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Im 30, Ive been talking to this girl for a few months, just few dates so far. I went to her house once and she cooked dinner and then I went home afterwards. Movie and some dinner dates as well. Anyways she asked me why are you a virgin for? Are you waiting for marriage or what. I changed the topic fast but yeah im a virgin how the hell did she know????? I never told her...do girls asume you are virgin if you dont try to have sex with her right away or what.
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>>20471489
>her house
>and then I went home afterwards
she wanted to have sex with you
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>>20471530
This
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>>20471489
>>20471530
>and then I went home afterwards

Oh my goodness such a nice nice guy we have here.
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>>20471489
If I go through the effort to do what she has done and get no rise out of a guy then I know there are but two reasons for it. Hes gay or hes a virgin. Thats it. Gay I cannot fix but virgin, maybe. My issue with virgins though is they get really possessive once they have sex with me, like REALLY possessive.
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>>20471614

I was asked if I was gay by another girl once lol. So basically once they suspect you are virgin is that like game over?

So what type of guy is a virgin and 30? Im wondering what she thinks of me now. I think im over it now..

How can I get friends with my limitations?

>26/M/Germany

Unfortunately I have several limitations:
>chronic disease (walking more than 500 m is almost impossible, constant pain, fatigue)
>food intolerances (milk protein, diary products, meat and legumes via gout)
>poor (4.3 €/ day for food)
>no family, friends nor any other contacts
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>>20472468
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>>20472498
He sounds more like a 7 year old to me

A fun one
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So all in all, I am still sick, disabled and alone with no way out of my loneliness
ty adv
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>>20472441
Join to /adv/ discord server
Ask for pawell
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>>20471954
Are you from Berlin

My closest friend killed himself yesterday. Me and this guy were very close, closer than we were with our own families. We were both weird autistic spergs who both shared the same niche autistic hobbies. He was the kind of friend most people hope to have, someone youre almost completly in sync with.

I dont know what to do now. Im not suicidal, i dont blame myself or anyone for this. I just dont know what to do. I may not want to kill myself, but i wish id die.

How do people get through this? I cant see myself ever functioning normally again. I dont see a point in even trying to pick up the pieces.

It feels like my life is over already.
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>>20472060
I regret making this post.
I'm sorry about your friend op, I hope you don't kill yourself too. Spend time with your family.
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Honor him by remembering him. It’s okay to grieve, and to grieve how you see fit. Nothing will take the pain away, it will only dull over time. Sorry for your loss...
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>>20472045
Do a irl tribute for him.
I hung a dozen bird feeders for a friend that recently died because she enjoyed watching birds.
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>>20472045
You’ll carry on the memories of your friend for life. They only truly die when they’re forgotten. If you’re feeling depressed then that’s normal when you lose someone. Let yourself feel the loss and move on from it, just don’t forget the good times.
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>>20472045
Last year a great friend of mine hung him self. I still haven’t processed the fact he’s gone, when it gets to be to much Ill call his old number or listen to his favorite songs. This summer on the anniversary of his passing a few of us are going to a bar having a beer in and toasting in his honor and having a moment of silence for him. I can’t tell you how to cope with your loss, it may take you time but don’t be scared to make more friends and get close to them. Your friend believed you were a trust worthy and incredible person to have been that close and wouldn’t want you to shut off from the rest of the world, I know it fucking hurts without them but you have to keep moving. Hang in there OP and I’m very sorry for your loss I hope you find your peace with the situation.

I stopped smoking about a month ago and got to the point where I felt normal again, but slipped up and had another last night. Will I experience the same withdrawal symptoms I did when I initially quit? Anyone have experience with this?
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>>20472145
Yep
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It won't be as bad. FYI a month is the number I heard for breaking a habit. Just try again, it's a bigger deal in your head than anything else.
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>>20472134
Day 1-2: "Why am I quitting, again?"

Day 3: "Alright this is fine.... But I bet a cigarette would feel amazing right now."

Day 4-7: "Everything is fine but something is itching."

At some point the following month: "Ok I've proven to myself that I can kick the habit. Let's celebrate with a fucking cigarette."
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>>20472134
Same withdrawal: No.
It's ok dude. Ignore that it even happened. Self forgiveness is key.
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>>20472134
Just get a vape for when you slip up, they're almost as satisfying but not going to get you hooked again.

Rate me

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>>20472606
I'll use this and try to sleep on it

6 leaf clover
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>>20472610
It’s not gay, flowers are cute
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>>20472595
You do what's best for your daughter. If that's leaving, then so be it. She will grow up ok and will realize why you did it.
t. Someone's daughter who left at age 5.
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>>20472612
Ah yes, because I knew my wife was going to secretly not take them.
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>>20472618
Yes anon, you put your life into someone else's control. You can't force them to take bc, the only thing you could have done was not have sex or get your balls snipped. You are just foolish. Did you see yourself having children? No? Then you should have gotten the surgery done.

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been in a ldr for over a year, allready meet her, but she is losing interest on me over the time, because distance and bot beeing able to be there when she needs, but im managing to change my life and my job so im able to marry her and bring her to my country. also im depressed as fuck and that isnt helping.
how do i make myself more intresting for her?
just wanna save my relationship
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Watch a movie together on www.rabb.it. Constant video chat or audio chat. Open up about your struggles with depression but don't overload her with it or it will distance her away from you.
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>>20472539
>long distance
>depression
>losing interest

Pic related. Give up on her, treat your depression and next time find girl from your location.
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>>20472561
i think it has started to distance her from me beeing depressed.
last week she wanted me to buy her chocolates. but i was busy and didnt had time to do it. she didnt even let me explain why i was busy (honestly i was taking care of my father)
she is allways busy too but im going to try to watch a movie with her. thanks for the tip

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?

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What could this signify?

A girl touching my elbow when she was breaking of from an event we organized. While she hugged the two other male organizers around the same time. (For what its worth, none of us met prior to this actually.)
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>>20472603

>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
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For the men who are miserable and hate women, why don't you move to Saudi Arabia? Or kill yourself? Surely if you truly believed your dangerously misguided world views and weren't in denial and blaming others, these would be the logical solutions.
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Girls are you open to your bf having a foot fetish if it means frequent foot massages and occasionally paid for pedicures? What do you think of the fetish in general?

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tl;dr Daughter isn't mine but my son is, how do I confront my wife?

>been married for 9 years, have an 8 year old daughter and 1 year old son
>happy marriage, we don't really fight, have an active sexual life and we both work
>recently got a pay rise so decided to get private healthcare for my family
>involves various tests and screens before it starts
>receive the results, everything looks good and our insurance begins
>reading through the leaflet, lists my daughter as having O blood
>alarm bells start ringing as I'm AB, was brought up by a step-dad who is also O and know that it's impossible for AB to have O children
>call hospital to double check the results, she is definitely O
>only reason can be is that she's not my daughter

How do I confront my wife about this, or should I confront my wife about this and ask for a paternity test? I'm sure my son is mine as he looks exactly like me but I don't know what to do. I love my little princess to bits and I don't want her to grow up in a broken home but I don't know what to do.
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>>20471803

Men deserve to die lol
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>>20471830

inceltears
so glad men get raped in prison
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>>20472458
>>20472552

yes definitely I agree
these are elliot rodgers fanclub members

>>20472497

you're so triggered you can't even read
calm down incel
if you go to jail you'll finally have people touch your sexually. bite on a towel if it hurts when they ravage you :)
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men are all rapists or wannabe rapists anyway.
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Since this is turbo shitposting hour. I am here to make everything worse. If the daughter isn't yours who says the son is? Bloodtype is not a paternity test. Do you even know you are AB? Also if the son is yours I guess that is most important I think I read males inherit the y chromosome nearly identically.

How did 4chan get tamer than reddit?
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>>20472576
We memed a polarism back into existence and everyone wonders why everyone is depressed all the time. I just want /a/ to not be shit for five minutes, but I can't bring up literally anything with an irl friend of mine now without him telling me about the impending racewar and how UPS lost his extended mags in the mail. I didn't ask for this shit.
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>>20472582
I think he means society at large is starting to act like old /b/. Which is a troubling thought.
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>>20471025
4chan was flooded by "normies" after the gaia raids and chanology around 2005 - 2006 (I think), it has always been tame, bots flood the boards with the same threads over and over (interracial/gay stuff on boards like /gif/ and /b/), nobody wants to have a conversation in any topic due to someone else hijacking the thread to talk about shit.
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>>20472586
Raids allowed websites to grow organically. Those who liked the content provided stayed, and those who didn't left with a story.
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>>20472582
What >>20472583 said. Cos I looking at all the shit that has become popular over the last 10-15 years and it's kinda insane.

What I posted on wsg in response to >>>/wsg/2614858 :
>Real life anime girl youtube'ing I guess.

>People are getting lost into fantasy land, which was okay when it was just super nerds and otaku losers but now everyone is following the same trends. It's kind of disconcerting.

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Is it a bad idea to check the facebooks of girls from my classes that I like? Last few girls I looked up ended up being vegan feminist globalists, and it put me off. Should I just go in blind?

I don't add them or anything. We use a software in all my classes that has everyones names listed, so its incredibly easy to look them up.
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>>20472466
Stop thinking nonsence and ask some on date.
>hello, its me anon from school
>wanna grab burger with me after class?

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how do i enjoy college life?, im very antisocial and often choose to work and spend my time alone. however i want to enjoy myself, i want to get an asian girlfriend in college. how do i improve my social skills when i have the social skills of travis bickle?
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>>20472350
You just have to let loose and rock out.
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>>20472350
This is the truth man.
You improve your social skills by going out there and making efforts, taking every fuck up in stride and keeping at it.

I’ve tried just about everything. Had sex with someone else, now I feel free... I really loved him with all my heart, just couldn’t wait by the phone for someone who “hated” me. Am I wrong?
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>>20471539
>>20471619

so much projection
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>>20471848
>name-calling
He's got a good point you know.
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>>20471531
Who broke up with who?. If he broke up with you and you tried to get back to him and he said no. Then there's nothing wrong to go and have a relationship with someone else. Now if you broke up with him and refuse him and fucked someone else then I don't really think that's right if you say you loved him.
Whatever it is, if you really love your ex you try to get back together, if the other person says no, then you are free. My ex gf already said no twice, and i'm coming to terms to the fact that there's nothing wrong on fucking other girls right now since she refuse me so many times after we broke up. There's literally no point on waiting if someone refuse you
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>>20471531
OP how long were you together?
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>>20472509
3years, wasted so much life with someone who really didn’t respect me.

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If I damaged my brain by taking eye drops that caused permanent dizziness, eye strain when looking and reading, is there hope that doctors can cure this or am I forever stuck with not being able to concentrate on anything? I was taking Zaditen for a week and began not sleeping well 4 nights ago and then dizziness. Since I have anxiety I thought was just that but I believe it is from the eye drops. Am so scared.

Sup /adv, It’s the titty man himself. Recently posted a couple threads on some success I was having on Tinder and a few anons had dropped in to ask for advice on their picture section. Here are the threads for anyone who missed:

>>20449513

>>20461401

I crossed my face simply because I don’t like the thought of it immortalized on this degen website, but I’d like to give some tips based off of what I have going and why you can’t just have any random pictures on your profile.

So here we go:

#1 Girls are constantly swiping and I have under a second maybe a split second to make a first impression. Eye catching and interesting. Hookah in a pool is both. Think of something very creative. If you are 10/10 Chad you don’t need to do any of this, it only applies to average guys like myself.

#2 I’ve got their interest, now they want to see what else I have to offer. The jet skiing pic shows I like to enjoy the outdoors and have fun. I’m from Ohio and this pic was taken in Florida, so it could also show I travel every so often.

>cont.
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Hmm, i really need better pictures than. Only got 2 matches in like 50 days. And i live in a giant city, not us tough.
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>>20470525
So you prefer the second one?
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Bump cause why not.
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>>20471046
Not true man, just keep swiping right. They literally won’t come to you.. even IRL you need to get out there to meet and date. The longer you expect things to come to you, not just women, the more likely you’re going to be waiting for forever.
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>>20472493
What if you get their number, they ghost you, you give up on them, and they contact you?


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