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CGL feels here.

My little sister found out that I follow her friend's OnlyFans.
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why do you always post about your little sister or your little sister's friends and how much they are all collectively thots? no mentioning how they're 17 or how you can see their thonged buttocks this time though
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>tfw no lolita gf who’s hotter than hell like midday sun to leave me well done and pull the trigger of my love gun
It’s cold gin time again
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>>10666257
>no mentioning how they're 17 or how you can see their thonged buttocks this time though
presumably they jerked before posting this time
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>>10666264
this one's fairly tame by comparison
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>>10666242
Learning to sew by making doll clothes.
I'm male in my late 20s. Better late than never?
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>>10666328
I wish I'd learned how to sew back when the pony fandom was booming. I'd make bank selling fuckable plushies.
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>>10666328
yeah do it your daughters will love you when they're born
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>>10666261
>no yandere gf to kill me over a misunderstanding
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I can't make friends.

I don't like sports.
I am not religious.
I don't drink.
I don't do drugs.
I don't want to talk about work outside of work.
I don't like western movies or TV shows.
I like to workout alone.
There's only so much you connect with someone over anime.
My political views are so bizzarely extreme that I won't risk discussing them, even with my family I tone down many of my beliefs.

Life feels empty. I have a prestigious job and make a lot of money but there's nobody to share it with. Most people my age are usually going to bars, watching sports, seeing movies and connecting over common interests. I feel disconnected from the world. I can never be myself around other people because it would negatively affect my career and/or future romances.
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What woman with self respect would go around with a sign like that?

I hope her dad sees it and correctively fucks her.
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Found some cecil mcbee stuff even closet cleaning. don't remember buying it. must be more than 10 years ago now when i had my jfashion phase.
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>>10666422
so you are hoping this cosplayer is underage (because minors are less physically and emotionally capable of fighting) or financially dependent on a incestuous rapist that is also most likely a pedophile?

What are you a tradcat? Get help.
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>>10666436
>Taking things on 4chan seriously

Get help.
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>>10666436
If she's underage why is she wandering around holding a sign alluding to her being fisted? Almost like cons are degenerate filth.
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>>10666436
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>>10666421
if you don’t like going out to bars and aren’t religious maybe you should consider becoming church is a really easy way to make friends and get involved with people in the community. theres a good reason why most of humanity was centered around religious spaces
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>wasted my 20s in school and residency
>gonna waste my 30s finishing residency
Can't wait to get a gf when I'm nearly 40!
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>>10666510
Doesn't sound wasted to me if you're going to be making a pile of money
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>>10666421
I never understood how someone can't enjoy drugs. Some drugs and alcohol, yeah, cause they make you feel shitty. But how can a person not enjoy free dopamine ?
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>>10666533
I'm sure I'd enjoy drugs as a physical experience but I refuse to do them. Because of morals. I hate what drug use means. People use drugs to substitute happiness to allow them to tolerate a reality that as a totally sober person they would not tolerate. It makes people believe that this reality of being sad and stressed is normal. Which means people will never desire a change in their reality when they can just take more drugs when things get worse.

Same reason I dislike alcohol. It's just another substitute for happiness to keep people placid and tolerate otherwise intolerable conditions. I feel the same way with the ubiquitous prescribing anti-depressants. Humans have the ability to be happy and we should be happy naturally.
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>>10666535
>I hate what drug use means
You must be fun at parties
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>>10666539
They're not really my thing, obviously.
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I miss vendetta threads...
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I thought I was asexual, but I had a dream recently where I was having sex with a hot stranger, and I feel very ashamed of myself for enjoying it. If I'm going to feel some form of sexual attraction, I should at least feel it the right way, towards the right person. When I have that kind of dream about someone I love romantically, it just ends up being insanely uncomfortable. It's not right.
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>>10666535
Yeah, strong moralism is the only way I can see a human being not doing drugs.
Like, man, being alive kinda sucks. The world sucks. Let's get high. I'm not ashamed, I'm only a man
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>>10666421
Do ya like Vidya games?
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>>10666242
Hope you get cancer
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How many fetish posters does /cgl/ have?
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>>10666561
too many and not enough
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>>10666421
I'm the same, just that I'm a superior neet
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>>10666469
Why would you throw away your dignity and common sense like that?
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>>10666421
I’ll never understand comments like these, because having money IS the endgame for me. Who cares about the rest if you’re rich and comfy for the rest of your life
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>>10666573
What really is the point of money if you have nobody to share it with? I have nice things but things do not make you happy
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>>10666643
Anon, have you tried to make friends? Download Bumble and have at it.
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>>10666421
Become into do a religion, I recommend Christianity.
Take up sewing/singing/dancing/theatre/stocks. There's a thousand things to do that all involve people.
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>>10666421
>>10666663
Fuck, go start a small business if you have the money for it, or go find some young entrepreneurs you want to throw some money at. There are SO MANY things you could be doing that you either don't realize you could be doing or are choosing not to.
If you're busy enough, you'll forge that you're lonely. If you're busy with other people doing a common thing that you all enjoy, chances are that with a bit more effort you'll be able to find some OTHER things to do together and bond over, becoming friends.
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>>10666663

Christians are very cool people especially in the cosplay community
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>>10666573
idk every *actually* rich person i’ve known has been fucking miserable and i have a pretty decent sample size having grown up around that. knowing /cgl/ though maybe you mean something else by “rich”
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>>10666656
Yeah but I've never gotten pass the cordial stage. I can share a few jokes with people when we are around each other by circumstance but I can't get passed that. I've never been able to see people outside of circumstantial events like work or gym and I don't share enough interests with them to invite them somewhere.
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>>10666663
>>10666668
What's wrong with you? Stop shilling your retarded religion here
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>>10666663
>>10666668
>>10666675
Christianity doesn't exactly mix with anime, but they'll do anything to convert you so yeah it's a great place to be social and make friends. I was out black friday shopping with my friend awhile ago and a group of girls came up to us to do their spiel about god and such. at the end of the talk we even did the whole hold hands in a circle to pray thing. it was very wholesome. I didn't answer their calls tho cause I was into crystal and witchcraft at the time.
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>>10666328
Do you build plamo girls too?
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>>10666539
Oh fuck off you nasty whore.
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>>10666696
>You. WILL. Be. Boring.
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>>10666717
Being nasty doesn't make you interesting in any way
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>>10666717
you already are
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>>10666510
yeah but if you're an MD you can take a two week vacation every summer and fuck all the 19 year old filipina hookers you could ever want!
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>>10666725
Oh but it does
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>>10666535
You're pretty much writing how I feel about it, too. I go out of my way to avoid doing anything which makes me feel branded as an adult - alcohol, drugs, politics, porn
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Two days on no sleep. I really hate university. Now I have to work for 9 hours just so I can get home and grind more assessment. This better be fucking worth it.
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My dad just ran past his/mom’s room while yelling “naked” in Japanese really loud. My mom was in a meeting for work in their room, and one of her coworkers understands Japanese. I hope she doesn’t lose her job.
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>>10667012
Shes not gonna lose her job she is fine anon!
Firstly, the coworker would have to hate your mom enough to go waste time complaining to hr that they heard the word ‘naked’ . Then If HR even gave a shit about such a silly complaint, they would have to pull the meeting recording (IF the company even saves meeting recordings) and have someone go through to find someone saying ‘naked’. Even if they did care, it’s not a fireable offense. Don’t worry
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>>10666568
>throw away your dignity and common sense

Religion is literally the most dignified and common sense thing there is. the lengths atheists will go to to avoid being a good moral person
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>>10667024
I don’t agree that having faith is throwing away your dignity or common sense, but you absolutely can be a good moral person even without a religion
Some would argue that people who are being good not because of a religion but purely because they know is the right thing to do are even better and have higher morals.
Just don’t be a dick.

Also, you don’t have to actually believe in something to be a part of a religious community if people are kind of liberal, I’m not a christian, but like to go to the parties thrown by my local church, they have good food and sometimes it’s nice to go to a party that doesn’t involves drugs or alcohol
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>tfw too skinny they gave me girl emt pants cause the male ones were too big
looks like we got some motivation to work out again bois
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i regret checking this board, you people are bigger losers than rk9 or even ppl on V for christs sake, grow some balls all of you.
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>>10667100
Girls can't grow balls, anon.
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>>10667101
Dats transphobic anon
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>>10667103
/cgl/ is a TERF board
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>>10666242
just found a pic of the full cosplay...wew lad
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>>10666242
what's her onlyfans account name?
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>>10667100
why does he look like that
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>>10667530
Hes holding it wrong
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I just had really hot sex with my boyfriend I love very much. Now we're going to cuddle and watch anime while the cookies I baked him are in the oven. Nothing to do with lolita or cosplay (except that I wear/do both, but not during sex or anything).
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>>10667108
speak for yourselves
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>>10666421

I can't make friends.

I don't like sports.
I am not religious.
I don't drink.
I don't do drugs.
I don't want to talk about work outside of work.
I don't like western movies or TV shows.
I like to workout alone.
There's only so much you connect with someone over anime.
My political views are so bizzarely extreme that I won't risk discussing them, even with my family I tone down many of my beliefs because I have better shit to do.

Life feels based. I have a prestigious job and make a lot of money, but there's no one to share it with. Most people my age are stuck at home getting their grub hub on, gaining 100 lbs, and believe the internet too much. I feel disconnected from the world. I can never be myself around other people because it filter out shit tier jobs and unworthy romances.
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>>10667845
NTA but I wish you were my therapist
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>>10667851
I appreciate the compliment, but honestly I'd be terrible at the job because I can only listen to a person complain so much before either slapping them or tell them to grow some balls or fuck off. People don't want help, just a platform to bitch on most of the time or they'd muster the will power to fix their own shit.
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I've lost a bit of weight and now i can fit into anything which is nice! But the fat went off of my face a lot. so instead of my baby cheeks, now I have these lines showing up in the area by under my eyes and cheekbones. They're not wrinkles i think? but they're like the itachi character from naruto.
So anyway i feel a bit sad about that ;_; but i still look nice so that's alright
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>>10667928
Ah yes… tear troughs. The bane of my existence. Fillers are the only thing that’ll do any good.
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>>10667845
You really sound like even you don't get out much. Many of my peers that I know as an adult are doing their own thing and creating stuff. Maybe you just need a better circle, and to get out of your own head. Learn to chill out a little and be more open minded. Try new things.
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Man here, was recently at a convention
Was able to talk with a Sylpheon cosplayer during the afterparty
It was quite nice
Didn't get laid tough

>>10666242
Let me guess, you are also a man op
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>>10667387
ngl she cute
>>10666242
>My little sister found out that I follow her friend's OnlyFans.
based OP
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>>10667845
Lmao you made me feel a little better about it. Thanks anon
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>>10667928
Tear troughs are rough. I have them too from losing over 100 + lbs of weight. Make sure you are sleeping enough and drinking enough water and getting balanced nutrients to help your skin. That helped mine become less noticeable. beyond that the only thing you can do is makeup tricks or dermal fillers.
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>>10667914
Sometimes the first step to fix your own shit is to bitch about that shit to others
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I have a Moitie dress that fit me perfectly when I bought it but I've gained weight since earlier this year and I've been too scared to try it on again but I'm sure it doesn't fit anymore. Idc if you call me fat, I know I've gotten fat, but I'm going to lose the weight so I can wear it again even if I have to go back to having an ED temporarily.
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tfw no shota bf to rape
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got an anon message on tumblr saying I was "super cute" in a cosplay and I'm so hard up for compliments and self-esteem it's going to give me a fucking complex
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>>10668129
I don’t think so. The first step is admitting that there’s a problem more than anything else. I feel like complaining about an issue just leads to nowhere, I’ll take a recent example I saw a few months ago.

There’s like this one person in our social circles who keeps complaining about how she’s lonely despite having an online boyfriend and how she has a dead end job at target, can’t get anywhere and she’s pushing her mid 30’s. So a few strangers gave her practical advice like how to set up a bank account, get a car, how to advance up the job ladder, etc. Standard text book shit that just led to her whining and making excuses about how she couldn’t do any of that. I fucking kept out of that issue because I’ve personally dug myself out of shit situations before, and my first response is always self intervention before anything else. Anyways this fucking person went on a FOUR FUCKING DAY LONG THREAD bitching about her life and side stepping practical advice to a point where a buddy DM’d me going “you got to fucking check this out bro.”

I think what makes it worst is that she tried to petition me for advice on how to make props for cosplay and the only thing I could tell her was “get a real job, cosplay is the last thing you should be focusing on if you can barely pay rent.” And she was just taken aback by it.


Anyways I don’t disagree with bitching being a form of venting but I strongly believe that if you want to improve yourself or move forward, the first step is realizing that there is a problem. Second is obviously setting up a game plan and the third is learning that failure is fun and that you pick up new tricks to make your game plan work. Then you realize self improvement is literally the best / worst korean mmorpg you’ve ever played.
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T, please shut the fuck up about your ED on your retarded twitter account. No one cares what the fuck you're eating and how you lost ~so much weight~ but then bitch and whine about having an ED
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>>10668136
it breaks my heart how fucking hard gills are on themselves and each other. there’s being very unhealthily overweight, and there’s gaining a few pounds during a global crisis that makes you a little bit squishier in the middle than you used to be. cut yourself some slack.

i mean do you, but why do i see so many “guess i have to go back to having an ED to lose any weight” posts? i’m not trying to be mean, but that’s so… immature. it’s not all or nothing. just cut down a little and move around some more, not for a dress but for the sake of your own health.
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>>10668232
>gills
outing myself as a phoneposter, but the rest stands
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>>10668152
Why are you even still using that dead site?
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I can't focus on my work because I'm so fucking ugly. Fuck. Fuck.
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>>10668260
Same but because I’m short too
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>>10668172
Sometimes
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>>10668320


It’s always better to stay optimistic than it is to sit there thinking about the absolute worst. If no one has faith in you I got faith in you anon.
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>>10668345
Didn’t know her last name was Martinez, I’ll have to add her on Facebook. Pretty sure I fucked her back in 2017, maybe 2018.
Either way, pining over someone for 10 years is BETA behavior, you should have made a move well within the first year. I made a move and had her within the day. Confessing to her anonymously all these years later is embarrassing dude.
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>>10668470
Another person but I've liked someone for 11 years and feel like I should confess last saw or talked to them 5 years ago, confession is a form of sexual harassment though but when I see anime characters make a big deal out of it I want to do it too, anyway don't even know if I like them anymore but still have a little want to confess.
Anyway not cgl related

Somewhat cgl related was a person who was friendly to me at a con almost ten years ago and I kept thinking about them for years and then I met them at a con maybe three years ago they didn't remember me but even just seeing them was a powerful experience and I cried a bit and wrote about it on /cgl/.
Not really a feel though.

If I feel anything right now, it's that I wish /cgl/ wasn't so dead, it was way better before, and I somewhat wish I could get into lolita even though it isn't really my style.
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>>10668479
(Different anon here) Pining over the hoes of yesteryear is not a healthy mentality. If I had to pin point your problem, it’s that you’re not proactive enough with your approaches. Do you fear rejection from a girl? Because being told no isn’t a bad thing, after awhile it just becomes second nature to go “Hey, I think you’re pretty neat. I’m interested in getting to know you more.” rather than just orbiting and watching yourself get cucked repeatedly because you didn’t try.
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>>10668479
>confession is a form of sexual harassment though.

Lol what the fuck?
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I have tourettes and can never attend meetups because i know damn well it would make everyone uncomfortable and my sudden arm flailing and yelling and shit would scare people.
It's hard gulls.
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>>10668481
I don't know, I haven't really felt the need to confess. Maybe fear of rejection is part of it, but another is how it may affect my relationship with everyone I know, they would certainly talk about it. And it'd reveal that I'm attracted to people and of that gender, which is something I try to keep hidden to make it harder to guess who I'm attracted to and so that people won't dislike me or be suspicious of me for having romantic feelings/not being asexual.
And I just know they'd say no anyway, they don't like me so it'd be more to get closure on my part.
And another reason may just be that I put it off, it needs to be the right moment, I need to be at home and feel like I can spend some hours on my bed crying, uninterrupted, maybe go for a walk, so it's a big time commitment if I make that phone call, anyway a phone call doesn't feel like the right way either. Then there's the morality of it, sexual harassment thing.

>>10668482
It's a bit complicated to explain. But basically, I reject the notion that sexual harassment is defined by how the victim feels. It's defined by actions.
Try to think about it from the angle of a woman who constantly has people confessing to her. She'd feel very bothered by it, from her point of view she's experiencing sexual harassment. That means each individual confession is an act of sexual harassment. Because the alternative would be that at some arbitrary number that the people who confess have no access to, suddenly an action becomes sexual harassment even if absolutely nothing changes.
Maybe I could explain it from another angle too, but basically, any expression of romantic or sexual interest is an act of sexual harassment.

On the reverse though, if you say hi to a woman and she feels sexually harassed, but you had no such intent behind it, then she was not experiencing sexual harassment, even if she feels that way.
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>>10668479
>confession is a form of sexual harassment though but when I see anime characters make a big deal out of it I want to do it too,
I’d ask how autistic you are, but that’s a bit of a foregone conclusion. What exactly about how you would confess to someone would be sexual harassment?
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>>10668224
link the twitter lol
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>>10668520

>I can’t let anyone know about my sexuality
>they’ll talk about me in the circles
>it’s better that I don’t anyways.


Stop caring about what other people think about you. You’re attached to your friend circle because you not only fear rejection you fear being alone, or in this case you hate the concept of a rift in general. Are your friends really your friends if you have to masquerade around them a certain way or are they more of a convenient back drop for you? Because from what I can piece together it’s more of the ladder, rather than the former. Every human being has to make one gigantic gamble in their social lives in order to be happy, can’t just bank on being safe forever.
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>>10668396
Thanks, but there are plenty of people who have faith in me and this is not the point.
I like to bitch about stuff, sometimes I bitch about my problems WHILE I’m solving them and I know many people who are like that. Of course only bitching and no solving as anon described is bad, but not allowing yourself to feel bad about crappy stuff and complain about said stuff, feeling the obligation to be positive about things in life no matter how bad is also not a healthy pattern.
You don’t need to stay optimistic all the time, if it comes naturally to you that’s ok, but if you are forcing yourself that ain’t it. Allow yourself to feel stuff and experience all the emotional spectrum, even the crappy side of it, then the good will shine brighter.
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>>10668566
Oh, you’re talking about venting in general? Pfft, I thought you had something serious going on. Enjoy your Labor Day in any case, I personally forgot it existed because we’ve been slammed at work. But I’m pretty excited to get back into the swing of making shit again, it’s been like two years since I’ve last cut foam or turned on a power tool. Bought me one of those fancy wireless dremels and I’m about to pick up a sewing machine from one of my buddies so I’m pretty pumped over here. No real bad complaints.
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>>10668567
Nah, I kind of had serious issues going on in the past and bitched the hell out about them, but eventually got it sorted out with therapy and stuff. Right now my life is great besides one thing or two, but there’s always one thing or two, it’s what adds the spice.
Not a burguer here, but it’s great to have time to work on your projects, hope you have fun with your sewing machine
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I wish I was delusional and less self aware.

I feel like out of place, there are 4chan groups that always meet up and I think they all became really good friends. And now I feel like I'm out of place to join them. As I get older I feel like I become more of a hermit. I don't mind being alone, just from time to time I wanna join a group. It's also difficult because most groups friendship or circle usually drink together. But I don't enjoy drinking or smoking. I just wanna vent. Thanks.
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>>10668520
>I reject the notion that sexual harassment is defined by how the victim feels. It's defined by actions.

That is the most retarded thing I've read all week. This is suggesting that sexual harrassment is an absolutely objective law of the universe and is a scientific process.

>She'd feel very bothered by it, from her point of view she's experiencing sexual harassment.
And she's wrong. Also you just contradicted your own viewpoint a second ago that sexual harrassment isn't defined by the victim.

>That means each individual confession is an act of sexual harassment.
Confessing that you have feelings for someone isn't sexual harrassment unless you, the confessor, make it sexual harrassment. If you say, "Hey I have romantic feelings towards you and I would like to take you on a date if you feel the same way." That's not sexual harassment. It's sexual harrassment if it's repeated or if it sexual in nature, i.e "Hey I think you've got a good body, want to go on a date?"

>any expression of romantic or sexual interest is an act of sexual harassment
You need to get outside more. If you think this, you genuinely need to see a psychologist, I'm not being condescening or facetious, you have a problem with how you view yourself and others.

> if you say hi to a woman and she feels sexually harassed, but you had no such intent behind it, then she was not experiencing sexual harassment, even if she feels that way.
And now you just contradicted yourself again.

First you said that sexual harrassment is a universal law, regardless of the victims feelings.

Then you said that sexual harrassment is defined by the victim.

Then you said again that sexual harrassment is not defined by the victims feelings.

Get help.
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>>10668598
Well, the best place to make friends is literally by meeting up with them. Hell, I still talk to a few of the old guard from 2000's /cgl/. One of them got me into the Texas Cosplay scene too, so I'm eternally thankful to her. But yeah dude the first step is literally just talking.

>>10668581
Well, I'm glad to see you got that sorted out. Yeah, I'm a wizard when it comes to foam and making props but when it comes to a fucking sewing machine, I just go full retard. I intend to overcome this hurdle once and for all... Thanks for the blessings.
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How does one get laid at con? Do people even lay at cons anymore? How can I be a peacock without being nasty, like what can I wear? Also I'm male like every other thirsty bastard that visits cgl.
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>>10666242
Has anyone here quit an addiction? I smoke, used to smoke around 10 a day, currently i try not to go over 3-5 daily, however i'd like to leave it completely. Tried nicotine patches and they gave me skin reactions, tried quitting cold turkey and always relapsed at around the week mark. I feel like i've hit a plateau and can't bring myself to lower the dose without basically breaking down, any advice?
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>>10668648
replace smoking with porn addiction
fap every time you get the urge to smoke
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>>10668650
I know this isn't genuine, but holy shit the idea of masturbating that much sounds genuinely painful.
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>>10668648
Quit smoking cold turkey 2 years ago
Hasn't been a day that's gone by where I haven't wanted to smoke but it does get easier.
If you can avoid people and any areas (like bar patios) where smoking occurs. Seriously curb yourself when it comes to buying more packs. Finish your last pack or wean yourself slowly by cutting down day by day or week by week and then stop when you think you can.
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>>10668656
I admire your willpower anon. Did you have anxiety attacks while quitting? If so, how did you deal with them?
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The armed forces has ruined my ex best friend.
He's become soulless and a total brute. It's scary.
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>>10668693
Which country? Did your friend participate in combat?
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>>10668694
> Did your friend participate in combat?

No, he just fixes the jets. He's been stationed all over iirc.
And that's what's so puzzling. He's never been in combat but his personality is so cold. He had a mask-like quality about him that got worse Everytime I saw him
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>>10666535
>People use drugs to substitute happiness to allow them to tolerate a reality that as a totally sober person they would not tolerate.
yes thats the point.
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>>10668657
Yes, actually but that was also due to a lot of other reasons.

The anxiety thing I dealt with by taking propanolol, practicing deep breathing exercises, and learning coping mechanisms.

It can help a lot to pinpoint the root of your anxiety and first try to think of all the pros and cons about dealing with it.
Then think out at least 3 different ways you could tackle the problem. You may also think out the pros and cons to those solutions to help decide which is best for you.

Ex: I'm anxious about quitting smoking because it's too hard.

Pros to quitting: improves health, expenses are cut, I smell better
Cons: it'll make me irritable, I'll miss it

Ways to solve the problem:
Substitute every other cig with nicorette gum until I run out of cigs then only use nicorette until I run out of that
Slowly wean myself off
Quit cold turkey


Also, mindful awareness can really help if you're in a bind with anxiety. You can try to observe your surroundings and count all the things that are a certain color, shape, sense, etc.
Listening to music I love and paying extra attention to the sounds and lyrics help me a lot too.

Good luck anon I hope any of that helps and sorry for the blog post gulls
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>>10666242
>like j-fashion but not really into anime/manga
>stranger approaches me to ask me "what's your favorite anime," lists off several favorite anime, and seems confused when I haven't seen any of them
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>>10668697
He isn't cold. He is probably tired and can't relate to you because of your lifestyle.

>>10668832
Make up an anime and see how far you can go making up crap about it until someone catches up. If someone claims to ha watched it, make up shameful scenes to make them look like freaks.
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>>10668600
anon, you're wrote a good reply, but you were replying to bait all along.
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>>10668867
If you disagree it's bait. If you agree then it is a good reply. I'm not any of these anons but really are an empty-headed retard.
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>>10668697
Armed forces tend to be very heavy on working against individuality in favor of unity and assuring the chain of command will be respected above your personal feelings. It may be too heavy for your friend.
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>>10668867
I've been bamboozled.
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>>10666421
You sound like me except I'm Christian and my politics aren't bizarre, but fairly conservative.
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>>10668648
have you tried vaping? it's still bad but better than having smoker's cough / breathing issues. afterwards if you really try you can probably complete smoking all together. if you're not already hitting the gym it's a good replacement for your nic addiction. nic killed my appetite so I had to quit smoking to start building mass. I still crave it once in awhile especially when I see it romanticize in media/real life.
>>10668656
if you're in a relationship smoking/porn addiction kills your sex drive plus porn makes sex less enjoyable. good thing is the effects are not long term and if you quit you can gain it back after awhile. would recommend you get off that shit for a healthy relationship.
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>>10668838
>Make up an anime and see how far you can go making up crap about it until someone catches up.
kek I could totally do that. I ended up just saying my real favorite anime since it's not like I haven't seen any at all, but established (to much surprise) that it's not really a true interest of mine.
I guess the point was just that my sense of style puts me in this awkward position where normies think I'm weird and different, and weebs think I'm one of them but I'm not. I just don't like western fashion is all.
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>>10667030
This. Most churches will just be happy you're there and not be pushy.
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>>10668832
Because it's rare to meet someone into J-Fash and isn't a weeaboo. Nothing wrong with that however.
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>>10668648
Wellbutrin aka Zyban aka bupropion. It's prescription but your insurance wants you to stop smoking so it's probably cheap. It'll also destroy your appetite and you really won't want to drink on it either, plus it'll make you less depressed and might even help your ADHD. Downside is that if you're prone to anxiety, it might make that waaaaay worse. But hey, better than lung cancer and more reliable than cold turkey.
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>>10668563
Don't even know if I can call them friends, I pretty much never am in contact with them and destroyed my relationship to the only person who showed any sign of wanting to keep in touch with me.

Formerly, I've still had some opportunity to meet some of them once in a while, though, and that's a reason to try to keep the relationship as good as possible. But as the time between each interaction gets longer and longer, the value of keeping them gets lower and lower, so I may be somewhat closer to wanting to risk it all than before.

The gamble wouldn't really have any payoff other than making me feel something for a while and imitate anime characers, I don't think it'd actually lead to happiness even if it'd give some satisfaction of being open.

>>10668600
If you accept that sexual harassment exists at all, then you have to start with what can give feelings of sexual harassment, even if feelings aren't always correct.
And what is the most typical things that causes feelings of sexual harassment? That's being approached. So we can start from there. On an individual basis, feelings of sexual harassment isn't the truth, but the feelings still give us a statistical basis to define sexual harassment from.

Anyway, I think I'd redefine it slightly differently, I'd rather say that "any action or behaviour motivated by romantic or sexual interest is sexual harassment". Confessing would fall under that, but it makes it clearer that for example staring is also sexual harassment.

I realize that most people wouldn't say this is true, but it's the only logical and fair way to define sexual harassment.
The discussion should be what levels of sexual harassment that's okay to do, that people should accept, rather than saying all sexual harassment is wrong. Maybe we as a society should accept the sexual harassment of confession, for example.
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>>10668600
>>10669259 cont.
So even confessing might not necessarily be doing anything wrong, even if it feels that way because it falls under the umbrella of sexual harassment. In that case, I'd need to learn to accept that it's okay to do things that are classified as morally wrong if done in small amounts.

>>10668867
>>10669089
It's not bait.
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So anyone going to Fan Expo Dallas?
I've been planning on going but still haven't bought tickets because I want to either
A. nab them cheap the week before when people decide to sell for some reason
B. decide not to go because I've seen 0 discussion about it and the pics they have for the con online don't make it seem the most glamorous

I also need to get some new contacts but I should have those by the time the con rolls around without much issue. Anyone ever been before?
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Free me from shopping addiction hell. I wish I had a healthy relationship with this hobby
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>like cosplay, still shit at it but im improving a little bit every time I work at it
>so I decide to bite the bullet and go to a convention for the first time
>its a huge one, state-wide, people everywhere and I'm intimidated
>walk up to random group of 6 people giving eachother advice on cosplay
>A switch flips in my brain and I suddenly transform from “possibly autistic” to “God of Conversation”
>don’t even remember half of what I said but they must have thought I was a expert or something and when they asked a question I didn’t know the answer to I replied with general bullshit advice you could say about anything like “You have to keep trying, its a process not something to do over night” or made a joke that everyone laughed at
>the topic of conversation eventually switches to anime
>I watched like 4 episodes of naruto once when I was younger, haven’t touched anime with a five foot pole otherwise
>mfw ”What’s your favorite anime, Anon?”
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>sweating bullets, I pretend to be thinking deeply while I go over my choices
>Either try and talk about some mega popular anime like One Punch Man from the two pop culture facts about it I know and look like an idiot when they ask more about it, or admit I don’t like anime and basically commit social suicide
>But no... there’s a third option!
>What if I were to make up an anime and disguise it as my own favorite?
>Delightfully Devilish, Anon!
>I mean, we all know how ridiculous some of these shows are based on titles alone, there’s one literally called “Is It Wrong To Pick Up Girls in a Dungeon?” if memory serves
>Using my mastercraft of intellect and four braincells left alive, I talk about an isekai where a college student trying to get his accounting degree gets run over by a truck and is betrothed to the princess of Magic Fantasy Land because japan
>Instead of being a ruler who derives strength from leading armies or magic or being some badass soldier he gets all the kingdoms affairs in order
>I talk about this one arc where he stops goblin raids on human towns by developing the goblin cities to give them jobs so they don’t have to pillage to survive and also the protag has a harem now because japan
>They all believe it, they are absolutely enthralled
>Convo goes on for 20 more min and when it ends we all swap numbers
>Still can’t believe I actually pulled it off and not just talked but LED a conversation I knew next to nothing about
>at the hotel before I search up if theres an anime like this I decide to open hulu on my phone and watch some CSI
>mfw the exact anime I was making up shit about is on the front page of hulu called “The king is a Realist” or some shit
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>>10668838
The text is a response to this amazing anon, who brought back this memory from right before covid hit

Oh yeah and the exact name is called “How A Realist Hero Rebuilt The Kingdom”
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>>10668881
>If you disagree it's bait. If you agree then it is a good reply.
that's your own headcanon, anon
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>>10669290
>>10669291
impressive.
Now you know what you gotta do, watch anime every day!
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>>10666242
FUCK I got hit in the coochie FUUUUUCK OOWWWWWW
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>>10669259
>If you accept that sexual harassment exists at all, then you have to start with what can give feelings of sexual harassment, even if feelings aren't always correct.

Yes and no. Sexual harassment isn't defined by the individual but by what is deemed by society. Hence why the definition changes over time and across cultures.

>And what is the most typical things that causes feelings of sexual harassment? That's being approached
That's 100% your own opinion and completely your personal subjective view, so that's a horrible starting point.

>The discussion should be what levels of sexual harassment that's okay to do, that people should accept, rather than saying all sexual harassment is wrong
Sexual harassment by definition is unwanted sexual attention. The key is whatever society deems "unwanted" and "sexual". Hence why, again, the definition of sexual harassment changes over time and across cultures. Harassment is a subjective crime made up by people to ensure a stable society, not a universal law.

Your logic sucks ass.
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Why are all the dresses I fall in love with long sleeved velveteen when I live somewhere that never gets cold enough to wear that
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finding a loyal non social media gf is so hard
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>>10666261
Nice KISS post
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I want to be friends with a gull. But I'm scared they'd judge and hate me
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>>10669462
If you're a lolita, most of us come here so chances are any lolita friend is a gull, not all of us are the ones who are "mean".
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>tfw small measurements so can fit into anything but my body still looks fleshy and fat

I feel like I look great with clothes on, but kind of gross in underwear. Wish I had better genetics.
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>>10669436
Because you can vacation in cold ass places. Anime Conventions in Canada are calling out to you
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I feel so social awkward. I guess I have a problem with understanding social conventions and social cues and being entertaining in a conversation.

Moving to a different state and being alone I realized how difficult it’s for me to create new relationships, I crave for friends and companionship. Maybe I’m just boring, but I keep thinking I could train to be more charismatic and entertaining in order to make new friends

I don’t know where to start, I’m a girl looking for friendship, all charisma stuff I see is for man who want to pick girls up and it’s usually straight up nasty manipulative behavior and not the kind of material I’m wanting.
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>that feel when your bust is 92cm~ but your rib cage is like 82 cm.
Why did God have to curse me like this...
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>>10669545
BOOBA.
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>>10669439
Dude, same. I want a Miku cosplaying wife but I loathe how dumb social media has made everyone. Best you can do right now is just work on yourself to increase chances down the road though, as played out as that trope is.

>>10669531
>manipulative men.

I hate to play the not all men card, but there are a few of us who are generally turned off from socializing with other females because we know it brings more drama down the road than we care for. But we are pretty loyal with the right woman... we’re just either busy doing other stuff or have seen too many cases of the ex girlfriend getting the entire guy’s social circle destroyed because of sexual buyers remorse.
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Can you gulls please bully me? I reached BMI 23 after binging for two weeks and this is the highest i've ever been. I need some good old /cgl/ bullying to get back into shape so whenever i feel like pigging out or skipping my workout i can look at screencaps of it and do it out of spite.
Thanks btw.
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>>10669557
Can you read?
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>>10669558
You should get some professional help and take care of your body because you love yourself, not because other people hate you.
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>>10669545
My rib cage is almost 90 cm. It’s horrible.
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>>10669559
>Go to con
>see cosplay you like
>oh my god that’s so cool.

There’s your ice breaker, you can do the leg work yourself.
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>>10669545
I have the same problem and I'm genuinely considering a reduction. I lost a bunch of weight to try and fix the issue and I ended up thin everywhere but my bust, which is still 93cm. I just want to be able to wear brand cardigans and blouses without gapping buttons dammit
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I hate the "everyone is beautiful no matter what" rethoric. Some people are objectively ugly and them not getting bullied to at least do better on their styling is cheapening the look of not only lolita but a lot of cosplay aswell.
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I’m so bored it’s making me depressed
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The fact i look so 4 to 5/10 is absolutely wrecking me mentally gulls. Even with makeup i have premature wrinkles due to my condition and i'm only in my mid twenties. I hate my parents for not giving birth to a girl as pretty as those I see on instagram or daily. It makes me physically sick. I just want to be beautiful but you can't slap lipstick on a pig and call it a princess
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>>10669767
comparing yourself to people you see on social media is dumb. It’s all smoke and mirrors with filters and photoshop. we tend to judge ourselves more harshly than how others perceive us. everyone eventually age I’m sure you look fine anon
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>>10669767
I know what it's like to constantly berate your looks anon and in all honesty the best one can do is ask yourself if you can change it, if you can, do it, if you can't, then your best bet is to look for ways to learn to live with it, letting yourself be consumed by insecurities will only leave you exhausted and depressed.
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I want to die. I’m so fucking stupid and I keep making the same mistakes and screwing up my life. My credit sucks and my options are nonexistent, I don’t want to do this anymore.
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>>10669947
life aint a race just take it a step at a time at your own pace. dont compare yourself to others but to yourself from before. as long as you're moving forward that's something to be proud of :]
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>>10669950
fuck you. life is not easy like that for most people
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>>10669954
it is, if you're having a bad time that's on you
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>>10669954
life isn't easy it's a grind. nobody cares about you so you have to put in the effort to help yourself. credit could be fix by adjusting your spending habits and time.
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>>10669954
It's not always that easy but when you have no control over everything around you trying to be optimistic helps keep the anxiety and sadness and feelings of impending doom from consuming you long enough to at least work on improving your situation.
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>>10669960
>It's not always that easy but when you have no control over everything around you
those are my favorite situations because you get to say cool shit like "it is what it is" or "it cant be helped"(my favorite catch phrase). plus you dont have to stress over those because no matter what you do it cant be helped so why worry.
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>>10669961
>>10669960
>>10669959
you retards have clearly never been at the bottom.
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>>10669964
Trust me, I have fucking been at the bottom. It's okay to be honest about your feelings if you don't feel great and you don't have to force yourself to perk up,, but if you've really been at rock bottom you're not whining about it on cgl you're having an emotional breakdown alone and crying so hard you vomit and then pulling yourself together as quickly as you can so you're not late to your job because if you miss one shift you're at risk of being late on rent or not affording groceries and the family who would normally help someone in your situation is dead or abusive so you have to deal with it on your own. I wont go into more detail but it was much worse than just what I described. I know what it's like at the bottom and even then I had to be more optimistic because if not I'd have fucking killed myself to get away from it all before things had a chance to get better, and a few times I came really close/even tried.

Fuck off if you want comfort and then when someone actually offers it on cgl of all places you're gonna get pissy about how no one could ever understand how hard it is for you.
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>>10669964
Shut the fuck up and eat a snickers.
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>>10669767
Mood. Everyday i hate waking up in this ugly pig body and face and wish i could have been cute instead
It’s literally ruined my entire life and career path
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>>10669964
we can't all be lifelong bottom bitches like you
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I want con friends to hang out with and talk about cosplay stuff
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>>10670052
Hey someone's gotta bottom
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>>10669964
I invested in crypto for the first time and didn’t get rich. Any crypto anons out there wanna pump my bags to help me out I’m in arbitrum :0
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Did anyone else see this absolute autism?
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>>10670195
what the fuck is this buzzword salad, lolitas are mentally ill. Why are they censoring 4chan and kawaii?
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>>10670227
kawaii is apparently a slur now.
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>>10670195
The entire culture is racism for SJW shit. Black folk participate in all this crap until it's a black person targetted. I could not give a single fuck that they are one race or another, the entire SJW culture and ideology is completely divisive to try to put us in segregated groups again.
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I hand washed my new iw skirt i got in cold water. and the red bled all over wtf
So i threw it into the wash in cold delicate after rubbing stain remover in it. Pray for me gulls.
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>>10670195
Two flavors of autism on display here. Pretty much everyone, including the original poster (at first), realizes that the people who were trying to convince her that kawaii is a slur are white incel trolls. Av*na as usual has to bring her buzzword salad into it and let everyone know that she knows better because she is *Brown* (tho she’s a high caste, wealthy Indian, not the black girl she so wishes she was), but for once she isn’t totally off the mark.
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>>10670195
What is wrong with SJWs, why can't they just type normally or stop using buzzwords? I promise that girl that nobody in their right mind gives a fuck about her censoring a word that's not even from her language...
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>>10670253
Av*na wants to be oppressed SO bad. Just look at her whole "I'm non-binary" bit.

It will never cease to amaze me how the wealithest lolitas dropping money regularly on new clothing have the audacity to pretend like their platforms are for anything other than flexing outfits.

tldr If I see one more post of a $1000+ outfit with some caption about people in poverty I'm going to commit.
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>>10670136
Crypto hype is over
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>>10669947
Stop buying things on credit anon
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>>10670271
I was up like 3k on this shitcoin but I didnt sell it crashed and now I'm down $100 feelsbad. I want a lambo
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tfw you leave your email attached to all your posts because last you posted was in the WTB
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>>10670058
Hey me too.
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I’m so mad at myself for thinking I could fit into a cosplay while knowing my measurements have definitely fluctuated over the past year. I’ve totally been in denial. Granted the cosplay is genuinely small to begin with (the size small had measurements about 30-22-34), I’m still so angry that it barely fits and feel like a whole fucking potato. I’m so short that I look like a troll and it’s been difficult to lose weight. I heard weight is harder to lose when you’re not technically “overweight” but still, fuck.
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>>10670340
i dont even know where to meet other cosplay friends, im too much of a sperg to actually talk to people at cons
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>>10670357
Can’t learn to ride a bike without falling a shit ton friend.
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I want to sell my wardrobe because I lost my job because of covid and illness. However if I have any kind of "income", my financial aid will be put to a stop.
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>>10670416
You are going to claim your sales as income on your taxes??? Because bro how else do they know. Just do it a few at a time.
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>>10670418
You have to show them your bank statements every month if you receive financial aid for unemployment
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A fat friend has started asking where I get some of my taobao lolita stuff like blouses, mainpieces, and legwear and I don’t know how to tell her that I think she’s too fat for any of the things I’m buying.

But it isn’t just that, she’s started to make comments about weight and comparing our bodies. We aren’t the same height and I don’t know her exact weight but she’s visibly obese while I am on the slim side of average. It makes me really nervous because I don’t want to hurt her feelings. I don’t care that she’s fat, it doesn’t change my feelings about her as a person. I’m just nervous if I make any comment on her weight like agreeing with her that objectively she could stand to lose weight for her health and that it would be easier to find things to fit into that she’ll freak out.
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>>10670622
If she’s into Asian fashion at all already, she might know that many brands do the “one size” thing which is basically a size small. You can try to gently tell her that TB only really has stores with brands that follow that system, and ergo items from there wouldn’t fit her. That way, it’s not you saying “you’re too fat for my clothes” and more “due to systemic sizism in Asian clothing, these brands aren’t going to have anything that fits you.” That way, you can shift the blame/uncomfy feeling from you to ~the world at large-
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>>10670398
I was gonna try and talk to people in the gaming rooms or karaoke at sacanime, but all that shit was closed
I just want to cosplay with people, and chat about dumb shit and watch chinese cartoons and such and learn more about cosplay
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>>10670622
just let her find out on her own the hard way - I don't see a world in which telling her she's too fat for your clothes ending well for anyone, even if you do it in this roundabout way >>10670663
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>>10670195
My eyes just glazed over after the first sentence.

People actually understand this? I'm so glad I got a STEM degree and don't have to deal with these people.
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>>10670622
Why can't you people just be honest? Do you really want to be friends with someone who refuses to acknowledge a serious issue because having to solve it requires effort? Do you want to be friends with someone who you actually fear if you say the wrong thing to?

Just tell her that not only does this fashion not accommodate larger sizes that the community itself does not accommodate larger sizes. Even if she could somehow coax a dress onto herself, the community would rip her apart if she tried to engage in it.
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>>10670343
> I heard weight is harder to lose when you’re not technically “overweight” but still, fuck.

It's not. That myth comes from when morbidly obese people cut down from 10K calories a day to a more normal 2.5K calories a day. The sheer size of that calorie change means that rate of weight loss is also very large.

It's not any "harder" to lose weight. The rate of which you lose weight changes because if you already have a low weight, there's only so big a calorie deficient you can actually achieve. If you're consuming less calories that you use in a day, you will lose weight. It's literally that simple.
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I really want to be a vtuber but have a hard time deciding between a chill sweet comfy vibe with a lolita and other jfashion loving artist character that mostly attracts other girls or a coomer-bait gamer girl. Probably kogyaru inspired.

I'm sure every idea or persona under the sun has been done already though so no reason to stress over it. I rarely interact I'm any public way online with my interests so this would be a fun exciting way to make friends with people and just have a nice time without fear of it affecting my real life.
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>>10670713
Fat people are notorious for overreacting when someone points out that they are in fact, fat.
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>>10670770
Online maybe. Irl it depends. There are loud and quiet types of fat people. Jfashion interested ones might be the loud types.

When I was fat as a teen, if people ever acknowledged it even if they were trying to be nice or say I wasn't that big or was still pretty, I just responded as they'd expect me too but cry about it later if it was something mean. Some fatties are actually really worried about being that negative stereotype any more than they already are. It's why so many fat girls eat less or a salad in front of people and binge and gorge on junk alone. Cause they don't want to seem to have more of the bad fat characteristics. Anons friend clearly has low self esteem with the comparing bodies and stuff, doing their best to be honest but polite and kind will likely be the best influence on the friend.
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>>10670683
I mean right now you're probably going to have to either wait for fucking ever because it's California or pony up the ticket for like a Texas convention or something. You'd make friends but they'd be out of state... Otherwise I suppose there's always just like bombing some random cosplayer you like over insta and just asking them that way, that usually works too.

>>10670769
Pick a shitty OC that works, and realize that you're going to be stuck with that persona.
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I'm going to a ren-faire tomorrow with a friend.
I'm hoping to meet new people there, expand our friend group.
He's hoping to party and get wasted with some new people.
I suspect both of our goals are not going to succeed.

But for tonight I can dream.

I hope your dreams come true too anons.
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>>10670769
people charge an arm and a leg to get those avatars made
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>>10670770
So what you're saying is don't be friends with fat people.
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>>10670807
Yes. They’re gross.
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Washed and soaked my skirt 4 times already in cold water and it’s still dye running and staining the water pink. i will never do red colorways again, ever, seriously what the fuck
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>>10670419
What is paypal
what is bitcoin
what is craiglist
what is stuffing the money in a mattress
what is bouncing the money through a trusted friends account.

Everyone fudges this stuff one way or another so they don't lose their benefits over bureaucratic fuckery. My best friend legally couldn't work or else he'd lose his scholarships, so he just worked illegally instead.
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>>10670830
Why would you think this would help in any way
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>>10670832
Anon you have to show them all of that, you even have to tell them how many coins you have. I could do it through a friend and risk huge fines and getting marked as a fraud officially sure. There's a lady whose mother paid for her groceries, they found out and she was pushed into in debt because of the punishment (7000 euro fine).
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>>10670852
Just don’t get caught lol.
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>>10670833
Because google says to do it
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I has a new model kit :)
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>>10670882
Why do you think there are anons that tell you to not wash shit with prints. Dry clean.
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>>10666535
So you're really happy as it stands now?
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>>10670893
Honestly i bought the skirt for daily wear and i’m not trying to dry clean it every time, but i’ll keep that in mind for the future. my other print items were fine being hand washed, but i don’t have anything else with red so it’s my first experience.
I’ll probably just keep washing it in cold water and to hell with it if it just turns pink overall. Maybe i’ll wash enough dye off that it stops running
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>>10670893
You can easily wash prints. Color bleeding is tricky with reds but I've washed dozens or berry prints dozens of times from JP brands and had no problems using various combos of cold/warm water, color catchers, and oxyclean.
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>>10670893
can you fuckers research anything? dry cleaning has nothing to do with preventing cotton prints from running, in fact it can cause cotton and other natural fibers to fade faster. all dry cleaning solutions need to do is clean specific types of synthetics. why does everyone think it's a gentler method or something?
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>>10670796
Do people actually hunt down instagram cosplayers and ask them to be their friend?
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>>10670936
It happened to me before but the bitch was kind of crazy. Still a viable technique I guess.
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I bought some plain solid dresses from an indie brand that i really like
. and i just found out they are a total replica of an old meta dress. Kinda sucks. but at least I got them in colors that the old meta dress wasn't available in and i'll keep wearing it I guess
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>>10670958
That's fucking weird, I might be a sperg but I'm not menhara
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>>10670719
Yeah, I'm aware of how basic metabolism works, thank you. It's hard to achieve quick weight loss around my weight because eating less calories a day (when I've already been sticking to >1000/day) is only going to push my body into a frenzied "gotta save every bit of fat" mode because it'll think food isn't available. Would dropping down to, for example, a 500 cal/day diet *eventually* help me lose weight? Sure, but I'd first not lose any weight at all for months because my metabolism would shut down and I might end up earning myself an eating disorder in the process. I guess I'm just lamenting that unlike someone who's obese, I can't just half my calorie count and expect the weight to melt off immediately.
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>>10670971
Yeah idk, nowadays I’m friendly to folks but wary considering how openly batshit insane the internet allows them to be. But in my case it’s easy to make friends from just being entertaining, so I suck at giving advices to people who are implied social retarded.
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>>10671053
The biggest interaction I had was some tiny chick who was freaking out about my cosplay and did a mock proposal to me since I was dressed as her waifu and I wasn't sure how to respond, maybe I shoulda asked for her number or something
Maybe I just have to wait until an actual big con happens and I can go to cosplay gatherings and chat
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>>10671051
>>10671051
>gotta save every bit of fat

Then workout more you retard. Do a keto diet.
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>>10671075

>Big Interactions

>Autistic John Lucina asking for me and my ex girlfriend to sign his book

>Getting WOO MEGAMAN YEAH from the top of the Waterslides during a photoshoot

>Getting shit talked for bum rushing a character that just came out a week ago, but laughing it off with the boys I came to see at a meet up

>Spooking the local authorities by walking into a WAB with a bunch of other cosplayers from the same series.

>so forth.

Honestly I used to hate big interactions from strangers but I really miss them. COVID changed me as a person to start appreciating what interactions I get in general because working a 9-5 and then coming home to sleep and not having much to look forward to absolutely sucks. I wish the absolute best to you dude, hopefully cons go back to normal depending on what side of the planet you're on because as far as I've noticed they're slim pickings, but all the more to treasure weird / fun interactions you get.
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>>10671077
This is 100% bait I refuse to believe anyone is this stupid
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>>10671097
NAYRT but hard agree, most of the fun of cosplaying is having wacky interactions with people and other cosplayers. All the chars I cosplay I love, so I have pretty deep and autistic knowledge of em, so I'm ready to pop this trivia off at any moment. Even thought about meming around in character at a con once or twice, but some of the characters are dicks and I'd feel bad if someone wasn't in on it.
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>>10666421
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>>10671124
... You know after the past decade of watching the con scene become (arguably) a shell of it's former self, it's really nice to see that other anons still cosplay with soul rather than tier whoring for likes. That shit was tiring for me to keep up with, but thanks anon you might have made my night. I love seeing other people pour their love into the characters and series they love and grow as a person out of it. It challenges me to keep up pace.
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>>10671139
It was my first time really cosplaying but I had so much fun just cosplaying as my waifu, I was surprised how many people wanted pictures which was cool to see
I just want to rep my girl and have fun at cons, hell I think I'd have fun with just a wig and horns regardless of costume
It was some of the most fun I've ever had at a con, heat and annoying as wig aside and I can't wait to do it again
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>>10670894
No.
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>>10671113
This is why you're fat.

Losing fat is not hard. Just have some fucking self-discipline.
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>>10671194
This.
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I quit wearing lolita/otome but I've been buying some odds and ends from Milk to supplement my normie closet and it feels good, like I've moved on but I still acknowledge my roots kek
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>>10671194
Wasn’t the anon you were replying to but ok. Be mad, keto whale
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>>10671156

Series bias aside, I’m just happy to see that there are still die hard fans of shows and specific characters out there still representing what they love at cons. It just feels so rare since the rat race of social media just forces everyone to tier whore to keep growing their following or did at least, I took a semi retirement when Covid hit. Speaking of which, I have to go buy some PVC pipes and foam for a little project I’m working on for a con I’m flying out to in a few months. Kind of hyping myself up here since it’ll be the first time I’ve decided to add in literal motors instead of doing manual articulation to my prop work.

Excited to break new ground here boys.
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>>10671226
I honestly bought my cosplay, but I really want to get into sewing and learn so I can start making my own shit, I dont want to be limited to what other people are selling, especially if there's an outfit for a character I really like but no one makes it
And making weird fucking variants and unique shit
I've always respected the craft even if I'm incapable
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>>10671233
>I don’t want to be limited to what people are selling.

You know, it surprises me to see shops like Taobao and EzCosplay pop up but them never having anything I want to cosplay be in stock. It’s double suffering because I’m a huge mecha fanboy and the stuff I want to do.. like Super Robot Wars OG series for example. I -have- to sew. So I sympathize with you on that.

I’ll be up there learning sewing with you too friend so when I get back from Walmart I can probably tell you which machine I got and the price I paid.
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>>10671238
(Same anon here)

>75 Bucks for a Brother
>140 for a Brother Digital.

Shopping around on Amazon before I get back to you on that sewing data but only replying because I hate leaving people I like in the dark.
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>>10671282
Appreciate it my dude
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>>10666510
Maybe you'll meet my friend who got me into this whole cosplay thing and hit it off. She's doing the same thing.
God I miss her
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>>10666421
>My political views are so bizzarely extreme that I won't risk discussing them, even with my family I tone down many of my beliefs.

Everyone just casually ignoring that anon is a /pol/tard and is probably why they can't make friends and feel empty inside.
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>>10666547
Just because you're not *attracted* to someone sexually doesn't mean you don't want sex ever, anon. That said, if dream me ever bangs dream friends I would also absolutely die inside. Partially because I'm Homestuck trash.
>>10667012
Not gonna lose her job over someone shouting hadaka in the distance wtf
>>10668152
I'm sure you're definitely cute.
>>10668237
tumblr user here, you answered your own question
>>10669259
go reconnect immediately
everyone needs more connection right now
you go right now anon even if you can't do it and have to vaguepost and fish for "i wonder what my mutuals think about me. please tell me." type of thing.
>>10669291
literally sounds like realist hero yeah
go watch it, it's missing goblin raids but definitely close enough, consider reincarnated as a slime (if you want the MC to also be directly OP)
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>>10671292
Np, np. Hobbyists have to stick with each other.
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I guess it’s a stupid and 1st world thing to be sad about, but I can’t help but feel disappointed at how much my Instagram account has died over the past year. I used to get like 35% likes to followers ratio, now I’m down to like 10%. I know this is just algorithm bullshit, but it makes me feel like there’s something wrong with my costumes or the pictures I post, even though I know I’ve only gotten better at making costumes. I’ve always had a small tight knit account mostly made up of people I’ve befriended at cons. It gave a nice sense of community to post something and see all those familiar faces (or usernames) interacting with my stuff. Now the vast majority of those people seemingly don’t see my posts, and there’s nothing I can do about it besides sacrificing my time and sanity trying to please the ever changing algorithm that nobody truly understands. And there’s always that feeling in the back of my mind that maybe this decline is because my costumes don’t look as good as they used to, or my pictures aren’t nice enough, or whatever.
I’ve never tried to have a big account with a lot of followers or anything like that, just something naturally grown throughout the years as I’ve met other cosplayers. So it’s sad to see what I’ve built up for so long regress into such a poor state.
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>>10671298
who cares? you're the one bringing up /pol/
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>>10671374

I know everyone has their own goals in the cosplay scene, but you shouldn’t let the number of likes and feedback you get dictate how you feel. Everyone eventually grows out of cosplay or picks up a better hobby. Given the current climate we’re all in, I would figure that a lot of folks actually can’t show much interest or be motivated to work on anything given how weird about cons have been. Personally? I disbanded my Instagram, and I was one of the more helpful folks. It was fucking with my mentality so much to the point where I viewed my hobby as more of a job and that I -felt- like I needed to keep up with people across the internet. To a point beyond burn out.

I’m regaining my passion back for it, and it looks like I didn’t lose my touch at all, but I am going to say that you shouldn’t try and use social media as a form of validation. You, yourself are always going to be the worst critic of your own work but you should be looking into that as a way to motivate you to improve your craft. To be honest here, most of cosplay Instagram arnt the same hardcore cosplayers that used to exist back like a decade ago. It’s all mostly normie shit, but the hardcore ones who do appreciate the craft will reach out so I really wouldn’t worry about it that much.

Tl;dr - Instagram is not a viable source of your power level, just keep grinding.
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i go to cons and never talk to anyone i spend 5 hours walking around doing nothing
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>>10666242
Went to the recent SacAnime and it was depressing how little there was to do. I was just desperate to go to a con again since covid has shut anime expo twice now. I was happy to be in that environment again but my god the whole place was just one expensive exhibition hall, cosplay gatherings, and a swap meet :/. The best part of the con was seeing my friend win the cosplay masquerade.
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>>10671481
Oh hey I saw that dude walking around, I had no clue who he was but it looked dope
And yeah sacanime is super super mid, even without covid there's no panels unless you want like 2 panels with english voice actors for MHA
It's more of a Saturday con, buy shit during the day, watch the masquerade then leave
If it wasn't so close and cheap I wouldn't bother, there's some sick food places though which is one reason I like going
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i just wrote a good rap with sick flow about having simps. should i release it to the public?
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Drunk idiots keep telling me I look like a princess, despite being a muscular, broad shouldered man
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>>10666332
>daughters
Kek, good one
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>>10670352
rude, i mean its not like death is the only option for them.

>>10666421
start reading anon or get a therapist.
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>>10671527
Do it so we can all laugh at how cringe you are
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>>10671298
nobody cares
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>>10671527
only if you do it in a UwU voice
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This nasty enby who regularly gets shit talked in the cof/it's threads just expressed interest in one of the dresses I'm trying to sell and I honestly can't stand the thought of them wearing it to the point where I'll take the l and cancel the transaction if they try to buy it
I also know for a fact that they would never be able to fit in the dress and it's brand new/unshirred so I'm terrified of what they might do to it

Hopefully based on the fact that I always see them in taobao/bodyline they won't be able to afford new brand
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I was checking burger Mercari for cosplay stuff and found abdl among cosplay and weebshit in someone's personal listings. Jfc, sell your kink shit somewhere that kids can't see it when looking for Hello Kitty plushies.
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>>10671650
Why are lolitas so attached to stuff they’re trying to sell lol
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>>10671660
tinfoil but:
they have shopping addictions and don't *actually* want to part with anything, but they do because of some external reason (needing more space to put more things they buy, needing money to buy more things, needing phresh new coords for the gram). so whatever they sell, to them, is still theirs even when they decide to sell it.
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>>10671660
>>10671670
I do want to part with it which is why I've never worn it. I bought it thinking I would like it and decided it didn't fit my overall style.
I just don't want to sell it to someone who will trash it kek
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>>10671670
oh it's like lending it out and maybe someday they'll buy it back. In the meantime they wouldnt want some ita to ruin it.
>>10671683
WHY ARE YOU ATTCHED TO IT
>never worn
>doesn't fit your style
there's no valid reason you should care who you sell it to.
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>>10671660
I think in this case it’s more of

>I want to get rid of this dress
>but I don’t want this disgusting person to wear it, it deserves a better home.
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>>10671707
nvm. I google what enby is and I get it. it's like me not selling my custom turbo boosted x79 gaming mouse to a girl because they wouldnt appreciate/make used of the specs my custom turbo boosted x79 gaming mouse would bring.
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>>10671707
Some of us actually care about brand in general not being destroyed considering the dress I'm selling is rare and old and there are people out there who will cherish and care for it.

This isn't fast fashion that I'm okay with trashing. It pisses me off that I know people have destroyed some of the rare and old dresses I want and can never obtain so why would I be okay with letting that happen if I can stop it?
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>>10671712
so it's not really about the dress itself but more of a I dont like that person so fuck them
>>10671714
it's still meant to be worn tho so it'll get scuffed up regardless. it's not like it's a collectable where you get it graded and lock it behind a glass box.
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>>10671718
It’s exactly that. Which is fine, it’s like finding out that a limited edition Kotobukiya kit belongs to some Gurren Lagann casual.
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>>10671719
>>10671719
>it’s like finding out that a limited edition Kotobukiya kit belongs to some Gurren Lagann casual.
now that's different. I'm not into gundam but say someone that's new to csgo unboxed a low float sick pattern knife skin from 1 box. I'd be a bit jelly but excited for the person.
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>>10671729
I fucking wouldn’t. They don’t know the actual value behind what they own.
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>>10671449
Thanks for the response anon. I don’t have the energy right now to type out a full reply right now, but I’ve read and contemplated what you said.
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>>10666421
Just be yourself anon
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>>10671750
Not a problem Anon. I was in a similar spot awhile back, and it wasn’t until the world forcing me to go on vacation was when I began to realize I was pushing myself too hard. I don’t want you to experience the same amount of mental and emotional burn out I did is all.
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>>10671731
I been thinking about this all day. I think my feelings have been dictated by others for so long, to be non confrontational, I dont know what my authentic feelings are anymore. I'm so lost it's driving me crazy
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I've just spent literally hours looking at lolita/j-fashion related neocities sites and I feel so inspired to make my own, but I don't have a lot of experience with html so I feel a little intimidated. It seems like such a fun thing to work on though.
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>>10671660
I'm extra careful about who I sell used socks to because I don't want to accidentally sell to some foot fetishist.
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>>10671878
Care to explain how you became a door step then?
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>>10671913
Html is easy. My advice is get used to looking at the source of websites with inspect element and it'll start helping you identify what does what.

If you like something on a website, you can copy the code into your own and edit it to suit whatever you are looking to do.
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I'm so ugly and fat, I look in the mirror and I just want to die. I've always been fat and ugly and now I'm getting older. I hate myself, I hate my parents for birthing me and subjecting me to a life of mediocrity. I'm 28 in November, I've never had a job, couldn't do uni and the only people who care about me is my best friend and boyfriend. I just want to be thin and pretty, thin and pretty girls have it so easy.
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>>10671951
At least one of those things is fixable. Cut out carbs and over time you’ll lose weight. Also stop feeling sorry for yourself; ugly people who are positive and confident anyway will always be better than someone defeated.
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>>10671913
The nice thing about building a website is you can add more and more structure to it over time. Go through all of the basic lessons on w3schools.com and things will make sense as you look through source code. Additionally, just google your questions like “how do I add padding” or “how do I add a menu” and little by little you’ll build up a page.
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>>10671949
Who knows
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>>10672049
I don’t feel happy for strangers unless I’m kind of invested in them. Otherwise it’s like a rich kid having a super nice car. It’s only human to say “they don’t deserve it” if they’re an absolute shitter.
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>>10672067
yeah I mean if they're bratty then I feel like they dont deserve it too. I guess that's normal though. on a side note, I decided to try and make some friends again. working on my social skills but they be lacking after not putting them to used for so long.
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>>10672090
I mean at the potential cost of your own dignity, did you need help trouble shooting your social skills or do you got this?
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>>10671718
You clearly have never seen how fatties butcher dresses to fit them or bust the seams and then discard them because they're ruined.

Honestly just stop acting like you have an informed opinion on egl when you don't even go here.
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>>10672177
>butcher dresses to fit them
im petite and thin and alter dresses to fit myself too sometimes
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>>10672104
>I mean at the potential cost of your own dignity
I'm striving to care less about trying to put up an image and bee myself. or if I turn out to suck a more confidence ver of myself.
>did you need help trouble shooting your social skills or do you got this?
sure why not, I'm pretty sure the other person I'm talking to right now is a gull anyways. my cord is mukku#5340.
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>>10672344
You’re like the third or fourth different person I’ve had to play arm chair psychologist. But I’ll give it my boyscout best. One second.
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>>10672345
>boyscout best
I wonder why that's a phrase, I was in an extremely tryhard serious troop and even we cut corners and did the bare minimum to get stuff done, a far cry from the "genuine effort" of the phrase.

But you should still give it a good try, i am just a petty peanut gallery
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>>10672356
Eh, it’s just how I word things when I feel like giving a genuine try. If I’m being honest I got it from one of my cosplay photography friends. We still smoke hookah and talk about anime to this day, but both him and I are more about vidya and food more than we are about being a cosplay and photography duo. We are both excited about Colossalcon Texas however.
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>>10671951
You do nothing all day. Workout for fuck sake.

I know you types of people won't do anything unless it's all laid out for you.

Here:

1. Figure out how many calories your supposed to be eating, use this calculator and do not lie. https://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/macronutcal.htm

2. Plan your meals and measure your ingredients. This is crucial because fat people always underestimate portions. Use this: https://www.eatthismuch.com/

3. Start moving. You need to get your heart rate up, none of this walking bullshit. Walking doesn't do anything, it's very inefficient and time consuming if you're just looking to lose weight. Start running or swimming/cycling if your joints are not good. Just get your heart rate up, that is key to avoiding cardiovascular disease.

4. Track your weight each week, then go through steps 1 and 2 again to plan your next week of meals as you will need fewer and fewer calories.
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>>10671968
>Cut out carbs and over time you’ll lose weight
That's not how losing weight works.
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>>10672192
altering dresses is not butchering dumbass
butchering a dress is when you TRY to alter it and fail miserably either reducing the dress to a useless pile of fabric or forever ruin the construction and silhouette of the dress
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>>10672192
Taking in the seams is completely different from taking 2-3 dresses and making a tent sized monstrosity
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>>10671968
>carbs meme
just eat fucking less, if you are in a deficit you will lose weight no matter what you eat
weight loss is fucking easy if you actually want to lose weight and not just bitch online
t. fatty who lost 80 lbs
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>>10672406
If someone is altering using 2-3 dresses they're usually trying to ensure they have enough extra fabric to take it to a seamstress and get it altered properly,
not what >>10672405 is saying. Taking things in can be done poorly too. That's why I take my stuff to a tailor. I can sew things from scratch but tailoring and alteration is a whole other skill and ballgame. The shitty alteration jobs are usually people trying to use waist ties when they're so big they need way more fabric than that and not adding fabric to the skirt to keep the shape correct or re-cutting the bodice at all. etc. But people are only using 1 dress for that, not multiple.

Someone in a DIY or craft thread posted a girl who really skillfully altered a Meta dress larger and was able to recreate the bodice well and make tons of very nice accessories with it. Idk exactly her size or how much bigger she needed to make it. But it's proof legitimately skilled people altering dresses the right way even if they're being made bigger is totally fine. I don't see my getting stuff taken in as any different than that girl's work, just different directions and going bigger being more work to obtain extra fabric.

Hack jobs and nice alterations are different and the fatties who have had proper alterations done you may not even be able to tell because many just "chubby" or tall people do them and once the dress fits flatteringly it becomes less glaringly obvious they are the wrong size for the clothes. Just like people don't realize how small I am or that my brand is altered because it's done inconspicuously enough that no one realizes the dress is normally decent but bigger.

But if you just don't want fat people in lolita that's your opinion. I just don't think alteration discourse ever considers that tons of us alter our dresses well in various ways. And you rarely see those ones secondhand because we actually keep them when they fit better. It's always assuming everything is the worst case
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>>10672451
>If someone is altering using 2-3 dresses they're usually trying to ensure they have enough extra fabric to take it to a seamstress and get it altered properly
did you just discover the fashion? 9-10 times it's a deathfat who takes up an entire queen sized bed. you can't seriously think people would spend time and money finding an entire 2nd piece to just use a little section? you are nuts.
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>>10672453
nayrt but ive bought an entire second jsk to use about 10cm of it, i was right at the max measurements and wanted some breathing room without sacrificing any amount of gathering in the skirt. used the extra fabric to make a tote bag and headbow and now i have a comfy dress
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>>10672460
>9/10
Not anon's fault you don't know what statistics mean.
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>>10672453
Yes because deathless use the waist ties and regather the skirt to the point its a tube and ruin the shape. They're cheap and not willing to pay for it to look good.

Like I said, people who get good alterations done are usually not the biggest and its not as noticeable and they're not the ones reselling butchered dresses cause they'll keep ones that fit.
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>>10672467
*sorry deathfats not deathless
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My mum finally kicked my dad out and I'm so proud of her. She used to be a size 24 and she's lost so much weight in just the past couple of months with cutting out snacking, healthier breakfast and lunch and a bunch of cycling. She's so obviously so much happier and it's so good to finally be able to enjoy spending time with her, I had no idea how much he was just leeching her soul away.
I'm also finally getting to the root causes of my lifelong anxiety and I think I'm starting to make some real progress. I'm actually capable of feeling angry purely for my own sake for the first time in my life, rather than just accepting everything as what I deserve.
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I really wish I built an instagram presence and started cosplaying in my teens, now I'm starting at an age when "egirls" and "eboys" are usually retiring in a bid to do so before I really grow too old. I think I'll never be popular now.
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>>10667845
ngl, this made me smile
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How to help someone with bdd
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>>10666510
same but it's worse for me because i'll hit the wall. at least you can flex your money, girls care about money. but what the hell is another MD doing here?
>>10671294
w-where is she from
>>10666421
i'd be your friend if you were a girl, but we probably wouldn't click and then we'd slowly drift apart. i wonder what your political views are. if they are so bizarre you can at least find a niche group of people with similar beliefs, right?
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>>10672541
Literally all lesbians like older, powerful women. You'll be gucci.

Now I'm not an MD like you, I'm a failure, which is my biggest regret, but my father and brother are, and you can fit a partner into a resident's schedule.

You just need to find a patient person - that goes even for practicing doctors, and my mother's selfish and impatient nature was the main reason behind the breakup of my parents' marriage.

Think of it as a test for if your date is an actual life-mate material.
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>>10672560
Can confirm, my gf and I would love a triad with a powermilf
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>>10672541
>but what the hell is another MD doing here
Living vicariously
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>>10671951
>fat
>never had a job
>didn't even go to school
>still gets a bf
Women live life on easy mode
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I purposely dress ita because I am too ugly for actual lolita
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>order uber eats
>without fail each time the driver fucks up where they deliver the food
>Or they just ignore the instructions and call me

I literally cannot make the delivery instructions any more explicit than I have.
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I’m the anon from last thread who was trying to lose some weight before the next con with an update!
Con’s tomorrow, got my 3-sizes from 35-27-36 to 34-24-35 (when flexing). I don’t own a scale but I’d like to think I’m at least 5 pounds lighter. Thanks for the advice, esp since I only had a few weeks to pull this off! I’m not totally happy with how I look as a final product of working out so I’m definitely gonna continue with the advice and see how much better I can look by katsu. Thanks again!
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>>10673021
Try snakejuice
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>>10673026
after a quick google search, I think I'll pass... not trying to knock your advice but fasting 48-96 hours seems like big proana vibes
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>>10673029
>proana
Only as ana as you let it be, drop down to your ideal weight then eat more responsibility from there on out
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>>10666421
Anon are you me?
All im missing in my life is a gf to settle down with. Really hoping that will cure my depression.
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>>10666257
I'm guessing that a lot of us just have thotty gen-Z little sisters. Both of mine have had sugardaddies or outright prostituted themselves alongside selling pics online, and they're only 19 and 20.
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>>10671051
>Yeah, I'm aware of how basic metabolism works, thank you.

You say this but immediately launch into completely unscientific bullshit. You need to eat at an extreme deficit for an extended period of time before your body begins holding on to the fat, not the other way around.
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>>10671302
>go reconnect immediately
>everyone needs more connection right now
>you go right now anon even if you can't do it and have to vaguepost and fish for "i wonder what my mutuals think about me. please tell me." type of thing.
The thing is that I don't know if I could ever call them my friends. We were in a situation where we interacted pretty much every day and I did spend some time with them, but on the other hand, no one ever invited me in any birthday celebration, I was not asked to hang out with people, I was alone a lot, when we split and left the situation they didn't express a want to stay in touch, I was not invited to the reunion, I was never truly a part of the community. So there might not ever have been much there.
I have met some of them since though, but except the one person I was an asshole to, not in a really long time, except when they were with the person I was mean to at the same time as I was with them.
And the person I was mean to, well it wasn't the only time I was mean either. So it seems like I can't stop being shitty. Maybe they'd forgive me, but when I can't treat them decently I should stay away. At least I've apologized though. That took me a long time.

But speaking just of needing connection, I really wish I could hang out with one person I met at some cons and we've actually hung out after too, but I asked in December and we've talked a few times since without them suggesting anything so I don't know if I can ask again, wouldn't that seem desperate, I've already written something that could seem desperate to them, or maybe even just that it'd bother them and be annoying if I asked too often.
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I really hope there is a secret santa this year and I keep checking /cgl/ all the time in hope there is a thread, I really want to join this year, but I really fear there won't be any because the threads for last year ended up dying out without resolution to every scam and it's a lot of effort for the people who organize and I fear they might have given up because of the drama or just because they don't feel like it
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wow all this cause some anon liked some cosplayer and hoped she didn't make the mistake of going back to her ex that cheated on her, just to be a side milf to the guys baby momma. fuck wow.

yeah, ya'll can cry simp all you want, but i'm betting this thread blew up cause for many the same situation happened to ya'll.
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>>10666421
just find someone u like and talk to them who cares about friend groups or whatever
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>>10674090
Maybe. Just maybe. You should take the initiative to organize it. Fair warning it’s utter hell.
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>>10677579
It's impossible for me, I've never taken part before and don't know enough about how it works, my /cgl/ engagement goes somewhat in waves too so I can't make a commitment to stay here for months. Would need to get access to the old data. But most of all I think I'm just too lazy.

I do thank you though for confirming my suspicions, even if it's quite disappointing.
I'm sorry I may have seemed beggy/naggy, said it in the dead thread to minimize such impacts.



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