What's the correct what to reply here?The promise that she mentioned I think is that I promised to reply back to her as soon as I see her messages any time of day(She's on a trip and in minding her apartment)We've only been together for 3 months and frankly she is starting to scare meI'm right to be scared aren't I?
>>28580531And frankly I did see her message at 7:16 but I just had nothing to reply in return, felt like a natural end to the conversation.
>>28580531>What's the correct what to reply here?God, I mean what's the correct way to handle this situation
>>28580545I mean clearly she has self esteem issues but that's not your problem, you can just establish boundaries and tell her to respect them, that in a relationship you need to trust your partner
If she's on holiday why is she obsessing over talking to you?
>>28580630Thats a good question. I dont know and I dont want to upset her by asking
You should not have made that promise lul. Don't make promises you don't want to or cannot keep.
>>28580531Why not voicecall to avoid all this
>>28580535>"i promised to reply back as soon as I saw her messages any time of day">"i did see her message at 7:16 [and did not reply]"This is your issue anon. You said you'd respond, then you didn't. If you're gonna say Ill respond at anytime when I see it you gotta do that. Not just like, if you feel you have an 'important thing to say to advamce the convo'She wants you to be in touch, doesnt matter what you say. You said you would then didnt
>>28580908Are you a woman?
Then you followed it up by gaslighting her and saying you did respond when you saw the notification.... it was 9 her time and she was messaging you at 7 your time?And you didnt respond till 11 her time when she was goin to bed, and last night was sat night. Then you said you did respond as soon as you saw it, which you didnt but shes obviously too tired to press the issue.So just checks out.Do you not see the optics of this?It looks like she wanted to talk sat night and you ignored her.
>>28580531>>28580535God, dump her. She has trust issues. That was a stupid fuckin promise, the same types who feel entitled to your attention 24/7 are the same kinds of people who will dump you without a second thought and find a new fixation. Why are you dating crazy? Does she want a green card?
>>28580918No. Male, 33Im flattered tho. Really.
>>28580908Shut the hell up, no respectable adult plays those kinds of mind games with their partner, grow up>>28580922>Implying it's not like this 24/7Also it's about control, power, more than anything. OP Doesnt have to entertain her horseshit
>>28580535Chad here,You’re acting like a faggot. Your tepidity signals you’re not into her. I don’t mind that at all, I do it all the time. You know what I take MAJOR issue with?You. Being a pussy faggot asking for help, here on this board. If you were a man you’d fuck up, ghost, and do what you want. But no - you act like a pussy then bitch about it. Kill yourself.
>>28580930I didn't say either of them were respectable dumbass. I answered the dudes questionIs that the demand of a psycho needy bitch? Oh yeah. Red flag. Wasnt the question and the board is /adv/Would only an idiot respond "of course, ill promise you an unattainable standard!"Oh yeah.Op didnt ask if he was an idiot or if she was a psycho.He wondered why she was pissed, ive dealt with psychos and let him know what the issue was.Ill do /adv/ how i want,You do youAsshole
Anyone who tries to lay down controlling scenarios toward anyone else is deeply insecure and unhealthy to be around.
>>28580922>And you didnt respond till 11 her time when she was going to bed, and last night was sat night.The conversation ended at 7. what was I supposed to do, reply to "I love it" by same "Okay."? There's no follow on from that. Its a conversation ender.I responded 19 minutes after she texted me the next time. Im amazed you aren't a woman because you sound like a needy little bitch
>>28580984See the part about I have experience with psychos, dumbass.Good luck. With that abrasiveness you two will never work out, I guarantee she plays the victim 100% of the time you respond with this attitude.
>>28580956I don't give a fuck what you think, you're a fucking idiot who's too afraid to call women on their bullshit games. Get a spine and stop being a pussy and you might get some bitches on your dick, faggot.
>>28581014>Good luck. With that abrasiveness you two will never work out, I guarantee she plays the victim 100% of the time you respond with this attitude.you're a fucking pussyand how do you have time to browse here at your age anyway? Dont you have a family to spend time with?
>>28580963Facts. OP needs to pick up his self respect and GTFO
>>28581015Thats an intersting attitude for someone who posts a thread on /adv/. I didnt ask for your advice and don't need it on women for the record.
>>28580849don't be a pussy
>>28581022I have the time to do what I want, benefit of hard work paying off. It's pretty easy to find time.
>>28581041Text your girl.You won't.
>>28580930>Mind gameHe said he would do something and then chose not to do it. What game is there in that lol
>>28580531>I'm right to be scared aren't I?Scared? No. Annoyed? Yeah. 2 hours isn't shit. That's insane insecurity on her part. I'd be on my way out immediately if I read that.
fuck i felt this, its over bro...end it now, she needs your attention and validation its only gonna get worse
>>28580531She sounds very needy and insecure. Tell her if she wants to talk to call. Texting is an asynchronous form of communication. Texting all day is extremely difficult as well because of the way texting works. Conversation is much less natural through texting.If you don't mind spending time with her you can also do things like get spotify and listen to music together all day or something. That way you can feel like she's there without having to spend so many braincells on communication.