>>10703330you gulls do new year’s resolutions? I think im gonna do one this year.
Yeah actually, I want to start making money from commissions to grow as an artist and for extra burando funds. Was thinking of either offering OCs, stickers, or gifs. Will it be a successful venture? Who knows, but it’s something I haven’t explored in full yet, and that I am finally in a good place to tackle.I also want to finish all of my accessory and costume crafting that is taking up the spare closet. Cheers to a new year of creative adventures gulls :)
>>10711217Start getting into vtuber commissions, they can run 250-750 USD a pop depending on how good you are
>>10711215Lose weight, I am in the overweight category now and it's really getting me down. My dresses fit but I'm at the max waist for a lot of them (29 in), so I'm getting back onto my intermittent fasting and running routine that helped me in the past.
>>10711225This, even if it's live 2D, you'll make bank.I made my own freebie vtuber in free software, and like, you can tell
>>10711217>Will it be a successful venture?only if you know how to market and are at least halfway decent
>>10711215learn how to ride a bikei already started and now my knees are all scraped... sucks>>10711227good luck! i believe in you!! OMAD works for me pretty well
>>10711225>>10711228Too intrusive for me desu, but thanks for the idea. I’m sticking to insta, twitter, and probably Tumblr for my own fun. >>10711231No worries about either of those, I’ve simply prioritized getting my main job and other life things so much that I didn’t have the time and schedule for it before now.
>>10711217always wanted to learn how to draw but im too impatient. at least the tablet I got years ago is being used to play osu now. >>10711227gl anon I find that talking about it all the time keeps me motivated. feel free to be an obnoxious gymcel >>10711235are you learning on your own? that’s kinda funny to picture lol rooting for you
not new years specific but atuff i've been working on improving: trying to lose some more weight, repainting my room, reading more, and some romance stuffgood luck to everyone itt, i believe in you gulls!
Also going to be losing weight this year, sticking to therapy is another big one for me. I have a feeling 2022 will be better than whatever this was, and if it won't I'll just have to make it better. Good luck, everyone!>>10711215Thanks soup, I love autistic usakumya now
My only goal for the new year is to finish doing a big clean of my place. I own too much shit.
>>10711266this gull made it >>10705479
>>10711239>are you learning on your own?yeah, my parents never taught me i keep falling off bc i have trouble balancing and i get nervous when families walk on the bike trail. i'm scared i'm going to run a baby overthanks for the good vibes you're souper
I want to go from 73kg to 58kg this year. I used to have a nice waist of 65cm, now I'm at 80cm and i hate it. I let myself go during quarantine
i want to start streaming, get on ADHD meds, finally start my webcomic. i also want to do a cross country road trip at some point.
Wanna loose 15lbs next year. A doable goal, easy to focus on. After that trying to get regular access to a piano so i can practice. Plus having an intellectual pursuit helps take my mind off of food and helps me loose weight.
Wanna gain a decent bit of muscle so I can be tough man.
>>10711215this year i'm gonna>lose 5-10 pounds and try to keep it off, i'm happy with my body but i wanna do it for my health>keep lifting and doing cardio, not for weight loss but for strength and for heart health>worry less about studying & grinding for work because i just don't need to anymore--instead focus on doing the hobbies and things that i love>pare down my wardrobe of all the things that don't "spark joy" (sorry i know it's overused), because i seriously don't need 100 dresses, over 100 otks, 90 headpieces, it's getting overwhelming and i don't need most of them in my life anymore>be kinder to myself and do better about keeping up with my friends>overhaul my normie wardrobe into a cute, mix-n-match functional capsule with high quality pieces>learn to cook more tasty dishes, also learn more baking techniques>keep a tidy home>keep up with a nightly skincare routine>get back into pursuing music just for fun>send letters to family and friends more often to show them how much i love them--everybody loves a nice letter>forgo any serious shoop, because i'm starting to really love & accept my actual facethat's a longass list but i think it's all doable. anyway happy new year gulls, good luck, and see you on the flipside!
man almost all of these resolutions are weight related, is there anybody on this board actually content with their current weight? my resolution is to wear lolita at least twice a month, i work in labs a lot so finding time to wear it can be tough, but ill have more time this particular semester to though! :)
>>10711383i think it's just because the pandemic made a lot of people legit depressed/unable to get out and walk or do normal activities that they're used to. i'm just glad most of the weight loss goals posted here are healthy and reasonable. i'm content with my weight, but know i could definitely do better about watching what i eat for the sake of my future health. anyway good luck with your resolutions anon!
Losing 20kg welp. Shame me gulls. I hate my body. And also not killing myself
>>10711386thats good anon! dont kill urself :)
>>10711386And trying to learn sewing again, on a more positive note
>>10711388Thanks nonnie :). Hope your resolutions will come true too
Lose 30 pounds, grow my hair out, and go to a dentist
>>10711389Sewing is such a nice skill and hobby. I love it. Whenever I'm on vacation i sew myself 3 dresses and it keeps me busy and creative.
>>10711383lolita is a fat girl fashion
Save at least 4k, move out of the house I'm living in with roommates and finally move in with my bf, only buy dream lolita pieces and pad out my other wardrobe since I'm transition away from daily lolita to only wearing it every now and then, take better care of my skin, and eat more since I have a horrible habit of eating once a day after I get home from work.
>>10711385Quarantine combined with having money and depression led me to eat fast food almost everyday and be lazy. It made me gain 7kgs. I was very stupid but at the time it seemed it wouldn't make any difference because no one was going to see me anyway, and i didn't even think i would want to feel pretty again. Getting into lolita again made me realize how much I had changed
>>10711272ah yeah my parents were always busy growing up too but my bike had training wheels. sounds like you got the hang of it already if you're hitting trails. probably just needa be more confident in your ability to ride a bike!you know you gulls trying to lose weight could get together and start like an accountability group or smthin. same goal and hobby so there shouldnt be any judgment. >>10711290vtube?>>10711380that's gonna be my resolution too
>>10711227>)same here nonnie, we can do it!!
>>10711429nah i probably won't do a vtube avatar, i appreciate the artwork but i don't have any interesting ideas for a character and i find the really "aesthetic" streams pretty distracting.
>>10711235I didn’t learn to ride a bike until I was 18. Lots of scrapes in the beginning but it’s one of my favorite ways to get outside now.For my own feel, just got hit with international shipping fees. It’s painful but bulk ordering stops me from making smaller orders throughout the year so I guess it’s okay.
>>10711436oh okay what are you planning on stream? art and making your webcomic?
Man why are white girls so ugly. I just want to be a cute Asian.
>>10711465probably art, minecraft, little indie/obscure games. i don't really plan on making it big but i want an excuse to play more games and "put myself out there" more, maybe make some friends.
I want to lose weight but I’ve given up on being cgl skinny. I’m in the 130-135 range currently and I’d be happy to get down ten pounds, which I can do by eating out less and being more active.
>>10711537Even when i was /cgl/ skinny (about 95 lbs, 5’3) I still had people commenting negatively on the size of my body in CoF threads. You can’t really win here, just focus on your health nonna!
I guess I'll throw my hat in the ring and say that one of my resolutions is putting on some muscle. ive been working out fairly consistently since october but ive been slacking the past few weeks. I'm gonna start hitting the gym again tomorrow. Good luck to all of you anons with your muscle gain/weight loss goals! Besides that though, I also want to get my associates degree by the end of the year. I had a bit of a late start with college cause of covid and all but I'm finally getting back on track.
>>10711556what degree are you after? yeah I been slacking for the last few weeks too with both eating right / working out.
>>10711522sounds fun anon I'd watch ur stram if you ever get it up and running
>>10711537If it makes you feel better, I'd say a good majority of people commenting on other's weights on here are generally scrotes and coomers who haven't ever seen what a normal, unshopped, non-model woman looks like.
>>10711562Criminal Justice. I'm not 100% which route im gonna take with the degree but I think its a start down the right path
Hoping to finally move to Japan next year. That 3 week window in November when borders were open for visas was a shining light to a very overdue move. Now with the new variant literally no one other than Japanese residents have been able to leave and enter. I plan to downsize my wardrobe but honestly this month I’ve overspent… probably to compensate for feeling down. I have to renew my COE and just keep waiting. No other goals other than saving up money for future spending when I finally get there.
>>10711568While you're right about that currently (going into any of the obvious coomer threads here will prove it since you see them spewing shit about how none of the waists, boobs, or faces are ever photoshopped), it's always been common on here for girls to call each other fat as a dig.
I saw my first lolita in the wild yesterday at the Colbrookdale Railroad.I was with my family who don't know I know anything about this stuff so I kept quiet. They said some things which would irritate lolitas if it weren't out of ignorance like questioning the amount of frills on the coat and that it "must be custom".Only I could see the obvious Innocent World branding on her socks.
>>10711227>fasting with only one form of cardioThose aren't going to help much with your goal nor are those the healthiest ways to lose weight. Try eating less and eating better too, nonna.
>>10711575Hello fellow Singaporean lolita
>>10711602Running is my main form of exercise, but I also dance, go on walks, and do body strength training When I do IF, I make sure to eat super healthy and usually end up eating less anyway because of the time constraints. I find that this is what works best for me historically.
Lose 2 BMI points, get invisalign, read atleast 30 books, get to 50k words in my manuscript, buy and prepare the plot of land where we're going to build a house in 2023.
>>10711215I've got like 3 new years resolutions>Get bigger muscles>Get to a lower bf%>Talk to more people out if the house and in cons, just be generally more social to people out of my friend groupI also hope to make some big changes in life this year with a career swap and moving, so I'm excited for 2022 in general.
>>10711635>>Get to a lower bf%Why did I read this as boyfriend percentage Dam dude you must be beating them off with a stick
>>10711635Have you considered wearing lifts?
Learn better ways to save up money and go to 39kg.
>>10711645How tall are you?
>>10711624I’m actually Taiwanese American from California. But I do love Singapore! I had a blast visiting family there before this craziness.
How long should I wait for an EMS package to be delayed before I start panicking? Tracking said the package departed Japan 2 weeks ago, am I fucked?
>>10711901Give it a bit longer. Shipping has been really really weird lately.
>>10711383Lolita and cosplay tend to attract a lot of people with EDs, and glorify the behavior. But I also think that people here play it up a lot more for shits and giggles. I'm a healthy weight (i.e. BMI 21), and am happy with how I look but I know that I need to actively exercise more, not for weight loss reasons, but for actual physical and mental wellness
So, a woman who used to be my friend backstabbed me and said that I was harassing her because I commissioned some art that has my OC with her favorite guy from Yu-Gi-Oh...So I blocked her and made a beware and reported her to the con I went to..The con didn't believe me because she has them convinced that SHE is the victim. She even turned one of my friends against me and he blocked me...We were friends for over 10 years...I had made a beware on her and she had her friends attack me on Facebook. Another friend of mine tols me how she doesn't like people who cosplay the same characters as her and she assaulted someone's significant other.. Then when this person went to the police to file a restraining order they wouldn't do it because they said they didn't believe a woman would assault another woman..I'm terrified to post her cosplay name here because I don't want to get attacked. I hope people know who I am talking about...And no, It is not MomoKun. We need to erase this bullshit idea that women cannot assaults other women and men..I'm depressed that this is goinf on and I lost a friend because I defended myself against this psycho...I saw a Youmacon 20117 thread here that mentioned her pulling shit as well..So at this point what am I supposed to do when my local con comes around again? Look over my shoulder every minute and wait for her to come after me and pull something and hope enough people see it so maybe THEN the con will do something? Should I just go ahead and say her name and let whatever happens happen?
>>10711919You sound underaged and unhinged. You reported someone to a con because they got mad at you? Jesus fucking Christ I can't stand kids these days.
Did you even read the screencaps?.....She attacks people for cosplaying the same characters she does and she assaulted someone...
>>10711919Some random BS said in a 4chan thread from a while back has like 0 bearing on anything, no one here really cares all that much. Also not personal army.To answer your OP definitely don't go name dropping or dumping personal info on people, that's like a huge fucking no. Most you can do is mention it to staff, and if they harass you or stalk you then you do something about it. It sucks to say, but it's reality, unless there is some documents of repeated offense/police documents and proceedings(not just a report literally anyone can file those), then not much can be done until it happens at the con itself. If this happened nearly 5 years ago at this point just forget it and ignore them, report if they pull shit on you, but that's about all you can do. Reporting "guys this totally happen look facebook texts and stuff" really doesn't go far to con staff until formal/confirmed reports to third parties can verify it, for all they know you just have a vendetta against this one person.>Then when this person went to the police to file a restraining order they wouldn't do it because they said they didn't believe a woman would assault another woman.I doubt that, most restraining orders have to come from something drastic not a one time spat between some people with clear intent to repeat offend/stalk.Unless you have some official documentation that isn't LEGIT HAPPENED FB TEXTS, with prior con staff hosting the event then there really isn't much anyone can do to verify it. If it happens again report it when it is happening, something from +3 years ago is pretty hard to validate from anyone.
>>10711943just make some fake messages and call the police
>>10711943Lurk moar, not personal army, let it go and seek some help. Furthermore, rereading your post makes it sounds like you took some minor thing out of proportion and blew it up on a psycho level. Seems like if you just ignored her and told her to fuck off this would have been avoided entirely but actually blasted her on social media and con staff? lol.
>>10711919You both sound like crazy teenagers. Making a "beware" and reporting someone because they got pissed at you is childish. >they didn't believe a woman would assault another womanCops would not say this. Assault between anyone is taken seriously when it's reported.Please leave this site child.
>>10711979You obviously have not seen how people treat male victims of female abusers. They get laughed at and told that they cannot be victims.
>>10711979Also, I wouldn't care if it just pissed her off, but she felt the need to go to my friend and cry to him as if I were harassing her. And he even messaged me about it..She has him wrapped around his finger. She is manipulative and makes people think she is a victim. She even said she left the Yu-Gi-Oh community because she was being harassed...Mind you she is a grown ass woman...
>>10711997>You obviously have not seen how people treat male victims of female abusers. They get laughed at and told that they cannot be victims.This only happens in hollywood/tv drama's, every case that is actually reported gets a case number and assigned to someone. Restraining orders though take a fair amount of evidence to show that such a measure needs to be taken, often involving an actual court hearing. T. Actually had a friend get a restraining order from ex alcoholic gf. It's easy and does happen but no one is going to give you a restraining order over a statement alone about someone getting mad that a cartoon character was shown up on paper or some girl was mean to me at some conventions source:trust me bro.It's more likely the report was never filed because the dude, did what you should have done, and said fuck it I'll just ignore this whole shit. Going about there lives.>>10712000> she felt the need to go to my friend and cry to him as if I were harassing her.If you actually went on social media name dumping her, reported her to a convention staff of drama outside the convention, and then went on half of what you said you are doing/worrying about. I'm not seeing exactly what she is doing wrong thus far. This even happened 4, almost 5 years ago, and you're STILL going about it asking 4chan of all fucking places for evidence you don't have but want to make some based off some random ass post from an anon who's dad works at nintendo.Seriously, go on about your life, if she does something at a con or a public place that is in line with harassment, immediately alert someone to it. However, right now you seem to actually wanting to not bury some stupid spat over what essentially seems to be your fault for taking it too far.
>>10711997>You obviously have not seen how people treat male victims of female abusers.I have. Regularly. They stick up for and confort them. Anyone talking shit about the victim is shamed.
>>10712000And what does the community and con have to do with that? When you report someone, you do it not because you had a fight with your friend, you do it if what happened has harmed people like assault, theft or cheating. Are you the type of kid that calls 911 because someone said something mean to you?
>>10711901No, it's sitting on the tarmac at the airport. It will ship eventually.
What would you do if you were a guy for a day?
>>10712039Take a walk at night.
>>10712040What kind of hellhole do you live in where you can't take night walks as a woman?
>>10712041In that case, a majority of the world is a hellhole
>>10712042You must be american...
>>10712040unironically move to central europe anon
>>10711556>guess I'll throw my hat in the ring and say that one of my resolutions is putting on some muscle. ive been working out fairly consistently since october but ive been slacking the past few weeks.I know your feelAnd my new year resolution would beI dont knowMaybe getting a cosplay gf (will probably never hapoen tough)Or I gonna start cosplay myself
>>10712049And that's better...
>>10712049Women get assaulted here too
>>10712039A day? Masturbate and test physical abilities.
>>10712076So just masturbate
>>10712039i'd see what the difference is in masturbating. And then i'd furiously work out, I heard guys get stronger faster and hopefully some of the gains would stick
>>10712079Yes, I would.
This weekend is going to be my first weekend (possibly) to myself since early November. I know it's New Years but I realllllly just want to spend a quiet weekend in and relax.But everyone is bugging me to come out and do things and I'm just so burned out that I don't want to...
>>10712039Wear a sick ouiji coord
>>10712039Dress like visual kei bandman.
>>10712099>>10712105i take back my hypothetical masturbation plans, that is way better
>>10712099>>10712105Fuck you're right, I need to do this and take pics.
>>10712113I mean, you could do both. I probably would, separate activities of course. I suspect it wouldn't be as good as orbiting Venus, so the activity would mostly be for science.
>>10712043Imagine being this willfully ignorant
I'm getting ptsd flashbacks to Lor's clownlita with that wht × red colorway. Are we sure there isn't a baloon weiner dog hidden in the print? Honk, honk.
>>10712160> Are we sure there isn't a baloon weiner dog hidden in the print?There literally is one. Check again
Narcissist here, just wanna sadpost and feel sorry for myself. Don't need (you)s feel free to skip, thanks. (I'm not a good person, so content warning)>Crippling intimacy issues after long (and I mean long) and only relationship ended.>Been like, almost 2 years now and still I'm not back to whatever normal looks like.>Hate that I wasted so much of my life and am this old now.>Hate that I settled for so little and ruined so many opportunities for happiness.>Hate how weak I've been and still am.>Hate how I'm still not my dream weight at this age and haven't been since I was a teenager despite working so hard and getting so close and struggling with ED.>Hate how I can't erase the last decade of my life and start fresh and innocent with someone new.>Hate how I'll never feel good enough for someone no matter how much they seem to want me. I feel like he just doesn't know the real me yet and I'm just good at "tricking" them all from a distance.>Getting addicted to the feeling of be pinned over from a distance and never getting any closer cause its the only way I can feel remotely desirable. Gone as far as going on dates or two and then ghosting.>Hate how now I'm letting my crazy potentially hurt and play with other people's hearts when I know I have no intention of being anything more than a "tease" no matter how much I like the guy.>My job which I loved started getting messy with how many coworkers I was entertaining in my mind and unable to stop flirting with which made me feel like even shittier of a person, yet I couldn't seem to stop myself.>Was invited out for drinks after work one night with coworkers but it ended up just being me and a new hire and I didn't have a flirty dynamic with cause he never acted anything but professional.>After a few drink suddenly that all changed and we were getting emotionally intimate then he says he always had thing for me.>Then he kisses me and I just let it happen. First time since anyone but my ex.continued.
>>10712245>I always thought he was really cute and sweet, so I am more than swept up in it all.>I kiss back, and I feel just a release and moment of mindless bliss.>After some more drinking we get even more gushy and he kisses me a few more times.>Wont ever initiate so I wont feel responsible because I'm trash.>The the reality of whats going on settles in and I realize I didn't even see him in this way till that night and I'm allowing myself to get caught up in the moment.>Realize how insanely drunk he's gotten and help get him cut off and sent home safely.>He texts and calls me for days, mostly while drunk, trying to get me to come see him and I take things further. Other circumstances around him not to do with me made it a horrible idea, so I was "lucky" enough to have an out without feeling culpable. (Again, cause trash)>He quits due to his own drama and now I'm getting even more attention and coddling because everyone is worried about what happened between him and I which makes me feel simultaneous good and then guilty. I have them all fooled as well.>Eventually the "coldest" coworker who also is in a very committed relationship goes from cold and distant to protective over me and emotionally invested in my well-being. Giving me advice on getting over my ex, helping me at work and snapping at anyone he thinks is being rude to me, and insisting on giving me rides home, ect. Also super respectful, though, he never crossed a line.>I managed to fool even him in the end, so now I know that if he falls for me his life would literally be ruined by it. And worse yet because he was the last person I'd expect to like me I'm feeling even more hooked to my addiction.>Break down one night because he was going to wait for over an hour to take me home and I was just keeping him waiting and feeling like shit. Realized I had to stop this because I knew what would happen so I got into a fight with him and told him to go home without and butt out of my life.continued 2
>>10712249>He gets upset and says a few things but nothing too mean and then leaves, he totally didn't understand what was really up.>I break down crying cause no one was around that late except in the back for a good 5 minutes.>Finish up and then write out my notice before handing it in to the night supervisor who also doesn't get it and tries to get me to stay.>Can't explain anything well, just have to give it up before things got worse.>Never went back and haven't seen anyone since.>Now staying with family holed up like a recluse for weeks and feel like I'm at my lowest point.>The night of the kiss plays out over and over in my mind and how nice it was to be kissed and the manic feeling of living in a dream.>The have the depressing reality hit where I feel even worse for being that close to it and knowing what I'm missing.>Don't want another job where my pickme shit will surface no matter what, but also get horribly depressed secluding myself away. Don't have the motivation to keep up with a remote job.>Feel so tired of it all and like my life is effectively over and have more and more trouble finding a point to going on.>2022 looks like nothing but more misery.The end.
>>10712245from an ex pick-me who used to get off to being desirable/“tricking” people into liking me before i snapped out of it and got my shit together: it can only last so long. being “desirable” enough to pull off that kind of bs has a rapidly approaching expiration date, and once you don’t have it anymore everyone will see right through you. i get that it’s hard not to sabotage yourself into doing it over and over again while you still can but you seriously just need to be alone, ACTUALLY alone, not flirting with anyone, for a long period of time nonny. love isn’t a game and it’ll really suck if you never grow out of this just to look back on your life and realize you’ve never stopped being a piece of shit. i hope this doesn’t sound too rude or preachy but you sound like how i used to be, and dangerous games win dangerous prizes.
>Finally get a gf after 6 years of being single>She lives in another countrySo what is the anime con scene like in Mexico?
>>10712245>>10712249>>10712251Get therapy. Please.
>>10712251Agree with the other anon. For your own well being and others get some help. Seriously. You're just going to keep hurting people and yourself in an unending toxic cycle.
>>10711227please exercise as well.
>>10711635I've cosplayed Diavolo before, your shirt is looking good. :)
>>10712039jack off like there's no tomorrow
>>10712164Uh oh, don’t tell Jeff Koons.
>>10712304Girls can already do this while men are done after they empty the tank. Do better nonny
>>10712039masturbate.what would you do if you were a girl for day nonny?
>>10712113You could masturbate wearing a sick ouiji coord.>>10712124You could do both, and masturbate in each.
>>10712039Get a urinating in public charge.
>>10712346Yeah... but we can't pump ours like a squirt gun. On that subject of being a guy for a day:I'd wanna' cream pie someone too. You know, after I typed that, I wanted to take it back, but I guess it wouldn't be honest if I took that back. Anon wants honesty.
>>10712406>I'd wanna' cream pie someone too.This, and there's nothing wrong that. Since I'm lesbian who has fantasized about being male since I was a child, I'd obviously want to try this at least once.
>>10712039Buy one of those fluorescent condoms and play star wars with my newly acquired willyAlso masturbateEat my boyfriend’s ass if he would let meEnding the day with walking alone at night
>>10712039Masturbate and see if it actually feels like anything. I feel nothing when masturbating, but I heard it’s harder for girls to figure it out.
>>10712404And get Krispy Kreme sauce on my burando? I shudder at the thought.
>>10712406Cool idea only if my partner has turned into a girl. If not that’s a bad baby daddy situation waiting to happen, not to mention I’ve cheated.
>>10712432>it’s harder for girls to figure it out.just use your clit, idiot.
>>10712441I’ve tried and it feels like nothing. It sucks.
>>10712446Buy a wand viberator and try it on your clit, maybe look at porn/hentai or something- might help? Or maybe you just have zero sex drive rip
>>10712432For one thing, you have to be in the mood for it. Secondly, ignore what they do in porn, it's all about clit stimulation. Peneration is fine, but only few women actually orgasm from that alone. >>10712449I wouldn't recommend porn or hentai if they're not already into it. That stuff has fucked up people mentally in regards to sex. Use imagination instead or if you are going to use porn, start with softcore romantic stuff actually meant for women. On /h/ there is a hentai thread for women that has this kind of thing.
Man I just really hate getting stuck in the Blue Mountains twice in a row
YOU GUYS COOMERS
>>10712489and you're the biggest coomer of them all
>>10712496cooming before marriage is a sin
>>10712449I really do just have no sex drive. And porn does nothing for me either>>10712457And what should I do if I’ve never been in the mood and still can’t?>start with softcore romantic stuffNo thanks, that will only make me feel worse lol. It will just put more pressure on me by reminding me that sex is a necessary part of romance and that I need to want it sooner or later. I can’t connect romance and sex yet unfortunately, and every time I’ve tried has only pushed me away more.
>>10712537If you've never been in the mood, then simply don't do it. You don't have to masturbate and you don't have to have sex. It's going to seem like you have to because sex is pushed onto everyone and everything but at the end of it you don't have to do if you have no desire to. I'm not asexual but I do have a low libido so I understand where you're coming from.
>>10712559Nta but I agree. I used to have high libido and for the last few years just haven't because of declining mental health and chronic illnesses, and my partner is understanding and willing to wait until I do finally get in the mood or go without. You don't have to be super horny or mistreated or anything really so long as you're okay with it and the pressure or judgement that comes with not wanting sex as much as other people is silly and just as sexist or wrong as being prudish and shut shaming.
>>10712537Anon, don't force yourself to do anything you're uncomfortable with or that you don't want. There are plenty of ace folks out there or non-ace people who don't mind. I'm 31, have had three long term relationships in my life, and have not had sex.
Why do these threads always descend into talking about sex? Why are you all so gross and coombrained? I'm beginning to think people are right when they say cosplayers and lolitas are sexually deviant sluts. Talk about something more interesting for a change, femcoomers. This is why normal women like myself don't want to interact with women who consider anime a 'hobby' and why normal men wouldn't be caught dead seriously dating one of you.
>>10712584Probably because most of these threads are chock full of larpers and scrote trolls.
>>10712584You didn't even try with this bait
>>10712584>lolitas are sexually deviant slutsi don't speak for everyone but i am a very asexual lolita. i genuinely get disgusted about sex/heavily avoid coomers and to a point i adopted the generic lolita personality of being "prim and proper lovely"
>>10712584Most lolitas I know that aren't trad/npcs are sexual deviants (but not sluts), at least the lesbians/bisexuals are. Those things aren't really equivalent.>>10712404Extremely based nonnie
>>10712590And everyone is replying to it too. Gulls are quick to bite.
>>10712058Best of luck for both of those goals! Who/what are you thinking of cosplaying? >>10712457>I wouldn't recommend porn or hentai if they're not already into it.I second this. Stay far far away from the coomer lifestyle if you can. That stuff can mess you up
I don't care. I want a nonmonogmaous degen relationship. Hate me idgaf.
>>10712584Because most of this board is troons who are horny on HRT, and the rest are autist women. This board is dead anyways. Let autists be autists
>>10712584>"normal women like myself">posts on 4chan
>>10712351If I could plan in advance maybe I'd try to get some lolita, but generally I think I'd try to experience how it is.
>>10712595asexual people should kill themselves.
>>10712704I come back here around New Year to just see how you freaks are doing. I used to cosplay in my late teens, want to move to Japan, want an Asian boyfriend - all of the weird stuff you losers are into. Now I work as an auditor and have a fiance from my own country. Never done "sex work", never had casual sex, never sent nudes to guys I've only met online. By these facts alone I'm better than 99% of /cgl/.
>>10712716You forgot where you were never asked for nudes or casual sex either.
>>10712718Imagine thinking it's a mark of honor and distinction to send nudes to random guys online and have casual sex with men you barely know. God damn, I'm sorry you hate your parents this much. So glad I got out of this scene.
>>10712716If you genuinely believed you were superior to 4chan posters, you wouldn't feel the need to try and justify your life choices to those exact 4chan posters you're complaining about. I do hope your LARP dreams become true some day so that you can finally stop coming to anonymous imageboards to quell your insecurities, though.
>>10712721The thing is I'm not even that extraordinary or successful, another normal friend of mine already made partner at a law firm for example. It's only compared to losers like cosplayers and lolitas, whose ultimate dream in life is to move to Japan and/or do "sex work" that I'm vastly superior. Stop cosplaying. Stop obsessively consuming shitty media just because it's Japanese. Stop having sex with men you barely know. Get a life. You'll thank me in five years.
>>10712722>It's only compared to losers like cosplayers and lolitas, whose ultimate dream in life is to move to Japan and/or do "sex work" that I'm vastly superior.That's an embarrassingly low bar.>Stop cosplaying. Stop obsessively consuming shitty media just because it's Japanese. Stop having sex with men you barely know.I don't do any of these things, though.>You'll thank me in five years.Considering you claim to have grown from that point of your life, but are still arguing on /cgl/ years later, I doubt it. Happy, well-adjusted people who are content in life don't do that.
>>10712722anon myself and pretty much all my lolita friends are reasonably successful, happy people who work in the tech industry and just like cute clothes. if you think every lolita wants to be a sex worker you need to get out of your basement and touch some grass—lolita sex workers are few and far between and largely looked down upon, anyway. you are not vastly superior, you sound like a weird loser.
>>10712723anon sounds like he peaked in middle school
>>10712724Yes, Yukapon and Venus Angelic are examples to follow. Not like every famous western lolita is gross slutty trash.
>>10712716Casual sex is fun though
>>10712746Literally my New Years resolution is to work through my issues and have more sex. I ain’t gonna be young and cute forever and I feel like when I’m old and wrinkly I’ll regret not taking advantage of my looks/libido when I had it. Prudes can die mad about it.
>>10712708huuuuuh nonnie? what did we do even?we barely exist and are quite easy to avoid
>>10712747Imagine being the father of this girl and knowing your daughter is bragging about having being a hoe on a fucking cosplay board as her new year's resolution.
>>10712749Imagine being a dusty basement dwelling scrote who can’t fathom the possibility of a woman wanting to have sex because it’s something that has not and will not ever occur within his pov.
>>10712748>>10712708I used to be part of a group with some asexuals and they'd often shut down conversations about sex. I quietly supported that because I'm uncomfortable with sex talk, so it was convenient for me, but eventually I realized that asexuals have no bigger right to avoid sex talk than heterosexuals have to avoid gay sex talk, so it was actually somewhat problematic of me to support that.But I really just want so stop caring about what's right and instead do what feels right. Maybe I should just have kept supporting them in ending sextalk instead of becoming more neutral to the issue.
>>10712750Don't need to say anything to you, you are a typical 4chan girl with a low level of academic achievement, no future, dead end job, no friends and a terrible relationship with your father (or none at all). You already lost long ago.
>>10712749Weird to be so judgmental about what we as humans are hardwired to do. It’s just sex. It’s really not that big of a deal unless someone’s out here forcing people.
>>10712753Men are also "hard wired" to rape you if you dress up like a whore and make yourself sexually available through drugs and alcohol. Deal with it (and stop orgasming from rape and then calling it trauma lmao).
>>10712752Kek I’ve got an Ivy League MBA, work in tech making over 200k a year and my dad is honestly the coolest. In fact part of the reason why my sex life is stunted is because I put all my focus into my academics and career and now I’m 26 and realizing I want more sexual experiences while it’s still easy for me to do that. Cry about it.
>>10712754Im a dude. So rape me I guess ? I get the impression you can’t even get your dick hard enough with your own hand the ole hentai haven, much less stick it in anybody. May as well get castrated at this point. God incels are such trash.
>>10712755You seem based, wishing you the best of luck
>>10712751ah, i truly apologize that you had such an experience with those kinds of people. they just sound like they weren’t the most mature people around and i personally don’t avoid “sex talk” unless it’s 1 to 1 personal. if i’m in a group setting and people talk about it i just mentally phase out for a lil bit then come back when that topic is over doing what you think lines up with your values/what feels right is also extremely important too, if you’re uncomfortable with the topic it’s okay to say so and find yourself a group of people who you can safely avoid that kinda thing with. also also, depending on the person there may be very personal reason why said asexuals shut it down every time it came up, but i don’t mean that as a way of defending them.
>>10712755>Ivy League MBA>26Why do you lie? Any sponsored (i.e. worthwhile) MBA happens when you're late 20s/30s at the earliest because that's when any major company will pay for an employee to go down a management route. I've met enough cosplayers to know that most are lower middle class at best, usually working dead end retail at worst. Cosplay isn't a hobby for successful people, and successful, well adjusted people don't need to take random stranger dick to feel "less stunted". Stick to hoovering up your SSRIs and sending nudes to randoms on discord. This lying doesn't behoove you.
>>10712760Kek I guess you’re forgetting you’re hate on for affirmative action. I started my first business in undergrad (also Ivy League) and sold it my junior year. I’m both URM and female. My wonderful father actually paid a good portion of my tuition and I was offered scholarships and a fellowship for women in business. Sorry to trigger your woman hating streak. Also have you just not heard of the tech industry at all? There are lots of cosplayers who work in tech clearing 200-400k a year at my company alone. just because you’re a broke loser stitching together couch coins to pay for your hobby doesn’t mean that speaks for the whole community.
>>10712758They weren't hostile about it in any way, and they may not have done it every time either, maybe they waited for a bit sometimes, but I don't remember. Anyway, they seemed polite and maybe expressed more of a wish for the conversation to be about something else than any stern push to get it where they wanted.I think there might be a difference between doing things according to your values and doing what feels right. If you always try to act in the right way, it's exhausting and you end up doubting yourself constantly. Maybe you could be happier if you just act how you feel like in the moment and care less about being morally perfect and consistent. I may want to try to move more in that direction in the future.I don't really have any reason to be uncomfortable with sex talk though. I just find it embarrassing and shameful. Anyway, I don't think it'd be right to criticize the actions of the asexuals, I just thought of it and wanted to share.
>>10712750>scroteDon't appropriate our language libfem. You don't get to call scrotes scrotes when you admit you can't cope unless you're having low quality sex with different, diseased scrotes you meet on dating apps. Slut Walks and op-eds about how porn is good for women are your style, not actual feminism.
>>10712764Pathetic SCROTE logic
>>10712765Just stick to sex-posi feminism. We don't want people like you ruining feminism any more than you already have. Thanks.
>>10712762At google there’s a whole ass workplace group for cosplay.
>>10712766Ah yes, I’ll do that right away. 100% definitely going to listen to some rando dried up scrote-tard on the internet. Like c’mon dude you can’t honestly think anyone listens or cares about this shit.
>>10712760tfw "lower middle class at best" perfectly describes me and I'm a forever unemployed loser.I'm a bit ashamed and wish I had a successful life like most people
>>10712762>There are lots of cosplayers who work in tech clearing 200-400k a year at my company aloneNTA but most cosplayers here in Europe are exactly how they describe, usually white trash types from broken homes who are obsessed with asian dudes and feel alienated from the wider society (usually because they're just plain odd). Obviously there are exceptions, but among white cosplayers at least this is a pattern. If you look at any of the prominent trips on /cgl/ over the years it's also a pattern. I mean, a good portion of the trips on here, or even just the prominent anons went into OF/professional porn. It's kinda crazy when you look at lists.
>>10712770Continuing: Lolitas depending on where you are can either be exactly the same as trashy cosplayers, or can actually be a group of quite successful people. It really depends on the comm in my experience. But yeah, I do think past a certain age the typical person who is really into cosplay is.... not really the sort of person you want to be in life.
>>10712770That's how it is in the U.K. Hell, a few of our 'well known' cosplayers are literally dead from drugs. One who was really well known on here back in the day is now doing ass rimming porn for websites. It's sad.
>>10712771This. It feels like there’s very little middle ground for Lolita’s. They’re either totally broke, or pretty successful.
>>10712770>>10712772If I ever have kids I would literally rather they were out at bars and clubs than on this website. Every person I've met through /cgl/ Skype and Discord groups was and is a broken fucking mess. I mean, messier than the messy people I know in real life. My cousin went through a shitty period after a breakup where she slept with a couple of equally shitty men, but that was it. The girls I know from the old /cgl/ groups were doing stuff like fucking themselves on cam with toys when they were 14 and sending the videos to predatory dudes, who themselves were pretty well known in these incestuous communities. Then when they hit 18 they went into camming, got heavily intro drugs if they weren't already, got involved with terrible guys they met through 4chan. "Trash" really is the best way to describe them. I don't know how to put it, I've never met people as broken as 4chan people irl, especially other women. 4chan women are a whole order of magnitude more fucked up than "normie" people with baggage.
>>10712775Reminds me of this post. I feel like the same is true of the men who post here. Spending a lot of time on 4chan turned me into a huge misandrist back in the day just because the average 4chan dude is a disgusting, pedophilic sexual predator. The incels are actually the least worst of them too, the very worst are those with the requisite looks to be a big fish in a small pond and get vulnerable 15 year olds they meet on /soc/ and /r9k/ to fuck them (not defending those girls either, they're scum in their own way). But yeah, I just hate 4channers in general. In fact I hate people who are obsessed with Japanese media full stop.
>>10712775This. It cracks me up to see grown women here, who clearly got bullied by the actually-popular girls in middle school for liking anime, trying so hard to seem like 10/10 Stacies with perfect lives, never exhibiting autistic behavior at all, who magically attract men but aren't "like those other pickme libfems sluts!!!"... like, girl, stop coping. If you were really like that, you wouldn't be on 4chan pleading for (You)s. Now go to the mirror and pop that pimple.
>>10712749And how do you think someone becomes a father? You think we're all hatched? Any dad who is obsessed with his daughter's sex life has way more problems to work out than any woman who sleeps around.>>10712776Imagine blaming literal children for being taken advantage of by pedophiles.
>>10712775Maybe you’re the broken one and so you just attract other broken people kek. I’ve actually met a lot of really chill people, male and female on /cgl for con meetups etc. You must be doing something that attracts them lol.
>girl says she wants to have sex Eww what a slut. She must have daddy/pedo problems>girl says she doesn’t want to have sex There’s something wrong with you, ur just a tease, you deserve to be raped Sounds like you just hate women because you have a peanut dick. If a chick wants to have sex, sweet let’s do it. If not, that’s fine too, I’ll find someone else if that’s what I’m looking for. Not sure why dudes on these boards even try to pretend these kind of comments are about anything bother than their weird complex about women. Maybe try working out, cleaning up, and not being a whiny bitch about everything and you might get the chance to lose your v card
If there's one thing 4chan has taught me is that the feminists are right about men.
I wish I were passionate about something.I just suck in every way, and my life sucks but I don't want to say that because there are many in this very thread that has it way worse than me.
somepony give me yous! i am of desiring social interaction to get from it.
>>10712796>There’s something wrong with you, ur just a tease, you deserve to be rapedNobody actually says this beyond subhuman-tier men though. The men who are very keen to tell everyone how they're 'cool with sex positivity' are the worst in my opinion, usually the most predatory too.
>>10712786>Imagine blaming literal children for being taken advantage of by pedophiles.They both deserve each other desu. At 8 I knew I wasn't supposed to talk to strangers or interact with strange men outside of my family. Are you telling me I was more emotionally mature at 8 than these girls are at 15? lol.
>>10712821>Feminists are right about men, they're awful>Also I can't stop having casual sex with random men, I need it and don't slut shame meI legit have never understood this brand of "feminism".
>>10712833teenagers tend to think they're hot shit and can't fully comprehend that they aren't actually as mature as they think they are. there's a deep desire at that age for approval, especially from adults, which means that they tend to be really easy to take advantage of. I never shared nudes or anything like that at 15, but I definitely talked to less than savory adult men because they gave me positive reinforcement and made me feel appreciated in a way that I didn't get from my peers. its fucked up, and I'm not fully exonerating myself here, but in the end the blame falls on the dudes who are being creeps
>>10712832Saying you're not going to flip out because a girl doesn't want to have sex with you doesn't mean your flaunting sex positivity. I genuinely don't get why other guys feel the need to flip out or act like it's huge deal that a girl declines them. It's like shooting free throws. Even the very best shooters miss 1/10 shots that they take. Work on your game instead of resigning yourself to a woe is me incel lifestyle and you'll get there.
>>10712828/) brohoof >>10712823new year new (you). as long as you’re doing better than the (you) last year we gucci. as for hobbies there’s sooooooo many good ones out there just figure out what seems fun to (you)
>>10712833what the fuck is wrong with you? there's a reason why it's literally a crime to solicit underage teens for pics. Even on the convention circuit I look back to a lot of situations where super predatory guys got their rocks of to just teens being teens. The problem is these sick fuckers.
>>10712833No, they both don't literally deserve each other. Do you hear yourself? It doesn't matter if YOU "knew better" at 8; 15 year olds are still children.It's not difficult for 15 year olds to find themselves in shitty situations. It's an age where you feel like an adult, but you aren't one. You think you can handle everything yourself, but you can't. You don't see age gaps the same way adults do, so you're more inclined to talk to men in their 20s.It's the adult men's job to stay away from teenage girls. It's their responsibility to tell them no. It doesn't matter if a 15 year old is flirting with them or trying to be sexual with them. It's their job to shut that shit down because they're the adults here.
>>10712837This. Guys are honestly so sensitive and weak sauce. Asks a girl to prom. Gets declined. Goes on a total spiral and won't engage in any meaningful relationships with women for the next ten years. Imagine if they actually had problems.
>>10712840As someone who has worked in summer camps around teen 13-16 I literally gag thinking about guys like this. Girls at that age get crushes on me and the other counselors all the time. I would never in a million years engage with that, or take advantage of that. It's disgusting to even think about because they think they know about being an adult and having a sexual relationship, and they really genuinely don't.
>>10712840Not that anon, but it's funny how you say shit like this, how teens are so totally defenseless but if a father tries to do stuff like prohibit a teen daughter from going to parties where he KNOWS there are drugs and alcohol, you bitches whine and seethe and claim he's some old conservative moron who is trying to restrict her freedom yadda yadda. How about you acknowledge the best way to protect teen girls is through authoritative parenting from the father? Because let's face it, mothers are utterly shit at it.
>>10712843This comment says a whole lot more about you than it does about the issue kek. go get help.
Why are you retards spending New Year's arguing with a bunch of autists on 4chan?
>>10712838soup is a brony? I hope this doesn't ruin your popularity. I really appreciate that you are on this board.>>10712838I never do better than the last year. Sometimes a small part is better, but it'd never be lasting and nothing is ever improving.I can't find any hobbies. Maybe it's because I'm an friendless/almost friendless loser and browsing the internet takes all of my time to try to get some interaction on 4chan, but it's only when I've experienced high quality social interacion that I feel any motivation to do stuff. Maybe if I could meet an actual friend at least once a week, I'd get more motivation to do other things. Or I'm just making excuses. Because there are plenty of friendless losers who are really into something and really passionate about it. But that's not me.Maybe I coud try to do what I actually want to next year, but no that's unrealistic. I'll just waste another year not accomplishing anything and being bored and lonely most of the time.
>>10712844Why? You simultaneously think teenagers should have sexual freedom while also pointing out how damaging this is. You're the one with the dumb worldview.
>>10712834Well for one thing you just assumed that I have casual sex and making judgments on a woman based on something you made up and automatically believed. Nit only that you're putting words into my mouth. So yeah, they're right.
>>10712846>soup is a brony? I hope this doesn't ruin your popularityim not it's just another fandom ppl relate to one way or another so i dont judge. havent posted any cringe lately but im bound to so who cares what ppl think yk. I appreciate your nice postin anon at least you're ending your year not angry postin haha>>10712846>I never do better than the last year. Sometimes a small part is better, but it'd never be lasting and nothing is ever improving.I used to rush thru things because I thought the point was to reach the destination and that's where the fun is, but I realized you should enjoy the process. it's kinda hard to explain since my experience if different from yours ughh it's like playing a vidya I would try to grind to reach max level as fast as possible but the journey getting there was where the fun really was. ANYWAYS point is those small parts are important! tbhh i just woke up so I DONT KNOW WHAT IM SAYING. I'll be back after waking up
>tfw female posters said mean thing to me when I said I had sex with 4 women in a month>tfw several adult women didn't give up when I tried to reject their advances by saying I was in high school at ages 16-17>tfw I've had women get massively butthurt after I rejected them>tfw I've had other boundaries walked all over by womenYou're all the same
>>10712880you fucking wish lmao. that's clever tho, pretending you rejected those girls who rejected you like that.
>>10712880At least you don't have to worry about potentially being murdered. Unless you're gay then I'm sorry.
>>10712880Pure fiction. Nobody on here is desirable, the men are all either psychopaths who can only interact with broken, vulnerable women or fat neckbeards and the women are 5/10s at best who think servers full of said neckbeards lusting after them proves they're above them when they're really just their female counterparts.I hate the females more because they have an unearned sense of superiority despite giving up their virginities at 14-16 usually.
>>10712891For what it's worth, I've been to a lot of therapy
>>10712891projection much? kek
>>10712891Do Americans really lose their virginities at 14/15? Kinda gross.
>>10712891I wonder what group I fall into, probably fat neckbeard although I'm not the nicest person either
>>10712903>>10712891>Putting virginity up on a pedestalOne of the reasons why women end up crazy is because of this. Growing up you're pressured to be both an innocent, perfect virgin while at the same time the media and men are pushing you to drop your panties for them.
>>10712912>Modern America>Women pressured into being virginsYou're free to be a hoe, but can you stop with the pretense that this country is even slightly sexually conservative by any standard? Reputable broadsheet newspapers here publish op-eds about how doing porn is a respectable career choice. You did not grow up in a conservative culture if you are under 50 and grew up in America, no matter what Rolling Stone or Teen Vogue tell you.
>>10712924tell me you're a scrote without telling me you're a scrote
>>10712924>You did not grow up in a conservative culture if you are under 50 and grew up in America, no matter what Rolling Stone or Teen Vogue tell you.Tell that to my family, churches, and seminars we had to go to at school to promise that we won't have sex before marriage and if we do then we're worthless.
>>10712926tell me your dad never loved you without telling me your dad never loved you.
>>10712928Not surprised. Men can't love.
>>10712927>Evangelical ChristiansCulturally impotent when compared to multi-trillion dollar entertainment media pushing the opposite message.
>>10712868I too am feeling tired. Maybe I should just go to bed early. I've never experienced being in bed trying to sleep at the turn to a new year, so that'd be something new for me.Anyways, I think my problem is more that I don't have any goals nor any progress. I just waste most of my time doing nothing and then if I get somewhat into something I still don't really get into it. I admire people who are really passionate about something. If I don't make any changes, my next year will be another year where I'm just bored and spend crazy amounts of time online to try to suck in some social interaction.When things might improve slightly, well in the past I've maybe joined a community, that's nice but then the community eventually dies without me making any friends there, or if I maybe get to keep one person, well it's not enough to meet someone twice a year to keep me satisfied and meanwhile I'm also losing people elsewhere so in total nothing is improving even if for a little while there might be a slight improvemet.
>>10712930>evangelical Try Baptists and Catholics. Anyway, as I said this is the standard growing up female in the west. Media tells you to be a slut, society tells you to be a slut then you become a slut and you're hated. I've only been with one person but because of that I'm still considered a slut by many. People who put virginity on a pedestal have made sex a complicated and confusing subject for women to grow up and figure out. Slut if you do, prude if you don't. That plus the amount of sexual assault they get and acts of violence makes it even worse. It's no wonder women are insane and I'm thankful for the ones that were able to figure it out and learn not to care.
>>10712930You make it sound like people don't grow up in those households and are taught what to believe for 16+ years only to go out into the world that says the opposite.
Thank you jannies for deleting that thread. I see you and I appreciate you.
>>10712932what do you do online? if you're just looking for friends it's ez pz. it's not my server but join here https://discord.gg/hnVukdZC I know most ppl that are active there so I'll hook you up with a friend. I think we're playing scribbles tonight so it's a good icebreaker
two of my friends have either gotten covid or passed it to someone because they wanted to go see fucking spider manwhat is absolutely wrong people? you want to risk getting yourself and other people sick because of fucking?? spiderman??i really hope things will be better by the time Tekko 2022 comes in July.
>>10713003>covidWhat kind of fucking loser still care lmao
>>10713005some of my loved ones are heavily at risk. why would i not care? i don't care if i personally got it but i don't want my loved ones to. no one wants that.if you want to get sick, by all means but i wonder how the fuck something like spider man is worth it
>>10713007It's never going away, like the flu isn't. If you weren't retarded you'd have realized this.
>>10712964I feel like I can't do that. Also, I've never had an online friend so it's pointless to look for friends online.
>>10713047WHAT WAS IT NOT YOU THAT JOINED. THERE WAS 2 BUT SURELY ONE WAS YOU. I prefer online friends. better chance of finding ppl with stuff in common and other stuffe. Happy New years gulls
>>10713048I had already gone to bed when you shared itBut I'll consider it
>>10712432>>10712446>>10712537Talk to your gyno. You might have a medical condition that can be treated.>>10712457>few women actually orgasm from that alone.Only for masturbation. Most women actually climax from penetrative sex alone.Great sex is possible but it doesn't just happen.The guy should at least be average. Size does matter, girth is more important than length to most women. Too big is bad too since having your cervix poked does not feel good for you or your partner. He should also be experienced or even a big dong is not gonna do much.You are correct about the mood. Arousal is mostly mental. If your head is not in the game the sex will be mediocre.Having a good sex life is important. The U.S. average for people in their 20s is three times a week.
>>10713050Anyway it feels great to have woken up ""early"" with enough sleep. And I thought of a possible new year's resolution last night. maybe to try something new every day?actually that points towards joining the discord server
>>10713053>>10712964well I tried but that didn't go very well
>>10713051>Most women actually climax from penetrative sex alone.>Mosthttps://blogs.iu.edu/kinseyinstitute/2019/01/24/how-often-do-women-orgasm-during-sex/https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/0092623X.2017.1346530>Having a good sex life is important. The U.S. average for people in their 20s is three times a week.It can be but how much of that is pressure men put on women to have sex that often? Testosterone is one of the major hormones that drives sexual desire. Men are designed by nature to breed more often than women. Men are aggressive when it comes to achieving sexual desire. With the reports of so many women having issues with sex itself and lower desire for it compared to men who masturbates and orgasms more often than women, it makes me wonder are we really basing sexual needs on both genders or just men's satisfaction? Some other interesting facts >Female sexual dysfunction (FSD) is a prevalent problem, afflicting approximately 40% of women and there are few treatment optionshttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3008577/
>>10713022please show me exactly where i said anything about it going away? i am well aware that it isn't going away as you know..... Most Viruses Don't? but seeing people be so careless about their loved ones in a highly contagious variant is baffling to me
>>10713054I WAS AWAY COME BACK
I envy my Guinea pigs, they don’t know how good they got it
>>10713071I remember mumble-snarling "check your privilege" to our cat when it came up to me for petting, I do also want physical contact.
>>10713051>Most women actually climax from penetrative sex alone.Thanks, I needed a laugh this morning.
>>10713071Bless you for giving your piggies a great life. They’re lovely little guys
>>10712040>thinking men are any safer at night than womenOnly difference is, as a man, if you get mugged nobody will help you.
>>10712796>I frequent nightclubs That's the only time I ever hear this stuff happening
>>10713148if you were mugging people, would you rather mug a man or a woman? which do you think would be more likely to fight? use your brain, retard, women and old people are easy targets because they're weak as fuck.
>>10713158And?Men are statistically more likely to be victims of all violent crimes other than sexual assault.
>>10713160by people they know. that has nothing to do with being targeted alone at night. it's because men always fight about shit like the violent apes they are.
>>10713162at least we not two faced whores
>>10713162That's also not true. Men are much more likely to be victims of violent crime where they do not know the offender.When a guy gets drunk and decides he wants a fight, who do you think they pick? Certainly not a woman.
>>10713160>>10713164They're also overwhelmingly the perpetuators. I don't care to fix men's problems with themselves. I want them to leave me and other women alone.
>>10713163>implyingMen are so slutty its literally built in your biology to fuck as many things as possible. And you take pride in your slutty behavior while condemning women for the same actions or even less.
>>10713164>When a guy gets drunk and decides he wants a fight, who do you think they pick? Certainly not a woman.Tell that to my uncle.
>>10712769Most people are not successful
>>10713183Never implied otherwise. The point is, men are the primary victims of crime and we cannot just walk around at night and go wherever we want without any consequence. It's also about 20% of men committing most of the crime and they're overwhelmingly black or Hispanic.So just avoid shitty areas that contain large proportions of black and Hispanics and you'll almost never encounter violent crime.
>>10713186yeah other than the condemning women for it thing, but what does that have to do with u bitches being two faced scheming cunts?
>>10713193For one thing, it's not gender exclusive.
>>10713193Because men are two faced whores.
>>10713192Maybe don't walk around alone at night. Carry mace. Don't dress slutty. Take the same advice people always give women if you don't want to get crimes.Or be normal and just support a culture of men being less shitty. You say only 20% of men are committing all the crime and blaming black and Hispanic men exclusively but White people are still the majority racial group represented, and there are literaly millions more white men who have committed violent crimes, so they're just as shady and dangerous. Men in general commit the overwhelming majority of violent crimes like rapes and murders regardless of victim, depending on the crime 95+%. 50% of the population is committing over 90% of many of the worst crimes, that's more concerning than racial stats imo. And on top of that you're more likely to have some crimes committed against you by someone you know, so white women actually should be afraid of white men because they're more likely to associate with white men and in turn have crimes committed against them by white men.Generalizations can be made over and over but the reality is bad men make the world a more dangerous place as a whole, so just be one of the good ones and hold those close to you accountable for their behaviors, and expect and request women to do the same for the women close to us who behave problematically and cause danger or harm to others.
>>10713200Well said. Too bad he'll ignore it.
>>10713200I don't walk around at night.>so they're just as shady and dangerous.Do you understand how proportions and likelihoods work? >so white women actually should be afraid of white men because they're more likely to associate with white men and in turn have crimes committed against them by white men.You are more likely to have a crime committed against you by people you are within physical proximity to you? Wow. Revolutionary. Never would have guessed.>but the reality is bad men make the world a more dangerous place as a wholeMen also make the world more safe as a whole. Most soldiers, police, lawyers, fire fighters, medics and judges are men. > so just be one of the good ones and hold those close to you accountable for their behaviors,I'm not retarded enough to associate with criminals.JxG20
>>10713202>Most soldiers, police, lawyers, fire fighters, medics and judges are men.NTA but some of those are not usually by choice and they tend to dissuade women from joining. Boys are literally groomed to be soilders, police are filled with the power drunk, lawyers have the stereotype of being evil for a reason, and the medical industry has been hurting women for generations and continues to ignore then leading to more pain and deaths. Fire fighters are really the only profession you mentioned that I'd agree with because it's volenteer work so you actually get people who care.
>>10713003>the things other people care about are TOO RISKY to do, they’re dumb and selfish>why won’t they stay home so that I can go to the big crowded party that I care aboutwhat is self-awareness J4VYM
>>10713204No just burn all violent men. Far more effective and comprehensive solution.
>>10713206So burn all men?
>>10713203Boys are groomed that way because men generally excel in those roles. Women generally excel in other roles.You can say what you want about fringe cases and stereotypes but overall the men working those professions have benefited humanity greatly as a whole hence why we live in the single most prosperous period in human history.>>1071320428% of all rape is committed by black men who make up 6.5% of the population. White non-hispanic males make up 47.45% of rapes whilst making up 28% of the population. https://ucr.fbi.gov/crime-in-the-u.s/2017/crime-in-the-u.s.-2017/tables/table-43
>>10713211Bro this fucking bootlicker go shoot up a school or something u lame
>>10713211For some statistical clarification since I know how people want to misinterpret data.Black men as a proportion of the population as a whole (including women) are over represented in rape by 330%.Non-hispanic whites are over represented by 69%Thus women are 478% more likely to be raped by a black male than a white non-hispanic male.>>10713212>He lashes out in anger for he hopes to distract from his defeat
>>10713211The point I'm making is that it is this way not by choice. You claim as if women have not made great strides for humanity as well and history has showed us that when they have its either stolen, ignored, downplayed or outright demonized.
It's always odd that when men are called out for their crimes, they push the blame on another race or sexuality despite them still being men as well.
>>10713215Nothing in life is truly by choice if you want to get philosophical. I do not for a second pretend women haven't contributed to humanity. That's a completely strawman. My point is for all the suffering men give, which is a lot, men give back in equal amounts to human progress.
>>10713217Almost like people don't like being lumped in with other people who operate on an almost order of magnitude larger rates of criminality.
>>10713218I'm not speaking in philosophy but through the habits of people. Not as many men that are in these roles, actually want to be in these roles to help people that you may think. Each of the organizations mentioned aside from fire fighters are part of the problems everyone, men and women, are suffering from and when there calls for means to correct these issues they are ignored in favor to stay the same. So using these groups as examples for what men have accomplished doesn't go very far.
>>10713221>WhiteNotice how in that column there is no Hispanic/Latino column. That's because they're added into the White racial category. Further to right, in the same table you can observe the breakdowns between latino/Hispanic White and non-Hispanic white.
>>10713220Funny you say that because I'm sure a lot of black and hispanic men would say the same thing.
>>10713222Of course not. People work for money I'm not pretending that this isn't the primary motivating factor. But it is regardless of their motivations in the role because that doesn't effect the positive outcomes those roles bring.There will always be suffering in the world. This is absolutely undeniable. You have to balance the suffering that something will bring vs the positives it will bring.>they are ignored in favor to stay the sameThis is untrue. Most organisations do shift over time. There will always be push back to any change, there are old people who don't like change, sometimes the changes are unsubstantiated, sometimes they require long periods of consideration. When you say they ignore change, what you mean is change within professional and large organisations doesn't happen at the break neck pace as general societal culture does.If you want to provide evidence that these groups have provided more suffering than benefit to humanity, I'm open to it. But I'm going to guess that claim is so astronomically impossible to prove.
>>10713224Sure. Then they should address the problems of their own culture. As a white man, I address people within my culture. I abhore the criminality and the negative treatment of women.>>10713225Did you pass highschool? I'm asking genuinely.You will understand my question because that's not a breakdown of the total rape. That's a breakdown of percentage between Hispanic and non-hispanic. Now you factor in the two groups populations and then relate it back to the total rape percentage. Tada, you have the effective population percentage of rape committed by non-hispanic whites as 47.45%. Do you want me to write the maths out for you?
>>10713226>But it is regardless of their motivations in the role because that doesn't effect the positive outcomes those roles bring.But it does. In the U.S. they are more of a business than fulfilling the original purpose of their roles which has been the biggest arguments against them for generations. Prisons, hospitals, courts, and the military have been around to serve the authority and themselves more than the people.>When you say they ignore change, what you mean is change within professional and large organisations doesn't happen at the break neck pace as general societal culture does.The same issues we've had with our systems have remained as far back as my great grandmother has been protesting against. I dont expect things to change overnight, but I would hope that when changes do happen they are not reversed like they have been in recent decades or not change at all.
>>10713228yeah write it out because what youve said so far makes 0 sense
>>10713230I need to see some evidence of this. Because at the moment it's just your word.There are some issues that will never ultimately change because that is human nature. Will men ever stop being more violent than women? Probably not because we know that men are mentally, physically and physiologically designed to conduct greater levels of violence than women, even in the most culturally and economically progressive nations in the world, men still commit violence on orders of magnitude higher than women. You do have to ask yourself if the changes you are requesting are actually feasible in practice or is it simply blue sky thinking?There has been very few things which have been reversed with most things sticking. Again, human society has progressed. You are simply upset it's not doing it the way you want it to. That's not a reason to complain the entire system is ultimately broken and should be thrown out.
>>10713232Arrests for Whites over 18 including Hispanic/Latino: 67.7%The proportion of that 67.7% of which Non-Hispanic whites are responsible for is 72.1%. 0.677 * 0.721= 48.8%Might have used the total arrests table in the original calculation, don't care enough to recheck
>>10713235No wrong retard. The race and ethnicity breakdowns are intended to be two separate views of the same data. The race breakdown is broken down by race, ethnicity is broken down by ethnicity (hispanic or non). Regardless of ethnicity, whites were responsible for 67.5 % of total rape arrests in the sampled year.Imagine being so white you think you think you're educated when you're actually retarded...
>>10711215The whole point of thong diapers is that people will know you only pee in them. And yet several girls from my comm have tried to poop in theirs.
>>10713236That's literally not how the FBI displays data. The breakdown is demonstrating, since most US agencies define white to be including the Hispanic/Latino cultural groups, it is necessary to make the further distinction between white Hispanic and white non-Hispanic.
>>10713236Also lmao if White cannot be broken down let's do the maths again.White* :67.5White* male population: 38.15Black: 28.7Black male population: 6.5White* percentage over representation: 76%Black over representation: 330%Black man are 434% more likely to rape a woman than White* men.What a stunning difference.
>>10713241Not when you factor in the disproportionate of black wrongful arrests. In reality whitey is more rapeylaw.umich.edu/special/exoneration/Documents/Race_and_Wrongful_Convictions.pdf
>>10713244But anon everyone knows statistics don't count when they make white people look worse than black people
>>10713244Sexual assault is a different crime for rape. I'm sure many women will attest to the extreme difficulty in finding a rapist guilty due to the massive burden of evidence. I would therefore assume the reason that rape isn't mentioned in your article is because rape is hardly exonerated.You're comparing apples and oranges to try justify rape. Fuck off.
>>10713244Also need I point out that simply because the wrong person was imprisoned does not mean that a crime was not committed.
>>10713247blacks are more likely to be wrongfully convicted across the board. sounds more like you're trying to justify sexual assault
>>10713249Cool. Completely different arguement. How does this prove that black men aren't raping at substantially higher rates than men of all other races.Sounds like you're just trying to shift the focus from black criminality against women to one of racial injustice because it makes you uncomfortable.
imagine spending new years day arguing with racist hick incels on 4chan
>>10713251I like how /cgl/ is extremely feminist until racial crime statistics get brought up and then the argument shifts from male perpetrators to defending black people and that women who are raped are misidentifying black people.
>>10713252>>brought up*misinterpreted but ok
>>10713254Do explain how the crime statistics are misinterpreted in any meaningful way.
>>10713255Black communities are overpoliced -> more arrests (which are what are counted in the crime statistics). If you put the same amount of police in a lot of lower-class white communities you'd also get higher crime rates there, because if there's no police there's no arrests being made. Not rocket science
>>10713260Okay. Where's your evidence? I would expect something on the level of a national government database since I gave you the FBI database as my evidence.
>>10713211>thinking arrest data will accurately distribute crimes among raceMy fucking sides.
>>10713292>Arrests have zero correlation to crimeThis is your brain on drugs.
I wasted a lot of money and I'm feeling really bad about it.I need to find somewhere to cut equivalent expenses so I can tell myself that the money didn't come from anywhere. I wanted to try to eat nice food in the new year, but I think I'll have to postpone that until February. I want to cry, it was such a huge waste.
>>10713191Most people have a well paying middle class job that gives them free time, lets them have a nice home, and go on vacation to foreign countries every year.
>>10713072You want guys to pat you on the head?
>>10713320what did you waste it on?
>>10713212>u lameNon-American here, why do Americans of all races try to sound like black rappers?
>>10713214lmao, it's always funny how FDS and GC type feminists are these brave iconoclasts willing to talk about differentials in crime rates, but if you point out the racial differentials then they suddenly turn into generic liberals again. Tbf I've met some feminists who flat out acknowledge black men are more dangerous and say they take extra care around them. Fair play to those because they're actually being consistent.
>>10713330Not true for the vast majority of people. If you're a burger the middle class is shrinking and being destroyed and weakened by corporate simping by almost everyone in our government.
>>10713297Sexual assault and rape are two of the least reported crimes because of the shame that comes along with them. After that, they are two of the crimes that the least amount of arrests, trials, and convictions come from, as there is often very little evidence that the crime happened.Along with that, everyone knows black men are overpoliced and overrepresented in almost every crime field, because the entire police system is racist. And hey, since we're talking about police here, did you know police are 4x more likely to beat their wives? Glad we've got them making these great decisions about women's safety.Ultimately, even if black men WERE more violent than white men, I don't care. I want all men gone. I don't give a fuck what race they are. Just don't think you're special or not included in that for being white.
>>10713397>I want all men goneLol and there are still people who claim this board is not the female version of /r9k/
>>10713399/r9k/:>weh women won't fuck me and yet rather than work on my personality, I'll blame themAny woman-dominated space on the internet:>men are scary because they are violent and commit atrocities against women as a wholeYou:>these are the same
Being single in winter is suffering.Someone tell a cute story about how they met their bf.
>>10713238Seeing this post appear in the middle of some incel bitching about black people and some femcel bitching about men really got me.
poor feels thread never stood a chance. mfers too busy arguing they forgot to do their nyr baka
visitor from /ck/ hereyou bitches are crazy
My lolita comm is for all jfashion but the egirls come and brought littleforbig onesies and shit to the swapmeet and everyone orbits this one unhinged “e-celebrity” its so awful I just wish I could do an actual meetup with actual lolitas doing lolita things but Theres 3 actual lolitas I’d even rather an ita comm cause I could show them how to buy good brand but all I get are demonias and pleated skirt normies
>>10713416You want to suffer more by hearing people's stories?
>>10713383I'm a feminist and seeing self-proclaimed "feminists" demonstrate for a piece of trash like George Floyd was funny and unsettling at the same time.
>>10713397>Sexual assault and rape are two of the least reported crimes because of the shame that comes along with them. After that, they are two of the crimes that the least amount of arrests, trials, and convictions come from, as there is often very little evidence that the crime happened.This means nothing in terms of proportions.>everyone knows black men are overpoliced and overrepresented in almost every crime field, because the entire police system is racistI'm still waiting on the nation wide evidence which proves this. So far nobody has provided anything to prove this. Black communities are policed in scale to the level of suffering criminality brings to their communities. Given criminal acts affect poor people a lot more than rich, therefore police should be more present in poor communities.>Ultimately, even if black men WERE more violent than white men, I don't care. I want all men gone. I don't give a fuck what race they are. Just don't think you're special or not included in that for being white.Cope. Society isn't possible without men, society is possible without black people.
>>10713526It means plenty in terms of proportions of how many arrests are compared to the crimes, and those numbers are further skewed by the fact that black men are overpoliced.Here's some links from Google, since that doesn't seem to exist where you are, including a NATIONWIDE STUDY DONE BY THE GOVERNMENT.>https://www.ussc.gov/sites/default/files/pdf/research-and-publications/research-publications/2017/20171114_Demographics.pdf>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5004736/>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8221500/>https://repository.law.umich.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?referer=&httpsredir=1&article=2413&context=articles>Society isn't possible without men, society is possible without black people.Society is possible without any specific group. We don't need everyone to make it work. White men aren't any more valuable than black men. Can't wait until we perfect the technology to fertilize eggs from a second batch of XX chromosomes. Hope I live to see it.
I just want to make fun of fat women, what the hells going on here
>>10713570No it doesn't mean anything compared to crime:arrest ratio. Please explain how.Your first link doesn't prove anything about overpolicing. It just states black males on average get longer sentences than white males. Whilst I agree there is some bias inside the sentencing system, most black people don't take plea bargains which was not accounted for and rates of reoffence (which carry longer sentences) is higher amongst black men than white men.Immediately your second source is a biased piece of shit.>Our personal encounters with harassment by law enforcement become a way in which we corroborate the narratives of unarmed Black males being killed by law enforcement.Using your own anecdotal experience and using the "unnarmed black man" trope which time and time again has proven to be either incorrect or deliberate skewing of the situation. They use Tamir Rice as an example, the kid who pointed a fake gun at police and was shot because of it. "Unnarmed black child shot dead" rings entirely different bells to "Child who pointed an imitation firearm at police which had the orange cap removed was fatally shot and killed." Your third source states "No policies were significantly associated with Black civilian killings." And literally all of their data discussion corrobating that change of policy does basically nothing. So I have absolutely zero idea why you chose this study as a proof of your point.And your final link is not a government source and neither does that state anything about overpolicing. Just a 9% disparity in sentence length between black men and white men. But if you're going to bitch about a 9% disparity stating that blacks are totally exonerated and on par with whites, why don't we bring up the male-female sentence length disparity which is way bigger? If you claim to be for fair sentencing, then your first target should be male-female disparity. Not black-white.Literally nothing you provided proved anything about overpolicing.
>>10713570No society is possible without fertile men and women.
No idea if this is the right place to talk about this, but...There was a girl in my former parallel class who looked similar like Rangiku
>>10713623Imagine being this triggered and having this much time on your hands. Y’all are retarded
new thread >>10713867