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>last night
>alone with my best friend
>drinking a few beers
>sharing some secrets
>i shared something really personal with her so she starts getting emotional
>she tells me that she was in love with me for years, but 2 years ago she got tired of waiting for me to make the first move so she lost her virginity to another dude because she tried to forget about me, and has been with another 2 dudes since then. But that only "made her realize im her only love and she wants me to be her boyfriend"
>then she tried to kiss me
>i stand up and try to leave
>she spergs "why wouldn't you want me anon? I love you! With a cracked voice"
>i grab my shit and walk away without a single word

I'm feeling angry and sad and i don't fully understand why, maybe i do know but i want to pretend i don't know because my reasons are childish and dumb, i clearly feel frustrated because she lost her virginity to someone else, i clearly feel something for her too but ive always been an insecure faggot that prefered to keep my feelings quiet instead of trying something out of fear of rejection or ruining the friendship, i clearly feel insulted because she never told me that she felt the same for me when she was still a virgin, i feel resented because i would have prefered to keep unaware of this, i tried so many times to ask her out but i never had the guts to say something, i clearly feel like an idiot because she is my best friend but now i perceive her as being "dirty" even thought i know she is an honest and caring person that has always supported me, she has always been there for me, maybe im not angry to her, maybe im angry to myself because i lost my chance to be her first and only, because i know that dating her would be a serious relationship that could end up in a happy marriage but i don't want her anymore just because of her sexual past, im angry because i know my reasons are idiotic, she didn't do anything wrong to me, i know this is stupid and still i cant change my feelings.
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The worse i could do is to reveal this to her, ill have to made up something else or ill look like a childish bastard in her eyes, an insecure infantile faggot, still i know the truth and i cant change my feelings and frustration. This is not even her fault, i should have ask her out when were were younger, im the man after all, i feel stupid.
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Jesus man the fuck up and date her.
Stop caring about that shit. Virginity is a social construct imposed by humanity. It has no merit and people quoting statistics are as retarded as people quoting religious texts as something to take literal. Dont be an ass. Dont ruin your chance of happiness because of petty shit.

Man the fuck up you goddamn man-child
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Are you a virgin yourself? If not then stfu and deal with it. She obviously was trying to move on and while you have every right to be angry at yourself for not doing anything to show interest in her, you shouldn’t take that anger out on her.
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>but muh virginity
Virginity is a fucking meme. It's an outdated concept, it's unscientific and modern contraception has made it obsolete.
You fucking nimrod, go to her, pin her down and tell her you love her. Don't let her get away, you're gonna regret it.
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>>22577823
exactly why you can never be honest with a man
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>>22577823
Anon,stop being so pathetic and listen.
First of all,if she loved you back then,why didn't she just outright say so? Waiting for the first move is the most coward action that she could have chosen.

Yeah,you could have tried something in the past,but you know what?
Most anons here could have bought 100 bitcoins 5 years ago and become millionairs after a few years.
Someone could have prevented 9/11,if he did the right job.
A chinese could have stopped eating that fucking bat,and we wouldn't have this COVID epidemic right now.
See? We can't judge ourselves from the past,it's just unfair.

Now,however, you can act and choose the best option.
You can:
>get together with her
You could try this and see where it takes you,but in my opinion it's the worst choice.
She clearly didn't respect his exes,why shoud she respect you?Why shoudn't she cheat on you?
>ask to remain friends
This will put a lot of strain on you friendship with her.
>break your friendship with her
This is the most positive choice. You simply forget of each other. You will regret this,sure,but it will lead to the best scenario.
>restart the relationship with her
Talk with her and restart the relationship,as if you two never met before. Mantain this illusion forever and forget the past.

And stop talking about "muh virginity" and "i'm a man! I should act like this and this!".
This line of thought is usually followed by mainstream incels,and you do know where it takes them.
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>>22577955
its always the girls fault isnt it asshole. even had she confessed before OP would still have done nothing and come up with some bullshit excuse to run.
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>>22577978
>its always the girls fault isnt it asshole
I'm just trying to assure the OP that it's not the ONLY ONE who's at fault here. Just re-read his post.
And yeah,i'm a bit of an asshole. I'm still working on it.
How can i improve?
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>>22577823
You feel angry because you are a failure
>she making the first move
>she losing her virginity
are consequences of your fail and you are too immature to overcome you insecurities which makes you a fool again. What can you do. Go to her, apologize and tell her that you couldn't handle the emotions, then hug her say what you feel for her and don't unload your insecurities onto her. When she asks about your emotions tell her only that you feel like a fool for not noticing it yourself and keep with this. Good luck nigger
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>>22577947
>>22577978
He is clearly emotional and your roastie shit doesn't do good
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>>22577852
>>22577869
>>22577935
>>22577947
You rarely see 3 foids in a row here in 4chan.
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>>22577823
She may as well have asked for to lick those men's semen out of her rancid cooch. Women, you know that feeling of disgust and fear you feel when a creepy guy approaches you? That same primal, instinctual disgust and fear is what men feel when women try or succeed in making cuckolds out of them. The difference is, you've been taught that being a creep is morally wrong, whereas making someone a cuckold is morally neutral or even justified.
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>>22577955
Based
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>>22579478
A cuckold is being cheated on, you retard.
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>>22577823
She threw herself at you and you sperged out and walked away just because she fucked other people to get over you? She probably would've sucked you dry then fucked you until you bled but instead you acted like a faggot and left. As the other Anons rightfully said virginity is a meme.
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>>22579716
>She claimed to love OP while also letting men she didn't care about to use her holes
Sounds pretty cucked to me.
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>>22579732
Nah bro, walking away will only get her panties wetter when he finally accepts her

Always remember OP, bitches aint shit and always treat her like you got all the options in the world. They have simple lizard brains really. this will make her think you’re too valuable to ever give up
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>>22579743
I’m not an asshole really. Women are so fucking frustratingly retarded.
You treat them right and give them proper attention and they pull back. Have a stone heart and treat hoes like hoes. That’s what they want deep down because femoid lizard brain
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>>22577823
So in short, you were a coward... And now you’re angry because you didn’t get your virgin because of that cowardice. If you still feel something, I would go over there right now. Just say you were sad she was with someone else when you both wanted eachother. Only got yourself to blame. Talking about your feelings will never get easier. You’re about to confess to someone you know loves you back. It’s extremely unlikely you’ll ever be in such a simple situation again, so... make your move, it’s an important one
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>>22577823
Whatever, she may have loved you but then she threw herself all over the place rather than take a chance. It doesn't matter anymore. You shouldn't hold the fact that she's fucked some other dudes against her and 2 isn't a lot. However, you should consider whether it was really meant to be if neither of you made a move in the first place. Having faced almost the same situation and having it not work out, I would say... Do it.
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>guaranteed sex
>reject it because muh virginity
There are people on this board right now who would literally kill to be in your shoes.
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>>22579732
>virginity is a meme
You cant be a male
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>>22579839
>There are people on this board right now who would literally kill to be in your shoes.
>simping this hard for pussy, let alone stupid slut pussy
Get ahold of yourself
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>>22579839
You value sex to much, some things like pride worth even more.
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>>22579782
>Only got yourself to blame
If she really loved OP why didn't she said anything before? Why now? Dont play favorites just because she has a vagina, she fucked up as well and only ruined their friendship for ever.
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>>22579877
Ever watch Gordon Ramsay go to those shitty restaurants and try to get through to the owners? Pride is supposed to help you keep doing what you are doing right. But through self-deception and delusion, pride turns into the thing that will make you fail at life
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>>22579947
Pride is just another word for self steem
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>>22577823
>What’s wrong with me
>I’m an idiot

Anon....

/thread/
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>>22579935
>why now
The secret OP told explains that I’m sure. Either way it is the job of the man to do that. And blaming her would mean extending a moral duty to her for an opportunity that you lost because you were scared to try. Can’t blame someone else for something you could have done yourself, but didn’t
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>>22577823
Body count doesn’t matter when you’re mature. I’ve fucked 3 girls and my girlfriend has fucked 20 guys, it bothered me a little at first but I didn’t let it strain the relationship. Grow up and have sex.
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>>22579976
What I call self-esteem is much more grounded and non-combative. Pride tends to be more of an impassioned feeling, it can provide drive, that self-esteem cannot, and can also make you stubborn as fuck where self-esteem tends to provide a certain internal flexibility. You don’t feel like there are two different things there?
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She’s a slut, ghost her
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>>22577823
>i clearly feel insulted because she never told me that she felt the same for me when she was still a virgin
>i tried so many times to ask her out but i never had the guts to say something,
Find a large piece of jagged metal and savagely fuck yourself in the ass with it, you hypocritical shitstain.

I am very glad that neither you nor she actually exist.
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>>22580024
>it is the job of the man to do that
I tought men and women were equal, the guilt reside in both, stop playing favorites, fuckind foid victimism its disgusting.
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>>22579947
In this case, the slut is the shit restaurant and Gordon Ramsey would be telling OP to avoid her.
>>22580042
t. cuck
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>>22580042
>t. Last resort
You are only with her because she already gave her best to others, you are only getting the leftovers, she wouldnt have even farted in your direction when she was at her prime. Suck it faggot.
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>>22577823
Well for one I doubt she ever loved you like truly loved you because love is different than friendship. She thinks she loves you but imo love is real when you spend weeks together at a time kinda thing, everyone has their weird habits and things that they don't show to friends and family. Not to mention how that love is expressed and if you can express that love back equally. Which I think you must be pretty emotionally stunted so that might be unlikely.

That's a bit beside the point, I don't really see your rationale here anon. You must not have understood her signs through the years, thats a bit on you because if she felt that way she was definitely trying to hint it for a long time. Was she supposed to just stop finding that feeling of love altogether until you were old enough to express intimate feelings for her? Sounds pretty selfish, of course she would try and find something else. Nobody realistically is going to wait their whole life for someone who doesn't really show interest in them. She's been with 3 dudes in total, not sure how old you are, but that's not that much desu, it's not like her vagina withered away and the tightness is totally destroyed or worn at all. Trust me, deflowering a girl doesn't even feel good, it's like ramming your dick into a brick wall and it doesn't feel good for the girl either until you've totally broken the wall and then you get blood on your dick. I don't understand if you're a guy that hasn't really had a real relationship/get many girls and has feelings for a girl and she has wanted you for literal years how you could be like "ew you've had 3 guys inside of you before get away from me whore" lmao
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>>22580302
>I thought men and women were equal
Well I don’t think they are, but it is not even pertinent to the moral argument that you can’t blame others for how you feel because of something you didn’t do. Just like you can’t blame the world for all the other opportunities you’ll miss due solely to your own inaction. That’s some sjw style thinking.
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>>22577823
>best friend
>also in love with you
Honestly, you should probably marry this girl.
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I'm usually in the 'virginity doesn't really matter' camp but in this situation I completely understand why you're so broken up inside about it. She didn't fuck some random chads before she knew you, she fucked them when dating you was 100% an option and you could have had a very meaningful relationship together. Now if you get her it will just feel fucking weird, lots of shame and guilt on both sides.
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>>22580543
OP doesnt want to pay full price for used goods anon
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>>22577823
Meh, you only like her as a friend, and she likes you as a friend. If you dated, it'd last a few weeks.
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>>22577823
>she got railed by 3 muscular bad-boy Chads and had her fun
>realizes that they won't settle wit her
>"better lie to anon that I loved him this whole time so he would marry me like a dumb chump he is!"

And you fell for it.
What a retard.
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>>22580552
Man it's obvious that OP is super fucking immature emotionally, he's had feelings for this girl for about as long as she has and neither of them did anything about it, they're both equally in the wrong.

How the fuck could OP pass up on it because she had sex with a few dudes, in 20 years unless he hasn't grown at all emotionally he'll be looking back at what could've been with a girl he liked so much that he considered his best friend and visa versa. Are you all teenagers or super early 20s?

OP could very well still have a super deep and meaningful relationship with her, if he's hung up over a potential mate that had sex with three other men in the span of their whole lifetime he's in for a shit life, the average number of sexual partners (assuming he's early 20s) is easily over double 3 people. You all are way too autistic if you're not able to get over someone getting penetrated a few times, it's unbelievable lol.
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>>22580613
Yeah of course he's an incel-type, why is everyone here acting like that's a profound thing to say?
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>>22580613
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>>22580639
Im tired of the "incel" ad hominem... fuck shit, roasties cant just refute that hymen exist and virginity is not a "social construct"
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Live exists in the moment. I‘m not asking you to reason anything, I just think you should give it a shot to experience what there can be, instead of being frustrated of not experiencing an ideal.
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>>22580665
I don't even think virginity is a huge deal, but it's certainly not nothing.
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>>22577823
It's a fucked up situation of her to bring that up towards you.
There are two ways this could have gone
>You reciprocate the feelings and it devastates you that she actively went to hook up with someone else rather than being clear towards you earlier
or
>You don't feel the same way and it is going to change your friendship forever
I don't know what she was thinking. There is no possible positive outcome to that situation.
If she seriously wanted to be with you she should have either not hooked up with those guys or kept her mouth shut about it.

>I'm feeling angry and sad and i don't fully understand why
Imagine you pulled that shit on her, fucked a bunch of chicks and then came back to her "actually I like you best let's date".
We don't like to feel like we are a second choice just in case other things don't work out.

My advice would be to not date her and create some distance.
Maybe I'm reading too much into it but she seems short-sighted and inconsiderate just reading those lines.
You are right to be upset, don't let other people treat you like that.
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>>22577852
>Virginity is a social construct imposed by humanity. It has no merit and people quoting statistics are as retarded as people quoting religious texts as something to take literal.
It's not and they aren't. We're trash. I know you probably don't want to admit it but we've been with too many people. We don't get or deserve someone to stay with us forever. We wouldn't even enjoy it if we got it.
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>>22577955
You forgot the most important and correct option: use her to lose your virginity then dump her
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>>22577852
>Virginity is a social construct imposed by humanity
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen
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>>22577823
>I have been in love with you for years
>lmao let sleep with another guy to forget you
>oh no they dump me, I guess OP is my old crush so I should settle for him
Op forgets about her already. It was retarded of her trying to manipulate your emotion through muh I can’t forget about you. (Which backfire a lot) Honestly, I think you would have date her if she didn’t her past relationship to you.
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>>22580796
If she didn’t mention her past relationship in such a manipulative way*
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>>22580746
stop worrying so much about the hymen, you'll never break one anyway :P
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>>22577852
>>22577935
you two are female retards. virginity means alot to men. maybe not to you sluts but whatever, you're gonna die alone anyways.
>>22579478
You're an incel retard probably addicted to cuck porn because no man would call this cuckolding or cheating
>>22577869
you're the only one who is right
op is an autist who didn't see the writing on the wall, he could have virgin pussy but he wasted it and now pretends to be mad at the girl but is actually mad at his self for his insecurity and worthlessness
he doesn't deserve the girl and I feel sorry for her that she would ever want a retard like that.
>>22577823
Genuinely hope you don't date her and kill yourself op.
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>>22580796
This
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>>22580613
>OP could very well still have a super deep and meaningful relationship with her
Nah.
Odds of a woman being capable of having a stable, long-lasting relationship drop dramatically after more than one sexual relationship and keep dropping the more dicks she takes.
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>>22581494
If she left someone for him what are the odds it would happen the same? 100%, once a woman fucks with another guy she will never see you as the "only one special" thats why you dont wed non virgin whores, you only used them to cum but thats all.
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>>22580576
>OP deserves a virgin to come to him and confess her emotions!
Op will become a literal wizard if he takes your shitty advice
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>>22581937
>settle down for who you can get not who you want
Get self steem loser
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>>22577823
tell her you perceive her as "dirty" now and make her realize you're a childish fuck and she will immediately change her mind, problem solved
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>>22577852
>t. roastie and/or kike
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itt men who've fucked virgins and women who refuse to fuck virgins tell virgins that virginity doesn't matter

OP I'm sorry you had to experience that kind of manipulative shit. You did the right thing. You may have missed your chance, but considering her tactics, that is likely a good thing. Keep on working on yourself and you'll find the person right for you sooner or later.
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>>22581989
bad adv
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>>22581989
No he won’t, because when she appears, as she already did, he’s going to just wait. Things are only getting harder from here
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>>22577852
>>22577935
>>22577869
>>22577947
shut the fuck up you roastie/simp/cucks. Do not let OP become a retard trapped in a relationship with a slut
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What kind of person reveals that they fucked other people to get over you then act all entitled because they thought admitting their love for you would make you love them back? Who tf does she think she is? Who tf did she think OP was? A safe backup choice after those 3 guys didn't work out?

Friendzone her. Don't even bother with anything else, unless it's to cut contact.
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>>22577823
Ok OP listen up
if you want to just end this stupid arc in your life once and for all just date her for a month or so, fuck her (you'll probably fall a little bit in love if you're emotional but that's fine) and then she'll realize she isn't happy with you either, and then she'll leave, now you're free. if she doesn't leave then that's it you're happy for good or for a long time at least.
Just DO SOMETHING.
let me tell ya something, life is way more fun if you say yes. If you don't you'll just be a boring sack of shit your whole life.
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>>22577994
>How can i improve
Watch or attend lectures about personality, psychology, relationships, anything you want.
>Listen
>understand what they talk about
>Immitate
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>>22580302
Op is clearly very traditional and wanted a virgin bride, so yes it is his job as a man to take initiative and approach. You can't be traditional and use liberalism as a shield when you're too cowardly or lazy to act like a traditional man.
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>>22577823
>fell for the incel circle jerk
>acts like a total non-man bitch and spergs out like a woman on her period


Really the only way out for both you and society is if you jump in front of a train.
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>>22582253
You mean the latest generation of non-men are actually hypocrites who only want tradition if it benefits them? Impossible. Next you'll be saying that they're obligated to work and provide everything for their family. Working and providing. Lol.
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>>22582253
Exactly right
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>>22581997
>as she already did
The right woman does not hop onto the cock carousel to soothe her feelings.
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>>22582498
The right woman does not just wait for one man eternally who doesn’t seem to want her
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>>22582498
ALL FUCKING WOMEN DO THAT SHIT ANON!!!!
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>>22580746
Do you really think a girl who sucked a dick or did anal is a virgin because she has a hymen?
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>>22582697
>impliying a girl with hymen would do that shit
Maybe a whore with a terrible uprising/damaged girl that was touched by her father/neglected by affective bonds. A normal girl wouldnt lose her anal virginity before the vaginal, you cant just compare damaged goods to an actual normal girl.
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>>22577823
Good lord Anon, call her, go after her, right on this second.

You will never find anyone to spend your life with if you don't accept that other people have had life before you and they will have life after you.
She has had life and still clings to you. You will have time to fuck up more in the future, you will have time to ask for advice in regards to the feelings you feel later, but now you just gotta go after her, go go go go go!
For real, just do it.

I believe in you, Anon.
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Bros what is the average bodycount for a girl in her early 20s
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>>22582707
They do, i knew many christian girls who looked for loopholes like these.

Sex is not dirty anon, its normal. Get some help.
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>>22582720
Depends on your environment, generally lower more highly educated environments.
Just try to accept that people have had life before and after meeting you.
The older you get, the more package there is guaranteed to be.
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>>22582745
How can I even begin to cope with this? Whenever I hear a girl im interested in has had significant experience I get the urge to hurt them. I dont want to be broken like this but at the same time I feel like ive earned someone who waited because of how much ive had to struggle in life. Im at the point where if I dont hurt someone else im likely to just kill myself. Not OP btw.
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>>22577823
not too late for a pump n dump anon, just make sure to toss the cum rag away when you're done with her
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>>22582763
You should probably get some help man, i mean it wanting to hurt people for this is not normal.
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>>22582781
I want to hurt other people for sleepwalking into relative social success while I had to destroy myself just to be normal. Why do they deserve that and I dont?
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>>22582763
> I get the urge to hurt them
I tought i was the only with such urges to be honest, im surpised to hear it from another guy, i want to smack bitches in the face for the same reason.
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>>22582790
They didn't deserve it, they lucked out in the circunstances they were born in. It's not like society came together and decided to fuck you over in particular, life is just a lottery and it makes no sense to be mad at people for living their normal lives.

Like imagine if we both bought ice cream cones. A bird shits in my ice cream. I can be mad and all, but i have no right to hit you and take your ice cream because i deserve some too, i have to get over myself and buy another or live without it.
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>>22582763
Anon, you seem to be harboring some heavy package yourself.
I suggest you take yourself by the collar and sit your ass down to think about how external your desires have become.
Get control of your own life before this kinda corrosive thoughts eat your soul hollow.

Talk to someone about these thoughts, seek professional help and live a bit longer.
I seriously hope you are below 25 years old.
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>>22582809
Why should I care about what you think and feel when no one stopped to think about me? Why should I be the one forced to impotently pound sand and cope?
>>22582834
I am 24. I dont want professional help, all therapists do is convince you to lie to yourself.
>Get control of your own life
I have control of my own life. I live on my own and I make about 50k as a welder. I just hate seeing other people have everything I never got the chance to have, especially younger people.
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>>22582872
Well, no one stopped to think about me either. I still have a hard life with no support and have been harmed by selfish people. If you live in a first world country and earn 50k a year to me you lucked out in life and a few years ago i would have hated you for your luck and because i have to fight everyday just to get a fraction of what you have.

Do you think i would be justified in punching you in the face and robbing you because my life was harder?

A therapist would help you live normally without feeling anger and violence at completely normal things. This is only holding you back, i speak from experience.
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>>22582872
I hope you have gone to a therapist in your life before, at least then I can understand if you had the misfortune of getting a bad one.
But if not then you are literally pissing on the path you've not yet tread and that is weak.
Good that I can put in a nutshell what the basic goal of a therapist is: To detect and notify you of the self-harming, destructive and non-constructing thoughts and pinpoint your focus towards them.

Someone who puts a strong emotion like "hate" unto others, does not sound like someone in control of their life.
Focus on yourself, our own lives are the only things we are able to control to the maximum.
Anon, I want the best for you and you gotta want the best for yourself too. Bitterness will hollow out our souls if we allow it to.
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>>22582887
>>22582910
I have seen therapists in the past, I was forced to see one by my school district when I was young. I do not want therapy, I just want to find someone who hasnt fucked around her whole life and I want to make up for lost time. Im tired of being left behind.
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>>22582763
How much is “sleeping around all the time?”... Trouble is if you’re pretty fucked up, and you haven’t actually succeeded in making yourself better, and it doesn’t sound like you have (I believe you can), then why do you expect to have earned more than a fucked up girl? And fucked up girls tend to have some body count because of self-esteem issues and huge amount of bidders. Your “purity” is only because you couldn’t get laid. Otherwise you would have happily participated in creating these girls you now won’t date. Prove me wrong
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>>22583085
I wont, you are right. If I could have done so in the past I would have. I have made several strides in improving myself and my situation, yet my state of mind has gotten progressively worse because of the isolation. Surely there are women in a similiar position as me (outwardly somewhat successful but very lonely and inexperienced), but I am losing hope.
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>>22583101
Even if you find this mystic woman who is a virgin waiting specially for you and equally as fucked up as you what makes you think you won't lose your marbles torwards her because she had an "easier" life somehow? or when you guys fight and she deals a low blow? your resentment will only grow with time and failure man. You're in no state for a relationship.

The fact that you showed rnough red flags that they made you go therapy by force should be your clue that you truly need to fucking go. You'll end up hurting someone and fucking yourself over.
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>>22583195
So what, I just spend more time "fixing" myself while everyone else leads a normal life? So I just wait while the disparity in experience continues to grow? So when I finish "fixing" myself I end up in the exact same position I am now? Hahaha no, I cant afford to waste any more time. The longer it takes the worse it is going to get, with or without therapy.
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>>22583210
You won't lead a normal life like this, get it through your head. It's better to get help now than to keep getting more and more fucked up until you either go to jail or kys.

You were dealt a shitty hand at life. So was i. So were millions of people being traficked or killed right now. It's no excuse to wallow in self pity and not work on getting better because others don't have to, this is the logic of a child who doesn't understand that the world isn't equal for everyone.
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>>22583241
>mmm yes, go talk to a guy in a stuffy office about your feelings, he'll totally help you and not just offer platitudes while collecting your money
>also ignore the fact that while you're doing this, normal people are out there having fun and forming actual experiences

Not OP. I am very much for self-improvement, particularly exercise and learning, but therapy is, at best, a waste of money and time.
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>>22577823
this is sad. im so glad i fucked a lot of girls from when i was 17-25. this type of cuckery would haunt me forever
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>>22583368
It's not talking about your feelings, i was in a similar situation and you need to use something like CBT to catch and turn around disordered or irrational thinking. You need to read up on different approaches and techniques and find one that specializes with it, if you go in with a goal like this in mind it will most likely help.
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>>22582731
So going off your logic annon a barely legal teen blowing an entire bus of older men is normal and healthy?
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>>22582958
Oh Anon, you cannot make up for lost time in any other way than by accepting that today is the best time to start treating yourself good. Your own attitude is the one leaving you behind. Nobody is waiting for you to get your ass up and start living your life.
All of us have a past and that will never change, but the more you wait the more past the others in your life will have.

A kind reminder to you is that we men have more time than women, men have their best years after 35 years old give or take 5 years. That upwards curve wont end for some until 60s.
Most women have PEAKED by 35 and are beginning a downwards turn. You can find yourself a younger girl, but don't expect those of your age to have lived less life than you yourself.

Good luck, Anon.
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>>22577823
Wow your a fag.

Stop worrying/dwelling on the past.
You'll miss what's infront of you.
Stop looking behind. Start looking ahead
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>>22580042
Cuck
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>>22577823
>i lost my chance to be her first and only, because i know that dating her would be a serious relationship that could end up in a happy marriage but i don't want her anymore just because of her sexual past
lol you two never would have fucking lasted
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>>22577823
There is the issue that once she lost hers (would be worse if she wasn’t even close with the guy who popped her cherry), she seemed to be open to fuck even more guys easily. Won’t say that this relationship won’t work, but she seems promiscuous.
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>>22577823


Lol nothing is wrong with you, you have the instinctual repulsive feeling towards whores.

She liked you for two years but decided to take her chances flirting with other guys, leading them on and making it easy for them to fuck her while keeping you around as her backup plan. She couldn't get those guys to commit and now you have this horseshit sob story from her. What a joke women are these days.

Lol you meant so much to her that she needed to fuck another man to forget about you....instead of trying to fuck you in the first place LOOOOOOOOOOOOL at the losers trying to convince you that you're in the wrong.

Always reject these whores.
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>>22577823
So there are some things here.
You've blown up "the future you could have had with her". You don't know if it would have turned out a happy marriage. Most first marriages don't last (although this depends on where you live). Initial dating/honeymoon phase, marriage, and having kids are 3 different kinds of relationship, and not many people are compatible - hence the reason for divorce after you've had experience living if your partner, or after you have kids.

There's also this feeling of "dirt" you have for her. Not being a virgin shouldn't be equated with impure. It's good you realise this but you should lose this mindset.

There is obviously miscommunication here on both your and her part in regards to sharing that you like each other. It's not just your fault.

You can't do anything with your feelings but you should instead sit and accept them. You don't have to get rid of them. At this point, she came out to you and wants to start a relationship. You either go with it or you don't. After many years your feelings towards a person can change and you might not want to engage in a relationship with them. You should just make your choice clear to them.
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>>22577823
age?
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Are you faggots gay or something? Do you ask women how many men they fucked to fantasize about it? How does it even come up in a conversation?
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>>22582663
>The right woman does not just wait for one man eternally who doesn’t seem to want her
If she is the right woman she does.
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>>22582731
If they were really Christians they would know that sodomy is a sin as well.



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