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I still need some guidance about an eventual breakup I might go through soon.

I'm the anon from that other thread: https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/post/23354705/

I've been 10 years with the same girl, all the memories, the pictures, the animals we share, etc. How do you come over all of it?

I have thousands of picture of her on my phone, and to be honest I don't really want to get rid of them. I still love her somehow, it's just that 10 years of hurting each other has wore us thin. We are still trying to get it together because we're still a great team, great friends and we can achieve great things together but romantic-wise it's totally dead and has been for years. It's like living with a roommate that I get to touch her tits and see naked. It's not bad but we both get on each other's nerves so she thought of moving out but I know myself... if this happens I fear I'll cut it out because at this point there's no real reason of keeping the relationship... better off be friends. I feel this would be possible desu, we're both mature and can communicate and both feel like we don't want to live without the other... damn life is fucked.

On one side, I'm excited about living alone because I always had a roommate or a girlfriend and having to get a romantic relationship or simply having sex would be such a relief after all this time... And on the other side I fear living alone, I fear living without her because she takes care of me and I do the same for her and I guess we both find comfort in this routine. I feel it's all based on routine, comfort, fear and... friendship? There is love somewhere in that but the more I think about it the more I feel like letting it go... I'd have never thought it would come up to this, we had life long plans in common and thought we'd make crazy ass old folks... maybe we will, maybe not just the way we thought...
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>>23440741
Just got to put yourself out there sometimes
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>>23442036
100%
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>>23440741
stfu
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>>23442704
lmao you're just jealous XD
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>>23439785
don't let any girl judge you, if your own gf judges you... something is very fucking wrong

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This is not a troll post.

Yeah, I keep saying the N word everytime I have the chance. Sometimes I'll go into these random fits where I'll just say NIGGER NIGGER NIGGER NIGGER NIGGER NIGGER NIGGERRRR. I'll sometimes TV and image how the dialogue would sound if the person said NIGGER. Sometimes Ill just randomly saying "I hate NIGGER". 2 days ago I laughed when I imagine how that pickle fish from Spongebob would've sound if he said NIGGER instead of LOSER
>pickefish: NIGGER NIGGER NIGGER NIGGER
>Spongebob: I am not a nigger >:(
>picklefish: NIIIIGGG ERRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

My favorite way to say the N word is the way Ricardo Lopez says it in one of his video. The one where he says SHE'S FUCKING A NIGGER CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT? YES F U C K I N G

N I G G E R

That's.... U N A C C E P T A B L E

I repeat what he says and do it on a random occasion. I make threads just saying N on different boards because it triggers people so much.


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>>23426239
lol dont stop. its kind of funny. ive even said it walking down the street when pissed off at something. like it just automatically comes out. then i look around to see who might have heard hahaha. dont worry about it man. everyone hates white people and theyre being brainwashed to hate us. nigger.
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>>23426239
its very possible you have some sort of minor case of tourettes. put a rubber band on your wrist, and every time you say nigger, pull it back and sting yourself. like pavlov
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>>23441267
>everyone hates white people and theyre being brainwashed to hate us.
No they hate you cause you say things like “nigger” all the time
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just grow up, nigger is a nigger word.
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>>23442061
fuck you nigger

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I used to flirt with girls on Kik, but that's not an option anymore. Too shut-in/ugly for dating apps and not looking for a relationship either. Wut do?
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>>23442093
Whisper
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>>23442134
Will try thanks
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>>23442128
Nobody would trust you to be a man either, so go right ahead
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>>23442160
Great. 80% of the whispers in my city are from a tranny doing self bondage... you can't make this shit up
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Really depends on how attractive you are

Any tips on how a guy could stop being beta? What could I do to become more of a manly man in women's eyes? I want women to respect me. I want women to want me.
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>womens eyes
Be a man to support your family, not for some useless hoes
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>>23443164
I've already accomplished that aspect of the equation, I just want to have successful sexual relationships with women as well. Is that really an impossible task?

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wat do now
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>>23436349
i'm not from Kentucky or familiar with American lottery system

did this Anon actually win and how much??
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>>23436349
i'm telling /b/ and /pol/ about this
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Well shit op i don’t know i guess i would just retire and be happy maybe buy some games for my friend but that’s it i would never tell anyone i have that much money even just 1 out of your 750 m would change my life forever
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>>23436349
I doubt this is actually real, but if it is.. damn
anyway don't tell your family. not a single soul. fuck them all
this is from reddit but it's a good read nevertheless. don't know how viable this advice is though, you'd have to compare from different sources
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/24vzgl/you_just_won_a_656_million_dollar_lottery_what_do/chba4bf/
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>>23442268
Technically yes but I think there is also some watermark or something on the back.

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Bros how tf do I take my mind of cumming its literally all i can think about right now, im trying to do no fap for a week but i cant get past 2 days because i get so fucking horny going to bed. Im in bed right now and I can feel the urge so badly what do i do
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I tried nofap twice - first time I allowed porn and edging, and would literally spend hours consumed with those things. Eventually fucked up and ended my streak early. Obviously an unsatisfying end. Next time I did not allow myself to view ANY porn or touch my dick in a sexual way AT ALL. This helped immensely. Every time I would notice a chub coming on I would immediately tell myself that I will not humor it whatsoever. Generally makes it go away. You just have to believe and not humor the thoughts and feelings AT ALL.

Didn't end up sticking with nofap, idk if it'll work out for you but good luck trying and maybe you will see good results
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>>23440056
spend time on other hobbies to distract yourself
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>>23440056
you might just be in a state of bordom and a feed back loop (habbits)
this virus situation dosent help...

a side tip if you are healthy your mind will never leave you alone
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>>23440056
no fap bullshit is pseudoscience you're never going to want to stop cumming. I cum bareback in my wife every day and I still want to cum all the time. I do still moderate my fapping so that the sensitivity is better when we do have intercourse even when you can get pussy every day.
You just need to focus on other hobbies and distractions. If at the end of the day you are horny and want to cum before you go to bed just do it and relieve yourself.

I'm not saying no fap doesn't have it's merits, if you are actually addicted to porn and masturbation and it's interfering with your actual life then cutting back is a good idea.
If you are simply depressed and feel guilty because you spend an hour of your time cumming twice a day just get over yourself, fapping isn't your problem.
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>>23440056
Stop listening to snake oil salesmen on the internet and jack off. Don't watch p*rn though.

I'm having trouble with meditation. My shrink is an excellent shrink and has been very helpful. Among other more helpful things, she wants me to try meditation for my anxiety and compulsive/obsessive thoughts but I just can't do it. I close my eyes, turn on a guided meditation, and within a minute or two my throat feels like it's closing up and my chest feels like there's an elephant on it. My mind simply cannot stop racing. The more they describe peaceful settings the more anxious I get and the more I feel I can't escape my own mind. What am I doing wrong? Help?
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>>23442938
Become a Buddhist
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>>23442938
Meditation in it's simplest form is just trying to watch what happens. Your mind wanders, thoughts arise, you notice sensations. After quite a while of watching you slowly stop to identify so much with these thoughts. They come up the same way that a gust of wind comes up when you're outside. There isn't anyone making them happen, just the one obesrving.
Now, the key thing is TRYING to watch. Your mind WILL wander, that is normal. Don't force anything, just set the intention to try and watch your breath and if you notice you haven't been paying attention go back and acknowledge that that is a positive thing. You want to reinforce the pattern of noticing and going back to the breath. Your first instinct might be to talk down to yourself. "I am an idiot for not being able to do such a simple thing". But then you are punishing yourself when the thing you want to do just happened and creating negative association.
Sit down, try to focus on the breath sensation at the tip of your nose, every time you notice you haven't been paying attention focus on the sensation again and feel proud that you were able to notice.
It's normal to be shit at this. The only thing that is important is that you keep trying. Like with the breath every time you notice that you havened been meditating, don't beat yourself up but instead set an intention to do it again.
It's okay to have these feelings in your body too. It's not your fault that they are arising, it's just a result of what happened to you during your life. If you want to you can cry.
I can recommend the book "The mind illuminated" it's a very clear outline.
I wish you the best on your journey. Try not to put any pressure to succeed on yourself, there is no "success" with this. It's a practice and if you notice positive changes then thats great! If not, just keep trying (not trying "harder").

Metta to you my friend :)
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>>23442938
Do you realize that the claustrophobic judgement of your mental space is also just another thought? And do you also realize that meditation is not an exercise in force or will, it’s not about controlling the mind or making it the way you want it. It’s much more about noticing what the mind is like, and realizing that all of the suffering that comes from it is actually your own judgements of the experience. You decide that feeling this way is bad, and that you can’t stand it. That’s a thought that causes suffering. See if you can just notice that you had that thought, accept that it happened, but don’t let it automatically be your reality. Don’t just live it.

I dont want to date "bad" girls anymore yes there hot but there so bad for my life where can i find a qt girl who is nice and isent a emo bitch with a billion mental illnesses or a bitch with her head up her ass thinking her shit dont stink. Volunteering at shelters or something like that?
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>>23443054
thats the thing i have been for about 8 months since i broke up with my last girl, ive tried to become nicer and other things i just dont really know were to start i dont need a majic girl i just want one whos normal
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>>23443066
Ok that's nice. Now if you think you're ready, the good girls are in school, mostly in good programs like scientific ones, so it depends if you're in uni rn. You can find them at work i guess but it's 100 hoes for 1 normal one. Other than that you might have to ask your parents for contacts, or try volunteering yeah
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>>23443080
im only 20 and im in policing which is mostly dudes :/ ill try volunteering
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>>23443044
Work on your English. You sound like a 12 year old.
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>>23443098
ohhh you're a cop ? lol maybe that's why you attract bad people

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I fucked a lot of guys, and I feel like I've made myself into a whore.

How can I escape this slutty past and find nice guys again? I'm always completely honest about my sexual past with everyone I date, I don't want to lie to guys.
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>>23440737
Be a person you would want to hang out with.
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>>23442444
Trips of truth
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>>23443029
>only children care if you are a degenerate
You mean date someone who is old enough to have been beaten down by life enough to no longer care about ideals
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>>23442444
It doesn’t feel special for a man to be embraced by a woman that will embrace anything.

It doesn’t feel special for a woman to get a man to stay, who doesn’t have any other options.
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>>23440737
You didn't fuck a lot of guys, a lot of guys fucked you. Start from there and quit being embarrassing

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I don't want to go to a therapist but I'm afraid I have no choice, what do?
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>>23440118
try it, if it doesn't work then you at least tried

but actually try it
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>>23440401
>Have you ever gone to one?
Tried a couple times. They always piss me off so much I don't bother with a second visit.
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>>23440118
Just give it a shot. It's probably not as bad as you think.
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Don't do it , if your smart enough sort out your problem yourself , if you got freind's talk to them .... I went to 2 therapists .First one caused so much psychological damage ( was freinds with my abusive parents ) coulden't sleep withought a knife in my bed for 4 years due to that (diden't trust ANYONE). The other told me to do something that ultimately ment I diden't go to college. They all have their own agenda ,and like everyone are corupt and just people.
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>>23440118
I didnt for work and social reasons. After I destroyed everything it was actually good to tell personal stuff to a person I didnt give shit about.

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Since being horny seems to have no benefit to me. How do I stop being horny permanently?
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Castration. Be super unhealthy.

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>be me
>42 year old anon
>sex life with wife non existent
>feel sort of left out of jokes and other stuff that people normally develop bonds from
>join this ‘club’
>feel my manhood coming back to me! my dick can get hard again
>haven’t felt this way in years
>don’t have to be scared of my lack of self identify and masculinity anymore because I’m part of this ‘club’ now
>feels like we’re on the same frequency
>foudmyforeverfriends.jpeg
>the leader of this ‘club’ is the best!
>he tells us what’s wrong with society these days, how everything is corrupt
>sometimes the leader is a bit weird, like he has a spit personality or something but all geniuses are like that
>wife and daughter say there is something wrong with me, like I’ve joined a cult
>libtards.webm

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pic related
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>>23443075
2024
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>>23443075
You really, really don't sound like you're 42 years old. Get your shit together, I don't sound like that even when I'm blackout drunk. And find a straight club next time
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>>23443075
terrible fanfic op, try harder

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i need /adv/ice
a little backstory, i have been with my previous boyfriend for a year, and throughout the many months we've been together, we've had a couple issues but we always dealt with it. I'm apparently his ideal type which he describes as "traditional asian gf" and we planned our future with kids and all. But towards the last couple of months, he became distant or would put less effort in things or would say things that were avoidable so i thought he's doing it on purpose to hurt my feelings, it eventually lead us to take a 'break' for a couple days instead of breaking up. But during those days he confided in another girl and he told me he liked her. So naturally, i wanted a break up but he threatened to blackmail me if i left him but he eventually realized and changed.
>Should i forgive him and get back together? because i can't forsee a future without him
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>>23441515
If the guy left you, he's obviously not the one for you.
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>>23441755
it's more like i left him
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>>23441515
Yes, you should definitely get your relationship advice from anonymous strangers online. My advice is to go fuck yourself, you dead inside cunt.
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>>23441515
It's normal to hesitate from commitment, especially with guys. I would give him a chance especially if he realized his mistake, it takes guts and a lot of ego drop to admit that to a girl. If you get back together learn to subtly make him feel masculine around you then he will never leave.
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>>23442133
If you've found the right person you fight, otherwise the person isn't the one. That's my 5 cents

>it is a normal winter in the east coast
>bat appears, flies around my basement
>fail to catch it, can't find it
>two weeks pass
>another bat (???) flies around my basement
>catch it, set it free
Same bat, or different bat you bet?
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>>23441542
same bat also why did you post this
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>>23441542
Whats the point of this
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bump

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All the work in my country pays peanuts or is illegal. I'm an Argie who is fluent in Spanish and English. Where can I get work online as a translator?
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>>23442132
Try posting ads (physically or online) at universities where students might need research materials translated.
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Being a tutor isn't a bad idea either.




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