>met my wife 3 years ago>instantly love her. Beautiful courtship. She tells me everything I want hear>married with baby on the way now>2 weeks ago tells me she slept with her ex-boyfriend while we were on our first big trip together (he lived in the area and I had left a day early for work)>fuckingpissed.jpg>she keeps saying it was ok because it was before we were “official” (had been dating for like 7 weeks. Never had an official conversation. She says we were official the day after which is bullshit)I’m just fucking mad dude. I feel betrayed that she fed me a bunch of bullshit for 3 years. I still love her, but damn does this take the shine off of her and our romance. I thought we were perfect.At this point I half feel like cheating to get back at her. Which is unbelievably fucked up, but I feel fucking played. Idk, what do?
>>30208524I'd file for divorce.I'm not spending the rest of my life with someone I can't trust.If she wanted to stay married to me then she should have stayed faithful.Tell her to get that ex of hers to take care of her kid.
>>30208598>I'd file for divorceShe'll take him for every penny. She didn't cheat while they were married, so in the eyes of the law, she is the injured party.
>>30208524>married with baby on the way nowyou know exactly what you have to do
>>30208524>while we were on our first big tripFucking millennial chicks bro.... Chances are you dished a few hundred to a few thousand dollars to travel and get her friends to shut up about "durr hurr iS yOuR rElAtIoNsHiP gOiNg AnYwHeRe? GeT hIm To TaKe YoU TrAvElLInG!". Sorry bro, when she says shit like "wE aRe OfFiCiAl" she is probably just girl almost at (if not at) the fringes of her group constantly anxious about her the opinion of her friends on her life. Her being like "oH We WeRenT OfFiCiAl" (despite going on a holiday for heaven sake) seems to me like the rationalisation she has done to her friends over the years when they talked to her about her life to get them to stop talking about it and make her seem "normal". She may even done it with her parents and lies. At some point, she figured her anxiety and nervousness about her friends critiquing her (according to their in group standards which may or may be inflated just for the thrill) made her freeze and disrupt certain activities in her life like meeting a guy and getting married. So, she met guys without telling her friends until it was "official" and if they suspected her she would rationalise it to them to keep herself in the group and appear as "normal". If she did not meet you and withholding that from her friends, she probably would not have stayed so long. If she said "hey I am dating anon" she would have caved to her friend's critique, be disappointed that mentioning you did not "wow" them (that they were unenthusiastic and didnt grant her invites to the little known happy hours they have, and letting her speak freely for an hour for example) she would have stopped talking to you. Her keeping you as a "secret" started and grew your relationship which you two later married. The bad thing would be cheating (sorry to say) with her ex boyfriend which she hid from you (like she hid you from her friends for sometime). Sorry it happened, very likely you dont trust her as much now.
Bro, that wasn’t the first time she cheated, it’s probably the first time she got caught or admitted to it. I would cut things off with this Sloot.
>>30208928Also, if she observes and celebrates the day you "became official" there may be more to the story. Her mentioning that she slept with her ex while you were talking as she is carrying your child is like she is bragging that she got so far with you. If you left her then she would call you many names. Alternatively she is just admitting it to you. Its really up to whether you stay with her. Whether you take the kid with you and so on.
I GET MAD AND I SPIN FOR NO REASONSHE CHEAT I CHEAT WE EVEN
>>30208524who suggested the location for the first big trip where her ex happened to live? If it was her, oh laaaawd
>>30209129Yeah it was her. It was a concert she wanted to go to. She apparently coordinated it before we went
>>30208524Tell her something like:>I understand that rationalizing it that way might make you feel better, but you have to understand why that's total bullshit. We were going on vacation together on my dime after being close for nearly two months, and you decided to have one last fling before you fully hitched your wagon to the relationship. What's more, you neglected to tell me such important information until we were already expecting a child. Do you understand why I might feel hurt by that? Why it's incredibly difficult to trust someone who can't be honest with me? How do you propose we make this right? Right now, I'm at a loss.
Fake your own death.Fucked up how she planned a whole trip around cheating on you.
>>30209238she's very sneaky, wouldn't be surprised if she did other similar things.
>>30208524Cheating isn't going to make things better. You either stay with her or leave her. >>30209256 really summarizes how fucked up the situation is. If you want to try and stay with her then you really need to confront her about all this because she needs to understand how bad it was.
>>30209256I have told her this near verbatim. She denies any wrong doing saying that “we weren’t official” and “anything that happened before you (or being official) doesn’t involve you”Of course this pisses me off more. But even if she admitted that it was fucked up, I don’t know how much better that would make me feel. I married this girl because I just thought it was a perfect romance. She checks (or I thought) all of my boxes for a woman. Just pissed I got lied to this far into the relationship. If I knew about that shit I would have lost all feeling and dropped this shit. But know I feel trapped
>>30209395Yeah, sounds like you should just leave her. She is a bitch who lied to you and is trying to trap you with a kid.
>>30209395this the person you want to be the mother of your kid? who knows what other fucked up shit she will end up teaching him on how to lie and manipulate others.
Just leave Anon. The anger and resentment is just going to build. And when you do leave she'll realize she fucked up. Or she won't. Either way your feelings are valid.
>>30209129>>30209238Jesus Christ! >Hey exbf I am coming to xyz on Friday>No way! what are you going to do>You know that concert...>Yea, yea its going to be huge. Who are you going with?>A friend of mine.>You wanna like, hang out before the concert?>Yea!Hypothetically speaking.Anon... wtf? She planned it around the concert, got a free trip and concert to have sex with her ex-boyfriend. I am angry just writing it! Anon, speak to a lawyer. That is fucking bullshit, outrageous!
>married with baby on the way nowFirst of all, abortYeah abortion sucks but children are meant to be loved and raised on a stable household with a man and woman as providers, looks like you're in for lifelong hellIf she does not agree to an abortion or if it's past a reasonable time, you're fuckedHonestly, you will never recover from receiving this information. How can you trust her indeed?Looks small and petty but it's all about TRUST, you don't casually marry and have children with anyone unless you're dysfunctional. Cheating is never acceptable.Better get ready for one of these:>wasting life away in a loveless marriage where things get progressively worse over the years and stress builds up until depression kicks in and you kill yourself>divorce + financial rape + child support>abortion + divorce>you actually forgive her and move on (but there's always the uncertainty that she could have cheated again, or that she will always prefer the other dude)
>>30209395I couldn't live with that person if I were you. I don't mean your wife specifically but someone I married who ended up not being the person I thought I married. Like buying a donut and when you bites it's something like torus bread or something. The thing that she doesn't even feel any remorse further proofs that this person is not the one you wanted to marry.
>>30208524>Idk, what do?Don't cheat. Getting "even" won't change the basic fact of her betrayal; all it'll do is debase you while leaving the core issue unaddressed. She wasn't loyal to you. Period. Nothing you do now will change that, and compromising your own integrity to get even earns you what, exactly? The ability to stay in a relationship with someone who wronged you?If something like this happened to me, I'd first thank her for her honesty, and I'd try to keep my composure as best I could in return.Then I'd ask for a divorce, with the condition that she doesn't get anything out of me--I'd say that while I respected her decision to tell me, and I didn't want to make it more painful than it had to be, the fact is that she still betrayed the relationship before it even got to the point of marriage, and so the marriage itself was based on a lie. It would have to end. If she tried to argue to make herself look better (like in >>30209395), I'd let her say what she wanted once without cutting her off, but then I'd reiterate that she chose to withhold what she did until after marriage. While her honesty is better than nothing and deserves respect, her initial betrayal doesn't, nor does her procrastination on telling the truth.Also, if she were unemployed, or otherwise had limited means besides me, I'd offer to help her adjust in moving out, paying for a couple month's worth of rent and giving her some money to start with.If she rejected my terms and tried to take me to court, I'd kill her. I wouldn't ever even imply a threat when talking to her. I'd want to give her the benefit of the doubt and give her the chance to freely choose a clean break. But I wouldn't tolerate the double betrayal of my marriage being a sham AND her trying to screw me over for money when it ends, so this is the last resort I'd have in the back of my mind.>>30209523Also this
>>30209523>>30209547Keep the kid. Test if it is your own kid too.
>"b-but it wasn't official!" >while she went sneaky as hell about itShe hid it because she knew she was doing something wrong. She didn't even apologize, so she seems to just want you to bend the knee. OR MAYBE she feels guilty and wants you to absolve her. No idea what to do, but I would demand DNA test of the kid.As other anon said, law will probably fuck you over because you weren't married. Act quite upset for a time(or just be upset), maybe stop having sex with her to get her to bring up the incident(or to let you naturally bring it up when she starts bitching at you for being upset or wanting the test), secretly record her admitting to the cheating.Now i definitely have no idea what to do, but what comes to mind is to bring the incident up to her family(at the larger gathering, maybe), maybe even play the recording. If they defend her, go public.Women live and die by their reputation.Other option is to just ghost her as muchvas legally possible, hide assets and so on. To drive her crazy and keep yourself safe when shtf, maybe manage to get custody. But I have no idea how to do it.
>>30208524First off, why did she reveal this now? Why ever bring it up? It could only ruin your relationship.Second off, she’s going to cheat again if she hasn’t already. Had an ex who justified the same shit as “oh we weren’t THAT official so you it’s fine I slept with this other guy” and I gave her a chance. I caught her cheating on me 6 months into our “marriage” which I immediately started filing a divorce over. Thankfully we didn’t have kids so that’s a bigger hurdle to deal with
Think about how you will feel 3 years removed from this marriage after you divorce her
>>30209948She just randomly decided to be honest???She was saying how she has been faithful about me since *insert date of being official*. I knew about our “official date” before, but I thought it was sketch she said that. So I asked her and she told she had slept with her ex the day prior. Dude it’s laughable. Looking back there were so many red flags that I looked over just because I was so into her. It’s a fucking joke.
>>30210413how would you want to be treated if you were in her position?
>>30208524Do you own a house? If it's under your name change to your parents. Start hiding money too. Don't cheat on her, if I were you I'd install hidden cameras inside the house, maybe a tracker on her car, keylogger on shared computers, and even hire a PI if you think she's sneaking around
>>30210639Don't do any of this shit. Just do what the other people said. Be composed, but let her know how you feel. Then, a divorce is probably the best option, even if you are fucked over with a baby on the way. Times like these can really test you to do irrational shit, do not succumb and do anything like cheating. It won't make you feel better. Doing the paranoia PI shit won't help you either. The problem isn't if she will cheat again (she very well might), it's that she *did* cheat already.
>>30210829>wants OP to get cucked literally and figuratively
>>30208524>she keeps saying it was ok because it was before we were “official” (had been dating for like 7 weeks. Never had an official conversation.She's right. You never had the exclusivity conversation. You're holding her to a contract she never agreed to. You can't cheat on someone who isn't your partner. Sucks to suck. Get over it.
>>30210870At least OP has touched a woman before
>>30209238This I'd never get over. If my husband was doing that shit I doubt I'd ever be able to sleep with him again, I'd be in a constant state of disgust. How far along is the baby?Why did she tell you now about sleeping with him??
>>30210883What a weak bait.Should I even post my marriage contract? Wedding photos and rings?
>>30208524>>she keeps saying it was ok because it was before we were “official”Holy fuck dude get the fuck out ASAPAlso make sure you get that convo recorded so you don't get divorceraep'd. Also I'd put a condition on DNA testing the kid cause who knows what this bitch has lied about.
>>30208524Damn, OP got cucked hard. Enjoy your new black baby, lol. Let all of the “incels” (simps in training) learn something valuable from your misery. Modern women are a set of holes and nothing more. They aren’t your friends and will add NOTHING of value to your existence. In fact, just the opposite as is clearly the case here. Live and learn. She AIN’T yours, it’s just YOUR turn. Lucky YOU. Ah ha ha ha ha ha
>>30209395>She denies any wrong doing saying that “we weren’t official” and “anything that happened before you (or being official) doesn’t involve you”my ex used to do this but more like "it doesn't matter that it hurt you because we weren't dating" to rationalize every soulcrushing thing she ever did to me. it was like me and her are in love for a month, suddenly wants to take a break for awhile because our relationship is "bad" for us. talks to people and basically disrespects our relationship and disregards how i might feel when i find out about these things which i always did. after like a week of cutting me off nudges herself back into my life. i being retarded, take her back. find out about something awful she did. "if you love me why are u doing these things" "we weren't dating so it was okay and you have no right to be upset with me". i decide to love her again because i do like her alot. repeat repeat repeat. even though i was talking to other people during our breaks she knew that i really only wanted herafter many attempts of rejecting her and failing and thinking about how many awful things she's done i finally just totally shut her down last time she tried to start talking again. basically told her that i think she's just a genuinely bad person and that i don't love her anymore after she told me she loves me. she said something along the lines of "oh so u think by saying this you're winning?" as if our relationship was a competition showing she clearly can't fathom unconditional love. she then tried suicide baiting which i basically ignored. i just wanted atleast like one apology. just one.tldr: your gf sounds bpd anon. fuck all bpd bitches.
>>30208524Since when is cheating okay? You shouldn't cheat in return, it will fix nothing and you will feel worse for it because you will ruin yourself in the process and put a stain on yourself. The thing to do here for you is to have a conversation and figure out how you want to deal with the fact that she cheated on you back then, do you accept, move on and decide to forgive her out of love and because you see a future together, or has this stained the relationship you've been building and you don't want to pursue a future with her. Anything else will will advise you here is to be ignored.
>>30208524OP your wife is technically correct, she didnt cheat or do anything wrong because you didnt talk about being exclusive. But she is a bitch and not someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, she thinks she can do whatever she wants as long as she goes about it like a lawyer looking for loopholes and technicalities and it will be your fault for not being specific about every detail and not see coming all possible scenarios.
Cheat on her lmao
>>30208524Just leave her, there is no "get back", fuck it, leave, get out soon.You can date when you're done.She cheated you didn't, that actually matters (a little) in divorce court.Serve her the papers already faggot there's no "making it fair", the contract is null and void, throw her back, do it, fucking do it don't delay don't make excuses fucking do it, lose her number, don't "come to terms with it", don't "allow her closure", don't "still be friends" or "still have feelings". Zero tolerance. No, it's over. It's over. It's over. End it. End it. End it.>>30208633Fuck money. Fuck houses. End it. End it. Bail. No money? Move to Peru. Fuck it. End it. Get out. Get out. Get out.
>>30209395Demand that she admits wrongdoing and apologies profusely, and that she will go to couples counseling to address her lying issues and mental illness. Tell her that if she refuses to do so immediately, you will leave her for a few days on a solo trip to clear your head. If she doesn't correct her behavior by the time you get back home, you will leave her permanently.
>>302085241) never make a decision emotionallyright now you are angry so you need to cool off before deciding what to do.2) I think you should stay with her, make sure you get a parental test for the baby and all future babieswomen cheat, men cheat, grow up this is the world you live in, your relationship only works as long as your interest and her interest go in the same direction, this is the world we live in, grow up.
>>30211431>growing up is staying with a cheating whoreNah fuck that shit. Cheaters are scum and don’t deserve to be trusted in a relationship, whether they’re a man or woman. OP shouldn’t have to degrade himself like that and you shouldn’t think taking shit like this is “growing up”Though I will agree that he shouldn’t make decisions when emotions are high. Do your best to simmer down and then dump the hoe
>>30211460you forget the part about her being the one confessing the cheating. THing op would have never found out on his own. They have a baby on the way and his life is going to be ruinned because a guy cant swallow his pride?People cheat. Women are designed to find the best genes for their offspring, men are designed to mate guard. Things play out how they will. But leaving his wife to go find another woman isnt going to change people's nature.
I actually do agree that the expectation of "official" is a technical gray area. She's still really not cool for doing it on a trip you brought her on if you paid her way there. This is the consequence of used goods whores.Your kid matters more than this woman. You chose poorly, adulterers get the death penalty in the bible for good reason. You can't undo the child. She's imperfect, she finally told the truth. Is she still that whore? Maybe not. People change. Hopefully she did.
>>30211431>2) I think you should stay with her, make sure you get a parental test for the baby and all future babiesShit advice and gaslighting OP. You are basically coercing OP to agonise due to some boomer bullshit "muh growing up", "muh adults". Fuck you. You are not even past being a two year old and you think you can talk. Just because you got cheated on and has to be the bitch in the relationship does not mean for OP to do the same. OP ought to distance himself from the cunt and you should shut your fucking stupid mouth you boomer cunt. >>30211489Your wife cheats on you because she found simp cuck that raised her neighbours kid.
This is your fault. Men should only marry virgins, especially in this these days.
>>30211489I again agree that he should try to be around for the kid, but even if cheating is (unfortunately) more common than we wanna acknowledge, that doesn’t excuse it. They had a relationship, he trusted her, and she broke that established trust. Simple as that. On top of that: don’t you think it’s odd that she’d bring this up when she got pregnant? Why would she bring up an old wound like this at a crucial turning point in their relationship? It’s almost like she’s trying to show that she has control over him by both blackmailing him with the child. The fact that she downplayed it by saying it was ok doesn’t really sound all that reassuring either. How could he trust someone who doesn’t understand the weight of something like that? Honestly it’s just all fucked and it hurts to see. You have my sympathies OP. I hope it works out, whatever you chose to do.
>>30208524If she cheated once she'll cheat again. Stay with her, tell her that it's okay, it's all past now, but silently prepare for a divorce.Most importantly, take this as a lesson: women are never to be trusted. To you she looked like the perfect woman, but to her you were just her settling plan after years of riding the cock carousel. She married you for your money, not for your good looks. If it wasn't for your career she wouldn't have given you the time of the day.
>>30208524the man has to respect the wife. are you going to let that fucker live in ur head forever, just let it go, maybe shes lyingto see if u can be trusted.
Don't let these people rile you up. The best years of your life are coming with this baby and you're going to fuck it up over sexual jealousy. Just stop. Tell her she's not forgiven for the slight and not to be surprised when you do the same. Imagine replacing the mother of your child with a custody battle and single parenthood, because you feel you can't trust her. Why would you ever trust a woman to begin with? That's not what they are for. And all this for a technical foul before any vows spoken.A child doomed to a broken family from day one, because she fucked someone when you were not exclusive, never mind married. And you, condemned to years of drama, heartache, and frustration, never mind a VERY good chance that you will commit suicide.Read up on that. Losing a child to a hostile ex seems bad enough when you read about it. You have no idea. Don't do this to yourself.
>>30212478Having said all that, you had best insist on a paternity test.
>>30208524seems like it happened 3 years ago so if it was one-off then I would forgive it. why did she feel the need to mention it anyway? perhaps she does feel guilty about it and you can discuss it to see if it's something that would happen more often or just one-off
>>302085241. dont cheat2. talk to your elders if you have no mentors. like i mean grandmother or something
>>30209273>sneakyShe's very retarded. Any sneaky person with half a brain would have just shut the fuck up and never mentioned anything. And when it came out somehow just flat out deny it and gaslight. That's at least what I would do.
>>30211568>marry virginsDoesn't guarantee anything. They can be very horny and eventually cheat on you. It's all dynamics.
>>30208633Anon won't be happy with her and she'll spend his money.Or he could divorce - she'll still spend his money but he might be able to find someone else and be happy.
>>30208524First time on /adv/. Fuck this board is bad.Her admitting it to you without your inquiry means that she has mentally closed that "chapter". This means 1. she is not doing it anymore 2. you have a guilt bonus.You do you, but she has just proven her honesty.
>>30213263thats why you fight, sabe
>>30213263I disagree. Behaviours that are encouraged happen again. You encourage that this behaviour is okay if you forgive her. If Anon doesn't proceed with divorce, he should at least go through the motions of divorce to scare her and know how vulnerable she really is.
>>30208524>she keeps saying it was ok because it was before we were “official”This is bullshit. Thing is, if a woman really likes a guy she won't have anything to do with another. "official" or not. They just cut the others out. They may not tell you but they do not want any other guy even touching them.So, this may or may not be the only time she stepped out but it proves there is always a loophole she will justify fucking someone else.This girl tells you everything you want to hear with the same mouth she sucked another man off with
>>30209481Fuck I agree this is how it went down. This bitch is a cold fucker. She didn't give a damn for OP. She could have just disappeared over a weekend and slipped off to fuck the guy but that wasn't good enough. She needed OP to pay and believe everything wonderful and the whole time she couldn't wait till OP left. Brutal
>>30210877Not OP but it is a rational argument. However, she set this up as a trip with OP and they became official after the trip but the reason for the trip all along, with OP paying, was to hook up with her ex. Thats intentional deceit. Its also clear she does not love OP at all but a woman looking for a payday.
>>30210988Brutal but at least your whore would fabricate a break but OP's whore used him and pretended all was great so she could travel to another city to fuck another man. Thats another level. If a man did that we'd call him a psychopath
>>30212575Just wait. She dropped this bomb and there will be another. Its probable she isn't sure who is the childs father. Could be the ex, OP or some new guy
>>30213214This is true. Had a virgin gf in HS, I went away to college and the second weekend I couldn't make it back she went to a party with one of her friends and fucked a guy she just met. Her excuse. I didn't mean to but I was drunk and my friend was having sex with her bf sooooo...... I was thinking about you the whole time though
>>30213263>mentally closedNo it isn't. She opened a door bringing it into the present. She is creating an opportunity to fight over something OP was not aware of
>>30210870i love savannah brown
>>30208524Abort the child. If abortion is illegal, move states.First, it's good revenge on her for cheating on you.Second, do it for the sake of the child. Your wife appears to be a whorish woman unable to control her impulses. (You know her better than any of us here, but that's how she comes across to me.) And anywhere in the world, having a whore for a mother is unpleasant, complicated, embarrassing and awkward. For your unborn child's sake, abort them.
>"dating" for like 7 weeks>Never had an official conversation.then you were still in the flirting courtship stage of a relationship, did not commit to each other, and never established boundaries of going into a monogamous committed relationship.your fault. all bets are off in "dating" until you make your intentions clear by proposing marriageit was shitty of her, for sure, but the "we weren't official yet" argument is a pretty valid point to me.
>>30208524If you’re not married, it is not cheating unless there are official rules to the relationship. Marriage cannot be cheapened to the category of puppy love.
>>30209395You are FUCKED.never marrynever procreaterookie mistakes anon, rookie mistakes
>>30214042>your fault. all bets are off in "dating" until you make your intentions clear by proposing marriagethey were together, she said they should go to a concert, but only because she wanted to meet up with her ex to get creampied. She's a cheater and it's probably not the only time she's done it to be honest. >>30213263>shes not doing it anymorejust lol>>30208524OP, ask her ex if it's the only time they fucked while you guys where together
>>30214042OP was well past the so-called flirting stage as you put it. First few days in a week. She was having sex with her ex boyfriend while on a trip with OP. Even it was after the coffee date that is really bad. I would not be surprised if there was something else and if she cheated on him again. >>30214064Not only are you a cheater, your parents want to retire by moving in with you. There is little benefit to them if you had puppy love when they have been grooming you to be their retirement plan.
>>30215219>>30215227it depends on OP's perception of "dating".>7 weeks since their very first interaction?>7 weeks since the first time they spent time alone together?Those are not 7 weeks of being a dedicated boyfriend-girlfriend.>7 weeks since they first banged?Debatably boyfriend-girlfriend, but the caveat of>Never had an official conversationleads me to believe neither of them ever said anything about going steady, used the term boyfriend or girlfriend, or had any conversations about monogamy and the hard line of their boundaries with the opposite sex.Men and women can go on trips with each other and still have the thought of "this isn't my partner, this is just a friend or fuck buddy that I'm traveling with".OP didn't lock her down to a relationship, he took her on a trip without laying down his limits or expectations. he fucked up by falling in love with someone before even saying "will you be my girlfriend"
>>30208524If she's carrying your child don't get a divorce. Easiest way to fuck up your kid's life and future is if you do.
People who cheat are also people who will lie and even steal. It's someone who doesnt mind fucking other people over as long as there are no bad consequences
>>30216071Cheat and ask your partner to be faithful to you for the umpteenth time.
>>30209395She feels no guilt because of her mental gymnastics and that means she will cheat on you again if she just finds a good excuse for herself. Remove her from your life by any means necessary. You absolutely don't want to risk having children with her so do not have sex with her again unless you are sterile.
>>30217872Oops, read over the >baby on the way in OPYou fucked up big time.
>>30211263ThisRight now she's basically a Jew, a lawyer and a politician all into one. The worst type of person to be around.
>>30211431>grow upIf I saw you in real life, I would kill you with my bare hands you triple faggot. Gaslighting and telling others to "grow up" in order to justify every shitty thing that ever happened is EXACTLY what's so fucked up about this world. I hope to God you never say those words out loud because I'll beat you up so bad
>>30213214>>30211568Doesn't guarantee anything except some very short term "feel good" shit on the wedding day. My wife was a virgin before we met and married, and I ain't happy. She's a schizo cold ass bitch religious nut but for a woman to be virgin in this day and age she must be at least a little bit fucked in the head if I'm honest, if not downright ogre mode butt fucking ugly.
>>30217936>for a woman to be virgin in this day and age she must be at least a little bit fucked in the head if I'm honestSure, roastie
>>30211997Bad thing to lie about, bad test to see if he can be trusted. What about her? Who gave her the arbiter position to test someone's capability to be trusted?Anon, are you legit mentally ill?
Is it bad that I come to /adv/ looking for threats like these to feed my hatred on?
Your next move depends on the gender of the child, OP
>>30217997>Is it bad that I come to /adv/ looking for threats like these to feed my hatred on?No, I mostly come here to fuel my dislike for normalfags.
>>30208524Why tf would she even admit that to you especially when shes pregnant with child?Seems like a huge red flag to bait you to divorce her so she can get alimony or to make you overreact or some shorts. Consult a lawyer immediately and demand a paternity test from her cause if she was unfaithful once, she was/will definitely (be) unfaithful againHonestly I don't think being honest about things like that are any good for any relationship let alone a marriage
>>30208524maybe shes lying. why not forgive. are u going to let a grudge decide your childs future
>>30217993niqqa its called life
>>30208524I would leave. Telling you from experience, it will forever poison you and this relationship, you will be treating her like shit and even if she did feel sorry (which she doesnt) she would get tired of constantly having that over her head eventually. You cheating also wont help, let alone that it will just make her resent you as well, since nobody likes being treated like trash no matter how guilty they are, you will also have to carry the weight of lowering yourself to that level and have a reason to despise yourself.Just pack your stuff and leave, it sucks that the baby will have to deal with that, but it will absolutely eat your soul down the line. Make you do horrible things yourself. Your little family is already dysfunctional. If you can stand it, wait until the baby is there and take it with you at first opportunity. It is not at fault and deserves better than be raised by a bitter single mother.
>>30208524Cheating is like having AIDS. You destroy another person, not only your cheating gf but also the third person, your new gf. Break the cycle.
>>30208524She very well could be minimizing the extent of her cheating "oh it was just before we were official", similar to how people confess to police that they went over the speed limit, but knock their speed by 10%. Something to keep in mind.
>>30208524In order for you to salvage this amends need to be made so you no longer feel aggrieved. For me, I'd cheat on her a few times & never tell her. That way I'd feel 'even' with this cheating fucking bitch.If not that, something. She has to give you something to make up for this.
>>30208633>sunk cost falacy