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Despite everything, the only thing I'm good at is destroying my own life and happiness. I'm no stranger to many vices, I've cheated, backstabbed, been a coward, cut people who loved me off and I'd probably work as a hitman if it was legal, so if you're a moralfag don't feel bad to help me.

The problem is, I've been doing it in a too pussified way - too passively and slowly. I wanna fuck up for real. I wanna do something real grand. But I'm a pussy. All I do is lay at home with a laptop, passively listen to my family giving me shit, or smoke weed at my friend's place.

So how do I systematically destroy my life?
Grow the fuck up.
What a loser.
Dear underrage,
Stop posting.
Sincerely, everyone

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Firstly, I'm not a doctor so I can't give you medical advice. Secondly, I've been working in the mental health field for 15 years as a crisis counselor, case manager for the county and program manager for a foster care agency providing supports for 40+ patients. If you have any questions concerning any aspect of mental health in life or relationships I'd be glad to give you my professional opinion.
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Your first step would be to address your underlying anxiety/depression. Stress management is a primary component of maintaining employment. Building that skill should be your first priority.
I have an associates degree in social work but my specialty is mental health crisis intervention. For the first few years after college I worked for a private adult foster care agency that provided residential support for adults with developmental disabilities. Through that opportunity I had a chance to work as a DD service coordinator for the county and then as a crisis counselor through a local non-profit. I eventually landed back at another foster care agency as a director of operations, overseeing several facilities across my state. I've been at my current position for about 4 years.
I feel like I've perfected a facade so much that I'm not really getting help with my current therapist, who is moving me to biweekly appointments on account of thinking I'm doing fine now (I originally came for help with stress and anxiety mostly focused on work).

I know you can't give medical advice, but I have erectile dysfunction and a lot of uncomfortable sexual shit (mental) that I don't know how to approach. Should I change my mostly pleasurable interactions with her to delve into the really dark side of shit, or maybe find a specialist?
I haven't encountered this, no. Honestly, it just doesn't make sense in theory or in practice. It takes an incredible amount of work to become an effective social worker. The work is long, the pay isn't great and the blood and sweat you sink into caring for people is rarely praised or rewarded. The kinds of people who are not cut out for this business tend to drop out many years before they actually get the opportunity to do any significant harm. It would take an incredibly rare kind of monster to sink an incredible amount of time, energy and money into becoming a licensed counselor just so they could turn around and mock/belittle people. There are much, much easier ways to hurt people then spending 4-6 years of your life to become a poorly paid social worker. If anything, the biggest problem in this industry is people growing over-worked, burnt out and indifferent. It happens more than I'd like to admit. Lets just say that the state doesn't pay us handsomely for our efforts.

>be me
>have OCD
>makes me act strangely
>almost impossible to hide
>makes me look like a fucking weirdo in public
>people think I'm weird because of it

how do I successfully hide my OCD and just act like a normal fucking human, is it possible
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This, I'm femanon with OCD and tourettes and I laugh it off/embrace it and everybody just thinks I'm cute and quirky

Easier said than done though when the intrusive thoughts get really bad
Don't actively try and get rid of them. That only makes them come back stronger. Let the thoughts come, let yourself feel bad, but don't attach any meaning or sense of guilt to it. Just think of it as a thought that will come to pass, like a bad thunderstorm outside. Your mind will resolve itself if you let the thoughts run their course.
Try living with autism OP. You have no idea how easy you have it. I'm glad my boyfriend understands at least
Exposure therapy.
"my problems r worse den urs, be gr8ful"
well, not gonna go on a rant but try living with crippling anorexia nervosa and obsessive compulsive disorder without any treatment, faggot. Do you enjoy having the ability to enjoy food? The ability ro eat without thinking? Try my life for one day, you'll fucking hate it k thx

I have two options, /adv/. I could ask out my best friend, who I’ve been in love with for years at this point, at the risk of losing our strong friendship. Or I could hook-up with this short, skinny, thiqq-thighed, b-cup breasted, kinky girl who’s into me. Which one should I do and why??
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There's a both/and that you're missing.

You can do both.

If the kinky girl just wants to bone, then you're allowed to, as long as both of you accept no further entanglements from the interaction.

If doing this prevents you from asking out your best friend, then she's either not your best friend or you're trying to prove to yourself that you are willing to abstain from a sexual relationship for her sake, presumably because you know she would require it if she agreed to become romantically involved with you.

But if this is an issue, the question of "faithfulness," then you have no choice to but have that conversation up-front, and determine what kinds of things you both see as various types of "cheating," and draw clear boundaries between actions and feelings.

If your relationship requires you to withhold or hide feelings, no matter what they are, then it will be your ruin.

And if it requires her to withhold or hide feelings, no matter what they are, then it will also be your ruin.

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Man, why can't I just have a cute girl like this, that's all I am asking for.
Am I really so fucking ugly that I can't even have someone who I am at least a bit attracted to?
That's not so much to ask, is it?
Be with the cute girl who’s actually interested in you. And maybe distance yourself from your “friend”
>Go for someone who isn't showing definite signs
>Go for someone who is, and is also thicc
Wow it's like you don't want good things in life. Go for the second option and if that doesn't work then go and "ruin" your friendship. I can't believe this is being asked but oh well
What’s your friends name?

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I'm addicted to the meme where you grossly pervert Trump's name. Its gotten to the point where I spend most of the day just sticking random phonemes together and giggling to myself.

>Presebolf Bloomalf
>Pretzlebow Blimbo Bloob.
>Shronald Shrumpf
>Klonald klumpf
>Bronald Blumpf
>Jonald Jrumpf
>Lanald Lumpf
>Qlonald Qrumpf
>Wanald Wrumpf
>Zonald Zlumpf
>Tronald Crumpf

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I can't help you.
bonald boomf
I had that once, kept recalling some dumb thing every few minutes and couldn't stop laughing/giggling for a week straight. It's probably some manifestation of depression, who knows.
Zhrinild Scloomp
This is all you need to know OP embrace it, accept it:
>Ronald Rund

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5'6 here, but I wear designer shoes a size too big with a heel insert.

The shoe itself has like a 1.5 inch heel and the insert gives another inch. Makes me nearly 5'9
Feels good.

I'd recommend designer shoes to everyone. Prada puts huge heels on a bunch of men's shoes because they KNOW it makes you more attractive.
I'm 5'4" and I have been turned down by every girl I've ever asked out or been on a date with, because of my height.
There's nothing I can do to fix it, I can't magically make myself taller. So I try not to think about it and just get on with my life but it's so damn hard.
Every time they say "you're a nice guy, if you were just a little bit taller.." or "if you were taller you'd be perfect" I just want to fucking stab myself in the goddamn neck.
I've tried my hardest and I think maybe it's time to just give up. I didn't even want to pass on my shitty manlet genes anyway.

You’re not a manlet you’re just an insecure faggot.
You need to bulk up, get a personality and learn humor.

I’m 5 3 and believe it or not when the discussion of height comes up people always guess I’m like 5 6. Far from a giant, but that shows how powerful the illusion of muscles and a good jawline are. I get attention from ladies all the time too, probably because of my demeanor. I never show my insecurity around anyone, and obviously it’s ahrder than it sounds.

There’s no room in this world for short lanks. It sucks but hey bro we gotta work with it.

>be me
>20 yo kissless virgin
>Have some friends but only dudes
>When girls are around i turn into an autistic creepy piece of shit
>People say that i am 7\10
>Had to many chances to get qt 3.14 gf
>Miss them all
>Also i am poor af
>Now trying to convince myself that i am gay just to forget that i am looser with girls
Fellas am i in the right path
Or should end my fucking existence
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>there's girls out there who are as awkward and self conscious as you and they make for very sweet partners.
where to find such girls?
What annoys me, (and i know it's an illogical statement).. Good looking guys with all the right tools to succeed at [insert whatever], yet they don't do anything with it, it's completely absurd.
Yes, but not by ending your life. Better yourself, ease yourself into meeting new friends, clean up your appearance, wake up every day with your favorite inspirational quote right where you see it first after you open your eyes and plant your feet on the floor with pride because you are in charge, you can do this bro. For once, I'm glad to be alive.
I had my first kiss at 19 and lost my virginity soon after.

I wouldn't really worry about it to much Anon, when the time comes whether it be a new workplace or college there will be qt 3.14 girls around you and all you have to do really is not be a awkward dweeb and you shouldn't have much of a problem.

A former awkward dweeb
Its me OP
The strrugle and pain is when i see creepy n ugly guys have qt gfs
I had many chances i people gives me 7/10
I always miss chances on purpose cause i know i will not work b
Cause i am poor n still cannot afroad many things
Life us unfair anons

What is the psychology behind of/the cause of softcore "daddy" kinks? My libido is low, I don't watch much porn, so I have no clue how'd I develop the thing.

>Inb4 you're "born" with the kink, it's "natural"
No. Stop.
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I can only speak for myself.

Emotionally, I don't identify with traditional masculinity, because I am not a socially dominant person.

I've always identified with teenage girls, ever since I was even a young boy. I don't know why.

Now that I'm old enough to be a father, the disconnect between my emotional and physical experiences has only intensified.

Feeling like a teenage girl doesn't mean you want to get fucked, though.

You can simultaneously identify with someone while being sexually dominant with them (which is the only context that I ever really enjoy being dominant, every other being one in which I seek cooperation among the most possible people without the use of any sort of force or coercion).

The point at which it becomes a form of bondage is where I nope out, and if push came to shove, I'd probably rate as a sub to a dominant woman (which is a different kink, but I'll have to cop to its being a close second for me).

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My girls often will disobey me knowing that they will be "punished". Though, like I said, I tend to attract bratty women. I've had them continue to act out more and more if I don't respond to it because it annoys them to no end.

Because they know you need them to - and this knowledge is what gives them the advantage of power.

See, I used to think that doms had the power, and subs were obviously the weaker of the two.

But when you think about it, it is the dom exerting force on a willing participant to elicit a certain expected response.

The sub has the power of non-response.

This is stronger than any other, because it means that the sub is unable to achieve any effect at all.

The void is impenetrable.

I tell all my subs that they have power. It is their will that they choose to give, and they can take that back at any time.

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After this she said she was busy (she was genuinely really busy this week I know for a fact). She started talking to me way more than normal and seemed a bit closer I don't know. I'm planning on asking if she explicitly wants to go on a date next week and see how it goes. I'm still uncertain if she knew I was asking her out.

How obvious was this me asking out for a date?
What do you anons think? I need help
If she wasn't interested would she talk less? Also she didn't reschedule.
Self bump
Leave rescheduling in her court. If she doesn’t, you know the answer

How do I get over my ex? I know a lot of these threads exist but I’m terrible at dating and I broke off a 6 year on and off relationship with someone I still love because I know objectively it was toxic. I don’t want to be one of those people that pine over their exes like ‘the one that got away’ and it’s been YEARS.

Is there anything that would help other than dating because I’ve tried tinder once, I felt horrible and never got a date and again I’ve never really dated. It’s a miracle I met my boyfriend in the first place please help

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>Hello, I just wanted to message you about my recent enrollment in one of your online courses. I know it was sudden however I was surprised by an original course I was taking being cancelled.

Anything to change anons?

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>/adv/: becoming friends with a girl is how you start a relationship
>most women I know: dating your friend is one of the worst things you can do, and I really can't stress that enough.
What gives?
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Agree. Not to argue but I hate when people bring up sex as the primary motivator for a relationship. I realize it drives many of them and for obvious reasons, but I've always desired a meaningful emotional connection over simply a sexual one, and that I'm more interested in the emotional than the physical aspect is probably why I struggle with this concept of "get sexual really quick" and I doubt I'm alone.
See my last post...

I'm not against dating a friend, you just really need to be confident about the how and the why, and not like I quoted before.
>The first step is to control yourself and drop the desperation. Stop seeing every female as a potential partner. Stop wanting it so bad.
And what if she's everything you've wanted and more, what if you think she's really just an amazing person, what if her "flaws" don't bother you as much as the other guy, etc.? Believe me, I've observed how certain women friends acted in relationships because they would tell me or I'd see it on facebook etc. and it made me lose any romantic interest in them, if there was any. So I 100% agree where you're coming from. But this is EXACTLY why I like to spend my time getting to know someone *before* I get sexual - because as stated above, being sexually intimate releases chemicals in the brain that cause you to get attached, making it harder to leave the person even if something about them really does drive you crazy. And this is the base of why I insist on being friends first - i.e. getting to know the girl and deciding if I really want to be with her, without the sex stuff clouding my judgement, but if I just acted on my sexual urges and got sexually forward right away, that would more likely lead me to getting attached and thinking irrationally.
I don't see every female as a potential partner IF I get to know them. I don't think most of them really are. If a girl is actually a nice person, of a legal age, and I like how she looks, I'm willing to explore something with them, but if something is revealed that raises real concerns, I'll probably lose interest and back off. Those kinds of things range from the obvious like she has a boyfriend or is a lesbian, to displaying signs of emotional unavailability and commitment phobia or straight up rudeness and selfishness, and every last thing in between. Which means that in the time taken getting to know them, the vast majority are going to weed out and the numbers grow smaller and smaller. Consider that this is the same thought process women have - they like a guy because he's cute, but he says or does something that turns her off, or she finds out he has a boyfriend etc. Simply thinking somebody is good looking and wanting to get to know them to find out if there's relationship potential =/= just assuming every girl could be a girlfriend to you and ignoring all contrary points.
>find out he has a boyfriend
I meant to say girlfriend* lol

Girlfriend doesn't allow me to play video games.

What should I do?
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This isn't the worst advice, even though I said to dump her. Is it a strategy game session you can't abandon for even a minute? Stop and pick back up later? It sounds more like she's just immature, but I'd be mad if my girlfriend had a hobby that was a 3+ hour commitment every time she started it.
I don't know man, if someone is telling you to promise something, and you don't really want to but it's not harming anyone, it's nice to do it because you love your girlfriend, but also you shouldn't have to give it up completely.
Have you spent all day on viddy or something? I hope you can compromise with her, does she want you to stop because she wants to spend more time with you? Or because she's trying to control you?
Say "Fuck you, you can't change me." She will fuss.

Later, you'll be banging.
It's pretty much the whole story
>Having hobbies and activities isn't allowed because I'm a cuck who has to devote all my energy into pleasing girlfriend

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A user on reddit is threatening to kill me and my family, and has also harassed me for weeks on end. The dude is straight up insane, and I am worried he is actually going to kill me.

I know his phone number (714/797/3695) and his address (9341 Parliament Ave Westminster CA).

Is there anything I can/should do?
Have you called the police?

I wanna chew on bones I see at the pet store.. I know this is weird. I bought one for myself and chewed it up and it felt amazing.
I went to the doctor and had blood work done to see if I had any deficiencies, I didn't have any. But I do have a destructive urge to chew but the bones say they're not safe for humans - I am NOT eating them, just chewing and spitting out but I'm sure I swallow a lot of whatever if on them like flavor or chemicals or whatever.
Are there any alternatives? I got Autistixx and hew them but they don't have the grit of a bone or antler (is an antler okay?) I'd like to try more but I'm reeling myself in, it's a very hard urge to fight.
Any suggestions?
I want to tear up something rough with some resistance.

Pic not related, just for attention.
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bump. I want to tear up something really bad, it's maddening.
There's some licorice-tasting chew sticks you can buy, but I forget what they're called. They're more brittle and don't last as long as gum, but might be more satisfying?
Cinnamon sticks, maybe
I'd really like it to last long and have some resistance. Or if someone could help me find a dog chew that is also safe for humans so I can stay satisfied. I'm pretty desperate desu
Chewable silicone necklaces are relatively common as stim tools or fidgets. Those are pretty durable, and casually wearable.


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