i’m closet cleaning/partially leaving lolita and plan on giving some of my lolita pieces to my zoomer kid niece. it’s funny because i wore lolita around her for the past 3-4 years and i guess i influenced her to get into the fashion too

I found pic of from my very 1st meet, back when I was a 13 year old wearing my mom's office clothes and a hot topic bow.

It's amazing to see how far I've come a decade later! Like I have a proper wardrobe and everything. I'm glad I stuck with Lolita

>>10757121
I have one of my DDs in my not-desired cut or colorway just because I wanted to see the fabric up close, I told my gf once I get my desired version she can have the one I have now. She doesn't wear lolita but she really liked the print as well which makes me happy

the jannies on this board are absolute garage and worth every penny

My local comm is rife with itas, including multiple gender specials who can't dress themselves for shit. It's so depressing

>>10757121
That's super cute anon.

I always worry that I look like a creep when I ask people to sell their socks separate. I promise I'm not! i wash and wear them! But, I worry anyway.

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I've finally gotten into Lolita fashion after getting to an 18.5 BMI only to discover I have a long torso with a wide ribcage so a lot of brand OPs and JSK bodices end up like baby doll cuts on me despite being 5'4.

Being part neanderthal is suffering.

Being a

>>10757376
Separate from what?

https://youtu.be/M6o1SEj02t0
OH MOTHER, I CAN FEEL THE SOIL OVER MY HEAD. KILL ME PLEASE

>>10757406
separate from a set i'm assuming

>>10757449
Yeah,separate from a set.

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>spend years on /cgl/
>now start noticing how terrible the clothing and make up is in most porn
You assholes.

>>10757558
Good, now stop watching it

Not posting in that thread anymore, because OP is crazy(even though she will probably follow me here and argue since she has nothing better to do) but I hate obvious newfags who think they know anything about older lolita styles. They read something once and then get stroppy at anyone who tries to explain they're misinformed. This is part of the reason so many newbie lolitas have no idea what's going on, the people teaching them also don't. Fashion styles persist because they are unique from other styles. If we keep letting newfags rewrite history to suit their tastes, lolita is going to just become generic jfash, and brands like AP are already veering into that territory, AP looks nothing like other brands anymore. It's just so disheartening.

I have no clue why asexuals bother with life. They're annoying as hell, and are incapable of loving anyone. They can't be happy living like that I'm sure.

I found out recently that 2/3 of my comms leaders/mods are “age regressors” and have social medias for their “agere” so I need to figure out how to split the comm into just the cool ppl so I don’t have to associate w that shit. Feels bad to be the one starting drama but i’d rather die than be at a meet and someone starts googoo gaga-ing.

>>10757803
>and have social medias for their “agere”
I don't understand this. I know their argument as to why they participate in this usually boils down to "I need it to deal with trauma", but if that's the case, why publicize it? Why be part of a community that's rife with latent pedos and other unsavory characters? I just don't get it. I'm sure there are people who legitimately use it as a coping mechanism in the comfort of their own home, but your comm leaders sound exactly like the type to start sperging out in public.

>>10757803
You're making the right decision, anon. Most likely they are doing it for attention on social media and most likely will end up bringing it up at a meet at some point/will end up mixing Lolita fashion into it. These people are usually mentally ill/attention seeking/unhinged.

i have the strong urge to wear lolita but
>tfw going to conservative grandparents' house soon

>>10757803
That's fucked, ita not drama if your ditching the pedos

>>10757811
Yeah the main offender who makes tik toks about her “little coming out” is an unhinged lolcow so I just worry she’ll throw a shitfit

>>10757815
It is when 95% of them end up being the pedos and you realize that you're the odd one out lmao

>>10757812
>conservative grandparents' house
Wear classic and become their favorite granddaughter

>>10758019
i wear gothic. i think it would be slightly acceptable if i tone it down by not wearing a petti but i could not bring myself to wear something like my precious Iron Gate without one.. that's the piece i'm itching to wear right now too

I used to not understand when gulls would bitch about the efamous/efame-hungry girls in their comms and thought people were just being salty but holy shit, I get it now. Went to my first big meet in years recently and one girl was trying so hard to be well-liked with her uwu kawaii nice girl act and had a little posse of orbiters and another wouldn't stop taking selfies/videos for her tiktok even when we were trying to make decisions as a group. Ugh, shoot me. Or them

>>10757803
ouch

https://youtu.be/7aI2xhTGua4

I was looking for old egl related videos and found what must arguably be the most uncomfortable human interaction captured on film. Poor girls.

>>10757423
AND AS I CLIMB INTO AN EMPTY BED, OH WELL, ENOUGH SAID

>>10758099
oh god these girls trying to mimic kawaii anime mannerisms is so fucking cringe. i mean yeah the guy is pushy creep, but yikes at the girls too

All I want is a vkei boyfriend to my lolita girlfriend

Sometimes when I'm looking at secondhand sales, I come across things I already own but forgot about because I never wear it

i want a lolita gf please god. someone around my size so we can borrow each other's dresses, dress each other up and go on cute dates, buy each other brand as gifts and just be aesthetic as fuck together, i want it so bad gulls...

>>10758219
feel you, i just want a girlfriend who puts up with me wearing lolita at this point

>>10758219
What about fucking while wearing brand?

>>10758219
Are you male or female?

>>10758260
Who cares. It's either a dyke or a creep who dresses like a woman.

I’ve made a Lolita friend a year and a half ago and I think she’s slowly but surely becoming a best friend. I just didn’t know things like this could happen to me, and we’ve even started twinning our dream dresses (because surprise we have the same DDs). We have the same taste and wear the same size so we swap back and forth and have mini fashion shows for ourselves all the time.

I’m not a religious person but I’m praying we stay friends for a long time

>bringing lolita color autism into my first cosplay attempt
Help me

>>10758219
>>10758253
uuh, shouldn't you guys be exchanging emails or something?

>>10758253
awwee, i hope you find someone nonny.

>>10758254
doesn't bother me. they're my clothes, if I'm gonna get fucked its probably going to start with me in lolita, since it's what I always wear.

>>10758260
I'm a girl.

>>10758268
unless suddenly dyke applies to hyperfeminine lesbians, definitely neither of those.

>>10758322
this is the sweetest best thing ever, I hope you guys have a long friendship.

I'm a little worried I'm going to get cucked out of another con. I had to bow out going the Katsucon this year because I had to move my elderly father. I'm not complaining about doing my duty just sucks the building I moved him into gave us like a weeks notice. So I had to cancel on my friends last minute.

Fast forward a few months I'm trying to get a new job now and if it don't get an offer in the new few days it would mean starting the 2 week shot clock later and it would go right over when ACEN is. I also have to leave my current job on good terms bc I've worked here for 10 years. most of my references are going to be from this job so I can't really afford to alienate them. I'll be at the con no matter what it just sucked I might loose days I paid for because I didn't hear a final decision sooner. Then if I start this job later I won't have the 90 days to call off for cons in autumn. I just keep getting cucked. A part of the reason I'm getting antsy is one of my friends got his work visa and is going to go live in Japan next year and I want to spend time with him and his wife before I don't see them for three years.

I have so much hate in me, I don't think I could ever live a happy life

>>10758568
It's possible, I was super hateful especially last year but I started reading about Buddhism and also got on antidepressants and I feel much better.

>>10758568
Youre a gull, what do you expect?

>>10758568
My kinda broad. Let's spread malcontent together!

I'm finally broke

>>10758590
Not yet you're not *banjo noises*

That red Lace Frill JSK has been up for way longer than I expected. Almost makes me regret shipping my stuff, maybe I actually could've gotten this, but now it'd mean starting a new order from Japan with new shipping costs and new need to find more things to buy.

>tfw you realize movies give hot female characters, to a public who is still in most part made by people who have trouble buying groceries if the person who is the cashier is a girl

clown world

>>10758724
I think you need to reword that a bit

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>gulls everywhere ahhhhhhhhhh
I bet they're fujos since they both main male artillerists. IF YOU'RE IN HERE GULLs JUST KNOW THAT I AM HIGHER iLVL THAN (YOU)

>>10758803
basically

>people who consume nerd shit are mostly retarded people and/or people who don't have sex
>they put attractive and sexually hot characters
>in sexually appealing costumes

there, reworded

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Just bought my last dream dress. I clicked on a closet child email. It was right there (for 40€) I clicked through thinking it would be sold and it was still there. I had to faff with my paypal password and thought it will be definitely sold and it was still there and now its mine. I have only seen it sold once in a different colourway on egl comm sales. I have only seen it once in a wardrobe post too. I am in disbelief? shock? grief?

>>10759189
congrats anon, that's fucking amazing!! enjoy your dress!

>>10759095
The characters aren't real

You ever think about all the cats that don't know the joys of diving into a petticoat and using them as a bed because there are no lolitas in their home? I just did and I feel sorry for those cats...

>>10758521
I'm no expert on slurs, but I thought "dyke" referred to any kind of lesbian?

>>10759217
Who fucking knows anymore

>say nigger
>get banned for racism
>make an entire thread about how ugly white people are
>get banned for vendetta
Kek

>>10758521
What state/ city

>>10759217
naw it's def a buzz-cut, thick/overweight lesbian. at least that's how I know it, but im an old lez so maybe the youngins use it differently

>>10759280
yeah dyke is a manly buff girl. a girly girl that likes girl is just gay

>>10759280
I'm a femme lesbian (not just a 'feminine' lesbian) and I've definitely gotten called a dyke

Can’t stand my comm members. Filled with drama bitches that jumps from group to group.

What happened to this board man?
This place used to be alright

>>10759767
Women ruined it.

>>10759813
You say while every thread these days is ethot posting male coomer shit that barely qualifies as cosplay. At least lolita is relevant to the board.

>>10759817
What I do is I hide the coomer threads, and I also usually browse by the catalog so the threads are completely hidden.
Barely notice the threads at all

>>10759817
Gotta agree with you on this, and I dislike women.
>>10759767
Also no cons for like two years

>>10759817
>>10759823
I was half joking. The cosplay and pepakura scene have largely fizzled out. Then lolitas spammed the board with their stuff while one of them has been demanding that all cosplay threads be contained in a general or two.

>>10759865
it's been like this since 2012 or so. no going back to the days before that.

>>10759865
A feel like a lot of the serious posters have moved to discord unfortunately

>>10759867
It seems like every interest and hobby in the world has died down. What do people even do nowadays?

>>10759877
Discord dealt a big blow to 4chan. People used to socialize and post content here. I miss those times.

>>10759878
I haven't cosplayed in years, I'm just here for the drama

>Buy dress on April 5th
>Seller claims to have shipped it out on 7th but in reality they just made a digital label (tells me this on the 20th)
>Still hasn't moved at all
>Message them asking about it to no reply and left unread
>Mesaage them saying that I'm going to have to put in a paypal dispute and I still would rather just get my dressed shipped to me also ignored and left unread
>Direct email telling them that I put in the dispute but I will immediately drop it if they send out my dress or tell me what's up
>STILL NO REPLY

Did this seller get into a car accident or something? What the fuck happened?
Any gulls have any tips what I should do here or have I basically done everything I can at this point? I feel depressed and defeated as hell.

>>10760350
that could also be the place where they dropped it off. this happened to me once and the seller sent me a photo of them putting it into the drop-off box and it didn't get picked up for a week.

>>10760372
This was a month ago though, wouldn’t they have picked it up by now? The 0 communication is the bigger problem though for me.

I’m on a new medication that causes weight gain and swelling and it’s so fucking disheartening to see my face morph into something different. I barely recognize myself and I hate it. I was filtering pictures today and my face looks so puffy and fat even though I’m at my lowest weight in a decade.

>>10760413
Corticosteroids? Been there. The good news is that it will eventually go back to normal. But I really feel you anon, the extreme changes in the face can be truly upsetting. Try to maybe start a different hobby that isn't centered around appearance. Doesn't have to be a permanent change but it can help with self-worth and confidence

that moment when you realize people in your cosplay community see you as some pure being that is adorable and whatnot and this basically kills your sex appeal

Dammit I just want some cosplay fuck at the end of the day.

Went to a small anime fest at a University. It was fine , a handful of cosplayers.
Then theres this small group of male cosplayers headed by that shirtless pig from Demon Slayer (he was decently ripped too prop). They didn't have Body Odor, but god i noticed that around them was a toxic like scent of paint or cleaner that i can't describe.

>>10760443
Prednisone. I’m only on 10mg a day which is supposed to be low dose. I was hoping I wouldn’t get the side effects but low and behold here we are kek

I went to a meet last month in the USA and some lolita was there who didn't speak english. Which would have been alright except she decided to participate in meet events without having any way to translate english. Some kind lolita luckily spoke her language and voluntold to translate for her. But what the hell, come on. Don't show up and force people to play translator.

>>10760554
>cleaner
Vodka?
>>10760413
Big big chungus big chungus big chungus

I am so pissed. Couple days ago I saw a really cute necklace on mercari and I bought it using Buyee instead of my usual SS. I thought Buyee buy's are instant - like, you press the buy button, pay and seconds after the item gets the red mark saying "sold", turns out I was wrong?
I bought it, paid and saw the "sold" mark in the listing. Later in the day I received an email from buyee saying "sorry we couldn't get you the item because it sold out" and I was like (??????)
I don't know what happened or if I misunderstood how buyee works but I'm still sad about the necklace

>>10760831
who told you buyee was instant? they work like every other ss, but worse, they hide new listings for a few days so japanese buyers can get them first. buyee is like entry-level for weebs who can't navigate jp internet.

>>10760742
Why didnt she just use google translate? It's better than nothing and does a decent enough job

>>10760854
Nta but on JP mercari or other services they do advertise certain items as available for immediate purchase through Buyee (if the seller allows it with only). I have never done it so idk if immediate actually means immediate, or if anon even bought an item that was tagged that way for sure, but they may sort of be tricking people with false marketing or poorly translated explanations there?

>>10760861
that's only because they have it set up so when you buy something on their site from mercari it's "logged in" through their mercari account. fromjapan does the same thing with fril(rakuma) and that's only for items that the seller allows instant purchasing for.

>>10760861
It's not like I was searching in Buyee site, I was checking Mercari and did the purchase with Buyee (for the first time actually)

>>10760862
So how do the japanese people purchase on mercari/fril? They have the same "delay" as we do or they can buy instantly?

>>10760872
only buyee has that delay. their site is set up so new listings don't appear when using it to search, and when you try to use a link to buy it, it will say item not found.

>>10760859
i have no idea honestly. she didn't seem to have it all together considering she walked into a meet without being able to speak the language and then the translator had to re-explain multiple times to her what was going on as she kept asking questions. also google translate wouldn't have helped translate our conversations

>>10760878
OH no God forbid people be allowed to have fun without speaking at a college level

>>10760927
bitch clearly couldn't speak at a kindergarten level. sit the fuck down.

>>10760930
Nayrt but I was at the same meet, she had a bit of an accent but you're being super weird about it.

>>10760959
You were not at the same meet, how is 'not being able to speak the language' equal to 'she had a bit of an accent'

>>10760878
i've had entire conversations with people through Google translate before....

honestly you kind of just sound like you're being a bitch. Who fucking cares if this girl wanted to join in?

>>10760997
that's why anon suggested she use it instead of annoying someone else. lrn2read

>>10760999
they literally just said it wouldn't have been able to translate their conversations. which I doubt, because I've done it before. Learn to read

>>10761001
not my fault you can't read

I recently got on ADHD meds and I've already noticed some weight lost even though it's been 6 weeks. I'm not way considered a fatty but holy fuck I can't wait to fit some old-school JSK's.

It had been tight with money recently. I've been doing good, though. Why do I keep wanting to throw everything out the window and blow loads of money on lolita?

I hate being white and ugly.

>>10761007
Time to tell my therapist I need to be medicated for my ADHD

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I wish I had a friend who would just have fun wearing the fashion with me, but I've been so depressed and miserable the past few years that I don't think anyone would want to be around me. It's been so long since I've last had real friends, let alone ones that share my love for lolita. Images like picrel make my heart ache.

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>Finally have money to buy my DDs after years of working hard to land a well paying job
>Lost interest in lolita almost completely over time

I've finally reached oldfag status, nonnas.

>>10761050
Get yourself a council so they can help you figure out why you're so miserable. Bad mental health is a bitch with self sabotage but also you can't rely on other people for your own happiness because you might push them away. Best of luck.

>>10761126
Councillor or psychologist*

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>just got out of overdraft
>impulse bid on YA listing expecting to get outbit
>don't get outbid
>tell myself I have to buy a bunch of other stuff to make the shipping fee worth it
>edging dangerously close to overdraft again

A-at least I'm getting a pay rise this summer...

>>10761126
I've been seeing a therapist for a little over a year until very recently, when I realized she wasn't helping me and wasn't a good professional in general. Sadly, I can't afford to continue even with a different therapist, and I'm in the middle of uprooting my entire life for a cross-continent move. Medication didn't do much other than help regulate my emotions somewhat, so I'm feeling a bit lost and dejected at this point.

>>10761050
same nonny...

>>10761190
This is dangerously irresponsible anon. Even if you're a minor or a college or high school student supported by family, it might be better for you to develop better financial skills. Think of it as a way to guarantee you can afford burando long-term in the future.

>>10761190
Buying more stuff to "save" money doesn't work anon. Just suck it up, post the shipping and stop buying stuff you can't afford

>tfw boner robin's website for naughty cosplay content has 45k followers on twitter and is still active

fuck, man reached my goal, to be surrounded by women in costume.
fuck why did i begin doing cosplay now all i want is sex with cosplay women

I hate white Americunts so fucking much

>>10761203
Having to shop around for a therapist because they were useless is actual cancer, you still have to pay for the sessions too even though they are doing jack shit.
Try and connect with the new local comm and maybe you'll be able to make some friends you can wear matching burando with.

>>10761225
>>10761260
Thank you anonitas... my spending has gotten much better over the past year but I don't want to end up in debt again. The amount of time I waste per day scrolling through CC and YA is getting insane, I'm going to spend the summer focusing on my actual hobbies beyond just consooooming pre-worn dresses.

My relationship with my current partner is failing and I’ve fallen out of love with her.

I recently gotten back into Lolita after not being into the fashion for over 5 years and now suddenly she’s really into it again too.

She admitted she’s jealous of one of my favorite characters and hates when I talk about him because she feels insecure that she can’t be like him.

It’s just exhausting and I’m in a cycle of abuse from her. I’ve tried to leave twice now and both times she manipulated me into staying.

I found someone else I really like who understands the position I am so I’m hoping he can help me leave.

My self worth has spiraled downhill because of the past few years and Lolita was one of the few things that got me to value myself again, and I don’t want it to be ruined by someone who gets jealous over my fictional characters.

>>10761331
are you that ancient Proud to be Asian cgl poster? kek in the past week there's been someone seething at white women in every thread unprompted

>>10760562
Fellow Crohn's gull? I remember when I was put on prednisone when I first got it (many years ago), and I recall getting worried and asking my doctor's if it's okay that my stomach looks different kek.

>>10760562
Low dose just means less side effects, not zero. Once you know, you can spot others on it just from their face half the time.

Drank enough water today, for the first time in what must be a year, feels good

I can't overstate my disapproval for the world. I wish I had ebola so I could spread it. I don't mind that it would kill me.

I’m so glad I sold all my valuable dresses during the sweet and old school rona boom times.

>>10762092
Why, are you happier having the money than you were owning the dresses?

I'm making my first cosplay and I'm starting to get really nitpicky on myself. Realistically it's going okay, a few bumps and bruises, but I starting to really feel nervous about wearing it and being judged for the quality of my work.

>tfw you go to sleep and the terror awakens

Men are a plague on society. Even the filthiest, most undesirable autists think they're worthy of female attention, yet start reeing and foaming at the mouth at a mere suggestion that they give anything in return for what they're taking or become better human beings in general.

>>10762263
You're totally going to find happiness in life by categorizing an entire sex. I guarantee it.

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The idea of being part of a community was a major drive for me to get into cosplay first and later lolita fashion. And now that I finally have the financial means to splurge money for the hobby, I feel like I couldn't care less with getting in touch with other lolitas. I'm in a couple of groups on various platforms and feel like I don't vibe with the people there at all, including the comm in my area. I guess in the end it's just naive to think wearing the same style of clothes would make a decent base to forge friendships...

>>10762288
i totally agree. i have only a few people from my comm that i talk to.

there's a girl with bpd/emotional issues who used to come here close to a decade ago, she had a pvc figures blog too. i don't know if she still comes here but i need to talk to her. i don't want to be a nuisance, it's really just very important.

>>10762268
I obviously don't mean "all men", calm down, I'm married to one. I'm allowed to vent on a fucking feels thread after having yet another horrible experience with one.

>>10762337
no you're not this is for board related feels. kys back to the farm.

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>mental and financial problems, haven’t gone to a con in years
>start working up the desire to go to megacon around the end of 2021
>thinking about making cute dresses and costumes of obscure video game characters zoomers probably won’t recognize lol, but having a good time day dreaming
>early 2022, hit by a fuckin truck and hospitalized for a month
>languish at home for months while my bones and organs stitch themselves back together
>suddenly the con I wanted to go to is next week

It’s not like I bought tickets or started any outfits or otherwise made any commitments so I’m not really missing out. I’m recovering but I still wouldn’t be strong enough to go to a con. It’s just kind of melancholic how the date just snuck up on me, I feel like I basically lost a half a year to the accident

>>10762148
Yes. I put all the money towards a down payment on a house. Now I have a house and only my favorite pieces, win-win.

>>10762369
>this is for board related feels
It literally isn't, anyone is free to post whatever they want. Sorry my board related post bothered you so much.

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I'm home from a comic con. Tomorrow i'll go there as well.

Man, I am just sad. I feel like i'm one of those clearly mentally challenged people - I think I do good when I talk to girls, ask for their instagram and take good pictues with them while I am in costume as well, but it seems like people see me as a retard.

you know, as in, you just want to get that person off your sights and go on with what you were doing with your folks. i've been on one side of that table, but i think i'm on the other too.

dammit. being retarded isn't sexually appealing. and i wnat my cosplay gf dammit. I wish i didn't have autism.

>>10762263
what is "worthy" on your interpretaation?
i'm curious. people don't owe a thing to others. but they have all the rights to try to be happy. it's in the international human rights chart, literally, the right to pursue happiness.

>>10762426
>early 2022, hit by a fuckin truck and hospitalized for a month
I thought you get transported to isekai wonderland, where a bunch of girls are lusting after your dick
Damn, my chinese cartoons lied to me

>>10758724
>tfw you realize movies give hot female characters, to a public who is still in most part made by people who have trouble buying groceries if the person who is the cashier is a girl
Never had a problem with that

And sorry for going too political, but were you living under a stone the last years?
You know all the "woke"-shit the last years

>>10762454
I know how you feel man

>>10762637
just got back from the last day
it was a blast, was wonderful. the feel still goes, lol. but today i took an effort to talk more to girls, they're nice, and obviously they like the attention. i'll follow them on instagram, and just let myself be known to them. better chances of being recognized and remembered with that. wish me luck anon on my hunt for cosplay gf