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>catch oneitis for girl at uni
>it goes away like the common cold after a week
>start lusting for that feeling again
>cant tell if i want her again or just the feeling of love because she pops into my head occasionally but at the same time i dont care

help
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>>25439439
>oneitis
I like how they made up a word to pretend desiring a monogamous relationship wasn’t the default
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>>25439537
thats not what oneitis means fucktard
a oneitis is a girl you get super attracted to for one reason or another and think shes gotta be 'the one.' it typically ends with getting emotionally attached then heartbroken
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>>25439507
then move on retard, not that complicated
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>>25439507
Move on, hate her if you have to. Plenty of women out there that want the same thing as you do.
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>>25440184
>>25440568
yeah i'm going to do that then, I'm guessing I will just torture myself trying to chase her, besides next semester I should be in a class filled with mostly girls.

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Am I wasting my time looking for an entry level job that I can work from home? Everything I find ends up being survey scams and malware. I don't have reliable transportation to go to a normal job so I'm not sure what to do now.

How come everybody kisses the same goofy boring way? I think everybody in my country just conditioned each other to the most retarded way of making out like there's no buildup within it or a strategy to making it feel good at all.

I'm talking about my whole country while I've only kissed about a dozen girls, but I feel like there could be something more to making out that I've not experienced yet? Any tips?
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>>25438627
sure
>swallowing saliva
>sucking tongues
>licking teeth
>fingering someone's mouth
>letting someone suck a hot slick turd outta yo bunghole
>flavor play: eating or sucking on something tasty before kissing someone
>drugs: having an lsd blotter on your tongue while french kissing someone
>sucking on sugar cubes before kissing someone and then spitting in their mouth
>spicy kiss: swishing hot sauce in your mouth before kissing
>icy kiss: ice cubes
>cum kiss: cumming in your mouth before kissing someone
>shit kiss: spreading a tiny bit of shit on your lips before you kiss someone (sneaky!)
>performing CPR on her by blowing air in her mouth

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>>25438656
Do you swallow other's saliva when you kiss? EWWWW (not OP)
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>>25438627
Girls have said I’m an amazing kisser, but one said I kiss like a girl and that kinda messed with me for a bit because I dunno what that really means. Anyway, what I like to do is slide my tongue under hers and then snake around. Other than that, I relax my face as much as possible because I hate kissing people who are tight-lipped. Like if their lips are firm it feels bad, but if I relax my face as much as I can it makes my lips soft. Soft kisses are better than firm kisses, if that makes sense.

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>be 21 y/o uni student
>live with gf
>be isolated together from the social aspect of university
>never had roommates, or had to meet people to not be lonely
>still have a few friends

Today there is a party in celebration of 'Day of the Student'. My mom just called only to beg me to "be normal for once" and go out. None of my friends will be there.

I don't like club settings for several reasons:
>Loud music doesn't allow for conversation
>I can't dance
>There are a lot of strangers there, which scares me
>In my experience it's never fun unless you're drunk and with a group of friends
>I don't like drinking, it's literally intoxicating(poisoning) yourself and you can tell on the day after
>It's also quite late which fucks with my sleep schedule

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>>25440070
This is a lie.Need implies you'll die without it. Air,food,water,shelter are needs.
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>Loud music doesn't allow for conversation
>I can't dance
>There are a lot of strangers there, which scares me
>In my experience it's never fun unless you're drunk and with a group of friends
>I don't like drinking, it's literally intoxicating(poisoning) yourself and you can tell on the day after
>It's also quite late which fucks with my sleep schedule
I like how none of this actually matters, but you've convinced yourself it does. That said, don't force yourself to go to something you don't enjoy, unless YOU feel like you need to step out of your comfort zone.
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>>25440070
All humans need social interaction that makes them comfortable. I would much prefer hanging out with a small group of friends than going out to a party
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>>25440108
All humans also need to learn how to be comfortable in - or at least be able to tolerate - social interaction that they may dislike. OP isn't always going to be able to avoid going to parties, and shit
I don't like going to weddings/funerals, but I still so it, anyway. If I didn't, everyone would rightfully shit on me. I just drink a few beers, to loosen myself up, and get on with it. Sometimes, it ends badly, but it's still better than never going, in the first place
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>>25440070
You're speaking your prejudices as if they were absolute rules, given by nature, and it's bullshit.

What's more, what you said doesn't apply to OP. People need social interaction because they have jobs, studies, hobbies, etc. which require social interaction.
The further demand that people MUST spend their recreational time socially, it's nonsensical.

>>25440135
>If I didn't, everyone would rightfully shit on me.
Not everyone would. If everyone who surrounds you is like that, then you are surrounded by shitty people, and you choose to be so because you like grew in a dysfunctional enviroment with strict behavioral rules (the ones that prescribe that is and is not normal)

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Hey /adv/,
I am a young dude and because I gained a quite amount of weight this year unfortunately I got picrel on several parts of my body.
Is there any way to get rid of them, if so how?
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They are permanent but fade somewhat over time, vitamin e lotion helps supposedly
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>>25440415
Micro needling and you can get lotion that is made specifically to make them fade if the least healthy thing about your body is the stretch marks you have from losing weight just own it lol whenever you explain it to someone they might gain respect seeing a physical representation of the effort you put in scarred on your body sort of like muscle in a reverse way
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girl makeup on your stomach over the stretchmarks

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I'm a social recluse, I don't enjoy socializing and a laundry list of negative experiences prevent me from ever trusting again, but I'm also genetically blessed and when I don't give a shit can be charming despite being a complete social retard.

I was thinking of making a youtube channel where among other things I go do social things neets, incels, those on the spectrum, etc. would typically struggle with as sort of a how-to sort of thing. I thought I could try going to conventions in costumes, going to a renaissance fair, concerts, stuff like that which would initially still afford me a little anonymity and basically I'd take suggestions on things people struggle with or would find amusing to see a socially retarded person attempt and do them.

It occurs to me because a couple of my exes had similar issues and I remember when I was younger being worse and for example having to throw up if I was in a crowded restaurant, or suddenly becoming drenched in sweat if I was in a long line at a store. I used to have panic attacks on the ride to school, and I always thought I was pretty bad back then but the exes I refer to I remember in particular they were all terrified of ordering food at drive-thrus. Part of it was them enjoying me ordering for them, but as I couldn't always be there I got them over it by rationalizing it the way it didn't bother me. They're doing a job. They literally work for you. You have no need to impress them and you know exactly what you're going to say so there's no pressure on any level. If you don't know what you want, ask them to give you a minute. If you're confused about something on the menu, just ask and they'll explain. It's nothing to be stressed about.

What are some situations you struggle with?
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>I'm a social recluse, I don't enjoy socializing and a laundry list of negative experiences prevent me from ever trusting again, but I'm also genetically blessed and when I don't give a shit can be charming despite being a complete social retard.
what a bizzarely common archetype here on fourchannel

decent idea though OP, just make sure you're reddit friendly. there's a hell of a lot more losers over there than on 4chan imo but theyre a different flavor of soft. be very supportive of all your fans and engage with them a lot, big reason why noel deyzel is so popular for example
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Bump.
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>>25437943
>noel deyzel
Who?
Asking for a friend
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>>25440084
Looked him up on youtube, appears to be a soft-spoken British body builder who's open about using steroids and does a lot of motivational speeches and instructional videos.

I am 20 and my hairline is receding so fast at the moment I am coping with a fade but I know it won’t suffise a year from now.
>inb4 shave it and get over it
I can’t my head shape is utterly fucked beyond saving and I have fluctuating asymmetry which my hair is helping hiding
do you think it’s worth to take finasteride I am hearing a lot of stories especially form the post finasteride syndrome association.
I don’t mind the lower libido I am more concerned about the cognitive side effects especially since my brain is still developing
what do you think?
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>>25439799
Nobody gives a shit you little girl.
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>>25439824
you sound like a foid you you will never understand
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>>25439799
Most people never get side effects. Even if you get cognitive side effects they will subside if you stop taking the medicine. Take it now.
>but muh permanent-
Literally less than 1% of the millions who've taken it ever reported such a thing

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What's wrong with me? Is it possible that one is both retarded and intelligent at the same time?

I'm fucking conflicted. I can do math well, I can write well, I can understand abstract concepts and in general function better than most in academic setting. However, I'm also the guy who would try fit in a square into a circle-shaped hole and wonder out loud how it doesn't go in.

I'm absolutely retarded in every practical matter, I constantly make a fool out of myself in a setting where you need to be a special kind of retard to fail. Yesterday, at work, I tried to fit in a cable which obviously required an adapter in order to be connected and I've been taught that many times. Yet, I still tried to connect it without an adapter and went to ask help from a co-worker. I felt like killing myself, the adapter was even on the table right next to the cable. These sort of things constantly happen to me, I feel so fucking dumb and worthless.

I'm a fucking walking accident waiting to occur in any workplace because of how fucking careless and practically stupid I am. I'm nervous all the time and I can't even think when I'm nervous so I constantly need to ask retarded questions and I also make a lot of retarded and obvious remarks.

What the fuck I can do with my life if I'm like that? I'm considering to drop everything and try to get into university to study something which is all about theory with minimal people contact and practical work. It's either that or the rope.
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>>25440071
That's a good point.
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>>25440071
Well, obviously I am neurotic. I've lived pretty eventful life, thankfully without major trauma. I think that what you're writing here doesn't apply to me at all. I think good of people, I've always thought good of people and my environment in general. I have no hatred, jealousy or bitterness in my heart. The thing is that my anxiety and nervousness has no obvious cause. I've suffered from panic attacks quite some time and I'm neurotic over nothing. Well, perhaps I cling onto my misfortunes and failures a bit too much and maybe that has at least played a part in it. But, I've always been an odd one.

>>25440087
I agree with your first paragraph, you're stating the obvious in the second and in the third one, you're making something truly complicated to appear simplistic.
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>>25439866
>What's wrong with me?
You're autistic.
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>>25440245
But it really is that simple. You have potential and this potential is multiplied by effort and interest and focus (easy to understand if you are good at math). It's how athletes, PhDs and trade workers are born and made.

Let's say you're solving an equation. If you do it in the same old stupid way, you'll make mistakes. Over and over again. If you actually pay attention to what you're doing, you'll see that you get confused by parentheses, and that you wrote an exponent with large digits and you thought it was a number and you multiplied instead of raising a number to the power of 10.

This is what happens in other areas of life. Let's say you're a clumsy retard. You've always been like this. But now, you're fed up with it. You want to change. You focus on what you're doing, and you start noticing room for improvement. And then you get used to doing it right.

It's probably harder for you because you are possibly more mentally and physically disadvantaged and I'm not saying that in a derogatory way. We are all good at something but bad at other things.
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>>25439866
Being good at school subjects doesn't mean you are intelligent. You are basically just memorizing and copying the work of other people. Almost anyone can do it as long as they put in the time and focus to to drill it into their heads. But I'm not saying you are dumb. Maybe you just need more experience doing practical things.

How do you handle a tease ? Let’s say you’re flirting with a girl to get photos or something from her and she’s just enjoying the flirt but never delivers.
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>>25439827
Move on. No need to waste time if nothing good came out from it.
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That's no fun. Flirting should be reciprocal. Unless you are a cuck by nature, and enjoying lavishing praise upon an uninterested women for no reason: move on.
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>>25439922
>>25439847
To all women who do it? Must be an issue with my game right? Both girls I was flirting with are ‘shy’ types
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>>25440425
They are using you to inflate their ego and kill some time.

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gf has been caretaker for old people for the last year
One of her main clients (the one she spent most of her time with) just died
Ideas for sympathy gift for her?
Was thinking flowers and some kind of food but idk what would be best
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>>25440381
Flowers and a well written card, from the heart.
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>>25440381
Nice dinner (it's around Christmas, pass it off as holiday dinner or someshit), don't bring it up till dinner is over unless she brings it up first, ask how she's doing.
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>>25440381
I mean, isn’t that what she signed up for? That’s like a fireman getting upset he has to put out fires
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>>25440417
You're not wrong, she has been expecting this
But she's very kindhearted and sweet, so I know it will still affect her

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>according to 4chan if you're 28 and don't have a family and a house and a well paying job you're a failure

Why are you all like this
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>>25440220
>listening to 4channel
ngmi
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>>25440220
does being a failure make you sad?
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>>25440243
>after spending my 20s drunk chasing tail.
Not OP, btw. I'm in my early-30's, and I never even did this, at any point in my life. I feel like I haven't matured past the age of maybe a 13yo, at best
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>>25440220
My dad didn't really make it until his early 40s. You'll be fine, OP. Don't give up, just keep working at it.
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>>25440220
just keep punching

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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything!

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>>25441161
I always though masks and gloves and shit phantom of the opera style to cover disfigurements were cool. If I was ever disfigured it would actually be kind of lame that doing something like that would be seen as weirder than just letting people see the injury.
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>>25441161
I don't-

Wait, I would probably like to wear masks during certain activities, BUT I don't really have a fetish for my boyfriend wearing one.
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>>25441166
Does being a hermit to minimize sensory overload and intrusive memories count as severe PTSD? How about having a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde personality where you alternate between being sweet and friendly and throwing chairs across the room and flipping couches and furniture over while screaming at everyone with a red or purple face?
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>>25441173
How disfigured? How is your body in general? Fit/Thin/fat/etc
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God damn it, why did she leave? I wanted more of her. I should have just given my contact info to her. Ahhhhhhhhhhh, this is unfair why why why God???

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I wanted to know if this was normal or bad to do. I just wanted a regular fwb and they're good sexually and I like them personally, but they're a little less attractive than me. I don't mean it in a bad way I just mean they're less attractive than what I'd normally shoot for. Is it weird that I'm hooking up with them then? I like it and I like hooking up with them, they're cool but also good at sex. Do you think something like this could lower someone's attractiveness to you if you found out they were hooking up with someone below their league? I don't really know for myself if I'd find that person less or more attractive which is why I'm asking here.
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>>25440110
As long as you're not just banging a whale I think you're fine. Girls are insecure about a lotta shit. So if they find out you had a fling with this less attractive chick, it might give them more confidence in the relationship.
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>>25440110
Make sure to clearly establish a distance with your fwb

the less attractive fwb will always want to get more serious and have love involved
she can fuck up your life if you don't establish clear boundaries from the beginning and when you see her getting attached
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>>25440110
Most of my fuck buddies were less attractive than me. That's kinda how it works, but that's just in my experience so I could be wrong. I'm a pretty good looking guy, though. My fuck buddies were 6s and 7s, except one.
>>25440322
It also works as a cover if you're really slumming it with some slampig. I had one fuck buddy who was getting her massage therapist license so she would practice on me and my girlfriend didn't think anything of it because "oh my god anon, she is more than kinda fat, I'm sorry I had the wrong idea." The massages were 10/10, though. I still see here every now and then and actually pay for the massage now.
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>>25440110
Just use her for practice for a month or 2 then get rid of her. Do all the weird dirty shit you always wanted to try.

how do i politely decline being friend zoned?
been going on tinder dates and some girls do want to be casual with me. but i met numerous of girls who after the date they had fun but only wanna be friends for “now”
i tried being friends with some of the girls but then i just become their friend who they talk about all their issues with (one sided) and then other guys they are sleeping with. which is valid but i don’t wanna hear that especially if we just met. i told one girl i didn’t want to be friends cause i was looking for fun romantic dates and she called me a asshole who only wanted sex from her
which made me feel bad. so i’ve been recently not declined the friendship but will stop initiating contacting them and not being available to hang.
is there a better way to go about this?
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>>25440279
What’s wrong with being friends? You don’t have to reply immediately when they text you. If they talk about other dudes ignore them or say “I don’t want to hear about it”. Making a point to decline could be awkward, like, if you ever bump into them elsewhere you know? It’s a small world.
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>>25440279
Best way is to be upfront. Who cares if they're offended? Don't waste your time being some bitches emotional tampon and move on.

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what is the best way to anonymously let a husband know that he has been victim of cheating and lies and deception? without getting myself killed or body injuries, because hurrr mexico people usually goes against the 3rd person instead against the cheater or the person who sweared them loyalty (retards, I know)
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>>25439266
USA was much of a shithole to be born in
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>>25439332
good argument. unfortunately I'm European
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>>25439341
point still stands eh? kek
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You're the guy she cheated with, aren't you
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>>25439239
So you basically cucked a husband and now you want to ruin his life even further? You’re doing this to spite the woman? Maybe just kill yourself instead




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