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Should I go out with a single mom? She has the kind of bubbly cheerful personality I really like and is physically very cute and petite. But I'm moving away in a year, and since she has a kid I'm more anxious than than I otherwise would about becoming involved only to break her heart.

(in b4 "cuck")
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I wouldn't advise it if you want something serious. Her kid is always gonna take priority over you.
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>>20491641
Don't meet the kid

Also - there is no good reason to date a single mother in the first place.

>Single mothers should date single fathers
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Please don’t. You’ll feel way worse than you’re imagining. Also, don’t play yourselfbthinking that YOU won’t be the one to fall in love here. I was in a really similar situation and it ended up causing massive heartbreak on both sides.
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>>20491641
Single moms are single for a reason OP. Are you absolutely sure you cant find some childfree thot instead?

Also single moms will try to trap you by "forgetting" to take their anticonception.
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>>20491641
>Should I go out with a single mom?
No.

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Hey its been a while since Ive dated (5-6 years) I've been focusing too much on my career and it sorta just got out of control. Now I want to start dating again. I remember online dating being pretty horrible , so being an older dude (30's) where is a good place to search?
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>>20492842
and even then, everyone can use a good thot everyone now and then. Especially if they're skittish and nervous about dating it's a pleasant surprise to find a girl who's just like "there's people at my house right now but I know a place in the woods where we can bang no problem" all brass tacks and straight to business.

Also considering how Tinder used to be, there's plenty more people on there now just looking for regular dates and less crazy hook-ups.
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>>20492815
>Look man, i told you my experience, and that's it

Cold approach is still the most effective way to do it. Do social circle dating and watch your friends run away from you.

Online dating sucks unless you are chad.
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>>20492852
I lost a good female friend went she told me sge was in love with me, and i had other girl tell me the same thing but we are still friends, however much more distant.

Also you dont want all your social circle spreading shit around your back.
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>>20492912
I never said anything against the social circle thing. I do agree that it's best to date relatively outside of your immediate circle.

The cold approach/online dating contradiction is what really activates my almonds
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>>20492920
>>20492842 here
>The cold approach/online dating contradiction is what really activates my almonds

Same desu. I agree with literally everything he's said, but I've had great success with Tinder, and I'm not a chad. I feel it largely comes down to having decent pictures and not beating around the bush.

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Well anons, im at the end of my rope. Yep its a suicide advice thread. Ive asked about it before on and off through out the past decade being here when my life was going to shit but i managed to pull through every time since things werent as bad as i thought. This time however its for real and im seriously considering it.

Long story, im mid to late 20s guy thats generally asocial and ive never even so much as kissed a girl. It pained me to realize how much of a fuck up i was but after awhile i managed to become numb to it all, and it helped i still had a handful of people i could call friends. I went to college and thought it would get me a job but 3 years later and im still stuck in my moms apartment. Took a technical school course for a year afterwords while being told constantly id get an easy job for a decent apartment life at the beginning and 8 months later im still fucked. Took a test for a higher certification related to my technical licence since thats the only way to get the more prestigious jobs and failed it 4 months ago. Been studying ever since and took up a part time job that ended up letting everyone go recently. Had a job interview related to my license and i just got word today i wasnt hired. My next test date is a few days from now and if i dont pass it, im being kicked out of my moms apartment.

This is pretty much it anons. I was hoping id luck out and get the job but now my only hope is passing the test a few days from now. Its either i pass it and i get more time to apply fucking everywhere when i have my higher certification, or my lifes over and i become a hobo. Even after studying for so long, because of the nature of the test of im not likely to pass it.
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>>20492112
That really, really doesn't sound so bad. Another case of
>I'd rather die than not get what I want
Which I suppose I shouldn't be too surprised at on 4chan.
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>>20492119
>being a jobless hobo doesnt sound bad

What, do i have to be a starving ethiopian to have the right to off myself? Theres more to my life but i omitted some details to avoid anyone identifying me
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It would be much appreciated if you could off yourself without traumatising other people, think what would happen If some kid finds you after you jump off a building. Back when I was a teen I was close to doing it myself but couldn't find a efficient way. If I remember correctly hanging was considered the best. But cmon man there is so much you can do in this world as an adult. Shit, just try something different, buy a bike, try a top speed run, it's fun plus you have a good chance of killing yourself if you don't like it.
Most people who jump immediately regret it, look it up. Yea life is a let down, but all that matters is that the sun come up and we all have laugh.
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>>20492502
Bitch i wouldnt have to worry about traumatizing people if everybody didnt try to make it as hard as possible to off yourself. Like if euthanization was legal id just do that, no mess easy cleanup. But because we live in a world that cares more about the quantity rather than the quality of life people like me have to get creative about an heroing
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>>20492112
nobody cares. the universe is and has always been entirely indifferent. there is no greater meaning to your existence other than that which you assign yourself.

yeah life fucking sucks, but so what? killing yourself doesn't make it better. you see it as ending your pain but pain is temporary, transient, and entirely worth enduring versus the void of unknowing.


to end on a nicer note though, you live in a century where you can actually live quite happily single and homeless.
so you can either keep trying and hope for the best or you can shit the bed and kys. either way, we'll all be laughing with you when you die. or we won't. not that it will matter to you.

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Should an 18 year old male be going for women 27+? I'm /fit and handsome, but no job or car yet. Will be working in few more months and will aslo get car around that time.i just wanna know if MILFS and Cougars are a real thing, and what would the likelyhood be that they like an 18 year old guy? I'm looking on tinder and bumble, is that a good start?
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>>20491899
But how do I get to those kind of women?
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Yes you can. I have dated grills with cars and i dont have one. My problem with this lady was that she was very insecure about her body so sex kinda sucked.
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>>20491153
18 is still a child, kiddo
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>>20492424
I'm technically an adult
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>>20491153
>Should an 18 year old male be going for women 27+?
Hope you don't want kids.

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So I posted this on /b/ last night, and I got to thinking that perhaps it would be better suited to post on here so I could hopefully hear some female insight into it.

>Who is being selfish me or my wife?

I have always been into kinkier stuff in the bedroom than my wife is (anal, fucking her at a gloryhole, her farting in my face, her sending me naughty pics). She has a pretty healthy libido and never turns me down from sex, but she is absolutely against indulging me in any way in the bedroom. She has always said "I don't feel comfortable doing something that I feel is objectifying/painful and you shouldn't try to make me". On the flip side of this I have asked her a million times about kinks she may be into and she swears she has none. About a month ago I broke it down to her and told her that the complete lack of anything risque is really starting to become detrimental to my psyche, to the point that I had even jerked off a few times in public looking for a thrill rush. She broke down and cried and I had hoped that perhaps she would then be more willing to explore some, however she hasn't mentioned it since then.

Who is being selfish here? Me for wanting her to indulge me, or her for refusing to indulge?
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>>20491959
Yeah, the rest of them are degrading which isn't really better. People are not obligated to do stuff they're uncomfortable with. OP fucked up by choosing a wrong partner. He only has himself to blame. I really think that he should get divorced if his precious kinks are so important to him.
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>>20491617
>if your wife doesn't want to BRAAAP in your face she's selfish
What the fuck is wrong with you
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>>20492155
Proof that Brap posting has finally gone too far.
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>>20491643
What? If anything she is being extremely selfish IMO. She doesn't even attempt anything OP said he was into.
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You are going about this the wrong way. You're just putting her in an untenable situation where she feels guilty if she doesn't do it, but like she's betraying herself if she does. This is torment.

Instead you should be trying to make her fucking HORNY for those things. You gotta get her to suggest these things when she's ready.

Basically when you're fucking her, and you got her in the zone, you gotta use your dirty talk, if she comes to vivid fantasies of your filthy kinks it creates powerful positive associations. Then you are sharing yourself and your beautiful view of the world with her rather than coercing and getting all mad.

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Why do people on this board keep saying that getting a gf won't make you happy? Is it just to keep depressed guys depressed? I got a girlfriend and I've been improving my life steadily and I haven't felt this good in ages. Explain yourselves, shitheads.
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>>20492918
mach mal feierabend, malte-sören
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>>20492903
Most colleges require some kind of science course to get a degree. Which requires some knowledge of Latin and Greek.
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>>20492930
>Dean of Admissions: Well Mister Anon you do realize that this is a very competitive field and this year especially we have potential students from all over th-
>Me, a Genius: Ad Hominem
>Dean of Admissions: GET THIS MAN A SCHOLARSHIP RIGHT AWAY
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I have a gf I'm still not happy my life has become a little better with the knowledge someone who isn't tied by blood possibly likes me feels alright .
It hasn't made a massive improvement on life I feel more shit sometimes because I worry about the longevity of relationships and how much sex i could squeeze out of this shitty membership of presents , movie dates and KFC meals which is my relationship before it ends and I feel like shit
I tend not to think about it , depends if the person actually likes you because they're going to try and make your life better
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>>20492209
It's either galaxy level cope by some mad virgin or a normie trying to make you feel better by trying to diminish themselves in your eyes.

Are older women just considerate less attractive the younger women to the male pop overall?
Asking for a friend kek
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the fuck? if you ask whether younger women are prefered over older ones then i'd have to say yeah. but then again it also depends on the country and the guy. everbody has preferences and of course, some 40 year olds will look much better than some 20 year olds. i also think that places like europe and south america are more lenient on this than north america and middle east.
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>>20492985
I am out
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>>20492985
are older women considered less attractive than younger women to men?
or:
do men like older women?
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Im 25 dating a 35 year old.


Feelsgoodman
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>>20492952
No. They are just older.

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Femenons, I want to write a letter to a girl I like. A proper pen and paper letter.
We dated for a while, but then had to split up due to something that was outside of our control. Now I feel like we can make it work since I fixed it. I know for sure that she's still single and when we were breaking up, she swore up and down that she loves me, with tears and everything.
So I ask you, is it a romantic gesture or a major creep move?
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Not a femanon but I implore you not to do this
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>>20492017
Why?
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>>20491732
haha that gif was fucking hilarious. thanks i needed a laff
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I did a letter thing. I was told it was one of the nicest things anyone ever wrote her. It was just me saying how much I enjoyed her company, thought she was special, and wanted to continue to spend time with her. (paraphrasing, but no confessions of love or anything like that). I say go for it. It's a lost art. Just re-read your words 100x, find the right card for it, etc.
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>>20492420
Its cheesy. Unless she likes that sort of a thing. If that is the case then go for it.

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How to not kill myself being a mid 20s unemployed virgin with receding hairline? Girls worried me and I had chances that I missed years ago now I am so empty. I am unemployed because the industry I want to get into is really hard but main issue is seeing friends in relationships and shy me is alone.
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>>20492637
Basically me but not a virgin and I got a job last week. What industry are you in? IDK man I just roll with it. Haven't been intimate or had a gf for 8 yrs now while my friends are icing together buying houses etc. Eventually I'll meet someone or won't. If not I can spend all my time on ymself doing exactly what I want without having to take ((her)) feelings into account.
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>>20492715
I have so much lust which makes me wanna fap a lot which is the problem always thinking about relationships
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>>20492637
you should take some people with you

>be me 19
>average looking
>virgin
>i'm in college now but i'm still had a huge crush with my classmate in highschool
>didn't see her in years
>i really want to though
>how do i message her what should i say
>shoul i man up?
>to afraid of rejection
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>>20492927
Tell her you've been thinking of her and you want to meet up for coffee and catch up.
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Do it bitch

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I've been rejected from college. Instead of being sad and moping around for months, I've decided to go to the gym, work work work, and learn a new language.

So, /adv/, where does one get started with learning Japanese? Are there good courses on Udemy I can take or are there so,me better videos elsewhere?

> made out with a girl four weeks ago
>it was my first time making out
> she is one year older than me ( I'm in high school so that shit matters)
> haven't seen her since because she had finals and she lives about 45 mins on the bus away from me

It's been really weird for me because she is quite hot and I'm not very attractive so desu I don't fully believe it happened yet. The thing is I've been really depressed because I haven't seen her for the past few weeks. The thing is I'm about to meet her this Friday. I just hate my fucking luck because every time I get anything good it comes with some sort of price or something bad. Also a question for the older ppl here, does it ever get better?
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>>20492926
You have to be 18 and over to post here little buddy :)
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>>20492926
haha holy fuck children are so annoying.

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I cant seem to get over anxiety while trying to have sex and it makes it very hard for me to get it up. I was thinking of buying some viagra online (cant get a prescription) but i'm not sure how safe it would be or if I should just "talk it out" with the girl i'm seeing.

I'd also considered trying to micro-dose an edible or having a drink before sex but I'm also not sure if that be counter productive.

Anyone have advice for dealing with performance anxiety?
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>>20492891
>taking viagra without prescription
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JN0VtHez9xI&t=2m60s

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Can someone suggest a good lesbian tinder bio and pickup line?

Please dont tell me to ask /lgbt/ they suck
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By the nine...

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So I have a fairly strong foot fetish. I'm okay with it, and also each partner I had. However nobody else knows about this, especially relatives.

I find it extremely awkward when they go barefoot or with sandals. Do anyone else ever experiences this?
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>>20492705
I've got a huge mother-son fetish(fyi I don't want to fuck my mom)
I've only had two women who indulged me.
I for the life of me don't want anyone to know
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I have an opposite fetish, i kinda hate feet. Idk what's that called. Whenever someone has visible feet i must look at them and I'm disgusted 99% of time. 1% I'm like "oh, a human". But I always prefer people to have footwear. I'd ask them to wear it in bed if anyone wanted to come in my bed hue hue hue


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