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It's more than that.

One thing that I know turns me off with women is when they rake me over the coals. Every decision needs to be dissected and explained, no matter how forgiving you are of their own tiny bullshit. They go at it with an attitude that you owe them something, that you should be GRATEFUL for their time and attention.

I think what it comes down to what men want in a gf, it's her being the one person in his life who kinda supports him instead of treating him the same way everyone else treats him. I already have a boss to answer to, coworkers that I have to grapple with, and bills that stress me out. Why the fuck would I want a woman that just keeps putting papers on each of those three piles?
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>>20492163
lol no
I personally want some overweight slut with a terrible personality
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>>20492163
The fuck is this? 1/10 she gets a pity point.
I wouldn't even want to have her as a friend and this is rare.
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What most men actually want
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>>20492163
I mean, this was clearly written by some anime sperg, but some of those do sound pretty nice.

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A few months ago

>meet guy through a shared hobby
>think we are hitting it off, he does that playful tease bordering on flirting
>gently touches me sometimes, casual but it feels like we linger
>maybe there's something between us

>German choir comes to visit, promises to keep contact are exchanged
>i'm good dawg.
>a few days later he's really insistent that we meet up with them in Germany
>says they offer to stay in their houses
>suspicion. exe has been launched
> ask who he has been talking to
>"this girl".
>"who will you be staying with?"

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>>20493350
With all do respect OP, but
>choir
underaged b&?
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>>20493416
No. Our oldest members are in their 70s and our youngest is 19. Never said anything about a school choir

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Tell me how you got a girlfriend. Be very precise with details please.
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>>20490692
>be me
>be like 16 or whatever
>me pop punk nu metal mallgoth faggot
>MSN chatroom for my local city
>"hi does anyone here like punk rock send me a pm if you do"
>gril sends me message
>we talk music for days
>meet up IRL
>go see movie
>mom's spaghetti
>she wasn't a KHV like me so she made the first move and kissed me
>make out for like 20 minute while staff is cleaning popcorn off the floor
>go home and get my dick suck
>too much of a virgin to actually bust in her or even cum at all

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>>20491632
yes I do
>>20491543
white
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Well not a girlfriend but got asked out by a very eager girl.

> 1: Take care of yourself (dont even have to be fit just fucking do shit like comb your hair, wash your face and dress decently.

> 2. Be friendly and basicly be a friend first.

Thats literally it. most relationships dont form after one day. it blossoms from friendship.

A girl that came on me was my friend of 4 years and i helped her get out of a shitty relationship,

about a week after she all over me and told me she'd liked me for a while. she said that i was so generally nice and good looking (which im really not maybe a 7/10 on a really good day)

We had a pretty intense makeout session which i had to stop her several times from going further because we were both drunk.

after that about a week after we're meeting up and stuff but i decide not to take it any further. she really needed to figure out how to fend for herself and she wasn't really my type. ( she hadn't had boyfriend outside of school and basicly had no other friends so she really needed to learn how to rely on herself)

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>>20493139
That picture made me laugh harder than it should.
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Just have to be yourself!

Had a talk with her recently about weed. I've never been an addict, dropped smoking cigs like I never smoked before and never had an alcohol addiction. I've never been a big cannabis user neither. But I talked to her about how I'd like to smoke once in a while. Just know we smoke CBD together. And she cried, telling me I'd become an addict, a bad person, etc..
Weed helps me get more creative. That's a fact. I have recorded a lot of music while high and it is way more "diverse" than when I'm sober. We've been together for 5 years, are both in favour of a total legalization of cannabis but she is against me smoking a little bit of weed once a week /every two weeks?? What should I tell her guys ..
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>>20492600
>We've been together for 5 years, are both in favour of a total legalization of cannabis but she is against me smoking a little bit of weed once a week /every two weeks?? What should I tell her guys ..


You tell her "hey babe, the fuck is your problem?"

For real, I grew up thinking that weed was the devil's lettuce cause my older brother got into drugs when he was like 15 or some shit but I thought he was only smoking weed when in reality he already was a cokehead by that age. I didn't know any better I was like 12. So for the longest time I thought that weed would turn people into huuuuge pieces of shit.

I bet it's the same thing for people out there who are super against marijuana. They had a friend or family member or relative who was smoking weed at one point but they were also drinking or doing hard drugs as well and so they think that all the negative shit that happpened came from weed exclusively.

For the record, I first tried weed when I was 21 and I did end up smoking everyday for years. I took a break for a few more years after that and started smoking again only because it was made legal here a few months ago.


Fuckin 4chan and video games were worse for my life and health than just weed.
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>>20492625
I can't break up with her. I'm pretty sure her crazy behavior was because she's overwhelmed by many things. But she still doesn't want me to smoke lol

>>20492657
I think it's the same thing here. One of her highschool friend ended up being a complete degenerate as he went on doing hard drugs, and one of my childhood friend now sells drugs. I know he only smokes weed tho, but I can't count the times people popped pills in front on us in his house or his car
So yeah, she's sure that weed caused this when there are many other factors.. she told me I may be tempted to do other drugs lol. I used to smoke everyday for a pretty long time too and I've never ever done more than smoking joints.

I feel your last line. I've had my demons too lol, but I feel like my life is way healthier than it was before. Thanks to my girl for the most part. But whenever I drink or anything, she makes me feel like I'm kind of betraying her bc I'm altering my conscience or something .. anyway thanks for your input man.
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>>20492600
Educate her on how weed isn't addictive and ask her to trust you that you can control yourself.
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>>20492882
>weed isn't addictive
Either you've hardly smoked any weed or you're in denial. Anything that triggers your reward system is addictive
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>>20493305
What ever you say Captain Semantics

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How do you properly smoke a cigarette? I'm 21 and only recently tried to smoke just out of interest to understand why some people are hooked on it.

I'm unsure whether I should be inhaling the smoke directly into my lungs (which makes it burn like a bitch), or should I first inhale the smoke in my mouth and then inhale it into the lungs?
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>>20491585
Yes you're supposed to breathe it into your lungs. Yes it feels funny, no it shouldn't burn. Take smaller puffs of smoke if it's burning your mouth or throat. That's a mistake I've seen with people who will take a huge drag then burn the shit out of their tongue on the smoke.

If you're only breathing it into your mouth you might as well stop because you get all the drawbacks with none of the benefits.
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>>20493310
>With low tolerance you get a head rush.

yeah literally my first time smoking a cigarette and not choking myself to tears I felt kind of dizzy

and also like >>20491838 mentioned you do feel kind of sharper and less hungry

but literally just drink coffee and spin around in your computer chair. You won't catch 7 kinds of cancer that way.
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>>20493328
You're also forgetting how well tobacco is suited to drugs. On its own I'll admit it's fairly mediocre but mixed with tobacco or mdma it feels great
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>>20491750

People don't smoke cigarettes for the rush, they smoke them because they're relaxing/taste good or they're addicted. If you want something that will give you a rush reliably, do pipe tobacco or chewing tobacco (not every day though)
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I've been smoking for 12 years. Seriously, don't do it. It's so hard to quit. Each drag burns my throat like nothing else but I just can't help but reach for another one. It seems A-OK until you start to feel its effects on your body -- especially it getting harder to breathe, the acid reflux (GERD) you inevitably get, and the persistent throat searing.

Been trying to quit for the past two years with no success. Really, just don't do it.

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>father of a 2 year old boy
How should I even go about shielding him from the rampant degeneracy in this world and in the media? Like.... how? I don't want to imprison him and take everything fun from him, I don't want to be the bad guy and I don't want him to become an aspie.
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>>20492844
Ikr

>>20492810
Good tip.

>>20492819
That's what I want to believe, thanks for the word though.

>>20492853
>We currently live in the least promiscuous generation since the 1920's.
I hope you don't really believe this. I don't even care if studies that purport this really exist or not it's just false.

Also why so fixated on sex when I didn't even mention sex? Sex isn't the only problem and not having enough sex and becoming asexual is just as much a problem, like Japs. But I understand it with all the porn, we are so lazy that we rather beat it to porn than groom ourselves be good people get to know someone and have sex with our partner.


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Just be a good dad. Do prepare yourself for his sexuality not being what you wanted though, dont hate him for it. Tell him to find someone who loves him and makes him happy, and avoid those of low moral character
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>>20493372
>I don't care care enough about what a triggered leftypol anon thinks to post pics of my son here
Imagine being this stupid. I would have accepted any timestamped photo of any sort of thing a family with a two year old would have, like toys or toddler clothes. I guess this really is just bait.
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>>20493372
>have a son
>this picture is saved on your computer/phone
I feel bad for your son, your wife/gf, and anyone associated with you within a 40 mile radius. Also reported.
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Aspie here - teach him not to use my disorder as an insult, that will make him a better person than you.

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How do I get the masochist gf? Where do I find them?
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>>20493406
I have a soft core masochist gf, no face peeling. It’s comfy
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>>20493406
We're on Fetlife. You can try DDLGForum if you're into that. Play anime-looking MMOs, plenty of us there.

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Should I spend $2000 on a twin-sized mattress?
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>>20493217
>>20493220
>>20493229
I have the money, but I don't know if I can afford it, or if it would be a smart decision. It's a Purple 3, I'm at the end of my 120 night trial. It's really comfortable, and I think, all things considered, I'm sleeping better on it. I get really hot at night unless the temperature is perfect (especially on nights after I work out), and the top layer of Purple helps about 50% of the time, but they're basically the only company that makes that top layer, so I can't just go somewhere else and buy a topper or something.

I'm just finding it hard to justify $2000 for a mattress. I came into a bit of money recently so I'm used to scrimping so I can afford food. I'd originally just wanted to try it out, but I actually really like it.
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Got a $100 mattress and it works for me but then I grew up in poverty so I kinda still buy everything poverty tier because I'm used to it
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>>20493277
You can buy any cooling toppers though, just put on a sheet over it or even some nice down topper
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>>20493377
Can you help me out with a specific? I'm not sure what I'd be looking for.
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>>20493212
>$2000
>twin-sized mattress
You think you don't get laid now...

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I personally don't want to die but if you and didn't have to balls how would get assistance in the process ?
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touch mercury

Where are the interesting girls? It feels like all the women I talk to are just like totally boring, average, can barely hold up a conversation. Ofc I'm also probably completely boring to them even though I've got quite a bit going on tbqh.

If you're fatter and uglier like I am would that keep them from wanting to put any effort into the convo?
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>>20492390
I can't help but not give a shit about top 40 hits and the bachelor
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>>20492416
The fuck does that mean? I already feel like I'm interesting
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>>20492552
It means that maybe you are not interesting and they present themselves as being uninteresting to get you uninterested in them. It’s hard to say without knowing both sides of the conversation.
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>>20491594
Certainly not in the internet. But 90% of them are boring anyway. The ones whose differential goes beyond havin a pussy are very rare
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>>20492416
This is true. On 4chan you're likely to run into a bunch of people with specialized hobbies, and you think anyone is "boring" who doesn't share boring hobbies. (Not saying OP specifically, but in general on here.)

The trick is to approach people with a genuine curiosity, be inquisitive, and eager to learn. But not everyone is comfortable with opening up, so you have to work at it, like a puzzle, or a coconut. This doesn't mean that everyone is interesting either... it's just, sometimes you have to try, because not everyone is naturally good at expressing themselves.

This is me doing my best to give good advice to a bait thread when I actually think you're hoping for graphics like this >>20491777 and a hivemind about why all girls are dumb thots.

If you're looking for interesting girls, find them in interesting places.

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TL;DR - Anon's current job isn't cutting it and he needs something new that will work with his physical and mental limitations. The less manual labor and face to face interaction with other people the better, but I realize this isn't always avoidable.

Currently, I'm already working a janitorial / light maintenance job at a grocery chain and it took me a few years to find even that in my area, a job I only got because the manager at the time was a family friend. After almost six years there I can't take it anymore. - I am in poor physical and mental health, being only 130lbs with a TSH secreting pituitary tumor preventing me from gaining weight or muscle mass at a reasonable rates, as such the additional manual labor from stocking, loading/unloading freight trucks, cart retrieval, and heavy lifting in the back room has begun to do serious damage to my back and knees which were in poor shape to begin with. I can manage certain stressors but fly into a panic when it comes to major (and sometimes minor) changes in my environment and job and I have difficulty interfacing with other people. Ashamed to say that I'm literally autistic having been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. I have also received a clinical diagnosis from a psychiatrist for Major Depressive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Finding and keeping work has been difficult for me and this job was working fine before they began requiring me to do all this extra shit, with no extra time to do it all, while still requiring me to get my regular duties done for the same amount of pay. I've been looking for a while now but can only find similar retail jobs to what I'd be leaving or things with educational or physical requirements that I do not meet. I really do want to work, I do not want to be a freeloader on the welfare system, so I come to you /adv/. Any suggestions as to potential jobs I could look for or pursue given my physical and mental limitations?

Thank you.

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My 16 year old sister is dating a 37 year old man. My dad found out and was furious. He told my sister she was grounded and to make him come over so he could confront him. He came over and he was an astonishingly handsome man, I was taken aback by how attractive he was. My dad was in his face and telling him to never see again or he would kill him. He refused though, he told him he loved her and he planned to marry her eventually. This infuriated my dad and he punched him, really hard. I told my dad he was going too far. My sister's boyfriend was trying to be civil initially but this was the final straw. He punched my dad and knocked him out. My sister and I were horrified. He apologized and said he didn't mean to hit him that hard then called an ambulance.

While dad was in the hospital, my sister told him she had no intention of leaving her boyfriend and they had an argument. My father and my sister hate each, they fight constantly and my father does everything he can to prevent her from seeing him. They've had some nasty arguments, my sister has been talking about moving with her boyfriend and never seeing our family ever again. I don't think we should all this bad blood.

How do I patch things up between them? I asked my sister's boyfriend if he would apologize to him and he said yes but he doesn't think he'd accept it. As for why there's no legal action involved, my sister is of the age consent so technically there's nothing nobody can do about this legally speaking.
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>>20492572
Are you wet for the predator?
Why would you mention how amazingly handsome he is otherwise.
Also you almost sound fond of him, despite what he is doing to your family.
This is an almost 40 year old man who is grooming a child.
Fucking do something.
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>>20493314
>Shapely long legs, thin but firm core, bright sparkling teeth, ample but not fat tits, beautiful blue eyes.

and she's also got bleached blonde hair and makes a wacky face or something with her tongue out, like everyone else on instagram

I'm not saying she's ugly, but she looks like literally any other thot.

Those >>20493314
>>20493227
could be pictures of two completely separate unrelated people and I wouldn't know it.
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>>20492866
>pairbond
Immediate incel giveaway.
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>>20493324
I'm not going to spend the entire thread dumping some semi-famous girl's old pics, but I just picked two that I saved from a long time ago. She's still beautiful. Your "thot" shit is ridiculous.

The point is just that she's pretty, and not every 16 year old girl is some goofy gangly broad with acne, she looks like an attractive woman with secondary sex characteristics.
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>>20492846

>how to not get friendzoned
>how to impress her
>how to get a girlfriend
>how to be alpha
>how to flirt properly
>how to make her chase you
>just be yourself


I have a question, did people who actually have a girlfriend go through all this?
Do I have to learn all these things to get a girlfriend?????

PS: I have a date tomorrow.
I'm so nervous cause she is a really good one maybe..
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>>20491719
Lol, asking a girl out is the easy part, the actual date is where the shit hits the fan
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>>20491839
Oh yeah women care about your personality, keep telling yourself that, if you weren’t tall you’d be an incel
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>>20492060
Wow this is a lot of words to say precisely nothing.
>"Just be special and unique!"
Non-actionable advice isnt advice.
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>>20491895
>5'10
am i fucked?
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>>20491609
>>how to be alpha

enjoy having second job because you have to be alpha the whole entire relationship.

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I'm a college student who lives by myself. All my friends either went to a different college or dropped me as a friend all together. The only social interaction I have on a daily basis is with my classmates that I don't know very well. Loneliness has set in by now and I only leave my room to eat or go to class. Whats the best way to meet new people?
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Nigga college is easy mode for making friends, plenty of people are in the same boat. Join a club, talk to your roommates/neighbors talk to your classmates ect
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>>20493218
It's weird, bc >>20493256 is right but also wrong. I go to clubs, try to talk to my classmates, roommates, neighbors, literally everyone, and yet they are the most antisocial people I have ever seen. I actually couldn't believe it at first. I'm in a similar boat to you, I don't it either.

I feel as if my friends arent my actual friends and I dont know if I should confront them or not

For context, my friends basically have a group chat on discord that is made to avoid talking to me, and I didnt think much about it until we were in a call and everyone left to safety. Thats when I left the dm and got super mad. Fast forward a month and I made a new dm with all of the active people in my friends and I's dm, which was very inactive. I asked to join their safety to fix our friendship (which was very tense) and we set up a made up court case. If I won, I would be let back in, although I heard one of my friends say that he will just make another safety if I win. This ticked me off so I started insulting them, and just letting my emotions spill. And then all of a sudden im the bad guy for being toxic.


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