I want to go to bars and clubs to get the opportunity to hit on girls and be hit on (I’m /fit/, 6’0 and have a decent face) but I have nobody to go with. I’m an introvert with like 2 good friends which is normally enough for me but it means I don’t have the opportunity to go out and party. One of my friends is married btw and another isn’t into it. Is it over for me? Going alone seems really weird.I work from home, graduated a few years ago, and while it’s a comfy life it doesn’t help to put myself “out there”.
>clubs, bars>introvertWhy are people on this board so stupid? Do you even want to be with a girl who does these things?
>>27784812That was the situation I found myself in many years ago. Fortunately, picking up girls at bars rarely works anyway. I had a friend who who hang out at hotel bars and pretend to be a traveling businessman to explain away his being alone. Ended up fucking a few married women.
>>27784812>introvertYou don’t belong in clubs. Clubs are for extroverts
>>27784874>>27784820That's what I think sometimes too. But then I think that I'm wasting my looks by not putting myself out there, like when I was reading the 'mire' thread on /fit/I know I'm capable of getting that too but I just don't have the opportunity
>>27784881>wasting my looksWow. What a narcissistic thing to say.
>>27784881Fine. Let's say that a hot chick on MDMA starts grinding on her during some normie music set. Do you have any idea what to do next? Do you have ANYTHING in common with them that you would talk about? What makes you think you can hold an extrovert's attention long enough for her to want to follow you home?
>>27785001Well I’d just make out with her and feel good, if it went further good otherwise not a big dealAlso I could take some drugs too, in fact I wish my friends did drugs
>>27784928It is but I read all those mires on /fit/ and realise they could be happening to me, so it makes me feel like I’m missing out. In fact I did get some when I was still out there working from the office. Still wouldn’t ever willingly go back to the office, it was a nightmare for other reasons.
>>27785013There are steps between "having a rando normie dance next to me" and "making out", right?Also, "I could take some drugs" is the whitest thing I've read today.
>>27784812That doesn't sound like your scene. Plenty of better options that suit your personality and lifestyle. If you don't get out much then dating apps are probably more your speed. Or just try to meet the friends of your friends if they go out to drink sometime. I've met plenty of girls through my friend's gf when we go out to drink.
>>27785032I mean you're talking like it's hard as fuck. I'm an introvert not a dysfunctional autist. I'm not a virgin, not good with women either but when the girl is attracted to you it isn't that hard to make out - I just need opportunities.>Also, "I could take some drugs" is the whitest thing I've read today.kekI'm a recreational drug user. The problem is it would feel kinda stupid to go into a club solo high on MDMA/coke, that's why I said I wish my friends did drugs.>>27786160You're right that it's not exactly my scene, however I still feel FOMO occasionally. I get lots of matches on tinder but it just feels tiresome and disingenuous, like a chore. My dream scenario to hit on women in a club would be to be go to some festival/rave where drugs are common while high on something like molly, coke, GHB, with a fellow drug taking friend who'd be my wingman. Alcohol just kinda sucks.
>leave home at 8pm>go to a bar popular among college students in your area>find a group that accepts you into their group>when they go to a nightclub, go with themIt's so easy. Just have a 6 pack of beer before going in at home.
>>27784812The secret about clubbing is that most girls are there to bounce back to an afterparty. They aren't there to fuck randos.
>>27784820Because that's where attractive women are. Stick with the nerd stuff for introverts and you're dealing with remarkably unattractive women, for the most part. This isn't rocket science.
>>27786219This doesn't sound very easyI think I'll try to convince one of my friends to go with me after all
>>27786248It's easier with a friend but I don't find it hard alone either. Ask your friend if he knows a friend who drinks, if he isn't interest or to bring them along.
>>27786209Go for the rave/festival scene then. It's much more welcoming and genuine than clubs anyway. Lots of kind hearted people out there tripping balls at festivals you'll make friends and maybe even meet girls worth getting to know lol. Its also not particularly weird to go to those alone either just bring drugs as your token of friendship to break the ice. Even weed works.
>>27786301Hmm I might do it then. But I'll probably wait until I get my own place. I plan to move out within a year.
>>27786308Worth a try. Worst case scenario it doesn't vibe well for you and you've learned you don't like it but with the drugs and hippy atmosphere I feel like most anybody finds a place at those kind of events. Especially if you follow the "bring drugs to share" rule lmao.
>>27786612Oh yeah I can bring lots of drugs lol. Doing them alone is alright but it would be better with others sometimes.
>>27784812I would go out alone from time to time (not because I didn't have anyone to go out with though- it was usually a spontaneous choice)Just pregame a bit at your place get a nice buzz on and go to a local bar- Some place not too crowded where you can find a place to post up, pretty easy to just be a guy looking to enjoy a drink and not a guy desperate to meet people that way. The small bar also allows for conversation to happen where in a club you can't talk to anyone for the most part. You sit at the bar long enough and get drunk enough you will meet a girl or at least have a good drunken conversation with a dude.TLDR: stick to bars steer clear of overly populated loud nightclubs when going out alone.