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I gave my gf my phone and she opened 4chan and went to this board and started scrolling through threads laughing at incels and retards
How do I get her to stop being an edgy 4chan bitch before it's too late
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>>21157660
It is too late, she's a cunt.

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years now. I’ve always been 100 percent loyal, I cook for him, clean for him, sleep with him, etc so I don’t know why his friends say mean things to me when he’s around. When my bf leaves the room or something they’ll be much nicer but they’ll basically bully me when he’s around and he doesn’t even tell them to lay off.
They treat me like I’m literally retarded even when I’m right about things. I don’t pick fights. I don’t hold my bf back. I don’t know why they are so rude.
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>>21157373
kek
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Probably just banter -- it's how guys talk. Give em a bit of proportional response and they'll love you, but if you start getting offended at them they'll hate you.
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>>21157008
I feel like you're hyping yourself up and you're actually a narcissistic bitch who can't see how you actually behave. This post makes me not like you. Victim mentality. I hate it
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>>21157008
What kind of things do they say?
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>>21157580
How did you get that from this post lmao?

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Help me out here.

There's an escort on adultwork and I know who she is IRL. She is offering gangbangs, filmed sex, cum swallowing... and I would love a film of her doing all that. Only issue is, to prevent awkwardness with seeing guys she later meets, she only sees older men. I need to find a group of older men who would hire her and then give me the video after.

She won't just fuck me as she has a boyfriend, and she won't let me pay for sex because I'm her age. How do I find a group of older guys near me willing to do this then give me the video?
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Go on your local craigslist and post your situation and see if any older dudes bite the hook
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>>21155827
If you're paying there will be a lot of older guys willing to do it
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>>21155827
This is really degenerate, but it could be a fun way to spread std's to people who deserve it.
Ask at a retirement home. Not even memeing--a lot of old men, a lot of singles at that, and a lot of pent-up sexual frustration.

Hi /adv/,

I think this young lady is offering to partner swap her husband with me. I can't say yes, because I don't speak for other people, including people who are not my girl friend, even though she invited me to this event. How can I get her to say yes to me, and maybe the other 2 can work things out, if they are interested?
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>>21157535
Repulsive.
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>>21157535
This is the best move. If she isn't down move off that bitch and find someone who is. Life is way harder when there are unanswered questions for shit you could have done but didn't.

I want to livestream my suicide. I don't have any money but want to share with the world something since I can't contribute anything else.
Can /adv/ help?

My name is Lucy Furr.

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How the fuck do you do it without looking? is there somekind of technique or something like that? the other day i tried to massage a coworker under her pants and failed miserably. She said it was ok that i should't worry about it but i know i ruined the moment.

inb4 beta, virgin, etc
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It's always in the same relative place. Maybe you're just bad at spatial reasoning. Next time, stick with feeling up secondary erogenous zones. Wrapping your hands firmly around both sides of a woman's waist and pulling her into you from behind can be quite provocative.
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>>21156513
>>21156515
thanks
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A lot of women don't want direct stimulation on the clit anyway. Ask her what she likes, gently pull her hand down and say show me what feels good. And no, you don't need to worry about this until you're in bed with her and your head is between her legs.
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>>21156508
it's the bumpy thing near the top, not that hard to find bro
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trust me you don't want to know where it is because as soon as you find it she's going to dump your ass and take a picture

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Is it even possible to have sex because you feel in love anymore? Sex without attachment is the norm now and I just don't want that to be me.
Does anyone even have emotional, intimate and loving sex anymore or is it all just porn replicated loveless fucking?
I'm a virgin girl terrified of sex because of something like this. What do I do?
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>>21157485
I literally can't cum if I'm think about my partner as a person. I love my gf, but if I think of her while we're doing it I start to worry if she's enjoying it, if she's having a good time, am I better than her ex's, does she want a different position, is she still mad that I put my glass in the sink instead of the dishwasher, it was just a water glass anyways it's not like it was really dirty, she forgot to get dishwasher liquid so we can run it anyways why tf should she be mad at me for.

Then I'm as flaccid as a sea slug.

When I think of her as just some slut I'm picking up for a one night stand it's really great for both of us.
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>>21157485
>Sex without attachment is the norm now
>I just don't want that to be me
That's good.
>What do I do?
Wait until marriage, femanon. It'll weed out the guys (a majority, sadly) who would use you for sex before committing to you, and for those who stay, you will be tremendously improving your odds of an enduring and happy marriage. Pic related.

It might seem like enough to just wait until you "love" someone, but there are two big issues with that:
First, there are the fuckboys who get a thrill out of 'conquest', and if they think they can 'conquer' you without commitment, they will stick around just long enough to do so. Secondly, even for legitimate relationships, the serial 'monogamy' is going to damage your own ability to bond with an eventual husband if you're wrong about the first partner. Waiting until marriage ensures to the highest possible degree that the man you love and marry is also the only man you'll be with.

Also, while it definitely helps to be religious, this isn't required at all for you to wait. I'm a guy waiting until marriage, but I'm not religious myself. It's definitely possible.
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>>21157499
> Incels here will be tripping over themselves to prove to you otherwis
Incels by definition are "involuntary" celibates. These are people who desire to engage in the kind of degeneracy you do, but feel unable to. That's entirely different from waiting until marrige.

And on that note,
>It starts out as loveless fucking, then grows into emotional intimate sex.
is a terrible idea. Can it happen? Yes. But is it a good way of achieving intimacy? Absolutely not. Instead of playing Russian roulette with one out of six chambers loaded, you're loading five. You can still win, but it's nonsensical to act like the latter is even close.

http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1741-3737.2012.00996.x/abstract
>Bivariate results suggested that delaying sexual involvement was associated with higher relationship quality across several dimensions. The multivariate results indicated that the speed of entry into sexual relationships was negatively associated with marital quality, but only among women."

http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1741-3737.2003.00444.x/abstract
>"I find that premarital sex or premarital cohabitation that is limited to a woman's husband is not associated with an elevated risk of marital disruption. However, women who have more than one intimate premarital relationship have an increased risk of marital dissolution."

http://psycnet.apa.org/record/2010-25811-011

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>>21157526
>"Don't have sex till marriage" meme
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>>21157629
Look at the above sources and get back to me, hedonist. Better yet, become the first person in my two years on this shithole of a board to post single shred of evidence to the contrary. You won't, and you can't, because it doesn't exist.

What advice can you give? What was your relationship like? How did you meet and did it work out?
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>>21156628
It depends on the players. I dated a 50yr old when I was 19. We had fun and I really liked him, a few months in I realized we wouldn't have a future together. But that's just me, I wanted the option to have kids and he was clear from the get go he didn't want a family like that. Need to be honest with what you want out a relationship with them as you have more life experience and should know what you want?
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I preface this with the admission of having 2 daughters I rarely get to see.

I was 38. She was 19.

I wasn't trying to date her, but looking back...

we did

She clearly needed someone to talk to and I knew what I wouldn't do.
For all I didn't know, I knew that I wouldn't take advantage of her.

We spoke privately. We met in the most isolated of places for fear of judgment.
We were both unhappy. I promised her nothing and shamelessly admitted that I knew she would always desire more even if could have been her able provider.

She was my best friend at her worst.

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Let the younger one give you some advice. Trust. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 25. our case is pretty lucky since he's finally going to college and I'm just starting college so life places aren't too different.
anyways. don't ever treat the younger one like they're fucking dumb because they probably are and will fuck up due to their immaturity depending on age. if you care for each other, guide each other gently. I learned a lot from my boyfriend and he surprisingly learned from me. I'm more emotionally intellegent and he is more street smart.
power imbalance can lead to abuse, for the love of God never ever use your age or life standing against the younger one.
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>>21157514
>The ways I encouraged her to live for more than the approval of her immediate friends and family

And yet you cowered at the thoughts of complete strangers.

Gutless.
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>>21157543
Yeah, 38 and couldn't 'face' being open about the relationship. Hopefully you continue to work on your growth as you hope she does for herself

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A guy I've been gaming and voice-chatting platonically with has confessed he 'likes' me. He is six years younger than me, very lonely, and seemingly does nothing but play games all day.
I was honest and told him I am not looking for anything romantic and just like him as a friend/also don't "believe" in online relationships. I may have slipped in something about ¨how it's different in real life' and this has made him consider traveling from his country to mine to meet up with me, and see if "it could work".

I dont know how to gently tell him I think meeting would probably be very awkward because I have zero romantic interest in him and we're at very different points in our lives.. But I would like to stay friends.

Any of you ever been on either side of this situation? If I told him he could visit me as friend, would that still seem like an invitation to something romantic? I honestly don't know. I don't think about people I meet online in this way. I don't really know how to deal with it.
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>>21156874
Do not permit him to visit you period. He is chasing the fantasy and unfortunately he isn't emotionally mature enough for it. Just tell him that you're sorry but it's not appropriate and not something you want. He needs to respect that.
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>>21157460
>he isn't emotionally mature
>he has to respect XYZ
Aren't those contradictory?

You can't force respect. The person respecting needs to at least understand what it means. Explain it to him. Explain the very basic concepts. Don't assume that he already knows these things.
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>>21157460
Yeah... I was a fucking idiot. I responded with something like "yeah, I don't know, uh it might be fun, uhh, or it might be really awkward...." and then went onto how I don't really feel comfortable being romantically intimate with people. I have serious problems with relationships and being touched/doing anything remotely romantic or sexual. I would feel real bad if he came here with the intent to woo me.

I have to just be completely real and say "it's a waste of your time. I can't be what you want if you want something more than an online friend."

>>21157508
I have a real life and responsibilities beyond just playing games and talking to him, but he doesn't really seem to get that. He is sad if don't log on every day, but I don't know how to explain to him that he just isn't as important to me, as he's making me out to be to him. Christ, I don't talk to my rl friends every single day.
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>>21157537
Tell it straight.

"I am not interested, I won't be interested, we're just friends and I'm not the person you imagine on a pedestal."
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>>21157605
Again, assuming he is mature or experienced enough to fill in the blanks and know how to behave. You can't hold him to the same standard if he's socially crippled. Stop it.

>>21157537
I still believe you should be patient and explain.

Have you considered sending him a link to this thread? That would be a fairly low effort way of getting the point across without running away from "not my problem" like most people would.

I feel so shitty and sad about my life. I’m turning 30 real soon and I’m already having these first wrinkles but it feels like I’ve never actually been living life. What do, /adv/?
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Either bitch and moan about it or go live life now.
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>>21157630
I rather feel like bitching and moaning tho.

My boyfriend is aspergers smart and I don’t know how to catch up. Some days I think maybe I’m actually retarded because I feel like I can’t mentally keep up with him. I have terrible memory and have a hard time absorbing his wisdom. How do I get on the same level as my boyfriend so that I can keep him mentally interested? Or should I just see a doctor and get the sped diagnosis?
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>>21157507
>Exhibitionism and obscenity isn't tolerable regardless of who does it, retard. It's just that your typical fag is much more inclined to do so.


Lol, you're so full of shit right now you don't even know it.

What's exhibitionism other than displaying you want to have sex with?

I mean, if it's not, then it's just your genitals being exposed publicly.

Maybe that was your choice, maybe not.

But what is your choice is what you want exhibited to whomever you want to sex with.

Are you like literally not aware of this?

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>>21157507
>Blow it out your ass, pic related.

Yeah, I know what it means. I don't need the fucking internet to tell me.
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>>21157507
>healthy and stable society.

Yeah... tell me when we get there, sir faffleweiser of the order of phlefflesplaps.
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>>21156436
Ngl, this is pretty cute lol
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>>21157574
>Typical fags aren't any more likely to whip their dicks out than anyone else.
How many pride parades do we have again?

>Criminalizing prostitution is socially damaging.
Prostitution is socially damaging--I said "that doesn't mean I don't want to criminalize".

>That's not degenerate, or anything that "society" has to "climb out of."
Of course it is, you just don't value anything that would be negatively impacted by your degeneracy.
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/degenerate
>: one that is degenerate (see DEGENERATE entry 1) : such as
>a : one degraded from the normal moral standard
>b : a sexual pervert
You are rejecting the negative connotation of the word--the word itself has a clear meaning.


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How do i stop being beta to my gf?Weve been together for a long time and shes always trying to make me say sorry abt stuff and making me say i love you and if i ignore her she gets mad or cries. And shes always pulling my hair and slapping my butt.
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>>21156917
She wouldnt abuse me if i wasnt beta in some way, i kinda like when she acts dominant and stuff but i also want this relationship to last bc she really gets me and i dont want a sexless relationship in the future bc of me being beta
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>>21156860
>>21156909
It was nice for a while, she called me babyboy and all kinds of stuff but then i started feeling emasculated so i tried to get her to stop calling me that and acting dominant and it only made her mad
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Break up with her, grow some balls, and find a real woman and stop dating girls?
>from your friendly neighborhood female
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>>21156842
It’s too late you’ve already lost all respect, you’ve gotta start over.
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Gf is like this too. I honestly believe that the fact she didn’t have a good father leads to behavior like this. I’m no doctor but idk desu. Got it off my chest and god she can be so annoying. Am I gay for hating the constant affection?

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If purchasing a 21+ item online, are you able to use a debit or credit card of someone 18+?
>pic unrelated
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>>21157461
Ok but why would brag about this on an anonymous Cantonese bread baking forum?
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>>21157483
Its not bragging, its an example. I had a gift card, I went to a website and spent it. My point is that if nobody gives a shit about a couple of spam cans theres virtually no chance they care about the dragon dildos OP is worried about.
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>>21157500
You can buy dragon dildos at 18 in the US
It's only alcohol (and in some states, tobacco) that is restricted to 21.
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Just achieve CHIM and don't worry about it then go insane
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>>21157479
Announcing reports is also a banable offence.

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Yup that happened last nite and she's still being a big fucken baby about it. Get over it already! It was an accident and I didnt really mean it.

This is what happened, she knew I was out giving my friend Sam a ride home. I wont lie I've fantasized about Sam many times but I never fucked her or even made any moves on her. I had also been drinking a bit so I was horny and my imagination was running wild.

So I dropped her off at home said gnite and drove back home with evil thoughts on my mind. Later on my gf was on top riding me real good and hard just the way I'd imagined Sam would and I accidentally blurted out FUCK ME SAM!

My gf was like WTF?! but she still rode for like 20 more seconds then got off and being all pissy. I apologized and said it was an accident I didnt really mean it. She doesnt even think I cheated or anything she's just being a baby because I called her the wrong name. That's why she's mad. Oops my bad it happens.

And to make it even worse she was texting my friend Sam about it today so now she knows, just fucken great.
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Definitely shouldn'tve ate those shrooms but there was a whole big jar of them sitting right there on the table for the taking.
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Don't go out of your way to give your female friends rides. Why? Because you're gonna imagine them intimately and fuck up your relationship.
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>fantasized about her while in relationship
>derr didn't cheat!
>get alone with her
>to get aroused and continue fantasy
This is why women [should] stop putting out, and many of you don't get girlfriends. We're not all stupid. Boys are incapable of being faithful.
Like why am I going to go to the beach feeling good and my boyfriend who claims to be monogamous with me is next to me thinking about what every hot girl there could do with his erection? Or I introduce my best friends to him and the friendliest one he thinks about when masturbating as if she wants to give him an orgasm? Absolutely pathetic. Die, all of you.
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>>21156700
You can you fucktwat. Stop thinking of anyone but your partner sexually or let her go.
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Been there before OP. It’s not actually that bad you’re a guy you just like fucking. Gf guaranteed hella mad. If she cares about you and if you are honest about ur mistake aka apologize and try not to do it again, she will get over it hopefully sooner than later

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Why dont women love men anymore?
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>>21155837
I'm sure that helps you maintain the charade, but it doesn't change the way things are. Its interesting that you interpret any challenge as shitting on you, though. You want this to be Us vs Them, you want to be able to make the argument about your terms and theories, but thats not reality. You're drowning yourself, we all see it.

>>21156252
What revolution? You're a tiny minority. These adolescent power fantasies aren't doing you any favors. Worse, they're going to hurt you if you let them get out of control. Did you see that video going around of the guy losing his shit in a bagel shop? Remember how your Supreme Gentleman got his ass kicked when he got aggressive at a party? You're not even capable of engaging with the world.
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>>21157490
Incels being unable to engage with the world is precisely their problem, and what they should be helped about.
Incels are mainly (mainly and not only) an American problem because access to mental healthcare is so expensive and difficult. Many of them are mentally unwell (depressed, autists, etc) and genuinely suffer from it. The echo chambers made everything worse and a lot of them are insufferable or straight up dangerous, but their problems are genuine. They just believe the fault is in women, or people who are socially adjusted, or normalfags, which is wrong, but they still should be helped.
And since so many of them are white middle class kids, the problem might be recognized sooner than you might expect.
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>>21154624
You must learn to love yourself and to love your other.

You cannot love only one.
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>>21154624
Do some pickup training, my man.
Become the chad you always hated.
Take the pill. You won't regret it.
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>>21154624
Literally just surround yourself with better people that includes women in that sample size. In my workplace of 30, there are engaged women and going steady women and women that love their men wholeheartedly. Just observe man.


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