I want to buy new things but I also don't want to spend money.
Its my besties birthday on the 15th and I just won her dream print *so excited* been 4 years looling for it, too!
>working 7 days a week 9 hours a day for the next 2 months
My mum saw me in lolita for the first time. I thought she was going to think it's ridiculous, but instead she padded my shoes with insoles so it's more comfortable.I'm super grateful and wish I was a better daughter. She's great.
I miss summer. I hate the temperatures, but wearing sandals with lolita is such a nice feeling. Plus no more digging through the socks drawer for matching bits
I hate my huge ribcage. My fucking band size is 34. I've never seen anyone here say they have a band size that large. I'm only 5'0" too, and not fat either. I hate how wide I am. I want to get some of my ribs removed if that's possible.
>>10535449To add on to this, I forgot to mention that I am definitely wearing the right size. I tried on a bra with a 32 band size once, and I couldn't even hook it in the back.
>>10535449I also have a 34 band size, you're not alone.
>>10535455How tall are you?
>>105354605'3 w a 34 band as well, but no tits so like a AA. I wish it were smaller but I'd have to take out a rib.
Is there any way to reduce the size of your ribcage?
>>10534905Comfy feels:I've been fairly consistamt with curating an online presence with my coordinates since I'm now home all the time and I finally don't feel as much of a lonelita anymore. >Online friends are nice.Less comfy feels:I got a bad perm back in October (I don't think it was in for long enough, the curl just flattens when my hair dries no matter what I do) and haven't been back to the salon with case numbers rising. Needless to say, I hate my hair right now.
>>10535449I'm a 34 band when my pork is under control. It's not huge anon, 34 is a very normal size, stop comparing yourself to tiny Asian girls.On the flipside wow does a few inches make you feel like the fattest fucking peice of shit.
>>10535449>>10535455>>10535469You guys are average thin white girl sized and upset that you're not average thin Asian sized. Calm down. You're all thin, Asians just have smaller bone structure than Europeans and Africans.
to the mysterious anon who sent me the teddy bear from last thread:WHAT!!! he has arrived today i wasn't actually expecting anything! thank you for the new friend. he will sit in the chair next to me and help me with uni and niceposting. thank you!!!
>>10535482b-but I'm Asian. you're right though which is why I feel so freakishly huge
>>10535487It's soup. You got a bear from a namefag named soup.
>>10535489ohh i wasn't sure if it was soup because she said she was jokingeither way i have a giant bear friend and i'm very grateful
>>10535488If you grew up in the states drinking a lot of milk you'd likely get the beefstack white girls have just the same. It's all them growth hormones
I'm getting tempted to buy either a 1910s-inspired hat that has taxidermized birds or buy a separate hat and separate taxidermized birds and attach the together (Idk how though. Maybe with a hatpin?) for my classic coords
>>10535490soup is male
>>10535482Kind of wondering what genes really lead to a small ribcage though. It's not just Asians like everyone is complaining about. I also have a 28 inch band size with a 32 inch bust, and I'm 5'6." I'm Hispanic and European. I'm gonna guess it's the Hispanic part?
>>10535492Anon please don't wear dead animals. Not even a vegan or anything, that's just disgusting and I'm 100% sure other lolitas will rip you apart.
>>10535492>>10535493Know your bird law before you buy and get papers if you're in the states.
>>10535502Depends on which flavor of hispanic and how much Spaniard got raped into them, but yeah that would be my guess too.
I wonder why on earth that thread that women cosplaying men thread is still alive, it's like 90% infighting between the coping potato faced ftm fujos and the caffeinated spergs. This isn't an invite to infight either I'm just wondering how it has managed to stay up this long. Laughing stock for jannies and regulars?
>>10535504Taxidermy has seen a resurgence, aside from the assholes who will always asshole like some girl who raided her local graveyard, or poachers, there's more sources than ever for ethical pieces.
>>10535502South American natives have some of the biggest ribcages in the world, so I doubt it has anything to do with being Hispanic. Japanese girls have smaller ribcages on average because they’re smaller in general on average, and for the rest of us it’s up to chance (and nutrition and the kind of air you breathe growing up makes a difference too).
>>10535502I dunno anon. I come from a long line of petit Jewish women and my Mom, sister and I all have 28-30 band sizes and giant jewess boobs.
>>10535492Why don’t you just make a hat with fake birds? There are plenty that look realistic enough but less creepy. A lot of those old hats are made with species that are endangered now, too, which makes them dubiously legal to buy and sell.
>>10535492That would be great anon such a wonderful idea! No use looking to cgl for validations they just want unimaginative ground down ap clones and talk sjw shit.Hey though -a brightside is all that time and money shilling for angelic pretty and their 45€ headbows that they don't have the mental energy or cash leftover for so more good burando for the rest of us.
>>10535615you sound like a tranny
>>10535502I'm a 30B (75 cm ribcage 81 cm bust), 5'3, and I'm mostly german/scandinavian ancestry.
>>10535546I never thought of that, that's probably a better idea to use realistic looking fake birds rather than taxidermized birds, though I'm not sure where to buy fake realistic looking birds
>>10535623Fake birds for millinery are actual pretty common, though I'd only ever seen small things like wrens. You should be able to find them on Amazon or something, but I can't speak to the quality.
My dad wants to buy me a dress for my birthday. It's so far out of his element, but that makes it such a sweet gesture.
I broke up with my fwb last week for someone I loved that unexpectedly came back into my life (we separated in the summer). I was pretty close with the fwb and they took it horribly and now we don't even speak and I miss themI've never been so happy but so sad at the same timecgl feels: haven't had the motivation to cos/wear lolita since Katsu last year and I've got a giant box of ~$1k worth of taobao haul just sitting unopened in my apartment
>>10535668Why not have both a fwb and a regular relationship?
>>10535670you know why
>>10535672Oh right, because you can't have love and sex as two separate things
>>10535670bf and I are monogamous, and the dynamic I had with the fwb wouldn't allow for another concurrent relationship anywaysit was one or the other and I picked the one I'd rather spend the rest of my life with (if it goes that far)
>>10535670So you broke up with one person to date another. This fwb bullshit people call is just a relationship
>>10535684yeah, you could say that. It was mutually understand as temporary, but I'm still sad it's over even though I'm starting something better for me
>>10535659I wish you luck anon, my mom bought me a dress this last christmas and it was some dingy little Taobao dress. It isn't even a replica and it has an original design, but it looks so sad. The color is gorgeous, but the straps and the frills at the bottom of the dress are this weird off-white color, she sent me the listing she got it from and it supposed to be a bright white. The design is weird too, I don't know how to describe it though, it just feels off. Part of me just wants to burn it instead of selling it, I'm not sure I want to put a babylita through the shame of wearing a dress so sad.Moral of the story: Give your dad some pointers anon! Make sure he buys from the right places.
I kept having nightmares where I'd wake up in my dream and see that I lost an auction to some crazy high bid. It got to the point where I just accepted I lost in reality too.Then I woke up for real and saw I actually won, but my bad dreams spoiled my mood and now I can't even be happy that I'll finally be able to wear the Sugar Pony socks with the SC MTO.
>>10535482People from small islands (even those who are black) tend to be smaller as well.
>>10535702This is the dumbest environmental determination shit I’ve ever heard. Have you ever seen a Samoan?
>>10535540mega milk mommy
>>10535449My band size is 34 too and I fit into mary magdalene and VM just fine? I'm an average sized Asian woman.Do you have issues fitting into lolita pieces? That's not even that huge.
>>10535702>Islanders>Small peoplePick one.
>>10535690My brother's going to help him since our dad can't operate a computer and my brother surprisingly knows what brands and styles I like. I love my family.
>>10535518Ah, yes, EnderDarling
when my cats die I'm going to taxidermy their ears only and turn them into wearable cat ears. that way I can wear them and rp as my cats so that they can live on in spirit.
>>10535031Mo money mo burando
>>10535701Sounds like shopping addiction dreams to me
>>10535770I'm turning my boys into a ushanka one day.
>>10535770If I ever see the trip "soup's cat" I'll pour one out for ya boys.
i know people are going to say “do you really care tho” to this but i can’t help but feel like i push people away by how i dressi love wearing fairy kei and i realized today how different and lonely it is being into niche “weird” hobbies, have no friends, and go to a school full of normies. logging into zoom today and having people being able to see the background of my room full of brand stuff made me feel so stupid. I’m so alone and I want friends. I’d never give up this fashion for something so shallow but my fashion is normie-woman repellant and i feel like people in my major would be embarrassed to be seen with me
>>10535807you're going to grow up and realize how unimportant people who won't accept your hobbies. sacrificing things you like for hypothetical friends will only make you sad. making a few friends who like you and don't even know you very well.
I know it's not lolita but cosplay, I'm sorry for interrupting the thread.I have major self harm scars up and down my entire left arm. I'd love to cosplay Reimu and it's cool because she has her arm sleeves, but they're flowy so my arms will still show eventually... Would it look stupid if I wrapped my arm in white bandages, or would it sort of match her theme? I've seen pictures of her with bandages on her chest before. I can't use armsocks because the scars are too raised.
>>10535809*who don't really like you.
>>10535810I wouldn't worry too much about it; scars are scars. If you really want to cover it though I'd try blending some foundation over it
>>10535815I'm mostly worried about kids or younger people. A lot of kids go to cons where I am and I might do performances or panels and I don't want to scare anyone or make parents upset. It's a very specific worry I know.I have considered sewing my own fake arms or buying a skin-like bodysuit off of some cross-dressing websites. They're expensive...
>>10535816just cosplay her old design or any other of the thousands of characters that have full sleeves.
>>10535816Cons aren't happening in a lot of places anymore, are they still happening where you are? I would say to just go without the extra stuff, don't think anyone would really notice your scars anyways since you say the costume has long sleeves.
>>10535816I'd just wear white arm warmers underneath if I was still really sensitive about my scars.
>>10535540A U SUS
>>10535807I'll be your friend.
>>10535492>>10535493These are sad to me. The birds are very clearly dead and just laying there dead. If the birds were posed to look alive I’d like it more
cousin wanted to play rust I haven’t played vidya in months so what’s the harm right? WRONG. We get jumped by these guys and now I’m autisticly farming 16 hours a day for the last couple of days fucking up my eating/sleeping habits that I worked for months on just to get rockets so that we can raid these mfers. this shit is so pointless but I can’t help it. this is sooooooo ducking aids aaaaaahhhhhhhh. I haven’t seen my cats in days I just want it to end. just let me raid you you pieces of shit. this lifestyle is so degenerate fuck you
How is that related to cgl
>>10535974learn some self control, you fucking nonce
>>10535807I'll be your friend anon!
>>10535770Thats coolTotally wish id kept my dead budgies instead of burying them. I would have a mighty fine hat if I had thought ahead
So Violet Fane started their sample sale like 30mins early and I'm pretty sure I missed out on the one thing I wanted because of it. I'm a little pissed off.
I had a dream that AP released Milky Chan in red and I was going crazy. I have to get off this fucking board
I like the idea of otome nostalgia than I actually like otome nostalgia, especially since I like reading year 24 group manga .In fact, I think it looks genuinely garish, but maybe that's just the classic lolita in me
>>10536187same here, also a classic lolita. i loved the idea and the illustrations but the real thing was just too much so i passed. the brooches looked nice but i wasnt in love enough to order them.
>>10536187i love the print, just wish the cut was better
Usually there’s always like a hundred things I want to buy, but now when I have money to spend and also one tiny item approaching storage deadline at my SS there’s suddenly nothing else I want to buy to make the international shipping worth it.
People who say having a 34 band size is somehow normal must be American and fat.
>>10534905Lolitas who are in heterosexual relationships, how would you feel if your husbands or boyfriends expressed a desire to crossdress or crossplay, maybe in private, maybe at conventions?
>>10536378I do call him gay lol wtf next he wants to be a tranny?
>>10536187I agree, I think it's one of the most hideous prints ever. I think it has potential but looks messy to me. But I have pretty picky style.
>>10536378I say why TF not, as a (lady) lolita in a hetero relationship, and also as a cosplayer. Like. Why is it an issue to you? Are you insecure for some reason? Not trying to come across as rude, just trying to get you to think about your own internalized issues with it. I've cosplayed as male characters, and from what I understand it's not looked down upon for girls to cosplay guys, so what's the issue with the other way around?
>>10536378My boyfriend's only real cosplay was of his waifu before I met him once and I love him even more for not being afraid to have some fun and pay homage to a character he likes
>>10536378If it's a kink I would not be down. If it's just for enjoyment in a non sexual way it seems fine.
>>10536378I wouldn't mind. In fact I'd gladly give him makeup and styling tips. I've noticed that a lot of guys who crossdress just don't seem to be as observant of the small things women are taught to notice. But if he's not the best looking in the costume I wouldn't want to be photographed with him. He can go do that with his friends. Some people just aren't meant for crossplay.If it's at home IDGAF he can wear whatever and I'll be supportive.
Man, I just love lolita.
>>10536353That's 74 cm underbust anachan/scroteUnless they mean 34inch underbust then yes that's fat.
>>10536468Yes, I meant 34 inch underbust. Which is unfortunately what I have and I'm not even fat. My bones are fucked up.
>>10536353You're aware that your skeleton don't get smaller as you lose weight, right? It's not necessarily fat. I've been diagnosed ana with 34 inch underbust lol. I looked like a box on two twig stilts.
FUCK DOUCHEBAGS AND WHORES WHO BUY THEIR COSPLAYS AND LIE ABOUT IT! I WANT TO BREAK THEIR BONES WITH A HAMMER AND WATCH THEM DIE SLOWLY!
You know girls in movies who stare at their overstuffed closets and moan that they have nothing to wear? Well I never understood that until I became a lolita with dozens of dresses.
i just woke up from a dream where some normie was selling the old meta bear backpack on an antiques site and their inbox got flooded by lolitas and they got freaked out and deleted the listing
>>10536487Oof sorry anon, I misunderstood you. Hope you manage to find dream items that are flattering for your body shape. Lolita isn't the easiest for anyone with a bigger chest.
I know it's so stupid but when I look at solid lolita dress I like, I always think that a design look cute and I could get a dress with the same elements. Then I remember that it's linked to specific group in my culture and it doesn't match my cultural background and it put me off for some odd reason. Damn I love lacy nun like white collar but I feel stupid since wearing it had a meaning in my culture 100+ years ago. I like it but it make me feel like it's an odd reanctement costume or something.
>>10536563Oh god same.Related feel I have been faced with the raw fact that I have too many dresses thanks to wardrobe posting, but I don't really want to get rid of any so far. It's probably hoarding but at least I wear them?
>>10536587Same. I want to downsize to half of what I have right now but it's so hard deciding. I love everything.
>>10534905anyone else living in one of the countries japan still won't ship to? i'm in canada wondering how in the fuck the US avoided this restriction if it's due to the pandemic?just sad to watch a lot of pieces pop up and having to let them go.
>>10536608What are you blathering on about? EMS has been suspended to the US since last April.
>>10536608Does Canada not have private couriers?
forget lolita rap; it's 2021, time for some lolita sea shanties
>>10536608i am still buying things and using fedex because i'm not a poorfag. fj is still shipping with a few services. put up or shut up.
>>10536617unironically I'd love to see Sailor lolita resurge in a big way, with sea shanty bgm
>>10536608My SS uses dhl. Arrived really quick to the us.
Wasn't there a "Lolita and fitness" thread? It was unironically quality and full of encouraging anons who started talking about lolita furniture and tea preferences. How come that vanishes and all these shitty Cosplay help requests stay up?
>>10536671Hell yeah, bring back Fairy Marine. I know there were a couple rereleases but that was still years ago
>>10536673we could make another
>>10536673>>10536720Many years ago /fit/shits used to do a fitness thread on cgl every Friday, but it kinda went to shit eventually. To the point where the jannies/mods eventually said "no more fitness threads on cgl". So now they all get deleted when they're noticed. You may have better luck just doing the topic in the feels thread or something.
>>10536674I didn't realize the white fairy marine was a dream dress of mine until recently
I'm just tired, and I know I keep coming back to cgl because I'm feeling stressed and don't want to deal with work right now.
>>10536674>>10536731Kate Spade will be having a fish, lobster and crab purse this summer. So I expect sailor looks to come back. Not just from lolita, but from all corners.
Everything sucks and I need a shower. I wish I lived in the city and was locally known as the weirdo who takes walk in silly clothes. Instead I'm rotting in the countryside, taking walks in my winter wear looking like a human mailbox. I hate everything...When is the sun and vitamin D gonna return?
>>10535487That's cute and sweet even if I kind of found it creepy at first.>>10536746Same friend. What kind of work are you avoiding? Sometimes I think work sucks out my motivation for everything else, even lolita.
>>10536782You know you can take vitamin D supplements right
>>10535490audiosoup is an ugly asian simp from california. be very weary about interacting with him.
>>10536835>Asian simp>lives far awaynayrt but desu Asian dudes in the US are usually the best simps they spend all their money and just sit content to get nothing in return (Elliot Roger exclused but he was Eurasian and an autist with shitty narc parents).
>>10536824It has never been this bad before. Maybe it's time.
I managed to get candy sprinkle JSK in black I'm so happy that's all I have on my mind, It's my very first brand dress after being in the fashion for 3 years or so. Thank you to all the anons who drill into people's heads to not waste money on replicas and dumb shit
>>10536835lmao i thought soup was hispaniche has an ugly voice either way i had the displeasure of listening to it once before
>>10536846Grats anon. Lavender Candy Sprinkle was also my first brand dress and it's very pretty (I also own the black salopette and would like to own the black JSK)
>>10536608You can use private shipping businesses like FedEx, DHL and Yamato. Also, Amazon JP has a contract with DHL for overseas shipping.
The ss I use is taking a really long time to receive something I bought on Mercari.
>>10535810>>10535816Have you already tried the usual scar treatments?
>>10536889Don't fret too much. Areas of Japan have had bad weather/snow for awhile and covid is getting bad in Tokyo. The seller might have not been able to send it very quickly.
>>10535478Idk dude I'm a 150lb, 5'7.5 overweight asian girl but I'm a 32 band size. If I went to pre-letting myself go weight I'd probably be a around 28-29. You guys are probably measuring incorrectly and are smaller than you think.
I've been kicking myself for not buying Silent Moon, especially because the secondhand listings popping up are going for more than $400 now. It's been sold out for a few months now but yesterday I happened upon the Wunderwelt Fleur listing for it and the white showed up as in stock? I bought it and now it's back to being out-of-stock. I guess they found one somewhere, but I'm still a little worried it's going to turn out to be a glitch or something and I won't actually get it.
>>10536846Welcome to brandwhore city, anon!But no really, congrats. My first dress was direct from AP and I was actually considering buying from Chess Story (taobao) instead. I'm so happy I took the leap. Using your money for quality things feels a million times better than constantly buying crap because it's "cheaper."
>>10536934>mfw 5'10, overweight and only have a 31in band size
>>10536938Ayrt, I measure 31 as well but I size up. God I hope when I lose some weight my tits don't go away. I'm at a 36/37 but I would be ok with going down to 34-35 assuming my underbust goes to 28-30, accordingly. I've had small tits my entire life and just want to look more womanly desu.Tfw we have smol frame? Or at least smaller than average.
>>10534905>buy full set>former owner apparently walked through the dirt wearing just the socks>soles still brown after going through the wash>!>cut foot part off >hem the bottoms>now they're legwarmersand now I'll do that with every used pair of socks from now on
>>10536940i feel that. mine are at 35 or so now. i am happy my unusually small frame allows me to wear what i like as a taller girl!
>>10536948how are you going to wear them with certain shoes?
>>10536948This is one of the smartest things I've ever read
>>10536955Ayrt you got that model body anon.
>>10536958thank you, queen>>10536956lolwut? how do /you/ wear legwarmers with shoes?
>>10536940>32D or 32DD>I've had small tits my entire lifeThe male larpers need to fuck off.
>>10536981that size isn't that big...
>>10536973I mean they will look like shit.
>>10536984you literally do not know what they look likeI hate this website
>>10536973I'm just curious - you would wear it with only boots or a sock combo right? Because as leggings only it's going to look funny at the feet.
>>10536985anon, what >>10536987 said. you can't wear them with most lolita shoes at that point. so you ruined socks that were stained on a place hidden by shoes to make them into weird, tight leg warmers?
>>10536987I would wear them the way you're supposed to wear legwarmers, yes.
>>10536988I own a lot of boots, cunt
There's a newbie in a nearby community I feel kinda bad for. She's jumping on trends and wasting a shit load on items that aren't worth that much to begin with, she's talking about the fashion and giving advice about it as if she's been in it for years despite mostly being a cosplayer (only been in lolita for a year), and they kinda just ignore anyone who's tryna help em out or be nice to them. Poor gal...
I posted in a few feels threads ago about this girl I was friends with. I bought her a dress which she said she hated, and she told me to buy her a certain AP OP instead, which turned out to not fit her.I feel so stupid and used by her. I was blinded by the fact I wanted an IRL lolita friend so I just tried my best and got whatever she asked for. She only spoke to me when she wanted something. So, I've stopped giving her what she wants and now she hasn't spoken to me for weeks. :(Being a lonelita sucks dick.
>>10537005What an entitled cunt anon, the trash took itself out.
I’ve been a lolita for years and I think my coords are decent, I’ve never seen myself in the ita thread at least, but my photos only ever get ~20 likes half of which are from my normie friends. At the end of the day I wear lolita for myself and I’m not going to stop but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t smart a little.
>>10537028If you quit social media this won’t bother you anymore. I’ve had the same feeling as you with my Coords, but since I cut back to 30 minutes a day across all the apps I use I’ve been so much more productive in all areas and don’t even care anymore.
>>10536933Thanks for letting me know, I was worried something happened since it’s been almost 10 days.
>>10536990>>10536989sorry your super "smart" idea is moronic. enjoy being posted to ita thread.