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How do I gain the confidence to ask out a girl? Every time there’s a girl I like I always make an excuse for why I can’t ask her out, like if I know her from school or work it will make it awkward if she says no, or if I just meet her out in the world it would be weird to ask her out of the blue. How do I know when to ask a girl out?
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>>26749499
try asking her to something she would be privileged to do, like a meal at a very cool and delicious restaurant. and don't whip your penis out on the date or whatever. worst case scenario she gets a free night out.
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>>26749499
>How do I know when to ask a girl out?
the right time is after you think of it. that's the whole point of thinking about it after not having had thought of it before. you are making up an unnecessary step of waiting.
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the answer is you don't, you move on and worry about other things.
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Get into your head that showing intrest is perfectly normal, and that you can ask them out all you want. That in itself, is healthy. Just don't be too stubborn and don't start asking every single woman available, people notice that.
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>>26749504
and maybe you could come up with something slightly more creative. also some people are chill and enjoy the presence of others without any fanfare, like you could just have a beer with them on the porch or go for a drink or coffee. basically if you believe what you're offering them is shit then you're gonna be insecure like a shitty car salesman.
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>>26749499
Ask all of them out, female attraction is completely random, increase your odds.
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>>26749508
this
make money
women are gold diggers anyway
you disagree?
>women don't like you if you're a loser
>women start "loving" you if you're successful
isn't that gold digger behavior?
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>>26749499
Is it autistic if I ask out a girl who I've never really talked to that works in a coffee shop? She's always serves me but I never get to go beyond regular pleasantries cause its extremely busy and the staff are run off their feet. Would it be weird if I just told her I wanted to take her out on a date and can I get her number?
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>>26749509

>Get into your head that showing intrest is perfectly normal

This. Too many guys have shame about expressing their sexuality. I get it, sometimes insecure woman will make us feel like pervs, and society definitly shames men when it comes to having sexual feelings or desires, but fuck all that, its bullshit.

Be proud of your masculinity and sexuality and express it to woman you want to be intimate with. Just make sure to be 200% respectful.
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>>26749499
You just have to do it once and realize it's not a big deal. It's not going to be awkward unless you make it awkward. If you get rejected just act like it's not a big deal (because it isn't) and treat her the same way you did before.

>>26750047
It's fine, but you should probably do it at a less busy time.
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>>26749504
>worst case scenario she gets a free night out
That is pretty bad. I am, no joke, not a charity
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Change your mindset on insecurity. Think about it as a minor feeling you can ignore like a small rash on your hand and do it
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>>26750074
No. I admit that I have sexual urges all the time, but the whole approaching other people thing to get them to satisfy me thing is incredibly needy. I do not need other people. I must remain alone to be strong. My sexuality is weakness.
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>>26750095
Neediness is a retarded concept. People need eachother. Everyone who says otherwise is a psychopath or coping.
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>>26749499
Bro you just have to stop giving a damn
Think about it this way. You ask a girl out.
You don't care about what she says.
If she says yes, cool.
If she says no, cool.
How do you know when to ask a girl out? Simple. Do you feel like asking her out? Then do it. I literally asked a girl out like an hour ago and got a yes for next week. I just did it. I was a little nervous, but I didn't show it, I just straight up asked her if she had time on the weekend and wanted to meet. She said yes, so that's what we're doing. If she would have said no, we wouldn't do that. Simple.
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>>26749499
Break the societal conditioning of being afraid or ashamed of your desires

I adopt a mindset like this: normie society wants me to pander to women and be afraid of them, so the antisocial thing to spite it would be asking out a female very directly. I you get rejected you just laugh at the female and continue your joker-esque revelling in making people uncomfortable.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=boKraRoVh5k
no, this is not a self help video shit with some weirdo in it
well, it DOES have a weirdo in it, but whatever. follow his lead!
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>>26750103
But needing women turns them off.
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>>26750209
a needy attitude turns them off, like suffocating them with messages and never having anything better to do than figuratively being on their ass
If you have a life and some of it is spent on women there's nothing wrong with that.
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>>26750266
I’ll just remain alone. Easier than navigating the minefield of social norms surrounding intersexual relations
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>>26750278
nobody is going to help you, psychologically
we can talk things over as long as you like but if you don't see them with your own power of observation and understanding nothing will ever change.
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>>26750283
I’ve understood everything you’ve said this far, but I am telling you this game is not for me. I think I do unironically have a lower need to have women than most men. Whether that because of low-t, or of a decade+ of cope making me schizoid/sociopathic, I just can’t be bothered to play women’s games. Again, I do feel sexual desires often, but there is no accompanying desire to actually talk to women. And no, I’m not addicted to porn
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>>26750266
yeah, being someone's priority is terrible
i much prefer hanging around people who don't give a fuck about me because they're so busy with other things
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>>26750373
Same. The only people I care about are the people who ignore me
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>>26750373
I've tried giving myself to people it never turns out well.
If you're on the same level at the same time then sure, intensity and deep passion for each other will be wonderful, most girls will get scared by that though.
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>>26750311
hookers
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>>26750675
Too much risk for the price. If they were cheaper or legal, I would go. And no, I’m not traveling to a different country where they are legal/cheaper. Just not worth it
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>>26750047
The power move when dealing with women is to give them YOUR number. With the coffee shop chick, it would probably be best to introduce yourself first and just chat her up a couple of times. Most women don't like rejecting you outright in person so by giving them your number, you put the ball into their court and it's the more gentlemanly route. If you do get her number though, read it back to her with one wrong digit, if she corrects you, she actually wants to get to know you
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>>26750668
what's the point in being with someone if you can't allow yourself to fall for them?
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>>26749499
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>>26750141
>How do you know when to ask a girl out? Simple. Do you feel like asking her out? Then do it. I literally asked a girl out like an hour ago and got a yes for next week. I just did it. I was a little nervous, but I didn't show it, I just straight up asked her if she had time on the weekend and wanted to meet. She said yes, so that's what we're doing. If she would have said no, we wouldn't do that. Simple.
I'm done caring about women. Chasing pussy is nigger behavior. Only dumb people think life should be about food pleasure or penis pleasure. You could fuck the hottest woman on earth and you'll still feel empty afterwards, and it won't make you a better person. You'll just be able to look back and say "heh, I fucked that bitch for 30 minutes!".
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>>26750147
>Break the societal conditioning of being afraid or ashamed of your desires
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>I adopt a mindset like this: normie society wants me to pander to women and be afraid of them, so the antisocial thing to spite it would be asking out a female very directly. I you get rejected you just laugh at the female and continue your joker-esque revelling in making people uncomfortable.
lmao you're so fucking based man (I'm not being sarcastic)
that's a really good way to put it
if you don't give a fuck about this shit, it has no power over you
>bro treat women like princesses, just be careful what you say, and ...
how about I don't give a fuck about that, retard?
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>>26750103
>>26750278
>>26750373
>>26750266
>>26750209
>just be needy bro, just believe me
>no no no don't try to deal with it, don't be mature
>you need a 2nd mommy
>you need to suck on a tit when you're angry, otherwise you become a psycho and start eating human flesh
Nope. You don't need to do that.
>but you'll have bad feefees and cry and be lonely
lmao
what you're telling us is that we have to be dependent on other people and become their bitch

so what should we do if we get dumped or our friends hit us with the classic "sorry bro, I'm too busy right now, let's talk later"?
suicide?



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