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i am extremely intimidated by NORMIES who developed NORMAL social skills and easily communicate and get everyone around them to want them around. i am shy, introverted, awkward and have social anxiety. NOBODY EVER RECOVERS. FUCK THIS! Why am I like this? Why is there no way to make it go away? Why? I am 25 and I might as well jump off a bridge!!!
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>>21156041
If the point is that you are an angry autist who doesn't want to help and thinks he is a special snowflake superior to everyone else who deserves special treatment, then yes.
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>>21155904
You're making excuses to not improve your ability to talk to others. Social skills are a learned skill. Just like anything else the more you expose yourself to situations that require it, the better you'll get at it.
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>>21156056
This man is correct OP

You have a bad attitude and it is the first thing you need to fix on your road to change.
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>>21156056
youre overly mad about nothing
the average joe doesnt do any introspection or is even aware of how lucky he is to be sane and alive
i didnt even ask for help, retard
>>21156102
not even OP
holy shit this board is full of downs
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>>21155904
Because you've been socially isolated and all of a sudden you want to be like everyone else and others expect that from you.
You need to take it slowly and have a period where you adapt and grow your social skills.

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There's a forum I post on regularly that basically forbids one or two-word posts like "Yes", or "I agree." This is moronic because it basically forbids people from expressing agreement with someone just because they can't add anything new or "substantial" to the discussion, but whatever.

My solution to this is a Like system. Specifically, a Like system where you can only see the Likes on your own posts so as to prevent possible hivemind mentality. There's pretty much no downsides to this, and it allows people to express agreement with others een if they don't have anything else to add to the discussion. How should I convince the administrators of the website about my idea? I've tried in the past, but nothing ever came of it.
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fthtgf
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Fuck off with this thread. Why is this so important to you? Anyways, suck them off.
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I agree
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>>21156087
upvoted
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forums are so 2005

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How do I study? Like how do I actually sit there and read and do practice assignments and actually get something out of it? I feel like I'm not retaining any information whatsoever
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>>21156216
Read your notes multiple times. Once after you get home, and again before your next class you stupid piece of shit. Also that’s just the minimum amount of time.
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>>21156216
Go to a library or something and shove your phone in your backpack and just do the work. Do it well, even if it takes you time. Just doing it is going to create pathways in your brain that will get built up.
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>>21156216
I don't want to waste too much energy on advice on here, but what I personally found what helped the most was basically condensing clumps of information into groups, can be big or small, and inducing a memory trigger that I can associate with that group of information. It's impossible to remember every fact or minor detail, but if you can create memory triggers you will subliminally start thinking of information that may randomly come back to you which you thought was insignificant. Start off by selecting what you consider relevant information, seperate it into broad groups, assign a trigger to the group's (I personally use colors but it can be anything that is related to the group you created), and add more obscure Information into those groups once you are feeling confident in the system, if you choose to use it. It sounds a little silly but it got me through 3 years of my Chem degree, finishing my fourth starting September and plan on using the same system again.
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>>21156216
Interact with the material.
Practice explaining it to:
1. a person who asks you "why is that so?"
2. a person who asks "how you do you know that?"
3. a person who is 10 years old and doesn't already know any of the theory
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>>21156216
>self teach
That's what they don't teach you.

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did antidepressants help you get over MAJOR depressive disorder?
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You need to lift bro

Love /fit/
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>>21157100
They help rewire the brain.
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>>21157100
Permanently made my dick covered in smegma as soon as I came off them
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>>21157100
Nope.
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>>21157100
No... not really, getting a job did.
Also light drinking.

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I need Simeone with experiencie making money, i have a job but the amount that it makes it's no enough i have thought of a number of options to do, advice from people with experience is highly appreciated, i Will answer more details if required, here are ma Main plans:
a) Giving some English classes un muy house.
b) Being a tourist guide
c) Giving some professional courses of chemistry to coleagues
d) selling flavored water in the local market
e) Selling some feet talcum powder and almonds body cream
f) Selling food
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>>21155552
Food is not illegal yet it has more demand
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Algernon...
How much do you have saved up for a business venture?
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>>21155207
>https://www.surveyjunkie.com/
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Let me give you a hint: money makes money.
Your little lemonade stand isn't going to get you anywhere with a peasant money attitude. Make a monthly excel budget so you're aware, accumulate in a TFSA/MUTF, focus on what you're actually good at to generate income, rinse and repeat for 10 years.
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>>21155207
Are you a schlepper?

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My gf and I have been together for 2 and a half years. Recently she's become more Christian and we had a talk about how she doesn't want to have sex until marriage. We've had plenty of sex beforehand for about a year and half before this too so this was a bit of a shock too me. I told her I disagree but I still love her and respect her decision. It's been a few months since I last had sex and it's bugging me a lot. Along with a few other moral disagreements we have, I've been doing a lot of thinking. It's difficult cause I still love her and she still loves me but this is tearing me apart. What should I do?
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>>21156919
you need to convert to christianity (chad religion), and then tell her that you're going to start doing your own things. i'm not saying to cheat, i'm saying go do shit without her. when she texts, text her back hours later. if she calls don't pick up, just text her with "whats up?". start treating her like a friend, instead of your girlfriend. start going to the gym, doing a sport, etc. anything to get away from her.

Do that for about a month, 2 months max, and she'll wanna talk. then point out you're just busy becoming the man you've always wanted to be. don't say "im leaving you alone because no sex". it'll just become an argument. she'll eventually miss you enough that sex will be her go to-to get your attention. women crave a man with desire and pride. be that man OP.
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>>21157226
She'll still be able to hold out til marriage. Don't underestimate the power of white Jesus dick.
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>>21157236
she's given it up before, you think she won't give it up again in the future? its a hard catch to find a religious woman who is starting to experience what it means to have morals. she just needs to understand that even though its a sin, what would Jesus want? sex is the expression of love (it should be), i think Jesus would be more happy with a premarital sexual relationship that could end up in a great marriage rather than a relationship that ends because the man is sexually frustrated because his girlfriend decided to be a born again virgin.
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>>21157259
>i think Jesus would be more happy with a premarital sexual relationship that could end up in a great marriage rather than a relationship that ends because the man is sexually frustrated
That's the guy who said "go forth and sin no more". I'm the anon who suggested compromising for the sake of the next generation, but if we're solely talking about religion, then her obligation as an individual is clear--no more fornication.
From that religious standpoint, if she's serious about it, her decision would probably be to end this relationship and find someone who will wait. That's going to be borderline impossible because she's already fornicated, of course.
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>>21156919
>have sex until marriage
It's not the purity is it?!
She want to control the relationship/
She took a stand basically telling you what to do: propose and get married.
If you play like she wants then she'll always drop her lockdown move with bs excuse.
You need to compromise on something, not all but also take a sand of your own or you'll look like a tool idiot.
If you don't want to be ruled by your gf through pussy and other shit you need to assert yourself.

Here's what I'd do:
>Sure we won't have sex but bjs don't count, now if we're talking trad stuff I want you more active in the kitchen

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What are some sensitive topics of discussion which trigger people?

What are some subtle signs that tell you a guy is good with women?
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>>21158685
Yeah huh
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>>21158682
What does that mean? He could easily just have attachment issues, or he doesn’t initiate at all
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>>21158686
if you did then you were never just a friend to them
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>>21158660
>subtle sign
Women actually like being with him.
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>>21158688
They are just friends to me.

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What to put in my salty biscuits?

I want something that does not dirty everything and can be easily put.

Also a salty and sweet option.
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Pepper jelly
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>>21157345
you mean on your biscuit?
ghost pepper sauce
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>>21157350
is that a british thing?

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>tfw bf doesnt last long in bed
>started dating few months back. i love him and he is the best boyfriend everrr
>things started getting intimate and wild :eyes:
>we started doing it raw and he cant even last a minute after penetration...
>he has only made me cum once out of all the sexual activities we've done while we've been together
what should i do? should i tell him how i feel? is it rude to tell him im not satisfied in bed? i really dont know what to do but i want to reach out to him about it

(im more experienced than him but also he is a total newbie at this whole sexy time stuffs)
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>>21155339
>i can even get a yeast infection from getting fucked too roughly
>>21155352
if you're getting a yeast infection in general from sex, clean yourself up hoe
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>>21149524
Listen, the key to solving all problems is to communicate about them. If you're more experienced than him, teach him how to do it.
Tell him to do stuff outside of penetration, in order for the both of you to have fun. Have him learn how to give oral, or use his fingers (preferably before he comes because motivation goes down after that).
If you feel bad about telling him "I'm not satisfied", tell him "hey you know what I would really really like?". It's softer and should be good enough of a motivation.
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>>21156709
Thanks, I'll keep that in mind next time I see him.
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>>21149524
>tfw bf doesnt last long in bed
I can do 3-5h easy
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>>21152852
>>21149759
What the fug

What phd even goes into this area of research?

When do I start seenig the benefits of NoFap? (I'm mainly doing NoPorn), I haven't fapped in about 9 days but haven't really seen much difference
I'm doing NoFap because I'm addicted to it
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>>21156533
Jerking off makes you deplete dopamine.
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>>21156918
That;s bullshit and I just proved why
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>>21156663
>>21156691
>>21156827
>>21156832
>>21156836
Based thread.

TL:DR for those who are too lazy to click the links basically every piece of science done on Male masturbation points to it be extremely healthy to masturbate regularly.

But on the other hand watching too much porn can indirectly cause ED and is a time waster when you could be bettering yourself and your life.
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>>21156533
after 3 weeks, you'll get the no fap glow
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>>21156832
>>21156836
This is false. Excess masterbation, if you are in 15-30 age group causes prostrate cancer. But if you're above 50 then it decreases the chances of prostrate cancer. So make sure you only masterbate after the age of 50.

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I have 3 degrees, work a dead end job, part time. I've always been privileged and had everything handed to me for years. I have a great gf. I just can't seem to get motivated to get off my ass and get a real job.
What do? I'm old(er) and my resume is shit. I haven't done anything but be in school and smoke pot.
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>>21157239
thanks. thats actually good advice
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>>21157274
Ur welcome good luck
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>>21157284
i mean, bottom line though, how the fuck do you sell yourself to an employer? i've never really gone out for a career job, just a part time
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>>21157310
You gotta have something to sell and believe in it. It’s going to be specific to what you want to do but I’ve always liked the mantra, fake it til you make it. Study what successful people in that field or job do and try your best to copy them. Appear confident and excited about the position.
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>>21157206
>What do?
gfy

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I want to learn how to dance so I can impress people (girls) at bars and also have more fun. My plan was to get a VR headset and learn that way.

In bars I usually just autisticly bob my head and legs a bit, off rhythm most likely. I want to be able to have some knowledge of what to do dancewise when a type of song comes on as i assume it would let me enjoy the dj and dancing aspect of some nights with friends.
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>>21157171
Just dance around the house when nobody is watching. Try to keep a steady rhythm and move your feet, hips and arms to that rhythm, confidence is key. You won't become a dance master overnight but you will slowly improve.
There is plenty of simple dance tutorials online too.

That, or bop your knees and perform reload animations from different video games.
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>>21157171
Just Dance like a douche and have people admire your confidence and your ability to let go and have fun I mean that's what dancing is really about anyway.
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>>21157171
>Want to learn how to dance
instructor

Is being kind to everyone a turn-off for a girl? I mean she won't really feel special if you treat ever person you meet as nicely as you treat her.
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It is a turn off if you don't treat her as special/give up all other sexual &romantic endeavors for her. It's not a turn off if you do. Next.
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it's a turn off if you're equal to everyone including her. if you literally treat every girl the same as her when you go out together you're going to give . the other women the wrong impression as well. be kind, but don't treat them exactly the same as your girlfriend.
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It’s a turn off to treat them better than what they are. In general women have low confidence and self esteem compared to men and treating them special makes them think you must be a loser to fall for someone like them.
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>>21157159
>Is being kind to everyone a turn-off for a girl?
So being attractive AND kind is harder in my experience than being attractive and a dick. There are many reasons I've seen, but this is my general understanding.

So it matters what *kind* of nice you are. Not all "kindness" is the same, aka:
>I agree with her and tell her nice things so she'll sleep with me
vs.
>I agree with her because her logic is sound and tell her nice things because she's earned them
see?

Kindness can be very attractive when paired with maturity, firmness, and a sense of self-purpose and identity. In that scenario your kindness will allow other people to feel comfortable being their honest selves around you, which feels very nice and open. Feeling good and open can definitely lead to crazy good connections and sex.

So it depends what kind of "kind" you are being anon and your motivations for doing so.
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>>21157159
>Is being kind to everyone a turn-off for a girl?
yes cause the are attracted by predators

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Hey guys. Okay, so about a year ago I decided for some weird reason that it be pretty cool to get a finger tattoo with the logo of the very keyboard i'm typing on this forum with!

No larp! Anyway. I sometimes like him, sometimes hate looking at it. It's kinda weird at times and indifferent and I go through an identity crisis because of it. But mostly i'm content with it...

Although i'd probably have more peace of mind if I got it removed...Do you think it's even possible and how long would a little piece like this take? Since it's so small and on the hands I would imagine only a few laser treatments??? Or should I just go savage and burn it off with a hot iron?
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>>21158245
They say black ink is easier to remove than colored one.
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>>21158262
That's pretty fucking cringey
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>>21158245
Amputate at the neck. Should solve the problem.
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>>21158245
i got a s.t.a.l.k.e.r tattoo op, yours is infinitely less ridiculous than mine. but if you really want to remove it, laser treatment will be way better than burning your hand with a fucking hot iron.
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Laser will remove it, but be aware that the pain it causes might be worse than just living with the tattoo. It's like second degree burns, multiple times, over a few months.


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