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I'm the proverbial man-child. I spend my days playing retro video-games, reading comic books from my childhood, I even browse old websites on archive.org that I used to frequent back in the day. Back in the 90s/early 2000s everything was so much simpler. It wasn't perfect but it was pretty great. Movies, TV and vidya were all better back then. There was no social media or identity politics shitting up everything. I don't even feel like I belong anymore.
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You're on the right track to making something amazing anon, keep at it. It's nice to see a project being developed and the image of people enjoying what you create is strong enough to keep me going. Godspeed anon.
I'm just not a creative type

Same. I can do 4 different things. You can do 0. Try something. Take up knitting then you worthless dope. It doesn't matter what you do. Just get out of the past.

It's called practice. No one is born amazing. If that were the case I'd be rich and not dealing with horrible people All day.

Unless you're disabled or severely repressed or in a shit hole country then you can do it. I believe in you dumbass.

Archviz isn't even hard. I only stuck with sculpting because it's hard as fuck.
>identity politics shitting up everything
The only reason those times were good was because you were a literal child with the ability to ignore politics. "Identity" politics or any kind of politics were always present and have been.

You just got stupider and dont know how to not let politics ruin shit for you now. Relearn how to ignore it retard.

Also if you waste too much time being nostalgic of the good old times, then you will miss the opportunity to make good new times.

Maybe you really should consider suicide and save us the trouble. Your mentality is weak lmao

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I have no friends now, no gf and have been basically a psuedo hermit outside of online school and running since March I feel completely invisible and as though my life has no meaning or value, it's gotten so bad that I have been slacking completely on my studies since I find very little if any purpose in it because no matter how far I progress it's as though i am invisible and no one cares but me and getting As has very little value of me personally, I just want friends and a significant other who cares about me and actually wants me around. After 24 years of trying to integrate socially in society and trying to fit in it feels like it's impossible, it's not like I never had friend groups but they always grew distant from me or ended up hating me when I try to open myself up it's been very discouraging and I kinda wanna just give up on it all since it feels like if I don't have a stable friend group at this point and never had a gf that it simply will never happen.
>"how to build up self steem from thin air?"
You can't, that's why you have no self steem for starters, the only way to get it, it's by constant emotional support from family, friends, gf. But we both know that's not gonna happen nor you will have it.
tl:dr you are fucked, consider cope or suicide, there's no other way.
You a blackpiller?
I live in reality, and reality doesn't cares about your optimistic delusions.
He’s right about the thin air part but don’t just give up. Working out and meditation will help. Start there. Just do some body exercises even.

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>"Your face makes up for your frontal body"

This is what my BF said to me tonight. He's a chubby chaser in denial. Says he just likes "thick" girls. We ALL know what that means: chubby/mildly fat chicks. He has proved me correct by showing me examples of what he considers hot. Low and behold, all fat girls.

I don't care. At the weight I am now, I'm considered chunky/chubby and I'm super lucky to have him.

I've drawn my body in the pic attached. I have saggy but large tits, and a stomach that pops out but doesn't hang so it just looks bloated, not really fat. I dont have fat rolls thank god. The problem comes around when I turn around. I look slim from behind, you can see my spine line and I'd actually consider myself attractive from the back. From the front view, I look like a somewhat typical mom body yet have never had kids so I'm just cursed and it's been that way since my tits started growing at age 8. And from the back I'm a slutty college girl.

Pretty sure my BF likes my backside more because he says quotes like "wow ur back is so sexy and slutty looking, u have such a nice shape" and doesn't say anything remotely as complimentary when he sees my front. All I really get is "ur so womanly. I love ur tits" Almost as if he's forcing it. But when I turn around, he gushes and it's all sincere and genuine.

Cont.............. >>
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>why didn’t you break up about the looks over personality thing

The nail in my coffin. Cause I love him. I always see myself as ugly so how could any man just wanna be w me for my looks? I never dared assume he was with me for that reason.. cuz I don’t have much to offer in that department.. but after hearing it to m face.. like wtf do I do now
>By the amount of times you insulted me, it’s clear the autist is you sir
I just calls em like I sees em
This sentiment is also insulting to autists. I was using the term literally (which ironically is pretty autistic) while you’re just using it to be insulting (which ironically is pretty insulting)
>my sudden bout of insecurity that HE caused
Oh fuck off, no one else is responsible for your feelings you fucking child, no one can read your mind
wtf are you even on about?
Break up obviously. Sounds like you guys both have problems. Try and love or at the very least be contented with yourself first instead of relying on others. At least find a guy who likes you for your personality not your looks. In any case you yourself care so much about your looks so either come to terms with not being 100% physically attractive to your partners or find someone who is 100% physically attracted to you. You're wasting each others' time. You expect him to reassure you so much but he isn't 100% attracted to you so he literally cannot be natural and honest with you without him upsetting you. He'd have to exaggerate, lie, or side step to spare your feelings and he probably doesn't want to have to step on eggshells with you for the rest of his life. Eventually he is going to be unsatisfied, resentful, or want to leave because of this. One of you will have to settle or compromise. Do you both even have the same views when it comes to reassurance and physical attraction in a relationship?

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I plan on taking an Electrical/Electronic Fundamentals program next spring semester and I need help. It requires a decent amount of math, math that I don't remember! It's been a while since I was in any school and after entering the workforce my brain dumped a good amount of the mathematics that I knew. Has anyone ever been in this situation? How did you persevere? Any websites that can help me refresh my memory? I'm currently at Khanacademy doing some courses.
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Complex numbers and trigonometry
design math? I'm confused
I forgot all the math I learned in school but after picking up Lang's A First Course in Calculus I got back up to speed. Just do it anon!
Khan Academy is good, there are a lot of different courses you can watch for calc/trig. Neither are difficult to relearn if you already know them, especially trig (just remember soh cah toa and that's what you'll mostly be using in a non calc course).

For calc id recommend finding a cheap used book online so that you can go over the practice problems. The biggest thing with calc is remembering all the rules for the derivatives
There’s usually a preparatory program you can attend. To retake basic algebra and stuff like that.
Go through the “module handbook”, ans figure out what each course requires. Uni is chill but if you fuck up, unfucking is hard.
I’m in my third semester Mechatronics, EE is the hardest breh, i fucked up two semesters and i might fail my degree cause of that.
Plan and keep a straight head

I have a caring boyfriend. Such a caring boyfriend that I sometimes feel I could let myself become a total slob and he would just try and help me through. He says he loves me, a huge amount. I believe him.

I don't know if I love him, but I say I do. When I do he believes me. I say it because I know I care about him, and want the best for him, and would have a hole in my soul if he was hurting or lost.

But it feels uneven. I feel afraid to voice my doubts for the same reasons I say I love him. It hurts, its choking and it makes it hard for me to feel close with him.

I know you'll all hate me for this, but when we started seeing eachother, I didn't really believe anyone could love me. So I always assumed he'd disappear, sooner or later. A few days before he finally told me he wanted to be exclusive, I went on a date with another guy. Nothing happened but I lost that powerless longing for my then yet-to-be boyfriend. It became more of an assured decision that he was someone I wanted to be with, but I knew that yearning was gone. I miss it. I want to yearn again.

I know this is a thing, that you default to the kind of romance you're used to, but that's tough to accept. I could make an amazing life with him but maybe be dissatisfied with it until my final days. It scares me.

Or I could wait until he's secured the contract at his dream job and go back out into the wilderness with all the lessons being with him has taught me. That scares me too, because he'd be gone for ever, and I know I'd miss him so much.
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Semen is full of the stuff men use to frow hair.
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Dangerously Based
I really want to see him get dumped, it will be fucking funny
Sounds like you want to break up but don't think it would be fair, well life isn't fair so you do you
You really need to grow up emotionally to invest in a serious relationship from.what I'm hearing. Any somewhat emotionally aware adult understands what you are describing here is just the difference between the infatuation period and mature love. Make no mistake, you disgust me as a person and how your selfish and immature concepts of love and life, and you're failure to grasp these simple ideas, will damage other people. But this is jyst objective fact. If you continue to confuse infatuation with mature love and take these idiotic teen girl "the spark isn't there anymore but I thought he was the one" mentality, you will have the unfulfilling lifetime you seem to fear, but at your own hand because yoy'll destroy everything you begin to build due to your own ignorance and selfish, childish mindset about love and life. And if you wish to destroy your own life, fine, but unfortunately, what people like you fail to grasp in your selfishness, is you'll hurt and damage many others very badly in your destructive path through life.

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Confess your sins brothers
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4chan day and night. 4chan first thing in the morning before coffee. 4chan before going to bed. I start think and worry about total Anon strangers and wish to help them. My life is 4chan and it’s my drug I can’t control it. I used to play the piano, loved to read now only 4chan. I even use 4chan in the bathroom, in the kitchen when cooking 4chan. Even when talking IRL I think about 4chan. When outside even in the middle of the sidewalk 4chan. I am fucked.
I love you

Anyway you should work on the impulse control of even initiating the action you wish to quit or just like give up or whatever I dunno
I don’t know where to fit in. I guess I can keep living my own life mostly alone, and I’ll probably be fine. Sometimes I feel like I’m wasting my life. I definitely have done wrong things in the past. Maybe I deserve to feel like this. Maybe I’m fine.
I draw fetish porn for money and its not even for fetishes i enjoy. In fact, its for 2 highly specific fetishes i despise and hate with my very being. But the money is so good that im too dependent on it. Fuck that fetish and the people in it.
Cant wait to fucking retire from it. Might be soon considering I was able to put $25k into savings this year alone. My goal for 2021 is to put in another $25k into savings.
I absolutely refuse to study and to work. As soon as I have to become a homeless, I'll shoot myself. Better dead than having to study or to work. I really hate studying or working.

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I was falsely accused of rape after an argument with some chick on the topic of #metoo. My name was anonymously placed on a public mobbing list of rapists, doesn't say why, what or who, but lists where I could be located.

She kept saying no when I told her how delusional and uninformed she was about sexual assault and that she wasn't doing favors for actual victims when I called her out for making false accusations claiming that I and other unrelated men went around somehow sexually assaulting people in public, and then she got offended when I jokingly argued back and said "stop fantasizing" and then she went onto publicly claim that I raped her on social media. A lot of people I've never met my whole life started contacting me to talk shit, and target me with cursing.

This is a girl I don't even know or have probably never actually met. I've been contemplating suicide these past days because I lost all of my friends I've known for years because they saw my name on there. I'm way too autistic and introverted to ever assault anyone. Now my social anxiety is even worse.

I only made rape jokes to make fun of her because I only wanted to be funny. It's all fun and games until you get falsely accused of rape. I guess when you play stupid games, you win stupid prizes right?
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I've heard defamation cases are a thing, I'm not sure if that's worth pursuing. I can't give you much advice on that other than you have to figure out whether its worth spending time/money/stress on.

The next thing is to figure out which relationships are salvageable. If you can't save a relationship, just cut your loses and move on. There's no point stressing over what you can't control.

If there is a public mobbing list perhaps class action is possible. You're probably not the only person who has been falsely accused, and may be able to find support among similar people.

Don't kill yourself. Don't lie down and die.

Rape is a real problem, but so are false accusations.

It sounds like you misunderstood the seriousness of rape, but that does not make you a rapist and you don't deserve to have your life destroyed.

I hope autism and introversion are not the only reasons you would not assault someone.
No. This is the way.
Bad idea
Is this bait?
Who keeps making these threads on /adv/
Find all the Metoo false accusations cases. Try to use the past cases as assistance to your claim and build strong foundation of your innocence. If friends dropped you, try to save and repair the damage at least you deserve the right to be able to speak your truth. If friends refuse to believe Fuck them! With friends like this who needs enemies. Get strong support system at home parents, grandparents, brothers even uncles. Stay close to your blood. Clear your name. Change all Social media. If things are beyond help then try all you can lawyers, victim support hot line, suicide hot line, bullying support line. Rebuild yourself. Change your legal name if you have to. Never tell your name online again. Never talk rape, violence,assault with a woman. Now it’s a War against men. Unite with the victims of women’s false accusations form support with other victims fight for your rights. Never give up.

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How long does it take to recover mentally from smoking weed daily for a year? Got into that terrible habit, and I've been clean for a month now.

What are some of your personal tips and tricks (bedsides get off 4chan) on maximizing your productivity, and mental stamina and resilience? In the best case, becoming a relentless powerhouse of activity?
Good suggestion (though I already use stims more than I ought to, preferably looking for natural tips)
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good sleep, maybe doing light breathing meditation for 10-15 min before sleep to improve your sleep quality and mental clarity. maintiain ocd clean room and clear surfaces so you dont get depressed and demotivated when you look around your room or workspace. eat healthy food, dont be afraid of meat, get fruits veggies in as well. Not too many simple carbs and sugar. Exercise often, especially cardio like running to keep your veins clear so your brain gets enoygh oxygen. Think about why youre doing what youre doing, long term goals and benefits, visualize your ideal outcome and use that to decide your priorities. Spend some time each day working on something thats important to you, even if its not urgent.
Let go of your pride and realize where you have fucked up or are fucking up and try to do better. Let go of resentment and forgive others for everything. Dont be mentally weighed down by personal strife. Do routine/repetitive tasks as fast as possible. Idk thats it for now i dont want to keep typing lol.
Thanks for sharing your tips, all pretty sage. My current main pitfalls from those I'd say are not sleeping, eating and exercising enough; I should try to be more organized and get them in order again, I know it benefits other stuff (I just have little self-discipline so I've often been staying up all night working while lazy to cook or exercise for long).

Yeah the visualizing of ideal outcomes and goals is paramount in deciding priorities accurately. I try to prioritize all the time but you're right it's good to set aside time regardless where you can for other activities that are meaningful to you. Godspeed anon

My diceased ex bf had erectile dysfunction-created complications-and it was one of his biggest insecurities (we were 19/20 at the time) but i was literally so fuckin into him i took his virginity and made his dick work, id slop on his flaccid penis just to relieve my stress after work. It was such an achievement to make him cum. Deep down I truly wanted to marry him/have his offspring but we broke up years before i got married over some career/long distance relationship bs. Before he committed suicide there were multiple times i wanted to message him (my soon to be ex husband was physically abusive to me at the time) he dated a few girls after me but even then I wish I KNEW if he was planning on exiting cuz one of the reasons he did was not wanting to die alone (ironic) like I LITERALLY wanted to have a family with this guy and still loved him/had no closure ect even after i got married-thats what i get for not being true to myself. But yeah, moral of the story is idgaf about the extra work, or if the cock will destroy my insides or not, it was the best passionate/meaningful sex ive ever had. The only butterflies i get is when i think of that dick actually getting up inside me. If he didnt pass id have him squirt his little seeds in me rn.
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OP is fucking wacko what the fuck
Relationships shouldnt be defined by sex life anyway, there’s alternatives to getting freaky. I feel like i need to start a trend or movement on women understanding this. PLUS men with ED are much less likely to become fuckboys. Hoes will be hoes but theres deffs a communication barrier between this subject/ED/companionship ect
>I feel like i need to start a trend or movement on women understanding this
Women post about it on social media to virtue signal and then not follow it behind closed doors. This is what they always do kek
I could see that if they don’t actually care
Sigh, why do I find these stories hilarious

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Girl I recently started dating is insecure about having almost no female friends and having mostly only guy friends.
How can I help her, is this a red flag?
Leave her. Every girl I’ve dated like that ended up fucking one of them. Don’t even entertain the thought
she never dated any of them and isn't really THAT close with them
Why is she insecure?
Well I don't know but she probably doesn't feel all that feminine because of that or something, not a psychologist
I mean you should ask her. How do you think you can help her when you don't know why she feels that way? Depending on the reason there's different ways to help and the reason may or may not be a red flag.

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Is it possible that some people just aren't meant to date/have sex?
I'm a soon to be 28 yo virgin. Like 6 or so years ago I had massive social anxiety and was a generally very unhappy person, but after lots of working on myself I'm honestly in a much better place than I used to be. I'm very happy with my job and coworkers, I've gone from being a lardass that got winded going up the stairs to running 5k in under 20 minutes. I legitimately have no issues chatting up with people or doing social stuff and have a solid circle of friends I enjoy and share things with unlike before where we were just a bunch of miserable people that didn't want to be even more lonely.

However it's also true that my success with women is exactly the same as before: 0. But for some reason it's not something I struggle as much as I did before. I masturbate a lot so I'm not asexual, but all the bitterness I used to have has kind of faded into a quiet acceptance. I'd like to do it once to get it off my mind, but other than that I realize I'm 28 so it's not like I'm going to be having mindblowing sex this late in my life.

Am I still normal? Or have I just fallen for how easy it is to have your sexual urges satisfied by surrogates and would be wise to start trying to meet someone?
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What makes you think I don't talk to women?
>Is it possible that some people just aren't meant to date/have sex?

Date = fucking around before marriage. Sin causing suffer.

Life serving behavior is courtship; time to planing new family, from practical matters where to live? what to do for a living? How to fit well in a fabric of local society.

Have sex - sin, that you never ever suppose to do in your entire life . Sex , destroy happy married couples. Sex is a root of all evil against family. I old days purpose of marriage was to escape Devil, strategy to avoid Sodomy.

Marriage is not because you fall in love or like to please your genitals. Marriage is considerate as service to God and strategy to escape Sodomy.

If you need love go to mama. But if you have request to do something in order to met your need for love , then spark of life is possible.
If you have intention to make life more wonderful to people around you, create circumstances where spark of free human will could be possible. If you have loving intention to serve life, people can sense it, by their hearts.
It is delicate feeling not everyone, will pick it up that pinch of high morality.

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zoomer tradcaths are weird
that you are a virgin?
Not OP, but being able to hold a friendly conversation with a woman doesn't make them interested in you.

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Hi guys, recently found a girl who was from the same city as me, but studied abroad. We had a lot of conversations on a variety of topics and everything was fine. She once asked me to contact her best friend, just to get to know her human space and so on. So, we met and went to drink beer. What I really didn't expect was to see her near where we were drinking. She wanted to surprise me, but I was very embarrassed, so I was silent all the time and only tried to tell some anecdotes, which, to be honest, were very bad. The next day she came to me. And here's what happened next (I tried to make a meme out of it):
be me:
<invite a girl to your home
<create a lot of awkward situations
<look at her for no reason
<try to laugh at her jokes about you
<act like a pussy
<stop sending her messages because of panic and fear of total rejection
<listen to music from NHK and analyze it endlessly
<start eating drugs as your health gets shitty due to nervousness and sadness

What would you recommend me to do in this situation? I really like her, but she doesn't seem to be willing to continue communication with me.

So, I went to the grocery store with my cousin. And I seen a cashier that is 10/10 cute face and seductive voice. After that, Me and my cousin went to check out and after the cashier scanned our item, my cousin paid for the grocery. And when we was about to leave I take the basket and put it in the correct spot. The cute cashier said “Thank you” I said no problem and my cousin said you’re an gentleman. I was too afraid to ask her out. And I never have a girlfriend in my life. So, Anon how do I make her my girlfriend?

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Hello /adv/ I need help with several issues.

>nearly 30
>high functioning autist
>no job
>can't drive (I don't trust myself not to harm someone by accident)
>school kicked me out for BS reasons so I only know basic fundamentals
>get very anxious easily if I'm not sure what to do.
>tend to be a little forgetful
>live with my mom
>she is lazy and coddles me but then screams at me for trying to do the right thing (literally yanks shit out of my hand(s) if I make a single mistake) and worst of all gossips about things that should be private so I feel like I can't tell her anything without it getting repeated
>I've tried multiple times to call out her shitty behavior but it goes unheard
>she goes through multiple toxic relationships during my teens, I warned her those guys were going to be ass hats but she did not listen, she broke up with them when they threatened me with violence. (which gives me trust issues because she kept taking their side for ages before that)
>dad gives zero shits, he had to take me for the weekends but as soon as I hit 18 not even a phone call.
>have only a little money saved away

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I don't feel like getting PTSD or dying for the sake of an uncaring morally bankrupt government to let oil tycoons to get even richer then they already are just for a few lousy medals.

I'm autistic, not naive.
The only one holding yourself back is you. because " i dont feel like". but you feel like holding youself back? get a grip loser.
I never said I didn't want to do things, just not that.
Are you me?
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