>>23644824
State gender. What are some immediate red flags to look out for?

>>23644832
M, girls who have more than 3 male friends

>>23644832
when a guy responds aggressively to any kind of teasing

>>23644832
M
>BLM/ANTIFA supporter
>X is so racist / that (insert media) is racist
>Weed is safe, alcohol is safe, drugs are ok in moderation
>let’s have sex before marriage
>Women can be the boss too!
>Men can be sensitive
>God is not real
>Mask wearer

Is nipple hair ok with women?

>>23644832
Male. Excessive clinginess, to the point of anger / breakdowns if any space is requested.

>>23644848
That's way too much bait for one post, anon.

>>23644848
Don’t you have a cousin to fuck

>>23644854
Degenerate redditor detected

>>23644857
Are you really offended by that?. He's basically saying he wouldn't date your average SJW stereotype

>>23644861
Why would I be offended by a clown?

>>23644861
This place is full of normie girls who try to act edgy, they were probably offended

>>23644857
ooooh somebodys a little upset

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>>23644865
You were bothered enough to say
>Don’t you have a cousin to fuck
>Why would I be offended by a clown?
You got your jimmies rustled

>>23644832
Female.
>talks badly about people he knows
>neglects responsibilities for his own failures
>impolite
>can't take a joke
>short temper
>can't accept disagreements
>can't take care of basic things like hygiene, his house, his things
>gives me "advice" when I don't ask for it
>talks over me

>>23644848
So pretty much any middle-class libtard city girl under 25

>>23644868
Not at all. Are you okay anon? Did the bait not work well enough?

At one point should one start worrying about their girlfriend cheating?

If she goes out of her way to include me in her family's activity, integrates me into some of her friend groups, gives me random gifts to show affection, is transparent who she goes out with and when (even if it's solo with a guy friend), talks to me regularly, plans trips with me, has regular sex and is more often then not the one initiating it... there's no reason to worry right?

>>23644880
This post is just an excuse to flex isn't it?

>>23644868
>>23644874
See the irony here. A lot of cope and seethe coming out of the woodwork. Stop being so sensitive, it was literally one of the points lol.

>>23644832
Male
Red flags in women are:
>"girls cause too much drama, all my friends are guys hehe"
>Several thousand followers on any social media platform
>Spends too much time on social media
>Has engaged in premarital sex and/or suggests it with you
>Smoking/drugs/excessive alcohol use in any capacity.
>Engages in any type of clubbing/partying
>Doesn't go to church regularly
>Dresses in revealing clothing when I'm not present with her
>Tattoos, eccentric hair color, hair is cut extremely short
>Bad family life

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>>23644832
>red flags
4chan frequenter

>>23644880
She seems like a sweetheart.

>>23644885
I'm making fun of you that's not what been sensitive is

>>23644832
Female
>Suggests I cut people out of my life
>Easily angered
>Clingy

Any other adult guys into shotacon (for the girls) or am I just fucked in the head?

>>23644888
Hey how, I am a delight. But also, I get it.

>>23644832
Male
>being ugly
>tits larger than a B cup
>sad underwear
>smoking
>single mother
>doesn't do anal

anyone else tired of feeling like they've destroyed every opportunity they've been given in life or is that just me
haha

>>23644891
So when you do it, it’s lighthearted fun. When I do it, it’s out of rage. How retarded of you haha

>>23644832
M
>theatre major in school
>too close to her male friends
>won't be direct about problems
All I can think of rn, thread will probably be gone by the time I get back though.

>>23644880
Unless you have anything specific that could cause you concern, she seems pretty into you and not cheating. But don't take that all for granted! Taking a partner for granted is the way to a painful breakup.

>>23644893
Is this what you are referring to?
https://nhentai.net/g/204737/

>>23644898
Nah, not just you, I'm self-destructive as fuck especially during "high" periods ironically. Will provably flunk out of college this semester and been fucking up all kinds of other things in my life besides over the past few months.

Girls which would you rather date:

>guy A, with whom you had to ask nicely to get a good ass dicking
ro
>guy B, with whome you had to ask nicely to get a break from the good ass dickings

>>23644832
F.
Depressing and negative. Putting others down. It is a very common trait with guys I meet and I can’t stand it.

>>23644903
Nah not lolicon, the reverse; adult women + young boys

>>23644832
F
>untreated mental illness
>inability to carry conversation or relate on a personal level
>neglect of hygiene or personal surroundings
>manipulative behavior

>>23644902
Truth be told her going out with different male friends alone from time to time once a week at the very least is making me really anxious so I'm trying to rationalize how there's no way she'd do anything because of other nice things she's doing

>>23644832
M
>is a cringy lefty
>has barnacles down below
>isn't white
>is a landwhale
>has an IQ less than 100

>>23644907
Guy A, so I can never get my ass dicked.

>>23644880
Doesn't seem like she'd cheat on you. It's an understandable concern, but if there is no evidence or anything to make you suspicious, don't waste your time with negative thoughts and fears. Learn to trust and you will be much happier and have a more satisfying relationship

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Girls
Am I too big? How much muscle is ideal on a guy, and how much is the maximum amount on a guy you would date? Pics of examples would be appreciated

>>23644824
GIRLS:

Been dating this girl for 5 months. Lot of fun times, good memories, shit like that.

Thing is she likes to talk shit sometimes. Like we'll be talking about whatever, or work or something, and she'll go "yeah the only skills you have are playing on your laptop and painting walls".

or we were playing pool once and I wasnt doing well and shes like "wow you suck at everything you're so talentless"

Kinda bothers me. Every once and awhile she'll be like "wow you're so handsome!", or something similar

but she's also depressed and on meds and isnt working / or in school anymore. She's made fun of me for my work before (i run a business painting with my step dad), "your job is boring," etc. And once I shot back and went, "well atleast I have a job," and she got SO upset. Like she got into a huge funk and we had to talk about it.

She says I know her position and it isnt right of me to say those things to her, but she'll still go right ahead and make fun of me for my work. like wtf?

Am I being too insecure or is this fucked up?

Also, she has a bad nut allergy and she likes to pretend shes having a reaction sometimes. We'll be eating and she'll stop and go "babe i think theres nuts in this..." and i'll start to get really nervous then she'll just start laughing and go SIKE!

Last time she did it I got really upset and out of blind anger and anxiety i said "dude fuck you dont joke around like that!" and she got extremely upset that I said fuck you. She told me she'd never say that to me unless it was a joke. When in reality a month ago we got drunk for her 21st birthday and she was like really really drunk. She started saying shit like "I cant trust you, my friends think you're not who I think you are," so I decided it was time to take her home. On the way back she got mad cause she didnt want to go home and she's like "fuck you," "i hope i never talk to you again" "i hope you die," and shit like that. She said fuck you so many times. like wtf

>>23644909
Oh, there is this based one I read
https://nhentai.net/g/344166/

>>23644918
see this >>23644913

>>23644920
I'm sure some other girl would dig it, but I really don't like it at all. Sorry anon.

>>23644832
M
>strongly political in either left or right
>anti-mask and anti-vax (not just COVID but for all vax)
>racist
>opposite end of racist by finding literally anything racist and being a righteous retard

As someone else pointed out, it's basically easier to just date literally anyone that isn't a college student.

>>23644922
She sound psychotic and abusive, Being mean and hypocritical is not a good personality trait.

>>23644923
Awesome, I'll be reading that properly tonight...
but uh yeah are we fucked in the head

Girls have you picked up enough Japanese from your animes that you can at least get the gist of what they're saying without needing to read the subtitles?

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>>23644914

>>23644920
My Chad cousin looks like this and his gf is an Instagram model, fwiw

>>23644832
Female
>guys with bodycount 10+
>guys that can't cook
>thinks he's an 'alpha male'
>wouldn't think I'm autistic even if I say I'm not
>can't take most things with a grain of salt
>tells me what I can/can't do instead of being suggestive
>doesn't defend me
>isn't open to learning new things

>>23644898
Yep this might just be the year I throw in the towel

>>23644939
>wouldn't think I'm autistic even if I say I'm not
If this has been a recurring thing for you, it's possible that you really are autistic.

Girls why do you tell super specific details about our sex lives to your friends? I hate the idea of meeting your best friends for the first time and they know the precise dimensions of my dick.

>>23644942
Don't kms anon, at least stay here with us

>>23644939
You know men just see you as a fleshlight right?

>>23644944
nta but she could just be slightly socially awkward/shy/inexperienced which some ubernormie types assume is autism

girls stink!

>>23644946
No. My routine is:
>sex is awesome, he's great in bed, best I've ever had, we fuck like rabbits

>>23644950
Normies know the difference between awkward and autistic, infact they usually confuse autism for being just awkward. So to come off as a genuine autist these days takes being pretty damn autistic.

>>23644913
>>23644926
Her going out with several male friends or with only one? I have guy friends (am female) but since I got a boyfriend I don't feel comfortable hanging out with any of them one-on-one, even though nothing would ever happen anyway. I just feel like I'd feel weird about my boyfriend going out with a female friend alone, so I should lead by example.
Does she ask you to hang out with the same friends, or is okay with you coming along? Are they childhood friends?

Either way it seems unlikely she's cheating if she's open to who she goes out with and is very loving and seems to have a normal relationship with these people.

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>women over 25

>>23644914
>>23644934
>barnacles down below
>dating a whale
top kek

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>>23644960
>men under 30

>>23644960
>>23644964
Based

>>23644832
Female.
If they are so emotionally dependent on you that they make threats or generally overstep your boundaries.
Also if they constantly criticise your appearance and things you can't really change or just plainly insult you all the time.
Biggest one is if they try to cut you off from friends and family.
>>23644849
Yes. Most women won't care. There are some who think that men should even shave their legs and such, but as far as I know, those kind of people are outliers.
>>23644880
>she goes out of her way to include me in her family's activity
No need to worry anon, if she cheated she'd definitely have a fall out with her family. She wouldn't be doing this.
>>23644907
Guy A because I'm not into that.
>>23644933
Yes.

>>23644915
The long hair is a bit weird, can be funny depending on the woman, but if you're worried about it just rip it out. Will sting just a little. The rest is fine though, looks good.

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>>23644964
You weren't supposed to make a comeback

>>23644277
more opinions, please? I am too anxious to do this

>>23644832
Can't do simple multiplication, division, and percentages in her head.

>>23644946
I don’t give details

>>23644978
Define simple.

>>23644956
>t. normie

>>23644960
...are the best to date <3

>>23644978
it's hard

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straight guys with experience dealing with this kind of nonsense: I know this sounds weird, it's not like I'm gay or anything, but how am I supposed to get over my lockdown online friend of over 6 months, who I just recently realized has had contradicted feelings towards me, and released herself by hurting me repeatedly, and since I now have stopped taking her inflammatory baiting personally, won't talk to me at all? I feel utterly obsessed about her, since we've been the only company we've had for each other (or so I've thought) ever since social distancing began, but now I am realizing she might have just pretended to act friendly in order to make fun of me behind my back, I swear I have no history of paranoid disorder, I have heard from some of her friends that she has a hobby of leading on people online (she already confessed to me, even proposed to move in with me, since I live alone) and getting off the idea of "cucking" them by dropping them for someone else, because of her unhealthy masturbation habits and pornographic addiction, she even just to get my momentarily attention of asking her to come back, it's always dramatic this way and even I cannot figure what's wrong with her and how to deal with this

I really need to stop with spamming my confused walls of text now

>>23644946
Understandable.
I get it when they're being vague and want to check with others if their experience was normal, my best friend was worried about some blood down there during the act. But she never said anything about her bfs overall performance or dick size.
I also know another girl who made fun of her bf for coming within seconds. That stuff is super uncalled for, I don't know why people are like this. Hope you'll be more lucky and get together with someone decent.

>>23644927
Ah that sucks. Could you post a pic of what would be ideal for you or the biggest that you would be comfortable dating?
>>23644938
That makes me feel a little better I guess, thanks

>>23644996
>>23644981
If you can't come up with so much as a close guess within 3 seconds when someone throws a slightly abstract percentage you then you're dumb.

>>23644944
I know. There are times I'm adamant that I'm not, then I wonder because of my refusal, then I accept being shy/awkward/quiet whatever, and the cycle repeats, so I just go with whatever now. I don't care...not anymore

>>23645004
Oh, okay, that I can do. I guess I shouldn't base my feelings on my math skills on my boyfriend's.

>>23644931
Thats what everyone says but its hard for me to walk away. She's good at pulling me back in

>>23644977
I think you're over thinking. Sending your girl flowers is a pretty nice gesture and thats all it has to be. Anything past that isnt your problem.

>>23644998
Id honestly just separate yourself, man..

>>23644949
>men just see you as a fleshlight
Imagine being this transparent about what a piece of shit you are. Order an actual fleshlight online and practise self containment.
I hope women will stay far away from you.

>>23644920
You could always pack on a bit more fat instead of losing muscle, if you wanted to go that way. Plenty of women love bearmode guys, but from what I've scene the chiseled bodybuilder aesthetic doesn't tend to be very popular among them.
A visible Adonis belt requires pretty low BF% for example, doesn't it?

>>23645011
Then why are you asking for advice

>>23645011
I'm not personally into her, but how am I supposed to make sure whether her feelings are real or she's just been making fun of me all this time? she told me she wasn't into girls either, but that she related to me so strongly she would rather give up her sexual urges for me (doubtful), social distancing really is messing with everyone

>>23645019
Cause I cant decide wether or not this is something to end the relationship over and having more outside opinions on the situation helps

>>23645001
>thanks
No worries man, seriously plenty of girls are into the hunt type so you're good

>>23645021
also she keeps pretending to leave then come back pleading for forgiveness, it just keeps happening everytime I avoid replying to her baits for more than a few days
it's just so tiresome

>>23645001
I can't think of any celebrity that has a body I like.
In general I like just like guys with more average bodies, a little bit of muscle but also a fair bit of bf. Bodies that look more "functional" than aesthetic if it makes any sense.

Also just skinny average dudes because the guys I liked as a teen looked like that. Matthew Grey Gubler was my teen crush.

>>23645023
Yes, end it you freak. This is not healthy

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How can one be less of a prude (inb4 "have sex")?

I'd like to think I'm pretty open and liberal, and make dirty jokes for a laugh... but often when people actually seriously flirt, talk about sexual topics earnestly, or do physical slutty things irl, it rubs me the wrong way (no pun intended) and turns me off a bit. Like even just people referring to sex as "fucking" makes me feel a bit gross. I still often find kissing scenes in films ew and look away if it goes on too long.

How can I be less of a melt? Is this autism™ or just lack of experience and being a wuss? (Also inb4 molested, I wasn't, not to my knowledge)

>>23644958
She sometimes goes out one on one sometimes with 2 or more male friends.
She does not ask me to hang out with them I don't know them, never asked to come along it would be weird
>are they childhood friends
some yes some no, more like friends from 2 years ago or whatever. It's not some new friends she just met.

But it did happen that she went to hang out with a guy friend she hasn't seen in ages to catch up on things so that can count as a new guy

I told my best friend how my gf keeps her pubes (she doesn't have any). How angry will she be if she ever finds out? I don't think she would, my friend is socially capable and would know that wasn't something he should admit to knowing about her, but you never know because hes a bit of a cheeky cunt so there's always the possibility that one day he forgets himself and makes some innuendo joke about the state of her lack of pubes to her face.

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>>23644968
>No need to worry anon, if she cheated she'd definitely have a fall out with her family. She wouldn't be doing this.
That is my train of thought as well and a way I comfort myself.

Yet I have no idea what kind of person her parents are, maybe it wouldn't be hard for her to just lie about something to them. How would I even let them know she cheated?

>>23644920
You look a bit thin around the waist imo, and not because of a lack of muscles, but like the other anon said, you easily pass as instagram model.
I'd date, although I think you're out of my league, I can't compete at all.

>>23645045
So you never met them, but you've met other friends and family?

You can just casually ask her about them and how you'd like to meet them. Again, I don't think she's doing any bad behaviour but there shouldn't be any problem with you getting to know them too.

>>23645046
Depends on your girlfriend. I'd probably make a joke at your expense or his, depending on what you've let me know about him. And be mildly upset at you.

Do girls pee in the pool, or is that just a guy thing?

>>23645071
Just a guy thing

>>23645071
>guy thing
I'm a guy and did not know this was a thing
Dafuq

>>23645071
That's just a you thing.

>>23645030
guess I'll make a thread since guys only seem to care about jokes itt

>>23645051
I am indeed literally seething, can confirm. How dare youuu

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When you agree to social plans with people because you'd feel bad declining, do you tend to just force yourself to follow through, or do you ever flake out/cancel?
Do you usually end up enjoying the things in the end, or still wishing you hadn't agreed to it?

>>23645071
My little cousin peed in the pool, she's 6.
It's a certain kind of people thing.

>>23644998
She sounds rather toxic and you don't sound healthy for each other; I would try to part ways, if you can, it'll be rough at first but hopefully you'll ultimately feel better for it

>>23645017
I was extremely skinny before I started lifting and had zero appetite, and I've always struggled to gain weight. I've tried to go bearmode before but the amount of force-feeding was unbearable and I gave up. I think I'll take your advice and try to go for a little more fluffy/healthier look that will hopefully appeal to more women and won't be too difficult to maintain, thanks.

>>23645063
It's not just certain 1-2 friends anon.

She's 22.
There's a best friend, who she says, without me asking, I'll most definitely have to meet someday
There's a childhood friend she hasn't seen in ages that she hung out with recently to catch up
There's guy from her high school friend ground (there are girls too but sometimes she goes out only with the guys from there when girls can't)
There's 3 different friend circles she met through video games
There's a friend circle she met through board games
Just 2 nights ago one guy she used to play overwatch with invited her to hang out, since it was cold they went to another friends house (mutual friend with whom they played video games)

You see the problem? It's getting hard to remember all the Johns, Daniels, Jacks and Ryans.

But I take it me knowing about all of these means I don't have to worry about them right? She was never pressed to tell me about them and could've easily lied if she planned to cheat, right?

>>23645098
I'm not feeling any better a whole month on, I've never had a friend lasting this long before

>>23645107
Shit man, I'm sorry, all I can say is give it more time and try to focus on other things and maybe new friendships

>>23645094
I usually just cancel and come up with some excuse. If I declined because of a major depressive mood mixed with self-esteem issues, I'll be too tired and self-conscious to enjoy myself. If it's because of a less tiring depressive mood or having been in a rut and if I got the time to shower first I often do find myself enjoying things in the end though.

>>23645111
I don't care about new friends if I can't even figure this out, I want to know what has gone wrong, not blindly trust someone else again

>>23645077
kek
my lad, you have been duped. all your life your holes have been penetrated by other guys' fluids. you may as well come out

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>>23645144
I wish I'd never learned this

>>23645141
She sounds overdramatic and possibly manipulative, as long as you're trying to consider things logically, I don't think you were at fault here

>>23645033
>Bodies that look more "functional" than aesthetic if it makes any sense.
Yeah I get what you mean, muscle that looks like it was built from manual labour rather than the gym. And yeah he is pretty handsome, thanks for the input!
>>23645060
>you easily pass as instagram model.
I'd date, although I think you're out of my league, I can't compete at all.
Thanks that means a lot, that's probably the best compliment I've received in my life ever. I dont think anyone has ever told me that they would date me, much less that they think I'm out of their league. If it makes you feel better I'm not into girls who look like they work out, and I prefer girls who look average or chubby, so we're probably in the same league.

>>23645094
I’ll cancel on my friends if I’m not in the mood, it never family. I usually love hanging out with no matter what mood I’m int or what the activity is.

>>23645094
If you'd be declining because of anything that even comes close to rhyming with "depression", go anyway. One of the best ways to deal with depression is to stop saying no and start saying yes. If you'd be declining because of some other reason... eh, I mean if they're all going snowboarding and you hate snowboarding with a passion, no need to force yourself, but honestly it can be nice to see people even if you don't enjoy the activity. If you'd be declining because you don't like the people but you can't force yourself to say no, either grow a pair or learn to like them.

>>23645101
You're probably fine. None of those seem all that worrying. She's probably just social.

There is a point where it can start to be worrying, even if she does tell you about them, if she's the kind of girl to treat guy friends like she does girl friends. But those examples seem like she has reasonable boundaries, which would make sense if she has a lot of guy friends.

>>23645168
but why would she feel the need to act this way with me? I like her very much as a friend already, she doesn't need to bait me all the time, it's like she was expecting something more I can't even imagine

>>23645178
Thanks for the reply, yeah sums up my thoughts pretty well on it too. It's usually depression/shit mood related for me, so I usually force myself to attend anyways. Thanks anon

>>23645179
Sounds more like instability or uncertainty on her part

>>23645161
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cWLwoxqDrfo

>>23645107
>I've never had a friend lasting this long before
>6 months
I'm so sorry anon, I can't even imagine how painful this whole thing must be. Is there any way for you to make friends via hobbies? Even if its just joining very small discord groups for online gaming or sth. This stuff is hard enough, even without the lockdown, which puts you in a very vulnerable position. Definitely drop that woman like a hot potato, you don't want to end up with trust issues after getting exploited for her fucked up fantasies.
If you feel that she's honing in on you, it's because she knows you don't have any friends who got your back.
Put yourself out there and try to meet new people, getting friends isn't impossible for anyone, even if you've lived your whole life without any at all.

>>23645178
>There is a point where it can start to be worrying, even if she does tell you about them, if she's the kind of girl to treat guy friends like she does girl friends.

What exactly?
I think she has more guy than girl friends

>>23645205
what's honing in?
>Put yourself out there and try to meet new people
this is what I've been meaning to learn with her, but I've had uncountable failures this way, she even got jealous of any friend I managed to make, often leaving me with the ultimatum of leaving them

>>23645199
Holy shit what a classic

>>23645205
nta but is it that bad to not have friendships last longer than a few months?

Good morning, friends. I have a question for you.
Is it seen as a negative to feel compelled to do good things? I'm starting to get annoyed, because I feel like I always get looks or made fun of when I do and it's a lose/lose scenario.
For an example,
>walking down main street, see some broken glass on the sidewalk
>it's just hitting noon and I know there's a chance someone could hurt themselves
>I want to ignore it but part of me is screaming that I shouldn't leave it, decide to pick it up
>feel the people around staring at me, feel really awkward
>friend I was with keeps poking fun at me
There's a part of me that won't shut up whenever I see something easy I could do to help someone/something, and I always feel really shitty if I don't. I always feel really awkward when I do it, even when I'm alone. If there's other people around I feel like they're judging me. I'm not sure if it's just in my head or not, but one of my friends said it's pretty weird do that kind of stuff.

>>23645226
>what's honing in?
Oh sorry, I meant it as "exploiting your vulnerability", I might've worded that wrong.
>she even got jealous of any friend I managed to make, often leaving me with the ultimatum of leaving them
As numerous people here have stated, if someone is trying to cut you off from your friends, it's a major red flag. Even if she justifies it with major trust issues, if she limits your social life to just herself, she is being manipulative and already abusive.
>any friend I managed to make
If you manage to make friends, you'll definitely manage to make a better girlfriend too. She's setting the bar very low. Don't sell yourself short anon, you deserve better.

>>23645036
I mean, some people just aren’t really interested in sexual topics and there’s really nothing wrong with that. Everyone is different, ya know?

However if you really want to step outside that comfort zone just take little steps. If you haven’t had a lot of experience with sexual behaviors maybe expose yourself a little bit. Research and learn about sexual culture online. Maybe even try watching some more of those dirty scenes / even porn?

If this is something you want to do because you feel like there’s something wrong with you or you’re not normal — not out of genuine interest and desire—- don’t even bother. There’s nothing wrong with not being a sexual person. Some people just really aren’t into it and that’s okay. You are who you are.

>>23644939
how is not being able to cook a red flag? Can you not cook and need someone to cook for you?
>>23645077
if you have been to a public pool it is guranteed you have swam in piss
>>23645094
I am good with saying no but sometimes i just flake

>>23645263
>you'll definitely manage to make a better girlfriend
I'm not looking for a girlfriend, I mentioned how we both still felt straight, since our relation was not explicitly sexual

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>>23645248
>Is it seen as a negative to feel compelled to do good things?
No, not at all, it means you're more selfless and have a moral code, that's a positive
As long as it isn't distressing you or getting in the way of your own life and wellbeing etc., or coming from a place of guilt, I say it's good

>>23645239
I'm not sure, all of my really close friendships last many years, so I might be a bit off as I can only talk about my personal experiences. But if I imagined all of my friendships being this short, I would be a less happier person than I am. I find long friendships to be as fulfilling as romantic relationships though, so maybe I'm the weird one... Then again, I've only dated people I've been friends with for years, so I might be conflating the two? I really don't know. Why wouldn't you want good friendships to last decades?
Is there a standard to how long friendships usually last?

>>23645248
Let me guess you're the type of person to preach about recycling?

>>23645266
Thanks anon; yeah I think part of it just not being a very sexual person, at least in the abstract (like if I start to get close to someone I'm dating I get more feelings but in the abstract I don't think about it much or am that interested)... but part of it is a comfort zone thing I think, maybe from unfamiliarity?

I could do a bit more research and expose myself more online, sometimes I shy away from certain topics. I've seen porn and stuff and it was whatever but maybe I'll check out more things (just nothing too wack...)

Anyway thanks for the advice and also reassurance I'm not necessarily broken or something. I think I've had just some very sexually open/dirty minded friends which gets me second guessing sometimes.

>>23645323
Consider the average poster on /adv/. Does it really surprise you?

Ladies, would you date a guy rocking a soul patch or a goat patch beard?

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>>23645323
this used to happen to me, too. it turned out to be a minor form of OCD. you think if you dont pick up the glass, someone will die, and its your fault for not picking it up. you dont want that on your overactive conscience anyway

Girls, a fellow coworker keeps touching me and pinching my nipples.
Does that mean she's into me?

>>23645303
Nta, but yes.

>>23645323
This site/threads are full of neurotic people, possibly milder but I do the same as that other anon. Since I was a child I used to get irrational thoughts like "if you don't clean up this x thing now something terrible could happen and your cat could die and it'd be karma and your fault", thought I'd also get it with positive things like "if you do this thing x times thus person might be more likely to agree to y".

Turns out my sis has a mild form of OCD so maybe it's related, I dunno. I would encourage that anon to see a psych if it's actually affecting his life beyond litter picking though.

Are you an anti-vaxxer?

Women, how to reignite sparks with the wife?

My own advice has been to not mention sex, literally pretend it’s not something that exists even if it is burning you inside, until it fixes itself. Is there any step I’m missing here, does it really fix itself? Will that make wife horny and eager to love again?

>>23645355
No, my stepmom is though

>>23645357
Not a woman nor married, but I don't think ignoring the issue is perhaps the best approach, I think it's something you should proactively discuss and try to tackle...

>>23645355
in general, no for the covid vaccine maybe. I am going to be forced to take it though so I have to grin and bear it.

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>>23645271
>if you have been to a public pool it is guranteed you have swam in piss
I used to daily for a swim team
All this time, all that piss, innocence = shattered

>>23645357
To overly simplify it - a good sex life is the product of healthy, happy people in a happy, healthy relationship.
Have the conversation with your wife. No "you don't put out", but "I feel like we're letting each other go a bit and our relationship is changing, what can we do to keep ourselves on track?".
Then, fix it. Romance the shit out of her. Make sure you're keeping each other happy.

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>>23645361
Discussing “babe y u no honry??” only exasperates things.

> Not a woman nor married
Oh sweet pea.....

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>>23645369
you know how people say they know what cholrine smells like? Or they bring up that the pool smells like cholrine? SOMEBODY PISSED IN IT THATS PISS CHOLRINE DOESN'T HAVE A SCENT AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

>>23644908
M. Facts. Fren and myself are surrounded by a super negative workplace like this and being supportive and positive makes us total outcasts lmao. Do not date negativity psychos lol

>>23645372
>what can we do to keep ourselves on track?".
What can we do? The issue is clear, the problem is feels. Can’t force feels.

> Then, fix it. Romance the shit out of her.
She might find that desperate. Which is what the whole issue seems to be... even though desperate is the wrong word for it.

>>23645331
Almost no one looks good with that, I rather have a bf with full beard

>>23645386
She needs to be on board as well. That's how you get out of slumps. You communicate about it, tell each other "oh shit", fix the issues and then put extra effort until it passes.

>>23645377
Chlorine does have a scent. I can detect it and too much of it even causes a reaction in me, it might be described as “odourless” to the layman but trust me that stuff is noxious

>>23645375
Yeah, I see what you're coming from haha; guess I more meant, no one's to blame or be accused, more just discuss how you both feel about the situation, if you'd like to rekindle things again, possible things you could try etc. I've heard people recommend relationship counsellors here too before, that might be a bit extreme, but they've probably dealt with the similar issues many times. I've heard about dead bedroom type situations being fixed back to normal again so hope you can!

>Oh sweet pea.....
Lol. Yeah my romantic experience is still limited to getting ice cream with a woman, didn't kiss properly yet ;_;

>>23645395
pee pee

>>23645383
Keep being positive, makes me happy to know there are more of us

Why do lesbians exist?

>>23645406
Why do you exist?

>>23645406
Because you have failed as a man.

>>23645389
I’m not sure if attraction is something you can “work through together”, is it?
It’s not fair since I would still find her hot if she was a hamplanet and yet I’m seen in a varying light depending on how desperate to coom I am.
I’m sure she would go along and fake it for the kids if we were to work on it as a team. I don’t want that. I want her to be horny again.

>>23645248
>waaa I'm a good person give me attention
Fuck off.

>>23645407
Found the lesbian.

>>23645248
Honestly, I've seen your kind around.
I saw a guy stack up baskets at a mall differently so they'd be easier to reach for others and he didn't even work there, just disappeared into the night like an unknown hero.
Call me a female simp or whatever, but I was head over heels for that guy, just for this.
Try not to be so self-conscious and own it if you can. I'd be very sad to not see this more normalised.
Just remember that there're people like me out there who'd simp for you.

>>23645357
you should first work on your problems
sit down together, talk things over. at some point both of you have stopped working on your marriage and let unsaid things pile up but those things don't go away if you ignore them.
both of you need to start clearly communicating your thoughts and feelings about one another to one another. both of you need to have a clear understanding of your expectations of one another and of your marriage

you do you think happened, anon? how did you get to this stage? how did you both contribute to your marriage becoming what's become now? what do you fight about? do you talk things over after you fight? maybe you'd like to make an agreement that whenever any of you gets annoyed / angry at the other, they should tell them straight away, instead of bottling things up and being angry at them without them knowing

>>23645414
I'm a straight man, but okay.

>>23645377
Lol that would be gross, I think the smell tho is due to untreated chloramines built up in the water, some of which are formed from the reaction between hypochlorous acid (used as disinfectant) reacting with ammonia. So I guess the smell is catalysed by waste products like piss and sweating but the smell is a byproduct of the disinfectant and chlorine ionisation. Is funny tho when people blame too much chlorine for burning their eyes etc., surely it'd be the reverse...

>>23645219
So, at least stereotypically anyway, females who are friends with each other will generally confide in each other a lot more and share emotions a lot more than males who are friends with each other. This is all fine, in isolation- but when a male and a female are friends, if they don't use the male paradigm... the whole confiding in/sharing emotions/all that jazz is a major component of what makes people fall in love. Not the only component, but a major component. So it's not uncommon to develop "emotional infidelity", which sometimes does lead into full infidelity but sometimes just undermines the relationship. So it's something to be watchful of.

In my case, my ex was perfectly honest with me about her friendship with this guy... but there were a lot of red flags. She would tell him things she wouldn't tell other people, she really didn't want me to disapprove of her friendship with him, did things with him that she wouldn't even do with me, etc. In hindsight, she was attracted to him and doing absolutely nothing to try to cut that off. And I, not knowing about this, didn't feel like I could say anything because one of the big no-nos that I was always taught is that you're not supposed to interfere with your partner's friendships, and there _strictly speaking_ wasn't anything I couldn't put past friendship- just a heck of a lot of mental red flags that I couldn't articulate why I was concerned.

In the end, I'm pretty sure he was the one to convince her to break up with me.

In your case, though, these seem like fairly normal interactions so far, so you're probably safe.

>>23645271
Not her, but cooking is a basic life skill.

>>23645398
>more just discuss how you both feel about the situation, if you'd like to rekindle things again, possible things you could try etc.
This seems like it would dry up her cooch almost instantaneously.
Same thing with a counsellor.

>>23645416
*what do you think happened

>>23645412
Why do you think this is about attraction per se?
I think my husband is the most attractive guy on earth. I lost my sex drive because I was stressed about work, because I felt unattractive after childbirth, because my husband wasn't paying enough attention to me and I felt unloved.

Female sex drive and male sex drive are different. This is why I'm telling you to try to understand why she's not as into it anymore, and if there are things you can do to fix it.

>>23645335
She's sexually harrassing you.
If you don't like it, tell her off and if she doesn't stop, file a complaint.
If you like it and are into her, ask her out, she's probably into you.

Why would someone fight with you and then immediately apologise after?

>>23645377
Chlorine have a scent

Should I date a fashion model? I'm a straight male btw

>>23645441
Sure why not

>>23645427
Yeah, that's one issue... idk what else to suggest other than trying to win and seduce her again, gl

>>23645406
To make my peepers hard

>>23645429
>because my husband wasn't paying enough attention to me and I felt unloved.
Does coming on to you qualify, or is that a no?

>>23645446
It's a dumb job.

>>23645455
I'm a fan, but I also want cuddles, flowers, being taken out on dates and silly dancing in the kitchen.

>>23645457
What do you do wagecuck?

>>23645441
Sure, why not? Models are just people, it's just a job at the end of the day; you can't really generalise as people get into the industry via all kinds of avenues and motivations (an interest in fashion, the allure of "easy" money, etc.)

Do you know what kind of work she does, e.g. catalog or commercial stuff? I suppose there are things to consider; does she have to travel, or work irregular hours/weekends? Don't just date them for their looks or to have arm candy (they're probably tired to death of people simping purely over their looks).

The only potential issue with *some* model types is they can be a little overly self-conscious or vain (or conversely have self image issues), high maintenance, and not have as fun a personality because, well, they didn't necessarily need to develop one. But of course, these are sweeping generalisations, depends on the individual. Go get the gyal

>>23645457
Nta, but even though it's a dumb job, they can make good money and have enough spare time to do not dumb shit
For example: destiny is a fucking twitch streamer but i don't think even people who disagree with him would in good conscience describe him as dumb

women, thoughts on destiny, a dumb twitch streamer?

>>23645470
Kek, nah this was my first reply >>23645294 the doing nice things part is dope. The doing things out of an unshakeable compulsion however is the potentially worrisome part

>>23645460
>I'm a fan*

*When in the mood!

> I also want cuddles, flowers, being taken out on dates and silly dancing in the kitchen.

I think that’s the plan, keep doing this while pretending like my dick is in another dimension. Ffs it’s like trying to get a bird to land on your hand.

Women, what to do when my dick is too bomb and you end up losing control of your limbs from cumming too hard? I want you to ride me like your ass is on fire.

Do you secretly enjoy being objectified?

>>23645438
If you're letting emotions like rage decide your actions, it's easy to say things you don't really mean or never meant to say.
Then you feel guilty and worried you hurt the other person or that they think less of you, and you apologise to reconcile.
If I get in a fight, I make sure to apologise for anything I was wrong about because arguments shouldn't be about winning or losing but coming to the best conclusion for all parties.
If you're dealing with someone who picks fights with you all the time, especially one sided ones, and later apologises but without actually improving themselves, they probably have some issues.
If it's someone picking a fight with you but immediately apologising before you can say much, they're probably angry with you but afraid of you being angry at them or perhaps just insecure in one way or another.
At least that's my guess, without knowing the specific situation.

>>23645071
My ex-gf pees in the shower, dunno about pools though

Is it appropriate to ask your bf for money? How do I ask him for money? I need to buy something so bad

>>23645309
Yeah some people are just way more sexual than others. Doesn’t mean you’re wrong or broken.

I’m a 25m and I’m pretty much the same way. I’m only really sexual if I’m close to somebody. Otherwise I’m kinda quiet about it. Just who I am.

>>23645486
Nice. Hope you got her to pee on you.

>>23645469
There's a strong correlation between physical attractiveness and intelligence (arguably not "fair" but that's life); most models aren't idiots, they just somewhat sell their souls to the corporate machine for more general freedom as you say.

>>23645476
Basically never mention cooming and wait for her to get in the mood.
Bringing it up is the problem?

>>23645487
No, not appropriate. I've asked my boyfriend to contribute financially to plane tickets to go see him, but that's it.

>>23645478
That's the price of being good in bed. Nothing is free faggot.

>>23645457
It's not exactly as mentally stimulating or vital as an open heart surgeon, but I don't think it's as mindless or easy as you think either. Still, be honest, if you were offered a sweet contact deal so could quit your job to e.g. work half the hours for double the pay, you wouldn't even consider it?

>>23645487
Yeah it is
>desire to provide more intensifies

>>23645494
Im so poor but I want this one anime merch and its for like 90 bucks...... fbdhsg

>>23645487
I think it depends on the importance of the item, if he can afford it and is happy to buy stuff for you, etc. But generally, it's not really a great precedent. I guess you also have to think how you'll feel afterwards

>>23645487
no

Had sex with a friend. He's cool and we agreed months ago we wouldn't have anything more than friendship. And since then we haven't really been hanging out, only texting. We work together (we rarely see each other there) and that was a deal breaker to him. Since a death in my family, I reached out to him and asked for a friend. Someone to pass the time with so I don't go down a darkhole. Well now I had sex with him last night after we were hanging all day. Beforehand we agreed we wouldn't make the sex become a issue later on down the road. I reassured him I wouldn't be some type of way. And I'm not! But geez kinda sucks you find someone and have so so much in common yet it goes no further. I got my rocks off, that's nice.

>>23645488
Thanks dude, yeah seems to vary quite dramatically across a spectrum heh, though also how it comes out (no pun intended) in different people I guess. Like I've had friends that'll simp and joke about sexual fantasies about people they barely know and I can't relate to that. Different strokes ;P for different folks...

>>23645489
Dude that's gross. When I took showers with her she would pee and be like "haha anon I'm peeing in the shower and you can't do anything about it !" and then laugh like an idiot

I have an idea for how I would commit suicide and I thought about it all day yesterday. I'm so sick of this world and my suicide plan gives me comfort. It would make my parents sad, and that's what's stopping me from considering it more strongly, but I'm so miserable. And the tiny things I can look forward to are losing their luster. I don't care as much anymore. My life gets worse every single day. What's keeping you people going? I don't understand.

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>>23645511
Cool blogpost, what was the point of this story? Play stupid games, win stupid prizes?

(Nah but jokes aside, I hope the intimacy was nice and you feel a little better)

>>23645520
Alan Wake 2

>>23645527
I don't care about video games that much anymore. These days I'm still angry even when I'm playing them.

>>23645520
Girls being cute

>>23645520
>whats keeping you alive?
Because suicide is for pussies. Id rather stay alive and ride the tide however it gets and become stronger as a human being than die like a coward.

>>23645467
>Do you know what kind of work she does, e.g. catalog or commercial stuff?
I don't know. Different stuff? She had a gig with an artsy photographer recently, and I don't think the photos were displayed anywhere. She also works for magazines.
>>23645463
I'm a student
>>23645490
She's definitely not stupid. She's cool, smart and funny, but my issue is with the vanity and the fact she has to maintain a strong social media presence constantly(I don't like social media).

>>23645537
Sucks for you, meanwhile I've rediscovered them and rejuvenated my passion for 'em.

>>23645538
It’s why we’re here.

>>23645538
I haven't spoken to a girl in a year.

>>23645539
I just see very little hope that things will get better.

>>23645520
Anon ): *hugs* this hits a little too close to home to be honest (though thankfully not suicidal at the moment, but I've been there). Have you got people you can talk to about things, even just online friends? Are you taking care of yourself? Is there anything in particular bothering you or you feel shitty about? Finally have you been able to see a professional for any help?

I try to hold onto whatever I can to keep me going, even if it seem stupid or insignificant. I try to step back, take a breather and frame things in the most positive, optimistic way possible (I know that's not always doable when you're really low though), and hold onto hope that I may feel better in the future, unexpected cool things could happen, I may be able to help more people even incidentally, etc. And then in the moment, just little things like a nice walk, or good coffee, or kino anime movie, I try to always have something to look forward to.

Thanks for posting here anon, hope you have an okay (hopefully even nice!) day x

Why are men so scared of confrontation?

>>23645490
>hey just somewhat sell their souls to the corporate machine
so how are they different from most other people who work 9 to 5 jobs? or do you also not approve of those jobs?

How do I know if I'm gay?

>>23645491
>>23645491
>>23645491

Married anons w/ kids can you confirm?

>>23645416
Everything is fine except I need to coom —er, I mean love life in need of rekindling.

>>23645471
I don’t use twitch, sounds like you got some issues though.

>>23645556
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wMa_t5cBgY

>>23645520
Goals. But like, short term. I am saving up for a cool new piece of equipment right now. Take me a year at most. That's what I am living for. That's why I go to work. Once I've got that, I'll have to find some other reason to live, or my quality of life will sink.

>>23645565
Yeah buddy keep 'em comin

>>23645562
Why are you scared of heights, no I’m scared of falling. This is you

Girls: if you had to pick one, would you rather be really good at cowgirl and bad at oral, or the other way around?

>>23645555
>Have you got people you can talk to about things, even just online friends?
No. The few people in my life don't want to hear it.
>Are you taking care of yourself?
No
>Is there anything in particular bothering you or you feel shitty about?
Yes. I was born a slave and I'll die a slave. I have no control over my own life. My freedom can be stolen from me at whim and everyone around me will celebrate.
>Finally have you been able to see a professional for any help?
No. They couldn't change the actual problem. Just convince me not to care as much. I'm really just having an awful time. I used to be kind of up and down, but it's been more down lately. Thanks for being nice though. I just didn't know it was possible to be this angry and this sad for this long.

>>23645556
What kind of confrontation are you talking about?

Men. why are you the way you are ?

>>23645551
I haven't spoken to a girl in 10 years. What's your point? They're still cute.

>>23645573
Like if they have a problem or issue they either don't confront or leave it alone?

>>23645576
Testosterone

>>23645543
>magazines
>artsy photographer
Ah right, cool, so presumably she doesn't have to travel much and the schedule isn't too hectic. Is she also a student, or doing it full-time? Does she come across as vain to you, or is that just more how you feel about the modelling work? The social media presence thing sucks, but try to think of it as just business as a means to an end. Does she freelance, or have an agent? (Maybe she won't need to rely on the self-promo so much once she becomes more "established" with more regular contacts)

It doesn't seem to me like there are any significant downsides; if you like each other, and you think she could make enough time for you, and dating could be fun, why not give it a shot? (Going into spring she might have a temporary spike in work)

>>23645570
Really good at cowgirl. I get the best orgasms from cowgirl, if he's super into it then he'll let me do it all the time.

I like sucking dick but heh, it's more for him than for me.

>>23645576
BECAUSE OF THE PROVERBIAL D

>>23645567
As you request
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v5NeyI4-fdI

Men

Do you get insecure over a breakup or a girl ghosting you, but then you internalize it then try to feel superior when you try to hurt her?

>>23645576
Because I desperately want sex to be something special. I can't cope with the fact that it's something people just do together like play sports or games, and that a relationship is nothing more special than say a mutual acquaintance you might get at work.

>>23645586
Another please

>>23645590
no

>>23645576
I probably have some sort of personality disorder.
I fear I'm completely incapable of connecting with other people at all.

>>23645559
You could argue that, I think pretty much any job in this day and age requires selling your soul somewhat. Modelling is just more marketing-focused and arguably objectifying, you're effectively being a poster boy/girl for products. Not that there's anything objectively wrong with it, and if you enjoy it and make a comfortable living, good for you.

>>23645590
>when you try to hurt her?
All the media says is “hurt girls, mass shooting, racism, kkk”
I just wanna coom for God’s sake

>>23645594
Little more upbeat
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LdpMpfp-J_I

What kind of girls play videogames?

>>23645570
Where and how would I be in a situation where I need to make that choice ?

>>23645592
It's not like that. There are other people who have to cope with the same thing. I personally thought I would marry and not have more than 3 relationships in my lifetime, but people are awful.

>>23645576
Idk combination of genetics, upbringing, environmental factors and spending too much time on sites like this

>>23645590
>or a girl ghosting you
I've gotten insecure/upset over this and overworried about what I possibly did wrong or any shortcomings, but pretty quickly get over it. I've never tried to contact someone again after being properly ghosted. I think no hard feelings, they had their reasons.

>>23645556
Are you talking about specific men? I didn't think there was much gender disparity regarding this.
I'm a woman who is very scared of confrontation and will indulge in escapist fantasy to get away from it all. I do have avpd tho...

>>23645605
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_xFc86tzFG4

Shut up I hate you

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How should I act around my boyfriend's friends?
Recently there have been a lot of cases in which I'm left alone with one of them for like 5-10 minutes and it's pretty awkward because I'm scared to be "too" friendly to get to know them. I don't want them to become my friends necessarily, but it'd be nice to avoid the awkwardness while still being respectful to myself and my bf. I'm not particularly conservative, but it never feels 'innocent' when I try to be friendly to and get to know another guy while in a relationship, even if it's my bf's friend.

>>23645574
Okay so you reply to posts like a retarded toddler, got it.

>>23645606
Depends on the game I guess; maybe geeky girls, competitive girls, social girls (if it's a social game), trend follower girls, tomboy girls, girls with bfs who introduce them to some game, you get the idea...

My friend is a hardcore gamer, she's autistic tho.

>>23645615
Thread theme
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5aPjEuDPTlI

>>23645606
All kinds

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>>23645623

>>23645579
Like with themselves? Maybe they don't think it is an issue. Like if you want your boyfriend to change, that's not really his issue, it's yours. Maybe they are just damaged, like with addiction. Maybe he feels helpless. My sister is convinced she is powerless to do anything, and I don't see why a man couldn't feel that way too. Maybe he is a lazy, stubborn brat. My sister is that way too.

Maybe they have a problem with another person or a set of circumstances, but they have run a risk-reward calculus in their head and decided that they are better off just keeping things as they are, because they still benefit in one way or another, and any action they take is just likely to make things worse. There's lots of reasons. You have to be more specific unless you are just trying to vent.

Is it really creepy if as a guy, I like super short girls? Like 4'7-4'10? I know that's borderline midget territory but damn, I've had my best sexual experiences with short girls. I told a female coworker about my preferences and she said I shouldn't look for these types of girls because I would like a pedo. Is that true? I'm also not tall, just 5'8.

>>23645560
If you're a man who likes men, wants to date and be in relationships with them, you're at the very least homoromantic.
If you want to have sex with them, homosexual.
Imagine yourself doing either and if necessary, try things out for yourself.
If you're asking this question, it's not unlikely that you're gay. Don't pressure yourself too much and just take some time to figure things out. It's fine to change labels over the years, you don't have to stick to one thing if you don't want to.

>>23645639
No.

>>23645639
Yes

>>23645639
>she said I shouldn't look for these types of girls because I would like a pedo
So she believes short women should just die alone, or what?

>>23645639
If you don't seek out and date underage girls, then you're not a pedo.
Nothing wrong with liking very short girls if they're in your age range.
Your coworker is just being weird.

Are people in mental institutions forced to wear masks now?

>>23645626
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C4nCy5CITc8

>>23645639
If you just like short girls, no.
If you like short girls with very youthful faces and super slim and flat chested, a little creepy.

>>23645624
What about girls that play Skyrim, Nioh or Dark Souls?

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>>23645556
Lol, as other anon said I don't think it's a gendered thing.

Personally I've always hated confrontation, at least when it's more heated and argumentative as opposed to a calmer discussion; it makes me anxious and doesn't feel constructive. Sometimes you do have to approach things head on, or be a little stern/firm, but that's different to running into conflict.

I'm a quiet, passive faggy guy so find myself trying to diffuse a situation and encourage both people to hear each other out civilly and come to a resolution (as much as possible anyway). My parents fought constantly until they split, and my mom's very argumentative (so continued the trend with many bfs), so I guess I've always wanted to distance myself from that and take a more peaceful approach.

It actually still upsets me when people argue in these threads even lol, but this is 4chan (or should I say, the Internet). Rambled there but hopefully a full answer (where the INFJ/Ps at?)

>>23644824
>Some girl who used to be my classmate back in college keep asking me for advice regarding career and whatever her hobbies
>Keep in contact with me in different platform cause I stopped using fb
>Tried to imply what her birthday is with zodiac signs and shit and I have to guess 2 dates.
>Keep sending hearts in messages
Does she like me, I really cant tell bros

>>23645627
This.
If the girl you're into doesn't play any video games, you can always introduce her to them. If you look past the triple a shooters, there is endless variety and I've even played video games at a museum because they were recognised as art. Just ask her what kinds she's interested in and try a few games.
There's something for everyone.

>>23645667
Don't listen to that anon, there's nothing wrong with being a female gamer. Games are for everyone.

>>23645631
Those are all understandable issues to have, but if any of your examples were applicable, what would be suggested as a course of action if not confrontation? What should be the goal other than to try to firstly be aware of the issue? Wouldn't being aware of the issue initiate changed behavior?

>>23645579
nta but ah right, again I don't think the avoidance of confrontation is gendered, but perhaps guys tend to be more stubborn or overconfident, or worried about pissing off their gfs or whatever?

>>23645599
> I think pretty much any job in this day and age requires selling your soul somewhat.
unfortunately, yes. even jobs that allow more creative freedom like, i'm sorry, youtube, require daily posting, just like any other full time job, that's why many content creators end up feeling burnt out and uninspired.. that , in addition of course, to censorship

even if you run a small business, nowadays, you have to get on amazon to compete with other businesses ...

so yes, i think, most jobs, especially if you want to make money, necessitate that you kind of sell your soul. i think people who get paid well enough to do what they love is a small lucky group. the rest of us have to find other things to fall in love and give us purpose outside of work

Women,
Is it fun to play with a guy's balls?

>>23645675
Does/did she initiate a lot? From what you describe I think there's a decent chance she'd say yes if you asked her out

>>23645687
*to fall in love with

Why don't girls wear jewelry?

>>23645560
Do you like dudes? Do they get you excited? You are gay.

Are you just not having any luck with women? No gf? Do you find thots revolting? You stay out of the relationship game because you hate games, but you crave a relationship? You are leaning towards prison gay, or "I've got no other choice" gay. The thing is though, that if you don't actually do anything at this point, you aren't gay. You are just lonely and desperate until you do something with a guy. Then you are gay.

So are you gay, Anon? Do you like cocks and dude butts? Or are you just looking everywhere for something you don't have?

Just swap genitals if you have a vagina. I shouldn't need to state that, since it should be obvious, but there ya go.

>>23645703
I wear earrings and a necklace my grandmother gifted me. I used to not wear anything because I was lazy but it makes me feel more put together.

>>23645687
Yeah, I completely agree; monetizing things and making it sustainable and practical business-wise, always poses some conflicts with creative liberties and individual preferences etc. Sometimes turning your passions into a career isn't the best choice for wellbeing. There's a % of people who are fortunate to have the two coincide and have a true "passion career" but I think they're a small minority, yeah. For the rest of us, one might like their job but at the end of the day they're doing it to pay the bills. The same applies to modelling; on the outside it looks glamorous but one doesn't see the tedium, the slog, dealing with client bullshit and all the rest of it. Upsides and downsides to everything though

anon from yesterday who's gf was doing ERP with strangers. it was an ad type thing on a forum, apparently no-one responded. talked it out, asked my friends, gonna give her another chance.
had a couple weak reasons, but it also sounds like the reasons i did a bunch of stupid shit when i was younger so
i'll see. maybe i'm being too trusting, only 1 way to find out

What happened to casual dresses? I can't remember the last time I saw a girl in a dress except for formal events and career fairs.

>>23645703
I know girls who do, but I don't because I have really long hair that get's stuck in everything, whether it's a necklace or bracelet. Maybe I'm just clumsy tho.

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>>23645560
You are geh.

>>23645618
Don't worry too much about it being awkward though, it is pretty common. Perhaps you could actually think about it as they being your friends too. I mean, they are you bff's friends so they have things in common, and he as he's your bf, you too have things in common. So by transitive property, you have things in common with your bf's friends, so you could become friends with them.
I try to think about my relationship with my friends' girlfriends. Usually we have things to talk about since we do share common interests. Maybe it's uni, or anime, or shows and movies, or videogames, but there's always something to talk about. Since I'm one of the only singles in the group, sometimes they talk to me about their friends to see if I'm interested in meeting them, although all through a casual and friendly banter.
Don't stress too much about it, though. It's okay to feel awkward in your position.

>friend grows keen on me feeling depressed
>keeps pushing me to talk to her about it, wants me to go see someone
>after about a month of her not accepting "I don't want to talk about it" finally talk to her about it
>she hasn't spoken to me for a week
Should I have kept lying/pushing? I don't get it. I made it clear that I didn't want to discuss it yet she kept pushing, now she's ignoring me.
I'm not sure what I did wrong here.

>>23645724
Whereabouts do you live m8? I think it's largely cultural

Will my life be easier than an unattractive person if I'm attractive?

>>23645611
As a guy this hits a bit close to home (a psych suggested I might have avpd)... out of curiosity if you don't mind me asking, how does it affect your social life, things like friendships and relationships?

>>23645742
Yes, how is this even a question?

>>23644920
What's your workout regime mate?

>>23645742
Depends what you want to do, as it's irrelevant to a lot of things.

I'm not gonna sugarcoat it: probably yes, but it comes with its own challenges and hassles, so the grass is greener.

>>23645703
You ain't hanging out with the right girls cuz

>>23645724
Dresses are more of a commitment than pants, and you inherently look more dressed up. Also guys hit on you 10x.
Not everyone wants to go for that on a daily basis.

>>23645742
There are some benefits to being attractive, not gonna lie. People are generally more open to you if you're attractive. I mean, look at aerial killers and cult leaders. They manage to do what they do because they are generally good looking and charismatic.
One thing I've seen is this vid of a dude testing how people react to a unibrow (a trait that can be generally regarded as unattractive). What he did was ask for directions to a place, sometimes with a unibrow and sometimes without. I can't really remember the numbers, but with a unibrow people said on average like 4 words in response; while without one, they said something like over 20. Really puts some things in perspective.
It's pretty awful how we judge based on appearance. But it is definitely something we as people can work on.

Females, how much do you prefer for guys to tower over you?

>>23645753
>guys hit on you 10x
nta but really? I never thought about this, I guess that makes sense but woah
(Good thing I prefer girls in boyish clothes, not that I'd have the confidence to hit on them anyway...)

>>23645758
It doesn't matter much to be honest. I dated/crushed on guys who were short, average or tall.

>>23645758
Don’t care

Actual question for both Genders™

What do you do when you have a friend that does or says stuff that's just morally wrong (to you, highly offensive)? Let's say that thing could be cheating, racism, or whatever. Do you stop being their friend?

>>23645748
100 Push-ups
100 Sit-ups
100 Squats
10 Km run.
EVERY SINGLE DAY

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Boys, how much do you prefer for girls to tower over you?

>>23645764
If it's funny it's fine. But everybody has flaws, and if they're cool overall then I can deal with the stuff I don't like.

>>23645759
Yeah, at least in my experience. If I wear any clothes that show legs or cleavage and I'm not accompanied by a man I'll spend the rest of the day being hit on.

I honestly just wear dresses if there's my boyfriend around or if I'm at the hospital because I work with dying people and that tends to deter people who try to stick their dick in me.

>>23644880
On places like r*ddit I've seen posts about infidelity where the guy had no idea until he caught the wife fucking in their bed. Happy marriage, kids, active love life, the whole tamale.
It's honestly not worth thinking about. If it happens, it happens.
Look for red flags and THEN be concerned.

>>23645773
it is exceedingly rare for that to ever happen but it is very hot when it does

>>23645764
I've actually been thinking about this. Not that I've seen any of my friends for the last year, but I've been thinking that if they're willing to throw away my freedom, if they think I should be imprisoned if I don't live under the totalitarian restrictions they want me to live under, then I guess they're not my friends. Yeah, I think I'm ready to cut authoritarians out of my life.

>>23645767
I unironically did this for a couple of months during 'tine (munis the 10km run as I couldn't go out, replaced it with some cardio exercises). I would even push myself, farthest I could do was 170 in all three. Also would vary the style of the workouts, like wide arm pushups or jumping squats or leg raises instead of abs.

>>23645773
Don't like tall girls, especially those taller than me, one bit. If she's not at least a head below me, it's not good.

>>23645724
I wear casual dresses when it's not hot enough to wear them with tights that cover my leg hair. They're definitely closer to summerwear though which I put in my cellar during the colder months where I just layer t-shirts to stay warm. Then when the warmer months strike, I'm sometimes too lazy to dig out my exclusive summerwear because t-shirts are fine and by the time it gets too hot, it'll be too hot to wear even tighs.
Dresses just aren't as practical for every wheather the way pants and t-shirts are. That's probably how they end up at the very back of the wardrobe until you remember to wear them for a formal event.
I do see a lot of girls in dresses when it's summer though...
Mostly younger girls.
Depending on where women work, they are sometimes just expected to present more neutral and that means muted colours and pants.

>>23645764
M
Good question, that's a tough one. I like to think people can have their own views and as long as they aren't hurting anyone, eh. I have a friend with some... controversial views (think /pol/) but it's not really relevant when we hang out, he's not autistic enough to mention it in groups with other friends, he's still a nice guy so it's cool. *doing* awful things is another story, I don't think I could stay friends with someone who cheated on their partner, or were racist towards other people etc., I don't really want to associate with people like that irl

>>23645764
I don't care about offensive jokes. I care about when people do things that hurt others.

I have told a friend I was going to stop talking to her if she didn't come clean to her boyfriend about cheating on him because I found the behavior appalling.

>>23645784
>>23645789
The duality of man

Thanks for answering, that's interesting. How tall are you guys? How dom/sub would you say you lean?

>>23645764
I would stop being their friend if they have views or opinions that goes against my morals.

>>23645716
this was a pleasant exchange, anon. thank you <3

>>23645796
>the duality of man
It's a Jungian thing, sir!

>How tall are you guys? How dom/sub would you say you lean?
6'4, dom.

>>23645732
You did nothing wrong. Sounds like she got more than she bargained for. Maybe she feels bad about pressuring you so much or is somehow worried you expect her to help you with things she can't help you with. Could be anything.
Either way, not your fault, she got what she asked for.

>>23645684
Well, if you want him to change something, you gotta ask him to make it his problem. If he doesn't want to, then it is your problem, not his. Don't make it his problem, because now you two have a dynamic of creating problems for each other, and that sucks for both of you.

Addicts are broken. Period. They will always be broken, even the recovered ones who have been sober forever and have a good life, God bless 'em.

Honestly, I don't want to speak to the mental issues. I don't know you or they guy, and I don't want to be responsible for anything that might hurt either of you. I know what I would do with my sister, but that is all beyond my power anyway, so I need not worry about whether or not it would actually work or just fuck things up. In a word though, assistance. Not like cooperative let me help you with that assistance, but tough love assistance.

If it's an external problem, leave it. If he's done the math and 2+2=4 then you aren't gonna convince him the answer should be 3. He's got his conclusion, and if you badger him until he changes it and it turns out 3 is not the right answer, he will hate you for it, rightfully, forever.

Keep in mind that you may have to make sacrafices, and sometimes, you can't fix it.

>>23645732
>I'm not sure what I did wrong here.
You told the truth when that wasn't what she was after.
Sounds like you need better friends.

>>23645796
I'm 6'2 and I've only ever met one woman taller than me, and it was the most exciting thing ever. I'm usually a dom, but that time I became a switch.

>>23645801
No problem, was nice talking! (To clarify I don't disapprove of modelling or any of those jobs, was just talking about pros/cons I guess)

women:
what blowjob position makes you feel the most feminine/submissive
can I do something to make her feel more submissive when blowing me? she's not into gagging and shit like that

>>23645810
That does sound fun, where did you meet? I think if I met a girl 6'3 or up I'd have to get her autograph or something. I'm 5'6 so might need a stepladder

>>23645807
>Addicts are broken. Period. They will always be broken, even the recovered ones who have been sober forever and have a good life, God bless 'em.
nta but shit...

Do girls like strong independent boys?

>>23645767
Wow, that's amazing, you must be really fit
I did 10 pushups today is that good

>>23645576
society

>>23645748
3 day PPL to maintain/when cutting and PPLPP when bulking. Just make sure to include all basic compounds then add in isolations for whichever muscles you want to focus, which ones you do don't really matter just do what feels the best to you.

>>23645828
Yup

Do boys like strong independent girls?

>>23645576
I have a dick that is supposed to be very large yet it looks small from my perspective. It fucking pisses me off and I don't trust anyone.