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What's something you're struggling with?
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>>51996394
You fucks shitting up the board
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my narcissistic desire to be adored is fighting my avoidant personality disorder
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>>51996394
My butt is going tragically unsmelled. Help a brother out?
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I want a home gym but the bros at the gym make it so tough. I was playing with the shopping cart and ideas for the last 3 weeks on my work trip. Then i get back after being gone only so short and was greeted so warmly by everyone. Would suck to lose that
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>>51996407
Damn if only you had something else to do
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>>51996394
Lifting my giant penis
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I fucked my best friends ex and ruined my whole friend group
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>>51996432
Community is important my guy, why do you want a home gym?

>>51996412
Is the narcissism diagnosed or are you just anxious?
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I got fit so I wouldn't want to kill myself.
It's not working
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>>51996527
same here homie haha, i can bench over 3pl8 now but i still want to die

>>51996485
its not an actual disorder, im just conflicted between wanting people to like me and the fact that im a loser who hates most people
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>>51996527
Have you seen a psych? Are you medicated?
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>>51996544
It's not a conflict, the two are related - you have low self worth and that bleeds into and infects your interactions with others and the world around you.
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>>51996527
time to an hero dumb weeb
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>>51996569
i think you're right man, but no matter what i do i dont value myself
how do i fix it?
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>>51996394
Trying to learn to like SFV but it's so fucking bad I can't stomach it. Here's hoping VI is much better I still believe in Capcom.
Oh and I guess lifting but whatever.
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>>51996394
The horrible waste of my 30 years. 11,000 days lads. What could have been done with those.
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>>51996394
I made a tough decision to let all the friends who were treating me like shit go. 5 years, and its gone.

The thing that hits the hardest, is that none of them have even asked whats going on/if im all right.

makes me realize i made the right choice, but.. fuck it hurts man.
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>>51996578

This isn’t bodybuilding dot com dipshit.

You seem to be lost
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>>51996394
im not really a big fan of negroid culture, i mean its ok but its just not my thing and i dont feel as if its a superior culture or warrants promotion by chews
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Just hit a 260lb overhead press, but still feel like dying
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>>51996594
No one ever improved at anything by not doing it.

See a psych. Take control of your life. Think about how much of your day you spend bettering yourself/improving, and how much of it you spend waiting to get home. Listen to podcasts, read shit that's interesting to you. Accept that everyone is as lost as you are and the only way to remedy that is by continuously seeking to improve yourself. Realise that not doing anything about your circumstances is a self-fulfilling prophecy, and that you're sinking deeper and deeper into a pit by not doing anything about it. Realise that in an ultimately meaningless life, the only thing stopping you from living a life worth living is you. Accept that it will be a slow process. Realise that the only difference between you and the 'successful' people you know is that instead of wallowing in their own perceived failures, those successful people got pissed off enough to start doing something about it.
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>>51996669
How about you spend the next 11,000 days making me the happiest woman in the world. I love you. Will you marry me?
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im so fucking lonely
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>>51996394
Having trouble believing fun wholesome relationship where both partners love each other immensely still exist
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>>51996669
No matter, they've brought you to where you currently are - are you going to waste the next 30? Or are you going to do something about it?

>>51996670
Have you ever asked whats going on with them/if they're all right?
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>>51996708
What is stopping you from joining a local mixed whatever sports group? What chances are you giving yourself to meet people?
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>tfw floated through life never having to be disciplined to get by
>now 24
>graduated college 3 years later than I should have
>moved across the country to live with family
>now a NEET for the first time in my life
>still go to the gym religiously its the only source of structure in my life
>I try to stay on track but constantly get distracted/sidetracked on 4chan or other bullshit

I'm looking for work but the futures very uncertain how do you deal with this brahs? How do I into discipline? I've been waking up early, meditating, going to the gym, but when it comes to applying to jobs, self learning I just can't into it, it all seems hopeless
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i have extreme depression and ptsd and every day is a nightmare
honestly just want to anhero but its very difficult without the right tools and i dont want to be a vegetable
lost all my fatass lard (160lb), lost khv card, graduated college, and it didnt help, none of it did, im just sick of this planet lads
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>>51996394
My fiancee left me and I'm starting to feel like right shit. On the bright side I hit 50 pushups x 3 sets.
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>>51996746

See a psych, you have internalised a toxic perception of yourself that cripples your ability to act affirmatively. Above all else, speak to your family, speak to career consultants - you are trying to do this all alone, but there are a near infinite range of people that are a phone call away that can help guide/direct you.
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>>51996394
I want to fucking kill my coworker

he's the biggest fucking asshole i have ever met and makes my daily grind so fucking miserable


i don't hate many people but he's on the list
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>>51996757
Speak to family or if they're not around, seek counselling. Asking for help is the the most alpha thing one can do.
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>>51996727
I go to college and have had a hobby well over 10 years
I go to the gym 5 times a week

Everyone I meet always seems so distant, they’ll say hello and goodbye and some small talk in between but no bro conversations or anything close. Yeah I’m pretty autistic but I’m not completely socially inept. I just want to be hugged
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>>51996551
no, but alot of people seem to think I might be a psychopath, I'm just sad and I don't want them to see it.
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>>51996815
already in therapy but thanks for the (you)
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>>51996757
What’s your favourite part of the day?
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I got rejected by what's probably the most attractive girl I've ever seen months ago and I'm still not completely over it.

I'm currently trying with a different girl and my degree of enthusiasm is much lower. This girl is maybe a 7 on a really good day while the first one is a 9 on her worst day.

Through some introspection I realized that it's not even the attractiveness itself that's so important to me. It's the (hypothetical, for now) social validation of having an insanely attractive partner and making others envious.

There's also the fact that there are much better girls in my friend group (both looks and personality-wise) who I'd rather be dating but they're taken.

Am I a narcissist or what?
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>>51996801
Thanks brah, I needed to hear this. Been trying to stay positive but its hard being out of school for the first time and the path isn't laid out for you
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>>51996838
not sure if this counts but dreaming about having a gf who loves me, pretty rare occasion tho, only time i ever feel anything good without drugs (which im off now besides psych meds)
otherwise its probably eating or driving home after the gym with the windows down
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Kicking myself in the ass, wondering if I actually found love and had a moment to get it and blew it because I'm broken, afraid, and was a retard about it.
What makes it worst was some of my shroom trips I had during this time was pointing out a lot about this idea in my head with this person, now I'm questioning about my spirituality.
Feels bad man.
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>>51996817
This fucking cuts deep.
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>>51996817
The intense feeling of wanting to connect that you feel is relatable, but you'll never experience that with someone in a short space of time. If nothing in your life up until this point has helped you meet your 'tribe', and if your comfy routine isn't addressing your loneliness, maybe something needs to change?
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>>51996673
Suck dog dick bruh. YOU appear to be lost. REDDIT is that way. REDDIT. Ayup, I said it. Rebuttal?
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>>51996822
Why not? How can you expect to improve and feel better if you don't give yourself any chance to do so?
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>>51996935
>>51996951

How can you expect someone to love if you can't love yourself? You're focusing on the wrong thing. How you perceive yourself manifests in your interactions with others, would you date you the way you present to others? Probably not. Stop focusing on how you're perceived and stop trying to read other people's minds. Focus on the basics in your life, cooking, cleaning, learning, doing things you enjoy. Direct your love inwards and other people will start to notice - I can promise you that.
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I'm so starved for romantic love that when I get any sort of affection from a girl (say, a hug from a friend) I immediately develop a tiny crush on them and begin fantasizing about dating them

KHV, obviously
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>>51996884
You don't get given a secret pill or something that makes you a functional adult, leaving school is like a second rebirth and that can be cripplingly scary. You can either succumb to it and sink into a hole, or start doing something, fucking anything, to progress towards a life worth living.
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>>51996865
Same boat man, I'm still not over her 7 years later. Only time I've ever been in love, and now I'm like 3 years deep in a relationship in which I'm just kind of on autopilot. I lift in hopes of attracting a girl somewhere near the quality of my oneitis.
Once you've smelled ribeye steak sizzling on the grill, it's hard to care about Steak-ums
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>>51997012
i am pretty good at masking, i just isolate too much because of what happened to me
not that desperate for love desu i just know it feels good but it always goes away in the end, just like everything
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>>51996817
> they’ll say hello and goodbye and some small talk in between but no bro conversations or anything close.
I know the feeling.
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Nutted in my shorts yesterday.

At the gym.
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>>51997045
>7 years

Jesus Christ, I felt this post. Good luck anon.

By the way this was worded, I take it you were at least dating for some time, right? I never even got anywhere with mine.
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>>51996394
Rugby got cancelled for the season. That was my only place of social interaction.

Also I'm struggling with food poisoning.
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>>51996482
I'm in a broken up friend group because of a similar situation
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>>51996394
Waking up early.
I literally get up, turn off my alarm across the bedroom and come back to sleep and I don't even fucking remember doing this...
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>>51997012
I have heard that before, love yourself first, a bit challenging to do when you come from a bad upbringing with two adults that don't know what love is and can't even take care of themselves. Still learning to love myself, though I'll admit I am better than my past self that's for sure, especially when I didn't want to be fat anymore.

> Direct your love inwards and other people will start to notice - I can promise you that.

And that's my problem right there, I do enjoy the things I worked on, I guess I'm not trying hard enough Anon. It's just that I thought I actually did attract someone and I retardly turn them away because I got scared and fucked up badly.
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>>51996394
I want to try a pr in bench press but i don't have a spotter
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>>51997238
What is your situation like anon?
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>>51996394
Trying no porn, no fap
Only hard thing in my life
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>>51996407
damn, do you really not have anything better to do with your life?
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>>51996706
gay
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>>51996706
>>51997463
but also based
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>>51996935
Make that dream come true.
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I have trouble approaching strangers in social places because I have a leave-me-alone-thanks personality and I assume that others are the same
I’m generally not too miffed if someone approaches me, strangely enough
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>>51996394
don't feel like any of my friends really like me and I feel like I'm going to die alone, but I'm only 19 so it should get better
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>>51997286
Damn, putting the alarm across the room didn't work for you? You'll have to get one the apps that make you do math.
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>>51996394
Stupid people and bad drivers.
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>>51996527

>>51996551

Don't take meds.

https://youtu.be/c95sfyv-M8M
https://youtu.be/2y08RvHpOkw
https://youtu.be/_TAt6kTlKAo
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>>51997363
I like them all too much to pick a side, but a lot of bridges got burned so there's no salvaging it
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>>51996394
I'm very charming and funny person, but not around girls. So fit should I go full homo or try harder whit girls? Ps: turns out I'm also gay magnet.
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>>51997480
if i dont kms first i will try
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>>51997529
Burn the bridges. Build new ones.
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>>51996670
Good on you. I did the same thing, and it was a great decision.
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>>51997560
Like your life depends on it, man

>>51997336
Also I forgot to mention that I see this person a lot in my life and it's making me want to leave because I can't face them for what I've done to them, hurting them, lying to them and the idea of them being with someone else hurts because deep down I actually love them and I'm scared of it.
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I need a fucking job.
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>>51996527
Go see a therapist or something, bro.
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>>51996394
>Into girl
>A lot
>6'1 attractive white male
>/fit/ helped and I don't have autism
>girl is a friend of a friend
>she also has boyfriend in the same industry as me
>initially just want to fuck because I'm incredibly superficial and have attachment issues thanks to 12 years in fostercare.
>we talk every day
>she takes me out to lakefront alone for bubbletea, she knows im single at this point
>do this multiple times
>she asks to clean my apartment with me alone before a pregame on the weekend
>goes good, she brings me sick food.
>confront her about the optics and circumstances she's putting me in, despite her knowing im into her.
>we take some time apart but I cant keep myself away from her even when with friends, we just hit it off that well
>time goes by until we go to a party
>both drunk
>I lay everything out
>she says she likes me and we get close, cuddle, lots of sexual tension but nothing.

I'm am in the worst emotional limbo of my life.
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>>51997725
Get a fucking grip nigger. The game is still on.
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>>51997725
No ring is free game Anon, go get her.
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>>51996527
same
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>>51997737
>>51997750

Worst part. The guy reminds me exactly of me before I started lifting, skinny, scrawny, just a good jawline.
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>>51997771
He's the one who should be fucking panicking.
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>>51996960
I'm glad there was no response to this
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>>51996717
yes, for an entire month they all decided to ignore me. First day I saw something was up and messaged. no response
>>51997669
its sad that i hope you are right
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>>51996394
finding purpose in life, i'm going through the motions working a job I hate.
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>>51996394
fat fetishism and shitty squat form
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>>51997780
Thanks man, protein and good lifts upon you.
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>>51996394
as a noob several

>high bar squat
>front rack
>pancake stretch
>opening hips
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>>51996759
Based, now shoot for 3 sets of 15 pullups
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>>51997811
We're all gonna make it, brother.
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>>51997725
Sounds like you should have/could have fucked her ages ago bro just initiate it your next chance or dont.
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>>51996407
/thread
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>>51997834
Right fucking here. Just smash the bitch and keep her.
People who wait for life to give them what they want get old. People who take what they want get it.
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>>51997834
I have tried everything.

Going right in for it all.

Getting drunk and going in.

I know she's into my body so try and flaunt it, took a shower when she was over went towel out and everything.

Could go into detail of all the sexual tension stuff, but her defense is fierce.
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>>51997817
Beat that, I'm at 30 x 3. Haven't done less than 25 per since 6th grade.
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>>51996527
I thought it would work too
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How do people stick to one or two hobbies? Everytime I get into an interest, I tend to stop after a few months for something new.
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>>51997091
I dated my oneitis for 1.5 years (we broke up about 3.5 years ago) and I've come to terms with the fact that there won't ever be a day where she doesn't pop into my mind a few times. I would have much rather never gotten anywhere with her and it just been a fantasy that would have died down eventually. Anyone who says "its better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all" can go fuck themselves
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>>51997900
Same as the gym, set a goal for yourself within that hobby.
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>>51996394
Trying to get my ass eaten. How the fuck do you even navigate the waters to reach that sexual milestone?
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>>51997900
Try until you find something that you TRULY enjoy. Then you're gonna have a hard time not doing it.
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>>51997895
If you can only do 50x3 pushups but can do 30x3 pullups you must look like a fucking cobra
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>>51996865
Having a girl as an accessory is a sure way to fuck yourself especially if you are weak willed. U don't want someone telling u what to do and shit and having to meet her family and having to hang out with her friends fuck that. Everyone wants the arm candy but it's hard work at the end of the day
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>>51997077
I'm jealous been trying to no hand nut for like 2 years now and I feel like I'm about to have a heart attack after an intense porn no touch gooning session
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>>51997795
Be thankful they're not a major part in your life any more anon
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>>51996394
Fucking binge eating
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>>51996746
Going to the gym is great, but seriously seek help as soon as you can. I've been down a similar path, and it got worse to where I didn't even have the motivation to workout anymore. :\
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>>51996715
me too anon
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bump
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>>51996817
This is me on a spiritual level. I think it’s because I come across as aloof to people.
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Cancer. I've stuck to my same lifting/cardio routine and while its gotten harder, I think it's helping me stay "normal" longer.
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>>51996394
I have been yo-yo dieting literally every week for the past 4-5 months and I'm literally exactly where I started. Haven't gained or lost any weight and I feel like I'm going through some sort of breakdown or I have a genuine food addiction or something
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>>51997953
Nah just bad shoulders under pushing pressure, blew my right shoulder out pitching and dislocated my left collarbone in a car crash. It's all proportionate but it'll be years still before my shoulders fully heal.
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I’m 28 years old, I was a suicidal 18 year virgin when I first started posted on 4chan. My mother
died of cancer and my father committed suicide. I was shunted around from family member to
family member and in social care for a long time when I was a teenager.

I used to think there was no hope, I expressed this to doctors and then just left them when I felt
they couldn’t treat me. Ten years later at 28 I’m in a healthy and happy relationship with my
girlfriend. I’ve had a lot of short and long term friendships and relationships. I have lived in three
different countries and travelled on five continents. More often than not I’m happy.

There is no secret or magic pill I can impart on you. I did everything from hitchhiking to working
on boats to figure out what the fuck I was doing with my life. My biggest advice is to just keep living to accrue the wisdom you need to get better. Work on each part of your life one bit at a time and over the years you will find contentment. I’m not saying there won’t be any bad days because there will be, I’m having one right now. But if you are in the position I was in ten years ago then there is still hope for you. Thanks for listening.

Tl;dr: Just keep going
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>>51996394
Twisted my knee while swimming in a river and it was embarrassing. I've got geezer knees with previous indention fractures and tendon issues with them.
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>>51998360
Thank you for the inspiration Anon
>Current 18yo virgin loser
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>>51998156
In high school people would always be surprised I wasn't some retard. Even had my French teacher tell me I was surprisingly smart.
It hurts because I'm a fucking retard deep down, and that my retard level of intelligence made me appear smarter than I looked.
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relationship flatlined with someone who ive been talking to for around half a year, really cared for them and recently found out that they dont reciprocate. doesnt hurt as much as i thought it would but its still not something i can just shrug off. goddamnit i really need a hug rn
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>>51996394
I work hours and hours and barely have any fucking money. Got credit card debt. FAFSA has a bunch of fucking questions I cant fill out so Im paying for school again. Need braces and cant afford them. Have gyno and cant afford surgery. Have a bunch of weight to lose. Virgin for obvious reasons at 23. Meanwhile everyone else is enjoying life.

Im starting to smoke again tomorrow, fuck dealing with all of this.

Thanks for reading
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>>51997900
You're probably over-doing them
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>>51996394
I'm in this weird spot where some people admire me for how I changed and the drive to achieve things and help people I have but I feel like others, ESPECIALLY people my age that I could connect with or have a relationship with, just get annoyed seeing me run at 7 am while they watched tv and drank alcohol all day.
And I can't seem to find a way out of that situation. Is everyone like this? Should I pretend to be interested in whatever show is on at the moment? Or tone my enthusiasm for things that aren't gonna make me sit in my room at night wanting to kill myself down a little to not weird out normies?
Honestly, I'm fine with most things in my life and my family is great, I just wish I had friends to relate to and a gf to love and fuck the everloving shit out of.
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>>51996394
infatuated with a slightly older married coworker who i cant help but be physically and emotionally attracted to.

she's aware of my feelings but she's unavailable and has a lot of baggage. i'm trying to stay distant but she messages me almost daily while on leave from work. part of me knows i'm being led along and part of me really enjoys the interaction and occasional flirtation.

i know what i'm doing is wrong but i can't stop.
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>>51996394
My gf just told me it wasn't normal to be able to go from full sobbing to fully composed in a second. Told me that my eyes always pierced her soul and she doesn't think it's thrilling anymore. She kept going on and on about how she thinks I might be a sociopath or psychopath. Wants me to see a therapist or something, but I don't care for that. A label doesn't help me live my life.

I spent time introspecting tonight and realized I have some problems with emotions. Many instances throughout my childhood reflect that I can easily absolve myself of guilt and remorse to get through a painful situation, I can feel intense happiness at my friend's wedding for as long as I'm there, I can feel rage as long as someone is threatening me, but I always rapidly come back to this neutral point of stoic. I don't hate people, even if they are dicks, just their actions.

I wouldn't mind stabbing my current boss in his jowls, but I don't actively plot for that or anything, he just doesn't ever think he's wrong and it ruins my ability to perform my job. I get a flash of anger sometimes when he comes around to say shit. Grabbing my screwdriver and impulsively plugging him a dozen times is something I have to actively control. I never got close to acting, but if I'm not careful, I could easily lose myself in that temporary emotion.
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I'm a closeted homo and I keep falling in love with straight friends
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I have mixed feelings. I am pretty good looking since i take good care of myself. I have mixed feelings about a girl who has a lesbian gf or one who is nice to me or the one who is my colleague. I get my fair share of mires but fuark it's hard because i am kinda lonely.
>Tfw no gf
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>>51999127
Have sex, incel.
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>>51996817
>Yeah I’m pretty autistic but I’m not completely socially inept. I just want to be hugged
.......
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My social life used to be garbage, but now that I have a job and also go out most nights with friends (which im happy i have of course) i barely have enough time to work out.. I still work out at least 5 days a week but I only get like 5 to 6 hours of sleep every night so i have less and less energy every time I work out.
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I havent watched porn in months. I fap to videos and pictures of my ex.

I miss her, I still love her but I don't want to get back with her, also she lives across the country now.
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>>51996670
I remember when I needed my old friends the most and they abandoned me and cut contact.
It’s for the best ultimately.
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I have a really good job where I serve a valuable cause, I am often recognized for my ability, and I am compensated well. I work four days per week and life is pretty easy. My job is totally respectable and I do not believe it is below me. In the last six months, my best friend told me I could be doing more with myself; my other friend told me she thinks I’m wasting my potential; and a third says I could easily get my JD or even PhD if I just applied myself. The things is, I believe them, and I haven’t been totally satisfied at work, but I just can’t bring myself to risk what I have now for what I could have later. Am I blowing it?
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Also I’ve been reading a lot of philosophy lately and it’s interesting but also it might be pushing me towards an existential crisis
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>>51996394
I'm gay and I fear I'll never have a family or a man I love. I have been also diagnosed with low T and I'm on TRT. This really improves my quality of life, but coming to terms with lifelong medication will take some time. This sounds like r9k, but I'm having hard time accepting that it's likely that I will most likely never have kids and I'm very family oriented.I have a degree and I'm only lifting for myself so that's nice.
I've never typed this out, thanks for the thread
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>>51999256
I work an insanely easy job, 4 days a week, 10 hour days (actually 9 because the boss let's us leave early everyday but we get paid for 10). I make pretty decent money, and spend most of my day watching movies, playing vidya or shooting the shit with my co-workers.

On the days I have off I focus on side gigs and creative pursuits. I've learned to paint, I started skateboarding, and I've started working on a video game.

You can keep your job, but make sure you enrich your life.
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>>51998993
Sounds like anti-social personality disorder
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>>51999278
Thanks anon. Other than gym, reading, and occasional social things, I don’t do enough. I used to do a European martial art but it wasn’t very engaging. I’m thinking about a part time weekend gig, or volunteer work, or just expanding my hobbies and finding something that will stick. Thanks again.
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>>51999193
Ah yes, the incel joke, Never gets old
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>>51999193
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If she wanted to break up and broke up. Is there no going back? Fuck!
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>>51997529
Were you the one that fucked up or was it your friend that did it?
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>>51999264
I don't know if it's fair to say it's likely, you don't know what could happen or who you might meet in the future. TRT is rough but you might still be able to conceive kids, and in many places it's becoming easier for gay men to adopt. I know these are scary thoughts but you can't let them keep you from seeking the love you deserve and building the family you want to have.
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>>51999264
There is hope for ya brah
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>>51996394

I'm 26 and im stuck in a loser limbo. But I've bee thru some shit in the past year. Fiance dumped me, almost lost my father to liver disease, had to sell my car to help pay for medical expenses, and I still haven't recovered from losing a well paying job from earlier in the year.

currently working 2 min wage jobs to help my dad while he recovers while at the same time attempting to save for a car. part of me wants to go back groveling to my ex just for the security that relationship provided, but i can't go back to someone so emotionally distant.

im actually in the best shape of my life physically, it's just a matter of keeping my head above water. tried online dating, but my insecurity about how shitty my life situation is prevented me from pursuing a couple surefire pump n dumps. i mean for fucks sake im sleeping on a goddamn couch, have been for 3 months.

desu im more worried about keeping my dad healthy than my own immediate future, but any words of wisdom are welcome. i just needed to let this off my chest; my only friends are stoner buddies ive known for years but that i know are incapable of handling this, especially since ive always been the stablest member of the group.
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>>51996394
I am trying hard to gain occult powers
But God is still not answering me
I have made many sacrifices from my life, and making sacrifices is very very hard in this kaliyuga
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>>51996394
Mommy issues, never got love as a child.
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>>51996482
I'm dating an ex of my friends right now. I don't get it, what's the big deal? They broke up and you both have that attraction going on, so why should that impact your friendships?
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>>51999353
One of my friends. I try not to put myself in situations that might stir drama
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>>51996804
if dubs do it
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brushing my teeth regularly

I work out more consistently than I brush my teeth at this point. If its not a work day I'm usually up and doing something first thing and I don't get a chance to slow down and just brush my teeth

the most frustrating thing is that it takes two minutes and is easy to do, and yet I forget anyway.

working out is more of a "Welp, I have half an hour before bed, let's crunch out 50 bodyweight squats (or whatever exercise it is that day)
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>>51997725
Do the right thing man. If you fuck her at least get her to split up with him before hand. Don't be a selfish dickhead
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Getting over her
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>>51999879
How are with that friend now?
Do you still talk?
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>>51996394
I don't want to go back, but I probably will.
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I fapped to porn 3 times already because of exgf feels
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>she just texted me saying shes not ready for a relashionship and that we should take things slow
Here we go again...
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her
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>>51998360
my whole family died in under 18 months
This is good advice
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>>51999264
Just stop being gay. Men smell bad and anal sex is shit.
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>>51996394
Pull-ups. Can't progress past 13 for 2 weeks. My goal is 20 pull-ups before November
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Asking her on a date
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>>51997555
Holy shit are you me?
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>>52000636
do weighted pull ups
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>>52000636
High volume everyday.
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>>51996394
Should I see a therapist if i believe that, a few minutes after meeting someone, believing that they are plotting against me or hate me?
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>>52000648
How long have you waited, my dude? Chances are it's too late already.
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>>52000862
We've been texting for like a week. She still seems interested. I'm just scared of fucking it up due to autism
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>>51996394
I caught herpes off a girl 5 years ago. She didn't tell me she had it and she showed no symptoms.

I haven't tried getting laid since as I can't face telling a girl I have it, and can't bear the thought of passing it on to her (unknowingly) as was done to me.

I know at the end of the day herpes really isn't that big of a deal, I've only had one breakout in the 5 years I've had it, but still, there's a stigma, and I can't just pump and dump regardless as I know every other douche with it does.
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>>52000905
What kind of texting? Hard to judge, but a week might've landed you in the friendzone already, mate. Show that you're interested from the start. Preferably ask girls out within 24 hours of meeting them.
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>>52000965
I mean we matched on tinder so I feel the underlying implication of that has always been present. I'm fairly confident she'll go on a date I just worry about spilling my spaghetti and fucking it up for myself.
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>>52001008
Nigga, the fuck are you waiting for? On tinder you gotta be even faster. Ask out within like 5 messages. Go on, do it right the fuck now.
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>>51996394
My inability to move forward since graduating college.
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>>51996394
I don't know. It's complicated. My gf and I always fight about the same shit and I'm tired of it, she is too and now we took a communication break (we don't live in the same city). I think we broke up...everything hurts so much, but I will keep walking
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>>52000905
just tell her your going somewhere fun and exciting and she should come along.
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>>51999405
>>51999466

Thanks bruhs
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>>51996394
Recently got out of a long term relationship. I wasn't very sexually satisfied throughout it, but I liked being around her so much that it didn't bother me. After a month of grieving over the loss of her company, I've accepted that I might be able to move onto some new, possibly more satisfying relationship as far as intimacy goes, and I'm optimistic about it. Still, I'm finding it difficult to put myself out there because my self esteem is still pretty crushed by the breakup.

I keep saying "I'll make a tinder/bumble profile tomorrow" but I never do it. I'm afraid I won't get many matches/responses/dates and I'll just feel even worse.
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>>51996394
Life, I suppose.

I'm frustrated that no matter how many times I try to improve myself, whether it be thru health choices, career moves, romance, etc., nothing ever seems to happen or work out for me. It feels like for everything I do, I need to literally fight to get recognized or to improve, whereas everyone else around me easily succeeds without conflict or struggle (whether be through nepotism, luck, or whatever).

I have the taste of blood in my mouth, but nothing satiates. I hate this feeling of constant struggle only to end up in the same spot I always am.

I think I need to move away from this city I live in. I hate it here.

But I'll carry on. What other choice do I have?
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>>51998557
Shit bro were like the same person. i had a science teacher who couldn’t understand that I was getting good grades but also was a fuckin dumbass.
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>>52001157
>I need to literally fight to get recognized or to improve, whereas everyone else around me easily succeeds without conflict or struggle (whether be through nepotism, luck, or whatever).
I think basically everybody feels this way. The grass is always greener, and you're usually only exposed to the best parts of peoples' lives if you only know them casually/formally (like coworkers and whatnot). I wouldn't get too hung up on these thoughts.

I sympathize with the wanting to move thing though. I graduated college a couple years ago and I'm still here. I really want to get out.
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WHY CANT YOU MAKE APPOINTMENTS FOR THERAPISTS ONLINE I HATE CALLING
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Happy memories with my ex. Before she became someone that would lie to my face routinely.

I don't miss her. I miss the person that she was. That person doesn't exist anymore and that's the most painful part.

I have a new girl, better in every way. But the pain is still here, sometimes.
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I’m definitely addicted to caffeine. Consuming around 600mg per day. Wouldn’t be so bad if I could alternate months off and on but I find it tough to lift without the boost.
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>>51998993
That's called equanimity. Don't let anybody tell you that's unhealthy. You have a strong mind and you're able to embrace the emotions when they are needed, and move past them when you need something else. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that and it is not a disorder. That's a state of consciousness that monks spend half their lives attempting to achieve. So long as your emotional states don't go beyond extremes, you're good. Equanimity, bro, it took me 6 years of meditation to get it partly down and it fixed 90% of my problems with commitment and self-care. Dump your stupid bitch girlfriend and find somebody who appreciates the nuances of rationality.
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>>51997976
Jesus dude "going"? Get a grip you are frying your brain
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>>52002402
"gooning"
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Not very /fit/ related but it's affecting me badly.

I run a business and some months it goes extremely well, other months it goes terribly. The past few months have been terrible and I'm beyond depressed. It seems like i'm trying my best and getting nowhere. I'm terrified my business will fail. I understand the highs and lows are part of running a business but it's a horrible feeling
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You might think forming some support thread and expressing your grief will make you feel better, but you're all just bringing each other down even further. Wallowing in each other's melancholy in a big sadfuck circle jerk.

This isn't good for you senpai, you need to take active positive steps to change your outlook and get over this shit. not what your doing right now.
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>>51998993
I'm kind of the same. Can be very emotional, then completely detach myself from feeling anything.

It's not a problem, it's just more uncommon. I view it as a positive.

If she doesn't like it, get rid of her.
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>>51997976
Pelvic thrusts and long-period kegels dawg, you build up like you're fucking, and when you think you're getting over the hump, stop doing kegels and push your gooch out. Not your ass, it's a weird isolation at first, but you can keep your ass in a neutral state while pushing blood to your gooch, and that's the natural "cum-state", if you will. Also made my dick like a half inch thicker after a year or so.
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>>51999292
Fuck off, Alyssa
>>52002513
"I'm just really concerned that you might not really love me, so I just want to check for my sake, but for yours as well"
I'm thinking she's already checked out and looking to justify leaving, so I'll dump her before the 30th.
>>52002318
I'll look into that, thanks. It's weird to remember being like 8 or 9yo and being scolded by dad for hitting brother. I don't remember what I did, but when he forced me to apologize, I said it with spite. He told me to "say it like I mean it" and I told him I didn't feel sorry so why should I have to say it. He slapped me and I just got back up and gave him a cold stare. Really odd when I compare to children I see today.
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>>52003028
>I'm just really concerned that you might not really love me
You show affection in incompatible ways. Dump her

You sound a lot like me. I can be cold and detached, and it was even weirder when I was a kid because you don't generally see that behaviour with children. I can switch and look like the most extroverted, warm person though. I still don't think it's a problem, everyone's different some are just a bit more different.
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>>52002441
Have you considered getting advice on how to improve the business, or at least evaluated points of weakness so you can fix issues?

I bet with some help you could make your business great ALL the time. Hang in there bro, and just remember, most people wish they could have a business to work on and improve. You have thay opportunity.
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>>52003185
I receive help from a marketing agency occasionally and it does help. But it's not a magic wand.

I don't really know who else to ask, because I don't have a big budget and everyone that wants to help wants a lot of money.

I'm happy i was able to get it off the ground at least... but it failing and having to go back to a 9-5 is my biggest nightmare.
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>>51996804
This can truly ruin someone’s day everyday
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I love milk chocolate and sweets but i need to lose weight.
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>>52001008
anon dont listen to him, women dont follow a formula. just listen to your instincts and you should be fine
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I'm desperate for intimacy, but everytime I picture myself speaking to a female my face always looks deformed, as if my worst features become even more pronounced. Basically I feel ugly as fuck and not worthy.

Although for the first time in years, I managed to go to the beach without feeling ashamed of my body so it's nice
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>>51999264
lol gey boi
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>>51996804
Dubs then kill
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Went on a cut and lost muscle mass and fat.
2 weeks into bulking again and gained all previously lost fat again with no significant increase in muscle size.
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>>52004542
lel, bro I'm sorry. that's tragic
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>balding since Highschool
>finally shaved it off today
is it over for me? Pic is me
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>>52004664
you look good bro no homo
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>>52004664
hey professor any new students at the academy?
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>>52004677
checked, thanks man. I never really was too bummed about my hair, since to me it’s just hair. But I’m guessing everyone who’s balding goes through the same thing
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>>52004701
Will you be my first student?
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>>51996394
I have the equivalent of finals in 9 days, and i havent studied at all besides the exercises i did with my instructor for maths. I had a year to prepare vecause i didnt do them last year. All my peers are ahead of me. I have about 3 friends. Im probably gonna kill myself soon. Elementary school i was the shy bitch, highschool i was the class clown. Im respected by noone and i dont think i desrve to be. Im narcassitic and a brat. Even if i make a plan, even if i am aware if what im doing is wrong and how to change it i just always fail to make any lasting change. Fuck this gay earth
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>>52004664
You're looking alright man, keep your chin up.
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>>52004664
Nah, it looks good. How old are you?
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>>51996394
Drug consumption
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>>52004749
23
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My autism
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>>51997771
Think about it that way. You will regret the rest of your fucking life if you have not tried harder. If you have not made everything in your power to make her yours. Today is the beginning of the rest of your life. Do you want her to be a part of it or no?

Hope that helps anon.
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>>51996394
I'm too tired of socializing. I love my friends, but i've hung out with a bunch of them twice this week already. I have exams coming up. Refused 3 hangout invites today.
And socializing generally tires me, especially when i hang out with 3 different friends back to back like i did yesterday. Funnily enough one of them mentioned something about spreading yourself too thin by trying to "be there" for everyone, even for more minor things.
I'm stressed, i'm tired, it's my ex gf's birthday and i can't drown out the thoughts of how much of a bitch she was.
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Proclivity and privation. Everyday I am inclined to do the same thing, consume entertainment through my computer. I am basically living a neet life at my parents house and it has been this way for about a year now. I have applied to many jobs in the past few weeks, but no calls back. I'm thinking about getting some form of certification at a community college in hopes it might make me a more attractive job candidate. I have dropped out of university twice and have about 60 credits, but that doesn't mean much. Everyone I know is in their senior year of college or entering grad school, and here I am typing on a Chinese basket weaving forum. I think this was all set in motion when I broke up with my first girlfriend about 3 years ago. Haven't really been feeling this whole "living" thing for awhile now. I don't believe I am depressed, and I don't think I ever will accept that I need help, but my options seem pretty limited right now. Just looking for something that I can dive in and immerse myself in, other than videogames or twitch streamers' lives. Maybe if I was homeless I would be more inclined to turn my life around. Trying to start lifting and running 5k's again. Blog over.
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>>52004664
U ugly as fuck lmao
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I'm not sure if I should cut or bulk. I've been trying to cut throughout summer but have just ended up maintaining most of the time, probably because my drive to hit the gym has decreased. I want to gain muscle, but I struggle to gain weight because I'm too scared of getting fat again as an ex-fatty. I want to get back into lifting though, so should I lean bulk or eat at maintenance? I'm 5'10, 148 lbs. Thanks brothers.
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>>52005110
Bulk
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>>52004664
Get rid of the facial hair and you should be good anon, doesn't look that bad.
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>>51999264
>wanting a man
I'm not homophobic but why you would spend your life with a man? I never will understand that.
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>>52000484
and tomorrow you will see her with a true Chad.
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>>52005044
Post face
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>>51996715
They do. I'm married and even though we fight over stupid shit now and then we really have no issues together. We met while doing jiu jitsu. Avoid chicks that watch TV and care about money over everything else. There are a few around like this.
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>>51996637
Tekken
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>>52005152
It's probably like being in a relationship with a great friend. Why does it sound so bad?
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>>51997771
So take what you've earned you nog. Gotta flex on this beta boy so he'll nut up and do the same to some other loser and so on.

It sounds vicious but really you'll be improving many hundreds of men to come. Either that or they become a cuck so it's win/win
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>>52003211
I'm quite good with business stuff but I'm not sure if i could be of help.

Make sure you're reading books on how to manage your time correctly and your business. Personal development is the root of successful business too. Read stuff like think and grow rich to open your mind to new ways of viewing your goals and achieving them. Think Tony Robbins and other similar gurus and view their materials for how to be successful.

I hope you figure it out my friend
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>>52006213
Thanks anon

It's mostly marketing that's an enigma to me and I feel like I'm getting nowhere with it. I like taking courses from time to time but I feel like most of them are a waste of time
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>>51999223
stop jacking it to your ex bro, break the emotional attachment otherwise you're gonna mess yourself up like i did
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>>52000127
i'm right there with you brother, the thoughts and emotions you're having can't hurt you and nothing bad will happen, you'l find another QT

we're all gonna make it
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>>52000484
that's actually good. at least there's still a chance
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Shoulder blade area hurts for a few days after lifts. Really makes me want to stop working out.
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>>52004782
damn dude. you look pretty good for that age ngl no homo.
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>>51999982
I've been brushing my teeth more regularly in the mornings by doing in during my daily commute. Night was never an issue because I like my teeth feeling clean when I go to bed
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I'm on day 11 of nofap (don't judge me or try to tell me that it's worthless. I feel a great deal of guilt after I cum, so that's the main reason i stopped.), and it's getting a teensy bit more difficult for me to stay away from porn.
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I have tendonitis on both knees and elbows. ITBand. Anterior pelvic tilt. Forward shoulders. Also have multiple contractures in quafs and back. Im skinny as fuck but athletic. Need help overcoming my injuries. My tendons are fucked up. How, /fit/, how do I escape tendonitis?
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>>51999263
what philosophy have you been reading? You're bound to have an existential crisis even if you haven't read any philosophy.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oKnaTyJc0po
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Girl I was dating went abroad and now she barely even responds to me and is posting all over social media. Shit was going so well before
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I'm not really a /fit/ nigga but I thought i'd ask you guys about this. I made a fruit smoothie with some banana, strawberry, blueberry, greek yogurt, milk, and 3 minute quick steel cut Quaker Oats. My question is is the smoothie suppose to be chewy from all the oats? I feel like they are still raw and I fucked it up somehow. I was able to make everything else liquefied but the oats just kinda speckled all throughout the smoothie and I can sorta chew them. Is that suppose to happen or did I fuck it up somehow? I'm trying to replace breakfast with it and be healthier but I rather not dumbass and hurt myself by eating raw oats.
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360lbs, 6'0" and i'm so sick of living this way so i started doing something about it on Monday, but i'm always worried i'm doing the wrong thing
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>>51996482
Best part is when you ruin your friend group it gets harder to get laid too. Good job thinking with your dick.
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when I started dating my gf had been hitting the gym 4 times a week, it slowed down over time. It's been 3 years on and off of the gym and now and I'm getting back into it consistantly. It's gotten a lot better now that she's moved in but sometimes I just wanna lift at the gym, come home, rip a fat bong and recover in silence but I can't because responsibilities.
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>>52008031
Let that shit go. Guaranteed she's getting railed by strangers wherever she goes.
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>ex got a new boyfriend since we broke up
>mfw still single
>mfw probably will be single for a long time

How tf is it so easy for girls to find someone?
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>>51996407
This. Faggot shit like this is not fit related. Why sad autists rally here we will never know
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>19
>Kissed before but never had sex
How do you get to convince a girl to bang you brahs? I'm not that interested in long term relationships but I can do it if necessary. Any advice on how to lead drunk girls at parties maybe?
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>>52008194
She’s dating another guy, a man, she’s not dating anyone of the same gender. You’re ugly.
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>>52008194
I feel ya anon. My ex got with another guy day she broke things off with me. That was about a month ago and im over it for the most part but lowkey wish she would hit me up. Shits pathetic but its a process
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>>52008242
quick question: how do i get invited to a party?
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>>52004664
Shave against the grain. Practice without a mirror by feeling the stubble. Try going a month without shaving your face to see what kind of facial hair you can pull off
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>>52008242
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>>52008305
I just go to college parties desu, they're pretty big and popular where I live. Sometimes small friends parties as well, if you wanna get into those you just have to get some buddies
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>>52008353
alright thanks! I'm 19, too.
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>>51996960
There's no rebuttal because he probably an heroed after this savagery
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>>52008348
Im serious anon, please help me
>>52008359
Cool anon, hope you manage to get into a party now
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>>52008194
>How tf is it so easy for girls to find someone?
Girls are ALWAYS talking multiple guys at once from when they first start puberty or showing signs of maturing. Let’s be conservative and say that starts when high school does. So think about it. Through alllll that time from freshman year to now, she is either talking to some guys, thinking about fucking some guys, or talking about said guys with her friends. Even while she’s dating someone, she is thinking about all her backups just in case it doesn’t pan out or if she just gets bored. She’s always thinking “is this the best I can do? Jeremy fucked me real good three years ago maybe I can hit him up...” You need to be extremely lucky to find a loyal woman, and even luckier to find one that won’t move on after you’ve broken up. It’s not your fault, anon.
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keeping a decent sleeping schedule so that I actually wake up in the mornings for my cardio. Other than that also keeping up with my routine and diet at the moment, I'm trying to get back on track but I've only been putting in like 50% or so of the effort the last month
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she fucking hates me lol
song related
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VbgT70vuyAQ
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>>51997725
Don't mess with girls with boyfriends man, if you get her to sleep with you you'll never be able to trust her afterwards, and it'll eat at you forever.
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>>51997920
I can eat your ass if you want bro
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>>52007666
Face pulls
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>want to start 5x5
>came to realize I can't even squat the bar due to poor mobility (fall backwards)
>now have to do extensive mobility work before I can even squat the bar

Never felt so weak and humiliated
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>>52008508
You should. Let it motivate you.
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>>51997725
I have a similar experience.
Been friends with a girl for a couple of years, she has a boyfriend.
We hit it off well, and we used to act in a weird couple-y way: getting way too close, holding hands, leaning on me and other such things.
Thing is, I'm 90% sure she isn't doing this shit on purpose.
Girl is about as autismo as the average /fit/fag.
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>>52008047
1. You can eat raw oats
2. The speckled texture is normal
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>>52008596
Thanks, I can deal with it tasting bad and chugging it but the texture was concerning me as well as the rawness.
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>>51996759
fuck, dude. Use this opportunity to grow, it could be the best thing that ever happened to you. Dont contact her again if you havent got kids
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>>52005177
Bruh, I just got burnt on this, and the other guy isn't even a Chad, she was all I'm not sure about my feelings blah blah take it slow blah blah. And suddenly she's like I'm not feeling it anymore, next thing I know she's posting how she' oh so happy with her new guy a week later on Instagram.

I'm not even mad shit didn't work out, that's life. I'm pissed she kept me waiting while finding someone else. Lesson learned, next time it's fuck yeah or move on, not dealing with this indecisive bullshit anymore.
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>>52007561
Don't fall for it bro, get her off your mind, date other girls or not at all. And if she comes crawling back you really consider if this is what you want.
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>>51996394
First night in a week that I havent dreamt about my ex. I dont think I miss her as much as I miss having a girlfriend. Working on myself and my lifts, I dont need anyone but goddammit I enjoy having a woman. I will find someone better
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>>51997555
being a gay magnet means you're good looking, and probably fun to be around but you dont make a move with women. Treat them like you would any other person. You owe it to yourself to ask out the girls you find attractive. You either fear rejection or you don't have enough self worth. I personally am the latter. Baby steps bro, get used to talking to girls you dont know.
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>>52008810
Not him but 8-9/10 gay dudes hit on me at parties, but I'm pretty sure women are not into what I'm selling.
Don't men and women have different standards for their own gender?
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>>52008251
It’s been a few months since we broke up and we were talking on and off since, we even hooked up once and nearly hooked up again. Next thing I know she’s a born again Christian and dating a guy she met at church and wants nothing to do with me, I should’ve let go a long time ago but I’m a lonely cunt and still am on my feelings
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>>51996482
rightfully so, that's what you get for being a dumbass
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>>52000484
Say no problem, dont text her too much, wait a week or two and ask her out
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>>52008841
Gay guys just want booty. They don’t actually care about looks because their sexuality is actually a depraved perversion
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>>52000539
fuck dude, condolences
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>>51998360
Didn’t have as crazy a life as yours but thanks man. I just graduated with a shitty degree to please my parents and now idk what to do next. Not pessimistic, though. Just a bit aimless. I’m 24
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>>51998360
Do you see yourself having a family?
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>>51996394
i can't find a good nearby dojo since i moved out of time since the one my old teacher recommended me is an hour and a half away and the one that is nearby is a mcdojo so i feel like a fucking blob because i haven't trained in about three weeks
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>>52008902
huh makes sense
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>>52009370
Shut it nerd
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I have no friends, I’m a kissless virgin at 22 going on 23, I want to kill myself, I want to go back to being a NEET but I’m in the military so I’m basically stuck here as a slave until my contract ends in 2 years
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>>51996394
People pleaser. And I don’t know how to stop.
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I honestly can't choose between the /fit/ GS or SS. I don't care about strength or getting big I just wanna lift shit and feel like I did something instead of jerking off every other day.
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I can't lift heavy.

I'm 6'1 184 and my max on bench has only gone from 20 lbs to 27.5 in the last month, my OHP is only 12.5, up from 7.5. My only decent lift is leg press but thats because I used to be fat (can't squat because my knees are too fucked). I've been lifting for a year.

I get 6-8 hours of sleep a night. I eat over a hundred grams of protein and drink lots of water. But I can't get big. Am I unironically low test?
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>>51997725

if she's willing to do it to her current boyfriend she's willing to do it to you. Beware of thots anon.
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>>51999564
learn the forms, that ideas are real. learn what good is and strive to be good. honesty is CRUCIAL.
god helps people who are solving problems created by evil. he does not care for other agendas.
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>>52009638
Please help :'(
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>>52008926

Keep grinding bro. Every shitty job offers perspective, every empty day offers opportunity for planning and introspection. If you have the funds, I'd highly recommend a working holiday. You'll have a blast and learn more about yourself and what you want to do
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>>52009207

Yes. For years I was in non-serious relationships and one night stands. I thought I didn't want kids but turns out I just hadn't met anyone worth having them with. Things really do change as you get older
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Trying to smoke less. I smoke so much now that I don't feel an effect from anything but the first two cigs of the day, but not so much that I get stomach issues. Pretty fucking close to stomach issues though. It fucking sucks because I'm dehydrated naturally and this makes it worse. I think if I just start smoking one less a day, and then two less a day and so on I can limit myself more easily. One to greet the day and one with every meal, I think.
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>>52000956
You are a good man, Anon. Just work with the hand dealt.
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>>51996394
I'm questioning my relationship right now. Bf had a surgery and I changed my work hours to be there and care for him while he was recovering. It seemed like he acted helpless for longer than he actually was and he really hasn't been apperciative at all. He's also getting a bit heavier, which I talked to him about, but he's the only one who can fix that.
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>>51996715
they exist. my wife and I are happy together and support each other. first baby on the way. going to be a comfy family.

don't give up hope
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>>51998170
I wish you the best of luck anon. You're gonna make it.
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>>52009638
Whats your routine and how often do you go?

you probably went from 20%+ body fat down to starting to gain muscle. It is hard when you don't have much muscle to build some it takes a while. Then you start gaining muscle and you start building more
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>>52011094
>same poster
I came from skelemode and had no muscle and had to regain all my muscle that I had growing up. It took me a while twenty pound bench was really hard, now I am at 1pl8 for two reps. I am still gaining and pushing myself. Make sure you are not on a super caloric loss cause you might not be building muscle correctly even with protein.
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>>52008841
Gay dudes are always on the prowl and if theyre remotely into you theyll hit on you. Women arent as oriented towards looks as guys are. They matter, but being a centred, confident guy is more important. Which is why you need to go up to girls you think are attractive and talk to them like you know you deserve nothing but the best
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>>51996394
My goddamn eye floaters have gotten pretty bad and its giving me the shits. Im so sick of em.
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Postgraduation loneliness. Doesn’t help I’ve never been in a relationship.
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>>52001062
I'm in a similar situation, bruh. I don't know what to do.
She completely stopped texting/communicating with me a month ago. I've tried reaching out to her but nothing.
Our mutual friend told me my gf told her she wants to talk to me again but is afraid of arguing (we used to argue a lot about stupid shit).
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can't stop eating out. idk why, it's not like I'm a fat fuck, but I'm going to be if I keep going. I can't stop though. idk. I can't seem to muster the will to cook, much less bring things like lunch.
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>>51998170
Godspeed anon
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>>51997725
>trusting this chick EVER
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>>52001071
>some new, possibly more satisfying relationship
>via a hookup app
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>>52005110
Step 1: change your fucking underwear, jesus
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>>52008063
380lbs 6'5 once upon a time, currently 240lbs. Literally just do it. If your body can keep living after all the horse shit you put into it and with all the stress it's currently maintaining, it can handle change. The wrong thing is doing nothing to lose that weight.

Fyi, meme diets don't fix the mentality that put you where you are, there's a reason you ate your way past 50%bf so try and resolve that along the trail, and just listen to your body.
Learn the difference between hungry and not-full asap.
Stop eating fast food.
Stop eating food that comes from the freezer.
Stop eating food that comes from a can.
It takes two weeks for your body to start kicking the cravings for junk food, but one bite to get addicted to it again.
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Sup /fit/.
I am woring and doing a PhD, I am a sociologist. I hate my work - it's motly marketing related and I deal with cunts like British American Tobacco, trying to sell cigarettes to young people, with arrogant cunts like most European baks, and with stupid fucking Indians (who I understand are crushed by their stupid system and are acting like mindless idiots to keep their job). I have a lot of skills in my field, a lot of statistical knowledge, I have the mindset for the sociological field so to say but all I do is project management and I really really hate it. Still, I don't think I can get the money elsewhere and I really don't want to lower the standard of both me and my girlfriend. We're living together, our apartment, but it's still shit only on a PhD salary here in Eastern Europe.
I am demotivated as fuck for the PhD, I don't have the desire to express my thoughts anymore.
I also smoke weed every morning, day, and evening. It's shit but it helps days pass without drinking too much and fucking up your next morning/gains.
I have a good position, good uni, good place to live in the center of the capital city, amazing gf, I love my family and get along with them perfectly, my friend love me and I love them, but I constantly feel like shit. The only reason why I am not on heavy drugs is because reason is still stronger than this current state of mind. I feel like crying all the time.

Help me bros.
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>>51996697
>lol get fit, be successful, ur the master of ur own destiny bro!!!!
got fit, went to school, made a career, still fell like absolute shit and deeply regret trying to make it instead of killing myself while I was actually unstable enough to go through with it. fuck you and your just b ur self bullshit, i hope you get cancer
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>>51997725
>chasing girl with a boyfriend
>being a total retard

Pick 2 anon. If you get her, you will know she’s unfaithful and can’t be trusted. If you keep trying and failing you’ll be tormented. Cut her out of your life. You can never with with a girl who has a boyfriend (if you’re after something serious). I learnt this the hard way of course.
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>>52009461
Do greyskull
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>>51996757
What was the traumatic event?
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>>52012121
if your life choices are making you miserable then they are not good life choices breh. Taking a pay cut to get into an industry or job that you actually want isn't lowering your standards, it's taking a step back so you can reroute.

Don't set yourself up for a "good" life that you hate, because that's not a good life
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>>52010106
What’s a working holiday?
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On a conscious level, I really don’t want a girlfriend right now, and I know that it would be against my best interest to dedicate time, money, and energy to one at the moment. But I’m starting to feel lonely at times lately, and I sort of miss the experience. The last few dates I went on, the thought of having to go out with them again felt like an enormous burden, and the thought of dating at all just annoys me. When I get the desire, it goes away if I think about it for like 2 minutes, and I just get frustrated. What a waste of time, money, and energy, with no benefit in return. I can’t shake the feeling, though.

Oh well, off to the gym I go.
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>>52012242
Thank you, hombre
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>>52012291

When you travel aboard and work for a length of time. Pick up work doing whatever you feel like
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Fuck fuck fuck. I am a 132lbs manlet. I've been working out for 10 months now and probably just gained 1 kg of muscle mass.

How the fuck do get big? Is it just eating a lot or am I missing something? I can't do shit about my height but at least I can get big, problem is I am not getting big.

Please, any used-to skinnyboi here, help me, I need advice.
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>>52012379
Don't let loneliness get over you. These are just stages in life, when you are ready you'll find someone who doesn't look like a waste of your time.
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>>52007561
Do yourself a favor and tell yourself it is over. or go through the experience yourself...
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>>52012871
Is there like a program for that or do you mean just pick up gigs on Craigslist?
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>>52008235
>mental fitness
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>>51999968
Quads kill them and then kill yourself
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>>52000905
I fucked up the first the girls I ever dated. no 2nd meeting. no further texting. I learned from it. you'll endure it



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