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How many of you are actually interested and willing to commit to one person for the rest of your lives? Without cheating because you got bored and lazy.
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Just take this reply and leave.
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>>24353588
Are you a male or a female?
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>>24353588
I am but I think it's too late to find someone now so I'm trying to get into being single. It's actually sort of nice as I realize I've basically am done with life and just need to save for retirement and stuff. I've gotten really into saving and investing money. I'll probably leave it all to my nephews when I die.
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>>24353588
Hello
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Such a romance would be ideal, but it wouldn't be easy. I would be more than willing to work towards having a future like that and making sure the marriage does not end up feeling merely like an "arrangement", but you'd need A LOT of trust to fully commit to the right person and for the right reasons.
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>>24353857
Because cheating now is encouraged and excused instead of punished
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i want one women to spend my life with but they all have had too many partners by my age. too much emotional baggage. too much learned behaviour.
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>>24353588
>one person for the rest of your lives
That's marriage not monogamy.
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>>24353907
It's both
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>>24353588
I’m willing but I am too broken to even manage one person, also a bit fat atm due to stress eating lately
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>>24353907
That is a ton of projection anon
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>>24353588
I've been with my girlfriend since highschool.
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>>24353919
Nno

If I go on a date with a girl and it goes good and we go on a few more dates and then we decide to go steady - that just means we're seeing each other exclusively. That doesn't mean we're getting fuckin married anytime soon.

>>24354010
how am I projecting
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>>24353588
I am, there's a lot more to life than sex with other people. But I expect her to be wife material
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>>24354047
If you look up monogamy the first definition that shows up is talking about marriage. I don't know why you're sperging over it.
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>>24353907
>>24354047
Monogamy used to be "one person for life", now it has been degraded to "one person at a time"
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>>24354207
>>24354298
you can't have marriage without monogamy, but you can have monogamy without marriage.
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>>24354298
>Monogamy used to be "one person for life", now it has been degraded to "one person at a time"
Do you not believe in dating? Your parents set you up with an arranged marriage when you were a kid?
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>>24353588
Been with the same man for a very long time. We aren't married but we have only ever been with each other (since high school). We've been through a lot together, good and bad, and now we are a bit older and kind of enjoying the simple life we've built while everyone else around us is divorcing and dating and still dealing with drama..
I have no desire to cheat or be with anyone else. He's a good man. He's my best friend. Anything that is "boring" is outweighed by the good. And things change as well, and we still change, and as such keep each other on our toes.
I think us meeting very young played a huge part in how tightly we are bonded so I can understand this sort of relationship being almost impossible for some people. But it happens. Rarely perhaps, but there it is.
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>>24354310

He’s wrong but

There is monogamy, then there is serial monogamy.
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I'm afraid porn makes you less monogamous because it trains your brain to be less satisfied with one.
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>>24354310
Dating wouldn't be a problem if casual sex wasn't such a big part of it. People don't date to find a long time partner most of the time they just jump from one casual relationship to another with no serious commitments. If cheating is rampant in marriages imagine how much worse it is for people who are dating.
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>>24354332
If porn is so bad naturally actually acting out the real thing with multiple people is obviously much more damaging to people's ability to be monogamous.
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>>24354310
I do not believe in premarital sex, no. This meme about 'finding out if you have sexual chemistry' is a vicious lie.
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>>24354428
>>24354352
I didn't say anything about sex though. a romantic relationship is a romantic relationship.

If you're dating someone for 3 months, 6 months, a year, however long - that's a form of monogamy. Doesn't mean I'm putting a ring on it after the first date especially if it's gonna go off the rails in 5 months time
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>>24354352
>People don't date to find a long time partner
Yeah they do. That's the end game.

It's just that most adults/teenagers are rational enough to know that they're probably not gonna meet their perfect life partner at a fuckin prom dance when they're 17 since they'll be completely different people 5 years from now.
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>>24354455
>Yeah they do. That's the end game.
In actual practice it doesn't happen though. They just fuck around indefinitely and at most might live with someone but it's glorified roommates shit.
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>>24354445
>I didn't say anything about sex
But sex is a big part of romantic relationships regardless. And the point is most the relationships don't last and even leave people worse off.
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>>24353588
What advice are you looking for, anon?
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>>24354428
I don't know why guys genuinely believe this
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>>24354303
Open relationship and polyamorous marriages exist in this godforsaken clown world
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>>24353588
polygamy is the natural state and if u try to enforce monogamy thinking that "every man should have the opurtunity to breed "u're going to have disastrous consequences to the gene pool
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>>24356199

who tf cares about what's natural. If you really love somebody, you'll devote your whole life to him/her. Everything else is just coping for unquenchable loneliness
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>>24356221
problem is genuine love is natural.U only love someone genuinely because they have good genes which automatically triggers u to like them,form relationships with them and try ur level best to protect them and by extension their genes.
how in the world do u think blue eyes came into the caucasian population all of a sudden?why do u think good looking people garner more "genuine respect" or "genuine affection" from individuals and the masses?
This whole thing of love,affection,etc. are all centered only around one thing which is genetic survival.Infact everything in life is centered around that particular thing.
It's very rare to find someone to like another person who is a genetic failure and that is brutal thing to accept in life.
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>>24356199

Monogamy has been the standard for over a thousand years and it has effected brain physiology retard.
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>>24356274

Affected*
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>>24356274
lol no.Ever heard of concealed ovulation and cuckoldry?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qUAj0dC86Is
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>>24356284

Still, this happened as a result of monogamy. Polygamy is not normal it’s disgusting. And this type of infidelity coincides with other issues too not just primal instincts.
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>>24355850
Because it's true. Sex is an important part of a relationship for bonding and reproduction, but if you only have one partner for your entire life then you'll only have your hands to compare to. The chemistry will be there from other aspects of the relationship, because honestly sex averages 10-20 minutes and assuming 8 hours of sleep, there's 940-950 minutes of your waking day where you're not fucking. If that part is shit, it'll never work out in the long run no matter how good the sex is.
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>>24353588
Been with my husband for 15 years, he was my high school sweetheart. I've never once considered cheating - even when lazy or bored.
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>>24353588
>How many of you are actually interested and willing to commit to one person for the rest of your lives?
I do!
> Without cheating because you got bored and lazy.
Monogamy is about making the choice to not be bored and not be lazy, but instead to value and love your partner.
And to make your partner value and love you, too!
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>>24353857
>you'd need A LOT of trust
Not so. You instead require leverage.
If your relationship is your partner's best choice, then all you need to do is to remind your partner to not be a moron, and it shall be stable.
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>>24356648
no one will ever be the "the best", thats the whole point of hypergamy. you'll always meet someone or be able to meet someone who is better in some aspects. even if you get with someone for whom you are the best, they aren't the best for you.
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Guys: why hide your doujinshis?
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>>24357035
Because women unironically feel threatened by cartoon girls.
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>>24357002
>no one will ever be the "the best"
Speak for yourself!
> you'll always meet someone or be able to meet someone who is better in some aspects.
Well yeah, some aspects. But not all the aspects together. And especially not "We've spent a lot of time together and we've changed to be better for each-other".
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>>24357002
>even if you get with someone for whom you are the best, they aren't the best for you.
Bullshit, I love her. She is the best for me. Go fuck yourself. No, she's not perfect, but neither am I, and there's no-one I'd value more than her.
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I've cheated before, it didn't bring me any joy, only problems, so yeah I'm fine with being with one person for the rest of my life
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>>24357045
Or you are a liar
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>>24356525
Except it's been proven the more sex partners you've had the harder it is to stay with one person and women especially end up regretting the sex they had in the past. Trying out different sex partners like you're trying to fit a glove just right doesn't mean anything if you can't keep a relationship. The chance of you not being able to have sex with one person just fine is extremely low and even if the sex isn't pornstar level like some guys genuinely expect you can still learn and improve together. Comparing a serious partner to your past failed relationships more often than not has a negative effect instead of a positive one.
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>>24356648
>>24357068
>>24357074
No realistically you never will always be the best option just because people get bored and there are many things people do better than you. There will always be a better option and that's why there's so much cheating.
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>>24353588
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>>24353588
I'm in a weird position where I don't really mind only being with one person but the idea of being monogamous on paper and someone telling me who I can sleep with or not it's such a gigantic fucking turnoff I can't enter a relationship unless we agree beforehand it's not gonna be a thing. It's just one aspect of normie relationships that are just so bizzare and alien to me I can't wrap my head around them. It's like going to a restaurant with an unwritten rule that if you ever eat in a different restaurant you'll be banned from that one. Like they could have a gigantic variety of food that I would possibly be comfortable using for the rest of my life, but literally why? If your food is good I'll keep coming on my own, stop being such an insecure bitch. Just what the fuck. Not to mention it encourages cheating in secret when you do which actually is awful unlike the sex

I had one relationship that was open in theory mono in practice and another where there was some minimal sleeping around because we're mostly attracted to each other and it was pretty comfy. Extremely lucky to have found them, if I had to date on the standard ruleset I would be a wizard
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>>24353588
Yup
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>>24359953
Sex isn't food. It's an important part of bonding with a partner, it goes along with whatever else you're doing to build a relationship into something more than a glorified hookup. You can spice sex up without fucking other people. The only reason sex means little to nothing is because people would rather do what feels good in the moment and act like animals than build something good over time.
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>>24360133
There's still no reason to act like a relationship is some autistic legal contract instead of letting it go mono naturally because it feels right
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>>24353588
The idea that you would get bored of one person only makes sense to virgins and people who were molested.
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>>24360184
>there is no reason to make the future more stable
literal chimp
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>>24360184
There's clearly a reason people might want to make it clear what type of relationship you have since people are actually dumb enough to treat sex like food.
>hey don't fuck other people
Makes complete sense to say when retards think fucking other people while in a relationship is no big deal.
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blue berry 4 life
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>>24360250
Yeah I understand clarifying everything in the beginning, my only problem is with people who will instantly break up with you over cheating or even asking for an open relationship, but never feel the need to tell you beforehand.

When I ranted about contractual monogamy it's more like I don't get it emotionally just like I can't imagine someone eating white chocolate and enjoy it. I don't care if other people do it or even seek to understand it, it's just something I'm almost physically incapable of comprehending with my personality yet it seems to be the standard in western societies.
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>>24360358
>people who will instantly break up with you over cheating or even asking for an open relationship, but never feel the need to tell you beforehand.
Because then you niggers just whine about being 'controlled' and do it in secret.
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>>24357074
I meant that if someone is dating up someone is dating down, and the one who is dating down would be interested in trading up to be the one dating up instead.
>>24357068
>>Speak for yourself!
cope, but allright.
>>Well yeah, some aspects. But not all the aspects together. And especially not "We've spent a lot of time together and we've changed to be better for each-other".
more coping, the latter thing you mentioned is used as an excuse all the fucking time to cheat. "he's safe and boring now, / I've fucked all her holes now she's boring / the relationship has gotten stale and the spark is gone.

people are given the erronous assumption from when they are small that you will find someone and magically fall in love instantly and never fall out of it because its "meant to be" when love is actually a choice you do. you can love any person on the entire world - it will be hard, it'll suck some days and can become impossible if they screw you hard enough. but it is always a choice and a task to preform.
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>>24357074
okay now she cheats and now you have 2 kids your fighting custody over. shits gonna happen,work on it and keep moving
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>>24360358
>my only problem is with people who will instantly break up with you over cheating or even asking for an open relationship, but never feel the need to tell you beforehand
Because sex has never been just some casual thing especially in relationships, it's just certain types of people who choose to view it that way. It's seen as a serious betrayal for good reason. Cheaters always find an excuse and way to blame the one they cheated on.
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Im down. I don't like the stress of non-monogamy. I tried.
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>>24353588
Im not, never wanter to be a one woman man and never will be.
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>>24355850
Guys who do get cheated on the most, lmao
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>>24353588
I like the idea of it because it’s been sold to me ever since I was a little kid. Now that I’m 23, have dated several girls and currently have a one-year relationship though, no, monogamy doesn’t seem nearly as nice to me as dating and having sex with multiple girls. I have to suppress the urge to cheat a lot. I’m worried I’ll do it one day. I already slept with a girl who had a boyfriend once, so clearly I don’t respect monogamy like I thought.
I don’t even know if love exists. If it does, I don’t think I actually love my girlfriend. We say “I love you” to each other, and maybe she really means it. Maybe love just means something different from what it is in my head. Regardless, I’ve kind of given up on it.
It’d probably break my girlfriend’s heart to hear any of that.



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