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Where are the guys who are virgin by choice and not because they are socially awkward or self conscious?

I know they exist but are they that rare? I don't want to lose my v card to someone who already had his salami in twenty other girls before and makes me 21
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Already engaged to girls that are less pretentious.
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>>20446910
In movies
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>Where are the guys who are virgin by choice and not because they are socially awkward or self conscious?
You know that this stops literally nobody from getting laid, right? There are so many fat chicks that will latch onto you like an overgrown Garfield cat, if you show them the least bit of attention. If someone's a longtime virgin and not ass fucking ugly, it's because they have shit in their head they're dealing with and aren't really hunting for it.

Girls think I'm really "shy" and "introverted" until a fine piece of ass that's more to my pallet struts by. Then, they catch wise and get 10 different sorts of offended.
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>>20446923

I don't even have any delusive standards or whatever you're instigating.
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>>20446910
>virgin by choice and not because they are socially awkward or self conscious?
The kine there is very thin. I'm not very awkward, but I'm also not a virgin "by choice" in the sense that I'm saving it, I just never felt like putting in the effort to lose it.
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>>20446910
Check pol MGTOW threads
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>>20446910
iv only had sex once 18 not autistic just didn't see the need to we exist just rare
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>>20446949
Yeah, real cream of the crop, op.
Go get yourself a nice red pill. It's like the blue pill, but for your mind.
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>>20446958
Twice here, 25.
You have some catching up to do buddy lol
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>>20446949
mgtow still bangs thotties for fun desusenpai
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>>20446962
meh not in a rush if it happens it happends the 1st girl I did it with didn't think i was a virgin the teaching power of porn is great
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>>20446910
I was ‘til 24.

No one believed I was a virgin, not even the first girl i slept with.

You can find me anywhere else you would find most other guys.

I will say though that I’m definitely an atypical personality and have always been “different” in that people always just kinda picked up on the fact that I operated different to most though. Not in like an autistic way, but more in a, you seem way more... adult and put together than the rest of us kind of way (even though that was far from the truth).
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>>20446949
We don't have mgtow threads on pol and we think they're faggots, same as incels.

>>20446959
>anime
Not even worth the 5 secs.
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>>20446982
>>20446958
>>20446962
We all know you are 4/10s.
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>>20446992
you sure about that
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>>20446938
*line there
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I could have lost my virginity to friends that I was not dating, but I didn’t. I’d much prefer to lose my virginity to a girlfriend or a boyfriend, but I’m too socially awkward to get one, so.....both?
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>>20446992
I have actually been described as being very handsome to the point where it actually scares girls off (coupled with my personality ofc, if I had a chad personality I would be on top of the fucking world).
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>>20446982
>you seem way more... adult and put together than the rest of us
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Bait thread.
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>>20447017
*could of
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>>20447026
Here is your guy, OP.
If you are damn lucky.
DAMN lucky.
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>could of*
Nope, “could have.” “Could of” is a misspelling that comes from the common pronunciation of “could’ve,” but note how the ‘ve is short for “have.” Before you correct someone’s grammar, check to see if you’re the one that needs a grammar lesson.
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>>20447062
I cannot best you! I yield, I yield!
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>>20446992
Eh, I’m 30 now. I’ve been here on and off now for enough years that my story has been posted enough times for some more lurkers to probably recognize it.

I don’t really feel the need to bullshit. I’m not model tier or anything, but I’m more or less good looking or charming enough that girls have always approached me, and even while I was a virgin, did have a couple try to literally pull me in to their beds.

I just wanted none of that and had a clear idea of what it is I did. Turned out, I was over thinking shit, and life got a lot easier once I stopped, but is what it is.

>>20447026
Sadly, while not as dorky (that’s also an extreme level of try hard I’ve never had when it came to looks), looking back, kinda yeah haha, especially the first years of college. I pulled it off though. Helped that I look older and was pretty broad across the shoulders. My “mature” was more about not taking shit from anyone and just being confident and DGAF than trying to look older.
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>>20447078
Reviewbrah is seriously admirable to me.
If you listen to how he describes how he arrived at his style and hobbies and shit, he seriously doesn't give a shit about what people think at all, he just does what feels right to him.
I wish I could be comfortable with myself like that, for real.
Legit admire the guy.
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>>20446999
Kek

Not him but yes. You look 100 lbs/ 5' and literally have the 2008 bieber look
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>>20447102
All the power to him then. That’s kinda where I was at his age too in my own way.

Truth is though, while my style *was* intentional and while I didn’t really give a fuck about what others thought, I *did* give a fuck about what *i* thought and how I perceived myself and my own image, and that’s why I’d go to some lengths to develop my own style. Almost like I was constantly reaching to become something.

At some point though, in my late 20 I kinda stopped trying so hard to be my own person, and just accepted the person I’d become. Life became a lot easier.

To be honest, I’ve gotten kinda lazy with that shit. Life’s become *too* easy in some ways, so my developments have halted. But the. Again, this is the phase of life where external factors start to kick in (bills, work, saving for ho,e, kids, etc) so it is what it is. I still probably gotta rebalance in the other direction and find a balance to start trying harder on my self again (at least get back in to shape anyway lol. I’m not fat, but Im definitely a far cry from my shredded teenage days).

I think that’s what all of life is, struggling to balance yourself.

When you’re a kid, you freely develop your personality.
When you’re in your teens, you try to balance yourself around your peers and emulate others
When you’re in your late teens/20s, you try to find your individuality and confidence
When you’re in your late 20s, you try to find balance of comfort.

At least that’s what I’ve seen so far.

Only advice I can give you for that kinda shit is, make mistakes. Try new things. Don’t be afraid. “what if” regrets kill you worse than any kind of embarrassment ever does,
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>>20446999
yes
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I am by choice.

I've had a few very very good opportunities to lose it but I've held off every time. I have received oral though and have done other things besides sex, so I guess I have some 'experience' if that counts.

I want to save sex for marriage. I just hope it doesn't end up biting me in the ass later.
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I’ve actually reserved my virginity by choice only want to lose it to one person I know it’s very unlikely I’ll meet a virgin so I don’t care if they are
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They exist. I have a friend, he’s 6’4 very good looking, takes care of himself, is extremely outgoing, has lots of interesting hobbies like rock climbing and basketball, has no trouble attracting BEAUTIFUL women, yet he’s a virgin at 25 because he’s very religious. So yeah they do exist but he’s definitely an exception.
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I lost my virginity to a slut
and it was fucking awesome

she knew exactly what to do with me
turned me into a chad fucker

sadly I can't find other women now who know sex like she did, currently dating a sex dummy. Annoys the shit out of me and it's just so unsexy that I don't even feel like plowing her.
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>>20446910
I'm one of those guys. It's not a very popular lifestyle so I'm not out there bragging about it, but I'm Catholic and don't believe in sex before marriage, a lot of people seem shocked when they find out I'm a virgin at 19, but if the girl I marry is a virgin too than it is the best way to ensure a stable marriage.
I'm also in the army so it's a bit weird to say I'm a virgin because then people tell me I'm going to die a virgin...
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>>20446910
Unless there is a legitimate physical abnormality legitimately preventing them from having any form of sex or a mental handicap, being a virgin is a choice.

No one is stopping you from getting an escort or going to an AMP.
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>>20446910
retard
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>>20447438
desu losing it to a girl who knows what she's doing is the dream. Unfortunately I think the overlap between girls who will fuck virgins, experienced chicks, and girls interested in an ltr is pretty minimal.
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>>20447549
Not to be a dick but you should look for a wife sooner than later. I don't even wanna imagine how rare 2 post 18 virgins are in this day n age.
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>>20447619
Less rare than they were 20 years ago, despite what /pol/ would have you believe.
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>pic is of black man and white woman
kill yourself disgusting coal burning roastie
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>>20447210
You aren't a virgin, bj is a form of sex

>>20447419
Any pics of him?
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>>20447626
But no one wants a Debbie Downer with BPD.
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I used to be one of those guys until about 3 months ago.

I saved my virginity until 23 years old. I had many chances leading up to it but i kept my cool and turned em down cause i wanted to lose to it someone i could love and could love me back. I even had a naked girl in my bed and i went to bed eith my pants on. Fingered her to protect my virginity and not have to lose it.

Then i had a major cancer scare. After that my walls were kinda weakened and after a second date with a friend of a friend who had extremely similar interests with me, i gave my v card to.

It was kindof difficult logistically at first because apparently im really big down there... But other than that it went ok. For a while. Then i found out she cheated on me with two other guys(seperately) and also lied to me about her entire past and basically everything. And i found out she did the same thing to both of her exs before me. She also used "mental illness" as a weapon to take advantage of my kindness throughout the entire ordeal.

Tl dr: i was recently one of those guys op is looking for. Then i gave in and lost my virginity at 23, but i fucked up and lost it to a pathological lier and a sociopath.

Im not sure how this info is gonna help you op lol but oh well heres my story.
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>>20447549
It's because you are a retard and believe in meme graphs. Marrying a virgin in no way guarantees a stable marriage, in fact it raises the odds of you being stuck in an unhappy marriage.
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>>20446910
The only ones that exist are devout christians/mormons
T. 18 6 foot 205 Good looking and strong
>wondering if there's any female counterparts
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>>20448194
Cite source roastie faggot
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>>20448204
>good looking
You're fat.
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>>20448194
Sluts are just unstable and depressed for many reasons.
Don't need statistics for common sense but they prove it.
>fact it raises the odds of you being stuck in an unhappy marriage.
No not really.
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>>20448262
>having sex before marriage makes you a slut
This is why you will die a virgin.
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>>20447168
>saving for ho,e
typo but still accurate lmao
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>>20448266
Nice strawman, slut apologist.
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>>20448194
This.
Only experienceless virgins don't understand how important experiencing relationships and sex is to develop as a human being.
It will all come rushing in when you actually scratch the surface though and you will realize that you wasted a bunch of years and find yourself unable to function in a normal relationship.
Also, it's questionable how many of the self proclaimed volcels are actually just coping incels, with the same issues and mental baggage.
That shit does not equal stability IN THE SLIGHTEST.
If you are amish or something, sure might pan out, but if you live in a normal society, more of a massive red flag to be a virgin above 20 something than anything
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>>20448204
This. Go to church, that's how I found my man. Also the OP pic is disgusting and interracial marriage should be forbidden.
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>>20446910
They are on Mount Athos, but they aren't interested in you sweaty.
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>>20448377
Sure, "girl".
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>>20448386
Lol believe what you want idc.
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>>20448389
tits or gtfo. as it stands, you are a butthurt /pol/cel
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>>20448468
The last time I was asked to timestamp I got banned for self-posting outside of /soc/ so fuck you. And I don't owe you any kind of proof so fuck you a second time.
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>>20448482
Alright Brendan.
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>>20448374
>sex is important for development

I see a lot of people act like utter idiots with little to no control over their emotions or impulses once they meet someone they get to bang or want to bang. And when I meet women who are hooking up with multiple guys or still can't get over an ex I have to just walk away. But I'm sure these people also think their emotional baggage and unavailability makes them mature and a real catch.
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>>20448590
While you, raging all day long on a Cambodian cucumber farming forum about how you hate sex, are the epitome of maturity and intelligence.
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>>20446910
Im not a virgin but Ive only had sex with two women, the most recent being 6 years ago. Sex just isnt something I bother to chase.

Advice: losing your virginity isnt that special. Its not like the movies. You may never forget it but you wont look back on it as a glorious day
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>>20446910

In a world where teens encourage each other to be as promiscuous as possible to be cool, yes, they are rare.

Although to be fair, even though I'm a 22 year old virgin woman myself, I'd advise you to go for love instead of making things purely about his sexual history. Frankly, non-promiscuous people don't really match with (man)whore personalities anyway, so I don't think you need to worry about falling for a depraved soul whose only joy in life is fucking escorts and bimbos.

Taking care who you have a relationship with doesn't mean the number has to be 0. But waiting for that one guy you're so thrilled for that you hardly need to touch yourself to come after reading his last e-mail/text messages... damn. So worth it.
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>>20448374
>Only experienceless virgins don't understand how important experiencing relationships and sex is to develop as a human being.
You know what the good thing is? I read your whole post and it's incontrovertible that you're a simpleton.

You are proving the virgin pill is the way to go just by the virtue of holding that opinion and being yourself.
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>>20448661
>Advice: losing your virginity isnt that special.Its not like the movies. You may never forget it but you wont look back on it as a glorious day
Imo it's like most things in life, the people you do it with make it special.

For me it was special and we're still togethr. Sounds like you aren't.
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>>20448639
You sure know a lot about him after reading one post.
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>>20448726
>u r dumb because I don't agree with you
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>>20446910
Any pious Christian or catholic probably your best bet.
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>>20448175
Eh, unless my dick touches a pussy than I still consider myself a virgin.
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>>20446910
I am a virgin and have turned down girls because it didn't feel right. Not that I am waiting for marriage but waiting for the right girl. 26 years old.
We exist, but are hard to find because we don't drink a lot.
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>>20446910
I dont know how rare they are but they exist for sure. I'm one of them and a little over 25. I had women approach me but I chose not to be with them. There are things I have to do first while I'm free.
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>>20448886
Same. And that was 8 years ago and in hs so I'm still an oddball
>>20448919
Also this, same age too except I do drink a lot just don't do house parties or bars really. Not really sure if it's voluntary or involuntary at this point.
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>>20446910
I'm sorry op I'm sure you meant "one and nineteen more"
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>>20448590
Well, of course YOU wouldn't understand why this shit is important to people, never even having experienced it.
Look around pal. Listen to all the people on here talk, all these virgin men in their mid 20s.
Do these seem like people that are ready and fit for a mature relationship? No of course not.
The reason they are virgins at this age is because they have issues.
Then their lack of experience makes them even less attractive for a relationship.
You would realize how important this shit is, if you had experienced more of it.
You will sooner or later find yourself in the unfortunate position of noticing that you are MASSIVELY lagging behind everyone else in life experience.
Doesn't seem like a big deal to you right now, because you can't even fathom how much you missed.
Also this >>20448639
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>>20446910
Absolutely disgusting picture OP. Thanks for reminding me of the degeneracy of modern people.
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The real question is, are there any non virgin women specifically into virgin men, and where are they?
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>>20448726
t. virgin. Can you provide an actual argument beyond
>you is dumb because me no likey opinion
How do I know all this shit? Because I am experiencing it right now.
I have neglected building relationships and gathering experience for over 20 years of my life.
Now that I woke up and started pursuing it, you know what I found out?
That the reason people are making such a big deal out of the whole thing is, because it is COMPLICATED AS ALL FUCK.
You can't just find a girl and build a house and she pops out a few kids and then you die.
That shit takes WORK, DEDICATION and most importantly EXPERIENCE.
Again, because human relationships are COMPLICATED.
You are being very, very naive right now, I know because I was in the same boat.
Now I am literal decades behind on experience and have to catch it all up in record time.
It fucking sucks.
You will understand what I'm talking about sooner or later.
Or possibly never, unfortunately for you.
Right now, you guys are being naive and take advice from people that have never ever even experienced what they are talking about.
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>>20446966
>mgtow still bangs thotties for fun desusenpai

oh yeah they're smashing all day everyday, they're top alpha Chads those fellas
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>>20446910
>Where are the guys who are virgin by choice and not because they are socially awkward or self conscious?
I stay at home most of the time (not neet, I work remotely) and if I go out I usually have a purpose in mind and don't "hang around" anywhere.

>I know they exist but are they that rare?
Not as rare as this board will make you believe. The self-reported virginity for men in their early-20s is still above 10%, and that's subject to lowering bias in self-reports for men.
I'd gamble it's much closer to 20%.

>inb4 no it's not
Keyword: *gamble* as in: it's my personal estimate.
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All those guys who think they are handsome and what op is looking for kek
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>>20450260
I'm good on that, race mixing is filthy.
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>>20446931
>if someone's a longtime virgin and not ass fucking ugly, it's because they have shit in their head they're dealing with and aren't really hunting for it.

Very well said! I belong in that categoy, and I'm a lot less awkward than a lot of dudes I know who get laid. Busy wokring through therapy now.

>>20446935
>Expecting a guy to forego sex so you can have your cherry popped the way St. Disney proscribed
>not delusional
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>>20446910
I'm too busy working on math and my home is a thot free zone.
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>>20449565
>because it is COMPLICATED AS ALL FUCK.

How weird that IÄm pretty much in your situation - and yet I found that exactly the oppsite is true. Meet a girl, like her, she likes you back, have sex, hang out. Simple as fuck. Just don't fuck up too bad during dating and thats it.
Of course that requires you to chill out and look at women and people as people instead of the means to chase some arbitrary "I have to built a ouse, kids wife by x years or I'm a failure" normative crap that literally has no meaning to anyone with a brain and some independent thinking.
Of course, being thirsty as fuck for some woman to have your disney marriage with is bound to plunge you into a world of equally desperate single mothers and women disgusted by your neediness and lack of care for them.
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>>20446931
>If someone's a longtime virgin and not ass fucking ugly, it's because they have shit in their head they're dealing with and aren't really hunting for it.
No, it's because they pursue things they consider more important at the moment.

You wouldn't believe it but there are a lot of things more important than casual sex.
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>>20446910
Go visit Morons or Jehovah's Witnesses.
Be prepared to be part of a bizarre religion, especially if you go for JW.
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>>20450778
>le ascetic philosopher maymay

Just cutting off the essential part of yourself makes you not wiser, but a simpleton who lacks life experience.

Just look at history: none of the greatest were celibate - most were the opposite.
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>>20450948
I can feel the stupidity flowing through every syllable of that post.

No one said anything about cutting it off completely, and if anything, you're cutting off actual intimacy when you screw around. I don't know in what setting weewee in vagagoo would be a particularly powerful life experience if not for facilitaing a pair bond.
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>>20450948
High IQ people fuck less thou.
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>>20446910
Believe me or not, it's your business, but I also don't have a reason to lie here, being anonymous and all.

I'm a dude that never wanted to get into a girls pants just to satisfy me. Not because of some moral bullshit, I just don't think I'd enjoy doing it with someone I don't have plans of at the very least care for. Just don't find the appeal of it.

That being said I say to you with utmost certainty that aside from my reasoning, that being taste, you won't find anyone to date that is both virgin and older than 18. If you find them, they are either incel or have some other kind of really fucked up personality that's beyond repair.

I wouldn't even recomend searching for people that kept virgin for a reason similar to mine, because you would stay virgin yourslf possibly forever because I never found anyone like that ever. And I'm extrovert as fuck, I talk to everybody in my goddamn path. Never found one.

Extra: I would argue that your kind of mentality itself is unhealthy. Think about it consequences slowly. Because I really think you are unnecessarily closing a looooooooot of doors.
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>>20451219
But those people exist and they found each other and are now happy together, someone posted here in this thread anon. Don't discourage people just because you gave up, that's not nice.
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>>20451295
I didn't. I got a gf.
I'm just saying that limiting the spectrum that freaking much can only lead to missed oportunities
Happiness isn't directly related to the number of vags your boy's dick bounced from. The girl could very well dismiss the guy that would make her the happiest just because he had another girl before that didn't work.
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I turned down my only chance to fug because she was batshit insane. Do I count?
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>>20451314
Btw, I never said I wanted a virgin gf. Like I said, sounds unreasonably limiting.
I kept myself virgin because of preferences, but I'd neeeever recomend anyone to keep virgin for anything other than personal taste.
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I lost mine at 22. I'd had a really shitty home life, so I didn't bother with women until I moved out at 18. After that, I focused heavily on self-improvement and developing a career, while simultaneously keeping up going on regular dates. I never felt any kind of connection with the girls, but it was good practice. I had my share of opportunities to escalate, including a couple of flattering memories where I was just flat out asked to fuck. I never took any though as I was waiting to find a girl I clicked with. I eventually realised it was my best friend who held that spark for me. We began dating, she was my first kiss, and we lost our virginities to each other. We've been together ever since. I think I'm going to ask her to marry me next year.

All my friends who are still virgins but desperately want to lose it have one or more crippling flaws. I have a couple of friends who are virgins and could not care less about it, but they're both hardcore science types who love video games.
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>>20450948
greatest? by whose standards?
>Scientist and innovator, Nikola Tesla, abstained from sex for his entire life. He believed that sex would distract him from his work.
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>>20446910
Me but I'm sure you would mind my height of 5'8
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>>20451472
Tesla was bae
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I only fucked once can I still be virgin? :(
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>>20446910
I want this
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>>20452203
>fucked
>virgin
lol
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>>20446910
right here let's fuck
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>>20450948
Isaac Newton
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>>20452613
If you're that excited for sex, it's obvious you being a virgin isn't a choice.



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