Old thread >>10844342Happy feels: Two girls from our comm tried to drown themselves at the lake. They survived, and they promised not to do it again... Now they've earned the lead roles in Lolita Christmas Carol, $5 admission! ($3 for seniors, $10 deposit for large dogs)
How to become a cosplay girl's personal pay simp? Funding her costumes, paying for her travel fees, con tickets and hotel rooms, carrying her bags and buying her things, holding her spot in lines, and if I'm lucky, she'll let me hide under the bed or in the closet when she hooks up with the guys she meets?
Something about the photos from BTSSB's Sugar Bouquet release brings me joy I haven't felt in a while from lolita.
>>10867075>Happy feels: Two girls from our comm tried to drown themselves at the lake. They survived, and they promised not to do it again...Uhh... ofc glad that no one died but like what the fuck
Next week I'll be 35. Recently, I have finally gotten more confident and able to talk to people better. But now it feels like it's too late. I can't go to cons and get drunk and dance with cuties, it would just be weird now. All I get now is when am i going to get married. I just don't understand why it took me so long and what it is that I lack that others seem to have to connect to others so easily, I just want to go back and try again.
>>10867144Feelssadman
>>10867144>But now it feels like it's too late.First of all fuck you. Go get out there or quit bitching.
>>10867144Hey, me too! And now the "hot" girl from my comm is 2 years older than I was when she called me a horny old slut.
>>10867079If only men like you were actually real
>>10867193I wouldn't simp, thats stupid. But I would be all for supporting a girl who I belive would make it big as a cosplayer/online personality if there was angel investment stake in it.The only reason I wouldn't is because it does come off pimpish.
>>10867193Easy as fuck to be a hooker. Go to New Orleans and wear a miniskirt and you will be propositioned 30 times in 2 hours.
I know it's from the old thread but should I have offered them a Pocky (cause I was carrying some of them around in the moment)Or would that be too creepy?
>>10867109She's growing
>>10867193I am real. It's the women who would actually go along with that who don't exist.
For all the terrible things I can say about my area (and there are countless), it's still got the best "con scene" I've been a part of. Some scenes are disjointed, some are mental illness to the max, and some where everybody knows your nameWHAMI [We have all made it]
>>10867263would you be willing to pay my cosplays in exchange for pics and chatting online?
>>10867297Anybody can get that for free.
>>10867321not ugly autists.
>>10867236It's as creepy as you think it is. The easiest way to avoid that would be going for it as soon as the idea comes to mind>German texthmmm
i gotta lose 40 lb by next week or im toast
>>10867651My uncle did that when he lost his foot to diabeetus. Good luck!
>>10867614So next time, I should offer them a pocky?>German textIt was a con in tyrolLoriCon to be exactly
i fist u jajajajajaq
>>10867296>WHAMI [We have all made it]Not meStill haven't found a gf...
>Check thread on front page>No new posts for days / weeks>Check archived version>See thisLiterally what did they mean by this? It happens to almost thread that's about to archive too>>10867697>So next time, I should offer them a pocky?In a word, yes.>>10867699I'm speaking from the perspective of the future's past tense. So instead of saying "I will have a girlfriend", it's "I already have a girlfriend." The ultimate fake it till you make it, which does work
>>10867075Wtf is Lolita Christmas Carol?
>>10867075I am wracked with anxiety. I must go to the dentist or lose a tooth. Talking on the phone fills me with dread. Talking on the phone while others hear me fills me with dread. Going out fills me with dread. Going out and taking the subway fills me with dread. I must call the dentist while others are around and then go out and take the subway. Anxiety is making the simplest things impossible.
>>10867075
I managed to finally call the dentist and book an appointment. Now I am crying. I don't feel release. Instead I feel more trapped than before.
>currently starring at a picture of the one girl, which got the bikini I won last conI know, I'm desperate...And creepy...>>10868125I can read, and this sign still wouldn't stop
>>10868203>stop*me
>At con yesterday >Expect something lowkey>Got roped into the after party>Remember walking into the bathroom at ~10:30>Suddenly it's like 1>Wonder if I passed out>This morning I check YouTube Music history and get pic relatedThis was the cutoff point where it got dark, and there's like 40 others in there. And since I didn't know anybody there, I can't ask what I missed. Sad!
>>10867703Based fellow manifester
>>10867075My friend has stopped bringing her older brother because the whole comm turns into down bad little thotties. He's not even that hot, the comm is just full of thots.
>>10868863It's for the best, opposite genders only cause discourse in gender specific comms anyway.
I fear that my lolita friend may be done with me. I really don't want this to happen.
>>10867144I'm 34 and I get drunk and dance with cuties. I've had sex 3 times at a con with girls 8+ years younger
Today was embarrassing. I lost my favorite Angelic Pretty bracelet, showed up late to the movies, and was having trouble trying to find my movie ticket when the staff just got annoyed and let me in. After the movies were finished, I wanted to have someone help me take photos by the Barbie sign, only to have the comm get kicked out of the mall for no reason by security. They were making a big fuss that we were causing a disturbance. After that, I went home and just won a bid for an angelic, pretty pony bag. My week was sure like hell, but I'm happy to check off one of my dream bags for the longest time.
>>10868863>"not even that hot">reasonably attractive>older brother vibes>good relationship with a woman nobody suspects him to be dating, likely not a creep in front of his family, likely respectful and polite>strike up convo with his sister easily while checking him out, approachableIdk him, but I'd go after him too
>>10869551What makes you say that?
Recently, I finally reached a BMI that was no longer overweight, and even though I was still visibly fat, it felt great to have reached this milestone, and that I was making progress.But then I took a few days of eating freely, and now I've gotten multiple kgs fatter and am back well into overweight range. This sucks, I just hope it isn't too bad, please don't be more than one kg of real reversed progress, even though that'd also suck with the slow pace I've been going at.I also have a lot of food that's about to spoil so it'd be hard to do a no eating for two days thing, and even that wouldn't be close to enough to compensate for my awful few days lately, it'd have to be a week almost.
>>10867075I've been cosplaying since 15 (so 10 years) and I stopped taking pictures after my first con when I showed my mom my cosplay pictures and she sent it to her siblings, who sat me down to say that I looked disgusting and stupid. I still went over the years but never tried as hard and felt really insecure/never posted anything online due to fear.I dulled my interest in it, and it got me nowhere. I don't even have an excuse for not making many friends through conventions since I've been going for so long. I just wish I had more pictures/let my younger self have more fun. I didn't even look that bad in my first cosplay.
>>10870031you should be more careful about posting such easily traceable information about yourself anon
>Finally go ahead give virginity to someone after holding on to it for a while>Eventually find out this woman is a Redditor after I friend zone her>Been grieving for months wishing I was a virgin again because I feel defiled and wish I didn't betray God
>>10870247It might help to not think of virginity as something you give away to someone. Instead think of it as having your first sexual experience with someone, that's much more neutral. You haven't lost anything, you've gained a new experience. And if you feel regret about having that experience with someone you wish you hadn't done it with, I'm sure a lot of us can relate.
>>10870247>reddit muttThere's no physiological way in which you've changed after laying down with that gutter trash dog of a woman you laid with.There's no male virginity, only females can truly be virgins.
>>10870330virginity is no more than simply a first (consensual) sexual encounter. Any other definition of virginity is nonsense and probably related to purity culture which has huge double standards.
>>10870247I want to believe someone is actually upset about giving their virginity to a Redditor
>>10870247That's what you get for fucking a random who instead of someone you're with in a stable relationship. God is punishing you for your whorish ways.
>>10867079>she'll let me hide under the bed or in the closet when she hooks up with the guys she meets?I don't think it'll go that far, at most you'll get a heartfelt thanks on her Twitch channel's chat, IF she's a streamer. Just find a cosplayer and start giving her money.
>>10867144Same situation here. I'm a high functioning autistic. It's possible that you're autistic too given this difficulty you feel when it comes to socializing.
>>10869631basado
>>10867193We're very much real but we're mostly almost shut-ins who only leave the house to buy groceries or go to a doctor's appointment, or maybe family gatherings.
>>10867193Sis, US and Canada number 1 male fetish is cuckoldry/being paypigs.But you wouldn't want anything to do with him because he's very likely ugly as sin and you would rather be by yourself forever than to even be remotely associated to males of his looks.
>>10867193These people are real and I strongly recommend them as roommates you will not care if they take pics of your feet
>>10870444>I want a cosplay roommate that I can take creeper shots ofJust say it anon
>>10870419It happened and I cried about it. >>10870426I tried for a real relationship. I knew her a month before we fornicated. I think I let my guard down because I liked the idea of making someone happy and got used for sex.
>>10870480>I tried for a real relationship. I knew her a month before we fornicated. I think I let my guard down because I liked the idea of making someone happy and got used for sex.Well, in this case I'm sorry it happened to you.
>>10870197Maybe the lack of photos uploaded online, in the long term, might be not bad...But the fear of appearing cringe is always overrated the preoccupation. Ah... Why is it always after the fact that we realize that it is stupid to be afraid to look stupid?Anyways I bet plenty of people at that convention thought you looked fine. Have less heed for the comments of the always negative.
>>10870082She may be too busy, or have realized I'm a bothersome person, or both.
>see cute jfash socks on aliexpress >reviews are from daddy doms about their "little princesses"i want to die
>>10871546It would be nice if all those people spontaneously combusted.
I hate it when people say theyre on a "no buy", especially when that just means theyre not spending money on lolita for maybe two weeks. Like what even is the point. It really makes them look addicted to shopping when they have to put a "ban" on them buying stuff for a short amount of time and cant even adhere to it.
>>10869631This. Nonnies, this is the way. Men hit the wall at 26, don't even bother with weird porn addicted scrotes after 30. I'm 37 and still get mistaken for 24-25 and only hook up with guys 18-24. They're usually nervous and submissive and they're always more respectful than bitter 30+ balding moids.Part confession is I'm chatting up a genshit cosplayer half my age and I'm going as his Lisa next con. Genshin sucks dick but it's got so many different characters that are cute to cosplay.
>>10871642How do you feel about men under 18?
>>10871642do you think it's cool to use the red pill terminology against men? "the wall" is nonsense, everyone ages differently and at a different pace and looking older doesn't mean you won't get any attention from the opposite sex either. There's also nothing cool about dating people significantly younger than you.>>10871650>men under 18Boys, the word you're looking for is boys. A 37yo (doesn't matter if male or female) has no business dating or having sex with minors.
>>10871642>I'm 37 and need to date immature men with no careersfify
>>10871663>>10871642>everyone ages differentlywhat is this cope?
>>10870430>I’m a high functioning autisticonly a newfag npc would post something so cringe
>>10871696Yes, everyone ages at their own pace and in different ways. If someone smokes and gets a lot of sun exposure without sun screen they're probably going to age differently from someone who doesn't do those things. Genetics also play a part in how easily wrinkles are formed and volume is lost in the face (these are two signs of aging in the face).How is this news? How is this cope? If the wall was real then at least there would be some peace for women who don't appreciate the attention they get from men. But since it's not real women don't get that peace. My colleague is 53 and still gets plenty of unwanted attention from men, she's no real beauty either. My mother is 60 and still gets unwanted male attention. The wall is a concept that red pill men made up to make themselves feel better (aka cope) and to justify predatory dating strategies. Some guys say the wall is at 25 for women, I'm over that so I ask you where is the peace I was promised?
>>10871642this is as creepy and weird when women do it as it is when men do it. using cosplay to troll cons for barely legal boys? disgusting
>go to con as a relatively obscure character>get a dozen photo ops just because I'm the only person not in demon slayer clothes>try finding myself on social media afterwards>nothingIs this what /ic/ feels when nobody retweets their art?
I hooked up with a girl I met at otakon last night. I don't remember her name. She has a boyfriend back home (not open). When I woke up she was gone and it's kinda sad. Would have been nice to say goodbye
>>10871724>When I woke up she was goneYeah, that's how dreaming works.
>>10871713they only took photos for fap material
Go on cgl for the first time in 5 years >finds one of the cute girls i’ve been admiring from my local comm in the ita thread. >creeped out by the sexist ads promoting AI services to remove women’s clothing from photos. >absolutely nothing of value or interesting conversations happening. >they’ve added the worlds most aggravating captchas. Welp that was fun, see you again in 5 years.
I didn't post to make anyone mad, damn.>>10871650>Men under 18Boys? You mean boys? I'm not a pedo so I'm not into boys, but young men are fantastic. I mean, sure, I thought younger boys were cute when I was also underaged and my first boyfriend was a couple of years younger than me.>>10871663The wall is actually real for men. Men peak hormonally earlier than women and test ages you faster. That works for some of them because people like the silver fox look, but I'm not interested. >There's also nothing cool about dating people significantly younger than youI fuck younger men because they're hot, not because it's cool lol. Again, they usually think I'm their age until I speak up about it, so it's their choice to keep seeing me. Sorry if that makes you upset. I know certain races age differently, so that might be why. I'm not really bothered, I think 98% of women age way better than men do.>>10871691>>10871711This is why modern women stay losing, dating violent men who disrespect you and don't know how to act won't make you feel loved. Dating younger men is great because they're easier to guide into being respectable, decent men and usually aren't as deep into porn addiction and violent pornography. If you can find a man who's either sheltered or Christian you don't have to date younger.Trying to compare me to an old creep who can't get laid otherwise is laughable. If men my age weren't burn outs obsessed with porn and bdsm and had hobbies outside of complaining, Reddit, and jacking off, maybe I'd date down but there's no reason otherwise. I've kept myself in shape for years and it shows, so I get what I deserve. It's really not that big of a deal. And I was going to cons long before, they're on my turf if anything.
>>10871824>I fuck younger men because they're hot, not because it's cool lolYou are bragging though, so you think that makes you cool. You derive validation from being able to get with younger men. There's nothing special about getting sexual interest from men. Kids do, corpses do, inanimate objects do. Women also don't age out of getting male attention.I hate misogynists as much as the next woman but your "younger men are easier to guide into being respectable" mindset is as gross as middle aged men who want to date 18yos because they think they're easier to shape into submissive doormats who won't recognize sexual, physical and emotional abuse. You think it's empowering and cool to stoop down to their level. The fact that your cut off is 18 tells me you'd go lower if it was legal.
>>10871824>>1087184616 is legal in many states, just sayin'
>>10871858legal doesn't mean moral. 37 with 16 or 18 is gross and wrong imo.
>>10871846this, 100%. any one pushing 40 going after barely-legal hookups is probably pathetic with a terrible personality and can't get someone their own age, or an intentional predator. considering she describes the process as "they're young so i can manipulate i mean mold them to my exact beliefs and specifications", ive got the taste of predator in my mouth. this is borderline grooming and i wouldn't be shocked if she eventually escalated to 16-17 y olds.
>>10871846>You are bragging though, so you think that makes you cool.Are you lost?>Confession thread>Posts confessionYou sound extremely insecure. Calm down.>You derive validation from being able to get with younger men.Yeah okay, you really are insecure or mentally ill. So many weird assumptions. Does someone eat at a high rated restaurant for validation, or because they want good food? The fuck is wrong with your brain?>There's nothing special about getting sexual interest from men. Kids do, corpses do, inanimate objects do. Women also don't age out of getting male attention.Are you a lesbian or something? Are you incapable of realizing that I have type I enjoy and that I seek out. What the fuck are you talking about, girl, I just like dating cute men.>I hate misogynists as much as the next woman but your "younger men are easier to guide into being respectable" mindset is as gross as middle aged men who want to date 18yos because they think they're easier to shape into submissive doormats who won't recognize sexual, physical and emotional abuse.If you think these are the same, you have brain rot. Get offline and interact with real people. >You think it's empowering and cool to stoop down to their level. The fact that your cut off is 18 tells me you'd go lower if it was legal.Curious how you ignored that I said Christian and sheltered men are also good. You want me to be a pedo so bad lol you cannot fathom a reality where someone's not doing anything wrong so you need to fabricate an imaginary tale to justify it. But okay, sweetie, whatever you say. You're going to go with whatever fantasy in your head makes you feel better. I'll be going to cons with grown ass men and having a good time regardless.>>10871858They're legal for Romeo and Juliet laws, I assume. Regardless, I don't have any reason or desire to interact with a high schooler so no lol.
>want to go to con>bf doesnt want me to go alone>he hates crowds and existing in public, even grocery stores are too much>have no other friendsso i either dont go, go with him and deal with his inevitable panic/anger episodes in the convention center, or go by myself and come home to a panic/anger episode where he accuses me of cheating at the con because he has coomer brain. wat do
>>10871918dha
>>10871918dump him he sounds like he isn't worth your time
>>10871918You know many girls would love their bf to be around when encountering con creepsI dont think going alone as a girl is a good idea
>>10871918He sounds like a Bud Light enjoyer.
>>10871916>I have a type I enjoy and that I seek outAnd that type happens to be 18~24 whilst you are 37. There's no justification for that. You are no different from a 37yo man who seeks out 18~24 yos, who says he does it because he has a type or that they're just cuter, but in reality he does it because they're easier to mold (just like you said you prefer to be able to "guide them" into the people you want them to become). If you think you are a good person you are delusional.>>10871918break up with him. There's no reason you need to endure someone's anger episodes. Go to the con alone and enjoy it.
>>10871918He sounds defective, you deserve better.
>>10871918Don't take this the wrong way, hon, but it sounds like you already know he's got issues. Why are you still staying with him, if you don't mind me asking? I can say break up with him and go anyway but there's probably a reason you haven't done it already. Are you scared? Or worried of how he'll react? Regardless, don't let someone like that limit you from what you want to experience in life. If he can't respect your boundaries now, he won't respect them later. And these types don't get better.>>10871930>Can't respond to anything I've actually said except your made up delusions of my intentions because you can't handle that you can dislike something without having a moral crusade behind itWhich are you from, Twitter TikTok or Reddit? Either way, if you're going to parrot the same boring comment over and over don't bother. I'll enjoy my genshin cosplay day, and you and enjoy whatever it is you do.
>>10871918This isn't acceptable. Agreed with the people who say to dump him. Dump him, and go to the con. Maybe you'll make some friends there too.It isn't even just him being anxious, he's even directly attacking you by being angry and accusing you of cheating. If he'd recognized that this was his problem to deal with, and encouraged you to go despite knowing he'd be panicking at home, that'd be one thing, but he's taking it out on you and limiting and hurting you. That's unacceptable.
>>10871944nothing you said after "they're easier to guide into what I want them to be" matters. You're not getting out of that hole that you dug. You already told on yourself.
>>10871919>>10871920>>10871940>>10871944>>10871948but anons i love him and also he has my soul essence trapped in a cursed amulet so that i can never leave, or my soul will be fully ripped from my body and i will collapse in a vegetative state :(
>>10871961Well that makes things more difficult.
Someone threw out 2 big boxes full of cosplay parts I'm working on over 150 hours of work lost. I feel dead inside
>>10872022what do you mean 'someone'? Sounds malicious..
>>10867193>>10867263>>10870433>>10870444If only men like that weren't actually real
>>10872032everyone denies it but i think it was my brothers gf. The boxes were too big to throw into the trash they must have been emptied out. it probably wasn't malicious just stupidity
>>10871724Her name was Audrey and she worked a vendor booth at otakon. Would be nice to just say hello
>>10872046Bro, obviously all girlie wanted was to get laid and gtfo. If she wanted to talk to you she wouldn't have left before u even woke up. Shes also a cheater and has a boyfriend back home so she probably really does NOT want to get contacted by you at all.
>>10872046you shouldnt be naming her what if word gets out
>>10871642>Men hit the wall at 26Kek>I'm 37 and still get mistaken for 24-25Unless you're asian I promise they are just saying that.
>16-17 y olds>implying not younger.
>>10871909>this, 100%. any one pushing 40 going after barely-legal hookups is probably pathetic with a terrible personality and can't get someone their own ageTo be fair sub 25 is probably ideal in terms of body. But I do agree that they're making it kind of weird.
>>10871952Lol. Lmfao. Imagine being this dramatic in a seagull confession thread. Touch grass, sister. I'll continue to enjoy my life until I'm old and crotchety.>>10872052Lucky me, I guess. Sorry you're white, anon...
>>10871824>usually aren't as deep into porn addiction and violent pornography.wut? this is untrue, and they're much more likely to cheat, especially since younger generations are more accepting of poly shit. all of you justifications aren't based in reality.
>>10872066I don't know what to tell you about, I'm literally going by my own experience. My "justifications " are literally just what I've come across and my personal opinion. The older men I've dated were all into bdsm and choking and acting out porn and the younger ones are mostly vanilla and lean submissive (normal submissive, as in they like when the woman leads, not bdsm submissive where they wear dresses and want you to peg them). But I don't interact with redditors, D&D players or gendershits so I've never actually seen any poly anything irl. It could very well be I've just attracted shitty older men and decent younger ones by chance. I'm just a random woman on a Mongolian throat singing forum who likes dressing up as a cartoon character on my off days.Won't reply to anymore because I'm clogging the thread but I got my feelings out so thanks gulls.
>>10872075yes, that sounds like a you problem. you're using anecdotal evidence like it's fact, which is why people keep calling you out. you also sound really naive, which is why you think being called young is a compliment when it's likely just lip service to try to sleep with you. you're technically acting as a cougar (which refers to the age gap now, not the woman's age) and you clearly don't understand the statistical factors here.
hate when people at Lace Market only ship within the US. There is this dress that is sitting there for months without any buyer and the seller refuses to sell internationally. I feel like I'll have to resort to buying and sending to a deposit at this point.
>>10872285i don't really understand this, anons will say it's because of customs forms or some shit, but go anywhere other than USPS and the associate will do the customs forms for you.
>>10872285as a seller that does this, its because shipping pretty much anywhere outside the US is like $50 or more. paypal takes a cut of the total amount, so a higher shipping rate means more money taken out in fees. on top of that the customs situation is fairly annoying, and if something goes wrong in transit or there are unexpected customs fees, buyers often raise a stink to the seller as if they're a company. eventually you're left going to twice as much trouble to make less money than if you'd just waited for a domestic seller. also from personal experience: made an exception ONCE. int buyer paid, then ghosted all further contact, including ignoring questions, and didn't even leave feedback. unless it's some special situation like a person buying like, all of my listings at once: literally never again. sorry eurofags.
>>10872321Have you ever experienced issues with domestic buyers? I wonder why so many sellers aren't willing to give any chances to an entire subset of lolitas simply because they've encountered one (literally, in this case) shitty buyer, when that's pretty much expected to happen regardless of the geographical location of the buyer. I've come across a fair share of flaky local buyers, but that obviously won't stop me from selling entirely - I just take precautions and know how to protect myself as a seller now.
>>10872321Whenever buying from international sellers I already expect to pay 60usd+ for shipping, and that was never a problem. So I'm alright if the seller is upfront about taxes and extras related to selling abroad.
>>10872321shitty buyers exist everywhere. i personal have found international buyers to be less flaky because they are willing to shell out more.
>>10867109baby is a shining beacon of light in a dim lolita future. a star shining bright, even
>>10872333i've never had a domestic issue, no. it's more like, between the increased cost, increase in fees meaning my net income from an international sale would be less than the same sale to a domestic buyer, and general inconvenience, having the single time i made an exception be the most hassle i've ever experienced in a sale really put me off. it's not that one buyer ruined the option, so much as i already didn't want to do international shipping and when i tried to make an exception to be nice it bit me in the ass. it's not personal, and i'm really sorry if i ever end up being the guy who has your dream item but won't ship to you, but unless the cost for USA-to-EU shipping goes down or EU buyers are willing to pay some kind of additional fee, it just wouldn't be worth it to me. odd note: i'm actually pretty sure it's cheaper to ship from EU to US than the other way around, is anyone sure why this is?
>>10872294>>10872285>>10872321Filling in forms isn't much of a problem. I have a text document with the HS codes of items I buy pretty often so I only need to copy and paste that bit. I see european sellers refusing to sell to the US too. Some european sellers prefer not to sell to US buyers because of issues they've had with them. 2 lolitas in my local comm had issues with US buyers that attempted to fuck over the sellers by claiming the money back through credit card even though the item already arrived and was as described. I do not know the details on how this works exactly, I don't have a credit card, but this is some kind of fraud. One of the buyers succeeded, the other one failed but it was a lot of hassle for the seller.
>>10872294>>10872285I lost $60 shipping internationally when the dress was returned to me and USPS would not refund the shipping cost despite me paying for full insurance. If someone really wanted an item there are shopping services everywhere
>I am going to my first ever convention>I am manning a booth>it is for video games>I don't especially like video games>I helped develop the game>the demo is unfinished>one of the leaders of creating the game is a crazy person>the convention is this weekend>many, many things can still go wrong between now and Sunday afternoonsWelp. This'll be an experience.
>>10871918Some real reddit tier relationship advice here. He does sound like he has some serious issues but don't listen to the people telling you to dump him. They don't understand anything about your relationship besides these few small details. Still i would recommend sitting him down and explaining to him how important this is to you.
>>10872285I don’t sell small items oversea cause it’s not worth the effort to quote and then they back out due to price for shipping. Open to shipping main pieces only.
>>10872430"have you talked to him about it?/he just doesn't understand/ just tell him how it affects you/just explain it to him" is very common and very bad advice for situations such as these. Assuming he's an adult he knows that his behavior affects her negatively. He knows, he's aware. Let's not assume he's intellectually disabled, okay.
>>10872491this is wrong. asking and opening a direct dialog about it will only help. it may not solve the issue but it will illustrate incompatibilities with them as a couple. many people would be totally fine with someone like anon's boyfriend while anon clearly isn't. you sound like you've never been in a relationship before.
>>10872430>They don't understand anything about your relationship besides these few small detailsThis is a site where morons will claim to know your entire life story from birth till death, every thought, every feeling every intention, based on one sentence. You should've expected that. It's not something I like or even accept, but it's also never going away. (The real tough part is meeting some of them in person and realizing for many, it's not an act either)
>>10872491>Assuming he's an adult he knows that his behavior affects her negativelySounds like you haven't been around people much if you genuinely believe the average person is even remotely self-aware, especially someone like him
My go to tearoom is now Star Trek themed. Literally who asked for this?
I hate seeing dream items of mine being stretched out by people who are far too large for them, especially items by brands that haven't existed for years.
>>10872502Why assume she hasn't talked to him about it? It's sad that she even has to in the first place, he needs to be self aware enough to understand his actions impact others. Bare minimum.This whole idea of "just tell him, have you talked to him about it? Maybe he just doesn't understand yet" is incredibly sexist because it paints men as complete retards who need instructions for anything and everything. You have two choices, either he's a complete retard, in which case he shouldn't be dating anyone, or he does know that his actions affect others and hasn't felt the need to stop directing his "anger episodes" and accusations of cheating (this is both abusive behavior) towards her in which case he's malicious and shouldn't be dating anyone. If he wanted to stop he would have.Everyone should expect the bare minimum from their partner. Grow the fuck up.>>10872537those people are undatable. I surround myself with people who are capable of self awareness, I consider it the bare minimum for any type of relationship.
>>10872554Why do I now think someone stretched something from Cornet?
>>10872553me
>>10872555>it paints men as complete retards who need instructions for anything and everything>implying this isn't the truthGirls should just date girls, moids are awful.
>>10872558It's Star Trek Discovery, specifically. Does that change your answer?
>>10872573that only makes me more hyped about it
>>10872285I just ask a USA friend to middleman for me in these cases. we usually wait until we have 3+ items to ship either way to save a little money, so it can take a while to get the items over but it's worth it if it's a dream dress or rare piece imo
>>10872555Seems like you got their whole live figured out based on these small few details, Impressive.
>decided to go to a con even tho ive been a hikki for months>last month go to con>waiting in line for badge>girl is staring at me>get badge walk around for 10 minutes sit down>girl has changed into cosplay of the same character I'm cosplaying as >she walks up to me and smiles and tried to start a conversation>panic, stare at the ground and wait until she goed away then leave the con and go home and don't go backI'm retarded. I got really scared because I didn't know wtf that was aboutWas she just trying to be nice to me because im an ugly disgusting troon or was it autism
I let my mom watch my apartment instead of hiring a cat sitter while I was at a con/traveling, save money right?I told her to leave my plants alone, they did not need anything for the week she turned off my growth light for my succulentsto "save electricity"fucking mam how much fucking electricity does an LED GROW LIGHT TAKE NOT VERY MUCH WHAT THE FUCKMany of them have shot up and gotvery leggyShe also decided that the window that they are in should be open, so she moved many of them to do soall three other windows in that room she also opened So I really don't understand why she felt the need to go through all the effort to open this one too she damaged several of my plants further by opening this window, like I have a very old donkey's tailthing has moved with me 3 times is like 7-8 years old is fragile af you look at that thing wrong it looses a leaf ok she decided to move it and I come home and its just draped over another plant thankfully the other plant is an xmas cactus and I could probably throw that out of a moving car and it would be fine butnot only does the donkey's tail have a nice NEW bald spot instead of idk cleaning up the mess of dropped leaves she just fucking moved the plant over them lolI also made sure to leave out exactly what the cat needed, like counted out the cans and left detailed feeding instructions b/c open a can of cat food and put a scoop of dry in the bowl would be too much for this woman and I knew itthere were several cans of wet food left in the pile
>>10872555anon didn't say anything like what you're claiming. you need to sit down.
>>10872643I'm not fucking done I'm sorry lol the boomer fucking goes "He did poorly on his wet food it made him throw up"She never mentioned this any of the times I asked her how the cat was, I asked her every single day there has been no change in his food, he ate it just fine when I got back tooTurns out, there was an ant problem while I was away. This is not a huge surprise this is an old building and I have cat safe options to deal with it on hand if she had asked but she did not.Instead, she went and got some ant killer and had at it.ant killer, over where my cat eats and drinks and then kept feeding him there and no it had to be his wet food making him throw up so she just stopped feeding him a major source of water in a heatwave. I have talked to his vet an I'm monitoring him and he seems to be doing fine now at least but jesus what the fuck In addition, she opened all the fucking windows in this place instead of using the air conditioning in this heat wave She also turned off all my air purifiers. "I opened them up and they had so much dust and cat hair on the filter that can't be good for you"I have bad allergiesThere is pollen over EVERYTHING I own.I also came home with covid so I have just been slowly finding new shit to deal with and I am just so fucking done with it all she will be lucky if she is ever let in my apartment again let alone allowed to watch it
>>10872646this is why you hire people. they are more inclined to follow rules because they're being paid.
>>10872646I hate boomers so god damn much. Hope your kitty is OK anon.
>Con downseason is here>Nothing good anywhere for like three monthsTime to descend into insanity again, and I say that with no tinge of irony at all
>>10872646you should let him roam outside with his cat homies next time you’re out of town. they’ll take care of him
>>10872425Day One wasn't so bad
City living means I can afford all the lolita I want. City living also means that I do not have enough room space for all the lolita.
>>10873410Isn't rent cheaper outside of the city?
>>10873416not op but i moved from a 25k population town to the suburb of a huge metro and my rent only increased $100. prices looked the same in the actual city but i dont want to smell fentanyl piss every day. plus i have more options for cheap groceries and stuff now. in the US even small towns have rent for a shitty 1 bedroom starting at $1200 nowadays
>>10869551>>10871068She has deleted me as a friend. It's over. I still have some stuff that belongs to her that I need to give back, but after that...She was the best friend that I've ever had. I always knew that she didn't care much about me, but she still did so much for me, and I always feared when this would happen.
>>10867075Some thottie from the con called me a "senior" bitch I'm 8 years younger than your boyfriend.
>>10872057>untilYou're already old and post-wall coping lmao.
>>10872646Just go to a cat hotel next time. Cat hotels usually have 2-tier "apartment style" housing wish fish-tanks, and the staff take time to physically pet and play with each cat twice a day. We used a cat hotel for my oriental shorthair growing up and he was never salty/cranky about us leaving when we got home since he got plenty of human contact and playtime at the hotel.
>>10873455This is true. If you're in the US good luck getting approved for anything if you make under 45k
>>10873587No one here thinks your repeated posting of fictional scenarios is funny, so do what your picture tells you and stop posting.
>>10873598seconding pet hotels-- my cats usually do fine with autodispensers but pet hotels managed to cure my dogs separation anxiety issues.
>>10873632I thought it was funny.
A petticoat from Aurora & Ariel will cost me close to 100 USD. It's infuriating how difficult it is to buy from China, and how much I'm forced to overpay for this.
>>10873959The fuck which one? Their 12m petti cost me $36 on aliexpress
>>10873972Maybe I'm exaggerating slightly. One of my big problems is that I need to get a custom waist size. I was looking at the ones on Aliexpress, and I even asked them if they could give a custom waist, and it sounded like they said yes, but then I said more things and then it just got confusing and I'm unsure if they can do it after all. So now I'm thinking about doing it through a site called 42lolita, it seems a bit easier there although I'm unsure if they want me to contact them first or if I order first, and if I need them to respond before I order. And they're also asking about hip size, but it's only waist size that should be a problem I think!Admittedly, a lot of the cost is from taxes. If I could order through Aliexpress, it'd just be a flat 25% tax, but when I have to order through 42lolita, the taxes are 36% and additionally I also need to pay a fee of hopefully only $14, and 42lolita also has slightly more expensive shipping. It really adds up.I wish things were as easy as ordering from Japan. I'm completely banned from Taobao too and I can't for the life of me find a way around it so browsing is almost impossible.
>>10873992you compared to melikestea or classicalpuppets? depending on the poof level you may just be stuck with a $100 price point or waiting for a restock somewhere else.
>>10874010A 12m was what I was looking at. Thank you for the suggestions, but I think I'll just message 42lolita before I pay them any money, and then buy if it seems okay.This has taken too long already, I can't let it last much longer before I get around to buying.
>>10867075A girl in our comm is getting a colonoscopy and the treasurer thinks we should all pay her a surprise visit in our coords. I don't agree but Idk. It's tomorrow night.
>>10874920i think if i was getting a camera shoved up my ass and all my friends showed up in full lolita id kms
>>10874920i want to believe this is true so badly because it's so hilarious. why the fuck would anyone think this is a good idea?
>>10871824You sound bitter. Hope you get better soon.
>>10871918>go with him and deal with his inevitable panic/anger episodes in the convention center, or go by myself and come home to a panic/anger episode where he accuses me of cheating at the con because he has coomer brainTry growing a spine and leaving him?
>>10874939>>10874957We didn't go after a girl's brother told us that his uncle had a colonoscopy once. He was shidding and farding all over the place for hours while he was in recovery. Didn't sound like a good visit.
I'm so tired anons. My health has been declining, my mental health is completely gone. I gotten so sick, can't move which made me gain so much weight and trying to get it off has been so difficult. Wearing Lolita and jfashion has been so hard. Nothing fits right, nothing looks right but I love the fashions too much and it is the only thing keeping me going.My boyfriend hardly talks to me, they are on a self improvement journey so they needed time alone to focus but literally have left me in the dark for 3 months now and only says good morning to me.My friends hardly talk to me or check up on me. I lost my furry friend to old age, the last companion keeping me sane and stable.I have been considering on just drinking my life away until I am finally gone. I'm about to hit 30 in the next 4 years and nothing has been going right the last 2 years even when I'm trying to better myself. It just all feels like I'm just sinking deeper and deeper into the abyss.I just needed a place to vent on how I am feeling. I hope things will turn better soon.
>>10872639>was it autismIf you really want an honest answer.[spoiler]__________________Yes____________________________[/spoiler].That said [spoiler]How do you know they weren't an autistic guy too[/spoiler]
>>10875281now imagining someone shitting and crying while a group of lolitas stand around her smiling and clapping
>>10874920>>10875281you have to give her some healing time before your comm mom does butthole inspection, it's only fair
I have a much older japanese girlfriend who isn't into anime other than what she grew up with. Her friends asked me if I wanted to go to Comiket Winter with them and cosplay, but I'm not so sure. It would be with her coworkers and it would be a pretty big social obligation for her to come. Other than them, I have no one I know who would cosplay. I'm not sure if not having a group works like it does in America. I just want to dress up again and talk anime.>>10871642What compels a 37 year old to take crystal<dot>cafe as a personality?
>>10871642You do you anon, fuck the haters
>>10875805I gave my bussy a colonoscopy and didn't give it time to heal before I kicked it out. i don't want those nasty semen farts in my room.
I've been going to a local convention for 10 years and I'm still a virginI literally do not have any other opportunities to talk to women because I don't drive or work but I just get so fucking scared all I can do is ask people for pictures and then leaveI don't know what to doI hate leaving my house for 3 afternoons a year and just seeing all these women I can't even talk to
>>10875940>unemployed>can't drive/no car>thinks conventions are a good place to meet women lemme stop you there. what you need to do is get a job. get in shape (lift, jog, whatever), build your confidence. while building confidence, try to pretend you have some in the meantime (not kidding, hyping yourself up as a bit or faking self esteem are both good paths to the real thing). use job to practice making normal small talk with strangers. use money from to obtain car. get at least one normal hobby-- it can be tangentially related to weeb shit (ie, photography, art, some kind of craft) but you need to be able to talk about at least one topic that isn't weeb shit. bonus points if it's something you can show off to others (more self confidence boosts, conversation starter). this seems nitpicky but is crucial-- having a normal interest indicates some level of mental stability (and keep this in mind when meeting people).accomplish that, and assuming you haven't already stumbled into some friends or a female companion by then, you are now primed to actually successfully socialise at a con. you will now have experience speaking to strangers without being creepy or weird, you will be confident, in shape, employed, and apparently mentally stable which will attract others to you like flies. if you chose a hobby that's con friendly, you can use that to initiate conversation. having a car, you'll be able to easily participate in post con activities, or possibly make friends through carpooling. the setup involved can be tedious but all of this is attainable and realistic. set your goals and pursue them. become your best self and then enjoy the rest of your life on easy mode.
>>10875949well I'm stuck at step one, because I can't get a job without a car or license, and I have too much anxiety to make myself get over my fear to go out and get itand even then it's the same thing with actually getting a job, I'm completely clueless and afraidI've been sheltered by enabling parents my whole life and they're too detached from me to be any help even though I'm dependent on themmy dad is literally almost 70 and still working physical labor 6 days a week 10+ hours a day because he's too poor to retire or pay the bills otherwise through his own fucking stupidity
>>10875952You're calling your own elderly, hardworking father stupid while he takes care of your entitled, manchild ass? You do not deserve a fuckimg girlfriend, you pathetic loser faggot. Your poor fucking father, God bless him.
>>10875952>wah i'm a young man with the entire world out there and my stupid old dad who labors to pay for my wifi and tendies is holding me back
>>10875952So don't be like your parents anonI decided a long time ago to be the opposite of my parents and it paid off well
>>10875952Sucking on the tit of your elderly father and you have the nerve to call him stupid? He's too poor to retire because he still has to provide for a literal manchild. YOU should be caring for HIM. You should be ashamed of yourself.
>>10875988Meh, op has issues but I feel him on thisIt's tough seeing parents make bad decisions repeatedly, I guess it's hard to explain
>>10875996All his problems are his own fault and the "bad decisions" his parents made could be because they have a shitty worthless ungrateful child.
>>10876008Who raised him though
>>108760124chan
>>10875969considering he's so stupid (by his own repeated admission no less) that he can barely provide for himself and never had a plan for his future because he constantly wasted his money and made every terrible decision he could have made over and over again, which has completely fucked me over? yes, he is stupidmy poor innocent, father, who only stopped beating me and yelling at me trying to force me to do what he wants because I actually fought back one dayshut the fuck up you retard, you don't know anything about my suffering
>>10876016you should kys asap
>>10876016advice anon again.then get a job (walk. bike. take the bus. carpool. you aren't helpless) and move out if you hate him so much. you're not a child anymore. you are responsible for your life. if living with your parents is "suffering" then leave. every excuse you've listed is something that can be overcome if you want it bad enough, but you have to take responsibility for your own happiness. contrary to what anime has told you, no one besides your therapist is going to want to hear about or care about your daddy issues at length. there's a limited capacity for pity, especially if you're using the situation as an excuse for why you can't improve your life instead of motivation for why you should. pity parties suck and people won't feel sorry for you if you aren't putting in your fair share of effort to escape. tldr: stop blaming your dad and his choices for your shitty life. if you think he's stupid, be better than him and stop living at home unemployed carless no bitches whining on 4chan instead of fixing your own shit. your attitude is the only thing standing between you and success.
>>10871824>Men peak hormonally earlier than women and test ages you fasterYou can lie to yourself, you can lie to other women, but you can't lie to Mother Nature.
>>10876114>“Little is known about the specific changes that occur with aging in humans,” said Michel Ben Ezra, a researcher at the University of Copenhagen, who is the author of the Danish study.>Pablo Burraco, the author of the Spanish study, which also involved the University of Glasgow, agrees. “They say that if someone thinks they understand aging, it’s because they don’t know">Despite the large sample size, the data set is one of the limitations of the study. All the reports are from individuals who underwent an examination for some pathology. “The biopsies were only taken when the participants sought medical attention. Male aging may therefore appear to begin later, as men tend to seek medical help when their symptoms are more advanced than their female counterparts">The Danish study also points out that not all tissues age in the same wayInteresting
>>10876114haha! eat shit old roasties!
>>10876114pedophile cope
>>10876131lardass cope
>>10876132i date people my own age because i'm not fat and retarded enough to have to resort to manipulating children. nice projection tho
>The Danish study also points out that not all tissues age in the same wayNo shit, some organs break down faster than others. A corpsedoesn't decay all at once.>>10876131Being a creature of emotion instead of logic, the woman will throw insults at you without caring if they are in context or not. To her what matters that she has been hurt and must hurt back. It works among women because it doesn't register to eachother that the insults make no sense. But to the onlooking men it is clear the woman is being illogical and as such judge her an idiot.
>>10875940>>10875952>>10876016Hey anon. I'm in a similar situation. I can't drive, I don't have a job, I never went to college, my aging parents pay for my lifestyle, but don't realize that what I really need is help with a few simple things to kickstart my recovery, and I'm mentally ill. I've had crippling OCD my whole life. Because of my compulsions some normal things I can mostly manage, and other I cannont. Many days I can barely get my self water or eat. Hell some days I don't. I can barely sleep because I wake up as soon as I hear anyone disturb the acoustics in my room out of paranoia, and have to keep part of my brain awake at all times to do my OCD compulsions.Thought regulation, to unthink bad things, twice or four times, then burn them out, then block out the nonexistant thoughts, then clear my mind. If I fail to do this I wake up in a state of dissociation I cannot tell the difference between anything except for anxiety. Things like the concept of "Up" or a sound, or emotion, or a thought are all indistinguishable to me. Because of this I cannot tell which thoughts to block and end up have seizure like convulsions for several minutes. with the ever present back ground sensation of absolute anxiety.
>>10876233If I fuck up at all I have to undo the fuck up, then undo the correct actions, (several times (some exponent of two)), and redo correct action at least twice or a greater exponent again. This, and my fuck ups can become recursive, and can continue until I'm on the ground crying till I pass out, or injured from also doing some physical compulsion that hurts me. For example: I used to hit my head alot and I think it might have torn my vision or given me mild brain damage. I'm not allow to learn many things, or if I do I have to forget them later since those memories are contaminated.I can feel my thoughts and emotions as physical tactile sensations. Like strings I can manipulate but are very unwieldly and difficult to control. I can move them around, or even push them outside of my body to reduce the impact, and compared to my OCD thoughts, normal ones, or even physical pain are/is much easier to control.Dispite this recently I have been trying harder to work on these things, after waiting for help for years I have finally decided that the only way to make things happen is to try to do something, even if it worries me greatly. In short I think >>10875949 's advice really was good advice.
>>10871824>98% of women age way better than men do.
I lost motivation to workout and now I'm fat.
>>10876271how'd that happen? you'd get skinny if you lost motivation because eating takes time money and effort
>>10876274Eating feels good. The stuff I was working out for didn't feel worth it anymore
>>10876271>>10876278Find workouts that you actually like doing instead of forcing yourself to do stuff you dont likeFind food that is good for you that you also like eating instead of junk food. Learn how to cook new interesting recipes to make you enjoy eating healthy food again.
>>10867075>worldcosplay now deletes accounts inactive for 5 years>so much content lostGay.
>>10876233>>10876235I'm pretty sure I have mild OCD, and that alone is exhausting. This sounds like hell on par with advanced schizophrenia.
>make a comment forever ago that pisses off insecure anons>forget and leave thread, hardly reply to anything because who cares>Anons still quoting and crying about it weeks laterKind of weird, anons. I went to the beach and did couple cosplay in the time you were replying to me. Feel: went to the beach this weekend without realizing how hot it was. Got awful tanlines but at least I finished my cosplay in time for some good photos. Now I'll have to go hard on lightening lotions for a while.>>10876771That's so depressing, losing cosplay history. I feel like a lot of the "old world" of cosplay is dying. Not nearly as many cosplayers make their own costumes or just have fun. Cons feel like population contests now, no one feels as approachable. Everything is more crowded and there's more panels, booths, events, but most of them feel like advanced marketing rather than the creators of a series having fun with fans. It's a long time coming, but I'll miss it. Losing interest in cons in general now.
>>10877020I was recently thinking about how entrants in cosplay competitions used to enter under their own name, but now they use a cosplay name, I guess to build a brand. I think think this is another thing that ties into the change in how cosplay is treated.
If Rement ever creates a blind box for fine art-themed Sumikko Gurashi, they can have my entire bank account
>>10877081from what i've heard, it's because e-stalking is so easy these days that if you do get popular, using your real name is a great way to end up with creepy-ass fans. bonus points with the modern overlap between cosplay and onlyfans-- there's been multiple cases of onlyfans users dealing with fans finding their house.
>>10877020the average cosplayer hasn’t changed, most still do it for fun. Ambitious people in this scene almost always have something wrong with themPanels in the 2000s were just as lame and uncoordinated as they are now
>>10877081This is stupid, the majority of cosplayers have always used nicknames or handles.
>>10877128I bought so many Re-Ment miniatures for my dolls last week. Based miniature enjoyer.>>10877213I enjoyed the lame uncoordinated panels of yesteryear, and they're still my guilty pleasure now. I mostly miss when big panels from brands used to feel like hang outs with the creators and not Crunchyroll sponsored borefests. But the average panel probably hasn't changed; I've just gotten too old and jaded.Most of my old cosplay friends are retired and when I try to make new ones around my age (30ish), they're typically not into it anymore and all I ever see is AliExpress. I'm probably not in the right communities, but with most communities being teenagers or 20-somethings with onlyfans, I'm not sure where "real" cosplayers even congregate anymore.
>>10877020Worst part is it wasn't the first time it's happened. It used to be CureCos but it was bought by and merged with Worldcosplay (I think that's how it went) and if you didn't transfer, you're account doesn't carry over. There was a cosplayer I like who is practically retired now that said they don't like how industrialized cosplay has become instead of being a "for fans by fans" activity and I have to agree.
One more year being gf-less. Sex-less. The mascot of my 501st garrison. So cute, well regarded, the garrison's choice for public speaking. Yet, no gf. Or a single fuck. I'm going out there, I am out there. Yet, nothing happens.I must accept I will be that 40 year old cosplayer that didn't date anyone and will tell stories about 'his time'.
Going to anime cons alone whilst having no friends (in general) suck, I know you can try to make frens there at the con itself but I'm such a sperg I barely know how to socialise in general, plus I tend to get insecure because I think I look absolutely ridiculous in my cosplaySocial anxiety + other assorted mental crap do be a bitch
>Go to a few cons the past few weekends>People make reference to my "friend group" and "people with me">Realize this means I pass as normal to people>I don't really have a friend group because I am picky and don't want to feel unsafe around people>I only have 2 IRL friends at this point.
>>10877523If you're too retarded to make friends even at cons you should probably just give up, it's literally the world's easiest place to make friends
>>10877523iktf anon despite talking to a bunch of people at cons about whatever, it never lasts longer than a few mins before we both walk offfinding someone to add and talk to after the first encounter is tough as shit
>>10871824cope granny you are prehistoric goods and i see no selfpost therefore continue enjoying your larp, pussy is pussy you are just another whore
>>10871824Based, catmoms are absolutely seething rn
>>10867075If this type of thing is common I'm not looking forward to the convention I'm going to anymore At least I'll have some friends around to play games with in the gaming boothI didn't even say I was a cosplayer, I said I would go in one
>>10870247Your once virgin penis is now soaked with redditor vaginal liquid. Time to kill billions....
>>10878070>Seething at a post well over a month oldShowing this post to my new 19 year old fling the next time I fly out for work. We did shitty couple cosplay at the beach between the time it took you to reply to my post. See you at Otakon, faggot. If you even go outside.>>10878097I was a little confused at why "women can have their fun with who they find hot, too" was getting other women riled up. Just stay in excellent shape, eat healthy, and you'll age extremely well. It might be a cultural thing, or they don't feel like they can be attractive after thirty despite the fact that they can. So many women won't even date a man younger than them at all. They'll balk at a 6 year age gap in favor of the woman while their boyfriend is 42 to their 26. It's fucking weird.
>>10878103This guy is just a douche, sorry that happened anon
>get flirtatious attention from a gal at a con (or Halloween) party>immediately second-guess "would she even be attracted to me at all if I didn't have the wig and contacts and makeup and wasn't dressed up as a character she liked?" and assume no>literally no game so can't move from "being friendly" to "being flirty"this has happened more than once (girls giving me their number, a friend of theirs straight up telling me "she's into you") and I'm too stupid to even get to first base. Such is the life of a wizard
>>10878203I mean if you don't get approached normally yoy're ugly so you ain't wrong
>>10878103lmao who pissed in their cereal? you should out them for being an asshole
>>10878203attraction goes deeper than just looks.
>>10878203>a friend of theirs straight up telling me "she's into you")iktf anon how do you even advance from there
>>10878103>ingrediencethis guys sounds like an insufferable faggot
>>10878349>>10878147It's a girl lmao
>>10878203Could be worse. I had sex with escorts and couldn't get it up.I've met a lot of girls since then especially at cons but I don't make advances on them because I know my dick is broken from death gripping for years.
>>10878354women being trash, nothing new
>>10878356Not all of them, just some extremely autistic exception I met another one and she was happy about it and now I got a group
>>10878358I want to believe women can be cool. I really want to...
>>10878203While not *literally me*, this is really close to what I posted in the last thread. Good luck out there, brothers.
>keep buying dresses of the same color because it's my favorite color and I love it>people in my life begin noticing>"anon didn't you already buy this dress last month?">"anon, they all look the same to me...">"anon, why do you wear the same color all the time? I think you'd look good in [insert other color]!"
>>10878621Maybe if you didn’t make such sweeping generalizations, you could easily make friends like congoer anon too.
>>10879018Jokes on you, I actually have friends and i'm well known in my area.I just look and act like if I had mental issues. And I actually do have autism. Not surprising. I'll become a cat dude (as in, the crazy cat lady stereotype).
>looking for some shitty bloomers or cute shorts on amazon>click on the reviews of one>"It fits so well over my diaper!">"makes me feel so comfy as a transgirl"Why
>>10867075>this threadas long as you aren't a weird old gross basement dweller who doesn't know how to socialize and heavy stare-gropes women at cons, no one cares how old you are. It helps if you have friends who also aren't creeps.I go with my partner + brother + friends (all ~early 30s) and its a blast. No one cares, because we are normies. People older than us go for sure; last con there was a master rosh who was ~70s (he's kinda famous local cons, he looks EXACTLY like roshi, which is all about subtleties), and a ~40s rick grimes who looked awesome. The only old people who stood out were the obvious mouthbreathing basement dwellers who were sweating and breathing heavy because they took the escalator. And there were obvious spergs who would sneak-stare at all the women, it wasn't subtle.>>10878203>immediately second-guess "would she even be attracted to me at all if I didn't have the wig and contacts and makeup and wasn't dressed up as a character she liked?" and assume noThe purpose is to hook up while you both look like each other's fantasies.
not really sure why you unfriended me but that's fine i guess.
I hate choosing between lonely or settling for someone predatory.
>>10879517without context all i can do is give this advice: if everywhere you go stinks, be sure to check that it isn't just you.
I'm a little new to this board. Does anybody know what's going on with the posts that bump a thread and then delete themselves?
>>10879547Some do it because they think it's hilarious that the thread is more than one year old and want to see how old they can get the thread, so they delete posts in order to not increase the post count.I do it sometimes if I couldn't force a semi sensible response to something, so my post ends up being nothing except bumping, then there's no reason to have it there.
>>10879001what colour is it? maybe you could switch things up with a different accent colour?
>>10879492it was a personal hygiene issue
>someone bought the accessory I wanted while it was in my cart and I'll probably never find it againPain
>>10879547some posts bump a thread but break board rules, so the posters are then banned or warned and the post deleted.
>>10879570no i think they thought i was catfishing because i'm a hot sperg girl.
>>10879651>i'm a hot sperg girl.You got an amazon wishlist?
>>10879659i do. do you have discord? you can add me. https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/O2HGBLL6Q0RB?ref_=wl_share
>>10879675>size:XL
>>10879676i have G cups. the ones with ties i get small. i have to sew up the waist.
>>10879675What is it?
>>10879676NTA but Chinese XL is like M.
>>10879679i'll add you if you share yours, or i can send it through a throw away email.
>>10879681Okay, What's your email?
>>10879683gatoneb472@chambile.com
>>10879685i sent you a reply
>>10879686samefag but i sent it from my regular email, just want to make sure you don't get confused.
went to a lolita themed convention this wknd and happy that it ended
>have the money and skill now in my life to make fantastic show stopping cosplays>spent the money, all the stuff comes in>sit in my new, expensive work shop all kitted out>unable to find an area to start, or just straight can't bring myself to pick a point to continueWorst feeling is telling myself I have like 7 months till target con but I just blank, or become completely feral level manic crafting for like a week and blank again
>>10878103should have lied and said you made it yourself
>>10879755Was it bad?
>>108774623d girls are overrated anyways
>>10879797Same here anon, are you me?I'm just trying to work on it when I get that energy
A petticoat I >>10873959 ordered ended up being declared as a gift by the seller, so I may end up paying less than half of what I was expecting. Right now I'm excited and hopeful, if I can avoid all these taxes it'll be awesome.
>Thinking about how it's still slow-going for another couple months>Also thinking about all the cons I've missed because they were on the same day as anotherWow, how convenient if only somebody could make use of all this dead space>They're holiday weekends>This time of year isn't as profitableAnd yet, I choose to feel this feel
>>10877726Not them but that would be me. It's been so long since I last made a "friend" at a con and I'm always alone at cons these days, it's been like that for years at this point.I may really have given up, I never make friends anywhere, and I don't even get to have casual interaction with people most of the time.There's no one more retarded than me. Things are never improving.And now I'm too old too. But for years I haven't been very excited about cosplay and cons anyway, I've just kept going because I've got nothing else.My greater interest now is lolita, but I'm too poor, too old, too male, and too retarded for it to be something to actually get into.
>>10879560Navy blue, and yeah, I'm trying some different cuts and accents. Probably still all looks the same to normies however
I have a female friend who's an incredibly gifted and relatively famous cosplayer that's been invited to judge at multiple cons. I'm a guy. She's married. I'm also friends with her husband.She's been mentoring me pretty heavily and regularly makes con and cosplay jokes.How do I get her to set me up with one of her hot friends? Should I just keep upping my cosplay game and let it come naturally?
>>10880533No. All relationships should be arranged. If your parents couldn't set you up, then you must find a friend to do so. Organic Romance is evil and anti-Christian.
>>10880536See that's exactly why I'm asking for the correct sequence of vowels and syllables to get them to set me up!
>>10880537Knell and say the entire rosary in Greek 30 times. Then you say, "Please find me a waifu!"
>>10880539But I'm protestant
>>10880540Who cares?
>>10880539can't even spell kneel
>>10880548EPIC PWNAGE TAEK MY UPBOAT!
It finally happened, I get no joy from wearing lolita anymore. These dumb frilly clothes have become part of my identity over the years and my love for them persisted through my worst bouts of depression, but now this has been taken from me too. Feels like a sign that things have gotten to the point of no return.
>>10880533You could just ask her straight up if you're good friends
There's a small local con going on and I get get any of my friends to go. I guess I'll go solo. Sucks having most of my friends be shut Ins.
>>10880809I've asked female friends I'm not even close with to set me up with their friends. Chicks love being wingmen, even if it's unsuccessful.
>>10878203Just drink more, let the liquor do the thinking for you.
>get into lolita and spend more than I've ever spent at one time before to start building a wardrobe, eating a big hole in my savings.Feels both good and bad at the same time
>>10881072Just get a paypig
>>10881138>just do sex workare you this retarded
>>10881395Being a mistress doesn't make me a sex worker. Every trad heroic man through all of history had kept women and side pieces
Our town is full of perma-ita and I can't even post them in the Ita thread bc they'd immediately know who posted themIt's so infuriating because with aaaaall the information on the fashion on the internet, how do you end up doing it SO FUCKING BAD. One of them is following me on IG as I'm the only one local "real" lolita here, and you'd think that after seeing how lolita fashion is supposed to look like, she'd do better... well she didn't:There was an anime convention very recently and they held a lolita competition. Every single one of them came up with some shit-tier taobao costume and started making cringe ass poses on stage. God I'd die if anyone saw me with any of them
>>10881456Sounds like my comm. I mostly avoid them but a few of them do get consistently posted to Ita threads (not by me) and it causes me so much secondhand embarrassment to know that this is the state of the fashion in my area. Luckily they're most if not all conlitas or only wear it for social media, so I only have to see them and make smalltalk a few times a year. I would probably die of embarrassment being seen at a meet with them in a regular place.
>>10879925i might just give up my dear soup
>>10877462Who do you cosplay? I’m part of the Mandalorian Mercs and considering joining the 501st, back when I was single I used to pull SW cosplay bitches. Especially if you’re wearing decent clothing armor and not just some autistic fool in an Imperial officer cosplay.
>>10881511lol. i have an imp officer. i got my tie pilot and i got a jawa. my local garrison doesn't have many women and they're all married.
>>10881515>Trying to hit on women at troops Shiggy man. Don’t try and hit on women at troops, that’s mistake number one. Cons are for that. Also not to be a dick but imp officer has the easiest CRLs and is kinda scrubby Ngl, also the imp officer outfit isn’t flattering unless you’re super ripped, it either makes you look skelly or obese depending on your body type. Try something a bit more advanced like armor, also try your hand at Mandalorian armor, it’s a hot ticket item rn. Most of the Star Wars cosplay women I ended up hooking up with were just regular cosplayers and not associated with 501st or even the Mercs. 501st is a sausage fest and mercs are too albeit a lesser degree, break free of that and network with other cosplayers at a local con is your best course of action.
>>10881518You think I hit on them? Lmao. No chance. I'm professional. Relax. There's not even opportunities to do so, everyone in my area is dating and I know people can misunderstand things pretty easily. Plus all conventions are more or less the same people here, i'm in a latin american country where it's like that.I'm getting some sketches for a mandalorian armor set, i'll see how it goes. Wanted to do a Tech to fit more with my autist ass, but i've noticed women in general like armor for some reason. Also yeah, the fanclubs are a sausage fest, haha.I've been doing an effort to break more free of them, since I do have other costumes unrelated to star wars, and one costume which isn't approvable, I got it for shits and giggles.I think i'm in the right course of actions, I just gotta be patient.
I posted a photo of an in progress, unfinished coord to a jfashion discord, and I got a lot of praise. Felt pretty good desu even though I've heard /cgl/'s warnings about this loud and clear.
I left lolita about a year ago because my shopping addiction was getting really bad and I was too obsessed and spending outside of my means. Recently I got a new job that pays really well but is really lonely and long hours and I've been considering returning to the fashion just to have something that gives me joy again now that I can afford it again. I miss how happy lolita used to make me. It was my whole life and I haven't felt that passionate about anything since, but I'm not sure if that passion is actually coming back or if I'm just trying to fill a void and recapture the past because this job is making me miserable and taking up almost all of my time. I never sold most of my wardrobe so the other day I tried wearing a coord again and I enjoyed it and felt really cute. Problem is despite having a whole lolita wardrobe right there that I haven't touched in ages, I'm already thinking about what to buy next. Iron gate is seriously tempting me and I can afford it, but I worry that if I let myself buy it it will open the floodgates and I'll go back to my old ways of constantly looking for something to buy all the time again. It feels like a slippery slope. Maybe I just need to set boundaries with myself and not let myself get as obsessed with it as before, I don't even know if that's possible for someone like me.
Got several dream items in a row, feelsgoodman. Could've paid less for all of them, but I've learned the hard way that if you find your DD, you buy it right then and there, or else you might never see it again.
>>10881595>tfw a DD is on the market right now but I spent too much this month and can't afford it
>>10881589don't do it, modern moitie is really terrible quality maybe try enjoying your current wardrobe and try to make new combinations or capsule wardrobes as recreation. you don't have to be constantly expanding your wardrobe to enjoy lolita, especially if you previously had a problem.
>>10881708Trust me, I know modern moitie is shit. It's been probably 5 years since I bought anything new from them even when I was super into the fashion. I think I'm just getting a bit swept up in the hype even though it's still in stock, so I'll wait for one to come up cheaper secondhand or something.Luckily I don't have a great deal of space to obsessively want to grow my wardrobe like I used to, and I don't plan on returning to my comm who were my biggest enablers. I think I'm probably just stressed and looking for something to want. I really need someone to talk me out of things sometimes, so thanks anon. Capsules sound like a fun idea.
>>10867075How fast does pubic hair grow?? Saturday is comm body inspection and I accidentally trimmed mine 5mm too short. Regulation is 15mm, with a grace period of 3mm.For reference, a girl once showed up with 30mm pubes and they made her feed the itas for a month. Another girl showed up with no pubes at all and got banned from using parasols for a year.Bush is 10% of our grade (only upper-arm jiggle counts for more at 13%) so I'm pretty worried!
>>10881751lose weight
>>10881720AYT anytime, i hope you find some joy!
>Current Year + 8>Still not even half of karaoke events have figured out how to get a TV / projector / ANYTHING to face the singerWhy are they like this
>>10881751please kys>>10881759you too
Sending out a "fuck yourself, have a terrible day" to whoever ripped off all the peekers from my car
>>10881528>In a Latin American country Interesting, kinda curious if a lot of Star Wars terms are “lo mismo” in Spanish or if they are different. Lowkey wanna go to a comic con in a Spanish speaking country. I think I know enough to get around, it’s just sometimes nosotros versions of stuff as well as preterite words that kinda throw me off. And yeah man the sooner you can get rolling on that Mando armor the more likely you are to get some attention from the opposite sex
>>10882009Well you know the drill. Notify the local Mercs base and you'll be set up.Goddamn man, why is getting laid so hard? I'm seriously thinking of giving up entirely and accepting I'll be sexless forever.
>>10882107Try coming to a con in America man, literally every costhot on the east coast is dating a mediocre tier Latin dude who has grown his hair out, given that you actually want to cosplay and aren’t just doing it to appease your partner will put you ahead of most
Yes, I got chummy with the trans girl in my comm... Yes, I sucked her dick... But we are JUST FRIENDS.
>want cosplay gf>don’t want to creep out the nice people I meet at conventionssend help, am dumb
>>10882200talk to people casually about their cosplay or merch choices or panels etc and be friendly. approach people (esp people who are by themselves, look like they might be new, etc-- welcoming attitude makes you more approachable) but don't be pushy. relationships often develop naturally when you're friendly with people you share interests with, and the more friends you make, the more new people (and girls!) you'll meet. just play it cool, don't act like you're specifically after a relationship (some women won't pursue you even if they are interested if they feel friendship was never on the table), and actually be cool with women you aren't interested in (takes pressure off, makes women around you feel like you're interested in them as people, and will make you more appealing to women you are interested in), and you'll stumble into a girlfriend before you know it. bonus: sometimes making female friends also has the added benefit of them attempting to wingman you and set you up with their single friends.
God I'm so glad I have a small chest and almost nothing in lolita is too small for me
>>10882200Do you dress in cosplay? If not you should. No dude ever pulled a cosplay gf as a Normie unless he was incredibly handsome and even lucky at that. Work on a cosplay, make it good, you’ll have a base talking point to initiate a conversation for women who cosplay from the same fandom
>>10882410>God I'm so glad I have a small chestSaid no woman ever
>>10882472I genuinely love it though, if they ever get bigger I'll be really sad
>>10882410I'm jealous>>10882472Only scrotes salivate at the idea of women having large breasts and seethe when they choose to get reductions, since they're not the ones who have to deal with the pain and a multitude of other inconveniences it brings
