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>>10168968I booked an airbnb for my next con and the host just decided to cancel, it took like an hour to figure out how to cancel without losing my service fee =_= at least it's done and I was able to book a different one but it was more expensive so I'm miffed
Will know in just a week if I can attend ColossalConMy partner will be on vacation with family and I'll have shit all to do if I can't
>>10168968I'm in a really rough spot right now, gulls. I started dealing with some nasty health issues earlier this year, and even though I'm mostly out of the woods now, I am still working to lose the almost 40 pounds I gained as a side effect. I feel like nothing I do will shed it, no matter how much or how little I eat, what I eat, or how much I exercise. It just lingers. I know it's coming off very slowly, but these certainly aren't the results I wanted. And to make it worse, I have to attend a lolita convention at the end of the month. I would almost certainly bail if I wasn't a volunteer out of sheer guilt and shame that I've turned into a fucking ham planet. I don't even want to see myself in my lolita clothes because I just know how horrid I am going to look.
traced and cut out fabric for a cosplay dress using another dress I had but didn’t account for the stretch in the dress I traced that the fabric doesn’t have and now I gotta go buy more fabric and get the dress done by friday shit fuck goddamnit cocks ass damn
>>10169097Fuuuuuck I know how you feel. Going through pretty much the exact same thing. We’ll make it eventually, just gotta forgive ourselves. Stress only makes it harder.
>>10169097That sucks, but weight loss isn't linear, keep at it and you'll see results eventually! I believe in you!
>flying tomorrow for con>my first con ever, my first cosplay ever>cosplay of something recent that's currently airing, too, so people might recognize it more>super excited and ecstatic >unfortunately dumbass me left the cosplay too much last minute>rushing to finish it>after stressed work and loads of cash, there's only a few things left>even been working out just for this, reaching my goal weight>put something at a seamstress place 5 days ago, 2 simple pieces of fabric to sew together, they said it'd be ready by today>go to pick it up>"sorry no ready">what??? >"the sew lady no here today" in a "are you retarded?" tone>demand refund>heavy-accented worker gives me scowling look, can't tell if in a "are you retarded" way again or if she can't understand what I'm saying>no refund>can't you really get it done by today? >she sighs, rolls her eyes and looks at the fabric anyway>"what is this anyway?">looks me up and down>"will it even fit you?... are you sure you want to wear this? this is so badly made">for>fuck's>sake>ok bye see you tomorrow >leave>come home>sit down>try not to cry>cry a lotI can't have anything nice in my life. Everytime I get excited about something, it's always like this. always. and it's all my fucking fault.
>>10169115You kinda did it to yourself though by putting it off. Nobody forced you to procrastinate
>>10169115damn bitch just learn to sew
>comm member comes back from first trip to japan>spends a month there>now officially has "correct" opinions about everything related to japan>contradicts every opinion I have about the country>but still constantly asks me what's the best brand of japanese products to buy>won't stop telling me how cheap everything in tokyo is compared to the us>politely try to explain most commodities aren't cheaper>completely ignores my comments and resumes ranting>her sister starts picking up same habits>now being told the same nonsense while we're at work togetherAm I being a cunt for thinking 1 month hardly tells you anything about a country? I lived in Tokyo for 5 years, have friends and family there, and I don't even feel comfortable speaking as if I'm a "native". I wouldn't even care if they'd just stop telling me about it. Wake me up from this fucking nightmare.
>>10169187I hate people who merely get a taste of something and suddenly think they're experts in the subject. And you're right, a month tells you nothing about living in a country. Especially if she was there just for a leisure trip and didn't work or rent an actual flat.
I bought a dress off of LM that has been stretched by the previous owner. They wrote every other defect down but failed to mention that the fabric has been stretched and looks baggy. It was cheap so I am not super mad about it just disappointed.
>>10169187>>10169210There are several girls in my comm who studied Japanese for a year or two and visited the Tokyo area on holiday once and think all that makes them experts on everything Japanese. I often see them in RC replying to posts with>well ackchually IN JAPAN...and they’re even worse in real life. It’s so annoying.
>tfw no bf to dress up as Soldier 76 and choke me until I finish
>>10169210>I hate people who merely get a taste of something and suddenly think they're experts in the subject.>tfw so afraid of shouting from mt. stupid that you second-guess everything you know
>>10169489>tfw event coming up in 3 months>no 2b to compliment my 9s
>>10169533i'm sure there will be plenty of solo 2bs9s it up and you might find one there
>>10169535oof idk if i'll go through with it solo desu, there's a group of us going mostly for the gaming stuff (event's doubling as a lan event) and i'd be the only one actually cosplaying since one of the girls in our group can't make it (she was the only one that cosplayed too)
>>10169489>tfw no wife to dress up in a tiger stripe bikini and shock the bejeezus out of me
>tracking dress order >Gets to California from japan>Hits my state's distribution center >Excited >Check the next day >Package is back in California again >WatWhy do you do this to me USPS
I often forget how spoiled I am with ems but I'm painfully reminded when it costs 20$ to ship an untracked light package to anywhere in canada that will arrive a week late 99.9% of the time
>love lolita, love my amazing partner>Nothing is going wrong at all, life is perfect>Partner doesn't really like lolita, thinks it's silly but doesn't really mind that I do it>Suddenly getting feelings for a friend>Friend loves lolita, thinks it's inspirational and cool>Friend has feelings for me too>But also I love my partnerShould I just...die?
>>10169972>love my amazing partner>Suddenly getting feelings for a friendthank god i'm a khv
Got into a fight and the other person ripped out a good chunk of my hair. Now I have to find a wig for Paradiso.
>>10169972No, you shouldn't just die. Catching feelings is ok, it happens, as long as you don't act on them. Remember that it's also okay for your partner to dislike lolita as long as they respect your love for it and don't actively insult, degrade, or make fun of it or you, and if you're happy with them then it's absolutely not a reason to break up with them, not to mention cheat.
My mom called me up awhile ago and asked if she could borrow some money for an emergency. I'm in school right now and not working currently, but I had saved up some money from my last job to hold me over for a while comfortably while I finish my last semester. She ended up borrowing a few grand, said she would pay me back but I'm kinda doubting she will (she never really does). I love my mom, and I would honestly kill for her, but I'm just a little disappointed. Was putting a good amount aside for my next cosplay & con, but now I barely have enough to cover my bills for the rest of the year. Not even sure I'll be able to go to the con, let alone buy supplies for my cosplay. Was really excited about making this cosplay, but I might just re-wear one of my old ones and visit the con for a day instead.Just a bit sad. Cons and cosplaying are the only things I look forward to anymore. But I'm also really worried about my mom constantly needing to borrow money from me. Gonna start applying for jobs now and hopefully I'll be able to find something soon to help my mom out without putting too much of a strain on my bank account now. There will be more cons next year.
>>10170097holy shit dude, i'm sorry. could you style your hair to hide it? how big of a chunk is it?>unrelated but do you happen to have the sauce on that dress
>>10170116Is this something that happens a lot? Does she have an illness or something that keeps her from working?
>>10170145she ripped out 8 braids from the top. My hair isn't that long or pretty to start with, so now it's double bad and i have no recourse but to find a wig. for reference, each braid is about a square half inch of head space with no hair.>dressNo sauce, but let me know if you find it, cause its cute as heck
>>10170148Throughout my undergrad, whenever I received my FAFSA/Scholarship refund, she would ask to borrow it (usually around 1~1.5k/semester). Thankfully I had a work-study job then and could mostly afford to pay my rent with it if I cut some corners. >Does she have an illness or something that keeps her from working?That's what confuses me the most- she's working full time. But she says she needs help paying bills. I've talked with my siblings, and apparently she hasn't asked them for any money recently, and they're also not sure why she would need to borrow so much when she also has an income. Ngl my mom acts kinda shady sometimes, and even though we're pretty close as a family, everyone likes to keep their private stuff private, so I never really pushed her for a real answer. I think I'm gonna talk with my siblings and maybe we'll plan to have a sit down with her to talk about it soon. We're just all really baffled.
>on a fitness journey so I can fit lolita better>the normie clothes I used to wear feel and look baggy >my smallest VM dress fits comfortably>I still weigh 55kg and have since January >look the same in the mirror as I did at 60kgBDD is a bitch but my measurements have dropped an inch since I started exercising and eating less carbs. I just wish I could see it. I can't tell if I'm doing well at this.
>>10170145I own this dress and it's just as adorable irl! It's from taobao:https://item.taobao.com/item.htm?id=558503952312
>>10170171your mum's a drug addict
>>10170153what was the fight over tho
>>10170171your mom sounds like an asshole and you sound like a pushover
>>10170192I'm very certain it isn't drugs- honestly probably just very poor money management or something like that. Although it would be a bit of a shocker to see a traditional azn mom addicted to hard drugs lmao>>10170200She used to be a bit of a tiger mom when we were really young, but she's definitely mellowed out a lot more as we got older. I'm definitely a huge pushover when it comes to my mom, though. I have such a huge guilt complex about being a piece of shit brat growing up and I somehow feel like I still owe her for everything.I feel guilty so easily over the dumbest shit- ate the last biscuit? oh my god what if my brother wanted it later, he's gonna starve now, what have I doneAt this point, I just wanna find a job, move away from my family and hopefully settle down in a nice state with some decent local conventions and just bury myself in cosplay projects for eternity.
>>10170198It wasn't even my fight. She was gunning for a relative and i tried to step between them and got creamed for it. Never break up a fight if your hair is down.
Would be nice if I, a man, could enjoy wearing and talking about lolita without constantly having to worry about getting shunned from lolita groups for no reason other than being male :/
>>10170105>Catching feelings is okWhat the hell is wrong with you people
>>10170227You can participate in lolita groups as long as you're involved in the fashion yourself. If not lolita, ouji or aristo, then some sort of jfash at the very least. You likely won't be banned solely for being a guy, but you might not be accepted to groups in the first place if there's no clear interest in the subject on your (I'm assuming FB) profile. Lolita comms typically don't accept non-lolitas.
>>10170236You can't control your feelings, but you can control your actions, which is what matters, and is the point being made.
Made a new cosplay friend finally, we will be going together next week to a con together with her boyfriend.... today while driving though I accidentally said "she" instead of "he" (trans boyfriend) I think they realized and it's eating me alive.
>>10170243>You likely won't be banned solely for being a guySomeone from my friend's com doesn't want me to join simply for that reason and apparently the com leader hasn't decided to let me in or not yet because of it.
>>10170253Do you wear or want to wear jfash? Are you involved in this subculture at all, besides having some sort of interest in it? Being interested in the fashion as an outsider typically doesn't qualify you to join a comm.
>>10170257>Do you wear or want to wear jfash? Are you involved in this subculture at all, besides having some sort of interest in it?yes, and the com leader is aware.
I get the whole con crunch thing, but when people make such a big deal about it, it annoys the shit out of me. You’re telling me you knew you would be at this con for months and you somehow managed to procrastinate until the last second and now you’re complaining about running on 2 hours of sleep??Idk, like I said, I understand that things come up, but for some people there isn’t an excuse. Surely you have ten, twenty minutes in your entire day to work on something. Even if it’s just a little bit, it’s more progress than before.
>>10170250Apologize. Come clean and just politely say that you think you may have misgendered them and it was unintentional. Promise to try and pay more attention in the future. There, you fixed it.
Con in one week and have not started costume. Should I do it?
>>10170276I still feel so embarrassed and dumb
>>10170308Well, consider this situation as if you've dropped your pants. Right now you're embarrassed that your pants are down, but you're not doing anything about it. You're walking along with your pants down, wishing you could ignore it, and praying that they will ignore it. This is why you feel embarrassed and dumb.You need to accept, literally say "oh shit, I dropped my pants" and make an effort to pull them up. Go apologize. If it's over message you should do it directly to the trans partner. It will be over in a matter of minutes, and they will like you better for it. It shows that you care and are willing to make an effort. Shit happens, but you'd better clean up afterwards.
>>10170308you're definitely dumb but not for feeling bad about confusing some freak's God-given sex
>>10170097>getting into physical altercationsare you 13?
>>10169210>>10169507Dunning-Kreuger at it's best.
>enter visual kei thread thinking "boy oh boy i love visual kei fashion :) we reliving the greatness of long-gone brands and gothic collabs with bands??">it's all discussion about actual music and gossip about musiciansI mean, I can dig it. I'm pleasantly surprised it hasn't been shunted off to /mu/. I just wish the fandom's spirit was alive in J-fashion, too. I feel like the darker, more gritty recent revival of old school Lolita is a collective of people slowly dipping their toes into that and channeling back to it, but I wish it'd happen faster.
>>10170227Have you tried saying you’re a tranny? Lolitas are notorious libfems so they let in every creepy fucker as long as they identify as a ~uwu catgirl~I wish this was a joke
>>10170326Seems she was trying to protect her relative >>10170220, anon. Best not to judge before knowing the full story.
>>10170343I disagree, I think the revival of old school is wholly aesthetic and that most old school bandwagoners, and even most old schoolers don't actually care about the music.
>>10170326Anon, I was trying to step in and end a fight before it started and it just didn't end well for me. Funnily enough, this ended my perfect streak of fight prevention by dragging me into it.The real kicker is once i found out why she was mad at my relative I've since totally joined her side in the argument. I still feel like a fool for fighting with her. If I see her again I'll apologize. No way she's gonna forgive, but to not extend the hand of repentance and understanding is petty and stupid.Pic related for irony
I finally have my dream dress! The dress I've wanted since I started wearing Lolita as a little bby ita!!
Went to get my mail today. I went to a farther collection point because the collection point nearest to me was shut down. I thought it wasn't going to be very big. Lo and behold it was a 60x40x25 box.I had a choice between taking the bus or walking about 1 km home. I really hate it how people stare when someone is carrying comedically large items but I didn't want to get in the way on the bus. I had just barely missed the bus anyway so I walked. Honestly, I thought a lot more people would be staring but it seems like many thought I was delivering goods to the nearby shops. Because everyone had their own transport, most only got to see me struggling with the box for a few seconds before going on their merry way and they probably assumed I was dropped off nearby or something. As we have increasingly quicker ways to get around, do we also overlook things more? Is there anything I've overlooked while gunning for better grades and a better paying job?But I digress. I opened the package and there was only a blouse, a coat and an OP inside. The actual items were bound together and had decent amount of room around it in the box. Something like a yolk in a sunny side up. What the fuck FJ, get some smaller boxes, get your shit together.>>10170401Post pics!
Remember boys and girls, the time you save by rushing and cutting corners can never make up for the time you lose redoing things from scratch. Do it right or do it again! (All my actual progress on this costume down the fucking tubes why oh why couldn't I have been patient the first time)
>>10170424I've learned that recently too. I bought a coat and modified it for a cosplay, but just making one from scratch while challenging to sew is giving me such better results.
>>10169102>>10169114>>10170358Thank you for the support anons! I do admit that while I don't feel any smaller and I'm still constantly bloated, I have been getting so much better at running and doing minimal weight lifting! So I know there are definitely positive shifts going on in my body, it's just a matter of playing the waiting game until I can see some physical results.
>>10170493you're never too ugly to cosplay, anon.
>>10169115You're setting yourself up for failure and then falling into the trap of believing that it was always going to be that way. This isn't a failure, it's a mismanagement of time. Anyone on this thread will tell you that it's better to set down an unfinished project than to rush it in time for a con. You will be so much happier with the results, with your time leading up to the con, and be able to actually enjoy the con if you do wait it out. Yes, it's a pain in the ass and it stinks not to have a costume to wear, but it's better to wear something you're confidant about than to wear something that not only makes you self-conscious, but is held together by a string. Build a better strategy plan for next year anon. Go to the con, let the inspiration guide you, and get it done early. Don't let a set back get you down. You have all the time in the world.
>>10170215Your guilt complex worries me the most. You call your mom a tiger mom, and that she acts kind of shady, but that sounds abusive/manipulative to me. Even if she isn't spending it on drugs, you are your own person and only responsible for yourself.
>tfw you want to post this picture from h.Naoto's webshop but it isn't relevant to any thread
>>10170721They look like bad actor tumblrites and one has an underbite
>>10170721Brb going to buy that jacket
>>10170721I feel the same about pic related
>Own 3 closets full of jfash>Buying more crap few times a week>Nowhere to wear clothes>Leaving House twice a week for food>No job/Uni - cant work for another year cuz work permit>Bored all day, no friends/new city, bf working>Getting older and fatter everyday>Gained 25lbsI just want a place to go where I can wear all my cute clothes
>>10170833Go outside and walk around. You have all the time in the world to wear the clothes you just lazy
>>10170833Please do something better with your money holy shit
>>10170842Going outside alone is pretty hard for me, already too troubled to even grab the mail or open the door for delivery. Just no confidence/insecure/depressive af>>10170845Like what? My home is paid off, got all living essentials, travel when possible, gifting family members shit left and right and supporting local cat shelter
>>10170847Go to a tea house, visit the gardensYou know people can go do things by themselves and still have fun right
Bought my first lolita blouse secondhand to try the sizing.>mfw it arrives from Asia in less than a week>mfw it fits>mfw there are no signs of wear>mfw I got out of my Magic: the Gathering match early enough to pick up the package by winning 2-0Guys, I'm suspicious that this day is going too well.
>>10170833I'm actually in the same boat, except not gaining weight. I just don't really have many friends and my workplace isn't really an environment conducive to making them. I'd like to leave the house but I'm busy studying at home for an exam (which isn't even one which requires classes so I'm not around any fellow students). It sucks but I'm holding out until this exam ends and my time frees up.
>>10170847Get a therapist. Also walking around and exploring on your own is fun. Even just wearing jfash on your own to clean or do stuff indoors is good and it’s how I built confidence to regularly wear jfash out. Good luck anon!
>two dresses, same brand, same bust measurement>one is roomy, the other gives boob gap
>Second hand shopping in Japan>Find dress I've never seen before>Fall in love>Kelly Eden the damn price>Thought it was super cheap>One zero makes quite the difference>Notice my mistake at check out>Leave it out of my purchase>Keep thinking about it>Read up on the release>Mfw retail price was lower than 2nd hand value>Similar patterns in the western market>Mfw it's super popular>Mfw I solemnly write it up on my dream dress listWhy does it have to be like that?
>>10170847How did someone like you get so much money?
>arrive at con Thursday with bf, start making plans for what to do tomorrow>event happening Friday morning at 10am bf wants to go to>"hey bf that's a little early for me, I'm doing a new cosplay and I want to give myself extra time to get ready, I don't want to be in a rush or keep you back so maybe you should go without me?">"it's fine anon, we'll just wake up at 7am, that should be plenty of time for you">already 2am, proceeds to keep me up until 4>what feels like no sleep later, alarm goes off>laying and thinking about all the shit I have to do for this cosplay, tired as all shit>"bf I really don't think I'll have enough time, you should go without me and I can meet up with you afterwards!">bf refuses because he doesn't want to go alone>mfw bf is too clingy to handle doing anything on his own at a con>feel shitty and guilty because he's missing out>still can't go back to sleep
I’m commissioning someone for a cosplay and they came back to me with six fabric choices and I hate all of them. Obviously I know I should say something, but I don’t know how to phrase it without feeling like I’m being a dick.
A buyer of mine on LM messaged me saying it had been a lot over my shipping time quote when it’s still within and I’m physically ill I’m so anxious about it
>>10171237Just say "I'm not really a fan of any of these, do you think you could find something else?" If you have pointers on what exactly is wrong with each fabric it would probably help them find something that's right. Commissioners want their clients to be happy with the result, I'm sure they don't want to make the entire thing out of a fabric you hate. Just be prepared to wait a bit longer, and possibly pay a bit more for materials.
>>10171249You’re absolutely right, I think I just needed to hear it from someone else. Thank you so much Anon, I appreciate it!
>>10170116Stop giving her money. Next time she asks say you don't have any to give. I have a mother like this. She will never stop unless you say no.
>>10170343If you make posts about fashion I will reply to you. I don't know how to find out about collabs and cool photoshoots since I don't buy magazines and don't know where to find recent scans.
>>10171163Couldn't you go back to the shop in the next day? Or was it gone?
>>10170833Literally the whole world is open to you anon. What a fucking waste.
>>10170343>>10170378I'm only into the fashion. Music's alright, I don't give a shit about bandwagoning, it's just the look that attracted me. I'm new though, I don't have any content to post, sorry. :(
recently found that on /v/>>462496286>This is why, if you EVER see an "Overwatch cosplayer", they are actually a free prostitute in disguise. This woman has knowingly presented herself as a whore, and knowingly accepts that it is now her job to have sex with as many men as possible.You cannot rape an Overwatch cosplayer because she was LITERALLY ASKING FOR IT. The simple act of dressing up as "Hot Mommy Mercy" or "The Chinese Titcow" is literally the act of giving men consent to have sex with you.>Thanks Blizzard, for making this possible.I love this video game.
>>10171408It's just a part of the game, why didn't we realize it before?What great design by Blizzard. Thanks Jeff.
>>10171279I hopped to the next city already. But even if I could go back I'm not willing to pay THAT much for the dress. I'm going to let my infatuation brew and hope for a better price in the future. It's not an old release, so I have hope.
>>10168968So I sold quite a few dresses over the past couple of weeks finally clearing and making space in my home. >I feel happy Then I receive a message from one of the people I sold to notifying me that there were holes and other damages that were definitely not there before I wrapped up the dress and sold it to her. I thought I was fair in offering a small discount on top of the already extremely discounted price that she paid since whatever I don't feel like a fight and I said I would try to be more observant next time but I couldn't believe the snark she left in her neutral review... If you didn't like the offer you could have said no thankyou and shipped it back for a refund. Some people just put a bad taste in your mouth. TLDR someone on lacemarket with many dozens more reviews than me is kind of rude and may put off other girls wanting to sell things in the future .
>>10171655While I do agree that if you handled it politely on your end and offered a discount or the option for a refund the buyer should definitely treat you with the same amount of respect, but to be fair from the buyers point of view you probably just seem like any other seller who doesn't list the actual condition of the dress and sells it as way better condition than it actually is. Even if this isn't what actually happened, it seems to be really common so it wouldn't be surprising if she just thought that's what happened with you.Anyway, some people are just really quick to leave neutral or even negative reviews even if any possible problems weren't the sellers fault and were handled properly once they came to light, nothing you can do about it but move on and be extra nice to those buyers who treat you nicely too.
>meet with my local com this week>already posts in the fb group about the pro life bills that went through >already fightsPls leave politics at the door skanks I just want to have fun
>>10171896>politicsIt is a bit weird people post about human rights issues on the comm page, which comm are you in? Do you have caps?
I finally snagged one of my dream dresses on LM and for a good price too
Just going to vent here for a second because I am absolutely lividI've been waiting to try and get my hands on the AP USA Sugar Sky OP in yellow for literal weeks I was on my computer refreshing for a half hour prior to release, hoping that since everyone wouldn't shut up about how fucking "ugly" it is that it'd be left alone and they'd all go for Magical Horoscope or whatever the fuck >release hits>get it in my cart>go to checkout>fucking goneit sold out in ten secondsbut every other color that people said they genuinely liked is availableas is the Fruity Lemon yukata as of rn and all of Magical HoroscopeI'm calling fucking bullshiteither AP USA only got three fucking dresses or someone grabbed all of them to scalp them on Lacemarket bc of how popular that color and cut was in other countriesI fucking hate western lolitas I GENUINELY LOVE THIS DRESSnow I have to wait and find the fucker secondhand at a price that isn't three times as much meanwhile some asshole is just gonna get it, say 'meh' when they open it and turn around and upsell it and I don't fucking get it. I don't understand. At least I got the JSK and headbow in yellow. So someday I'll get the OP. But I'm genuinely furious when people couldn't stop shitting on this dress a month ago. /endrant
>>10171843I think that was my initial fear because I only just recently started selling a lot of dresses. I didnt want to seem like I wasn't listing a full condition. I mentioned all defects I was aware of. I had no idea there were neck strap things but I will look up dresses from now on. Most if not all the dresses I sold were secondhand and pretty much in the shape that I always knew them as. Either way water under the bridge but I hope in the future people understand not everyone is out to RIP them off. And people are always welcome to counter offer things too. Hell, I have done just that. Also if you don't see an item in the photos posted definitely message the sellers about it because odds are high that they may not know it is even part of a dress. I know about waist ties and some dresses gave removable bows or clips but if they aren't there in the images the seller may have no idea they are forgetting them.
I feel so ugly all the time, I feel guilty and shame when I think about wearing Lolita. I'm not fat (thought I could stand to lose 5-10 lbs), so it isn't like I can just work out harder and things will improve. I think I have a fairly unattractive face and have no clue about hair or makeup, so whenever I see a candid of myself I think "dear God no way I'm that bad," but it can't possibly be that ever single candid is lying. I want to balance my love of Lolita with my "girls shouldn't have to constantly worry about being pretty" mentality, but the only way I can see getting to the point where I'm not ashamed of myself is to constantly practice doing my hair and makeup. The prospect of that sounds so horrible... I wish I could just poof all my facial flaws away and upload a microchip into my brain giving me the skills to make my hair and makeup look not utterly horrifying. It totally kills my confidence, and Lolita is all about confidence
>>10172375do you practice hair and makeup at all? starting is the hard part
>>10171995I know a lolita who got the yellow OP, she's not a scalper so maybe there was just 1 and it went to her. idk if that helps but just know it's going to a good home!
>>10172380Yeah, sometimes. I feel like a little girl playing with her mommy's makeup set and it is so unpleasant and the results so bad I give up. I was a really religious, nerdy kid so I never really learned
Its this anon >>10170227They didn't ban me and the woman who had a problem with letting men in the com is moving to another state, so its cool.I had so much fun at the meet today and everyone was welcoming towards me. I see so many posts like pic related that I just felt like i'd be an outcast and not wanted. I've been into lolita for years but never got any ouji coords or joined any coms because I was terrified i'd be judged extremely heavily and essentially kicked out because i'm male and don't have the best sense of fashion. But at the local meetup everyone loved me and my coord and made sure I was included in everything. It was so great.I guess discovering lolita through /cgl/ skewed my perception.
Mfw a fatty snipes my DD by a few minutes on Lacemarket.Bitch you're not going to fit in it anyways.Yes I'm bitter about it, I probably would be less angry if someone who could fit the dress got it instead of some hamplanet.
>>10172385Practice more, I never ever did my hair or makeup until I turned 19. It felt pretty bad because every other girl my age had years of experience but I practiced a lot and I’m much better now. Just try with cheaper products, maybe before you shower so you can wash it off after
>first con ever (not underage, just live in midfuck nowhere and broke), a local small-ish con>expecting it to be awful>my cosplay is sloppy and abhorrent>soon as i exit public restrooms after changing into cos>"OMG (CHARACTER NAME)!!!">already found people of my series, take pic>soon as i arrive into con>literally the best cosplay of another character of a series (both costume and personality wise) greets me, offers me to join their group>stick with that group for the rest of the day>they're fucking amazing, funny, talented, and so kind and open minded (didn't mind me being a queer and tarded either, were super nice and understanding about it)>lots of memes and laughing and blabbering passionately about our characters' series>sad i couldn't join the cosplay contest and my feet hurt but don't even care about it anymore because how much fun i had with people (and best cosplayer i mentioned won anyway) >sad i have to go home and won't see these people again/for a long time though>tfw have the best con experience everHoly fuck, now i understand why people do this...
>>10171995Part of me is glad AP is slowly returning to the constant bloodbaths so I can see newfags ree about it like it’s somehow a new phenomenon that nobody has ever experienced before
>>10168968>Go to ACEN>Friends leave early second day>Other friend I was meeting gets in a fender bender and has to cancel>Get myself near black out drunk to cope with anxiety>Wander around with nothing I actually want to do>Continue drinking at the bar with some other solo dudes>Realize I've got con plague and go back to my hotel at like 10pmNot sure how I feel about my first con, it was a pretty mixed bag. Worst part is I actually finally lost the extra weight and am in decent shape now, looked good... but my fucking terminal autistic anxiety is still there. Hopefully Anime Midwest is better, I'll actually cosplay for that.
>>10170532dress your bf as one(and you dress as his waifu in return)
>>10171232Be happy about it, that he doesn't want to go without it
So exhausted by the multiple ita weebs in my comm who show up to meets and complain about bully elitist brandwhores and try to give inspirational speeches on how “lolita is for everyone, fuck the rules! Do what you want as long as you feel cute! uwu” It’s honestly draining and you can tell the members who are actually experienced and dressed well are sick of it too and are just trying to be nice at this point.
>>10170721Thank you for sharing anon I appreciate this
>>10172951>“lolita is for everyone, fuck the rules! Do what you want as long as you feel cute! uwu”Whats wrong with that
>>10173094Gr8 b8 m8
>>10173094Because lolita isn't actually for everyone, and you can't really "do what you want as long as you feel cute"; well, you can, but that doesn't mean that your cute outfit will be lolita, and if you're an ita weeb, it's really not your place to preach against the rules/guidelines of a fashion you wear terribly and don't truly understand.
>>10173109>but that doesn't mean that your cute outfit will be lolitaah, ok, I see what you mean now. I agree then, I'm pro-gatekeeping. Do whatever and be cute, but don't call something lolita if it isn't lolita.
>tfw I'll probably die in the next few months but still can't stop buying lolitayolo my lads
>>10173336Live large and die happy, friend.
>spend weeks putting together huge TB order for ACen and Colossal>place it April 17th, a month before I need it>finally gets shipped out on the 29th, ok that's fine plenty of time my TB packages usually get here in a week>sits unmoving in Chinese customs for days, finally get notice May 8th>being returned to sender>definitely not going to be here for ACen>sucks but okay that's fine, only ordered one ACen cosplay anyway, I can rewear other stuff >three other cosplays in there for Colossal>radio silence, finally reach out to SS again, get reply today Mat 20th>yeah we still haven't gotten your package back yet sorry>definitely not getting package by ColossalI'm fucking gutted. I might eventually get this order but it's gonna be filled with swimsuits I no longer need. Feels like a stupid amount of money down the drain and I don't think there's any way I can get a refund. I'm 11 days out from the con and all my plans fuckt. Not sure what to do, cross my fingers this thing shows up? Accept my fate and put more money down on some last minute plans from Amazon? I'm so fucking bummed gulls, I've always had good luck with packages. Shoulda known my time was coming.
>>10173351>one monthThat was your main mistake, always give yourself at least 6 weeks when ordering from China for an event.
>>10173351Only thing that can save you now is if your SS gets your package within the week and mail it out via DHL.
>MtF in friend group recently had a "sexual awakening">Goes from Lesbian to bi>Every word she says is now in someway sexual and beyond inappropriate for whatever situation we're in>Picks the staple trap cosplays (Felix, Shimikaze, Alfonso) and complains when people call her a trapExample>Sat in local bar with said friend group>Friend A isn't there, Friend B is>She starts talking about wanting to suck Friend A's dick and how hard she'd "cuck" Friend B by doing it>tell her she's being inappropriate>"Oh shut up, hun. I'll cuck you next">Only one who's calling her out on her shitPlease lend me strength.
>>10173351There's always colossal east but thats just spending more money to make up for shipping issues.
I LOVE GOTHIC LOLITA HOLY FUCKIt seems like there aren't a lot tho, maybe it's just me..
>>10173455It's second puberty my friend
>>10173351Try posting on the colossal group to see if anyone's planning on selling swim cosplays at the flea market. if someone has something you want you could arrange to meet them to buy it at the start of the con instead.
>>10173455>All the replies calling her a peice of shit removedBut why
>>10173363Just got an email from my SS, they said the package should reach them in a day or two and they'll reship it, but I don't think I can change my shipping method (EMS). They're shipping the item that caused the holdup seperately, so fingers crossed it'll reach here in time? Guhhh.
>>10173576It's not as popular as sweet or whatever modern classic is, so it's not as visible, but the gothic lolitas that are around are gorgeous.
>>10173576its just you, there are plenty of gothic lolitas.>>10173588nayrt but at least with first puberty you don't know what you're doing because its a totally new experience and are too young to know when you're being extra cringey. this is a full grown adult. i'm gonna go out on a limb here and say that telling a friend you'll "cuck them too" after saying a bunch of gross shit about another friend after they politely ask you to stop has little to do with the second puberty they willingly chose to go through, and more to do with them being a disgusting person who cant accept personal boundaries and has no respect for their friends.
>>10173336What's wrong gull?
>plan to enter big competition with friend>had some uncertainty whether they'd be able to do it but they agree with several months left til con>come up with something doable in that time, agree to assist friend with costume as long as I do everything else to prep>state in no uncertain terms that I refuse to con crunch the week of>friend agrees>I write the skit, record all the audio, come up with the blocking, all on top of making my own costume and props and patterning my friend's stuff>friend is slow to work but is confident they'll finish in time>believe them like a fool>week before con>on track to have all of my stuff done on time>friend is BARELY halfway done>I'm annoyed but already spent so much time on getting everything else ready for the comp that I refuse to drop out>spend entire weekend helping them instead of working on my own costume>fuck, we're con crunching>two days out>check in with friend to see what they have left to do since I plan to drop out of competing if it's a lot>"not much, just a little bit of painting and some hand sewing">believe them like a fool>leaving for con>my shit is done barring some hand sewing>friend's costume still has significant sewing left to do on it>their prop is HALF PAINTED>they've brought their sewing machine and spray paint to finish at the hotel>f u c k>end up staying up way too late the night before the competition to help them finish>spend rest of con too tired to enjoy it>obviously didn't placeMostly I'm annoyed at myself for not foreseeing this happening since I should have known better, but still feelsbadman.
I keep trying to explore the basics and beginner products and procedures for doing makeup, but I find it all so damn overwhelming. I get stressed out from the thought of buying a bunch of products that aren't the right color or weight or formula, and the thought of causing acne or other trauma to my skin with the wrong products. Anxiety and laziness are going to keep me ugly forever.
Lately I've been thinking I look ok in the mirror when I'm getting dressed, but then I see myself in photos later and I look absolutely hideously ugly. Why is it like this? Should I just avoid having my picture taken?
>>10173658It's normal to find that you look different in photos than in person. I can be looking in a mirror and holding up a photo of a selfie I just took and the photo looks so much worse. It's just the nature of photos.
Not bait but>am in a BDSM relationship>keeping it out of the public eye and obviously out of my fashion>all is cool>once out of the house,collars become "fashion accessories" and that's it,not a peep about our lifestyle>SO says she'd like to escalate things further and have me calling her mistress in front of her new friends (i have yet to meet),in public,...>tell her i would feel uncomfortable doing so especially when wearing lolita or any other jfashion>also tell her again i don't want to wear a collar in lolita,was very adament about keeping those two things separate>"you care too much about what people say just tell them it has nothing to do with it and that's what you like">tell her i don't want to impose my kink on anyone unwilling>"anon you care too much it's fine it's not like i'm gonna walk you on a leash either"it's a tricky situation especially given i'm the kind to shit hardcore on ddlg and the likes of it who are more "vocal" about their kink .before you say "dump her" besides that issue she's really great as a partner and person.tl;dr me and SO have kink dynamic,it stays in the house,SO wants to take it to another level but i don't, i think she cares too little and she thinks i care too much about what people will think
>>10173740She shouldn't push you when you say no.
>>10173744She won't push me til the end but I know she will feel probably disappointed in me and i just feel bad about it but also feel bad about even thinking of the poor random person cringing into a black hole when hearing me call her that in public
>>10173740>>10173744I agree with that anon a healthy relationship especially Kink should never have anyone feeling pressure to do something they are not comfortable doing.
>>10173748I know, you're right and she always told me to tell her if there was something i was uncomfortable with but i'm too pussy and feel like i would disappoint in both cases
>>10173740What's tricky about it? Don't talk about your fetish when it's inappropriate, which is nearly all situations. Don't involve other people in your sex life without their consent, that includes calling someone master or mistress in front of people.
>>10173758then have fun being a laughingstock with both your lolita community and your friends
>>10173769Because she won't understand that i don't want to involve people in my sex life>>10173775i obviously said i didn't want to disappoint her but also i don't want people to hear my say that shit and thus be disappointed in menot even in a comm anyway,too anxious
>>10173815also may i add we both are from different communities,she's in the rave and kink scene which is super "open" about those things
>deleted fb months ago because I never used it and cuckerberg's trial made me paranoid about the shady shit fb does with data tracking/selling>after con realize most of the groups I want to be in (animegao. cosplay, EGL, etc) are pretty much only or mainly on FB)>want to redownload FB againdo I stick to my paranoid conspiracy theorist guns or do I give in and download it, gulls?
>>10173824Don’t do it.
>first year going to a con with bf>very excited to finally not go to a con alone>bf brings alcohol and dab pen, even though I made it clear he absolutely was not allowed to because we were rooming with other people and I didn't want to be a shitty roommate or get us in trouble/anyone kicked out>went to go vape every 20 min-half hour, even after asking him not to constantly because it was shady as hell to do>got weird and jealous when friend lifted me up for a pic, even though she did that with every other person cosplaying as the same character I was cosplaying as>didn't shower unless I made him>said wants a room next year with just the two of us, which would be cool if it didn't mean paying $200+ eachmight not invite him next year... besides this stuff it was really fun, but I think I prefer going solo at cons
>>10173815it's not even only about what you don't want, she shouldn't involve other people in her sex life unless she asked them if they want to be.
>>10173872>didn't shower unless I made himWhere do gulls pick up these fucking omega males?
>>10173872He sounds like a disrespectful shit that's not worth having even outside of cons.
>see cosplayers complain about barely able to pay rent/are homeless>they're still planning to go to multiple cons this yearWhy does financial irresponsibility seem so prevalent in cosplayers? That's just one kinda extreme example I know of people with no money management skills.
>>10173876he's a sweetheart but the alcohol/dab pen shit and vaping a ton really made me upset, pic related
>>10173872>dating a caperLiterally how did you not see this coming
>>10173890*vaper goddamnit autocorrect
>>10173890>tfw dating a caperpic related, it's my bf
>>10173874I tried to tell her that,but she just won't understand and say she's disappointed about me not taking this as a part of my life like her. Sigh. I don't fucking want people to know i'm a degen jfc
>>10173917tell her you don't want to be with someone who doesn't understand consent, wtf
>>10173906A N O N
>>10173918She does but for some fucking reason won't understand this? I love her but this is definitely an issue, she keeps saying i just shouldn't care but bitch wtf i care
>I was 110 pounds all throughout my teen years>get put on 3 different medications at 19>slowly gain weight until i'm 150>i'm 20 now>scared to dress how i like because i feel like a whaleI know I just need to work out, but I have anxiety and my boyfriend works an office job, so we can only really go to the gym together on weekends. I can't run because I have asthma ;_; I just want to be able to wear cute clothes again and not feel like I'm embarrassing myself.
>>10170215>anxiety ridden azn with overbearing momHave fun marrying whatever most emotionally abusive woman you end up meeting in college.
>>10173948This pretty much. I have over the last ten years met and tried to help out in the past friends who are exactly like anon. It never ends well. :( I wish people had self respect and determination to rise above shitty emotional abusive parents and break the cycle but Asian kids seem to think it's like a badge of honor
>>10171163I feel ya, I went to japan recently and at a thrift store found tons of nice secondhand burando but didn't get any because of one reason or another. I really regret it, but at least i'll be back next summer... until then I gotta save up to blow tons on jfash and food
>want to cosplay girls frontline>not a girl>cant pass for a girlWhy liveI have 3 options total, of only two that would be recognized.
>>10173824Don't do it. I have moral issues against facebook too. The lolita comm I joined wants me to make one <.<They need to all move over to discord like the rest of us.
>>10173658>take a photo of myself>I'm ugly>look in mirror>I'm ugly>have photo taken of me>I'm ugly>see photo of myself when I was a child>I'm ugly>cut my face open with a razor>I'm ugly>get face stitched up at the hospital >im ugly>Get thrown in psych ward>I'm ugly>get out of psych ward>I'm still uglyReally makes you think
>mfw seeing all these weebs at the con with OMOcat merchKek when will Omofat releasing her shitty game?
>>10173455The real question is why you and your friend group haven't gone full TERF yet. I guess it's a matter of not if, but when.
>>10173824It's not paranoid at all. The shadiness of fb is well known in my country but most people just think "I have nothing to hide~" and don't understand the downsides.
>>10174094Dw so much, we got filters now.
>>10173824Download? I hope not your phone. That app is a massive privacy invasion.Just make a fake name and learn how to keep your privacy on Facebook with various tools, if you absolutely have to. Maybe obscure your face or don't post it at all, since they do keep all photos and are doing facial recognition harvesting. Don't really post anything meaningful ever either. I just use my fakebook to watch events and lolita updates.I really feel you with wanting to be off it, though. I wish both cosplayers and lolitas would return to older forums that still exist but are ghost towns.
>>10174107i'm so fuckign sick of omocat shit. hard decora too, she's a sweet girl but her designs are so shit
>>10174124So do you guys also not post coord comparisons from when you started out until now?
currently discovered my boyfriend watches zoo porn, incest porn and gets off to the thought of erect horse dongs or kissing a hot step sister.i don't know how to dump him and bring it all up but what i know is that he planned on making me his fiancée soon (one of the coworkers in the secret let it slip in a convo we had). He loves me immensely and is a hard worker,a kind respectful guy,he accepts having me dressed in lolita every day and will compliment me and cheer me up whenever...but i just don't know what to do now gulls.I thought i finally found the perfect cosplay bf and we were going to get married after three years of being together>inb4 alabamahe's from the south and so am i
>>10174124I wish I could quit it but my friends still message me through FB. I try not to use it but it's sort of a useless endeavor since I use their now bought out IG. Fuck me.
>>10174198>zoo porn>incest porndrop him, that stuff goes deeper than just a fetish, especially incest fetishists. It'll be hard of course, but holy shit anon. there's a surprising amount of good looking decent guys into cosplay and animu that aren't incest loving dogfuckers, too. Out of curiosity, how did you find out?
>>10174209>that stuff goes deeper than just a fetish>especially incest fetishistsare you sure? incest porn is pretty hot, but irl it's grosssome fetishes only really work as porn, i.e. when you're not directly involved
>>10174209Incest is like the #1 search on pornhub. It's not that weird, just a fantasy. Animal fuckers are red flags tho. I feel like those people are more likely to actually act upon that shit.
>>10174209you seem to be knowledgeable. why are there so much fucking incest porn? is degeneracy something that the general population just embraces? i feel like it's even more accepted than bdsm or something from a cursory overview of most porn websites.
>>10174217>>10174218the fact that anon said he thought it would be hto to kiss a step sister makes me think he's one of those guys who would go beyond the fantasy.
>>10173740>vocal about being anti-DDLG>is actually a degenerate into kinkmake me wonder how many other hypocrites are on /cgl/. are the radfems who hate all transwomen secretly into dollification themselves??
>>10174107>>10174125I love omocat. why the hate
>>10174209God I wish people like you were thrown in prison.Who cares what people do in their own bedrooms, incel?
>>10174223Just because you’re into kink doesn’t mean you’re into DDLG which is a specific subset. DDLGers tend to be notorious for being really into public kink, which most people don’t like because of involving people without their consent in public.
>>10174198My rule is if he's on a porn site that doesn't have tag moderation like pornhub (and even some of their normal tags are terrible), he's got to go. They don't allow tags like "rape", "snuff", "zoophilia", "lolita", and "underage" there. There is shitty stuff like "step-sister", but you can see them dodging with that "step" part. It's also all pretty tame, terrible porn actors for the most part, no matter what the scenario tag is because it's a mainstream site.What I'm trying to say is your man had to go off main porn sites to find that degeneracy. He was very much seeking it. Dump him.
>>10174232>getting this defensive over zoo pornok donkeyfucker
>>10174223As a terf, we hate transwomen because putting lipstick on a pig makes it a pig with lipstick on, incel.
>>10174233I'm anti public kink as well, but I get the feeling a lot of people who are vocally against certain subsets of kink (excluding the incest/bestiality talk going on ITT atm) are doing so only to make themselves feel better about being into nasty shit themselves. Anon said they wear collars out of the house. Where does your cognitive dissonance draw the line? It's just bandwagon bullshit also. It's popular to hate on this thing, so everyone jumps onto the hate train to feel morally superior and get asspats.
>>10174239I'm a woman. The fact you identify with that label so casually is sad. I bet you're projecting with that last line also...just cos you have been genetically determined to be unfuckable means no one else is allowed to feel cute, right? I wanna say your view are archaic but in the past, it was totally acceptable for men to wear makeup and strict gender roles are a relatively modern invention.
>>10174232>defending an animal fuckerI forget there are furries on this board>>10174198>he's from the south LMAO no wonder
>>10174198just ask yourself this: would you really, truly want to be married to a fan of Oriemo?
>>10174232who cares about what other people think so much that they want them thrown in prison?
>>10174240I think it might partially be because of what you said, but the greater reason would be we're really into certain things and really not into other things. Sort of like how some people really love snakes and rats but are really not into other spiders. And because of the way our brain works, I do think that plays a role as well into how we view our sexuality and what does and doesn't tickle it. For me, it's the combination of daddy issues and public kink that just makes me not into it (not to mention that being a lolita, I now have to fend myself from mainstream who think I'm into this shit by association, which is getting really annoying to the point I might just take down my IG due to my job).>wearing collars outdoorsI find that interesting espeically with recent discussion about how collars were fashion accessories long before DDLGers came into the fashion. So for some people, it may be part extension of fashion, part kinky roleplay that's 'undercover' because most public viewers will not take the visual cue since it's so mainstream. I do agree there is quite a bit of cognitive dissonance there however.
>>10174249yeah I get your point. I just don't understand why, if you don't like something, you have to become so bitter about anyone who does get some joy out of it. I can't imagine being such a jealous pissbaby.That said, I think the DDLG and lolita comparison is more widespread online than IRL. Crossboarders come on /cgl/ and try to rile us up by conflating the two. Normies are gonna think you're weird regardless. I haven't encountered any creeps on IG but blocking people isn't hard. I recognise it's a real thing, but letting it control your perception of a fashion you really love is only damaging. If you do have the misfortune of encountering someone who suggests you're a pervert cos you like frilly fashion, that says more about them than you.
>>10174254It would be nice if it was that simple in the real world, but I do like my job so i may just make my IG private in the near future. None of this affects how much I love lolita, but it does affect how much I want to share with the community, which may be less in the future.I used to think that as well regarding online vs real life, but with the recent Jameela kerfuffle and google warning me my fashion is perverted, I feel a bit more wary these days.
>>10174244terfs hate transwomen not men. men can wear lipstick and i've never seen a terf have issues with that. but a tranny wearing lipstick is still a man in lipstick. saying "oh I like lipstick and girly things guess that makes me a transwoman" is enforcing gender roles
>>10174292so you admit transwomen are not men? Silly terf, you played yourself. nice strawman also
>>10174304>a tranny wearing lipstick is still a man in lipstickand it's not a strawman. nice enforcement of gender role also
>>10174304They're trying to clarify because you were too stupid to understand the idiom the first time, you dumb troon.
>>10174322>says I'm too literal>reduced the extent of being trans to the application of lipstickyou gotta fight autism with autism my friend
>>10174325>reduced the extent of being trans to the application of lipstickthat is literally what they do they reduce being female to wearing makeup and liking clothes
>>10174328Except...that doesn't support your incredibly narrow-minded narrative at all, they're saying how "anyone" can feel like they'd look good in an item of clothing. Your idiot goggles seem to be distorting your perception... but radfem ideology isn't logical or factual at all, no matter how many gossip magazines you quote, it's all based on fear and sensationalism. I interpreted the DNA part to mean the inheritance of genetic traits from women, which isn't untrue. Why do you think all transwomen are this one very specific example, an almost vaudeville characteaur? I doubt you've ever sat down and chat with a real transgender person.
Listening to women discuss political issues is like listening to children fight over which crayon color the sky should be for their drawing.
>>10174334personally i do think trans people exist but the majority of trannies online are autogynephiles who love bimbofication and anime. there are tons of freaks who embrace the trans label to get close to little girls and abused women as well, and they're openly accepted by the trans community. too bad just by saying this i'd be written off as a terf so i've decided to just embrace the label
Welp since I feel like summoning the janny after reading some of these posts I'm going to throw this out there.The dreams I've been having, responses to sexual stimuli I've been noticing, intense emotions, and tiny little fragments of memory that have come up the past two weeks all seem to point to a repressed memory of being raped two(?) women when I was little.
>too broke to afford hobbies at the moment>couldn't get a job last year in school because the workload was too huge>now can't get a seasonal job in hometown because lots of places don't want seasonal workers>can't get a job in one of the largest US cities>even if I did land a job I wouldn't be able to get to the job easily since my car broke and there's no public transport out where I live>mfw
>>10174346nah you shouldn't. all your posts seem rational and I agree with you on most points, just because you recognise that and aren't some koolaid drinking SJW, doesn't mean you have to go full radfem. it's like getting redpilled but for a girl..soon enough you'll be believing their diatribes about all sex workers perpetuating the abuse of women and reducing women down to having vaginas in the same way that misogynist men do.
>>10174353the thing is that all of the women who share my beliefs have also embraced the terf/radfem label
>>10174339it's the same with men
>>10174347>I was raped by two (?) women when I was littleWhat the fuck are you talking about, you disgusting, incel. Nobody wants to hear about your sex dreams. Summon janny on yourself next time.
>>10174365sometimes I wonder why people feel the to post this shit in a feels board on cosplay/jfash board. like, it should be easy to connect the dots that the feels should be cosplay/jfash related. Still a sad feel, but really not the board for it
>>10174334The only true trannies are HSTSs that aren’t deluded about their natal sex and don’t try to invade sex segregated spaces. HSTSs are caricatures of womanhood but they aren’t trying to pressure lesbians into sleeping with them like the mass majority of agp “transbians”
>>10174355not all of them, probs just the most vocal online. most people IRL are reasonable, and all of my friends who are trans talk about the issues within the community and usually feel very strongly about fetishists. it's not dissimilar from lolitas not wanting the name of their fashion associated with DDLG. Do you really wanna end up like >>10174370 spouting drivel and believing whatever bait post on reddit validates their delusions that all transwomen undergo surgery and become societal outcasts just so that they can rape lesbians?
>>10174365>sex dreamsThey're more about what sure feels like genuine mortal terror and complete despair>>10174369Yeah, it's time to sleep
>>10174373Are you fucking retarded or something? The vast majority of trannies keep their dicks intact because they know they won’t feel any sort of pleasure if they mutilate themselves. Oh yeah, the one thing that causes so much distress and dysphoria and they don’t have the balls to cut them off. I wonder why? Could it be because they are afraid of losing their erections? But I thought erections were dysphoric and icky?The trannies that lop off their dicks and are exclusively attracted to men are cool in my book. Transbians can choke on their beloved girldick.
>>10174385do you think the only surgery transgender people get is genital reconstruction? I suppose it's no surprise you're massively misinformed on what being trans actually is. And it seems your mind can only work in absolutes, almost as if your eccentric beliefs stem from strong emotions and not facts or reality.
>>10174387>thinking trans rhetoric is fact and realityWew lassI’m very much aware of the various surgeries trannies get. Doesn’t change the fact that transbians are afraid of losing their erections, their manhood. They want to ejaculate. They want to stick it into a vagina and totes pretend it’s a strap on. Pray tell, what’s the reasoning behind 99% of transbians keeping their dicks? I can assure you a sizeable chunk of them have the funds to afford SRS but opt out of it.
>>10174391you're so obsessed with explicitly detailing the function of trans penises it's leading me to believe you desperately wanna be fucked by one
tfw spent 40$ on a puppet of a falcon for my cosplay and forgot it at home like a dumbass
>>10174353You sound extremely biased about the sex workers argument, almost like you're choosing to misunderstand it.
Reminder that decriminalisation of sex work killed women in the Netherlands, and legalisation increased human trafficking and made some streets into a human zoo for tourists. Don't listen to cam girls trying to convince you decriminalisation is the answer, just because it'd be easier for them to use paypal and advertise.
>>10174429>isn't replying to any post because they pulled that out of their asshole
>>10174436there is a post about it right above her post
>>10174437I don't see anybody mentioning anything about decriminalisation or camgirls.
>>10174438you've been living under a rock if you've missed the american sjw push for decriminalisation
>>10174440No I just don't live in america, nor think the world revolves around it. I'm sensing a trend of selecting a very specific scenario and ignoring the majority of opinions and experiences in order to confirm your own bias
>>10174442i don't live in america either, >>10174428 is my post btw, not >>10174429
>>10174429The reason decriminalization """""increases""""" sex trafficking is because in countries where prostitution is illegal, victims of sex trafficking are considered criminals and thus do not go to the police, while in countries where prostitution is legal, they can safely go to the police. It's purely statistical bullshit.
>>10174451that comment says legalisation increased it, they had decriminalisation before that.