https://youarenotsosmart.com/2011/03/25/the-sunk-cost-fallacy/
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>>22605363
Some people wait 5 hours to get a reply ,and you are bitching about it after 30 minutes faggot

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Anyone found a way to have a girlfriend yet?
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>>22605880
If this happens to you then you deserve it desu, this doesn’t happen in rl unless you’re autistic and can’t hold a decent conversation
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nope
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>>22605880
This happened to me too many times lol
They get whatever is coming to them
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>>22603998
Understand women (it's not that difficult, just frustrating during the moment), look hot by their standards, and tell them the gospel of the lord Jesus Christ.
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>>22603998
yes

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How the fuck do I make friends who don't have getting fucking drunk as their only hobby as a 28 year old guy with kind of shitty social skills?

I've always had a pretty small social circle and was okay with it when I was younger but the last few years I've realized they only really like hanging out if we're going to be getting drunk together.

I currently have two roommates, one of whom i'm in my second year of living with and one who just moved in who had been friends for a while before we got a place together, and they have a bit of a group of people they have over now and then. They have the group over probably at least a few times a week and everyone's nice to me but I don't feel myself being "accepted" into the group if that makes sense? Like even a year in I'm not sure if any of them would call me a friend probably just an acquaintance if not just "roommate of my friend" or "my roommate".

How do I go from a relationship to a friendship?
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>>22604300
Ok anon, do you have ANY hobbies or interests besides:
>Anime/Movies/Vidya
do you do anything remotely creative?
aka drawing, animating, 3d modeling, music, that kind of shit
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>>22604300
most people are generic faggots, that's why i ghosted all my friends. the only thing we had in common was turning up and fucking bitches. I only drank and smoked weed (occassionally with weed). These faggots would do every and any drug that was put in front of them. I was always left out of the coke circle, the ketamine circle, it got so fucking tiresome. most people are just primitive rats.

Why do you need friends? im serious. Like, I went to Thailand for 6 months completely alone, fucked 65 hookers, and i had a blast. i never made a single friend, but i had some amazing, riveting conversations with dudes from all over the world; sometimes about very esoteric subjects. that's more palatable to me than the company of faggots for 8 hours
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>>22605758
Who even has energy to do anything but consume things after work? Boggles my mind.
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>>22604300
What sorts of things are you interested in?
What sorts of people might also be interested in those things?
Where would those people be likely to hang out?
Go there.
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>>22604300
Don't look for friends. Look for activities. Put yourself in places where you are DOING something, in the company of others also doing it. Chat will come naturally.

Join a club, join a team, join a gym, join a church. Take a random evening class. Do volunteer work. Hang out at the comic book store.

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Can't upload the image to 4chan so the picture is unrelated.

But can we agree that the left one is more attractive than the middle one; both of them are universally infinitely more attractive than the right one? image is at imgur
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are we in fagbook now? fuck off
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>>22606723
I prefer the so-called far right
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>>22606723
Why the heck do you need validation from us?
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>>22606756
Would you go so far, as to say, radical?

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Recently I got into a serious LDR with a girl that I've never met in real life. She was still with her last bf when we exchanged nudes. Also, she cheated on her last bf with two guys and admitted she was using him for the money. She told me that another big dick bf facefucked and degraded her. Now she supposedly spends her time playing video games and smoking weed. Despite all this, I still have feelings for her. What would you do in this situation? Should I break up?
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>>22604534
She sounds like a real catch. I would sell all my worldly possessions and race across the globe to be with her.
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>>22604534
What are you trying to accomplish with this cancerous, unfunny bait? I'm genuinely curious. What are you getting out of this? Are you literally mentally ill?
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>>22606706

lmao
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>>22606727

it's not even a bait
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>what would you do in this situation?

I'd get a life

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Fall is coming next month, I was looking out the window and thinking how I can't wait to slip on some tights, a skirt and a comfy sweater and hug my boyfriend's arm as we look at the beautiful scenery of Autumn at night. It'd be cold around us but warm where we hugged (cheesy, I know.) But I don't know how to get a boyfriend in the situation I'm in being 4/10 (that's generous), socially awkward and have teeth problems. (I've had them since 10, a lot of my teeth have fallen out and we never had money to fix them.) I'm 19, any ideas? Thank you for any help.
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>>22604692
i envy women, if you decide, you'll be falling in love within a few weeks. hope you appreciate that most of us will never have that in our lives.
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>>22606640
you will my man, trust me. if we get rejected just push forward and keep trying and the right girl will come into our life sooner or later.
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>>22605976
how desperate are you jesus christ lmao
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>>22604814
Mentally ill incels aren't human on the inside, you have been warned
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>>22604692
drugs. works everytime.


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