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My girlfriend wants me to be a super dominate guy,she wants to be a stay at home mom, when we fuck she says do what ever you want with me, and she wants me to plan any outing we do. I feel like cant be so dom though, I feel like a douche for doing this, I always ask her are you sure you dont have a preference, and she like whatever you want and she smiles. I should like this but I want to show her I like her and she should have some say.
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>>20805200
Come up with a safeword, dude. Healthy relationships are all about communication. She's obviously attracted to a strong and leading man. It can be a turn off when there's hesitation - it breaks all the tension and excitement coming from domination. Like I said, sit down with her and come up with a safeword. If in any case she reaaally wants you to stop, you absolutely stop when she says your designated safeword. Otherwise, you know she's fine with whatever you're doing. You'll be alright. Just have a little more confidence. It's very considerate of you to think of her in this way, but you can be both dominate and loving.
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>>20805151
tell her you want her to be dominant for a day because it's your choice and you want her to be the one making the decisions for once. tell her she doesn't have a say in this. lol
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>>20805151
Start small. Agree to a "I'm in charge" night in and out of bed if tomorrow is a "Lady's choice" night with you following her instructions. You might both discover new roles you like
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>>20805151
This is why being a submissive beta male sucks. Women want to be the submissive ones and it's fucking BORING. They want you to do all the work. And if you ever slip up and get to be the sub, she will leave you for someone more dominant in a fucking second.

The thing here is you need to be honest if you like to be submissive with yourself. And if you do, then this relationship won't work! You will be burying your desires for her and that isn't fair.

Being a submissive male is a thing, but few women out there will tolerate it. Kinda lame.
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>>20805151
Quit being a bitch and give her what she wants. Or don’t and she’ll find someone who can.

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how to not be terrified of climate change because it's fucking me up
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Please elaborate
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>>20806151
Its not real
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Climate change is real, it has been happening since the beginning of time. I hope that helps.
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>>20806151
Whenever I have those feelings I repeat a line from Marcus Aurelius
>For all things soon pass away and become a mere tale, and oblivion soon buries them.
And if that doesn't help I'll just read that whole chapter, which is Book 4. Helps me come to terms with mortality, ceasing to exist, the eventual end of all things, "lasting contributions" to the world being a farce, and other such notions.
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Learn the science and realize that humans have no significant effect on climate change.

Milankovitch cycles are pretty significant in understanding climate change in relation to ice ages, and the current interglacial period.

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I'm a very tall guy, 6'4 but I have a really small dick. It's like 4 inches hard
How do I get a good looking gf with this?
Also I'm a 20 year old shut-in khv, not an ince tho I just haven't tried to get laid
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>>20800997
Learn how to eat bussy good. Fug after she nudd.
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>>20805505
>It’s the validation, it’s the good feeling that we could get from their praise.
what a pathetic beta you are
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>>20805727
Chads don’t get to feel that way because they’re already big. That’s what being high test mean.
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>>20805741
This
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I very seldom get angry and I consider myself a pretty calm person for the most part.

However when I do get angry at people I lose control of myself and get all shaky from the adrenaline to the point where i lose my ability to express my thoughts.
I wish I could get angry or upset at people without completely losing my cool.
Any advice on how to deal with this?
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1.Identify the stimulus for anger, without confusing it with the evaluation.

2.Identify the internal image or judgment that is making you angry.

3.Transform this judgmental image into the need that it is expressing; in other words, bring your full attention to the need that is behind the judgment.

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Sounds like a bullshit notion designed to enforce the status quo.
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>>20806257
I agree but also, there is the reality of the situation that justice must be served on a physical level as well. Without this, our physical vessels (body) will not be around as people are still savages and want to harm. Courts of Law are important to keep people safe.
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>>20806257
Where are you finding these images? I tend to agree with them. Obviously some reservations, but it just a strange thing to spam the board with these
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>>20806257

Justice is a school shooter putting lead through all the bullies who made his life a living hell.
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>>20806450
This. The weak should fear the strong

Is blogging lucrative at all if you don‘t want to scam people with „online courses“, „ebooks“, other products or annoy them with adds, sponsored content/links and such?
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>>20806203
Well, what you've mentioned is a good income stream for many blogs. If you have another idea on how to get income from a blog, though, definitely try it out and let us know how it goes.

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How to do well in first time having sex?
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>>20805894
tell her afterwards if you are worried
when I lost mine to a girl on tinder after months of trying she messaged me a few days later that she "doesn't want to see me anymore because we're too different"
So I said thanks for taking my virginity and she sperged out and tried calling me but I ignored it
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>>20806001

Yep this. Tell her after then. If you don't she'll just think you're shit in bed. Which will probably be true, but being a virgin gives you a solid defense.
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>>20805863
To last longer just change positions a lot and tug on your ball sack.
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Honestly the first time i had sex i did perfectly average. Just do your best and let your body do the talking. Sex is overhyped though. I wish I was still a virgin mainly because once you realize how sex isn't what people make it out to be then it kinda ruins the fun.
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im 24. should I just say im a virgin beforehand, or try and bluff my way through it and get it over with? i dont know if i could go through with it without help - im not sure i could really find the hole and have no confidence in getting it up

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Any men here had any success approaching tourists in your home city? What's a good way to do it?
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>>20803681
I live in a smaller European capital. Don't know if the hostels have bars here, never heard about it or saw it.
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It could be done, especially if you're attractive and stand out
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>>20803979
Έλα ρε, kαι συ Αθήνα είσαι?
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>>20802677
"You look lost. Can I help you?"
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>>20805528
Do you have experience using this opener yourself? Because I'm not sure it's a good opener. Might be. But it seems to me like when you approach women they will often have an automatic dismissal, and you have to find ways to work around that by not giving them the option to dismiss you easily just based on what you're saying. Most women would probably have a knee jerk reaction to your question to say "no, thanks", although I'm not sure. Both because of the automatic default dismissal but also because it's kind of personal which I think from experience you should avoid early on. And if she says "no, thank you" it would be difficult and awkward to follow up on that.

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I had an epiphany that watching porn is the sign of a loser and now it disgusts me

What do
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Trying watching porn with the oppsosite sex. Specifically Gia Derza out of all actors. Please report back
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>>20805963
Show me your secret, I want to hate porn.
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>>20806371
wank whilst on LSD
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>>20806386
What a waste of acid
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Have another epiphany to watch porn and feel better than a bunch of dumb whores destroying their lives and bodies for easy money

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Where the fuck do you meet retards like us without sounding like normal trash or trying too hard
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No such thing as normie, it's line drawn on a sand that satisfies most of the community. Choose a goal, choose an interesting and challanging path to that goal, friends and A GF will come along
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>>20806193
kek nice cope
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>>20806193
Thanks, I appreciate you friend
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>>20805265
First learn to value and see as valuable the person you are. Not perfect, but valuable.

Understand and be satisfied with who you are. Not stagnating, but appreciative of your own qualities (however strange) so that you don't toss them for a fake society that will never fulfill you. It never will. Too many people are faking living. They're not fakes, no one is. But they are fakin. It's a survival strategy for them. Pity they don't know that it's pushing them further away from truly living. Don't fall for this trap.

Then and only then do you seek out other one help improve you/your life.
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>>20806308
This fellow knows

Yes a real one , the other day he missed her work movil in home and the first message was concerting a cite with some guy in a hotel 20 km away of our home for 400€ the entire night
My real father is a unemployed alkholic retard that im not even sure if he even care or secretly know it .
I dont know what to do telling it to my father speaking with my steppmom , abandone the house ..... im lost
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>>20806387
time for you to leave the house and have your own life away from this shit
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>>20806387
How old are you ?
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>>20806387
Get the fuck out of that house !!!!
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>>20806397
15
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>>20806413
Learn an easy trade to mantain yourself and then run run run !!!!

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how do I socialize if I don't like drugs, nor parties, nor alcohol?
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>>20806359
nofap is the answer
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>>20806359
4shan, imgir and other Internet forums where fellows of our class gather in number
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>>20806359
Why don't you? That's fucking weird.
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>>20806417
Not op but no it isn’t.
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>>20806417
I don't like to waste my time doing nothing while listening to loud music that has shitty compositional techniques, garbage production or overall low musical craft? (yes, I make music)

Also most of the people there don't want to talk about interesting shit like anything and they just make shitty jokes that has not real technique on clasical comedy (I've read clasical treatises on medieval trivium shit), and they use clumsy methods from high school experience and they don't know nothing about making rapport or sales techniques, they also love to talk about the same experiences they have since high school and the same jokes over and over again, or just dumb gossip or shit they hear from their friends.

I have nothing in common with such persons.

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How to succesfully insult or answer to insult?
Never had I in my life told anyone "fuck you", or "fuck off" straight away, so I wonder which factor affects emotional impact of an insult the most.
So far I've noticed 3 most obvious factors:
1. Friends. Person in company of friends can almost never be humiliated by an outsider, while lone wolf is pissed of more easily due to intimidating presence of a pack and their support against you, be it passive or active.
2. Wit. Only works against witty insults or a lone individual, otherwise first factor overweighs it.
3. Keeping stance and being distant. Basically a bare minimum.
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>>20806010
I just play it by ear. If I am in an unsure situation or with females I just brush it off and make it a playful environment which places me above their comments.


Fast reaction and making it personal is good but not always reliable.

It helps to be around your own group and practice ripping on each other.
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The most effective way to answer to an insult is to turn it into a compliment about yourself.

Personal example: coworker told me “you don’t work enough, I work way more than you.”
My response “yes that must be why I’ve been promoted faster than anyone here”. Giving a smirking smile
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>>20806093
This on having a group like that

Practice using extended insults, see who can go the longest without laughing. Helps with nervousness if it's new to you to make it funny.

You stupid punk-ass, hoe-ass, mark-ass, faggot-ass, pussy-ass, randy-ass, cunt-ass bitchboy
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>>20806010
Deadpan
See: https://youtu.be/l7K3y4EPq10
The purpose of an insult is to belittle the recipient. So act as if the offending person is literally too irrelevant to care about. It works to belittle them, which is effectively the opposite of what they want, while not making you an active offender (which can be a bad look in itself)

Nothing but fake friends, fake conversations. We've always lived in a crazy clown world. I have no one left to relate to but the internet. What now?
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That type of life can be more tolerable by having some online friends to keep you sane. Ween yourself away from the dishonest people in your life. Hardest part will be trying to find new, healthy friends, but if you adopt healthy and positive characteristics then they have a higher chance of coming into your life (as long as you're also making an effort)

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How to prepare my mind for blue collar wage slavery? I am 18.
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>>20806264
Dave absolutely every cent you can so you can retire young
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>>20806289
Stupid. Your money will devalue in the bank since savings rate is way less than inflation. Find some easy safe investments that have at least 4% return so your value doesn't decrease.

A home is a good place to start as homes (in aggregate, depends on your particular area of course) since at least WWII have always beaten inflation.
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>>20806264
learn the most about investment and early retirement.

Spend the most money on savings and investment and making a nice passive income stream rather than wasting money on dumb shit like clothes, cars, nice expensive house, etc.
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>>20806366
Yes, I am going to be starting a $1,000 Forex account.
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>>20806401
better save that money and make some passive income stream and some online bussiness.


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