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It’s been about 4 months short of a year now since my ex broke up with me. We were together for 6 years

We had all the same goals, aspirations, views on the world and our future in grabbing some land together off the grid and raising a nice Christian family together.

We moved from Ontario to Alberta to find better paying jobs so we could afford to find the land we wanted, but 6 months after moving there together she began getting distant with me and became very close to one of my friend who she had only ever met aside from discord chats we used to play games online with. While I was off on a work trip in but fuck nowhere NWT she texted me saying she wanted to break up, I tried to fix things but when I got home she refused to even speak to me face to face and got a hotel room any time I was home from work. After about 2 months of that she told me to get out of our apartment or she would leave, not wanting to put her through the stress and shit of finding a new place I got a new position with work in the Yukon.

Moved up here where I’m living now and after a few months my work fired me for some bullshit reason related to a merger and then laying me off for company revenue bullshit.

I’m currently jobless, been hooking up with girls from tinder for a while and have been talking to a girl for about a month now that honestly I have no interest in aside from the company she brings and the easy sex that comes with it.

Every night for short of a year now I’ve been getting hammered just to fall asleep but it’s been turning into more of a need that a helping hand to fall asleep anymore. I dream of my ex every night and think of her for 90% of the time I’m awake.

I’m too much of a pussy to kill myself since I don’t wanna leave my dog stranded without me but I have been thinking about applying for MAID (canadas assisted suicide program) but again, my dog stops me from going through with it.

I’m 25, jobless, heartbroken and a drunk, any advice?
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>>30966283
>Well you're doing alright in that department at least. Imagine how fucked you'd be if you were unattractive and didn't have any game.
haha, yeah i mean i cant say i have much game but i guess i wasn't given a bad hand in looks at least, but i guess in a way it could give me some extra motivation not to let alcohol and my excessive smoking tear apart that attribute i have too.. haha

>I don't understand viewpoints like this.
yeah, i get that, i think the main thing that plays in my head is that i still love her and i must have done something wrong and I'm to blame, but at the same time i also have very strong negative feelings towards my old friend as well in a similar manner where i have great hatred towards him... i guess i just cant really seem to allow myself to feel angry towards her weather that's a good thing or not. in a way its just easier to be angry at myself or my old friend i guess.
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>>30965232
This is beautiful uncle anon, I will brew myself a great cup of ginseng tea
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>>30968146
>gonna try and take it easier on the booze tonight
That's a good idea, I also agree with the other anon about vices and such.
>i guess its tough separating it from her since everything to do with those hobbies first sprung up for me as we met
Separation may have been a bad choice of words, accepting her involvement is also important. She played a part in your hobbies, but that's not all those hobbies meant to you.
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>>30965147
She was with you for 6 years and you never married? oh she broke up through text? You're both retarded and should kill yourselves. but not over eachother.
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>>30965147
You didn’t marry her after two years? What the fuck. No wonder she got tired of your bullshit.

I'm taking care of a cat but had to leave it alone for like 30 hours (don't worry I'm not a retard, the owner asked me to because there was no other choice) and I'm kinda freaking out, I feel so bad for it.
I want to be go see the little thing as soon as possible but I have to wait 4 more hours for the next subway train. So I'm thinking of going there by foot, right now, in the middle of the night. Is that a good idea?

I'm from Europe btw, so lots of migrants and shit.
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actually forget about it I'm already outside, it's almost 1am but you only live once
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>>30967479
>I'm from Europe btw, so lots of migrants and shit.

What does the breast milk of different races taste like? Does it differ between races? Anyone here slept around enough to know?
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>>30967281
One of them is bound to agree. Do that for every races then come back to us.
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>>30966554
You’d never know until you science that shit and do a large study, where everyone ate the same and did the same activities. How else could you tast race behind diet?
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>>30966554
Why not go out in the field and conduct your own research. Find a busy public place with lots of females and hold up a sign saying let me taste your breast milk.
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I want women to pop their titties in my mouth and let me succ that sweet white gold from their bosom!!! Gimmie mother's milk I need the milk! Let me suck on your titties bitch!
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>>30966554
White women: sweet cream ice cream or half and half
Black women: half and half mixed with cocoa powder
Southeast Asian: Caramel Machiatto
East Asian: Green Tea Matcha latte
Latina: Sweat

>only sense of validation is from other people/career
>therefore my self esteem is "fleeting" and highly dependent on shit out of my control
>go to therapy for over 6 months now
>still feel like shit
I've been faking confidence and self esteem for fucking years and I feel just as miserable, alone and broken as I have the majority of my life. I know therapy can help undo some of those burdens inhibiting esteem, but fuck, man how much fucking longer do I have to wait to feel something different?
And what the fuck even is self esteem and how the fuck do I get it? Like when can I finally stop fucking hating myself?
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>>30964423
Thank you for this answer
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>>30966438
>Is your focus off?
It seems that way. Tonight was a perfect example.
>be in class
>perform a scene i rehearsed for at least 12 hours by this point
>everyone says i did great
>cant stop thinking about how after hours of rehearsal and performing it multiple times i fucked up a single line
The night feels ruined to me and I'm questioning a bunch of shit out of habit.
>>30966474
I agree with the notion that confidence comes from competence. The issue is being willing to fail to develop that confidence. I react extremely poorly to failure to the point that I avoid where it may occur rather than try to use it to get better.
>>30967025
I'm not objective with myself.
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>>30964234
having a spine, believing you have positive worth, a belief unshakeable by others...

that's it actually

but how to get that?
it's kinda random
trial+error+time, having a hobby/passion/interest that btfo's people, etc...
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>>30968801
>having a hobby/passion/interest that btfo's people
How would you define a hobby that BTFO's people?
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>>30969487
oops I mean a hobby that btfo's the notion of people, not actually btfo'ing people but you can do that too. it's so good you forget the concept of others

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Am I a schizo for cancelling my train home tomorrow for fear of a potential terrorist attack? I’ll be in London in one of the biggest train stations in the UK. If an Islamic terrorist were to strike, surely this would be the place. My family are getting mad at me for changing my mind last minute but I don’t want to potentially die just to please them

Am I right to be concerned or is it just paranoia? I’m honestly surprised there hasn’t been a terrorist attack yet in the UK given how strong support for Israel as well as the angry Muslims here
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>>30967989
>My family are getting mad at me for changing my mind last minute but I don’t want to potentially die just to please them
I'm guessing that you rarely go out anywhere or do anything, and you probably find many excuses not to go. Your family probably see this latest thing as yet another example of this. Tell me, anon, can you honestly say you would have gone if there was no heightened terrorist threat, or would you have found another excuse? Be honest.
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>>30967989
Most of the trains won't be running tomorrow. They always close down most of the system on holiday weekends for repairs.
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>>30967989
I don't think so. I'd avoid public transportation altogether right now if you can, the deep state isn't playing around.
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>>30967989
You never know if your hunches can be right
Unless you're always neurotic like that
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>>30968010
If that's the case then nah better follow the schizo hunch once in a while, at most incorrect maybe the passengers around you would've been stinky

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There is this librarian chick at a library I go to often and I am not sure how to talk to her. She seems a bit older than I am (22) and see her somewhat often. Should I try to start talking to her by asking what kind of books she likes or something related to books?

Never really approached women like this before and I need advice on how to start talking to her.
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>>30966594
Talk to her the same way you talk to any other person. Start conversation with her. If you find that she's easy to talk to and you get along - that's a good sign. Same way you make any other friend bro.
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i'm glad i read this thread, I was thinking of asking out the jap woman who ran the arbys drive thru as a truecel. this thread was a reminder that i'm autistic as fuck and should not be doing these things
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>>30968223
well hey you miss 100% of the shots you don't take, you only yolo once, better do it without regret
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>>30966594
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7N9C2JS9mWc
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>>30966785
it's not like she is there at least 5 days a week, cuz it's her job.

My brother is a complete fucking disaster and it's starting to concern me.

>almost 30
>total alcoholic
>was neet for a few months
>finally got an independent contracting job at some house (his only skill)
>spends all his earnings on more alcohol
>drinks on the job
>already crashed 2 cars
>is always either mopey and depressed, or drunk and aggressive
>constantly getting into screaming matches with dad and rest of family, sometimes breaking shit.
>tells me he just wants to party and do drugs until he dies.
>lately threatening to kill himself all the time
>try to make him go to rehab, refuses to go
>constantly gaslighting and blaming everyone else for his problems

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>>30967854
they didnt help, they gave me enough food i wouldnt die and thats about it
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>>30967857
i'm sorry, i should have made it more explicit that i was referring to ops situation where their parents offered treatment and the guy refused
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>>30967898
i see
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>>30967345
Honestly sit together with him and watch https://youtu.be/S53OjsF3z-w I promise you it will open his eyes completely. Its not religion by the way. Just a pure rational approach to quitting alcohol. It saved my life.
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>>30967345
I was becoming an alcoholic/ was /am an alcoholic. The way I interpret the issue now is that I was settling for coping because I didn't see a way out of my problems and my mind, alcohol also compounds this issue. I spontaneously became sober for a few months, I don't know why, so maybe that helped, but overall I think it was a level of true insight that I truly didn't need alcohol. As others have said, you can't make your brother see this, if people crash cars and almost die due to their addiction, what will some words do?

>>30967375
Maybe there are exceptions to this but I've rarely seen a person where the parents and the early environment didn't play a role in what's going on. I see it in my own kids now. I don't doubt your parents have tried to help him in their own way and are maybe blinded by their own issues but the best hope you guys have of influencing him is by looking closely at yourselves.

>>30967403
Is the job construction? I feel like that's almost a worse environment for his drinking if that's the case.

>>30967722
Just based on my own experiences I still second this notion. One of my parent's to this day will still affect my life in such a way that I will monetarily lapse into bad habits. In the end it can stop with me but you don't understand this level of hopelessness until you experience it.

>>30967389
I would caution against this as tough love is only ever a good idea if you're doing it with wisdom. You can note that this poster also says worst case scenario he kills himself so that shows the caliber of thought that went into this.


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Modern Western pseudo-masculinity… actually just deflective denialism, coping, and grifting masquerading as wisdom and concern. This motivational sloganeering bullshit always has this cringey false bravado to it, like the speaker is some John Wayne cowboy taming the wild frontiers. So, saddle up boys, coz we’ve heard this all before:

>you’re on your own son, the world doesn’t owe you, man up coz you’re responsible for everything and it’s always your fault, don’t blame anyone except yourself, every time, no excuses, harden up, suck it up princess, look yourself in the mirror and just work harder and harder with grit and determination, firm handshake and keep a stoic poker face, and just be good at everything to cover all bases just in case. It’s simple, just be better bro. Just be a man. BE. A. MAN. Expecting guidance and instruction is just entitlement and a free handout for needy snowflakes. You just have to figure everything out yourself the hard way, but if you make a mistake, you will be heavily penalized and endlessly blamed for it. You’re supped to just know these things, even though it took everyone else decades to figure these things out. But they’ll never tell you because life’s not fair. It’s like osmosis, didn’t you know? Isn’t it obvious? With the deck heavily stacked against you, you just gotta play harder to win this rigged game whose rules were never clearly explained to you. But don’t you dare lose because this world only likes winners. I’m glad we had this conversation son, do you feel like a man yet?
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>>30969340
This is my first time on 4chan in months lol. Lol you really are autistic to miss that canada reference to maid
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>>30969344

>> This is my first time on 4chan in months

Kek. So you hang out here.

>> miss that canada reference

What? No one cares about canada you pinnochio fuck. Roflmao. You're spazzing out big time, do your carers know you're using the internet?
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>>30969363
Why are you still here?
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>>30969373

Well, I saw you were hanging out being a spaz
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>>30969298
>>you’re on your own son, the world doesn’t owe you
This is the kind of advice you're complaining about? Because that's literally true. And the sooner you internalize it the better, faggot.

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Not sad or anything, but really anhedonic. My mum constantly annoys me about the job so I am trying to earn some skills through internet(system administration to be exactly). But I really can't force myself to do anything. I can sit focused for hour or so, but after some time I feel overwhelmed.
I am an ESLfag so please don't bother about my poor grammar
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Speaking English well is the best skill you could ever possibly learn for work.
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Stop with your cope bullshit. You've fried your neurons sitting doom scrolling all day so now you have no attention span. Touch grass dickhead. When you're trying to learn, go for your hour then move to another subject for another hour. Keep switching back and forth
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>>30969423
For example? I don't think you can get a good job by english alone, at least in russia.
>>30969424
>You've fried your neurons sitting doom scrolling all day
I feel like shit cuz my parents always frustrate me for no reason since childhood.
Switching subjects sounds like a good advice.

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Is it normal as a straight man for me to hate men and prefer women's company much more?
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>>30965550
This looks suspicious to women actually. Keep liking women but also find men you don't hate
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>>30965550
maybe it's because the men that you have been around have just been shitty and low quality, and that has damaged your opinion on men as a whole? it's important to realize that there are degenerate men AND women out there, no one is safe from being a piece of shit
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>>30965550
I don't hate other men and have good male friends, but I do find women tend to be better at conversation which I like more. Still it entirely depends on the situation and the person, some people are cool and others are insufferable.
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>>30965550

You are describing the mothers boy. You channel your mother and that's why you are that way.
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>>30965550
No, you're probably some weird trannoid.

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Got my midterm grades back and they’re shit. Failing two classes and doing decent in the other four. I’ve been depressed and suicidal over this stuff. How do I fix them?
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You take your classes seriously, study harder and put in the time/effort to dominate?
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>>30969404
> How do I fix them?
If you aren't taking advantage of the AI and cheap Indian internet labor boom then I don't know what to tell you. Anything an Indian on fiverr can't do for me ChatGPT + an AI essay humanizer will get done. I'd also recommend investing in an adderall supplier and some subscribe and save Amazon energy drink orders.

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How do I get a gf like this?
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>>30969306

Owned? By what? A melodramatic pixie? Kek.
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>>30969313
Now wipe your tears and say it again
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>>30969346

Sad attempt bro. Try again.
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>>30969427
I lost track of who’s who in this, but I want to play mad-mad angry internet too, my keyboard keeps staring at me funny and I need a reason to beat it
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>>30969433

No one is mad...

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Is my attraction to trannies a fetish from porn, latent homosexuality, or just what im attracted to?
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trannies themselves are a result of porn
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>>30967532
Yes
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>>30967532
Its impossible for you to be, as a symptom of evolution, biologically attracted to something that up until recently didnt exist. This is all from programming. Stop pumping garbage into your brain, and you'll have better outcomes.
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>>30967532
I forgot the term, agamp i think is what you are. Look around on the askagp subrebbit. Bad news for you, most of your kind transitions in the end.

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Hi, guys.
My parents got sick recently and they’re kind of old, so I can’t talk to them right now. I really love my parents and depend on them for emotional support, so not being able to talk to them is really hard on me. I was gonna call 899, but hung up after realizing the TTS bot was more interested in virtue signaling than connecting me to a real person.

I had a really bad experience at uni today. (For context I’m about 20. I know, I know, I’m wet behind the ears.) One of my peers really hates me and really fired off on all cylinders during class, but she said it relatively calmly so nobody noticed what she was actually saying. I mentioned I didn’t understand this one thing and she said “Why don’t we, instead of walking in circles and talking about how little we know, actually get the assignment done?” It hurt me a lot, and while I know I shouldn’t let it get to me, I don’t have anyone right now to talk to.

I dunno.
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>>30968719
wise person knows how little they know

try a face to face uni counsellow?
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>>30968719
Faggot
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Hi anon, I am a bit older, but understand what you are feeling about your parents as mine are also old and not in the greatest health.

I don't think there is anything that can shake the feeling completely, but what helped me is viewing the parent's experience as a whole. They brought you into the world and got to see you make it all the way to uni (and hopefully much more). No matter what happens they know their child is on a path to be something and are proud of you which is what matters most.

As for the classmate, she sounds like a bitch, which is not uncommon for young people since they know nothing. I'm sure the experience hurt, but you will make it through. I remember all the stress and shit I went/put myself through when I was in uni and looking back it seems silly now.

Not to get spiritual on you, but we don't know what comes after, we only know this existence. So at the very least work to enjoy what we do know (in safe and healthy ways). You got an entire lifetime of experiences ahead of you so keep your chin up and continue to make your parents proud anon.
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>>30968719
>they’re kind of old, so I can’t talk to them
Why not?
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>>30968719
The parents situation is rough. I've been there. Watching their declining health is awful, but if there's any consolation is that you are not not unique. Most people will eventually watch their parents wither and die. It's just how things are.

Your classmate on the other hand is a bitch. Don't give her the time of day, find someone else who'd be more inclined to help. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and cut her out of your head entirely. If she ever asks for help or tries to bond with you then tell her to fuck off. If she tries to humiliate you then you have every right to be rude to her. No one should accept being walked on like that. You are much better off on your own. Just keep things professional in the classroom and you should get by just fine.

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what is reciprocation? should it the driving force behind my actions?

on one hand, if you do something nice for someone expecting they will do something you want in return, it feels less genuine and right than if you just do it because you feel like doing this nice thing for them

also when you genuinely feel like doing something that you know would upset someone else, it's based if you still do it then just stand the retaliation, and it's cringe if you deny to act out your genuine feelings due to fear of consequences.

this indicates the concept of reciprocation shouldn't be considered, possibly erased altogether, and we should just do to people as we feel we should in the moment, without thinking about potential future reward or punishment for our actions


on the other hand, we also feel unjust when good or bad actions are not reciprocated properly. when someone is really nice but we're a dick to them and when someone is a dick but we treat them nicely it can also feel wrong
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>>30968831
You don't help Person A on the expectation that Person A will then help you. You do it to create an atmosphere and culture of kindness so that someday Person B (who you don't even know yet) will be moved to help you.
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>>30969381
that's still reciprocation, anon
you help in order to be helped later it has a cringe feel to it
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>>30969385
if you don't have a reason to be nice then you are just being compulsively nice which is also cringe

>don't you have your own business to be worried about? why are you so helpful?
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>>30969391
sometimes i feel like doing something nice / making a sacrifice for someone without having the slightest thought about getting something out of it. like the object of my desire is exactly helping this person
that feels genuine
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>>30969394
like when?


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