PLS gib adviceI'm 22 seniore in college.I don't understand how dating works at all or even how to find potential datesI have no idea how people are dating let alone meeting multiple romantic partnersI got lucky over 2 years ago and had 1 GF so not KHHV but very inexperienced.>inb4 go to classpeople are rarely making friends in class, everyone who talks are already friends. people are antisocial as fuck and on their phones with airpods in>inb4 cold approachare you fucking kidding? I don't know a single person who does this and have seen a guy approach once maybe twice in my damn life. girls look at you like you're a psycho and gib # because they're scared shitless>inb4 go to barsI go into a bar and know absolutely no one, what the fuck do I do. everyone there is already friends>inb4 looksmaxxI'm 6'2, more jacked than 85% of guys at my gym, and lean. I've been told I'm attractive my whole life and have been catcalled by a group of girls when running outside.PLS GIB the protocol to consistently go out and meet potential datesComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>30925615Don't try to date, try to make friends and dates should come later. I don't mean find women to befriend, just make friends in general. Friends lead to new experiences and that opens up your chance to meet women in an organic way.
I want to kms daily. Anons who have pulled through, how did you do it? Or is my brain fucked and this will be my life forever?
>>30922862For me it was medication and years of therapy.
>>30922862no meds but years of therapy. worth it. Find the right one for you.
>>30922862Find a new thing to learn every day. Eventually it goes away.
>>30922862YOU SHOUD KILL YOURSELF THAT MIGHT HELP, KILL A POLITICIAN FIRST, PREFEREBLY A LEFT WING ONE
>>30922862Getting out my situation with my family
how to cure my autogynephilia
Instead of getting rid of your kink, how about you learn to just masturbate to it without letting it take over your life?
>>30925611Start talking to your parents more, quit drugs, pick up reading and lifting, and if you wanna be a girl be one on the internet. It won’t go away completely but you’ll be glad you did it
Three years ago I became obsessed with inteligente. I played chess everyday and did a lot of useless stuff like taking countless IQ tests.However, I've lately felt that I'm too lazy to think as hard as I can. I spend my days without thinking, how can I become smarter and stop this?
>>30925577Apparently some forms of meditation can raise IQ
>>30925577You can't achieve something open-ended like "become smarter." You need to have a specific goal.
>>30925597I'll explain myself better. What happened to me 3 years ago was that I became so obsessed with being smart that I'd try to use my brain to it's full capacity all the time because I was really motivated to do so.I'm not that motivated anymore, so I'm pretty much going through life without squeezing my brains as much as I should.I'd like to know if there's anything to make myself use my brain to it's fullest again. I don't think motivation is enough.
>>30925587What type of problems? You mean like buying a book that has problems to solve?I don't read books anymore, I just watch documentaries on YouTube, which I'm sure isn't enough
>>30925628Ideally you want a field of study man. If you don't have one then you probably want to find one first.
I won't go into the details, all dad was saying about mom was there's things that he isn't allowed to do, that she is. That she stopped him from doing certain things, then he also said mum does a similar thing to me, saying don't do this thing, then saying it's ok other times or something along these lines. I don't see why he has to vent to me about mom, I don't want to say too much. Other things have happened but as I said I don't want to expose myself on here.
>>30925610yeah asking him to stop is totally reasonable, he probably knows it's wrong to unload that shit on you but is so deep in it that he can't help himself. it will give him a wake-up call too hopefully.
>>30925610Your moms a bitch, your dads a chump. Dont be like either of them. It may be too late though. You seem to be a little bit of both.
>>30925629I don't want hurt his feelings or be a dick again by asking him to stop. I see your points but I think I just gotta calm down and listen.
>>30925610Your pops has no one to talk to. Maybe have some empathy and make him understand you’re there for him?
i'm a guy who is a little skinny fat and i want to shrink my belly so i don't look fat when i'm relaxed or stitting down but i don't want to have any abs or muscles
>>30923271one meal a day fast, its that easy. I lost 45lbs in the last year.
>>30925591with water throughout the day?what's in the meal exactly?
Are you actually fat, or is your spine crooked? Can you suck it in and have a flat stomach?Also no you can't spot-reduce fat. You lose it all, randomly from all parts of your body, and if you dont eat right (starve yourself) that belly will persist, especially if you're 30s.
>>30925618also ozempic is now a thing if you dont care about those potential unknown side effects
>>30925603NTA but what you want. As long as it's below your daily expenditure you'll lose weight. But of course eating healthier options would be more beneficial
Are bad news liberating or overwhelming? For the last 16 years I've been living fearing I have cancer because of this lump, needless to say that has taken a huge toll on my confidence. Now I'm finally tired of living like this and I've decided to get it checked, what am I in for?
>>30925636If it was cancer you would have been dead by now. The real question is what are you gonna focus your anxiety on now that you know you're not dying of cancer.
After 16 years it's probably safe to say it's not cancer. I have a lump on my forearm and a millions lumps all over my body, now that might actually be cancer.
How do you deal with Normie co-workers?
>>30925572Repeat thread.
>>30925572I'm one of them so naturally it's easy. My best advice is just to join them.
>>30925572I can fake being a normie pretty easily until I actually have to talk about my life
>>30925581I fell asleep before I could reply to any of you guys sorry >>30925582I can do small talk but I cannot even pretend to care about Taylor Swift or the newest football game, I just nod and say "uh huh" and find any excuse to segway the topic to something else.>>30925584Mostly the same, I can do small talk with almost anyone but I have a voice in my head telling me that I should never ever tell others about my personal hobbies and interests outside of work because I feel like they might use it against me somehow. For the record I'm 23 working in my first fulltime office job straight out of College.
>>30925624You dont have to like every normie topic that comes up. There are lots of times where i do the same exact thing.
What has your experience been like on here?Im somewhat nervous.
Some groups and classes will have people you click with, some will not be to your taste. Don't let it discourage you too much if you get a dud. Very big congrats on touching some grass. I sincerely hope you have a good time.
>>30919803I went to a japanese language meetup and introduced myself in japanese, then almost no japanese language conversation happened after that. some guy bought his homework in and people did review it, and i stopped going after a few weeks. i think this one lady was interested in me but my social anxiety crushed me.i tried looking for other groups, but everything is crypto, coding or ponzi schemes. so i dont bother
>>30919803I joined an art group. People were nice, but it was boring. Most people were socially awkward and not people I would want to go to dinner with.
>>30919803Depends. Mostly shit.
>>30919803Garbage for everything, fuck reddit & it’s users for suggesting this piece of shit site
why dont women just approach meni dont understand
>>30925503Don't quote scripture, scum
>>30925535Why not?
>>30925533What the "black pill" fails to show is that there is someone for everyone.
>>30925475I will take any opportunity to share this obsession I have.I've refined my process so the last two times I was more natural.My initial trials:>identify random men at my university>take note of their usual routes>search them on social media if possible to ensure they are single>"hey, I noticed you around and want to get to know you better. Would you like to grab coffee some time?" Cue social media exchange or date set-upOutcomes were unsuccessful dates, one was flabbergasted and scared, one stood me up, and one was so charmed he reached out to me twice later and we had a second date a year after (we were incompatible)New process, tailored to situation:>research classmate on social media>timed everything perfectly so I would sit next to him in class, took all possible opportunities to speak to him and prolong our contact>propose we do group project together>we end up becoming friendsThis worked...sort of...but I was emotionally devastated by this relationship due to an obsession that preceded our contact by a year. He was also the most attractive to me, his face was an art piece. And he was so sexy, slender, and small. Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>30925243can confirmt. chad
Does cold approaching women work?
>>30922778>People dont want to ever speak to strangers meaning it cannot ever work.I speak to strangers all the time. Someone saw my Philip K Dick shirt and we struck up a conversation about him and scifi in general.
>>30922214Only if you're Chad
>>30922214I met my wife this way. She rejected me at first, then a few years later I saw her again randomly and tried a second time, reminding her of the initial rejection.
>>30922214In all honesty it depends there are many factors like looks(outfit, face, body, scent, how one holds themselves), location(malls, school, store, parks), how they feel and whether they opened to your approach you win some you lose some only way is to fuck around and find out. I like going for girls that already looked my way or if I’m in my best element. Again I’m just a manlet nigger who wish black stereotypes wasn’t a thing
>>30923947Same nigger ManletThis is based asf N be open minded
30yo male here. Have been with dozens of women. Spent a good ammount of time in my 20s working on that. Good looking, fit, good at sex. Currently dating someone now, 31f, she is starting to get more serious and wants to settle down. Can see future; we have a kid or two, I am working 40+ hours a week, whatever free-time I have is spent on the kids, her, or maybe working out. Gone are my hobbies, time alone, possibly futures of success in creative fields (writing books, making film). Am I selfish for considering going back to being single? There is a part of me that just wants to be alone playing vidya in my room again, escaping reality. I lived that life for a while because I felt like I could do nothing else, now after being out in the 'real world' for 10 years, I want to go back. Or is having a family just a man's natural destiny? Feel like I dont know where or who to talk to about this, havent posted in /adv/ in years. Hopefully someone gets it
>>30925227Well from after doing it myself, its easy to say 'no, dont do it you dont need it'. But if you havent had the experience you want it. My advice would be, stop watching all pornography for 3 months, maybe even do a full nofap, and then see how you feel. I think most guys want to have sex with a bunch of girls because of porn, I know I did/do. Inherently theres nothing interesting about fucking random girls, its definitely exciting the first time like getting to start a new game you know nothing about, but most of the time after you nut you feel gross and just want to get the hell out of there.
I'm a divorced 36 year old dude with two kids. Everyone's situation is different, but I will say that now that I'm single I find I have a lot more time for me. I was doing it like you envision before, everything I did besides work was as a couple. I don't think that's healthy. I know other guys who are in relationships and they do their own thing sometimes, and sometimes they do couple things, but there's a balance. I love my kids and I am ridiculously thankful for them but I also appreciate the evenings and weekend days when I can just do whatever the hell I want. Brew and drink beer, tinker with a project vehicle, play an old video game, watch a movie my ex wouldn't have liked, go kayaking, whatever. So I definitely understand where you're coming from. That said, I do wish things had worked so that my kids would have had a more stable home environment, so I guess my advice is this - proceed with life because having kids and a family really is a source of happiness despite what the doomers will tell you, but establish some boundaries. Make sure you each have some "me" time in addition to couple time. It doesn't have to be tightly scheduled, and probably shouldn't be because otherwise it'll be a chore. Also for anyone who will say "your girlfriend will just go fuck other dudes!!!" if you're worried about that for any reason then it's already not gonna work out. The other end of it is this - while you might be fine being by yourself right now, no one stays young and healthy forever. Someday you'll wish there was someone there to help you out, whether it's a spouse or an adult child. I think that gets harder to lock down the older you get and the available pool of people dwindles.
>>30925298Based knower
>Or is having a family just a man's natural destiny?I wouldn't say so. But I'd say it's the natural destiny of most men. Not necessarily you.
>>30925487Thank you for the response and great advice. Fortunately my partner is rather independent herself and super supportive of us 'doing our own thing', though we tend to spend alot of time together anyway. I think right now I can practice taking more time for ourselves and seeing how that feels for both of us because I agree (as a child of divorce) that its important that we both still have time for ourselves.
>be me>23 y/o warehouse wagie loser>40k in leafbux savings>physically fit gymcel>articulate and well-spoken, said to have a strong endearing voice>still no friends, never wanted friends, aloof and never hung out with anyone before, never went to a restaurant, never went to a bar, never went travelling, purely just do solitary hobbies >long term gorgeous introvert gf who gets hit on all the time who loves me to death but I feel guilty for having her be in love with such a loser so I ghost her for days at a time>i don't even desire a girlfriend anyways>don't even feel anything when she was desperately riding me, that's when I knew I'm far gone>she's still obsessed with me I don't even know why>i have no desire for college >cant even get a trades apprentice lol >pretty much have no future>been having OCD thoughts of dumping my gf and going crazy before throwing my life away either dead or in prisonThe worst part is I relate to absolutely nobody. I'm not a robot, yet I'm not a normie. I'm handsome, but not a chad. I'm well-spoken, but empty. I detest human vices and the "hierarchy" and "system". I hate the ego competition and conceit of normies, yet I hate the envy, awkwardness and pure hatred from the incels.
>>30925204What would your dream job look like?
>>30925382Being some sort of tradesmen. Pipefitter, metal sheet worker, millwright, plumber, anything really.
>>30925360That shit doesn't matter to everyone though, for some people love is all that matters. You don't get to decide this because you think you are a loser, if she loves you and wants to be with you that is her call. If you were to break up with her because you think she deserves better that wouldn't be fair.
>>30925435>If you were to break up with her because you think she deserves better that wouldn't be fair.She'll get over it when she's 26 working a real job being surrounded by actual decent men lol.
>>30925404So what is stopping you from training for such a job?
What is it?
>>30925348>What were you pressured into that you deeply regret now?Life. I mean, they had to remove me from the womb forcefully so I already knew I didn't want any of that shit but I still regret letting them force me into this world.
music school.also this >>30925568.
>>30925525Ar...are you my long lost life twin from an anon board? Like geeze I'm a bit older by 4 years but the rest is about the same, minus trees and add IT stuff
>>30925379this
>>30925565you think i was a filthy nonner?? i was also chair force mechanic, out at Beale>>30925579hmm what happens to me in 4 years
I've been on a few dates with a girl, and she abruptly stopped talking to me.I didn't mind much, so I started seeing other women. I just assumed she lost interest or something and moved on.A few days ago, she sent a text and said she's been on a "social decline" and was gonna get back to me at some point this week.I'm going out with another woman now, but I feel like it isn't going anywhere and I've been debating breaking up with her.What should I do, anons?
>>30925495Drop dead.
>>30925515back when i was a kid, edgy youth pretended to be black.now, edgy youth pretend to be mormons.what a time to be alive.
>>30925495Girl number one is flakey. She may have lost interest in you because she met someone else. That failed and now you're plan B. Define what "not going anywhere" means. Sometimes you have to appreciate what you have. The girl you have now didnt blow you off. The girl you had before ghosted you. Meaning she didnt care about you at all. With that being the only evidence I have of their character, girl 2 is objectively superior to girl 1
>>30925557yea, i guess but girl 2 has a kid, and she didnt tell me about it until today so im not so sure lol
>>30925567Well that's some bullshit too. Girl 2 is no longer superior.