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How do I get over my wife's past? We've been together for more than 6 years, married for 2. I was a kissless virgin when I married her; she had several boyfriends, FWBs, and one night stands before me. When I agreed to marry her I thought I would eventually get over it; I didn't and it's gotten worse. We don't have any kids and our marriage is more or less good other than this.
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>>24091601
bump
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>>24091601
stop watching porn
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Why did you think you'd get over it.
You should have married her ONCE you got over it.
You knew what you were stepping into and now you're mad because of it. How silly.
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>>24091806
I've never watched porn in my life. I am super religious and was saving myself for marriage.
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>>24091828
Yes, I fucked up marrying her. That was my bad. But what do I do now? Stay as it is and continue to suffer? Divorce her? Try to cheat on her or use escorts to "even the score"?
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>>24091830
why do you care then? It's her loss, right?
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>>24091830
watch some porn
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>>24091951
Because
1. I feel like a cuck married to a promiscuous woman.
2. I wanted my wife to save herself for marriage as well.
3. She did sex acts (oral, anal) with her previous boyfriends and one night stands that she refuses to do with me, even though I want her to. She says I am "not entitled" to get whatever I want in sex.
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>>24091967
Porn just makes me feel worse, knowing that she did all those sex acts (blowjobs, rimming, anal sex, public sex) etc with her previous partners but refuses to do it with me.
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>>24091973
You aren't entitled, what did you think god guaranteed you anal? Try marrying a woman who's attracted to you next time.
>>24091979
stop watching porn
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>>24092002
No, but I thought that when she said she loved me and she would do "anything" for me when we got married, at the very least she could give me what she gave random strangers during her one night stands.
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>>24092010
In a modern society where women are allowed to have sex before marriage, nothing is given or promised. It's a matter of mutual enjoyment. She obviously likes it in the ass, try stimulating her a bit more and maybe you'll get somewhere. Your inexperience is the killer in this situation.
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>>24092049
I tried that (just lightly stroked my finger near her butthole during sex) and she got really upset and screamed and slapped me.
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>>24092073
that's not cool. It's much more than just not liking your sense of entitlement. You two need to talk about your sex life.
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>>24092096
We've had a hundred conversations about this. It all comes down to her getting upset, getting angry, and saying that she doesn't want to do these things with me, and that I am "not entitled to everything I want sexually, so deal with it".
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>>24092107
She sounds pretty shy about it. Not the type of woman to volunteer a lot of lewd information. I can just picture you prying, asking one cuck question after another. did he fuck you here? did he cum here? was he bigger than me? One big bundle of insecurities. I would never advise any man to wait for marriage in this world, and this is why.
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>>24092131
I didn't ask her shit. She volunteered all this information to me about 5 or so months into our relationship.
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>>24092152
why?
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>>24092157
I don't know, she just brought it up really nonchalantly. Like "oh that stain in my car is from when I was giving that guy a blowjob lol", even though she refuses to go down on me (even though I give her oral every time).
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>>24091973
#3 coupled with the fact that you know about these acts is a bit of a red flag.

>>24092002
id say the average joe on the street isnt entitled to blowjobs but if her husband isnt entitled to a blowjob, just who is? get your head out of your ass

>>24092152
this bitch is playing tricks on your head OP
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>>24092178
and have you decided if you've never watched porn in your life, or if all the lewd acts in porn make you jealous yet?
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>>24092178
so it's not retroactive at all, its her actively saying shit to make you jealous. op you are a cuck
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>>24092192
What do you recommend? Divorce?
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>>24092199
She hasn't brought up any of her past sexual exploits since we got married. But she still refuses to do things like oral or anal with me, and I still feel like a cuck. That being said, she hasn't cheated on me as far as I know.
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>>24092192
>husband entitled to a blowjob
if OP is such a repulsive cuck that he can't be the slightest bit wild in bed without turning her off, he's lucky to get sex at all. A certificate of marriage is meaningless.
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>>24091973
>She does sex acts with others she refuses to do with me
Divorce immediately anon, I don't care if you're a 5'4" pajeet with no other marriage prospects.
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>>24092204
i recommend not being with someone who holds out intimacy with you, and then goes out of their way to explicitly rub in the fact that they were intimate with others in places that you now share company. that is fucked up beyond belief. that stain in the car was set by her to be a physical marker, and reminder to you, of her actions.

what do you see?
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>>24092222
so then this is the classic AF/BB relationship. she had her fun with the alphas and is now giving her husband the boring starfish sex. so i guess the answer is to divorce the bitch, OP.
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>>24091601
>I agreed to marry her
What the fuck? The absolute state of couples in current year.
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>>24091973
3 is fucked up honestly. Just end the relationship OP, and dont commit to someone in the future that makes you feel these things.

Do you want to build a life with these self destructive tendancies? it will only get worse and inescapable if you do.
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>>24091601
why do you think she's different with you? be honest.
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>>24091847
>>24091973
Cheat. If she doesn't let you do what others have to her you're justified to cheat and you have my blessing.
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>>24092846
Because I am short, ugly, and balding. Nothing I can do about that.
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>>24092178
You’re such a cuck dude Jesus she’s literally bullying you. Just divorce her and move on
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>>24091601
I been through similar, my partner has literally been with at least 80 females and he’s my first. We did end up getting married and I feel like I’m “over it” for the most part even though there’s days where it pops into my head and I’m absolutely disgusted. The truth is that I love him more than I’m uncomfortable with his past and I feel lucky I even get to be loved by him, especially have him as all of my firsts, which is I guess how I justify it. If you don’t love her enough to overcome it then it will never work. He’s also told me he wishes I could’ve been his first and none of those experiences compared to being with me, so maybe you need that type of validation and reinforcement.
Also she sounds kind of mean, sorry anon. You should have a serious discussion with her and consider your options.
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>>24093368
No offense, but it's different for guys. This type of thing is much more psychologically damaging to guys than it is girls.
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>>24092107
>We've had a hundred conversations about this. It all comes down to her getting upset, getting angry, and saying that she doesn't want to do these things with me, and that I am "not entitled to everything I want sexually, so deal with it".
kek, she might have prolapsed



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