[a / b / c / d / e / f / g / gif / h / hr / k / m / o / p / r / s / t / u / v / vg / vr / w / wg] [i / ic] [r9k / s4s / vip / qa] [cm / hm / lgbt / y] [3 / aco / adv / an / asp / bant / biz / cgl / ck / co / diy / fa / fit / gd / hc / his / int / jp / lit / mlp / mu / n / news / out / po / pol / qst / sci / soc / sp / tg / toy / trv / tv / vp / wsg / wsr / x] [Settings] [Search] [Home]
Board
Settings Home
/lgbt/ - Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, & Transgender


Thread archived.
You cannot reply anymore.



>be me, mostly passing twinkhon, had ffs
>get sick of being alone and download dating app
>match with cute, tall guy
>agree to go on date together
>meet at bar, he kisses me on the cheek and hugs me
>buys me a drink
>we talk for 15 mins, I notice he’s drinking his drink really fast
>says he has to go to the bathroom
>my anxiety ridden brain thinks “lol he’s probably ghosting you”
>5 minutes pass
>10 minutes pass
>15 minutes pass
>message him asking if he’s okay
>responds saying he had an emergency, and “no offence but are you trans”
>calls me inconsiderate and rude for leading him on
>says my voice, shoulders, hands, and cheekbones made it obvious

I guess I’ll just kill myself lmao
>>
lol you deserve for not disclosing before meeting up. He should have stomped you out but he was decent about it.
>>
You shoulda told him before meeting up, not doing so is how you get tran bashed

But what do I know I've never done this or used a dating site or app
>>
>>12676396
I've always met my ex's in bars/clubs, that way you can't embarrass yourself for trying to tranfish poor suckers on apps.

They know what they're getting when your first impression is reality based.
Quit being a tranovert and go to a club.
>>
>>12676405
>>12676411
I was going to tell him obviously, I just wanted to meet someone as a real girl for once and not a tranny :/
>>
>>12676396
>Cheekbones
>Prominent cheekbones are seen as very attractive in women, so much so that they actually removed some teeth before to make them more prominent

He's a fag.
>>
>>12676430
You gotta see it from their perspective, if they're not interested in trans girls and they're looking for someone to either fuck or date you're wasting their time.
>>
>>12676396
sorry but lol
>>
>>12676396
Thank god my voice passes. He was probably exaggerating about the other stuff tho
>>
>>12676396
Nah he probably just ghosted you because he smelled your AGP from a mile away you filthy transbian lmao
>>
>>12676396
The only trans women who pass are those who didn't go through male puberty. It's an irreversible process. Sorry OP, but this is just how it is. If you want to use dating apps, you'll have to disclose that you're trans, because they WILL figure it out and be disappointed or angry.
>>
>>12676396
>shoulders, hands
Have you measured these before? If so, what are they?
>>
>>12676443
Cope
>>
>>12676459
Mostly but not necessarily true. It also kind of depends on how hard puberty hits you, I’ve seen people transition in their 20’s and turn out better than ones who started much earlier. Kind of curious when OP started
>>
>>12676396
>mostly passing
Why do you date like this without FULLY passing? I'm sorry but twinkhons don't have the luxury of stealth dating.
>>
>>12676461
Since OP still doesn't pass even after FFS, you can expect a lot of masculinization on her part. She's probably not even a twinkhon, but a full hon if not for FFS.
>>
File: wtf man.jpg (31 KB, 660x574)
31 KB
31 KB JPG
>>12676458
>transbian
>dating a man
>>
>>12676477
Meta attraction. AGPs don't date men because they like them, they date them to validate their femininity.
I'm not that anon, but I've been burned by an AGP who lied about HRT changing her sexuality. Turns out it was just meta attraction and she ended up dating women.
>>
>>12676477
Meta attraction in all its non legitimacy is a Hell of a fetish fuel
It's not like there straight AGPs anyway lmao
>>
>>12676488
Based - fuck transbian AGP scum
>>
>>12676488
>>12676492
>Meta attraction
Give me a fucking break
>>
>>12676396
as much as you guys might think that you pass in pictures or online, in person it will be obvious, and its the genuine hope of normal people that you stop doing this
>>
>>12676500
I'll give you the back of my hand If you don't shut your lying AGP mouth
>>
>>12676512
It’s too late. There was a time when someone didn’t realize I was trans and started dancing with me and making out with me at a show, then we went on dates and started hanging out and watching movies at their place and it was great. Even friendships with people who don’t know that I’m trans are better. I’m addicted now.
>>
Just fuck my shit up, I'm terrified of this
Guess I'll just stay holed up forever
>>
>>12676532
If you aren't sure you pass, just tell in advance. Not that hard.
>>
>>12676396
Go on grindr if you want a guy to pretend you look like a girl.
>>
>>12676533
I'd rather not date than out myself
>>
>>12676517
There's a reason I filter every thread with any variation of "AGP", "HSTS", and "Blanchard" in it and it's not because you people are intelligent.
>>
>>12676533
>tell in advance
That is how you meet closet gays who want to fondle dick anon
>>
>>12676535
>>12676544
If you don't pass, you out yourself just by others seeing you. So the solution is to pass.
>>
>>12676539
AGP scum hate hearing the truth about themselves, is why
>>
>>12676548
And how do you know if you pass other than to not preemptively out yourself? In daily life people aren't out there to spit on you and call you a faggot tranny unless you live in some shithole.
>>
>>12676554
Legitimate question, but define shithole. There’s a lot of “heartbeat at 18 days” billboards, plus they host an entire “life parade” so I would assume this place is a decent litmus test
>>
>>12676525
>There was a time when someone didn’t realize I was trans and started dancing with me and making out with me at a show, then we went on dates and started hanging out and watching movies at their place and it was great
How long did you leave it to tell him? wtf?
I've always seemed to have dropped in a "I'm trans" when things started to get touchy, the longer you leave it the higher chance you'd be a statistic.

People like OP makes me question stories I hear about murdered trannies, makes me wonder how careless and deceptive they were, keep in mind their murder is the straw, they probably tranfished hundreds of guys before they met one that didn't like the deception.

>>12676554
>how do you know if you pass other than to not preemptively out yourself
You go outside and socialize, you know like a bar or club, drunk people tend to tell you if you look like a tranny.
>>
>>12676554
Usually you can tell when people clock you but decide not to talk. Weird looks, hushed voices, awkward expressions, etc.
Especially if you get glances in the womens toilet
>>
>>12676561
>>12676567
I realized I'm retarded and have a terribly parochial perspective - I work at a university in a blue state. My only travel is international
So I don't really know what it's like in an average conservative area

>>12676568
Hm, I see
>>
Seriously if you want a guy that doesn't care about that you need to say it first. Also there are some apps for trans dating.
>>
>>12676607
That is still how you get disqusting chasers / closet gays who want to fondle dick...
>>
Based, he should have beat your face in
>>
>>12676568
>Weird looks, hushed voices, awkward expressions
I get all those now and I still look like a cis male.
>>
>>12676674
You probably look like a fag desu
>>
>>12676688
I don't, I asked people if I looked gay and they said they never guessed.
>>
just put that you're a tran in your bio you big gay.
it's not that hard. if you're cute enough someone who's *okay* with dating a transgirl will give it a try
>>
>>12676645
Then be clear about what you dont want
>>
>>12676811
You will still get men who are very obviously porn-addicted, or as people have started calling it "trans-attracted"/GAMP. You won't get that "orientation" without being porn addicted. If he's not straight, he's a waste of time.
>>
>>12676645
>That is still how you get disqusting chasers / closet gays who want to fondle dick.

Bad news.... you are trans and people like sex organs and want to pleasure you, relationships are give and take, you take his fat cock and big load inside you and you give him some of your tiny fem cock to play with until he's ready to fuck you again.

>>12676895
>If he's not straight, he's a waste of time.

Bad news... If you find a 100% straight dude who totally doesn't want to touch your fem penis, isn't open minded or curious and seems to prefer a distressed sexually hungup transgirl over a random cis girl then you have found yourself a beta virgin who couldn't find better, congrats.
>>
>>12676567
>People like OP makes me question stories I hear about murdered trannies, makes me wonder how careless and deceptive they were, keep in mind their murder is the straw, they probably tranfished hundreds of guys before they met one that didn't like the deception.
You should question the stories, because if you dig into them, it becomes clear that the guy *did* know the murder victim was trans and was fine with it - as long as it was kept on the down low. The murder happens either because the perp's friends/family found out he was banging a tranny and started bullying him for it, or the murder had some other reason like a drug dispute or something. The "trans panic" thing is just a post hoc defense to try to get a lighter sentence. And it's a misconception that trans panic is a get out of jail free card. At best you're looking at hard time, just that you'd have hope of getting out some day. A good prosecutor will be able to weed out transphobic jurors who might be inclined to engage in jury nullification.
I'm sure there are a few cases where a guy didn't realize someone was trans and then actually did snap after finding out, but those are relatively rare.
And "deception" is a loaded term because trans people's existence isn't deceptive. If you denied being trans when asked, that's deception.
>>
>>12677459
>relationships are give and take
>and you give him some of your tiny fem cock to play with until he's ready to fuck you again.
I really hate this argument. If a biological woman had a tumor from cancer that a man was attracted to, she would have every right to have it removed and ignored. Why should I have to be touched on an area that gives me extreme distress to the point of wanting to die? A relationship will never work or be good if I cry myself to sleep each night.

I'll rather take the beta virgin any day.
>>
>>12676405
>>12676411
>>12676428
Fuck off, a girl doesn't have to disclose her life story on the first date. Would a girl have to disclose they're infertile or have PCOS or something prior to the first date? No that's stupid. The only reason you want girls to tell their dates they're trans before the first fucking date is because you don't view transwomen as women and therefore you're assholes and not worth listening to.
>>
>>12677774
Yes. I resent the implication that we're being deceptive just by existing as who we are, that our lives are somehow a lie or a falsehood.
>>
>>12676488
you really shouldn't spew about things you have no real knowledge of
>>
>>12677774
Yeahh, keep telling yourself that.
>>
>>12676396
Based Chad Trannybash Tinderman
>>
>>12677587
> Your murderer will probably go to jail, so it's all okay.
>>
>>12676554
just girlmode

you'll realise when someone is clocking you. it's really not that hard unless you're delusional
>>
straight guy here (into girls and traps), in an ideal world a tranny wouldn't need to disclose her life story (and men don't read tinder profiles anyway). if you're interested in someone, but will not fuck as soon you discover it's a tranny it's all psychological

op is actually lucky the dude just ghosted her, some get beaten up
>>
>>12677719
>If a biological woman had a tumor from cancer that a man was attracted to
Perfect reasoning right there, real talk

>A relationship will never work or be good if I cry myself to sleep each night.
Exactly!
Get your shit together before you start dragging others into you misery, why would you want to add problems to someone elses life like that? wtf.
Get srs or something if it's gonna be a barrier to your relationships, don't burden others unnecessarily, seriously.

>I'll rather take the beta virgin any day.
Birds of a feather.

Real talk.
>>
>>12678105
It is abusive to force me to like something that feels like my body getting rape. Why is it so important to you and others to be able to touch something that will cause me distress untill the day I get SRS? If I do, because let's face it, it is expensive and there are a lot of risks with every surgeon. I will never understand why it needs to be touched and can't just be ignored.
>>
>>12678131
>t is abusive to force me to like something that feels like my body getting rape
Exactly!
Why risk sex with someone when a simple miss touch could rape you.

>Why is it so important to you and others to be able to touch something that will cause me distress
It has nothing to do with the touching, it's the underlying broken psychology and the inviting of another person into your life that probably doesn't themselves have the correct tools to deal with such an issue, you're encouraging something that can damage not just your psyche but your partners as well, hence why I said get your shit together, be a whole person before entering into a relationship, your future partner deserves that.
>>
>>12677774
It does help though. I went on a date with a guy and on the first date he disclosed to me that he had experienced dysphoria in the past and had been on hrt for some months. He just thought I needed to know. At first it scared me and felt like a red flag. But thinking of how he told me something hugely personal that only his best friends and family knows on the first date also felt like something good: he trusted me enough to tell this on the first date. That pushed me to keep pursuing the relationship. Now he's my qt twink bf (who still had a tendency to crossdress, but I don't mind)
>>
>>12677774
>Would a girl have to disclose they're infertile or have PCOS or something prior to the first date

If there was a way for a man to sniff out infertility or PCOS on the first date, those women could expect to get ditched right away as well. The fact that trannies are easier to clock does not mean damaged women are acceptable.
>>
>>12677774
You guys are literally putting yourself in danger by doing this. If you don’t disclose this to one wrong dude he could react really violently.
>>
>>12676396
Poor little fucker, though you really ought to state that you're trans on dating apps.
>>
>>12677928
How do I know they're not clocking me or I'm just autistic
>>
>>12676525
Its different if you meet people IRL and they don't get that you're trans. On a dating app, that's a whole different story.
>>
>>12680209
We put ourselves in danger by exposing it also. Its almost as if we aren't the problem and violent males are.
>>
>>12680275
>We put ourselves in danger by exposing it also.
That depends on where you live. I really think you should out yourself, but surprise trannies do not excuse violent behaviour.
>>
rekt
>>
>>12676396
He should’ve beaten the shit out of you
>>
>>12677774
>No that's stupid. The only reason you want girls to tell their dates they're trans before the first fucking date is because you don't view transwomen as women
No one is this stupid?
I seriously believe /lgbt/ has the lowest IQs on this whole site, I'm gonna make this a meme.

You all provide lots of funny content for my minds subscribers though, keep it up.
>>
>>12680676
this, unironically
>>
>>12676396
Literally just fucking lmao
>>
>>12680796
you know she's right though



Delete Post: [File Only] Style:
[Disable Mobile View / Use Desktop Site]

[Enable Mobile View / Use Mobile Site]

All trademarks and copyrights on this page are owned by their respective parties. Images uploaded are the responsibility of the Poster. Comments are owned by the Poster.