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i’m closet cleaning/partially leaving lolita and plan on giving some of my lolita pieces to my zoomer kid niece. it’s funny because i wore lolita around her for the past 3-4 years and i guess i influenced her to get into the fashion too
I found pic of from my very 1st meet, back when I was a 13 year old wearing my mom's office clothes and a hot topic bow.It's amazing to see how far I've come a decade later! Like I have a proper wardrobe and everything. I'm glad I stuck with Lolita
>>10757121I have one of my DDs in my not-desired cut or colorway just because I wanted to see the fabric up close, I told my gf once I get my desired version she can have the one I have now. She doesn't wear lolita but she really liked the print as well which makes me happy
the jannies on this board are absolute garage and worth every penny
My local comm is rife with itas, including multiple gender specials who can't dress themselves for shit. It's so depressing
>>10757121That's super cute anon.
I always worry that I look like a creep when I ask people to sell their socks separate. I promise I'm not! i wash and wear them! But, I worry anyway.
I've finally gotten into Lolita fashion after getting to an 18.5 BMI only to discover I have a long torso with a wide ribcage so a lot of brand OPs and JSK bodices end up like baby doll cuts on me despite being 5'4.Being part neanderthal is suffering.Being a
>>10757376Separate from what?
https://youtu.be/M6o1SEj02t0OH MOTHER, I CAN FEEL THE SOIL OVER MY HEAD. KILL ME PLEASE
>>10757406separate from a set i'm assuming
>>10757449Yeah,separate from a set.
>spend years on /cgl/>now start noticing how terrible the clothing and make up is in most pornYou assholes.
>>10757558Good, now stop watching it
Not posting in that thread anymore, because OP is crazy(even though she will probably follow me here and argue since she has nothing better to do) but I hate obvious newfags who think they know anything about older lolita styles. They read something once and then get stroppy at anyone who tries to explain they're misinformed. This is part of the reason so many newbie lolitas have no idea what's going on, the people teaching them also don't. Fashion styles persist because they are unique from other styles. If we keep letting newfags rewrite history to suit their tastes, lolita is going to just become generic jfash, and brands like AP are already veering into that territory, AP looks nothing like other brands anymore. It's just so disheartening.
I have no clue why asexuals bother with life. They're annoying as hell, and are incapable of loving anyone. They can't be happy living like that I'm sure.
I found out recently that 2/3 of my comms leaders/mods are “age regressors” and have social medias for their “agere” so I need to figure out how to split the comm into just the cool ppl so I don’t have to associate w that shit. Feels bad to be the one starting drama but i’d rather die than be at a meet and someone starts googoo gaga-ing.
>>10757803>and have social medias for their “agere”I don't understand this. I know their argument as to why they participate in this usually boils down to "I need it to deal with trauma", but if that's the case, why publicize it? Why be part of a community that's rife with latent pedos and other unsavory characters? I just don't get it. I'm sure there are people who legitimately use it as a coping mechanism in the comfort of their own home, but your comm leaders sound exactly like the type to start sperging out in public.
>>10757803You're making the right decision, anon. Most likely they are doing it for attention on social media and most likely will end up bringing it up at a meet at some point/will end up mixing Lolita fashion into it. These people are usually mentally ill/attention seeking/unhinged.
i have the strong urge to wear lolita but >tfw going to conservative grandparents' house soon
>>10757803That's fucked, ita not drama if your ditching the pedos
>>10757811Yeah the main offender who makes tik toks about her “little coming out” is an unhinged lolcow so I just worry she’ll throw a shitfit
>>10757815It is when 95% of them end up being the pedos and you realize that you're the odd one out lmao
>>10757812>conservative grandparents' houseWear classic and become their favorite granddaughter
>>10758019i wear gothic. i think it would be slightly acceptable if i tone it down by not wearing a petti but i could not bring myself to wear something like my precious Iron Gate without one.. that's the piece i'm itching to wear right now too
I used to not understand when gulls would bitch about the efamous/efame-hungry girls in their comms and thought people were just being salty but holy shit, I get it now. Went to my first big meet in years recently and one girl was trying so hard to be well-liked with her uwu kawaii nice girl act and had a little posse of orbiters and another wouldn't stop taking selfies/videos for her tiktok even when we were trying to make decisions as a group. Ugh, shoot me. Or them
https://youtu.be/7aI2xhTGua4I was looking for old egl related videos and found what must arguably be the most uncomfortable human interaction captured on film. Poor girls.
>>10757423AND AS I CLIMB INTO AN EMPTY BED, OH WELL, ENOUGH SAID
>>10758099oh god these girls trying to mimic kawaii anime mannerisms is so fucking cringe. i mean yeah the guy is pushy creep, but yikes at the girls too
All I want is a vkei boyfriend to my lolita girlfriend
Sometimes when I'm looking at secondhand sales, I come across things I already own but forgot about because I never wear it
i want a lolita gf please god. someone around my size so we can borrow each other's dresses, dress each other up and go on cute dates, buy each other brand as gifts and just be aesthetic as fuck together, i want it so bad gulls...
>>10758219feel you, i just want a girlfriend who puts up with me wearing lolita at this point
>>10758219What about fucking while wearing brand?
>>10758219Are you male or female?
>>10758260Who cares. It's either a dyke or a creep who dresses like a woman.
I’ve made a Lolita friend a year and a half ago and I think she’s slowly but surely becoming a best friend. I just didn’t know things like this could happen to me, and we’ve even started twinning our dream dresses (because surprise we have the same DDs). We have the same taste and wear the same size so we swap back and forth and have mini fashion shows for ourselves all the time.I’m not a religious person but I’m praying we stay friends for a long time
>bringing lolita color autism into my first cosplay attemptHelp me
>>10758219>>10758253uuh, shouldn't you guys be exchanging emails or something?
>>10758253awwee, i hope you find someone nonny.>>10758254doesn't bother me. they're my clothes, if I'm gonna get fucked its probably going to start with me in lolita, since it's what I always wear.>>10758260I'm a girl. >>10758268unless suddenly dyke applies to hyperfeminine lesbians, definitely neither of those.
>>10758322this is the sweetest best thing ever, I hope you guys have a long friendship.
I'm a little worried I'm going to get cucked out of another con. I had to bow out going the Katsucon this year because I had to move my elderly father. I'm not complaining about doing my duty just sucks the building I moved him into gave us like a weeks notice. So I had to cancel on my friends last minute. Fast forward a few months I'm trying to get a new job now and if it don't get an offer in the new few days it would mean starting the 2 week shot clock later and it would go right over when ACEN is. I also have to leave my current job on good terms bc I've worked here for 10 years. most of my references are going to be from this job so I can't really afford to alienate them. I'll be at the con no matter what it just sucked I might loose days I paid for because I didn't hear a final decision sooner. Then if I start this job later I won't have the 90 days to call off for cons in autumn. I just keep getting cucked. A part of the reason I'm getting antsy is one of my friends got his work visa and is going to go live in Japan next year and I want to spend time with him and his wife before I don't see them for three years.
I have so much hate in me, I don't think I could ever live a happy life
>>10758568It's possible, I was super hateful especially last year but I started reading about Buddhism and also got on antidepressants and I feel much better.
>>10758568Youre a gull, what do you expect?
>>10758568My kinda broad. Let's spread malcontent together!
I'm finally broke
>>10758590Not yet you're not *banjo noises*
That red Lace Frill JSK has been up for way longer than I expected. Almost makes me regret shipping my stuff, maybe I actually could've gotten this, but now it'd mean starting a new order from Japan with new shipping costs and new need to find more things to buy.
>tfw you realize movies give hot female characters, to a public who is still in most part made by people who have trouble buying groceries if the person who is the cashier is a girlclown world
>>10758724I think you need to reword that a bit
>gulls everywhere ahhhhhhhhhhI bet they're fujos since they both main male artillerists. IF YOU'RE IN HERE GULLs JUST KNOW THAT I AM HIGHER iLVL THAN (YOU)
>>10758803basically>people who consume nerd shit are mostly retarded people and/or people who don't have sex>they put attractive and sexually hot characters>in sexually appealing costumesthere, reworded
Just bought my last dream dress. I clicked on a closet child email. It was right there (for 40€) I clicked through thinking it would be sold and it was still there. I had to faff with my paypal password and thought it will be definitely sold and it was still there and now its mine. I have only seen it sold once in a different colourway on egl comm sales. I have only seen it once in a wardrobe post too. I am in disbelief? shock? grief?
>>10759189congrats anon, that's fucking amazing!! enjoy your dress!
>>10759095The characters aren't real
You ever think about all the cats that don't know the joys of diving into a petticoat and using them as a bed because there are no lolitas in their home? I just did and I feel sorry for those cats...
>>10758521I'm no expert on slurs, but I thought "dyke" referred to any kind of lesbian?
>>10759217Who fucking knows anymore
>say nigger>get banned for racism>make an entire thread about how ugly white people are>get banned for vendettaKek
>>10758521What state/ city
>>10759217naw it's def a buzz-cut, thick/overweight lesbian. at least that's how I know it, but im an old lez so maybe the youngins use it differently
>>10759280yeah dyke is a manly buff girl. a girly girl that likes girl is just gay
>>10759280I'm a femme lesbian (not just a 'feminine' lesbian) and I've definitely gotten called a dyke
Can’t stand my comm members. Filled with drama bitches that jumps from group to group.
What happened to this board man?This place used to be alright
>>10759767Women ruined it.
>>10759813You say while every thread these days is ethot posting male coomer shit that barely qualifies as cosplay. At least lolita is relevant to the board.
>>10759817What I do is I hide the coomer threads, and I also usually browse by the catalog so the threads are completely hidden.Barely notice the threads at all
>>10759817Gotta agree with you on this, and I dislike women.>>10759767Also no cons for like two years
>>10759817>>10759823I was half joking. The cosplay and pepakura scene have largely fizzled out. Then lolitas spammed the board with their stuff while one of them has been demanding that all cosplay threads be contained in a general or two.
>>10759865it's been like this since 2012 or so. no going back to the days before that.
>>10759865A feel like a lot of the serious posters have moved to discord unfortunately
>>10759867It seems like every interest and hobby in the world has died down. What do people even do nowadays?
>>10759877Discord dealt a big blow to 4chan. People used to socialize and post content here. I miss those times.
>>10759878I haven't cosplayed in years, I'm just here for the drama
>Buy dress on April 5th>Seller claims to have shipped it out on 7th but in reality they just made a digital label (tells me this on the 20th)>Still hasn't moved at all>Message them asking about it to no reply and left unread>Mesaage them saying that I'm going to have to put in a paypal dispute and I still would rather just get my dressed shipped to me also ignored and left unread>Direct email telling them that I put in the dispute but I will immediately drop it if they send out my dress or tell me what's up >STILL NO REPLYDid this seller get into a car accident or something? What the fuck happened? Any gulls have any tips what I should do here or have I basically done everything I can at this point? I feel depressed and defeated as hell.
>>10760350that could also be the place where they dropped it off. this happened to me once and the seller sent me a photo of them putting it into the drop-off box and it didn't get picked up for a week.
>>10760372This was a month ago though, wouldn’t they have picked it up by now? The 0 communication is the bigger problem though for me.
I’m on a new medication that causes weight gain and swelling and it’s so fucking disheartening to see my face morph into something different. I barely recognize myself and I hate it. I was filtering pictures today and my face looks so puffy and fat even though I’m at my lowest weight in a decade.
>>10760413Corticosteroids? Been there. The good news is that it will eventually go back to normal. But I really feel you anon, the extreme changes in the face can be truly upsetting. Try to maybe start a different hobby that isn't centered around appearance. Doesn't have to be a permanent change but it can help with self-worth and confidence
that moment when you realize people in your cosplay community see you as some pure being that is adorable and whatnot and this basically kills your sex appealDammit I just want some cosplay fuck at the end of the day.
Went to a small anime fest at a University. It was fine , a handful of cosplayers.Then theres this small group of male cosplayers headed by that shirtless pig from Demon Slayer (he was decently ripped too prop). They didn't have Body Odor, but god i noticed that around them was a toxic like scent of paint or cleaner that i can't describe.
>>10760443Prednisone. I’m only on 10mg a day which is supposed to be low dose. I was hoping I wouldn’t get the side effects but low and behold here we are kek
I went to a meet last month in the USA and some lolita was there who didn't speak english. Which would have been alright except she decided to participate in meet events without having any way to translate english. Some kind lolita luckily spoke her language and voluntold to translate for her. But what the hell, come on. Don't show up and force people to play translator.
>>10760554>cleanerVodka?>>10760413Big big chungus big chungus big chungus
I am so pissed. Couple days ago I saw a really cute necklace on mercari and I bought it using Buyee instead of my usual SS. I thought Buyee buy's are instant - like, you press the buy button, pay and seconds after the item gets the red mark saying "sold", turns out I was wrong?I bought it, paid and saw the "sold" mark in the listing. Later in the day I received an email from buyee saying "sorry we couldn't get you the item because it sold out" and I was like (??????)I don't know what happened or if I misunderstood how buyee works but I'm still sad about the necklace
>>10760831who told you buyee was instant? they work like every other ss, but worse, they hide new listings for a few days so japanese buyers can get them first. buyee is like entry-level for weebs who can't navigate jp internet.
>>10760742Why didnt she just use google translate? It's better than nothing and does a decent enough job
>>10760854Nta but on JP mercari or other services they do advertise certain items as available for immediate purchase through Buyee (if the seller allows it with only). I have never done it so idk if immediate actually means immediate, or if anon even bought an item that was tagged that way for sure, but they may sort of be tricking people with false marketing or poorly translated explanations there?
>>10760861that's only because they have it set up so when you buy something on their site from mercari it's "logged in" through their mercari account. fromjapan does the same thing with fril(rakuma) and that's only for items that the seller allows instant purchasing for.
>>10760861It's not like I was searching in Buyee site, I was checking Mercari and did the purchase with Buyee (for the first time actually)
>>10760862So how do the japanese people purchase on mercari/fril? They have the same "delay" as we do or they can buy instantly?
>>10760872only buyee has that delay. their site is set up so new listings don't appear when using it to search, and when you try to use a link to buy it, it will say item not found.
>>10760859i have no idea honestly. she didn't seem to have it all together considering she walked into a meet without being able to speak the language and then the translator had to re-explain multiple times to her what was going on as she kept asking questions. also google translate wouldn't have helped translate our conversations
>>10760878OH no God forbid people be allowed to have fun without speaking at a college level
>>10760927bitch clearly couldn't speak at a kindergarten level. sit the fuck down.
>>10760930Nayrt but I was at the same meet, she had a bit of an accent but you're being super weird about it.
>>10760959You were not at the same meet, how is 'not being able to speak the language' equal to 'she had a bit of an accent'
>>10760878i've had entire conversations with people through Google translate before....honestly you kind of just sound like you're being a bitch. Who fucking cares if this girl wanted to join in?
>>10760997that's why anon suggested she use it instead of annoying someone else. lrn2read
>>10760999they literally just said it wouldn't have been able to translate their conversations. which I doubt, because I've done it before. Learn to read
>>10761001not my fault you can't read
I recently got on ADHD meds and I've already noticed some weight lost even though it's been 6 weeks. I'm not way considered a fatty but holy fuck I can't wait to fit some old-school JSK's.
It had been tight with money recently. I've been doing good, though. Why do I keep wanting to throw everything out the window and blow loads of money on lolita?
I hate being white and ugly.
>>10761007Time to tell my therapist I need to be medicated for my ADHD
I wish I had a friend who would just have fun wearing the fashion with me, but I've been so depressed and miserable the past few years that I don't think anyone would want to be around me. It's been so long since I've last had real friends, let alone ones that share my love for lolita. Images like picrel make my heart ache.
>Finally have money to buy my DDs after years of working hard to land a well paying job>Lost interest in lolita almost completely over time I've finally reached oldfag status, nonnas.
>>10761050Get yourself a council so they can help you figure out why you're so miserable. Bad mental health is a bitch with self sabotage but also you can't rely on other people for your own happiness because you might push them away. Best of luck.
>>10761126Councillor or psychologist*
>just got out of overdraft>impulse bid on YA listing expecting to get outbit>don't get outbid>tell myself I have to buy a bunch of other stuff to make the shipping fee worth it>edging dangerously close to overdraft againA-at least I'm getting a pay rise this summer...
>>10761126I've been seeing a therapist for a little over a year until very recently, when I realized she wasn't helping me and wasn't a good professional in general. Sadly, I can't afford to continue even with a different therapist, and I'm in the middle of uprooting my entire life for a cross-continent move. Medication didn't do much other than help regulate my emotions somewhat, so I'm feeling a bit lost and dejected at this point.
>>10761190This is dangerously irresponsible anon. Even if you're a minor or a college or high school student supported by family, it might be better for you to develop better financial skills. Think of it as a way to guarantee you can afford burando long-term in the future.
>>10761190Buying more stuff to "save" money doesn't work anon. Just suck it up, post the shipping and stop buying stuff you can't afford
>tfw boner robin's website for naughty cosplay content has 45k followers on twitter and is still activefuck, man reached my goal, to be surrounded by women in costume.fuck why did i begin doing cosplay now all i want is sex with cosplay women
I hate white Americunts so fucking much
>>10761203Having to shop around for a therapist because they were useless is actual cancer, you still have to pay for the sessions too even though they are doing jack shit. Try and connect with the new local comm and maybe you'll be able to make some friends you can wear matching burando with.
>>10761225>>10761260Thank you anonitas... my spending has gotten much better over the past year but I don't want to end up in debt again. The amount of time I waste per day scrolling through CC and YA is getting insane, I'm going to spend the summer focusing on my actual hobbies beyond just consooooming pre-worn dresses.
My relationship with my current partner is failing and I’ve fallen out of love with her. I recently gotten back into Lolita after not being into the fashion for over 5 years and now suddenly she’s really into it again too.She admitted she’s jealous of one of my favorite characters and hates when I talk about him because she feels insecure that she can’t be like him. It’s just exhausting and I’m in a cycle of abuse from her. I’ve tried to leave twice now and both times she manipulated me into staying.I found someone else I really like who understands the position I am so I’m hoping he can help me leave. My self worth has spiraled downhill because of the past few years and Lolita was one of the few things that got me to value myself again, and I don’t want it to be ruined by someone who gets jealous over my fictional characters.
>>10761331are you that ancient Proud to be Asian cgl poster? kek in the past week there's been someone seething at white women in every thread unprompted
>>10760562Fellow Crohn's gull? I remember when I was put on prednisone when I first got it (many years ago), and I recall getting worried and asking my doctor's if it's okay that my stomach looks different kek.
>>10760562Low dose just means less side effects, not zero. Once you know, you can spot others on it just from their face half the time.
Drank enough water today, for the first time in what must be a year, feels good
I can't overstate my disapproval for the world. I wish I had ebola so I could spread it. I don't mind that it would kill me.
I’m so glad I sold all my valuable dresses during the sweet and old school rona boom times.
>>10762092Why, are you happier having the money than you were owning the dresses?
I'm making my first cosplay and I'm starting to get really nitpicky on myself. Realistically it's going okay, a few bumps and bruises, but I starting to really feel nervous about wearing it and being judged for the quality of my work.
>tfw you go to sleep and the terror awakens
Men are a plague on society. Even the filthiest, most undesirable autists think they're worthy of female attention, yet start reeing and foaming at the mouth at a mere suggestion that they give anything in return for what they're taking or become better human beings in general.
>>10762263You're totally going to find happiness in life by categorizing an entire sex. I guarantee it.
The idea of being part of a community was a major drive for me to get into cosplay first and later lolita fashion. And now that I finally have the financial means to splurge money for the hobby, I feel like I couldn't care less with getting in touch with other lolitas. I'm in a couple of groups on various platforms and feel like I don't vibe with the people there at all, including the comm in my area. I guess in the end it's just naive to think wearing the same style of clothes would make a decent base to forge friendships...
>>10762288i totally agree. i have only a few people from my comm that i talk to.
there's a girl with bpd/emotional issues who used to come here close to a decade ago, she had a pvc figures blog too. i don't know if she still comes here but i need to talk to her. i don't want to be a nuisance, it's really just very important.
>>10762268I obviously don't mean "all men", calm down, I'm married to one. I'm allowed to vent on a fucking feels thread after having yet another horrible experience with one.
>>10762337no you're not this is for board related feels. kys back to the farm.
>mental and financial problems, haven’t gone to a con in years >start working up the desire to go to megacon around the end of 2021 >thinking about making cute dresses and costumes of obscure video game characters zoomers probably won’t recognize lol, but having a good time day dreaming >early 2022, hit by a fuckin truck and hospitalized for a month >languish at home for months while my bones and organs stitch themselves back together>suddenly the con I wanted to go to is next week It’s not like I bought tickets or started any outfits or otherwise made any commitments so I’m not really missing out. I’m recovering but I still wouldn’t be strong enough to go to a con. It’s just kind of melancholic how the date just snuck up on me, I feel like I basically lost a half a year to the accident
>>10762148Yes. I put all the money towards a down payment on a house. Now I have a house and only my favorite pieces, win-win.
>>10762369>this is for board related feelsIt literally isn't, anyone is free to post whatever they want. Sorry my board related post bothered you so much.
I'm home from a comic con. Tomorrow i'll go there as well.Man, I am just sad. I feel like i'm one of those clearly mentally challenged people - I think I do good when I talk to girls, ask for their instagram and take good pictues with them while I am in costume as well, but it seems like people see me as a retard.you know, as in, you just want to get that person off your sights and go on with what you were doing with your folks. i've been on one side of that table, but i think i'm on the other too.dammit. being retarded isn't sexually appealing. and i wnat my cosplay gf dammit. I wish i didn't have autism.
>>10762263what is "worthy" on your interpretaation?i'm curious. people don't owe a thing to others. but they have all the rights to try to be happy. it's in the international human rights chart, literally, the right to pursue happiness.
>>10762426>early 2022, hit by a fuckin truck and hospitalized for a monthI thought you get transported to isekai wonderland, where a bunch of girls are lusting after your dickDamn, my chinese cartoons lied to me
>>10758724>tfw you realize movies give hot female characters, to a public who is still in most part made by people who have trouble buying groceries if the person who is the cashier is a girlNever had a problem with thatAnd sorry for going too political, but were you living under a stone the last years?You know all the "woke"-shit the last years
>>10762454I know how you feel man
>>10762637just got back from the last dayit was a blast, was wonderful. the feel still goes, lol. but today i took an effort to talk more to girls, they're nice, and obviously they like the attention. i'll follow them on instagram, and just let myself be known to them. better chances of being recognized and remembered with that. wish me luck anon on my hunt for cosplay gf
>moved to a new city and went to a comm event>have been lonelita for years, perhaps it's time to join a comm and see what happens and if it's any fun etc>everyone is fat, autistic and/or cluster b>unironic shitty clolita (not a clolita hater here, but you know the nearly cosplay tier clolita? That shit.)Back to being a lonelita but in a new city I guess. I hang with my other friends in lolita sometimes, but it would have been nice to join a comm.
>24>Haven't gone to a con since covid hit, not cause scared, just not wearing a mask all weekend or getting jabbed>Used to go to cons with friends from school, all whom I'm no longer on speaking terms with>gf who used to be part of the scene and refuses to go to our biggest local cons for fear of running into people she has beef with>Cons were one of the only ways I felt like I could make friends, but always felt too young>Now I don't feel to young, but the scene feels impenetrable for other reasonsMaybe next year...
>>10763115get it anyways and commit yourself to weight loss until you can fit inside. Calorie count and eat less or take up cycling (you burn crazy calories cycling long distance at speed)
>>10762669>wish me luck anon on my hunt for cosplay gfI doCause I gave up (sort of)
I got cherry berry bunny in pink for 170usd, I couldn't be any happier
>>10762981>gf who used to be part of the scene and refuses to go to our biggest local cons for fear of running into people she has beef withThat's the part of having a cosplay gf no one tells you, there's now a group of people who despise you because you're dating her. [spoiler]Really fucking hurts when it's people you were friends with for years[/spoiler]
I lost 20 pounds in a month and a half. 40 to go, but it is becoming harder and harder.
Can we go back to a time where people didn’t posted their ass on Facebook and shared cooking recipes.
>>10762426>>mental and financial problemsah what a nice combination to have
I passed my semester with As, Bs and a job offer! (education major)Gonna reward myself with some brand/jewelry!
>>10763627The closer you get to your goal, the harder it becomes. Don't give up, when I lost my weight I stopped weighing myself as frequently so I wouldn't be discouraged by the leveling progress. Just keep up the good routine you have and you'll make it.
I just want Wunderwelt to start using their LM account again and sell dirt cheap heavily stained brand, so I can fix it with a single oxiclean soak and feel good about getting a good deal
i started working out in the last couple months because i noticed i was getting a little too heavy to fit some of my brand dresses, but i noticed that the more ive been working out, the less ive been interested in wearing lolita. idk. i felt compelled to work out because of lolita, but looking back i felt like it was just controlling me. i guess i always feel like lolita controls me, having to always worry that i meet a certain bmi or brand measurements. exercising made me realize how much control you get to feel over your body when you start taking care of it and how uplifting that feels, and lolita standards feel like a contradiction to that. its ironic really because now im losing weight like i wanted to in the first place, but now im thinking i maybe want to replace it with muscle instead. maybe im just outgrowing lolita.
I have to already resew the shoulder strap button on this NWT AP dress I spent too much money on because my stupid clumsy ass tripped over it while taking it off.The package got delivering less than 10 mins ago.
>>10763889>how much control you get to feel over your bodyYou are beautiful. This is a very attractive mindset.
My online friend group of many years is shifting politically. I wouldn't cut someone off due to politics, but it happened to me a very long time ago and I think it is going to happen again. I am not one for group hopping and these people were my only emotional support in my rough times. The thought of losing them hurts.
I've given up trying to date. I don't know anyone in my city so when I try apps, I state I wear lolita because it would come up eventually, and all I attract are retard neckbeards who don't even know what a shower is. I just want a normie who is cool with my frills is all.
>>10763918I wouldn't blame yourself too much, brand buttons are kind of shit. I've had to resew so many brand new AP buttons back on and this was even before the quality tanked.
I stupidly ordered something earlier this year, and just had another look at it, and it was such a massive mistake. If I'm going to be as stupid as to buy that thing, I should at least have bought the better version. Instead I bought what may be the worst, because I had such bad tastes.
>>10764185For me it's usually that brand waist tie buttons just flop off without me even putting the dress on sometimes but the shoulder strap buttons hang on no matter what
Ordered some angelic imprint shoes from taobao, only to find out through shopping service pictures that they're actually pearlescent white and not matte white like they seemed in all the images. fml. Now I'll have to sell them whenever I receive them which is so annoying. picrel the shoes in question
>buy dress nwt for $100 more than market because desperate and international seller insisted on pricier shipping>It's ok because it's one of my favorite dresses in recent memory and I haven't really seen it come up>international branch randomly gets ONE of these in stock for no reasonFuck my life gulls. I bought it anyways. Now what do I do with two..
I go to the hair salon and ask for bangs bc I'm tired of wearing wigs and sweet lolita looks like shit without bangs, and the stylist says 'no, they'll look bad/don't suit you/etc.' and I'm such a pussy that I go 'y-yeah ok you're right' and leave without bangs. This has happened at least three times, at three different salons. What the fuck? Am I less kawaii than I thought I was? When I wear wigs with bangs do I actually look retarded, or can I chalk it up to going to cosmopolitan salons that do the basic bitch balayage and beachy wave combo for everyone? Has anyone else experienced this?
>>10764281>When I wear wigs with bangs do I actually look retarded, or can I chalk it up to going to cosmopolitan salons that do the basic bitch balayage and beachy wave combo for everyone? It's hard to say without knowing what you look like but maybe try clip on bangs?
>>10764281just cut your own bangs, with enough research and prep it's not hard. You'll need to be regularly trimming them on your own anyways
>>10764183>I state I wear lolitaDon't do that, it scares normies away and immediately attracts freaks. Seriously, I can't even sell shoes on normie apps without having some pervert message me if I so much as mention lolita in the description. If I were you, I'd tell whoever you're interested in in person.
>>10764281Any stylist that says all bangs will look bad on you is just a shit stylist. You can make them work for any face shape, just depends on what kind of bangs they are. If you like how you look in wigs with bangs, just tell them what you want and go for it regardless of what they say. America and pretty much any country that's part of the anglosphere doesn't value cuteness, so they'll never understand the appeal in the first place.
>>10764329Samefriend, but if you can find a Japanese hair salon near you, I'd recommend going there. They'l give you better bangs anyway.
>>10764183Just don't advertise that you wear lolita. It's something that normal men will be fine with if they already like you. A complete stranger will pre-emptively negatively judge you for it.
>>10764329Definitely this. When I bleached and dyed my hair, I requested bangs since my face needs them. She was unsure about it. She cut them, and agreed that bangs make hairstyles more flattering. A good hairdresser will be open to what their clients say even if it’s different from current trends.
>>10764183Literally don't state you wear lolita. It's something that you need to introduce slowly to people because a lot of them will have bad preconceptions about it from media. Once they understand it's just clothes most sane guys will accept it.
I keep seeing these flower petticoats and they look so tacky. I can't possibly imagine these looking good in real life. I wonder if these will be the new ita magnet..
>>10764365They absolutely will. Bonus points for people trying to save a dime and hotgluing fake flowers to their own petticoats
>>10764183This is funny because I am a retarded stinky neckbeard and I would take interest too. We think a lolita gf would show understanding to our non-conforming tastes and ways while being another quirky thing to have around. The others are right. Don't be so upfront about lolita.Gulls how do I get rid of body odour? I scrub myself with Dettol and use deodorant. Ten-twenty minutes after showering my armpits start smelling again.
>>10764365I think the concept could potentially make for a cute detail in an old school OTT coord if executed well, but what I'm seeing is not it
>>10764183just be lesbian
>>10764376Try a product with mandelic acid. or just ask your fucking doctor
>>10764365Oh god you are totally right anon, they will. I can already see it
GOTHIC GULLS what's the vibes/feel on Sanctuary Vampire by Moitie? thinking about picking that up soon. might be stupid since it's gonna be really hot here soon.maybe i'll wait for their summer happy pack
I've lived in a cold climate for the last 10+ years but I just recently realized I have trouble accepting this. We only have warm weather for like, three months, but I'll buy all sorts of summer appropriate stuff that barely gets worn, and generally act like summer is half the year, when it's just not.I don't necessarily want to live somewhere warmer cause I don't like the sun, but I feel like an idiot for taking so long to realize this
>putting together lolita coord >swap out various items until happy>take time to consider details such as hairstyle, makeup and jewellery>feelin' good >take quick mirror snap of completed coord for reference>look at photo>most unremarkable thing ever>feelin' dispirited afEvery damn time..
>>10764606Maybe you're spending too much time on details?
>>10764606I feel that way a lot. Sometimes it ends up being the fit of the piece, unfortunately. IW for instance has these weird bodices that make me look terrible. I found I just need to sell dresses I feel are unflattering on me or change up silhouettes.
>>10764570anon let's switch places, I have the opposite problem. There's usually only a month or so of long sleeve weather here but I keep buying velveteen, long sleeve OPs and cardigans because they're so cute lol
>>10764683anon are you me. doesn't help i switched from a cold to hot environment. i spent so much time and money building a bombass coat collection only to never use it.
>>10764365Those flowers are way too low quality to ever look decent in real life. Only Chinese photoshop magic can make those look decent. That's a photoshoot-only item.
How long do you hide your powerlevel when dating? I don't want to weird people out with my shelves of manga, but I also hate talking about anime/manga with most people (everyone just wants to talk about seasonal shit with the exception of entry level recs). Any time anime comes up I play dumb, i.e. "oh, like pokemon? I think I watched an episode with a horse?".
>>10764714It's obvious that you're just pretending if you pretend to know that little about Pokemon.Anime is probably also mainstream enough at this point that one should be expected to know slightly more than just Pokemon.I've never dated before though so I can't give any advice, but I wouldn't have gone that far to hide my powerlevel.
>>10764684I'm in the same boat as you. Lived my whole life in a colder climate, ended up with 90% of my wardrobe being either black, long sleeved, velveteen or outerwear, and now I've moved somewhere where winter doesn't exist. I refuse to sell everything and start over, I think I'll just suffer through it while looking cute.
>>10764376This sounds like bait but if you're overweight that can cause a lot of excess sweat. If not, I'd go to the doctor. I was on medication that caused excess sweat for a while and was given meds to reduce sweating for a while until my body adjusted to the first meds and they helped a lot. Hope this helps
>>10764731I don't sweat. My armpits are like "we are flowers. Let's be fragrant."
>>10764376You probably need to eat different food
I hate Internet ~~sex workers~~, that's all
>>10764329>America and pretty much any country that's part of the anglosphere doesn't value cuteness, so they'll never understand the appeal in the first place.This, it’s so frustrating. Every time I’ve gone to a salon or a makeup counter they try to make me look like a Kardashian or an instagram baddie when all I want is to look cute. Full bangs look good on me but hairdressers keep trying to talk me into something more trendy. Ma’am have you seen how I dress? And you still think I care about being trendy?I just cut my own bangs now and only go in a few times a year for a trim, but it’s still a pain in the butt.>>10764606I often feel this way when I’ve spent too much time on social media where nearly everything is OTT and styled to look good in photos. My coords look fine in the mirror but then feel underwhelming once I take a photo because I’m comparing that photo to the ones I see online. The best “cure” for this imo is to attend an irl meet-up. Carefully thought out but non-OTT coords with well done hair and makeup look much better in person whereas the flashier photogenic coords tend to look off when you see them irl, kind of like when you see an actor in full costume up close instead of on the stage.
>>10764830Preach sister. They choose this line of work and they don't have to suffer any physical contact and abuse.
>>10764718I should rephrase, I don't pretend like I don't know what anime is, I'm saying that I pretend like I haven't watched any
>>10764830Taking a photo of your tits isn't sex and it isn't work. People just want to feel persecuted.
>>10764810I've heard cartel execution recordings less gross than that
im giving up on my sweet lolita dreams because i am too tall, plus i am tired of constantly worrying about my weight to fit my brand. maybe ill do one of those leaving lolita sales soon.
>>10764281some people can look a bit awkward with full bangs if they have a really small forehead (the bangs end up looking really short like microbangs), idk if that helps but it could be why they said that
>>10764930Well that's retarded, basically everyone watches at least some anime these daysWhy would you just lie about something this mundane? I think you have worse social skills problems than watching anime, honestly.
I just want a royal gate rerelease
>>10765105Kek no they dont. You sound like youre 14
>>10765073Just buy brands that fit you, wear long bloomers, stretchy otks. Tall-litas do just fine.
>>10765105I don’t want to sound mean, but roughly how old are you? I’m in my late 20s, even the people I knew I high school who called themselves otaku have distanced themselves from anime.
>>10765073ah do you not like Meta? that's such a tall friendly brand
>>10765313NTA but I'm 21 and anime is absolutely mainstream with people my age, I'd think someone who didn't know what pokemon was is a bit odd. I feel like most people have watched at least a bit of the mainstream stuff but they don't go around calling themselves otaku
>>10765313I'm 34, kiddo. So not everybody my age range watches it necessarily, but as far as I know it's pretty mainstream esp with younger people? Kim Kardashian, Kanye West and Megan thee stallion have all referenced anime and I see a lot of people talk about it nowadays and wearing anime shirts so I thought it was way more normal than it used to be.At any rate there's a difference between hiding your power level, and straight up denying when asked that you participate at all in something that is actually a major interest of yours. That's just weird and a bad way to start any kind of relationship. I don't run around telling everybody about anime but if someone asks what I did over the weekend I'll mention watching some Bleach or DBZ. Surprisingly a lot of the time they will mention anime they like too, because it's not actually some weird shameful secret like it was 20 years ago
>>10765345I'll also add that even people my age who don't watch it currently, at least grew up with Pokemon, sailor moon, and DBZ, and have fond memories of them, and know anime is more than children's cartoons and hentai
>>10765345>>10765105I don't know about "mainstream" but there was definitely a growth in the size of anime fandom.And in age, too. You mentioned Bleach, and jfc, that started airing in English back in 2006. Think of how much things changed in the fandom and conventions. Remember Yaoi paddles?
>>10765417>remember yaoi paddlesBack in the day you had to get jumped in to Ouran groups with those things
>>10764851We're living the same life... I just cut my hair at home and only go to salons to trim my hair. The solution I've found for me is to book with women 24+ or around my age. Boomers/Aunties and zoomers make too many unnecessary comments considering I'm paying them to just do the job I tell them to do. You know, I don't actually despise the instathot aesthetic, people can wear it if they want. I just wish the normies in my country would realize that's not the only aesthetic ever and people can and do want to look cute or ""outdated""
>>10764281Just get a pair of scissors and cut it yourself. The best bangs I got I cut myself desu, and you have to cut it so often you might as well learn how to do it.
>>10766174Whenever I go to get a haircut I just bring a photo of exactly what I want and I’ve never gotten any comments or “suggestions” other than being asked if I usually part my hair in the middle or to the side.
Does everyone here have an amazing job or how do you afford all that burando?
>>10766273The girls with the biggest wardrobes in my comm have been into lolita for over 10 years. They have normal jobs (like being a teacher), and don't spend money on other things and don't have kids or a car.
>>10766273Yes, good jobs. Brand isn't that expensive. Other people with my job can afford actual designer clothing
>>10766283>my jobWhat job?
>>10766288I'm in tech, but even without a big salary you can afford lolita. All it takes it a steady job, budgeting, and patience. Most poorfags on here are losers working minimum wage, or NEETs getting an allowance from their parents
>>10766303Nice try answering for me but no. Most lolitas with big wardrobes are nerds in their 30s in a STEM field, or with a nerdy husband in a well-paying field. Not 18 yo camgirls
>tfw have to wait another year before seeing my friends again>tfw insanely attractive but too autistically obsessed with morality and ethics to get laid with random women at cons
>>10766315>autistically obsessed with morality and ethics to get laid with random women at consYou have my interest
>>10766338Human life is too valuable to me to sully or disturb by simply getting laid, possibly feeding into childhood traumas, or leading to despair through one night stands. People think they want sex, but they really just want companionship. Sociopaths only want sex.
>>10766351eww. thank fuck you won't breed.
>>10766358You should have some self-respect.
>>10766362disgusting autists like you need to be sterilized.
>>10766364I'm sorry your dad didn't love you. Not my problem though.
>>10766367>"possibly feeding into childhood traumas"seems like your dad loved you a little *too* much
Does anyone else get really bothered if something doesn't "fit" in their wardrobe?My wardrobe is super cohesive except a couple of pieces. They're great pieces and I wear them and like them, but they stick out like a sore thumb and it really ruffles my petti.
>>10766371Why do you value sex so much? It's not normal, you know. Probably trauma.
>>10766315>too autistically obsessed with morality and ethics to get laid with random women at consyo, you won't get girls like that. they can sense your desperation and they don't like that
>>10766408Nayrt but that implies that you don’t value sex as much, and knowing people like you, you probably value sex more than anyone else but as a “bond between souls” instead of a simple act of physical pleasure. Which is extra pathetic. I hope you can learn to love without shoving your dick into someone.
I got my new base bag but the plush I want to use for the display ends up taking up most of the space in inside the bag. Now I don't know what to do with this useless bag.
>>10766432yo, girls don't get give a shit about your personality. if you're not physically attractive, you won't get laid period
>>10766432That's fine, I'm okay with having dignity.>>10766435lol
>>10766440Well, do you see sex as a bond?
>>10766446>sociopath who only views others as objects attempts to gaslight someone who has respect for humanslol fuck off
>>10766447You’re saying I’m the one who sees people as objects? I’m not the one who needs sex in order to love. I can love people without it just fine. What about you?
>>10766448Nta but are you the one asexual who wishes he/she had an asexual SO?
Finessed some Vivienne RHS in white. The stars align in me and my wallet's favor finally!! Thank you once again to my completely obliterated sleep schedule for saving my wallet from not being even severely dented as well. I don't actually fucking know if I can walk in an RHS or not though. Seriously. I'm so happy either way. I've been making excellent progress in the gym the past year or so, feeling better in my own skin and in clothing, and now I feel like I'm being rewarded by the universe itself. >>10766196If you're that same anon, I'm pretty jelly. I confess I don't really book with aunties to do my hair because the amount of unnecessary comments and suggestions is uncomfortable. Please just cut my hair and I'll pay you, you don't have to like the cut.>>10766186It was sooo nice when I finally learned how to style and cut my own bangs some few years back. Now, if only I could learn how to trim my own hair... I'm not really excited about the prospect of testing a bunch of DIY methods.
I am a sad, bitter and resentful individual. I cope with humour. Archetypical heroism really speaks to my heart.I am working on a reboot pitch. At first I intended for a tonally similar story that would hopefully inspire in others my feelings for the original. But the more I work on it the further I move from it. I have introduced new characters and rewritten the old ones. It is starting to resemble the modern reboots that everyone complains about, myself included. My humour and my bitterness are sipping into it as well. I hate the world with everything that hurts in me. The pitch is becoming my attempt at a rebellion. To inspire children to be different so that this world I hate so much might change one day. My message has to do with overcoming the effects of childhood abuse, learning humility, and seeking wisdom from others.Idk if I should continue like this, go back to my original idea, or scrap this pipedream. At least I'm doing something fun that keeps my mind occupied.
>>10766196I used to always bring a picture but that didn’t really help. They’d still complain about it being outdated and ask if I didn’t want an “updated” version of “essentially the same cut” (which I did once and regretted immensely because it looked like shit), or they’d agree to cut my hair like the pictures but grossly misinterpreted them, or they’d try to convince me that it wouldn’t look good on me because my face or neck or hair type or whatever didn’t look exactly like the model. One women point-blank refused to cut my hair like the picture because the model was half-Japanese and I’m white. My hair is completely straight but apparently straight bangs only work on hair with Asian DNA?Honestly I’m super burnt out on hairdressers. They never listen to what I actually want and always think they know better, but even if I give them free rein I leave with a mediocre haircut at best. Plus they’re often really rough with my scalp and even at the higher-end salons they often have nasty acrylic nails that my hair gets stuck in so a salon wash and cut can hardly be called a luxurious experience. And it’s expensive as hell, for what? Yeah I’ll just do it at home thanks.
>>10766351You need to describe your feelings better, this sounds like an absolute cope
>>10766518>At least I'm doing something fun that keeps my mind occupied.Just keep doing what you're doing then. Don't worry so much about writing the most amazing story or whatever.
>>10766549It's a cope to see value in human life? What a strange notion. For some reason people really hate hearing this, as if I'm not allowed to be empathetic and thoughtful. Either they suspect I am lying, or it triggers their sex-haver instinct to condemn anyone who doesn't blindly adhere to the biological imperative. I happen to appreciate people for who they are.
>>10758041I stopped wearing lolita out and attending cons/meetups because of this. Social media is cancer.
>>10766534> One women point-blank refused to cut my hair like the picture because the model was half-Japanese and I’m white.Let me guess, that bitch is white, isn’t she
>>10766567>It's a cope to see value in human lifeYou haven't made a connection between your voluntary celibacy and seeing value in life>it triggers their sex-haver instinct to condemn anyone who doesn't blindly adhere to the biological imperativeDo you consider yourself to be antinatalist?
>>10766579>You haven't made a connection between your voluntary celibacy and seeing value in lifeyou're dumb>Do you consider yourself to be antinatalist?nah
>>10766567You sound perfectly fine anon, just ignore these bitter hags