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Why am I randomly reminiscing and missing the girl I lost my virginity to three years ago all of a sudden?

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post some useful infographics that can help improve my shitty life.
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>>21279728
I used to be good with online chats, but school kinda fucked me with people sharing screenshots of messages and all that kinda stuff, it actually took me a while to be able to post anonymously online and shit, was pretty dumb looking back, and I’ve really stunted m my development as a result
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>>21279701
As someone actually diagnosed with this condition, you couldn't be more wrong.

This infographic is and oversimplification of this condition. Trust me, you can feel it's implications. See below.

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>>21279607
Its goes beyond of that, while on the more severe side, ill tell you what is being schizoid like.
I cannot feel certain feelings at all, the biggest one is love. Grew up in a good home and dated my high school interest. All that and I never loved anyone, even my own parents, and probably my kids, which I wont have.
I have no passions, some things are nice but none are that good. And it's not because I'm no where in life, hell, I'm learning at one of the best STEM universities outside the US at a new top undergraduate program, and wouldn't give two shits if I drop out (I'm not even failing).
Every morning I wake up and feel nothing, not happy, not sad, not empty, just nothing. If I would given a choice between life and death I wouldn't even both choosing because I care so little about life.
Worst of all, I have to pretend i'm a normal person, since I can't not be always alone. I'm at a place where many young people of my age would wish to be. Yet my only ambition is to get enough money so I can stay in my little single apartment, playing video games, going nowhere, until I kill myself or die.
This may sound depressing, but for me it feels nothing.
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>>21279701
As someone actually diagnosed with this condition, you couldn't be more wrong.

This infographic is and oversimplification of this condition. Trust me, you can feel it's implications. See below.

>>21279526
>>21279607
Its goes beyond of that, while on the more severe side, ill tell you what is being schizoid like.
I cannot feel certain feelings at all, the biggest one is love. Grew up in a good home and dated my high school interest. All that and I never loved anyone, even my own parents, and probably my kids, which I wont have.
I have no passions, some things are nice but none are that good. And it's not because I'm no where in life, hell, I'm learning at one of the best STEM universities outside the US at a new top undergraduate program, and wouldn't give two shits if I drop out (I'm not even failing).
Every morning I wake up and feel nothing, not happy, not sad, not empty, just nothing. If I would given a choice between life and death I wouldn't even both choosing because I care so little about life.
Worst of all, I have to pretend i'm a normal person, since I can't not be always alone. I'm at a place where many young people of my age would wish to be. Yet my only ambition is to get enough money so I can stay in my little single apartment, playing video games, going nowhere, until I kill myself or die.
This may sound depressing, but for me it feels nothing.
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>>21279824
Well the oversimplification describes me pretty close. Maybe besides I don't always prefer to be alone and actually enjoy being in the company of a few select people it generally takes me a while to get comfortable.

I have felt love but very few people. Never loved or was close to my parents even though they gave me a good upbringing. Very few friends. Even the "hidden grandiosity" is me.
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>>21279931
>Well the oversimplification describes me pretty close. Maybe besides I don't always prefer to be alone and actually enjoy being in the company of a few select people it generally takes me a while to get comfortable.
>I have felt love but very few people. Never loved or was close to my parents even though they gave me a good upbringing. Very few friends. Even the "hidden grandiosity" is me.

You could very well have this condition. But the problem with infographics like this is that nobody is perfectly healthy and most people can probably check a few boxes here. The trick is to understand if the reason for it is your current circumstances or is it something pathologic that is a part of a bigger problem.

There are those who like to be loners and those who are incapable being anything aside from detached from their fellow humans.

I have a friend who has a wedding coming up. I’m really happy for her and want to go but I’m socially anxious and seeing weddings, babies , people together, etc is one of my triggers. I know I know it’s a meme but I literally can’t think of those things if I haven’t had THC in my system for more than a few hours.
I’m 27 and yes a womyn hat would love to be in a different place, I know the stats on it all, but this is all just where I am right now.

Would it be selfish to not go and just send a really nice gift? I don’t want to be a distraction on her special day anyway.
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go and find some dick to ride, it can't be too hard (yespun)
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>>21279773
Send a really nice gift.
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>>21279773
if it makes you feel like shit, then you will crack up and ruin things. You need to be all about HER on her special day. if the best way you can support your friend is by staying the hell out of the way, then you should probably do that.

yeah, just send a really nice gift. and maybe a video congratulating her. Like, Tik Tok, or Snapchat, or whatever the hell it is you kids use, these days...
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>>21279803
Women have the say so on sexual access but it’s the men who choose the relationship.

It’s hard when you feel like a certain amount of value has already been assigned to you based on things you can’t control (height, ethnicity, build , foot size, looks, etc

What do I do when people tell me my favourite bands/artists are shit? I really love the music artists I listen to and it makes me both sad and angry when people call them bad. But I don't know how to respond to it
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The best lesson I ever learned from /mu/ is that people will make fun of you no matter what you listen to. Only listen to music /mu/ doesn't like? You're a pleb or a contrarian. Only listen to music /mu/ likes? You're a drone. Listen to a mix of both? There will always be someone in the chart thread who makes fun of you or someone in a "post your favorite album thread" saying you've got shit taste.

Just ignore them. Listen to what you like, take recs from people who like what you like, and try and expand your taste now and then. Or just stick with what you really like. Up to you. The point of music is to enjoy it.
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>>21279934
I'm too scared to go on /mu/ incase they trash the artists and albums i like..
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>>21279886
I listen to Nickelback, Sonic the Hedgehog soundtracks, techno-fascist electronica, and RWBY theme songs. If people make you feel bad for what you like, just compare yourself to me and you'll feel better
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everybody has shit taste in music except me so don't feel too bad about it
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>>21279964
Sonic soundtracks fucking bang desu. I'm all about Adventure 2 and 06 OSTs personally.

Am I fuckin' dumb?

>studying finance
>third and final year at uni
>pretty average grades
>continuously getting only ~50-60% on tests

I feel like I don't know shit. Other people are getting way better test scores and seem to absorb the information instantly. I'm just barely passing.
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>>21279969
>>21279969

To add, I just spent the last two weeks studying for a test. Every day. I know the mathematical formulas and can apply them. Then the test comes up and I'm 100% stumped because it's asking things in a way that haven't been asked in classes.

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I have a friend and we've been together for almost two years. I really liked her and she was aware of it. I feel like she's liking me too. I don't want to ask her if we're ready to go beyond our friendship cause I'm afraid that I am assuming things. Also, I don't want to be stucked in friendzone, I'm afraid of my feelings to gone deeper.
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ask her out right now
make your intentions clear

How to deal with sudden urges of killing myself? Especially after a nasty humiliation or a deep regret. What to replace them with, like any activities or thoughts, so the urges numbs away?
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Do stuff you enjoy, I like drawing shitty art. it makes me happy :). Do something you enjoy to keep it off your mind
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>>21279757
What I do is convince myself that if I'm still on this planet, there's still something important for me to do. I'm convinced that the same rule applies to you

I'm bored and curious, is going on the deep web worth the trouble? Also if I was going to do it what precautions should I take?
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Don't, there is nothing worth seeing there

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I missed a lot not dating in my teens?
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>>21279898
t. cargo short wearing dad
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>>21279898
Thanks dad

Moral of the story is... start dating before cargo shorts and velcro sandals start looking appealing, or else its all over
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>>21279932
...but they are so comfy! Cargo shorts are the male equivalent of mum jeans.
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>>21279932
oh yeah tell me about it and socks and sandals and fanny packs oh boy dad clothes right
and what's the deal with airline food?

you're a boring idiot
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i think so I did too. I feel regret when I think about it. But there is still my twenties i plan to get a gf in less than a year hopefully. I hope it goes well i will try my best.

How do I tell my teacher that I don't want to sit with a black person in the same desk?
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>>21279488
Oh yeah. Fuck the rest of us. This>>21279550
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>>21279546
here's a circle for you
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>>21279488
What a fucking faggot
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>>21279562
But, we are the same person! Are you going to deny it?
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>>21279488
Imagine being so deluded from reality thinking some black person is gonna randomly beat the shit out of you or rape you. If it’s thats not the case then why you acting a little bitch for?

is sleeping on a flat wood floor bad for my back?
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>>21279847
http://letmegooglethat.com/?q=is+sleeping+on+a+flat+wood+floor+bad+for+my+back%3F
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>>21279847

Actually sleeping on a flat surface is probably the best thing for your back and spine.

But the hardness of the wood I think is a problem, I would put down a soft mat.
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>>21279847
My two cents confirms. You make a badass badass of yourself.
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>>21279847
Read
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1119282/

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How do I enlarge my penis?
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>>21278619
>the state of masculine insecurity
ahahahahahahahahahhahahahahhhahahahhaahahahaha
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bump
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>>21279730
Bump my ass. Those with insufficient dicks shall wane from the face of the earth.
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penis pump ffs it's just $50
I should just type down my reply in a notepad and copypaste it every time

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How do I convince my family that it's for the best that I kill myself?
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>>21279877
Hey look everybody, it's Rereboy Guy!
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>>21279877
Go to /pol/ and become an antisemite (it's easier than it sounds). There are two outcomes
>everyone will hate you and want you dead or
>you'll get your motivation of life back and want to take down the (((people running everything)))

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I'm a 30 year old sophomore in undergrad.
How do I tell people that I'm 30 without it being immediately weird?
One big problem is that I look much younger than my age, so if I don't tell someone, they always assume I'm much younger. Then we develop a rapport and when they find out my real age there's always this moment of shocked silence that is like being stabbed.
On the other hand I think it's pretty autistic to begin every conversation with "Hi I'm 30."
What should I do

And no lying is not an answer. I actually tried that for a year once and it was terrible.
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Just act like you're whatever age they are? Tbh they most likely give half a shit about you being 30 and people will be interested about what path you took desu. I loved talking to the older dudes in my engineering classes because most of them came from a CNC/Machinist past.
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If you fit in with them tell them at some random moment. Might be a little bit awkward for the moment but if you otherwise roll with them it won't be any issue.

t. had people in the same situation as friends in uni.
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>>21279909
I'm in a similar circumstance since I look about 5-6 years younger than I am. What I usually do is seamlessly drop hints within the conversation that I'm older than they think. e.g. "Way back when I was in high school" or tell stories about a year when they would be too young to remember.
It's worked well so far and usually people are shocked but in a more fascinated way than a negative way
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>>21279914
This. At college/university everyone is somewhat young and open. Your exact age doesn't matter as much as your attitude. I had friends both older and younger than me (~5-8 years) and wasn't any topic.
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>>21279909
Idk man. I knew a few people at uni who were older (24-28 range admittedly, not 30) and they never had any problems socially at all. They were all upfront about it and never showed any real awkwardness about being older. One of the guys was even heavily balding which made him look older still, and he ended up becoming one of the most popular dudes I knew and got a really hot girlfriend who he's still with to this day.

I think the only way to do it is to just be upfront. Make some jokes about your older age to ease the mood. And don't let it hold you back, just approach social and romantic situations exactly as you would if age wasn't a factor. That way, you don't give off any of those uneasy vibes that make people feel weird about it. If YOU don't act like being 30 is weird, then other people are much less likely to act like its weird too.

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Is it inappropriate for a female to be close friends with a married man? I wouldn't think too hard about it except he doesn't seem to be happy about his new wife and baby (he did say he got married partially out of obligation), and I'm afraid I might give the wrong impression at best and ruin his marriage at worst. I've also long suspected that he has feelings for me, but it's been almost 20 years he's never said anything and I have the sexuality of an amoeba anyway, so I could be entirely wrong. I try to keep my distance, which should be easy since we live on opposite sides of the country, but I enjoy our friendship too much and he always sounds so sad and tired every time he calls me. I don't want to be a homewrecker - or worse, string him along - but I don't want to be an unsupportive friend either. What do?
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>>21278963
Men and women cannot be friends unless the man is gay or both parties are in committed relationships.


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