It's Friday night shitters feelsbar is open
>>58492035I need to quit my porn addiction. I have an irrational fear of people finding out about my weird prom-induced fetishes later in life, so I need to address that too. I desperately need guidance/advice, anons, please help me out.
>>58492050Cold turkey. Im unironically 17 months clean, haven't capped since June 2019, feels great.
>>58492050what happened at prom?
>>58492035Being a manlet sucks. No matter what I do, I'm NGMI
>>58492050*porn-induced>>58492081Thanks anon, but cold turkey doesn't help with: >I have an irrational fear of people finding out about my weird prom-induced fetishes later in life, so I need to address that too.I'm too scared to pursue women, and even if I do get a gf, it'll feel like I'm living a lie by not telling them about this phase of mine.
>>58492108See: >>58492148>>58492129Everyone I gym-goer I know that's made it is a manlet, unironically.
I feel like Im losing it. I am working toward getting in shape, lost 25lbs, look noticeably better. despite all this women still avoid eye contact with me, thinking about getting back on tindr, Im starting to schizopost again. I got a random injury that stopped me from exercising, I feel worse now, trying to start again. finals are coming up and I'm not feeling good about that. I feel like Im in a tailspin that I cant get out of. Im scared lads
>>58492148You can't just white-knuckle it, unfortunately. You need to find out what you don't like about yourself and try to correct that. Therapy might be in order. You need to understand your porn abuse is a form of self-harm and you won't be able to kick the habit unless you feel like you're worth going to the effort for.
>>58492129It's ok anon, we are still better than those with one leg or none or one arm or any other disabilities. We should be thankful.And we also gmi, i assure you that as long as we work with what we have.
>>58492129bro cmon we all can, I've by no means had a hard life but had issues with depression and suicide lifting saved me, yes its fucking cringe, it's never too late you just got keep going only way to break through plateaus is to persevere. You will never make it if you give up bro. I'm happy as anything I've met the girl I'm going to marry I'm studying at a top tier university its fucking incredible bro. You can have It too man you just gotta keep up I promise you can do it
>>58492035Glass of water, please. Trying to quit. I only drink a pint or two per week, but I always feel so damn guilty afterwards. I think I have an autistic obsession with my diet. Making solid gains though, went from a skinnyfat loser to hitting 1/2/3 and having a (admittedly not super defined) six pack, all in basically 7 months. Thank you for reading my blog
I’m stuck in the marine corps for another 17 months, worst mistake of my life. Haven’t pursued any sort of social life or women for the last two and a half years. Every time I get off work or it’s the weekend I just sit in my room and try not to drink
>>58492129The words of the Prophet are clear, anon. We're ALL gonna make it. Zyzz, PBUH, does not lie
>>58492161Bro, you got to focus on yourself before you focus on women. whether that physical, mental or spiritual. forget about women and focus on yourself. You're a sikcunt bro smash these exams then these bitches
My bench press has been stuck at 80x5 for 3 months now. I went from 12 dips to 12+10kg dips in a month but my bench didn’t move an inch. Chest Press and chest flies also went up.Tried a deload week, refining my technique and hitting triceps more. I think i’m going to try 5/3/1 and if that doesn’t work i’ll just ditch the bench press. Hurts to miss all the milestones and even go down in weight, but I gain weight and all my other lifts go up.
Get me a loaded gun or something, I want to McFucking kill myself. Second night in a row I'm losing sleep over a girl I recently realized I like. Gonna tell her next week and most likely get completely rejected, but right now I can't stop thinking about her.
>>58492035>tfw no femboy bf
>>58492239bro liking a girl that much is a good thing man, you get to experience emotion man its fucking amazing sure if you get rejected it sucks but being able to feel how much you like this girl its worth chasing that feeling? even if its not that girl there's one for you man we're all going to make it
>>58492239Was in a similar boat over the summer. Just tear the band-aid off, tell her how you feel. The state of worry and not knowing is far, far worse than the possible rejection. If she does reject you, fuck her, her loss bro
>>58492239Do you frequently talk to her? In my experience point-blank telling a girl you like her isn't a good idea unless you've got a good base relationship with her first.
>>58492218what made you want to join the marine corps bro. that's kinda sick not gunna lie
>>58492035trying so hard not to drink booze rn i wanna be /FIT/ GOD DAMMIT DON'T GIVE IN TO THE LIQUID JEW
Carry over from last thread, but worth it>>58490851Enjoy the time you still have with the little fuzzball and remember to take a picture or two. Lost a 17yr old cat to cancer last year and seeing him in my camera roll every once in a while is like reuniting with an old friend.Congrats on the new 1RM, anon. We're pulling for you.
>>58492305Yeah I've known her for more than a year and have been repressing my feelings for her, but I had a dream a couple of nights ago where we dated and I've been going insane ever since.
>>58492345Do you think it would work with her?
>>58492307I was a retarded 17 year old when I signed up. Was too lazy to go to college and thought it would be “badass” to be a marine. Now I just can’t wait to get the fuck out and go to college and actually learn something useful.
>>58492161Focus on what is most important first, and in order.1. Exams2. Injury3. Fitness...337. The grime in the shower needs handling...483. Women
>>58492392I guess you figured out what you don't want to do means you'll appreciate actually learning and not take it for granted.
>>58492368Fuck yeah, we're both huge dorks, and I can be my honest shitposting self around her. She knows I'm on here. She's on tumblr, though, and a bit woke, but in the end we respect each other's opinions. We're going out for lunch next week and are gonna hit up a new weeb store and a used book seller, gonna tell her then if I don't flip out and spill the beans beforehand.
>>58492420based and self-improvement pilled
>>58492420Anon knows his priorities
god fucking dammit i want a beer to help numb the pain of no nicotine, but i wanna finally not be skinny fat.
>>58492443sounds good man don't stress about it how you going to tell her?
>>58492476If you go back you're pathetic if you dare cave you'll never make it smoking and drinking are fucking cringe. Go for a walk and take some water and some gum
>>58492239welcome to my life for the past two years. I confessed my feelings for her several times over the course of last year, every time she refused and wanted to stay friends. But I couldn't handle it and felt anxious and tense all the time and the only thing I could think of while awake was her. In the end I found a girlfriend that I love a lot and can actually imagine a future with her, she's great. But even still I can't stop thinking about her nearly every day, it's not even driving me mad anymore since I can't honestly remember the last time I wasn't like this. Anyway some advice, since your situation is kind of similar to mine a year ago: DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT just outright tell her you like her or how beautiful she is or how you can't get your mind off her. Those are things you can say to your gf, she would get scared even if she liked you back. You need to let her know in another way. My ideas:go to the cinema with her, take her hand, look her in the eyes and smile genuinely etc. You need to make sure she find you attractive physically first.And then comes everything else. Good luck to you my man!
I feel so lost, bros. I don't feel at peace except when I'm working out. College is hell, and it's online, which means I'm barely learning anything. I've been Catholic my whole life and I just turned down my role as an MC so I could work at my wageslave job and I feel awful about it. It's not even a big deal to the other organizers - they told me upfront that if I couldn't make it, don't do it (it's volunteer work so I'm not getting paid anyways), but I feel like I've turned my back on God. I live in perpetual regret. Bad grades. Bad gains. Bad personality. Bad breath. I cannot live in the present. I am tied to my past mistakes. I find my own face ugly to look at because all I have are ugly thoughts. The only counseling things I have are lifting, prayer, and drawing. But every time I draw, I just wind up drawing people I wish were my friends. There's this empty void in my soul and no matter what I do it always opens back up.
>>58492426Yea but I’d not know if I can handle another year and a half of this shit. Every day I get more and more depressed even though I’m getting closer to getting out.
>>58492484I thought of a million different ways to do it, but I've settled on>uhhhhh yeah I have to admit that I've fallen pretty hard for you. Do you wanna go out with me?Gonna keep it simple because I'm stupid
>>58492510sorry to hear that man at least you've got this girl, that girl wasn't worth it and it's her loss bro.But this 100% it'd be shooting yourself in the foot if you just outright tell her
>>58492035I thought I had found (and lost) my one true love years ago.But now I love this woman more intensely than I ever loved the old one and unlike the one that got away, she motivates me to take action so that I can protect and provide for her.It's a weird feel and a good feel. I just hope I'm not making a mistake.
>>58492516Anon, I'm sure God understands. You still need to eat and sustain yourself, and I think He'd be disappointed if you shirked those things in order to serve him. You're His son, and He doesn't want to see his children suffer. Just keep praying and drawing, and lift heavy in His name. I'll keep you in my prayers
time for another weekend of rearranging things in my apartment for no reason, eating absolutely garbage foods, shizoid thoughts and overall wanting to kill myself YEEEEEEEEEAAAAAHHHHHHHH
>>58492443sounds like a good plan friend. I sincerely hope it goes super well. Come back next week and tell us whether to celebrate or grieve, will you?>>58492193youre a good man, i wish you a great weekend.>>58492161if its a consolation, noone is doing very well in this pandemic. nobody is making great social gains, and dating is off many peoples plates right now. as >>58492420 said, exams, then injury, then social life. social life is short term, academics and health is long term.>>58492392in my experience, even the worst, most boring and sucky times in my life were a source of joy when i look back, you will probably miss it when you have returned to civilian life, try to see the positive sides of it and try to maybe start studying now so that you can be ahead when uni beginsas for me, im a bit bummed about a girl i liked that had a boyfriend, but im pretty much over her now. its a bit sad tho, i could definitively see myself marrying her lol. also, my earphones broke today and i missed my workout, will get up early tomorrow and do it. related to that, my deadlift is stuck at 100 kgs while my squat is progressing neatly which is concerning to me, im supposed to deadlift like 40 kgs more than i squat but thats not true. i have super long arms and legs and short torso too so that shouldnt be a problem, and my form is pretty good, as has been reviewed by others who seem to know their shit. oh well, i will try again tomorrow. have a good weekend guys.
>>58492516>g things I have are lifting prayer, and drawing. But every time I draw, I just wind up drawing people I wish were my friends. The only time i draw is when my depression is acting up, God doesn't see this as you turning your back on him he's given this opportunity to you so you can work on yourself and have more time to improve on your grades and develop as a person. Personally when I pray its thanking god for the direction I'm going in and what he's given me
>>58492641thank you anon have a good weekend too :D
>>58492035raised by a single mother. Only now see the effects of having no father figure. wanting to confront her about it but I don't feel close enough to talk with her on my emotional problems.also repressed my feelings in general for too long and now I can't be honest with myself and take nothing seriously, always treat it with condescension.
>>58492752be honest to her, don't be a cunt also.
>>58492233>>58492420>>58492641for the most part I have put the important stuff before women, however, with every day it gets more and more lonely. I keep thinking it cant get any worse but I stop and look around and it has gotten even worse. It sucks but I wouldn't consider it a severe problem except that it causes me to waste time with schizo thoughts. so I guess its not even women so much as it is the feeling of isolation and loneliness
>>58492794>>58492752not her fault, she was told by everyone single mothers are heroes so she believed it and didnt try to give you a father figure
I'm so fucking done, again.I tried to cope for a few years and pretend I didn't care, but I fucking hate balding so much. Some people complain about balding in their 20s. I started losing my hair at 15 and fast. I'm 25 now and look 35. Zoomers at my uni look at me weird, some teens at the gym recently addressed me formally like I was their dad or something. When I walk into a club or bar for students I get weird looks and the girl I was in love with rejected me saying I was too old. She is 2 years younger...I work out 6 times a week, I got a better body than 99.9% of people my age, I got plenty of hobbies and interest, I have an active social life and make friends everywhere but I can't get a girl my age to look at me twice.This shit isn't fucking fair...
>>58493097Get an implant or just shave it
>>58493097Buzz it, dude. I'm not sure if you still have some hair left, but I can assure you, having no hair looks a fuck lot better than having a few scraggly patches of it
>>58492035I just had a bad realization when I decided to go down memory lane for a while I wasted my childhood >be me >be in primary school >really good looking girl allways talking to me picking me for games etc >don't pick up on and think girls are icky anyway>change schools >chick sitting next to me smiling touching etc >ignore and don't pick up on it>note: this interaction goes on for literally 2 years>also get rated top 5 hottest guy in class and laugh it off as a joke >graduation trip now>walking through spooky forest>other really nice girl from ANOTHER class every guy in school was after chooses me as partner and clings to my arm >don't pick up on it cuz utterly braindead>change to all male high school >be me now >no gf, ever Fucking christ I hate myself All the regrets man To all underage fags out there, don't do what I did
>>58493143>>58493151I did shave it, years ago. Luckily I have a decent headshape or I would have honestly killed myself already. Still, my hairline has gotten so bad in recent years that even a short buzzcut is starting to look horrible.And going completely clean shaven makes me look like a skinhead which isn't very helpful when you are buff and living in germany.I wouldn't give a shit if this happened in like 10 or 20 years, but I legit have never seen anybody with this bad a hairline under 35. I went through all the cope, but the hard truth is women don't like bald guys.
>>58492239don't stress bro, there's a girl I fell madly for and I tormented myself not asking her out for months. Then I finally did and she rejected me. It stung for a bit, but it wasn't as bad as not knowing. Just ask her so you can move forward with the rest of your life.
>have job>have friends>have family>comfortable life>lift and eat healthy>get good sleep>still can't stop thinking about herWhy does my brain torture myself this way? Why can't I enjoy life?
>Haven’t had sex since March 2019.>Only girls that are trying to bang me rn have already fucked my friends.>I messaged my oneitis but she doesn’t seem interested in talking to me>only other girls in talking to are 1000s of miles away or I’m not physically attracted to
>>58492035I’ll repost from the other thread Went home for the weekend, chilling with my family. I need to start seeing women again, but this corona bullshit has made everyone not that outgoing. Is tinder worth it at all? I don’t like to take photos of myself and be a narcissistic faggot. On a more positive note, I’m hoping I land a new job, I started one a few months ago but it’s boring as fuck and there’s no progression to something better at that company. It will feel odd if I have to hand over my resignation again this year though. I assume I should just look out for my best interests and do what I have to do, but I feel a bit guilty.
>bust a nut and tell myself it's time to do nofap for real>feel the cravings again>it's only been 5 hours
About to crush a 10 pack of Budweiser. Fugg
Planks are pretty based desu
Have stopped drinking alcohol and smoking weed, and haven't watched porn in weeks. I thought I would feel happy with life, but I don't. Sure it's nice to not wake up in a constant head fog or go coombrained, but so far life is just...existing.
>>58492050Read this https://easypeasymethod.org/
>>58492035I’m so painfully awkward, I’m 23 and I feel like I’m still in my awkward phase, every social interaction I’m in I stick out like a sore thumb and always end up making a fool out of myself. Does it ever go away? Anyone have any tips?
Over the last 10 years, I have gained and lost so much weight. I'm now 240 and close to the heaviest I've ever been. So much wasted time.
>>58493676It doesn't get better. Moderation triumphs over all.But the first step is quitting cold turkey if you're addicted to things. It's like an investment, your life will suck for a while until you relearn how to behave.
>>58492035Feeling super burned out. Have done like 4 hours of work this week. All the contractor devs were laid off like 2 months ago. A full time senior dev this week. Company is doing poorly. Writing is on the wall to leave soon. Need to start prepping for job interviews but having trouble motivating myself.Flying home for a week tomorrow to see my parents in southern california for the first time in 6 months. Looking forward to a short work week and relaxing with family.
>>584922375/3/1 has definitely helped me go for it
I'm growing out of my shy/low self esteem phase and actively want to meet new people The only problem is that I'm in my late 20s and feel like it's really fucking difficult to make friends I can have okay conversations with people and mix well with them but it's like they're also closed off
>>58493189Same thing happened to me man. I didn't have a "bad" high school life, but I now realize that it could have been much more, I was very shy and introverted and had pretty much no self esteem so I always thought that I could never be popular or be one of the cool kids, looking bad I had basically everything to succeed if I tried and gave it my all, I was good looking (if I had fixed my posture and got a haircut I probably could have looked like one of the popular kids), my family was economically comfortable, I had good grades and actually had few friends that thought i was pretty funny, but I always figured that my place was with the outcasts and never really actually tried hard to overcome my social anxiety. Now I just feel like everyone has had a much more interesting life and that I missed out on developing many useful social skills for my future.
>>58493825Exposure. You just have to keep forcing yourself into new social situations.
>>58492035I have a sorority chick to fuck so I shouldnt be complaining but i dont like her :(.Probably gonna drink hot toddies with Makers Mark until im willing to fuck her
>>58493287Do the Jason Statham style
>>58493889I know and I’ve been trying, I’m borderline autistic so it’s very difficult. Sometimes when it happens it’s not as bad anymore but every so often I’ll completely forget what to say or make a bad joke and i just want to die inside. I try not to let it get to me
>>58492035Vodka. Welp, tonight I try Blue Chew on a bitch I got coming over. I've had dick problems forever and I assume it has to do with the fact that A0 I lift hard B) due to 18 years of Catholic school I still get anxious fucking women, and C) not doing enough cardio. Wish me luck. I'll post back here if it worked or not later tonight
Starting to get panic attacks when I need to present something at work. It has happened the last 4 times. Once with just my own team, another time, my penis retracted so far that just the head was poking out of my body. I did not have much of an issue before but it just came the last couple months. Not sure if it is due to weight gain, or the no real social contact from the quarantine or what
>>58492129Anon, you can make it. I was in your shoes not 2 years ago.Then I got hit by a car.Then I met a short-haired brown qt 2-inches taller than me who genuinely understands my mental issues.Don't fall into the trap of self-pity.
>>58492035I have a girl coming over this weekend. I like her. She's fit and fun but I'm trying to take it really slow. I want to figure out what I want and what will work for me. It's hard to reconcile my need of lots of alone time with my want to make someone special happy. Also sex. She's got the body of a goddess.I need to not jump the gun on this one. I can already tell I've been snapping her too much and that's gonna fall off soon. I'm not one to be in contact all day but I think I'm so excited about it that I'm doing it anyway. I just hope that the feeling is mutual, like we're both really into it now and soon we'll just settle into a groove that we like
>>58492035I'm bored. I'm tired. I like going to bed at 8 and being up at 4am and going for a run. It's quiet and dark and there's no one around to exist near me.My therapist brought up Paranoid Personality Disorder in our last session and ironically it's increased my paranoia tenfold since then.I never buy more than 2 drinks per day because otherwise I'll go 5+ drinks deep.
do you guys believe in "the one?"i think it's disney fairy tale bullshit. an excuse for people to use when they don't want to put work into a relationship. an immature view of what relationships should be. that you should just click together and everything should work.my ex said i'm not the one for her and we're not getting back together. i'm feeling like shit tonight and wish there was a way to talk to her without being pathetic
I'm getting toned but my lifts aren't progressing at the rate i'd like because i'm not eating enough.Having been fat and losing 30kg has put the fear of food into me
>Live five provinces from home family>Still unsure whether I'll be allowed to travel home for Christmas I don't want to spend Christmas getting drunk alone instead of being home but it may come that.
>>58494216"The one" exists. But it's not "The one (with whom I never have disagreements or arguments with)". It's "The one (with whom I'm willing to put up with disagreements or arguments with, for the sake of the incredible relationship we have)"Do not talk to her. If she doesn't believe you aren't right together, you aren't right together. Because relationships require both parties going all in
>>58494094>Bear meditates>Western science can't understandThis image is pure pottery.
>>58492035I fucking hate the insincerity and exploitation of social conducts.All social interactions boil down to a form of manipulation, which is not a problem if it's your true friend or family, but when meeting new group of people, unless you immediately present yourself as dominating alpha, people think they can play you for a fiddle. Sometimes I just do not care enough to force onto others what I want, but then I see with how much bullshit they try to get away with or they say when you let them.Worst thing is that you have to accept it and surf the waves or assert social dominance, and believe me second is less mentally costly.Does anone get what I mean?
>>58494464I get it and I share your frustration.
>>58494216Yea, it excuse to sever the relationship with you.Now as a concept, it's people taking literally what is a romanticised version of happy relationship, that incels and wenches use as excuses.
broke up with my ex a few weeks ago. turns out we both have issues with condependency and we have to keep our space while we work it all out. it's nice to have peace and quiet but it sucks to be without my best friend.
I've only been following this routine for a couple weeks now and I'm already seeing results. My only complaint is that my left arm is a bit smaller than my right and it's really noticeable to me.
>>58494216yeah I believe in love and the beauty of the male and female relationship. Lifting helps me connect with the feeling of being strong enough to protect the ones I love, so that when the times comes I can use my god given talents to build and raise a family
>>58492035You know what? I don’t need to post the bullshit in my life here. I’m doing good. I failed my exam, but I did way better this second time and nearly passed. I’m passing the 3rd time. I’m leaving my wagecuck, going on a little vacation with friends, being jobless for a month and then I’m retaking my test. Then I’ll start working in the field I want to.Can’t complain about bitch issues. Sorta simping over my ex but saw a pic of how she currently looks and I couldn’t care less about her. I realized it’s all ego and I just want her to simp for me like she used to, which is bitch shit of me. Gonna meet new bitches, keep getting back in shape so I can pull them with zero effort again, and then keep going.
>>58494464Yes but that's a very immature way of thinking. You don't need to present yourself as a dominant testosterone filled ape to everyone and if you feel the need to, you're either very insecure or you're hanging around the wrong people.Best thing to do is to just do what suits you around people. If they give you bullshit, you put up with it, call them out and get them to stop, or you walk away. If you keep doing that you'll find people who you don't need to "dominate" soon as you enter a room with them. If you like them and they like you, it's cool and you won't feel that tension like master/slave. Alternatively it could just be you, in which case, get over yourself you fuckin faglord
>>58494311>If she doesn't believe you aren't right together, you aren't right together.aha i caught you in a double negative. that means i should talk to herthank you jesus
>>58492161Stop putting Pussy on a Pedestal and you'll life will be 50x better
Favourite suicide method?
>>58494582Ya got me
>>58494623inert gas asphyxiationthis is what i fantasize about since i have access to nitrogen. should be painless. it's like the helium exit-bag method there's an image floating around about, except guaranteed to work because i've read helium will have some oxygen in it to prevent suicides.although my sister offed herself by hanging and i feel it would be poetic to go that way too. but there's too much of a chance of someone finding me and being a potato for the rest of my life.
I haven't got laid since February and I'm doing no nut November and I'm going fucking crazy AAAAAAAHHHHHHHI'll have a Molson Export please
>>58494611yeah true that. no one wants to date a whiny little baby, and simps are good for money and nothing else. if you feel like your happiness is dependent on another person, then you're completely right and your life will always sucks because no one wants to shoulder someone else's problems
>>58494623Hanging is the easiest one that leaves less of a mess to clean. If you don't care jumping is better. Train decapitation is solid as fuck as well.
Got dumped 3 weeks ago and still love her /fit/ kept hanging out with her as friends until I realized shes just using me so she doesn't feel shitty about dumping me on the bright side, my lifts are going up exponentially with the heartbroken motivation. How do I get over her faster
>>58494652I haven't been laid in years. Get in line.
>>58492218You’re probably long gone by now but I did 5 years 2002-2007 and I know exactly how you feel. Hang in there, it will be over one day. You will be better off for doing it.
>>58493876I know the feeling bro No amount of lifting, looksmaxing and mires can compensate for the lost memories
>>58494694eh jumping reminds me of brendan gleeson in in bruges. there's a few seconds of being apart where you're conscious. i dunno if that's true.i also wanted to share this frenshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9ZSzuj1UpA
>burned out>no focus, can't pay attention to anything>can't ever get in the moment and actually enjoy a book because I'm permanently switched on and focused on the big picture or an end goal>jack off chronically even though I feel nothing>no motivation or interest in really anything>stay at home despite this and get more bitter and isolated by the week because I'm still single>probably have a bad personality because I'm so cynical, but try to be nice to peopleHow do I fix this shit? I don't think I'm a bad person but there's just so much overwhelming negativity in my life
>>58494576>or you're hanging around the wrong people.it's this sadly but I am in a phase of life where I am extending wings and learning things and meeting people>You don't need to present yourself as a dominant testosterone filled ape That was not what I was going for, more like being the one who directs conversations, shows that he knows what he wants ( even in new group of people) etc... it's the supple art of presence.The idea is that people don't appreciate when you just listen and take that as your inherent passivity. I just be there and listen and "experience" where is implied natural human leading to if not responded at with above paragraph mentioned abilities.idk... it's just there and that's part of life and important experience for myself, I don't want to whine as much as bring it to the front to talk about and share my feeling. This is not the case for everybody, but by God, the cases there are stand out.
>>58494623Turns out, OTC Melatonin can do the job. Get the highest MG you can, then take like 100g of it.Easy
>>58494623edgy how about you just immerse yourself with the world and network with people and acquire knowledge of philosophy so you can inherently derive "rational" meaning just by existing?
Ive lost 20 lbs since September was feeling better but the holidays are usually a sad time for me. The girl I'm into rejected me. Been thinking of binge drinking but I've resisted for the past month. I'm going to make it this time. Some pluses tho is I'm finally going to get a motorcycle so hopefully that will take my mind off of everything.
>>58494749really??????that doesn't sound right.
shitty night, but here I make some monkey sound for you guys hope it cheers you uphttps://vocaroo.com/12wJUdBeoO3llove from bosnia
>>58494796my dog didn't like that
>>58494784You're correct, I was mistakenOh well, the search continues
Been having suicidal thoughts.I cut off everyone i knew when i moved back home and didnt respond to texts / didnt keep up with anybody. Regret that partIm living with parents again and feel constrained. I couldnt go fuck a hooker if i wanted to, much less go on a date. Its my mother, she hovers over me. I love her but her presence alone humiliates me.I dont know what to do. Why do i have no balls /fit/Im losing it
>>58494853did you mean diphenhydramine? its another otc sleep aid. although i think taking too much of it just makes you chill and see spiders
I think your cousin is coming here
>>58494858It seems like you have castrated yourself.>I cut off everyone i knew when i moved back home and didnt respond to texts / didnt keep up with anybody. Regret that partThis is one of the trick of the brain playing on you and circular logic of "anxiety" and "shame/guilt". Personal experience is unless you have had a bad relationship with person you cut off, coming into the contact again is actually enjoyable catching up, the trick is to get over that "self doubt" your mind is playing and that "why they not call me first again" thing, by understanding that you provide value and entertainment (at worst) and that they will be as glad when you call them as you are when you receive call.>Im living with parents again and feel constrained. I couldnt go fuck a hooker if i wanted to, much less go on a date. Its my mother, she hovers over me. I love her but her presence alone humiliates me.Tbh there is not much you can do aside from serious ( I really mean serious) conversation and mutual understanding between you and your mom, or just leaving. There is not much to ponder or focus on negative aspect of it.
>>58494759I love you
I swore to god if he existed he would get me A’s on my test and will never doubt him again and will never be an atheist. I prayed every morning to get an A for my tests.>mfw i got Straight A’s on every test.i i literally did not study at all.i staight up risked get an F every single time.Turns out this has happened before.I think i can warp reality? Am i going crazy or am extremely lucky or does god exist he let me know of his presence ?
>>58493419It takes way longer than you think it will, even once it does get better it never goes away. granted I haven't found someone to fill her place, not even sure there is someone who can do that
vodka neati will never get over this fucking inability to interact with others. I can get by if i have to interact with others from work, but usually I'll just be the silent autist. living isolated doesn't bother me that much, but i feel like i could achieve much more and move up places if i could talk. >>58493189same fuckin thing here. my absolute introversion and being friends with the outcasts killed my chances.
>>58492808im in the same book as you king. just push through it. it'll all be okay. exercise what you can, find a proactive hobby that you enjoy and everything will fall into place.
>>58493287who gives a shit about what people think, just wear a cute pink hoodie and nobody will suspect you for a skinhead.
>>58494746It seems like you can't really focus much and that you have to start from square one.Also you can use some of those mentioned for your benefit.For instance:>>can't ever get in the moment and actually enjoy a book because I'm permanently switched on and focused on the big picture or an end goalHow about you focus on the big things of metaphysics, philosophy, religion etc... use your desire for the big picture to let you understand those concepts better.>>probably have a bad personality because I'm so cynical, but try to be nice to peopleThese two are not necessarily against each other. What you can cynicism is drawing intuitive precognitive visions of someones intentions, from their expression, implications, emotions etc... now of course someone inexperience will mostly be wrong at the start, but the ability to sense it from humans and patterns noticing puts you in the advantage, not all people have this inherently and even less understands it and actually uses it for their benefit. Being nice is completely separate from that, although cynicism is a modifier to the END DECISION of your behavior.As for the negativity, remember this, focus and thoughts are important and need to be healthy. Understand that thoughts work like emotions, separate from the control conscientiousness (ourselves decision maker and being) in the mind. Understands that thoughs can be habitual, can be on auto pilot and can be intrusive. Unironically use meditation to break the loops, use the time to focus on new things ( that you WANT, not "want") and get yourself equipped with knowledge.Understand that our thoughts are very much altered by the information we are getting and that being bombarded with info on the internet, creates information noise that makes you unable to focus on things that matter...etc... etc... there is a lot and lot to go , but this can scratch the surface and perhaps direct you in the better path.
>>58495010The first it happened was when i told myself and everyone that we will skip the test because of a feeling i had. On the day of the test while they were delivering the papers and i had lost hope the power went out and we were dismissed and skipped the test. Is it a coincidence?Everyone was looking me weird that predicted this. Im really confused
>>58493189highschool felt like forever while I was there but when it was over, it felt like it whizzed by like it had never even happened. Honestly, hit one of them up on facebook, ask them how they're doing. it's easy as fuck to get back into it. if anything, they probably have lingering feelings for you too. keep your chin up king, your crown is falling.
>>58494694iirc all golden gate jumpers that survived all regretted jumping. I think jumping takes too much time and the adrenaline rush forces your monkee survival-instinct brain to kick in to realize it prefers to be alive than dead.
>>58493560don't do it. it's never worth it. you're a heroin addict always coming back for "one more before you quit".just go cold turkey, and don't reward yourself with a coom in a week for oh boy a week, because you'll fall right back into it. no more cooming till it's inside of a woman. this is an order.
>>58492129How do you cope with it? I shut everything off and just lift to loud ass music. Even when I know I'm being mogged to the moon I still just cop my dead soulless chink eyes
>>58494704Find another, better girl.
>>58492167>You need to find out what you don't like about yourself and try to correct that. Therapy might be in order.I'm trying, but the bit about lying to a potential gf can't be fixed, ever. At least that's what it feels like. And I really don't have much to look forward to, which I why I guess I keep relapsing. >>58493798Read it once, stayed away from porn for a while, fucked up and relapsed (thanks to the guilt/issues I mentioned), and now I'm putting off reading it a second time. Thanks though.
>>58494704this happened to me except i refused to be friendzonedstill got dumped>>58495056this is not what i needed to fucking read right nowfuckhome alonedrunkno girlshe was perfectfuck
>>58495010I think you forgot to take your pills
>>58495471me>>58494704youfuck itgoing outside for a cigarettelifted todaygetting fitday traded bitcoin todayno profitLETS FUCKING GOOOFUCK ITI REFUSE TO BE EMOTIONALLY SHUT DOWN BY A FUCKING 26 YEAR OLD GIRL
>>58495406just listen to the music and lift manyou're gonna make it
Woke up tired with a scratchy throat. Thought it wasn't a big deal so took the dog for a walk, then worked out. Now I'm starting to feel like shit. I would say I hope I don't get sick, but with lockdown and no job I don't have anything to do anyways. Gonna eat lamb for dinner tonight.
>>58492035Still no fuckin job but at least I don't want to kill myself right nowNot looking forward to exercising at home when lockdown hits again. I like making myself get up balls early & go drive to the gym. Without that there's no way in hell I'm going to get up on time
I'm doing it anons, I'm doing it. No more wallowing in self-pity. No more living with regret. No more self doubt and indecisiveness. No more living in constant fear. I'm either making it, or self-imploding. I make it, or I go the path of Icarus.
>>58492129I'm a manlet and I made it, anon.You can do it as well
>>58495632>I'm a manlet and I made it, anon.haha no you didn't :)
>>58493287If it bothers you that much just get a hair transplant, man
>>58492035She don't want me
>>58492035>It's another anon is day dreaming about doing stuff for wife he doesn't have episodePlease, make it stop
>>58495674>stopped being a sperg>finally reached 11% bf>got gf>got job where I'm paid 110k to do nothing>still have my lifelong friendsNah man, I made it. Life's too great for me right now to care much about some fag disagreeing with me
>>58495741hey friend, >>58495674 here, just wanted to say proud of you kiddo. what do you do?
>>58492035I got promoted this week and I don't have anyone to tell.At least my career is going well
>>58495741based self-made Chad BTFO'ing blackpillers. We. Are. All. Gonna. Make. It
>>58492392Former infantry vet, dude it doesn’t get any better desu pls don’t be like me and make the civilian world out to be paradise because when you get they’re you’re going to be devastated when you realize it’s just as gay as the military. I’m telling you I was a “fuck this shit I’m smarter than this” guy but the outside is aids to
>>58495632"And Other Fun Lies to Tell Yourself"
>>58492035Thought I finally made it and left /fit/ and 4chan for good, got a gf, life was good.Fast foward 13 months and here I am, alone and no friends, completely broke too. Thoughts of suicide increasing by the day. At least the gains are better that ever, but I work out every day tho, sometimes twice a day
>>58492035I feel pretty good. I've been eating more calories than I need hopefully I will be gaining some weight. I got a new company that I started I'm very eager to get that rolling. My car broke but it's lived a pretty long life, I'm sure there's a reason behind the timing of that event that I don't fully understand yet. Over all I am better than I have been the past year and very hopeful for the future.
Debating if I should move to Arkansas or not, since I'm probably going to lose my job with all the covid tims happening. Also does anyone know using bank card automatically convert currencies? I want to get some East German boots, but the site is in Euros.
>>58492161Working out takes 45m if you know what youre doing lmao. Stop being a pity me faggot and just get it over with and eat healthy.
I did really well last year academically but I'm slipping. I smoke more weed now and I always leave my assignments to the last minute.
>>58495741You're a self-admitted manlet on 4chan and you're bragging about the great life you're totally living to win an anonymous internet argument. We all totally believe you.
>>58492081>>58492159Is NoPorn or NoFap the answer?
>>58496039Any modern bank should have this service, usually for free or a negligible margin if you're making 1 purchase
>>58493857/biz/ here, thanks, that analogy helped me
>>58496042Know that feeling. I completely lost grip when corona hit and everything closed down. Have an assignment due monday and I barely touched it
>>58494649Why not just use a gun?
>>58492035> Unironically raised hard Catholic > Want to keep virginity until marriage> now 23> every girl I date has 20+ body count> even the christian girls> try to change views and accept that I'll never find another virgin girl to go into marriage with> try to accept I'll have to settle for a roastie> still want to keep virginity until marriage> get ghosted after I tell date I want to wait for sex> can't unlearn itIt's over
>>58496151Sounds like the game was rigged from the start, Anon.
>>58496151Unfortunately women today are taught in mainstream culture that you should be a whore because it's empowering. Honestly, it kind of disgusts me now. I too don't want to marry a giant whore who has an onlyfans page that your future kids would discover lol
I'm so fucking lonely, I just want to meet someone. I don't know how to though. Maybe I should change my OWN bumble/tinder profile and update it, or just stop using dating apps entirely. I just don't fucking know.
>>58492035>fell in love with a girl in my dreams It felt so real, bros. I woke up as soon as she cuddled up to me in bed.
>>58496184>>58496173I'm not trying to be cringe but if a girl has had even one partner it bothers me to the point I don't want to date her because of how hard-taught I was to marry a virgin only, and to keep myself for marriage. Trying to better myself to not care but honestly starting to think I'm never going to get better and die alone
>>58496188Bumble is gay because it's fat roastie loser women with nothing to offer judging and picking you. It's essentially them scrolling through men trying to select their lottery ticket and it's pretty disgusting. As for tinder? You will never meet a quality woman on there. I guarantee it. If you just wanna try and get laid from it then go for it but do NOT think you are gonna meet your QT3.14 on there because you won't.Unfortunately the easiest way for most guys to meet women is through their social circle. A girl you know in the group has a friend who is single and so on.
>>58496145Tell me about it bro. I was on a roll. I actively studied, made notes and prepared well in advance. Once the pandemic hit and I had months off, I just chilled out
>>58496270Yeah you should get that out of your head now because the only way you are gonna find a woman like that is through some fucking hardcore church group. It ain't gonna happen
>>58492035I moved to NYC but I'm still insecure about how fat I am so I don't go out and meet people
>>58496311Living in NYC is worse than being fat. Bunch of faggots over there
Just got my college yearbook and I feel a little down. There are a bunch of photos that make it look like the best years of our lives. But I remember being stressed and unhappy while there.
>>58496311why would you be willing move to New York City? It's full of disease, rats, pollution, and people who hate you.
>>58496151I'm a virgin at 22, but it's probably because I'm afraid of intimacy coupled with undiagnosed autism. Find an autistic girl, anon.
>>58492035I keep making progress on every lift but 4 months in I look no different to even slightly worse than when I started. When did you start noticing visible gains?For ref I'm 5'10 and 171 lbs as of this morning, I kept the same weight more or less the whole time +/- a pound here or there. And I'm terrified of cutting and losing the meagre strength I was able to develop.
>>58495010>will never doubt him again and will never be an atheistSounds like you lied to God
>>58492218Should’ve joined the Air Force amiriteOr at least the reserves
Just found out my cat has lung cancer and will need to be put downOn the flip side, I have somehow managed to acquire a gfBoth of these things happened on the same day so I really don't know how to feel
>>58492035completely dropped the ball at work today and feel like a moron but I'm trying to not get to down about it and use it as a learning opportunity. My dad/boss was berating me about how much of a piece of shit I am and how bad i fucked up. It still stings like a bitch and its hard for me to enjoy doing anything right now but It made me realize that I'm slowly getting over the almost existential fear I have of not getting my fathers approval. the guys getting older and slowly losing touch with reality but I know agreeing with everything he says is in my best interest so that's what I'm gonna keep doing. I still have no idea what I want out of life but I just have to keep moving forward because there's is no other way out of this shit.
>>58496270i know it doesnt mean anything coming from some 4chan incel but i really respect your decision. the likelihood of you finding a woman in their 20s who is a virgin is basically nothing, especially if you're using dating apps which are specifically for sluts and sex. at least you aren't like one of the normal aspies on here who use dating apps every single day, act like a manwhore (the small % of guys here who can), then rage about how every woman you fuck is a whore and how they want a virgin wifebut i do wonder how you immediately know what the "body count" of every girl you date is.
I’m 26 today bros wtf I’m not ready to be in physical decline.
>>58496829Best thing to do in these situations is to just say "I understand. I'll do it better next time." You fucked up and the best thing you can do is not do it again and own up toy your mistakes.I do that all the time. It works. You taking initiative is key. I have a dipshit coworker that makes excuses constantly and we all hate him. Don't be like him. He's literally a jew with a victim complex. Who knew.Can't help you with your dad. But keep chuggin anon. If you're on a train, you can only see the beauty of the mountains once you leave the dark tunnel.
>>58496975>but i do wonder how you immediately know what the "body count" of every girl you date is.they will tell youi don't know why but they will.and then get mad at you for "slut shaming" them
>>58496270I can sort of understand where you’re coming from but virgins aren’t that great either pl you have to deal with them eitherA: latching onto you for all eternity after giving you their virginity, there is no outB: they suddenly realize sex isn’t that big of a deal no matter how spiritual you look at it and then they’re going to get cock-cravings because they only have one life (plus they’re biologically programmed to have sex with the most viable man around, it’s pretty much the cause of 99% of all fertility issues in couples) If you find a virgin qt3.14 then I salute you. If you can find a woman bearable to be around for life I commend you, and if you actually do I envy you. I have never loved anyone but my mom and little brother.
>>58492239She's just a girl.
>>58497049Whatever number they give, you multiply by 3 for the real amount
>>58497093That depends if they’re whores or not
>>58492035gimme a whiskey sour please, barkeepI was talking to a qt cop but I think she lost interest in me. We had great chemistry when we texted but I think I was too autistic on our first date and I fucked it all up.
>>58497114It really doesn't matter these days, sex is so readily available. Also, idk what definition of "whore" you're operating on
Life is finally turning around for me I haven't had these good feels in a while. Quit drinking after 15 years of being an alcohol 2 months sober, quit porn and im on no fap since beggining of October. Just got hired after no job for over 10 months. Learned about crypto and stonks during covid and money is looking good after being a poorfag for so many years. I've been getting stronger and leaner and have been noticing girls looking at me/checking me out more than usual, I'm getting my confidence back life is good.Looks like I'm gonna make it bros.
>>58496151I'm Catholic and wasn't strong enough to wait until marriage and I regret it nearly every day. In the end, I'm still single and without prospects but with the added difficulty of carrying the emotional baggage of past partners. We aren't here to fulfill our every whim and desire, Christ is more important and He calls us to be in a state of grace. It's a gift, anon, and those women cannot and never will understand it.
>>58497114all women are fucking whores, and stupid cunts too
>>584920353rd time gyms are closing. I don't think i'll be going back this time.
It's been tough beyond belief boys. I've been hit hard this year, diagnosed with mental illness, friends left to go to Uni, stuck in isolation, drifting apart with gf, losing touch with family, injuries and operations and unable to lift. Finally, I think I'm coming out the other side.But I've still got a way to go.
>>58497215>can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em What's old is new The King is dead, long live the King
>>58497215Based. Even your innocent little granny had the capacity to be or indeed was once a whore. And the most "intelligent" women still consistently make stupid decisions and otherwise act stupidly
>>58496975thanks bro I def about to give some faggy excuse but then i just bit my tongue and owned up to it and vowed to fix my mistake. (which I will). My dad is very controlling and constantly shit talking me but hes giving me opportunity and a place to live which I'm not taking for granted.
>>58497260If you find yourself in Hell -- then don't stop, keep moving ahead! Godspeed, Anon >>58497132Don't encourage degeneracy, fool >>58496829Sleep it off. Keep moving tomorrow. >>58496151Have you considered the priesthood?
>>58497304>>58496829oops wrong post
>>58497301having the capacity and being are two different thingsmy grandma is almost 60 years married to my pop pop. i love her very much.
>>58497312>Don't encourage degeneracy, foolRead between the lines anon, it's a lament
>>58496270>>58496975I really don't have problems finding dates. I've charisma and I don't use dating apps, just go through mutual friends, cold approach, meeting when I'm out at coffee shops/hiking/library ect. I think the fact I honestly don't want sex helps a lot in just approaching and seeing if I like her (I found it's important to approach a girl hoping you like her and not worrying if she will like you).>>58497049 anon is mostly right, I'm surprised how many women just offhand mention it. In the past I let women know early on I'm keeping myself for marriage, and I know that's not what most women are looking for and that's fine. Virtually always got ghosted or had women just tell me "Aww that's sweet of you : ) but I'm afraid I can't do that, but I really think you'll make someone really happy in the future anon". Literally have never gotten another date after I would tell a girl that, so I switched my language to "I want to wait to have sex until we're closer. Is that ok with you?". I'd usually get another date, but amazingly many women would just tell me right after "Ohh yeah we can wait! I've had my weekly fill throughout college of men so I could use a break XDD" "Ok sure if you want. There's a few other guys I'm FWB with for now ahaha but I'll wait until youre ready : D". Once I bring it up girls suddenly love telling me about their own promiscuous past, which I theorize is to 'shit test' me. I don't think I've ever directly asked a girl's body count, though I've sometimes offhandedly asked about their past dating life, or what their opinion on waiting is, which leads them into "ahah sure my 13th boyfriend did the same and then the sex was better and when I hit boyfriend # 18... # 20? the sex just felt different because we waited".I know it's cringey and I've virtually no chance to find someone who will wait with me that is also wife material. I wish this wasn't so harshly ingrained in my mind. I really don't think I'm meant to make it bros.
>>58497049but why would it just come up spontaneously? like i can understand a bf and gf confiding it to each other, but random people dating?
I somehow managed to score a date with a 9/10 for tomorrow. How do I not fuck it up? I have the worst fucking social anxiety ever and it costed me a potential 8/10 girlfriend a while back.
>>58497383idk dude. adapt or die. waiting till marriage is a dying breed at this point with the sex revolution.
>>58497387like the other guy said, likely a shit test. i dunno they think it gives them more value.
>bored at home on lockdown>spent hours leaving bait all over 4chan>get dozens of (You)'s from people fuming at my antics>hopping from board to board fanning flames>fly too close to the sun>janny deletes a post>all my hard work goneFuck sake bros never forget to change IPs on a shitposting spree fucking hours of bait gone.
>>58497383Just to add on to this, yes I've attended therapy. Helped a decent bit. I'm working on having casual friendships with more women to 'unlearn' my mentality before I try to date again, per therapists advice. I wish I adjusted to reality better.
>>58492035After two failed attempts this week and last week I hit a new personal best at the OHP today, 165lb for reps. I unironically listened to the youtube link for my 10 minute walk to the gym today and during my warm ups I talked to myself like I was a boxing champ in the 12th round and all I had to do was lift the weight 5 times to win. It feels so good to lift that and now I feel worthy of playing video games and eating homemade wontons. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oJY7KZ8vnug
>>58492035Rum and coke.Honestly the only thing I look forward to life now are the weekends where i just chill with my music, and drink myself retarded or spend the day with my close friend dextromethorphan, Strangely enough my life seems much better and livable compared to when I was very anti drug and alcohol even though now my social life is at the lowest point in my life.
>>58496224hey at she wasn't real and your crush, anon
>>58497387>>58497416The idea of a women 'shit testing' you, in order to test your confidence, 'manhood', and how sure/true to yourself you are, is definitely a real thing. I think part of it is that plenty of guys want an experienced girl, and girls will bring it up to appear more attractive and also to see how you'll react to their own personal sexuality, be it promiscuous or not.
>>58497383>I really don't think I'm meant to make it bros.What matters is living with Honor and Based-ism. Don't judge yourself by the standards of degenerative Late Stage Capitalist Babylon. >>5849740110/10 and 9/10 can be more trouble than their worth desu My Tinder 10/10 was a mental nightmare and a major blackpill for me. But I learned never to chase crazy 10/10. Honestly ask yourself, Are you a rich 10/10? If not, you gotta recalibrate your approach to marriage and family.
>>58492050Same, I'm trying hard to quit. On day 3 now.>>58492035>Be me>Nerd>Uni, so everything is online>Talk with girl for days, never seen her>She sends me a number she calculated; sextillion>"Yes anon, it contains the word sex.">Know what she's hinting at>Even get nervous behind the screen>I reply "Haha XD">"Why does everyone laugh at that...">Ignore it and carry on talking about homeworkAm I a fuckup? I'm a skinny fat, new gymgoer, virgin nerd. Girls say I'm good looking, but my nervousness fucks things up. >Tfw my pussiness prevented me from getting laid
>>58497383i dont know what to tell you man, but i promise that if you want to get married but wont do it unless its with a virgin woman, it will never, ever happen. it is absolutely ridiculous to expect a woman to be a virgin noawadays past 18. and if you're using dating apps to try to find girls who are more chaste and aren't looking just for sex, you're looking in the completely wrong place. You can't go on dating apps expecting to find women who are going to be willing to not have sex for years to wait for marriage, or even regular dating. It's similar to all the guys on here who constantly rant and rave about how all women are disgusting sluts, then say that if a girl doesn't fuck you after one date then she's cucking you and fucking 5 guys on the side.
>>58497473>Girls sayFuck what grrls sayThis is /fit/You need to be a Man not "good looking" or some other woke 2020 bullshit You need to get big and get a source of income. Then worry about your game, your relationships, etc.
>>58497473>Uni girlYou prevented yourself from getting a Title IX infraction.
>>58497495Honestly, that was in the back of my mind aswell. I'm pretty worthless; no money, not fit, virgin; just a hardworking dude in uni atm. I'm trying to create a source of income. But did I fuck up for ignoring it?
>>58497132I was setting you up to reply “all women are whore”You have failed me anon, you have failed me
>have dream about perfect girl>have very vivid sex in dream>living together in the countryside>wake up next to gf that I no longer loveAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH
>>58497523>But did I fuck up for ignoring it?No, see:>>58497517Focus your mind. Become your objective. Set aside thots, whores, and all kinds of females.THEY are seeking to suck your ENERGY, TIME and MONEY YOU must be strong enough to build yourself up and take a wife when you are ready
>>58497529Apologies my dear anon. It may be cold comfort now but alas, they are indeed all whores
Gym just closed again, it's starting to get really cold. Iam back to eating and passing out, but still try to run in the afternoon. My muscles ache for running outside as they're not used to the cold. It's really hard to breath outside cause of the strong winds as I run. I don't wanna gain fat again /fit/ when will this varus ever end?!
Bros, what's a good tinder opener?
>>58497607>goin to whole foods, need anything?aziz ansari's lines worked on my roommate apparently
>>58497590I haven't worked enough at your age, so I respect that anon. You're more of a man than I was. Keep doing what you do, create skills, income, enjoy yourself when you're free.You're gonna make it.
I'm numb. I feel no emotions except occasionally anger.
>>58497623>>58497590Ah and by the way, you're too fucking young for this site. What the fuck are you doing here.
>>58497607What's the difference between me and covid19?she will say something most likely "I don't know"you will say "ill only leave you breathless for 5 minutes"worked for me 90% of the time
>>58492035I moved to a new town for a job a year ago and still don't have a QT gfI have a good job and not alot of problems talking to women but idk where to goI don't have alot of friends either so I rarely leave the houseI feel like I think about all of life too much and it eats me inside
>>58497607This ones hit or miss. You can probably get average chicks with it
>>58497590Leave and don’t come back until you’re atleast 20 young one. I say that completely benign. This place will make you miserable.
>>58497653that chick looks grossaverage my ass
>>58497486True. I'm not going to date until I can figure out how to unlearn and stop being so obsessed over it. I doubt anyone would remember, but I made a post in one of these threads a few weeks ago, I'm the guy raised in a step-above-Amish Christian town of ~300 people. As in, there was electricity and some cars, but if you didn't leave for Christian school early enough you'd get stuck behind horse drawn carriages. Town highlight is small church, next to a wooden windmill around quilt shops. I never traveled more than 30 miles from that town until I was 20. When I was 20 I literally believed at least 80%-85% of people in the world waited to have sex until marriage. When I went to college (400 miles away at a larger school) I genuinely didn't think people were hooking up or anything like that, I still believed virtually everyone abstained from sex until marriage. I was taught strictly that I need a virgin wife, and even though I wasn't directly told, I wanted to keep myself a virgin too for her. I also thought that if she's gonna be great, I should be great too and started lifting, now /fit/ power-lifter for 6 years.Now I'm 23 and I have no idea how to approach sex anymore. I went into dating at 20 thinking at that point about 80% of them would have waited like me, but it's the exact opposite. It's a stupid virtue to follow but it has been ingrained in my head for the past 20 years since I was born and now I don't know how to get it out of my head. Porn makes me gag. Even just sex scenes on tv make me feel sick or if a girl I'm on a date with flirts with me I immediately feel gross and embarrassed. If a girl tells me she's been with literally anyone else, my stomach curls up and I lose all feelings for her.Really don't know what to do other than keep attending therapy and hope for the best, because even if I find the destined virgin I'm so ingrained to search for, I don't think I'm a pleasant person to date in modern-society terms at this point.
>>58497664A big girl is a true pleasure is the bed! So thirsty for the attention and so excited for the pounding. Big girls have big appetites - for meats of all kinds, if you see my meaning ;) ;) Anyone who says otherwise is a NEET shut-in who has only ever known his mother's tit.
>>58497587>when will this varus ever end?!If the political powers have any say in the matter, never.
I miss my cat
>>58497653>just be a dancing monkey for her bro
>>58497701You need to meet a nice young woman at church, bro. I respect your faith but you must realize you are a saint in the den of lions. You need a cousin to set you up with a friend or meet a girl at church.
>>58497722Don't go down the Tinder drain, man. You're better than this temptation. Friend's friend > bar > Bumble > your cousin >>> Tinder in 2020
>>58497737Hinge is the new go-to dating app but it only really works if you live in a major city. I've had tons of success with it in the Phoenix area.
>>58497748what makes hinge different from bumble and tindersorry i don't want to google it
>>58497748>anything owned by Match group
>>58497757No swiping and instead you have to "like" one of their photos or prompts. Less hambeasts and degenerates on there too.
>>58496060Definitely No-Porn.Jacking off isn't a bad thing as long as you don't become a coomer.Porn is fucking terrible tho, and you absolutely should completely cut it out.
>>58497705Fuck off redditor, slave to baser instincts, if you lower yourself just to have sex you’re not only an addict but you’re pathetic too. There’s nothing more disgusting on this earth than a fat woman and you give them validation just because you’re so desperate for attention that you’ll put up with any monstrous deformity.I pray for you anon, you’re walking down a path none may follow, but you may yet turn around and see the light of having sex with an actual attractive person and have her raise Chad and Brad for you.
>>58497748>>58497767>ive had tons of success on itwhat constitutes success
>>58497748>but it only really works if you live in a major flesh-pit of whoredomYeah I get what makes the math of a dating app work, bubba Lots of vulnerable, young women separated from their families, communities and churches. They're told to watch Sex and the City and then sign up for Bumble/Hinge/Tinder whatever the VC boyz will dream up next
>>58497724That's what I'm hoping for. Amazed that even most church girls have delved into unholy ritual, but I think church is my best shot
>>58497719That's because you think you're better than her, you think too much of yourself, you're not willing to open up unless its your way
>>58497770Don't get mad at me get mad at this Satan pushing dating sin:>>58497748>>58497769>Porn is fucking terrible tho, and you absolutely should completely cut it out.This desu >>58497764Ahh a fellow /biz/raeli, I see
>>58497719>>58497780i wonder if asking her>don't you have a pickup line for me?would work
How do I found a cute waif ish girl IRL that looks like this? I know it's anime, but I like skinny pretty girls with short hair
>>58497780Everyone on this board that has taken an active step to better themselves are better than herUnironically all men, and all healthier than her people on the planet are automatically better than her. Except you because you validate her
>>58497523Yes. Don’t listen to cocoon mode faggots
>>58497780>you think you're better than herI know I am>you think too much of yourselfEveryone thinks of themselves>you're not willing to open up Apparently puerile humor is opening up
>>58497841And yeah this: >>58497831. She's a fucking lardass who lives off gibs and has never anything for herself in her life
>>58497198You wound your god by posting here far more than any hole you plug kiddo
I've got a polygraph coming up. Very stressed. I get so nervous that even when I tell the truth it feels like a lie>in blood black nothingness began to spin
>>58497835What good would've come from acting on it? Also, cocoons are for trannies so don't trash talk me, fag
>>58497724I met some girl at church who is in the know about the great reset and goobaist agenda etc but after one really deep conversation its been pretty awkward as small talk feels meaningless and resuming the conversation is impossible
>>58497879why did you kill her bro?
>>58497879who the fuck uses polygraphswhen they try to get baseline try to get your anxiety up, that way they can't comparealso i only know how polygraphs work from movies and tv so what i say might not work
>>58497899was she hot tho?
>>58497899>the great reset and globalist agendajesus christ
My roommate recently got a girlfriend and them hanging out and enjoying each other's company all the time is making me feel lonely. The only consolation is that I am doing far better in almost every part of life than him. He is making poor choices and his future is shrinking but I still envy him sometimes.Having a hard time making connections with people outside of a professional or formal environment sucks.
>>58497915yeah but Im 21 and shes in her mid 20s I think. Also I only started going a year and a half ago so generally I just connect to the guys there; the girls are (appropriately) self righteous and I suspect they are disgusted by me choosing this so late
>>58497899>I met some girl at church who is in the know about the great reset and goobaist agendayou're supposed to comfort her and make her feel safe from the globohomo not look clueless and defeated
>>58497933Feel you breh. Stuck on lockdown and I live alone I'm going fucking insane.
>>58497899Have you thought about joining us at Heaven’s Gate?
>>58492094your reward: higher risk of prostate cancer
>>58497897You’re right; personality and social skills are formed from an early age in combo with genetics so you are indeed cursed to be an autistic hermit forever. Godspeed
>>58497737>I have no friends>I can't go to the bar >Bumble is shit here >I don't have cousins I don't even use tinder a lot, I just check it every now and then. I just happened to match with a really cute girl to my surprise and I wanna try my best
>>58492606Doesn't sound like one.GL
>>58497984>i have no friendsdont bother trying to get girls
>match with cute asian on tinder>she is 9,400 miles away>how the fuck did we even match literally oceans away>start chatting and she is pretty cool>what if I start developing feelings for her bros?
>>58498002give her the G(reen card)
>>58497950What he said >>58497957Can you get a kitten or a puppy? >>58497959Satan, get behind me >>58497973He will be if he doesn't graduate, start earning, invest in crypto, and buy a lambo >>58497984The slope is slick and slips are not unheard of
>>58497994You can't tell me what to do anon.I know I need friends but it's hard to find some. I used to have friends until they showed their true colours and one by one they fucked me over, so I dropped them and now I have hardly any.
>>58498002>>584980081. Start shitposting on /biz/2. Invest in a hyperoptimal portfolio of stocks, crypto and silver coinage 3. ??? 4. Fly to Indonesia and marry your one true love
>late 20s virgin>make no efforts to meet girls because im a loser in life, this stretches back to my early 20s>don't act like some thirsty nice guy with girls, in fact act aloof to not look like a nice guy>stare at the ass of every girl i see ever because im obsessed with ass>touching a girl in any way shape or form makes my penis twitch (like today a woman almost backed into me so i barely touched her shoulders to stop her and got one)theres no chance for me. go on without me.
>>58497984Having a gf without bros is a bad idea, because you'll want to do bro stuff with your gf and that almost never works out, plus you'll have nobody to turn to if things get sour.Make yourself a safety net of bros, then go for a gf.
>>58493189As much as I loved my experience going to a small all boys high school, it really fucked up my behavior around women and with strangers. Additionally it didn’t help that my parents never let me go out until senior year. I felt like in middle school I was so comfortable around girls and even now after 4 years of college I’m a sperg.After graduating hs I heard from a girl from church a (that went to the accompanying sister school of mine) that the girls talked about me but they thought I was an asshole because I would never engage with them at games, dances, parties.
>>58498048What if I just wanna fuck? I wouldn't mind having a gf but I don't need one
>>58497701I was a similar way, the hookup-culture was a culture shock for me when I went off to college.
The other day we read 2 timothy 3 and it felt like a shoutout, I highly relate to their description of men during the "end times". Not in the sense of being a doomer but a sinner.I doubt and continue to doubt. Not much seems to have divine character except people in my memories. I drove to a religious rural area the other day and tried to see if there was any sort of divine beauty in it. People had half-dissassembled pickup trucks in their front yard, washing machines and kitchen sinks under tarps, mismatched curtains, peeling paint, broken windows.
>>58498077you still have no friends nor people to hangout withyou have to understand for a normal person, sex is a secondary even tetriary aspect of their relationship with people, it's something that happens accidentally because they're so involved and connected with othersyour goal of casual hookups without a group of friends to go out with only works if you're lucky to find some girl in your same situation, another social reject
>>58498108FugWell, it's not like I have zero friends. I have like two good friends plus a bunch of bros in the kitchen industry (I used to cook), but it's harder to hang out with those guys because of our schedules.But yeah, you're right, I do need more friends. I just don't know where to find them.
>>58498099>I doubt and continue to doubt. Not much seems to have divine character except people in my memories. I drove to a religious rural area the other day and tried to see if there was any sort of divine beauty in it. People had half-dissassembled pickup trucks in their front yard, washing machines and kitchen sinks under tarps, mismatched curtains, peeling paint, broken windows.In the Christian sense there's a differentiation between the world and God, the world is material, self-pleasuring, the easy way. For God's wealth is the Kingdom of Heaven and eternal life, it's a narrow path filled with adversity, service to others and humility.
>tfw when just wanted to fuck girl>get feels for her >get pregnancy and scared >tfw miss-carriage then broke up after How do I recover fit, was a year and a half ago fell in love and played with little kids recently that could’ve been my kid of age.>tfw a family could’ve been real Seriously a wound just opened up again and shit has been on my mind for weeks. Just the thought that I could’ve been given the world but turned into being the most a alone I’ve ever been Pic related
>>58493916That sounds dumb. Just break it off. The time you're spending with her is time you could be spending bettering yourself or finding someone better. Opportunity cost.
>>58498142How best I pursue a career that lets me be a good person? I've done a lot of different stuff (army, childcare, restaurant industry, chem lab) and I often feel impotent to help people. When I was working at the YMCA one of the international campers sexually assaulted another kid when I told the admin, one of the first questions was "well how old was the kid- do you figure they'll tell their parents?" Everything since has felt quite similar. Noone in the lab really gives a shit about anything except the hobbies they have 2-3 hours to do on weekends. The people who genuinely care about their work are wierdos. There is no conception of a lot of things I feel are essential.
>>58494064Doctor, lose weight, therapy, maybe meds. In that order.
>>58492035The best friend that abandoned me reached me out trying to set me up with a bunch of my past friends which he still hung out with.All of them I swear all of them deserve to die, long story short I was abandoned and outcasted, taken advantage of and even physically hurt.After half a decade of grueling loneliness and rejection they decided they feel guilty about what some of them did to me. They couldnt have enough self respect or honor to swallow their pride and suck it up. They had to pretend to invite me and hang out with them, to finally get that guilt off their backs. At the end nothing happened, I didnt want to forgive them so quickly, I went through the effort of not being a piece of shit to them *righfully so* , the moment they realized that they where getting nothing out of me they inmediatly ghosted me.I swear normies deserve to die
>>58494097Communicate your feelings, not just daily drivel.
>>58498183talk to your parents of grandparents about it, I think they'll know what to sayMy mom had a miscarriage for her first pregnancy, she says she feels different even though she has 3 of us now, like a voidtry to find comfort in the life you were given, and comfort your ex too...
>>58494257>TonedDecide where your priorities are. Stick to them. Stop using dumb words like "toned".
>>58498211It's one hell of a roller coaster of emotions but I just can't get enough of my healthcare job. Every day I try to find new ways to make our patients happier
>>58493189stop being such a self indulgent bitch. who do you want to be, alexander the great? you'll achieve nothing with this dimension bending whining. i was in your spot 1-2 years ago. you'll be dead soon, why even waste your time worrying about this. scream in defiance at the sun as it fucking turns us all to dust.
I've found the perfect woman I intend to marry but I don't spend enough time with her at all. I just can't help myself; I'm either feeling like shit and depressed and gloomy and don't have the energy to clean up and go and drive 20-25 minutes to see her or I've got some retarded stomach ache or some nonsense comes up and I can't see her because of that. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH ME? I'd kill 100 men if it meant being able to go back in time and get with her before becoming this poisoned, sad wreck.
Going on a hike for a 3rd date tomorrow with this chick from tinder. She likes hanging out with me so far and I havent really made any moves yet, I do wanna have her over and "watch a movie" and maybe fuck but how do I naturally progress to that? Im thinking I hold her hand and if she likes it I'll kiss her when we are sitting and chilling, then I'll ask if she wants to come over to my place to eat and watch movie.
>>58494520>issues with condependencySame. Bring forced into solitary situations is helping me.
>>58498249Did all of that a couple months ago on what you said but after those kids was like the happiest time I ever had and at the same time the most sorrow I ever got
>>58495189I also think you forgot to take your meds or that you're developing mental illness. See doctor.
>>58497714They miss you to brother
>>58497705>this post was typed by roastie or male feminist hands, either way the nails are painted
>>58493287You are lucky to have a good head shape. Who cares if you look like a skinhead. I shave my head in America and people think I’m a skinhead and that I have a bad skull. Grass is always greener
>>58497705>t. anarcho communist land whale pussy fucker
>>58492035Off work for a week to chill at my parents. It’s nice being home, especially without my desktop. I’ve been gaming too much lately, and as I was on the way home I thought about how I don’t remember a single evening sitting inside gaming, no matter how much fun I had. Not a single one. I don’t expect to remember everyday of my life, but for some reason that hit hard. Gaming with my bros is fun, but every night from 4 pm to 11 pm maybe isn’t necessary. I’m gonna take a step back bros, use this week away to detach and gain some new priorities
>>58498422>I thought about how I don’t remember a single evening sitting inside gaming, no matter how much fun I had. Not a single one.this has been me every night for like 6 years at this point. not gaming but just wasting every evening after my shitty job sitting in my room pissing around online. 6 years have gone by with nothing to show for them and i remember literally nothing.
>>58498211>>58498142You're both not getting it. No one is good. Our love is filthy and arrogant. Our kindess is filty and arrogant. We don't commit sin, we ARE sin. And yet, God loves us. He would come down Christ incarnate a trillion times to sacrifice himself again and again for each one of us.We can never 'do good'. Only the Trinity is good. Even in our best moments we are filled with arrogance and egotism. Even monastics who acheived theosis were told by God that they are arrogant and selfish. But do you know what they were also told? "Stand at the edge of hades, and despair not".We can never be truly humble. Only Christ was Humble. We can never truly love. Only Christ could. However, we can alight our spirit with God, and the results will follow. We can't put the cart before the horse. We can't worry about doing good deeds before we become one with God and Christ. I hope I've made sense to you.
>>58498302>when you see her compliment her appearance>reach flat spot where you can walk unimpeded for a while>hold out hand to her with palm down and fist closed>"can you hold this for me">grab her hand when she opens it to you>something cheeky like "oops">continue walking for some time holding hands>tell her how you like holding her hands/she has nice hands/etc etc>find some romantic spot to sit>don't play any games this time, genuinely ask her if you can kiss her/if she would want a kiss>let her know she's a great kisser/she has nice lips/your lips fit together wellif you're lucky and it's not too cold you can fuck in the woods. i don't know if i'd go from hiking to movies and sex, she's probably gonna be worn out but you can definitely give it a shot as a "post hike relaxation" or something. offer her a massage half-jokingly to take the sting of the hike off maybe to give her some incentive. i will say though you probably fucked up a little by not having already kissed her or held her hand on the third date? don't come on too strong because it will seem weird you're suddenly more affectionate and physically intimate but don't pussy foot it and start giving her the idea you're some sort of fagnow somebody give me some fucking advice >>58498291
I went to the gym with a groupmate now friend this evening for the first time. Tomorrow I'm studying for finals and buying university gear to give as Christmas presents for my family. This was my last full week at my uni, next week I'm going back home, I can't wait for Thanksgiving.
In love with a married coworker and she probably couldn't care less about me but I'll never know because in the 4 months I've worked with her I've only had the opportunity to talk to her like 2 times. The most pathetic thing is I know she's married and I still can't move on.
>>58498038>>58492129>>58497383i am a feeble dyel. but get on my back. i will carry you if i must. we are all going to make it.
>>58497960This post has been written by Jewish hands.
>>58498468This is actually good advice, thanks. I thought asking if I can kiss her is kinda cringe? or is it not? If she says yes do I do the short peck kiss and pull away before she does thing? obviously no tongue before she does
>>58498008Green card marriages are actually pretty difficult. I proposed to my ex so she could stay in the states but her lawyers did not advise it.The movie Like Crazy deals with this pretty authentically. You might recognize it from the gifs of two people sleeping together day by day.
why do i give attention to the people in my life that really dont care about me. why do i try for their attention. why do i ignore and blockout the people in my life that actually want to do something with me. i seriously have tried everything to fix my life but im still not happy, i dont think im gonna make it guys
>tfw qt girl at the gym almost made me boner so I had to look away from her constantlyShe was looking at me occasionally. Probably not attracted to me though but it was weird that whenever we'd do the same exercise we'd end up next to each other. Weird shit, I'm not even attractive.
>>58498591asking for a kiss is never cringe, it's a chivalric and gentlemanly thing to do, i know the incel/betamilk boy wars have muddied the waters but chicks do respect it and some even explicitly find it more of a turn on if you do something so bold and candid.obviously it depends on the chick and that's where i can't help you as much. she may be the type who would like a sudden kiss, or maybe you cracking a joke that leads to a kiss, or she may be the type that expects a kiss to come in some magical moment where you're both staring into each other's eyes. but if you're not sure which one is most fitting, the safest and most efficient is to just ask her outright. it makes you look confident enough to believe you'll get a yes but also makes you look humble, gentle, and romantic enough to want to put the ball in her court and give her the decision and that gives her a startle and a few moments to mystify herself with the possibility. i've never asked a girl if i could kiss her and she said noWHEN she says yes, take her hand in yours and lean in and kiss her fully, don't peck. hold it for a little while and really enjoy it to the point where pulling away will be instinct rather than timing it in your head. the second time you kiss her just cradle her face at the jaw with one hand and that's a really romantic move.if she actually says no in some 1% chance nightmare scenario, then just apologize for being too forward and let her accept it and give you whatever ashamed excuse she has and brush it off. another half-serious, half-joking "oh that's okay, maybe some time later" and a coy smile will both save face and again put the impetus on her, as well as, again, wrapping her thoughts up in the future prospect of kissing you. if you don't fuck up though this probably won't happen at all so no need to worry. just go in with the MINDSET it'll work and relax, but always keep your expectations low so you don't lose your cool, just in case. she'll feel this too
>>58498708Thanks brah, Im pretty autisitc and have been consuming a lot of blackpill PUA type shit and what you are saying makes a lot of sense, and it is more fitting for my personality. I will be wired on phenibut and just have a good time overall
>>58498708>>58498468>>58498291Seems like some sort of bitter, divine irony that you have such a grasp on romanticism but can't work up the energy to be with your own girl. Maybe try walking around in the daylight. You sound depressed.
>>58498773you can immediately wash yourself of any bad PUA advice shit by just finding a picture of the guy who wrote it. always some greasy bald coomer looking cunt in a black v-neck or some dude with a bad receding quasi-mullet in a button up. always DYELs. always copers. don't bother yourself with all that horseshitdon't get too keyed up but make sure you have fun and that she's having fun. she's already going on date number 3 with you, she wouldn't have bothered with number 2, let alone continued texting you after 1 or even set up any dates at all if you weren't doing something right. after 3 dates she's gonna be rearing for some sort of physical intimacy surely so just take your time with it and do it when it feels best.asking for a kiss isn't the only time being candid is good either. feel nervous? tell her that, and that she's very gorgeous and you don't wanna say something dumb. not sure what to say after some silence? tell her that, and that you're stumped for ideas, ask her what's on her mind or what she's thinking about; i always like the question "what's something you've been wanting to tell someone about but it never comes up in a conversation?" when i'm not sure what to say. humble yourself to her and she'll respect you being bold and being open with yourself.if what i'm saying is more fitting for your personality then i don't need to say anymore, you've already got a romantic spirit and you're just hesitant of showing it off to a girl who may take it for granted. stop reading that useless PUA shit but definitely make sure you're giving your attention and efforts to the right girl
>>58498898i haven't gone outside with the sunlight touching my skin longer than 5-10 minutes for months. i think i will try it
Been listening to this fuckin song and missing my best buddies. We still talk daily, but one's in Alaska and one's in Indiana. I just love them more than almost everyone else in my life, and I wish I wasn't a wagebitch so I could actually get out to see them. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HyTpu6BmE88
New job new people seem to hit it off real good with this girl, lots of flirting and touching. Finally send her a friend request after like a week of knowing her and talking to her just to find out she has a boyfriend.Feelsbadman