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>be 27 year old virgin
>making out with girl i've known for a bit
>things heat up and I go to remove her bra
>completely fail at it because I've never done it kek
>mood kinda ruined and nothing ends up happening
>few days later making out again and we start dry humping
>get rock harrd
>she undoes my pants and starts playing with my cock
>fucking thing goes soft after 10 seconds
>nothing happens again
The moment I've been waiting for my whole life, the closest I've been to getting laid, and my dick just bailed on me. Now every time im about to fuck I won't be able to get hard because I'll be so worried it will happen again. Worst part is she is way out of my league and she probably knows I'm a virgin now and is losing respect for me little by little. Can I salvage this or is it over for me?
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>>31199109
if it makes you feel better, i've seen this exact situation happen multiple times to the same couple (virgin guy and slutty stacy) and he still ended up having sex with her and became her boyfriend for a couple of years. it doesn't really matter.
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>>31199163
>he still ended up having sex with her and became her boyfriend for a couple of years
thats pretty beta, being a virgin and then getting a slut gf. who the fuck would want that
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>>31199401
Me. I'm a 28 y/o kissless dateless virgin and my fantasy is having an experienced woman guide me through intimacy and tell me what to do.

I could never have my first time with a virgin woman. It just wouldn't work. It'd be so fucking awkward, neither of us would have a clue what's going on.
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>>31199401
Sluts are good as practice gfs
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>>31199422
>>31199418
buy imagine your gf have been a fuck toy for 20 other men, and now shes with you, the shy cute virgin boy who will never satisfy her
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>>31199447
>buy imagine your gf have been a fuck toy for 20 other men
Why would I imagine that? I'm not a cuck, nor am I a homosexual.

I just care that if the woman chooses to be mine now, I don't care about the past.

And desu, I know this sounds hypocritical, but I'm scared of dealing with virgin women my own age because I assume any girl who gets into her late 20s without any experience must have something wrong with her. Either severe mental illness of some kind, or she's asexual and/or emotionally disinterested in men.
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>>31199447
You can learn a lot about the technique while having great sex, and later dump her.
I don't see any downsides.
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>>31199494
>>31199473
Its weak. Your gf will tell her friends that you are "so so sweet and nice". but when she would talk to her friends about Chad, she would say how she made him feel so hot and out of this world
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>>31199447
small dick energy.

It doesnt matter how many men your hoe been with as long as you have a bigger dick than all the guys who fucked her. On the other hand if your hoe only been with one nigga, but he has a bigger dick than you youre fucked.
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>>31199501
If your gf has been with 20 guys, the odds of you, the virgin boy, having the best and biggest cock is non-existant
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>>31199498
>>31199517
Why do you think about Chad's cock so much you homo?
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Been there, done that. Try not to worry - which is incredibly hard(lol). I used to use Viagra occasionally. It really helps.

But whenever I have trouble with a bra I comment on it and laugh it off. Most people who want to go that far won't really think less of you. It's just nervousness and stress. Be honest and open to her. It's okay to laugh in the bedroom, you know? In my experience most girls were worried they weren't a turn-on.

So either try like you did before, give it time. Set the mood, take enough time, you're not a machine or use Viagra. I know several people who use it recreationally. Also stop masturbating. Just don't start relying on it.
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>>31199473
>I'm not a cuck
>I just care that if the woman chooses to be mine now, I don't care about the past.
You are a sad broken little man.
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>>31199501
White girls can't get into male prisons last time I checked, so we're safe.
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>>31199109
You have to tackle your insecurities about being a virgin at 27. It’s really not a big deal you are letting it hold you back. This is a common problem for anons who have retained their virginity into adulthood but just know it’s nbd. Like the bra thing? I’ve had many women and still can’t unhook that shit. Instead of retreating to my insecurities about how I’m inexperienced I just make a joke of it and say something like “damn they really over design these fucking things” then get it off and lay pipe
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Meh, maybe you're just a 'relationship sex' kinda person who doesn't like the idea of a one-night-stand turning into a baby mama. Form a meaningful monogamous relationship and spend a day in bed naked together, maybe you'll unlock something.
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>>31199109
though shit man, i was in a similar situation when i was 18 i could not stay hard but only when initiating sex, blowjobs were okay. it lasted full year. If she loves you one day it will happen. i am now 25 and still have this problem like every three months or so.
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>>31199498
Just use the experience from the current relationship and then leave her after la couple of years
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My advice, just go down on her while u collect urself and get back on track, i usually do that if i get the nerves, sometimes happens on one night stands. Just eat her out and think about how you're gonna fuck her soon, that usually helps
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>>31199109

>> The moment I've been waiting for my whole life

This is the problem. You're putting pussy on an unearned pedestal and putting yourself under a ton of pressure. Chill out. Talk to her and tell her that you have performance anxiety and need her to not just stop when things don't immediately work.
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>>31203204

Yeah tell her some shit like you think she's super hot, that's causing the anxiety and when she just stops it makes it worse.

Also stop being a little bitch and letting her lead the thing. Grab that little cunt, throw her around a bit and fuck her like the standardless slut we all know she is.
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>>31199109
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-turned-and-beat-performance-anxiety-new-girls
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>>31199109
You should have told her youre a virgin that would honestly make her more excited for sex women get off on the ego trip of being your first time.

Be honest with her, tell her youre a virgin and you were just really nervous. She'll be patient and calming if shes worth anything.
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>>31202257
This
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>>31199447
I can tell you for a fact that in the case I am talking about, the slutty girl actually didn't really care all that much about sex. she'd just bang for the experience. sex wasn't that important to her regardless of whether she was fucking virgins or sex gods, what was important to her was fucking someone. hell she even had sex with a woman 'for the experience'. when she actually wanted to feel good she'd just take drugs.



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