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I have a huge masturbation problem. I buy so much porn. I have different forms of fleshlights. And I've been skipping work and not hanging out with my girlfriend as much because I'm too addicted of jerking off and watching porn. I also donate to a few streamers as well since they also do cam modeling too. It has affected my life so bad I am on a final warning at work due to me missing work so much. My girlfriend is now questioning me if something is going on. I don't talk to my friends either. My entire day is just looking up tits and ass. It's ruining my life and I cannot stop jerking it. I actually cum about 12 to 16 times a day, if not more. It's going out of control and I just can't stop masturbating and watching porn. Please, I need advice.
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>>23148859
stop
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>>23148867
Wow, I wish it was that easy.
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>>23148859
You're addicted, my friend.

Addictions can take many forms, and they're usually a cope for some deep issues you have. Could be sexual or otherwise, stress, fear of the future, etc. If you have the money, I suggest you seek professional help that can help you pinpoint these particular issues.

You should come out to your girlfriend while you still can control the amount of information you can give her regarding the extent of your addiction. Otherwise you'll be confronted and will have no choice but to tell her even the most shameful details, because i guaran-fucking-tee you telling her you were simping bitches on the internet is an automatic break-up.
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>12-16 times a day
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>>23148876
>Addictions can take many forms, and they're usually a cope for some deep issues you have. Could be sexual or otherwise, stress, fear of the future

I do have fear of the future. How does this correlate me furiously masturbating so much?
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>>23148859
>paying for porn
what the fuck is wrong with you
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>>23148859
Genuinely, go to a support group. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA), Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA), Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) are the big ones, all with there individual differences. They're basically modeled around AA/NA but for sex, porn, and masturbation. I'd try SLAA first. Best of luck my dude.

t. Recovering sex addict
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You have to want to quit. feeling guilty isn't enough, you need to have a goal in mind if you want to battle your addiction. throwing out your toys and porn is a cold turkey start but can be effective. Find hobbies to occupy all your time, work out, take cold showers to combat urges. Support groups are a good option and I think reading stories on no fap forums could be helpful. But if you want to quit realize how long of a road it is and understand you may relapse
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>>23148991
This is really embarrassing I don't think I want to do this..
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>>23148859

Cold turkey.
Shut off the computer entirely or give it to a friend to hold onto.
If you can't do that, leave the house as it will be harder to be alone.
Exercise.
If you do it enough, you will get into a good routine
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>>23148859
https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/
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>>23148859
Who's your favorite pornstar? I'd figure you're an expert in this field.
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>>23148859
Get a better girlfriend. A good looking one too this time, preferably
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>>23149303
My gf, I met her at a pornstar convention.
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>>23148867
fpbp
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>>23149055
Its definitely seems that way at first. Its a really uncomfortable thing to talk about (hence why youre posting on an anonymous bird statue reviewing forum) but there is no better place to talk about it than there. Everyone is going through similar stuff so they all get it. Its designed to be a zero judgement place. Just think about it
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>>23148859
Maybe you're depressed. Talk to a professional, stupid.
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if i were you i would set up a tent in the woods with a week's worth of food and water. unironically.
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>>23148859
You just have to commit. Cancel all the subscriptions. Throw away the fleshlights. Delete the folders. It’s the only way
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>>23149389
name of your gf and pic related please right about now.
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>>23149389
Yeah, right
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>>23148859
1. Try to divide your porn and mastrubation. If your health really concerns you you'll find the way. But most probably it doesn't and you should know that for now you're a degenerate and untermensch.
2. Dump gf she deserves better desu
T. Female ex porn addict
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>>23148872
It is.
Everytime you have the urge to fap, do something. Preferably something physical.
Go run (on a treadmill)
Clean home
Fix/Build something.
Lift things
Sooner or later, you'll associate that fapping feeling with physical activity.
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>>23148859
BRO read this book
https://easypeasymethod.org/
its about quitting porn and it talks about the psychology of addiction, its the real deal check it out
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>>23148951
You're procrastinating living your life by fulfilling an immediate need.
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>>23149055
You need to solve your problem though, and you've not been able to do it yourself.
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>>23148872 >>23148859

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BsvYEkTzmGQ
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>>23148859
I highly recommend listening to what Jordan Peterson and Gabor Mate have to say about addictive behaviors and strategies of overcoming them. Peterson has a very good point... Instead of telling yourself you're done (which is counterproductive because in invites nagging doubt which causes you to relapse) tell yourself you will not relapse now but later, and every time you feel like relapsing just repeat that, - its like procrastinating on bad behaviors. Trust me it seems too simple but it helps a lot. Another thing: get rid of all your porn stashes, subscriptions and fleshlights, blindly commit to that, just throw it all out and you will limit further triggers, it might seem like you're throwing out treasure but trust me, one day you will laugh about ever having to doubt that. Also, make NoFap subreddit a part of your life for now, they're a huge community dedicated to helping men recover from porn and masturbation addictions; they're helpful and generous as hell and they have been instrumental to myriads of men overcoming their addictions (including me). Trust me make it a part of your life and the message will stick to your brain and grow strong enough to become an automatic fail-safe in the future. Lastly check out "Your Brain on Porn" website or this vid https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZK6eZCYH1Y, it will help educate you. Proper education about how porn affects brain is I'd say 60% of the battle. Good luck anon, you will overcome this.
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>>23155694
p.s The younger you are the less long-term side effects you will suffer. Erectile dysfunction is one of them btw, trust me, you don't want that happening to you with real women. Emasculation is yet another and a very dangerous one, you will read about it.



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