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what are the signs that an asian girl is in love with me?
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She'll tell you she wants to love you long time
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from which country? which age group? seriously these dumb fucking questions
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>>20471836
When you tickle her pickle and she laughs
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>>20471836
Same as everyone else
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>>20471860
Chinese, she is 18.

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>in bed with a girl kissing, biting, and choking eachother
>lost in the moment and obvlivious to the fact that i have a dicc and she wanted it despite her telling me how wet she is for me
>finger her instead and give her a back massage after she orgasms
i'm not going to get back with her any time soon because she stole money from me but this chance comes once in a blue moon and i blew it
how do i get over the frustration and self loathing?
i don't even feel that attracted to her but the fomo is killing me
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>>20471373
Just go have a fap. I bet you are addicted to pornography already. Hervpussy wouldnt even make you feel good.
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>>20471373
It doesn't fucking matter. If you fingered her and she liked it, just hit her up again and give jer the dic. Fuck
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>>20471853
Whoops, didn't read the second bit. If she stole mo ey from you then forget that bitch. Find a good woman and have intercourse with her instead

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Is it a problem if i am more attached to objects then people
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>>20471782
They look like the cover of Dostoevsky demons book

Like they want to bite me
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What do you mean OP? That you preffer materialism over human contact? Or that you are emotionally and sexually attracted to objects?

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I thought I had healthy eating habits, but talking with some friends I found that I don't. My mother is kinda lazy, complains all the time and says she's tired all the day. She never makes breakfast or lunch, only dinner that we eat by 3-4 p.m. I usually make myself an egg or a cheese sandwich for breakfast and lunch, if we want to eat something at night she just says "get some cookies and milk", or I make another cheese sandwich. She doesn't go to the mall like she used to, so the fridge is usually almost empty. I tried to learn how to cook but everytime I try to make something for myself she complains and makes me let her do it.

How can I talk to her about this? I'm skinny as hell.
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You have to be 18 to browse and post on this website.

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Is doxxing people like boxxy even legal? (just using boxxy as an example becuz she kinda sucks)
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Im actually very new to 4chan but i heard some weird stuff about it so yeah
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How to Foxx:

Get a number

Give it to credit car/vacation companies on giveaway websites

Let the telemarketers do their thing and harass the person until they change their number

Have fun

Only for Revenge
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Depends on a lot of factors but there are certainly legal ways to do it.
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i thought that doxxing was like getting someones IP address or name and bscly blackmailing someone but thanks for telling me i didnt think 4chan would be this nice becuz i thought everyone here was just some weeb who watches naruto in his mums basement and neckbeards who fap over boxxy
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what if my reply is red?

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?

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For both genders.

Have you ever fallen for someone while in a relationship? What did you end up doing?
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What could this signify?

A girl touched my elbow when she was breaking of from an event we organized. While she hugged the two other male organizers around the same time
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>>20472585
Just being friendly.
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>>20472544
>Have you ever fallen for someone while in a relationship? What did you end up doing?
Girl. Of course I have. It happens, completely natural. It's not like anyons is wired to only have capacity for 1 person at a time.

I did nothing, obviously, because a sudden, short term crush, means nothing in the long run. Just because you like someone else more for a short period of time, due to the freshness of new infatuations, doesn't mean you should ever act on it. Then you could keep going from crush to crush, and never stop.

New isn't always better, but that doesn't mean it isn't appealing. It's knowing to not go all in on the next new craze, just because it feels slightly better at the time. You'll never be satisfied that way.
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>>20470881
That's cynicism and despair. If you choose to live you life that way, fine, be my guest, but better people don't.

>>20470957
Thanks anon. I did (namely anger management therapy). Keep in mind all this happened about 10 years ago.

>>20471682
I never denied it. Nor did I ever blame her. But the violence and abuse I was exposed to my entire life as a child surely had an effect on me when I escaped at age 18. I had to learn lessons hard and quickly. But there was a buffer time when, you could, attribute my behavior to my abusive mother.

I'm 27 now and haven't spoken to my mother in nearly a decade. Obviously nothing I've done or do now is in any way her fault. But age 18, in those circumstances, it's a real stretch to deny it.

>>20471874
I had a hard life and figured things out. I'm a richfag, moralfag, good with women, and overcame many problems I see posted here; so I try to give back. At some point in my 20's, I really stopped caring what others think about me, so now I just say whatever is on my mind. Like a super honesty. It's not always beautiful, but I try my best and never act like I'm perfect.

The net contribution of my life IRL is overwhelmingly good.

im worried for my schizophrenic friend recently there has been an aggravation in her symptoms notably with intrusive voices and she was saying she’s experiencing very extreme changes in perception and personality which are hard for her to manage and that she needs to be alone all the time (she actually hallucinates/has delusions but she doesnt realize that shes having a psychotic relapse only i realize - she thinks its real and she thinks angels are telling her to do shit) so she recently moved out from her mothers house to be alone in like an airbnb and we used to talk on the phone all the time every day but recently its been so difficult to contact her and she would always talk to me and tell me about her day but now she's constantly in her psychosis bubble with her divine mission or whatever basically im worried for her that shes alone in that state in another country i cannot reach her and i dont think anybody knows how intense the psychosis is cause she only talked to me about that (im psychotic too but in remission/recovery) idk what to do cause of course she wont ever want to get treated and she'll hate me if i suggest it but i dont want her to find herself alone somewhere on the street while shes hallucinating/having delusions she thinks she has mystical superpowers, her mother is catholic and won't ever consider treating her daughter, it's no use to talk to that woman, she tries to cure her daughter's mental illness with holy water, i just dk what to do and i dont wanna call the police on her cause that's abusive and horrible
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>>20471267
>im worried for her that shes alone in that state in another country i cannot reach her
Have you actually ever me this person in real life?
Not much you can do being that you're far away from her. I mean I suppose you could call the cops and say she wants to kill herself or something along those lines. That will get her immediate psychiatric 'treatment'.
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>>20471520
we're irl friends, she just lives in another country. i'm going to visit her at the end of this month. i just think this type of forced "treatment" is often unnecessarily brutal and traumatic for the patient. that there must be a way to get them to consent.
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>>20471578
>i just think this type of forced "treatment" is often unnecessarily brutal and traumatic for the patient.
That's true.You should definitely visit her and see what you can do hands on when you're there with her. It sounds like a tragic situation for her but just understand that there is only so much that you can do for her. Best of luck brother. For you and her.
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I have schizoaffective and have seen that kind of thing happen to someone else in a social circle. We weren't nearly as close to what you describe but I was the one he could kinda talk to about this sort of thing.
In my humble opinion, there's next to nothing that you can do. If she's in danger, or might be harmful to anyone else, call emergency services. She needs treatment, though you probably know how barbaric it's going to be.
Strongly recommend against drugs (even alcohol or weed) if she hints at self-treatment. If you do see her, and she's physically well, try to get her to check into a psychiatric clinic, it's much different if she does so herself. It would help if you showed your face once or twice to hint that she's not a pet for the shrinks to keep for a few years and that she has prospects of being free and functional again. She won't get any better if left untreated. When talking to shrinks present the situation stoically. Don't mention your own illness.
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>>20471620
>>20471608
thank you anons

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what's it like living a life where you're not a sad degenerate?
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Great
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actually good, try it
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if you think your a sad degenerate that's all you'll be,get shit done
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It's all fun till you have been happy for a long time it's like beating a game... You do it all again, you become depressed because you got all you ever wanted
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It's nice. Lots of stuff to look forward to and frequently just feel intensely happy for next to no reason. Still snap back to the depression once in a while, the trick is not getting suck there.

My life seems to get significantly worse every time I meet new people. And by that I mean, for example: coming into a job, having to have people around me. Hatred grows in me with every group of people I meet. Fuck. Any advice for me?
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>>20471301
Try not to focus on the people around you. Be polite and courteous because positive interactions with coworkers are important and having a neutral stance with anyone is a good thing.

Think about how to improve yourself to feel proud and confident from your achievements.

You can do it OP.
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I don't know if this helps but I would contribute to what >>20471548 said by saying that people tend to be much more concerned with how you see them than anything else, I don't know why specifically you hate having people around you but I hope that helps

Another stupid girl problems thread, brace yourselves.

I have this female friend at uni I regret never asking out. Now I realize the best course of action is to just date around until I'm over her, which I'm doing, but I kinda still want to give it a shot. Thing is, I'm kinda concerned she might agree to a "date" only to reject me later, seeing how nice she is. Is there ever any chance to be successful with a girl after knowing her more than two weeks or is that just a meme from the movies?

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Trying to decide between 2 job offers

What would be best for me in the long run?

I'm a medical professional that is just out of school. I have 2 entry level job offers: 1 including...

>13 dollars an hour
>offers PTO after 6 months
>is open 5 days a week, schedules at 39 hours (in case we need to stay a little late each day and not go into OT)
>off on major holidays only (Christmas, New Years Day, Independence Day, etc)
>has 401k/dental/vision insurance only after 90 days. >has a 200 dollar scrub allowance agter 90 days

The other job offer
>14 dollars an hour
>offers PTO after 1 year

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They both seem similar

Check the employers record carefully, as you're new it's going to matter more.
Try to talk to current employees

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Lads, i'm actually really concerned

I probably havent slept in a full day. It's 5:30 in the morning here, and I have to go to school in two hours. The thing id, I dont even feel tired. This happened yesterday, and I was fine throughout the whole day. Didn't sleep when I got home, I just played vidya, then played in bed. Thus the cycle of /nosleep/ continues

What the fuck do I do?, is there a cure?. Exams are soon, but my schedule is fucked no nohop there
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>>20471673
don't force sleep, it'll make it worse
just let it pass
or raid the adhd kid's meds for some codeine and KO yourself
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Some people say go to bed when you actually feel tired. Thing is by the time I'm actually tired I have actual commitments to do and then I'm just super fucking tired and wishing for a bed.

I've never actually tried reducing my screen time or trying to sleep at a decent time. Plus I'm drinking caffeine all night so I know my problems I just have no discipline.

Here's what we're gonna do OP. Pick a bedtime, say 10pm. Do not stare at any type of electronic screen for one hour prior to this time, so 9pm. Drink some non-caffeinated tea and read a book or listen to music/podcast. If that's still not working try some melatonin.

We can do this.
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try melatonin

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How the fuck do I get happy
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>>20471611
Wish I knew
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Molly

tl/dr Where do I meet new friends?

Some suggest going to meetups with your same hobbies but I'm not really into those kinds of people. For instance I enjoy photography but I wouldn't want to join any photography club.

I have friends but most are already married, engaged and on the way there. I want buddies whom I can go to parties to, have fun with drinking a night out, be wingmen with each other etc. I asked my married and friends with girlfriends for a night out but their wives / gfs won't allow them to because they think they will see other chicks.

For the record I recently ended my two year relationship because I found out she's cheating. I'm still a bit mad but life moves on.
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>>20471569
Same did a hiking meet up and it was lame. Been meaning to post on reddit so I can get like one or two people to go with and not a big slow moving crew.
I think adults will never make friends the same as we did in school.
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>>20471602
>I think adults will never make friends the same as we did in school.

That's what sucks man. I don't know where to go to sometimes and I feel lonely.

Not to mention I own my own business and I don't have any coworkers I can go out with.

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Do people act aloof because they're guarded, or is always, always a sign of disinterest?

I know I tend to hang back and be cool at first because I'm not sure how I feel about somebody or something, and sometimes women act really offended and hurt when I'm not rushing a relationship along. The reason I don't do it is because I've done it before and it never ended well. But I don't know if my approach is fucking it up, and if it's an anomaly for me to be like this, or if it's safer to think plenty of others do the same thing and maybe some day, somebody will understand it.
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>>20470382
Women will say things like "they want a man to commit" or "I just want to know if you really love me" but truth is they're just as confused as us (maybe even more). They don't know what the fuck they want so they'll speedball shit till they find the perfect man. Simple
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>>20471211
What's speedballing exactly?


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