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lgbt anons, post stories of people who really hurt you badly, do you hate the people/person who hurt you? could you ever forgive them? what did they do to hurt you so badly? do you ever see yourself recovering or just getting worse as the days goes by?
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>>11532601
My mom by birthing me
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>>11532601
my mom
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>>11532601
my mom
she‘s manipulative, bipolar and everything is about her
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I don't like my parents because they chose to ignore my problems than help me deal with them.
The damage has already been done so holding a grudge won't help and they won't care.
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>>11532601
Yes I hate heterosexuals.
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My parents divorced and pulled me out of school because neither of them wanted to fulfill the obligation of driving me to school while also holding a full time job. Now I'm a 21 year-old tranner with the intelligence of a ten year-old. I've tried going to adult learning classes but the damage to my development is too great for me to learn much of anything.
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>>11532626
Oh god, ya same. I was depressed and suicidal by the end of highschool. Failing classes and had no future. All I did was hide in my room and no one cared. My dad was a depressed alcoholic who ended up ruining my family and left and my mom couldnt do anything. Now she doesnt accept my transitioning or anything I do and its further ruined my family, as I'm leaving to move in with my fiance she also rejects. She treats me like shit then 2 hours later act like nothing happened and we're a perfect happy family, then gets mad when I call her out on it and plays the victim
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A close person to me hurt me very much. I feel like an idiot because I should probably be hating them and trying to forget about their existence, but I just can't stop missing them.
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>>11532732
what is it with trans girls and narcissistic mothers?
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>>11532781
is it someone you had a crush on?
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>>11532608
>>11532613
>>11532620
>>11532626
I'm sorry to hear that anons.
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I had a crush on a guy friend for many years in highschool. He flirted with me a lot as we got older and I thought he felt the same way, so I told him how I felt. He told me I was disgusting and that he'd never feel that way, and he stopped talking to me.
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>>11533389
Damn, that's harsh!
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>>11533303
Is that really a thing? Huh
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>>11532601
I subject myself to all the hardcore right podcasts talking about homosexuals because i want to listen to it all and consider everything even thought sometimes i can barely respond to it at all
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A guy did a bait and switch on me and pulled the condom off before he fucked my ass. I didnt find out until much too late when I realized i had cum in my ass. Im pretty sure he did PiV too with the condom off because I wouldnt have noticed.
He also wouldnt stop kissing me, even though I told him I never liked it.
We hung out after the sex was finished and he was nice. After he left I showered and found out and now he wants to see me again.

I havent responded and im not going to. Damn him to hell. I was so anxious for weeks because I thought id caught something from him. I went and got tested but still-ive never had an std and ill be damned if some tinder fuck gives me my first one.

Ive been so unable to trust. Im ftm if that wasnt obvious.
I suppose I should be happy that the men im interested in are interested in me, but that was the worst experience ever.
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>>11532601
Uncle bad touch
It has made me into a bitter person. I would kill him if I had the option. I be nice to my co-workers to cope with my sadness the nicer I am the sadder I am on the inside. They all think im a sweet heart. I don't feel like a sweetheart anons.
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>>11532601
An asshole at Gamestop who kept misgendering me.
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My mother abused me and me siblings non stop. Emotionally mentally and physically torturing us every day. I can’t forgot their screams as my mom beat them. I was out of my house a block away and I still heard my little sister shrieking at the top of her lungs. I was only 8. She’s made all of us attempt suicide. We escaped her years ago but she still tries to contact us, it sickens me how she acts as if she never did anything wrong.
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>>11534039
I'm sorry to hear that sir.
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>>11534064
i know its plebbit but r/raisedbynarcissists might help you cope
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>>11534066
IT'S MA'AM
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>>11532601
my mother
she is stubborn, closed minded, guilts everybody in my family into doing what she wants, weilds religion as a bat (doesnt work but she does it anyways), and very much the head of the house.
She is the type of mom that nothing is ever good enough for, through middle and high school she was scrutinizing my grades like I was on trial, if I didnt get an A she needed to know why. She's the kind of mom that won't really do anything to you outright, but she manages to make her disappointment is debilitating. Don't upset her, because she can argue for hours, even when you are trying to swiftly end the conversation by *agreeing* with her she will go on about it for an extra hour for a victory lap or some shit
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>>11532732
>She treats me like shit then 2 hours later act like nothing happened and we're a perfect happy family, then gets mad when I call her out on it and plays the victim
this
this happens every time after an argument with mine(>>11534141) too
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>>11534064
>Emotionally mentally and physically torturing us every day. I can’t forgot their screams as my mom beat them. I was out of my house a block away and I still heard my little sister shrieking at the top of her lungs.
Why the hell did no-one intervene?
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>>11532601
All feminists hurt all AMABs.
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>>11533965
men are garbage, get married unless you want to be in porn or sex work
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>>11532601
A transgirl I thought was nice and could help me transition actually was backstabbing bitch. I got depressed and gave up on transition for good few years.
Jokes on her, I'm now a cute passing girl with a bf and getting SRS soon.
It's sad she was this broken.
你好窓付き
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>>11535635
>A transgirl I thought was nice and could help me transition actually was backstabbing bitch.
What did she do? Why?
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>>11535711
Said some mean things behind my back, that threw me into depression. She was just like that, hating everyone and everything.
Also a pedo predator, after being abused a lot through her life.
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Ever since the divorce my mother have had a ton of bf, but finally found one that lasted more than a month. They've been together for for 3 years now. 2018 on Christmas eve, he proposed to her. All this sound pretty good, which is essentially is.

- My problem -
When we were all living together me and my sisters room was far from my parents room. I never heard them fuck. So when we moved, and I was mostly at my moms place, rooms right besides each other, I could hear everything. I hear her have sex with countless men. When she started her relationship, which lasted, she decided to move in with him. It was quit far from my home town, and I still had school, so my dad's place became ideal and I started living there instead. After 1 years silence, I heard the familiar sound of my mom's havy breaths. Its a phone call, and I can clearly hear her doing all sorts of stuff in the back ground. She's been doing this ever since.

I know it's not the most serious of troubles, but it still hurts. It reminds me way too much of the divorce.
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(I'm trans, prefacing due to story)
My ex. She was amazing for the first year. Incredibly supportive, helped me so much in confidence and everything. Then weird shit started happening. Kept complaining about things I never done, hypocritical arguments, shouting and yelling abuse constantly. All while we moved in. I tried so hard to make the relationship work but she never did. Never cared. Gaslighting, manipulation, isolating me from friends, making me believe all sorts of things.
Started commenting on our height difference, how we're not the right fit (things she said she never cared about before)
Then literally while she was breaking up with me, she said "I can't wait to finally go down on a girl again"

I've been single 4-5 years now. I haven't searched and I don't want to. I still don't believe anyone would truly be truly happy with me being anything but a consolation prize.

oh and my very messy rebound guy literally raped me one time so that was all I needed
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>>11535843
Wait what, she phones you so you can listen to her sex?

And why did you and your sister share a room?
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>>11535878
Well, she talks about everyday stuff, and thinks I don't know what's going on. I instantly recognise the sounds.

Why me and my sister shared a room? How is that a question... That just happens sometimes. Not everyone get their own room growing up.
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>>11535919
She phones about everyday stuff during sex?!

And are you ftm?
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>>11536021
Yeah. She does.
I'm not. Did I come of as ftm?
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>>11536054
The heck, how can she concentrate on the sex? What do you even say to her in a phone call like that?

And you didn't, it just would of explained the same room as your sister.
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>>11532601
>do you hate the people/person who hurt you?
more than anything
>could you ever forgive them?
probably but i don't want to
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>>11539248
oof what did they do?
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>>11534229
In my opinion society is emotionally numb to the plights of strangers, especially when it's in person. We see horrible things on the news and internet all day, and we try to help and spread awareness in an almost robotic way (Share on facebook! Sign a petition! Call your representative!) from a distance, so that has become the norm. Now today when the average person sees a stranger suffering in person, the selfish fear of getting hurt or being overly inconvenienced takes over. There's no barrier or distance in the real world like there is online, and people never learned how to stand up to others in person. Especially when the school system teaches people to not stand out and to defer to authority over handling things yourself.
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>>11535862
I'm in a committed relationship myself just to preface this, but you sound like you need a friend. I can give you my Discord if you want.
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My mom and my ex

It took me a lot of my adulthood to recover from my mom but I'm over it pretty much. I get trolled when I read or hear about people having loving, proper moms but I'm letting it go. She is a terrible person and is estranged from 3/4 of her kids so that comforts me some that it's not just that I'm queer, if I was a cis heterosexual man I'd like hate her for all the abuse anyway. She fucked me up good and I finally let her go in 2018.

My ex I am over. I'm better off. While I was going on a date with a seriously hot guy and getting compliments from people online I saw a thread where she was talking all suicidal and talking about never passing because of her awful bone structure. I did awful things in that relationship but so did she, the difference is she is fucking crazy and has deleted all those things from memory and even told others I did things that she exclusively did. Throughout our relationship she made up so many fictional details about her life when online and lied extensively about who she was or what she looked like to people, when called out on it she would go "IT MAKES ME HAPPY" and guilt me. Now that we're through she has used the memory of me to extensively talk about being a victim using things that never happened. She calls me a sociopath and a rapist. During the first 4 months I really contemplated whether I was a sociopath or not. She would rip my hair out and when I begged for anything other than that, I'd rather be hit or stabbed or anything other than having my hair ruined, she would flip it on me and say my hair was thick and luscious and how I "have enough of it", because she was entering male pattern baldness before hrt and had mega thin hair that looked like shit. I could go on and on about physical damage I endured. I don't care about any of this anymore. My future looks decent and hers is terrible. I'm not afraid of being noticed by her online anymore.

These two people, I no longer hate but I do not forgive them.
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>>11532601
>Be boymoding twinkhon, 24
>Life was falling apart and needed a distraction
>Install Grindr to distract myself
>Laying in bed late afternoon on the last day of November, recieve a message from a guy my age
>Immediately something about the way it's written grabs my attention
>Start talking about our lives, only an hour in and really starting to feel a connection.
>He sends a face pic, looks super gay but in the cute masc way
>Go to meet him the next day, laugh when he comes to the door with a fish net top and covered in glitter, he tells me I'm pretty when I smile
>Sitting in the lounge room we get along almost as easily as if we'd known each other for years
>Makeout and spend the rest of the day stuck to each other like glue, fixated on each other
>Every second day for the rest of December we spend together, dates to the movies, to the park, to get chinese food and to play games. Utter bliss! "I really, really like you." He says, as he strokes my cheek.
>Then 2 days before New Years he askes for space to deal with family stuff
>I panic, stupidly. I keep sending him messages, start hassling him, asking if he no longer likes me.
>He cancels our next date, he's sick but of course I thought he was cheating on me. Offer to make him soup and take care of him for the day, he declines. Hassle him more and more, why can't he just spend time with me?
>He snaps, "I think it's best we don't talk anymore, I enjoyed our time together but it's over."
>We go from 110% to nothing. I'm left completely devestated.

I don't hate him, infact I think I love him and I regret that in that lovely December month the best I could tell him was "I really like you too."
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>>11539277
invalidating, gatekeeping
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Pretty much all passing trannys on here that develop sociopathic tendencies due to the attention they get on this board and other places and feel the need to completely shit on people that have it worse than them.

And I hate the people that enable them just as much.
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>>11539436
That's so bittersweet anon, I'm really sorry that happened. It sucks when the person you have strong feelings for isn't in an emotional place to reciprocate them, even if they want to. It's so easy to pressure them because you want so desperately to be loved it, and when it winds up pushing them away it's devastating and you wind up with the opposite of what you wanted.

You're a good person, don't worry it was just an unfortunate situation. The take away is that next time when someone needs space to deal with their problems, it's best to give it to them at least for a while. At that point it's up to you if and when to move on if they leave you hanging for a long time. Good luck in your next endeavor in love, friend <3
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>>11539490
Thank you for writing that, it's so nice to hear it given everything is so recent.
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>>11533660
What podcasts do you listen? (I'm very curious)
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>>11534039
Kek
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My mom's friend is TERF-like, and while I can't say I can confirm she's a TERF as she's never said she's gender critical, she identifies as a feminist and she evidently doesn't like transgenders. Let's just put it that way.
My mom told this friend of hers that I was trans without my knowledge, and the next day her friend came over to our house, and didn't say anything about me being transgender. She asked to go for a walk with me, and then when we were alone walking outside, she was saying very strange things like "You have the most feminine walk I have ever seen" which is not something that has ever been noted by another person. She also slapped my ass for some reason. Very strange because I was only 16 and she was in her 30s. Later we were home and she gave me a pink women's sweater that was probably too small for me. I didn't want to wear it so I just held it, and then my brother snatched it and put it on, because it's part of his humor I suppose.
"You're wearing men's clothes and you're wearing women's clothes! Is there something I'm not being told here?" she said. My two brothers who were there went poker face and looked at me, and one of them said that I was transgender. She said that we should all go upstairs and that I was going to have a talk with my mom.
She started arguing against it, saying that I was "a sister to her" despite us rarely having talked to each other et al. She said I was "a beautiful woman" (a fib desu as I was already manly before transition, possibly having PCOS) and just confused. She, in front of my family, asked if I watched porn. I said no, which was the truth, because I didn't actually watch porn, but she insisted that "everyone watches porn". She kept saying it over and over until I gave in and pretended that I did, and she asked me what kind and what fetishes I have, in front of my family mind you. She kept repeating that I was a beautiful woman like it was a mantra. I was severely annoyed and couldn't take it anymore.
CONT'D
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>>11539724
CONT'D
I stood up from my seat and told her that she needs to stop and leave the house. She peppersprayed me right then and there. My mom told her that she needs to go home too and so she left.
I told my mom about it and she said that she had told her the night before she came for a visit that I'm trans. She knew the whole time when she called me feminine and gave me a women's sweater.
She hasn't been over since, at least.
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>>11539724
Use paragraphs. Reddit spacing is a meme propagated by ACTUAL newfags
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>>11539739
Reddit spacing looks like this.

There is an extra space between the paragraphs.
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>>11532601
>meet guy online
>start talking and just hit it off immediately
>he just seems super into me hitting on me and complimenting me
>as soon as they see my picture they say they’d never believe I was trans
>we start flirting and I fall for him hard
>we spend almost every minute of every day talking and listening to music
>totally just obsessed with them
>eventually they grow distant and start talking less and less
>ask them about it and they just say they want space
>eventually get into an argument about it and he just blocks me on everything
>eventually months later he messages me and asks me to join some record thing he’s making
>get pissed he’s just ignoring everything we had and I block him

He always seemed to just want me to stroke his ego I genuinely can’t tell what was real about us and what was just his lying he also told me he was trans but then totally back peddled on it all of it really hurt me and I still to this day wonder if they were manipulating me or if I’m just a insane needy bitch



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