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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to give honest answers, don't answer questions.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?

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>>20921774
Not really, she's always in her group, we only got some sort of contact towards the end of the college year which is now over so not enough opportunities to go off of.

Once we established some sort of casual contact I've been noticing her much more around college tho, before I didn't even know who she was, like she's more visible now.

As for eye contact, I don't know, we never really spoke for longer than few seconds and like I said, it was somewhat dismissive and she's quiet most of the time. I did once catch her looking at me when I was turning around to talk to someone in class that was behind me, she was sitting behind that person and I looked at her and she stared at me. Then I'd notice her looking at me from across the library a good few times, but that could be accidental, there was a lot of people there, but once I looked back and I think she was smiling but I can't be sure, she was very far away.
Whenever I feel like I have a chance to talk to her to gauge her reaction, she seems dismissive, like she wants me to go away immediately once I approach, so there was never any direct contact for longer than a few seconds and a few words
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>>20921807
She's just scared. You need to talk to her. It sounds like she wants to hear from you
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>>20921856
Well, now that college is over I can't really, unless you consider social media but I'm not really sure what to say to her, I wish I could just be direct with her but I've no idea how to convince myself to do it. What do I say to her given the opportunity? directly asking out doesn't seem like a smart move since she's not being comfortable around me it seems and I don't know if she won't just panic and say no
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>>20921457
This kinda embarrasses me but need to see if there is a real problem or not.

So, I have a bucket list of 100 things and 39 through 51 are sexual in nature but tame and my bf and I have almost completed those. But, one of the items is a facial and my bf has tried but when he ejaculates not much comes out and it just oozes out or a little plops on the floor in front of me.

I'm not expecting porn type (yes I have watched some and how I came up with some of the items on my list) and I had one bf in HS who I never had real sex with but of the times I gave him a handjob in his car he came and it hit the roof of his car. (we both laughed so hard we couldn't breathe).

I really want to do this and with my bf but I can't just kneel there for 5 minutes in front of him while peeking and not getting anything.

Is this really normal and guys like my HS bf or the porn guys unnatural, is something wrong with my bf and if so is it temporary?

Not like I'm gonna die soon so got time but this frustrates me.
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How do I be a better girlfriend? Someone interesting and mentally attractive, preferably.

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So,I live in this shit country Romania.I mean,it's not bad here because I'm rich but there this really bad thing...there are barely any black people here and by people I mean black women. How can I get a black gf /adv/? The area I live in is the whitest.
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>>20921378
Fake stats
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Cute couple :3
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>>20921467
regression to the mean, stupid.
>>20921609
t.smooth niggerbrain
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>>20919198
Please tell all your white friends to take away all black women. We never wanted them in the past, we don't want them now, and we will not want them in the future.

Sincerely,

Black men worldwide
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>but there this really bad thing...there are barely any black people here
>bad thing

How do I tell my roommates to get their FUCKING dog away from the cooking area when I'm using it? I asked them kindly once to keep the mutt away from coming up on me and sniffing and staring the counter when I'm trying to move back and forth but they keep letting him do it.

Another annoying thing is that they let him out of their area every time he wants to start sniffing my food. They aren't monitoring him and it's annoying as hell.
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>They aren't monitoring him
Spills little bit of hot oil at the dog when no one is looking. Doggo are smart enough to get the idea.
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>>20921338
What? No way, then he'll cry and have a scalding heat wound for them to notice. I cant do that.

But I did consider dropping a small piece of onion on the ground for mutt to get diarrhea and hope they notice.
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>>20921338
kill yourself, sociopath.
>>20920630
move out then. Pet > shitty roomate
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What about wooden doors to keep the dog out, like with kids you know? You don’t want kids running around the kitchen, easy, don’t let them in, you can buy these doors anywhere

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Would everyone be happier if women were more sexually forward and men were less?
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>>20921756
I can squat 2x my bodyweight. It didn't make me into a social butterfly, it made my legs stronger.
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>>20921718
yo dat aint how it be at all namsayin? niggas out here be lonely n shit fr fr 100 sum niggas even get rejected by fatties n uggos ya dig nigga?
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>>20921220
I’m sexually forward and no one is happy about it.
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>>20921745
>would you really care if someone didn't like the book/album/movie you love?
I don't, but most people do. Really bad example anon
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>>20921745
That's a bad analogy. When you ask someone you're putting yourself out there, you're pretty much saying "this is me, do you accept/like it?". If you get rejected then it's you who is getting rejected as a person, that's why it hurts so much.

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Ill keep this short and sweet...
Should I dorm if the total cost yearly would be 10k ?
At home it would be roughly 6k yearly
I
m going for 3 years for Networking Information Tech

>Reasons:

Focusing on school

Socializing

Issues at home (mom acts like shes 22 and is way too unstable emotionally and does things out of spite (she ran away and no one knew of her for a solid day or two no call no voicemail) she ended up driving 11hrs away from home

Other stressors such as my brother that I share a room w that wont let me study at times

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Stay at home. Paying less loan is always better. You won't care about paying back now, but you'll regret paying it every month after you graduate.
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>>20921319
How badly do you need that extra 4k you'd save? If living at home is not conducive to your academic success then it might be best to live at the dorms. You'll meet people a lot easier and have some fun experiences that are unique to that dorm-living situation.

Do you need to look after your brother when your mom decides to freak out? Again, just how much is that 4k worth to you?
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>>20921335

Nah were both over 18 he can take care of himself he just can be loud at times blasting music etc... and i need to study

If i decided not to it drops everything dowb to like 11k a yr and id have play room to use the remainder for a reliable car and a new lalrop (that i need) also my current car needs some stuff plus credit cards

Its bad lol

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Gf might be preggy, both 19. She doesn't want any abortion. I do. What do? Life will be ruined for both of us. I'm independent from my parents, living with her.
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what's she look like anon
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If you like her, keep the child. Life might be hard but, believe me, kids are everything. If you can't see any way of this happen tell her to abort and dump her. Know that if you ask her to abort the child you will also ask her to abort your future together and your relationship will go downhill since she will seek for people that wants a future with her (aka other men). No woman wants a coward that creates a problem together and run away in the first "problem", or that treats family as problem.
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>>20920196
Stop being a little bitch and man up
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>>20920196
if you are nigger, just go for a walk to buy some cigarettes...
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>>20920196
Pull a hail Mary on her, it's your only chance

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I've been described as a sensitive, likeable person but women erotically attracted to dominant men. how do I become more dominant? are senstiveness and dominance exclusive?
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>>20921645
Actually, it different between every girl.
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>>20921645
>Nah, dick should be at the lowest.
if that was the thing then the "nice guy" meme wouldn't exist
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>>20921670
meant for>>20921659
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this is all dependent on what kinda male figure her father was/mother was attracted to.

on the average most are pretty average so just being a dick works most the time. you can get really meek or really bossy girls as a beta male. you get the best girls when you’re sensitive but can defend yourself.
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>>20921659
what about jocks and bad boys?

How do I get over an ex when the only thing I liked about them / miss about them is their body/sex

I’m not a bad person but this ex was such a piece of shit that their only redeeming quality/only reason I stayed was because of their body, and I find myself thinking about their body and being physical with them all the time but nothing else, how do I get over this thinking and over them?
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Ahhh bump

After poking around the web for free phone transfer apps my ram started acting funny. Usually I would reinstall windows right away but, bear with me, it's a drag.

Usually I don't bother with my spam folder but today it caught my attention. One of messages had my old pw in the topic. Wondering what it is all about I opened the letter against my better judgment and lo and behold. Someone is threatening me for a sum of money a peasant like me would never make even in three months of work without spending a dime.

Quickly getting an Anti-Malware app I ran into bazillion of tracking s* and whatnot. Telling me that he has dirty pics while I don't even own a web cam is a fine thing to amuse me with but. Being such an 'advanced' user I thought that windows protector has beefed up over the years, ehh better think again...

So what I am here to ask, is this salvageable or is it a lost cause? Should I gather my things and run to forest or is there a better solution. Not that the porn leak if I ever have one would bother me much desu.

So what shall I do?

BTW no clue how 4ch works yet so might multipost.
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>>20921760
Hah, oh and I actually hear that mainstream porn sites are more secure than many other places.
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>>20921782
Yeah, obviously, they business depends on people feeling safe and even a small leak would be a disaster. Think my guy got it from some psp forum I used ages ago.
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Your email and password were probably part of a breach of some popular website (Adobe, LinkedIn, MySpace, etc etc) and then sold or leaked on a hacking forum.

Then these people mail every single email and password on their pastebin list and hope some sucker falls for it.

This person has nothing that belongs to you, except your email and password.

The only idiot mistake you’ve made is use the same password for all of the websites you login to.
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>>20921760
>Do not forget in case you are in a romantic relationship, just how it is going to affect?
Kek so this hypothetical guy can supposedly access everything on your PC, watches you fap daily, but still doesn't know whether you have a gf. Seems legit
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Aye, there was a time when I had one or two for most. Nowadays I have around 15 and was worried they could all be lost. Now that'd be a disaster. Still feels like I should get more now. BTW is there a reliable site that informs about any leakage in time?

Another thing I heard were like fb having had a breach for year or two before it became wildspread.

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got prescribed trazodone, does it actually work?
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>>20921458
is that an anti depressant?
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>>20921462
yeah
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>>20921469
then if it is prescribed you need to wait till the drug is fully in your system. takes about 2 weeks. You will know then.
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>>20921458
just don't be sad lmao

Are they worth trying? Is there any way I can get them without going to therapy? I've been to two therapists and never got any real benefits from it. It's not worth the money. Can I get SSRIs from a primary care physician?
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>>20919833
Because of these problems my friend tried maaany different antidepressants and finally found cymbalta which doesn't cause sexual problems
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>>20920597
In my opinion amitriptyline
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>>20920345
>>20920350
Just read these quickly, that's interesting stuff. Just looked up MAOIs, they look pretty hardcore. Also this idea of "irreversibility" looks pretty worrying. Although apparently the enzymes that they irreversibly inhibit are then renewed by the cells approximately every two weeks? According to Wikipedia. So maybe the irreversibility isn't something to worry about? Or is it?

Also that's interesting you recommend Sertraline the most - that is also what a few doctors have seemed to recommend to me as the first option. I tried it for a day or two but it gave me really bad nausea, so I stopped it, maybe stupidly. The only two antidepressants I have given a proper go are fluoxetine (Prozac) and recently I've been on mirtazapine. Fluoxetine, as another SSRI, should theoretically cause nausea, but I didn't have that problem at all.

Do you think fluoxetine is a bad one? I was thinking I might try and go back on it, because like you say, mirtazapine makes you sleepy. It's great for getting to sleep, but it's hard to wake up and be productive, and I also have been feeling weak and without energy. Whereas when I was on fluoxetine a few years ago, I was almost hyperactive. Yes, it did unfortunately have some of the sexual side effects, which is definitely very annoying, although it didn't totally ruin me in that regard, I don't think. I did still try and get with this hot girl at the time, so I wasn't completely dysfunctional in that regard.

Sorry for the long post. Thanks for your information though, it is interesting.
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>>20920615
Yeah that all seems like sensible stuff.

>>20920891
I read something recently saying amitriptyline was found to be the most effective antidepressant. But it is also obviously much older than modern SSRIs, and I assume it's not often prescribed these days due to side effects?

See pic related for ranking antidepressants, which is taken from this study here:
https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(17)32802-7/fulltext
And the news story I read that links to that study is here:
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-43143889
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>>20921742
that study isn't as good as the media is playing it out to be. it has a fuckton of lfaws, like all other meta-analysis' of antidepressants, best just to ignore it completely. see here:

>https://psychotropical.com/lancet-21-antidepressants-meta-analysis/

Some key bits:
>It is concerning to predict that it is inevitable that prestigious publications such as this will tend to dictate the kinds of treatment than ordinary doctors will use. This [excessive reliance on guidelines] has already produced a blinkered and stultified approach to antidepressant treatment, which virtually excludes, inter alia, the use of drugs like tranylcypromine and clomipramine. I know few experienced psycho-pharmacologists who do not agree that clomipramine is superior to amitriptyline.

In my career as a psycho-pharmacologist I have seen hundreds of patients who have alternated between amitriptyline and clomipramine. I cannot remember many who responded better on amitriptyline, but I would estimate that 19/20 would have stated unequivocally that they were better on clomipramine, having had only a partial response to amitriptyline (the difference being sufficiently great that any increased burden of side-effects was usually accepted with little compliant). That methodology, A-B-A trial, represents a powerful methodology for comparing drugs, especially when subjects are already known to suffer from a ‘biological’ depression; by virtue of previous response to an established antidepressant (or ECT): they represent a ‘better’ and ‘purer’ (more homogeneous) sample.

>dumped by gf
>perpetually horny spergy pervert for years afterwads
>furiously fap every day, being gfless drives me crazy
>finally find inner peace and plan out a strategy to renew my love life
>meanwhile libido died down
Why is life such a cruel joke?
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It will be back to normal when you find a girl you actually want a family with. No worries op.
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>>20921840
I feel too young and disorganized to start a family though. I want to live a wild sexy adventure with a stable gf, explore each others' darkest fantasies together and stuff.

I want to try to learn a language this summer. Should I try to learn Spanish or German?
I already know a bit of Spanish and I live in a place where a lot if people speak Spanish. But I think that knowing German would be pretty impressive to people hiring me [I'm a mech. engineer major].

What do you think? I could eventually learn both but even then I'd have to pick one to start with.
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>>20921818
Spanish is easier and more useful ... but your motivation seems of overall.

Also German won't do you much good for a job, most people working at decent positions are fluid in English.

Especially my legs. Even in comfy mode. What does that mean? Am i going to die soon? Plz help me frens
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>>20921768
Probably anemic. Talk to ur doc. Might need more iron

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I'm actually pretty meh on my girlfriend leaving me.

Like I love her and enjoy being around her and stuff, but I also know that if we broke up I'd go right back to fucking multiple girls and saving money. Yeah I'd miss her but I've had other exes before her that I also missed and then subsequently got over with time.

Is this a normal outlook on my relationship?
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>>20919618

Probably dont really "love" her.
Shes a sopping wet bug cave filled with comfort and warmth to you.
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>>20919618
I think in this generation it might be. A lot of people start fitting a standard where its not hard for guys like you to get another girl, but it sounds like to me you dont love as much as you think. You might be looking for that one true love and have yet to move from that.
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>>20919631
Ability to truly love someone is not an obligation you can blame people for
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>>20921393
>implying women are capable of love like a man is

Kek


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