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I just prescribed benzos during my first appointment with a psychiatrist. I told him that I'm suicidal but also that I get very anxious and agitated and have been barely sleeping lately. Also I've been self harming a bit lately. Aren't benzos dangerous for people with suicidal thoughts? I'm just worried about the side effects, does anyone have any experiences in a similar situation? Yes, I should've asked him but I didn't think of it.
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>>21380846
They can help with sleep but like just make sure you don’t become dependent on them.
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>>21380846
>>21380854
Same anon. To be honest I don’t know what your situation is. You should probably listen to your psychiatrist than me and anyone else on this board. But no they are not dangerous if you’re suicidal.
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>>21380846
Thanks, yeah, it's temporary until I get an actual treatment plan
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For years they were the most sold prescription drug worldwide.
It’s safe and very helpful as long as you don’t take it everyday or every two days, etc. Just use it for when you really need it and you’ll be fine. If you don’t do that you’ll become addicted and cutting it cold turkey will make you go insane. Control your intake and you’ll be more than fine.
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>>21380837
>>21380864
My dad is a dentist and he gives a
short acting version of this to anyone who has dental anxiety. He says it helps them a lot and some of them even fall asleep.

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What's the point in living or planning for the future when we're all going to be dead in 20 years from climate change anyway? Like, there is actually NO point in studying for a degree, building a career, starting a family, or doing anything with any longevity at all. Why shouldn't we all just drop out of college etc and live as NEETs doing decadent shit and copious drugs and alcohol? There's no reason not to when society is just going to collapse in a decade or two anyway.
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>>21380536
Are you the same person who posts this every single day?

As you've been told before, even worst case scenarios do NOT have us all dying in 20 years. Life may get rougher, due largely to disruption of food supplies, but we are NOT all going to wake up dead on January 2, 3040
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>>21380607
The vast majority of climate scientists are now predicting we ARE in a mass extinction event, and a large number of those scientists also now predict that there is nothing we can do to prevent it at this point. At the very least we are going to see societal collapse, mass refugee waves to the north, lawlessness, anarchy, starvation, raping and pillaging, etc. Mad max world.
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>>21380536
So yes our future is going to be deeply fucked by climate change. Let’s look at this from two lenses
>what you’re saying is correct, the worst WORST case scenario happens we’re all dead by 50

That’s still 25 years of functioning society to enjoy and work in. You’re going to need to have a job in that time and if what you’re saying is true then that’s all the more reason to try to achieve your goals NOW rather than later because there is no later. This however is not the most likely scenario.

>what will likely happen
You will survive in some horrible capacity. The optimistic view would be to assume that we only warm 1.5 degrees and we somehow pause right now with our carbon emissions. That’s unlikely. It’s very very likely that the future will be heavily impacted by climate change but we will still continue on. You will still need money and skills and stuff to enjoy (friends and family) even if you wind up in some horrible hellscape where famine regularly occurs and society collapses. I honestly don’t think society will collapse as a result of climate change (the us will probably fall into a civil war before then which would cause a collapse of society) barring any suddenly triggered positive feedback loops. The future will be very different and it will likely be different for the worse but the important thing is that you will likely survive to see that horrible future. So if apocalypse is on the horizon, you should both enjoy the calm and peace that you have now and make sure that you’re successful now to have enough resource to survive then.
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>>21380536

How the fuck could you afford to NEET for decades? Seems to me like you're probably going to need to work for a living just to afford living until "the end of the world" or whatever retarded shit you're counting on. In that case you're best off finding yourself the comfiest job you can get whether or not you think the world will somehow end in twenty years. I say look.for that job in Canada. They have legalized weed and even legalized magic mushrooms.
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>>21380620
[citation needed]

I have dick that is curved into the left, is that a consequence of jerking to much? (I am right handed and I put a lot of pressure)
Does anyone else have same experience?
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>>21380825
>is that a consequence of jerking to much?
That is very unlikely.

How curved are we talkin about? Lots of people have a curved dick, a small curve is no problem. If it is approaching a 90 degree bend then well maybe talk to your doctor as that could be a serious medical condition.


My dick curves up a bit and hangs to the left
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Dick curve is normal but if its too much jerk off with right hand to correct it.
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>>21380847
Nah, it is only a little, but still making me insecure. I'd want to have it straight, or curved upwards.
>>21380849
You think this would work?
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>>21380853
>You think this would work?

Yes. Dick can be corrected. In fact you should do this to correct you scoliosis too.
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>>21380856
Thank you, I'll try to do it with left hand.

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I just want a virgin gf.
She can be fat, she can be ugly, I don't care
I just want her to not be a slut.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
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There are many girls who is virgin. But we are incel and nerd
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>>21380566
>He actually believes those made up meme graphs
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>>21380629
Nobody is losing their shit here except virgin fetishists like you or OP. Everyone is just pointing out how dumb you are.
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>>21380776
>she's actually trying to argue that being a roastie is good
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>>21380586
That's just bullshit. I was a virgin until 23 when I met my current boyfriend and we have a great, active sex life (we fuck almost every day after 2 years together). Of course it was awkward at first, but after a couple of times I got the gist of it. I don't know why you equate virginity with being a prude. Before meeting him I masturbated, I watched porn, I knew what sex was and I didn't think it was something shameful or weird. I just didn't want to fuck a random guy I had no feelings for and it took some time to find "the one". Someone I was sure wanted a long term relationship, semeone that I felt safe with, someone that I felt I had a conmextion woth. Sex with no attachments is just not something I'm interested in, even if I have a pretty high sex drive. Masturbation did its job well enough until I found my bf.

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What are the best drugs for anxiety that won't fuck me up long term?
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>>21380067
Deep breathing when the feelings hit, good music, and regular exercise
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>>21380067
Ngl not taking a drug. A lot of the drugs for anxiety can cause dependency. You should just learn the different ways of managing anxiety without drugs.
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>>21380067
Heroin
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>>21380067
Cbd, it relaxes your muscles/body, you'll feel less tense, but you won't get high.

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So I was abused all throughout my childhood, and as an adult prefer abusive relationships to healthy ones. I'm not fully sure why that is. For some reason, being with guys that treat me well makes me nervous. Love feels really foreign to me and my brain goes crazy whenever I'm treated with warmth or respect. Being punched, insulted, and screamed at makes me feel more at home, and safer in a way. Please help me decipher my feelings, because I don't understand them entirely. Is this normal? Why are things backwards in my brain?
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If you google "fawning response" there's a bunch of articles that talk about this in some detail. Abuse is more familiar so it feels safer, like you said. You learnt that love had to be earned, so if it's just given to you it feels unsafe
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>>21380143
You've answered your own question - you feel most comfortable in what is familiar.

It's almost like language. If you grew up in a home in which French was spoken you would not only learn to speak French but to feel comfortable in French. Even if you learned English or Chinese as an adult, you'd still feel "at home" in French.

You feel "at home" in abusive relationships. This is in fact an all-too-common situation, and one that psychiatrists and counselors have a lot of experience dealing with. If you want to change, they can help you to stop "thinking in French" and change your expectations from relationships.
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>>21380143
You need to find a guy that went trough the same thing but came stronger out of it.
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>>21380143
>as an adult prefer abusive relationships to healthy ones
this is very common anon

you need to talk to a professional about this.
It could take years for you to really understand and confront your emotions.
in the meantime, you need to listen to your head and not your heart when making relationship decisions.


i'm sorry this happened to you
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>>21380143
You believe you don't deserve being treated well and vice versa.

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It's my last year here. I don't want to fuck a freshman, that'd be immoral. The only options available to me involve shitting where I eat, and I don't want that either.
If I join a new club, people think less of me when they hear I'm a senior. It's not status because I look, sound, and act nothing like one. I have arrested development.
Nobody wants to fuck me. I am hot as fuck and confident and have a big dick but nobody will fuck me. I came to college with one goal in mind, and that was to lose my fucking virginity. Lo and behold, nothing's changed except 4chan radicalized me and I have AGP now. Might as well take some HRT to seal the deal.
What do I fucking do bros? All you guys said was to join some clubs or go to bars, but that didn't work. The only girl I had a chance with on Tinder straight up told me to go get a therapist like I'm tired of being sexless I need pussy I need to cum in a woman before it's too late why why why why wh
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>>21379883
> I DO NOT WANT TO HURT THEM
then someone else will
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They're in college how the fuck is it immortal? It isn't highschool where there's a real mental and physical difference between freshman and seniors
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I don't want to do X thing which will cause the emotions I'm looking and won't hurt anybody because it's immoral is nothing more than hidden-speak for "I'm a pussy".
FACT: you're just scared you'll get rejected by a freshman and feel humiliated., that's all.
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>>21379867
>21 year old fucking an 18 year old
No one will judge you nor give a shit. I knew girls from my freshmen dorm who fucked men in their mid-late 20s, and I only felt like they were slightly judged but no one really gave a shit.
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>>21379867
you're an idiot
it is not immoral unless you lie to them or manipulate them

be honest and its totally fine.
you're just being a little bitch and making excuses.

You have noone to blame but yourself.

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How do you deal with the employment gap in your CV caused by enrolling in university but dropping out?
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>>21380249
Lie. Family member got sick. You went abroad. You were on a super secret mission that you can’t discuss. You moved to Africa to feed starving kids. Who cares. The interview is all that matters.
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>>21380249
Just say you were doing freelance work like transcription, thats what I did for my last resume.
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>>21380249
Put the years in school in the CV. If anyone notices that you didn't graduate (and most won't) just say "I had to drop out because of family issues."
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>>21380648
This is the correct answer.
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>>21380648

This. Some college is better than no college (but isn't better than work experience).

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wtf do I text to girls above my league with barely any info in their profile

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This is also my struggle kek, matching with qts (not your case tho) and then not having enough leads to start a convo.

In your case I'd either ask her about her tattoos, comment on the location she is at (ask her where that is because it looks similar to a place you've been) or just start with a simple "hey" and if she replies ask her if she's from town, etc. Don't be autistic
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>>21380636
>wtf do I text to girls above my league with barely any info in their profile
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>pic related

Kek, she is above your league? Is OP a deformed 2/10 turbo manlet?
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>>21380636
By eradicating the idea that “these girls are out of my league haha I’d be so lucky if one of them would have sex with me haha” that’s what you need to work on, not how do I text these chicks
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>>21380636
>sup girl? I can tell by your tattoos you make horrible life decisions. Wanna make another one?
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>>21380636
She looks fat, so ask for dinner right away, works every time

https://youtu.be/qx9ieoCsd1w

I sustained a lower back injury a couple years ago from a big fall with a small scar to prove it. Some have told me it’s a herniated disc I have, yet I’ve never had any X-rays done because I simply can’t afford it. It’s hard for me to do sit-ups or push-ups. Have any of you lived with a bad back?
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>>21380250
You should see a dr simply to know and understand whats going on with you.

Were guessing otherwise.

In general of its sharp shooting pain that travels down your leg and drops you to the floor, thats serious nerve shit.

If it’s localized and dull achey, it could be as simple as overly tight lumbar and glute muscles, perhaps paoas.

Drink water, stretch like you mean it, and take hit epsom salt baths

T massage therapist.
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>>21380250
I have 2 herniated discs in my lower back, strengthening your core, and becoming more active will help, I recommend surgery as well, either steroid injection, or if bad enough they may need to cut off some of the disc. If sit ups hurt, then find a way to use a core strengthening piece of gym equipment.
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>>21380250
Hey Anon, I have advanced degenerative spinal disease from a sports injury I sustain years ago. Basically I crushed some of the cartilage in my lower back and totally fucked it up.

Here is a list of things I have found that have a positive impact.

1. Remain flexible. Stretch, but not just your back.. you need to stretch everything connected to it. For example if I don't stretch my legs, they pull my back out of place and I can't walk some days cause of it.

2. Physiotherapy works but it is slow as fuck, acupuncture can also help but won't totally heal you. They are important to do in the early days of the injury and can help you when the pain is really bad.

3. Exercise. You need to strengthen your core, your legs and your back. So do ab exercises, like using an ab wheel and getting a pull-up bar that you use to do leg lifts and similar. This year I started doing deadlifts, but take it easy. I started at 60lbs which is really light because you do not want to over do it. Slowly add weight over time, i'm up to 100lbs after a few months and my back feels fuckin great. (seriously I wish I did this years ago) When strengthening, don't forget to stretch. Compromising flexibility is always bad.

4. Stay hydrated, dehydration causes tension and will fuck you. For example getting drunk can result in back pain for me because I tense up.

5. I try to avoid taking too many anti-inflammatory NSAIDs like ibuprofen cause that shit is really bad for your stomach. I have found that eating ~2.5g of turmeric works really well as an anti-inflammatory. Take it with food or something fatty. Alternatively you can buy turmeric pills.


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I want to visit Thailand and meet my interpal Qt3.14 and fuck her brains out but I don't have money what do I do... My salary is 420$/month and I need a minimum of 2000$ to travel just fk my shit up senpai
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So get a new job that pays more?
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>>21380819
I have one of the highest paying jobs for my civil engineering degree Even though I am a fresh graduate
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>>21380805

How the fuck do you live on $420 a month?
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>>21380822
My expenses are only 60$/ month no rent or utilities though because I live with my parents I still contribute to the budget though

What does /adv/ think of antidepressants? If a doctor is advising you to take them, should you take them or not?

Ideally I'd like to hear from people who have actually taken them? Whether they thought that antidepressants helped?

I've been taking one recently, mirtazapine a.k.a. Remeron. And yes it probably does make me less negative and slightly "happier", but I don't really want it. It's notorious for making you drowsy, and I can't get up in the mornings. Also it gives me these really vivid dreams. It's weird. It just feels like I'm not myself.

What do other people think?
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Anti depressants like prozac work a lot better than meme advice like "just face your fears". It makes me able to be happy and cheery and fit into the office culture more. You can't do that without antidepressants unless your personality is that way. I'm happy and calm now.
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>>21379898
I never feel panic on Prozac. I feel happy and calm. I'm able to smile and charm people all the time when I dress to impress. I'm able to focus more. It's a miracle drug. Best drug to cope with an office environment without anxiety.
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>>21379692
It is if left untreated yeah, the pharmacist gave me the wrong instructions and I couldn't read the label because I didn't speak the language in the country I lived in. I had a mild case of it so it didn't take too long to go away. To be honest, I'm kinda glad I had it because hydroxizine doesn't have as many nasty side effects and you can just stop taking it whenever you want, and uninterrupted sleep made my life so much better.
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>>21379898
THE SUICIDE RATE IS PER 100,000 PEOPLE YOU FUCKING IDIOT

DON'T EVER DO STATS BECAUSE YOU ARE CLEARLY TOO FUCKING STUPID TO READ A SIMPLE FUCKING GRAPH
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antidepressants just made me more depressed/suicidal, wished i had never taken them in the first place. now i realize its only a matter a time before i kill myself

I need a solution I have candida since the beginning of the year, I tried drugs but nothing, do you have some natural remedies to advice?
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>>21380602
Starve it by not eating sugar
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fast for 3 days every week. Avoid sugar. It's like you people do not even think. Just exist in some kind of perpetual self retardation.

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As a dude, is it a bad idea to move in with 2 girls?

Lived with mum/sister all my life so I more or less know what I'm in for with girls being messy fucks, but it still feels like a bad idea.

>one of them is a middle-tier friend, the other is her friend
>both pretty

My dick wants me to do it but my brain says I should just find some strangers to live with.
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>>21380429
Yeah why not try it for a few months while you look for something else. Maybe you’ll get your dick sucked.
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>>21380429
Need more context to work with anon
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>>21380429
Well, that depends anon.

Do you genuinely get along with the two ladies? (I.e. able to hold conversatoins for extended periods of time)

Do your interests coincide in any way? (I.e. you like hiking mountains and one of em likes learning about the outdoors, while the other is a fit freak)

These are just 2 suggested questions to think about when deciding to carry on with any form of interactive relationship in the hopes of keeping it lively, maybe in your case it'll keep you from totally regretting your choice.
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>>21380429
I lived with two girls for a few months. We weren't really friends, just people sharing an apartment to save money.
It was okay, they were a little picky about stuff like dishes and cleaning (like complaining about leaving dirty dishes out overnight or me only cleaning once a week when it was my turn) but that aside it was tolerable. So it really depends on the girls, just as it does with any roommate.
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>>21380429
>move in with 2 girls?
need more context

not all women are the same
they could be cool
they could be insane

How to know if I’m physically and mentally healthy? I’m 190lbs and 5’4 , 31 year old male pack a day smoker. My sleep schedule is a deviation from the norm. Sometimes I don’t get enough sleep due to internet addiction. I don’t exercise although I walk around . I’m also diagnosed as Bipolar 1 affective / schizophrenic, Asperger’s. My heart rate is also above the standard 70-100 at rest. My senpai has history of diabetes and heart disease. How to know my illnesses? I can’t afford a doctor.
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You need something that slow down your heart rate, maybe high cholesterol? Irregular heartbeat?
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>>21379953
>190lbs and 5’4 , 31 year old male pack a day smoker
Dude at this point, why bother?
I would see this as an opportunity to just let go and eat all the delicious food to my heart's content, drink like a fish and smoke like there's no tomorrow. There is no turning back for you.
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>>21380787

Lots of people are obese and smoke, no they shouldn't just give up. Stop smoking OP, and lose some weight. You're currently an obese heavy smoker, but you're within reach of being an overweight non smoker if you lose 16 pounds, and eventually a healthy weight non smoker.
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>>21379953
This is bait, but to answer anyway:
You have no illness (aside from mental), you are just incredibly unhealthy by choice.
Quit smoking, get your diet in order, exercise daily (rigorous exercise 2-3 times a week), get proper sleep.
Within a year you will be in much better shape, within 2 years, you will be in great health.
And yes that is more than worth it. In time you will realize, that the fried chicken and cigarettes are the things that are not worth the trouble.
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>>21380023
>I COULD just exercise and eat healthy and feel better and live longer
>NAH better take some pills and continue my sack of shit lifestyle, that'll take care of it
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