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Any one here date someone that was previously married before? Is it different then dating someone who wasn't? Ive been dating this girl for 3 months now. She has an ex husband, I've never dated anyone before her. No kids. We are both 29. They were together 5 years. Things between us are going pretty good I guess but it feels kinda weird after she told me this. Can I expect any future drama?
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Bump?
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>>20600957
bumpo
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One more bump before bed.
>>20601997
Thank you.

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late 20s anon here. going through a rough patch. feeling pretty isolated and want to talk to some people to just talk with, maybe play some games and share some stupid ass hipster tunes. is there any kind of /adv/ group for this? probably a long shot, but /soc/ is an absolute shit show.
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>>20602384
hipster tunes are gay and I hate faggots. maybe someone else will want to hang out with you. enjoy your bump
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>>20602396

alright youtube me something good here. thanks for the bump.
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>>20602384
There actually is
https://discord.gg/kCrcc7
Dont be a stranger and drop by. Or find different server, it all depends on your tastes.
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>>20602413

cool, i'll check it out. anyone else got anything? i've met some good anons from here long in the past so i figure i may as well try again.

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I hardly ever get these, but I had an anxiety attack today, I am willing to bet I have underlying depression so I want to get off my ass and do something about it.

Unfortunately, thinking about doing something is so overwhelming I actually panicked. What should I do? I am 18, I want a job, I work out, but I want to improve the quality of my life.

More friends, gain wealth, move out feel like an adult, get laid more often.

How may I cope with stress? I am lost on what to do. I fear as if I don't take action soon I will be stuck in this hell hole. I hardly ever get these, but I had an anxiety attack today, I am willing to bet I have underlying depression so I want to get off my ass and do something about it.

Unfortunately, thinking about doing something is so overwhelming I actually panicked. What should I do? I am 18, I want a job, I work out, but I want to improve the quality of my life.

More friends, gain wealth, move out feel like an adult, get laid more often.

How may I cope with stress? I am lost on what to do and if I don't do something now I will be stuck in this rut.
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>>20602299
Wow; such a genius idea. Why didn't I think of that?
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>>20602309
Sure, it could work. Try it, if it works, then great. If not, then try something else?
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>>20602328
Absolutely; I am not giving up without a fight.
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>>20602404
Godspeed anon; when you get out of this tunnel, you will have the strength and knowledge to guide others who will be in the same situation as you are now. Good luck
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>>20602417
Thank you, anon. I am going to help any poor chap that needs helping. It's my duty. Nobody should feel like this at all.

>be me, 18 y/o femanon
>taking care of my nephew from 9am-5:40pm Mon-Sat (without pay bc family and they I still live with them, and his mom/my sister works full time)
>kissless virgin
>never had an actual bf or gf
>only 3 guys ever shown interest in me in my entire teen life
>first guy breaks it off before a month of seeing each other
>second guy goes off to college (and we have an on/off again when he visits home)
>third guy only likes me bc we share the same interests
>not doing too well academically
>babysitting nephew even with the help of my mom and brother it’s becoming repetitive and I’m getting to the end of my rope
>try to hang out with friends when I can
>they’re all ppl who think being chill and hiding your emotions is “cool”
>I’m the only outwardly affectionate friend who gives ppl emotional support
>none of my friends (except one who lives thousands of miles away from me) returns emotional support and general happiness and excitement about things


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you don't have any real world experience yet. at least wait until you do.
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>>20602337
>third guy only likes me bc we share the same interests
HAHA awkward betas who NEED their gfs to have the same interests as them BTFO
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Sorry but your family is exploiting you. If they don't pay you then quit. You are essentially a slave forced to raided a child when you are supposed to be living your own life.
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You may want to start thinking about it is exactly where/what you want to do, and push yourself to it. Life always feels better when you have something you want to do. Make a list Anon, what do you want to do?

Also, all friends show affection different ways. Don't abandon your friends, but also find people who feel similarly to you. I almost made the mistake of thinking I could only have one friend group, and it almost ruined my relationship with both groups.
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>>20602442
Also 9-5 baby sitting without pay for 6 days a week is not a good idea. How do you have time for school and anything else? Talk with your family about this.

>26
>fat, 92kg
>short, 163cm or 5'3''
>tiny penis, fully erect barely sticks out of my small hands
>uncurable lifelong chronic depression, live on sickbucks/neetbucks, no motivation to even attempt to get a job, barely able to pay rent and food
>even having a gf is mostly a been there done that experience, broke up with ex over 4 years ago
>spend every day just looking at the internet or playing vidya with my younger, successful brother

Tell me why I should try to improve myself or do anything really. Even if someone seriously likes me I am convinced that nobody wants me around so I shut everyone out. Warmth makes me angry, exercising makes me sweaty and itchy and as such enraged quickly. Eating healthier depresses me harder, can barely do a diet for a week before I give up. Fasting is too stressful and difficult. I pretty much exclusively drink pepsi max, rarely water. I can lift 20x5 per arm 5kg dumbbells without hurting but I also never seem to get stronger so I lose motivation and forget to bother.
I am convinced that if I was normal weight (65~ kg at my height) most of my problems would be easy to fix. My ugliness, laziness, lardiness etc has been my most destructive enemy for my whole life, but I just can't seem to do it.

What do? No an hero, that's never gonna happen no matter how down I feel.

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I am making this thread because I got some responds while I was sleeping to a thread from yesterday which got archived >>20597133 Pls go there first so I dont have to repeat myself

>>>20598039
>I've heard that sports injuries can be made less uncomfortable with regular hyper-extension. Hurts like hell, but improves mobility. Maybe you can go to a sports medicine person instead to try to restore the mobility?
I did that, kinetotherapy, a lot. Thats all the kinetotherapeut focused on, joint mobility. Did not help.

>>>20598074
>phantom pain
I would rather deal with that than what I have. At least I'll be able to move my neighborhood finger better, because they share muscles and when one doesn't move the range of motions of the other is limited too.

>>20598075
>do you have ehlers-danlos
I did not know what that is so I had to google. Lets say I have ehlers-danlos, why did you ask? what factor does this play into my problem? is that something which I should had known and mention to my doctors? did/ do you suffer from something like? what could you /adv/ me with?

I'll go thru the listen thing associated with ehlers-danlos for more detail

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i can't stop looking at this picture

my mouth is drooling, i'm twitching, i cant believe something so cute can exist. i wanna taste that cat it kills me why did you post this
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>>20600024
because to make a thread you need to post as pic? I just chose a pic from my folder

bump I guess
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bumpo

hope the thread stays over night because thats when I got my responds
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one last bump
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>>20601502
ok, maybe not

I’ve never liked someone else before but now I I caught feelings for a friend and I have no fucking idea what to do.

Just what the hell do I do?
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Bring them flowers. Or a leaf.
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Tell them, or get drunk with them and kiss them
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Tell them. You're already fucked mate, not much you can do
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Keep them as a friend, keep talking with them, just try and play it cool for a while. Whats your relationship with them Anon, how long have you known them? Mabye drop some hints or something, just don't do anything rash.

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I need help
Every night I come home from work, I have five to six whole hours before I have to go to sleep and repeat the cycle again.
I always say to myself I'm going to finally dig into my massive back log of entertainment that I have been meaning to get into, or learn how to draw, or write a story, but I always end up either shit posting on Twitter or here or just watching YouTube until I fall asleep.
How the fuck do I get my damn priorities straight?
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Have you tried cleaning your damn room, bucko?
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>>20602387
It's about wanting to better yourself or be productive. The drive for production at all times of the day is actual cancer in Western society but I succumb to it as well.

>>20602379
I suffered from the same problem. I was convinced to put in 30 minutes at least a day, and it helped me a lot. It got exhausting for me, since I tended to overdo the 30 minutes by a lot and I tapered off after I got to an unenjoyable part. I would suggest sticking to 30 minutes if it takes a lot of energy, otherwise 30 minutes at least a day. Force yourself.
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>>20602379
Welcome to the life of wageslave OP. It will get only worse with time. And if you ever happen to get gf or kids, all your remaining "free time" you will just lie and stare at ceiling while listening to background noise of TV...

There is no escape.
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>>20602399
Will try the thirty minutes thing dubsgod
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>>20602410
I would go even lower, spending 1 minute on what you want to accomplish is better than nothing. The most important thing is consistency, have no zero days.

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how do you deal with sweaty hands? my mouse and keyboard are always fucking drenched and it's starting to piss me off
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>>20601397
Put baby powder on your hands but make sure to wipe them down so you don't get powder all over your mouse and keyboard I used to do this it works pretty well
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>>20602252
>>20602251
>>20601438

cool, tyvm
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i play violin and spray quality non-fragrance aerosol antiperspirant on my hands before performances because i get this sweaty too from stage lights+anxiety. does the job for me
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>>20602294
what brand? favorite song to perform?
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Knees weak, arms are heavy, theres vomit on his sweater, moms mom's spaghetti

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>chinless, jawless, acne scars, poor facial hair
>despite having a decent career and fit body, only unkempt, argumentative, obese women show interest in me
Give me one reason to exit 2d and stop buying shit like this.
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>>20601251
All of the money you spent on that could have gone into a jaw correction surgery
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>>20601251
Serious question: are you a fucking pedophile or something? Your room looks a kiddie fiddler’s lair with all of these pre-pubescent girls adorning it. Like do you ever have people over? You do realize like 95%+ are going to either run for the hills or call the cops when they see this shit. Goddamn, the fuck is wrong with you...
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>>20601619
>Serious question: are you a fucking pedophile or something? Your room looks a kiddie fiddler’s lair with all of these pre-pubescent girls adorning it. Like do you ever have people over? You do realize like 95%+ are going to either run for the hills or call the cops when they see this shit. Goddamn, the fuck is wrong with you...

Agreed. You need to lose the dolls and the kiddie pron-looking anime crap, dude.
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stop using the buyfag thread for shitpost material
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Hey man, nothing wrong here. I think you might be spending too much but it's okay to buy things if you like them. Loli art should always be a staple of any room and those panty shots are the bomb

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>sifting through news and frontpages
>plenty of drama and tragedy like usual
>dozens of comments about how sad it is, how bad they feel empathetically, some even tearing up or getting genuinely angry; all with hundreds of upvotes agreeing
>none of it even phases me, not even seeing images of all this sadness, pain and even death makes me as much as raise an eyebrow
>however, i actually occasionally tear up over fictional characters doing things, such as in disney movies or anime series, most notably in power of love/friendship moments
I've been deeply depressed since childhood, over 20 years now, and no longer on antidepressants since none helped.
I'm still easy to amuse with friends, otherwise I'm nearly constantly angry at nothing or self loathing.
I'm not becoming an emotionally numb psychopath right? I'm getting concerned.
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>>20602374
Nah you're okay. All those thoughts/prayers comments are for attention, anyways. They have no real empathy for the sufferers, either.

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I´m 18, just finished school 2 months ago, and i don´t know if i want to go to uni. Is it a bad idea to go and explore my country for a year (alone) and then go back home with a different mindset?
I live in a country with lots of hills and hiking spots. Have a budget of about 1000$, 3rd world country btw so kind of a good budget.
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>Is it a bad idea to go and explore my country for a year
Yeah. A lot of people who do this end up not being able to get back on track with their lives. Travel for a few weeks maybe, but a whole year is too long. Your journey won't be like animu.

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whenever i peel back you can see a huge color difference like a tan or something. also i have this dark spot that looks like a bruise. its not a std because virgin. should i hope they go off on their own? first realized about a month back and i see hardly any changes

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What are some good conversation starters when you run out of things to talk about?

I usually ask people about their studies/work and what they do on their free time. Sometimes after that I just can't think of anything interesting to say.
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"So you hear what Trump did this week?"
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>Work
>Studies
>Sports (if they play or watch)
>TV shows
>Other hobbies
Any of these you can have a conversation with. Eg if they say they play soccer ask them how long they've been playing for.
Generally enough of these questions should get a conversation going, if it doesn't then they're probably boring and you're gonna have to do most the talking.

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How do I stop obsessing over my waifu? She isn't real which I can't stand it, and real women are not an option since they aren't attracted to me and they would be too unreliable/shitty anyways.
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You will grow out of it, especially if your waifu is as basic as Megumin.
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Become enamored with yourself so much that you become your own waifu. You may not be attractive to others, but you can be attractive to yourself.


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