The question isn't "how do I get a gf", it's "how do I become a person who can get any gf he wants"./sig/ Basics:>YOU are 100% responsible for the way you experience life. Not your parents, not your surroundings, not your ex, not your bully, not your future spouse. YOU. Complete, sincere acceptance of this is the most fundamental step to bettering yourself, and it is by far the hardest thing you'll ever do.>Set realistic Goals and have a Plan. >Meditate ( Guide: http://youtu.be/F0jedwTzIJg - important: relax your jaw, lips almost parted ).>Learn helpful and effective daily/weekly/etc. routines, including mundane ones. Use digital Calendar reminders.>Have a steady sleeping rhythm - one that works for you, so long as you keep to it.>Learn to be Brutally Honest with yourself. Stop being a slave to your Ego.>Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once, you’ll burnout. Little by little. Resources:>http://4chanfit.wikia.com/wiki//sig/_sticky - The most basic shit is here.>http://www.dbtselfhelp.com - Dialectical Behavioral Therapy self help resource. Particularly useful for those struggling with anger, depression and anxiety issues.Books:>http://misc.equanimity.info/downloads/mindfulness_in_plain_english.pdf - Mindfulness in Plain English>http://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/2680 - Meditations of Marcus Aurelius>https://dropfile.nl/f/wpw6 - How to Win Friends and Influence PeoplePrevious thread >>49960040
>>49987869sig-anons file dump:>>49975337NEW FOLDER :>fit_body_mind_healthhttps://mega.nz/#F!azxzlSIZ!G97XzFX1HEim9Y03OsjYVQFeedback is welcomed.
>>49987869Just want to say these threads and that goat pic specifically are great motivation for working out and staying sober. Thanks for being there bros.
Feeling pretty bad brehs. The last 5 job interview all said im too much of a thinker/academic person. They say my interviews are a detriment to my motivation letter and resume. I desperately want to leave research, but my way of speaking and thinking keeps holding me back.How the fuck do I practice this?
>>49987999Here's the Goat pic for you. I like it too but thought it's nice to rotate.Peace
>>49988068The only was of doing that is exposure to something else. Try and get some time with those in the field you want. Understand who they are and then you can become a better fit for the direction you want from life.
why is it so hard to be happy brehsi eat well and sleep enough, yet im still an anxious irritated mess
Before last year I was lifting, reading, developing psychological strenght, I was finally starting to become confident, have peace of mind and girls started to pay more attention to me, but I took a year off basically everything in my life to focus on getting on med school. I finally got in, but last year brought me unhapiness, terrible self-esteem, I lost about 15 pounds of muscle, anxiety around people. I need to get back into it. I've started with gym again, eating, supping vit D, taking a multi, reading almost every day, started meditating recently. I still feel like absolute shit and want to off myself, can't stand this shit. Just gotta keep going.........
crystal.cafe is a pretty depressing place.
>>49985391>I've been reading some esoteric stuff about Kundalini yoga and Indo-European ancient religions etc. and I'm willing to have an open mind and experimenting with it, but I'm not sure. I feel like these threads are always circlejerks with the same people who just need to get out of bed, take a shower, and start lifting. Anyone got a bit further than that?What you described is literally the next step: taking the leap of faith and experimenting with esoteric and mystical practices do develop your spirit. Here's a great library of stuff from the occult and mysticism general on /x/:https://the-eye.eu/public/Books/Temple_Of_Solomon_The_King/
>>49987888Is it worth a reading or is it just some same words about planning?
>>49989448Before someone says "woo" or some other buzzword, proof. Read the documents and watch all of the videos:http://www.fas.org/sgp/eprint/teleport.pdfhttps://www.cia.gov/library/readingroom/docs/CIA-RDP96-00792R000300330001-8.pdfhttps://www.cia.gov/library/readingroom/search/site/psychichttps://www.cia.gov/library/readingroom/docs/CIA-RDP96-00791R000200070001-9.pdfhttps://www.cia.gov/library/readingroom/collection/stargatehttps://www.cia.gov/library/readingroom/search/site/qihttps://www.cia.gov/library/readingroom/docs/CIA-RDP96-00792R000300380001-3.pdfPlus many more if you just take the time to look.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=76FksKjCy58https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYVdhKVb9WE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=03K8fYFUUhs https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iiQTCMolLqI https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pmo2Bye42go https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mVr1p-FlLtk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UB5MdV90v-g https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ad7I7e3CYiw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=itmn_1AsG10 the last one could be tech and not a psychic techniquehttps://psychicscience.org/pk2a.aspxhttps://imgur.com/a/oLDaSsr
>>49988068You probably seem too distant, aloof, stoic, or worse, like you think you know more or are smarter than others. Solution: Be more open and casual, pull the stick out of your ass and loosen up a bit. Laugh and smile more than you usually do, genuinely. Smile at your interviewers when you meet them, hell, even slip in a quick question about themselves or the company BEFORE they start asking you, seem more interested I guess.
ABxABxxfeedback would be appreciated
My relationship is falling apart, how do I prepare for this?
>>49990057Why do you think it's falling apart?
>>49990149She seems less interested in me, is bitchier and was flirting with a guy at a party.
>>499886741st year med school anon here, I know what you are going through. Keep fighting my friend. We are all gonna make it
>>49987869Rolling for my next no fap streak last 2 digits let's go
I come from an abusive household. It makes me fear failure to the point where I don't feel comfortable trying to do things that take me out of my comfort zone, and I overreact when I do things wrong (vomiting, panic attacks, sleepless nights, etc).Any guides/insights/directions for how to solve this? Started therapy a few weeks ago, and I want to see if there are any other ways to improve.
yeright lads? anyone got some no fap/noporn tips since I have never broken a week and I doubt many here have either.Some ones that seem to work: Have something to remind you how bad you feel after.And to just stop and think about what you're about to do and how fucked it is.
>>49988481Do you have a creative outlet? Also, you might try finding a hobby where you can see objective progress - things that will bring fulfillment
>>49987869I love Guts. His life was absolute hell from the minute he was born and he still wants to live. Re-reading the manga a second time I loved it even more as I identified with him a lot, fantasy shit aside. Self improvement is a tough as shit journey when you come from a toxic lifestyle mixed with bad memories plaguing your mind.
How do I become more patient? It's going to be about 9 months until I'm at the first milestone for where I want to be, and another year or two to actually reach my goal. It's so demotivating to think about how much time needs to pass, even if it's going to pass regardless.
>>49990833My thing personally is to take inspiration from men who spent their lives fighting, struggling. One of the most recent one is Cristiano Ronaldo.It might sounds foolish but the guy is a beast. He keeps working, working, and working super hard. Keep working. Keep suffering. Don't let yourself be distracted. You're gonna keep yourself busy and thus it will drive away any urges that you may have.But one element that is essential is to avoid any pictures that may trigger an unwanted response. Such as porn, but generally any pictures with a hot chick.And you're gonna fail. But it's okay. It wouldn't be suffering if you didn't fail.
>>49987869Like self improving?Join Chamber of Light disc0rd : BKJC8ss
>>49987869Is Habitica better on mobile or pc? I'm leaning more to pc because i am not a big fan of mobile apps.
>>49990833Don’t look at it brahEven the Bible says not to tempt yourself but to flee from it
>>49990967That time is going to pass either way, might as well get a rewards from it
How often do you guys eat sweets? The past few days I've made a rule to only consume sugar with 2 cups of coffee at most, the rest has to be natural food. Does that sound good?
>>49991108Cheers brother, that philosophy helps massively.This sounds gay but just knowing that someone else has helped me is a massive motivator not to disappoint them.
>>49990789had same tendencies1 year of therapy fixed about 20-30%a few ayahuasca trips fixed the rest. Wouldn't recommend it to everyone, but it's incredibly useful for most people these days. Do your own research on it before you take it and do it with a trip sitter if you can. Recipe is syrian rue + mymosa hostilis, you can find these 2 plants in almost any country legally and you can just look up recipes and what to expect online. Godspeed
>>49991171I'm doing this too. Only thing i get sugar from is my coffee. No noticable benefits though but hey, it's healthier so fuck it
>>49991139Thanks Jesusbro, good advice
>>49991232This philosophy is super hard but at the end of the day you're fucking proud of yourself for all you've done.
Tell me the benefits of nofap that doesn't grant super powers and vagina wetness aura.
>>49991385It gives you a bit of a test boost on the 7th day. So try fapping once a week.
>>49991385You start acting in slightly different, albeit barely noticeable way. After several days I notice I behave in a more open way all around, but specifically around girls. There's just something inside that pushes you to talk to them more, be more "outgoing" so to speak. Because if you really, but really want something, you go for it. And since you are horny as fuck, you inadvertently WILL try to get rid of the urge in any way. By prohibiting yourself from masturbating, the only other way is to find a partner. Those are my observations at least.
>>49991256I did a brief search, and some recurring things were>reduced inflammation>much lower risk of tooth decay>much lower risk of diabetes and heart disease>clearer thought>better skin>lower chance of getting overweight/obeseThe diabetes and heart disease are probably the real clinchers here. If you have a natural sweet tooth like me, you're playing with fire chasing that sugar high all the time, even if you're at a healthy weight. I'm the sort of guy that would go back for fifths at the cookie table because I never get tired of them, but that's unsustainable for an adult, and dangerous. This is why with the above, I think it's a good decision. For now, cheat days are not a thing until this habit is cemented.
>>49991570>that last panelI couldn't believe how my body was acting when quitting sugar. The only thing that made me calm a bit was realizing it was my brain demanding it instead of my stomach.
Last interview today before I could get the dream job, wish me luck.
>>49991570>sugar is as addictive as cocaineI quit sugary foods cold turkey three weeks ago. Used to eat garbage like chocolate bars, soft drinks and whatnot, now I don't eat any of those anymore. I don't really feel different, what's up with that?
>>49991416that boost is comparable to cracking the window when you've already got the aircon on. No fap is so trollee.
>>49989982i do all the main lifts the same, though do different accessories. you should do cardio though. I hit heavy bag alternating as warmup or the final exercise twice a week. I also run 5 miles 2 or 3 times a week. Also, do bjj 3 to 4 times a week but thats more like a gnarly massage (no homo) than a workout.
>>49990202she could just be on her period. how long have you been with her?
>>49991171I rarely ever eat sweets now. A good idea is to eat what you have in your house now, and don't buy anything sweet going forward.
>>49991127Like self improving? Get away from thr computer and for sure don't use discord which is a spyware program.
>>49989711All interesting stuff anon from the site you listed where should I start? Or what's your favorite piece?
>>49989549just recycled stuff you already know. The other stuff on his Blog ist just utterly try hard and smells like summer
>>49991646Are you aware that 80% of processed food has sugar added into it? The fact that you are not showing withdraw symptoms may be because you are still eating sugar.
>week 6 of nocaffeine
>>499903393rd year med school anon here.It gets better, medicine is a very noble job and the amount of wisdom and personal growth it can afford to anyone who looks to it is absurd... But it is stressful. Remember you are a person before being a doctor/med student. We all have flaws and as long as we try our best there is no reason to feel anxious.(I'm actually writing that to myself brothers)We are all going to make it
>>49993446>We are all going to make itwrong
How do I find God?
>>49992029I started at THE start: shamanism. I still am working my way through Kundalini, Chakras, Prana/Chi, Kabbalah, I'd like to study Egyptian Mysticism too, I'm, sure there's [known] stuff I'm missing as far as ancient stuff goes, then maybe someday I'll make it to the modern stuff.
>>49989711Whats the purpose of all this?
>>49993398And how do you feel?
>>49994314tiredanyone who says withdrawal lasts only a week is bullshitting you
Any opinions on finding waifu in early 20s while still self improving? Should one wait until they are sure of what they are before looking for? Any moral issues of exploiting the tinder thottery before searching for The One?Whats /sig/ listening to?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bq126uwwOBo
>>49994256How do you mean?
>>49993588Dude got his hairline back in 1 year, amazing
29 and a virgin, I don't see this changing anytime soon. Lately I'm seeing no point in fapping because if I can't even justify being in a relationship, why even masturbate to the idea of fucking? So at least that's going to make nofap easy.I guess on the bright side I'm not an incel, I don't hold other people responsible for my shortcomings as a man. But I don't try dating cause I think I'm a terrible partner, I can often be critical to the point of cruelty, both with myself and others.My question is where do I begin in fixing this mess, if possible?
>>49991385NoFap is a pre-req for a lot of Monk abilities on the tech tree like Improved Stoicism and Foresight.
>>49990339>he is the marble>sculpture is bronzeabsolutely based muscle confusion, thanks for the gains anon
>>49994783If you wait until you’re done “improving” you’ll be waiting until you’re dead. Find someone to improve with you
>>49995401Playing too much strategy games bra
What do you motherfuckers think of motherfucking Wim Hofhttps://youtu.be/VaMjhwFE1Zw>Not getting in contact with your reptilian brain so you can attain super saiyan level 3
I notice i cut off people all the time when talking? how do I stop? "just stop" It just comes out. Normally it's like i'll have someone just start to ramble about something and I want to respond to one of the first points they made. This just being impatient or something?
Anyone have advice for quitting cigs? It's starting to get out way out of hand but I've had to quit weed last week because i'm on probation and it's been helping me get through it. I was able to quit for a couple weeks a few months back but ended up relapsing. Shitty thing is my sleep schedule is fucked so a morning cig helps me a lot to get up and get ready for school and I always wake up too late to make tea.
>>49997702Have you tried making a mental note before getting into a conversation, to not talk at all until they completely finish? It helps me sometimes.
>>49998029I'll try that
>>49993364I don't eat processed food at all. I eat oats, almond milk, lean meat, rice, whole grain pasta, some eggs, vegetables like broccoli or peas. That's it.
>>49990833I've only made it 23 days, but meditation is amazing.
>>49998011Switching to E-cigs helped me. I gradually reduced nicotine fluid and then quit entirely. Took me 3 months after 10+ years of smoking.
>>49988481If you're not happy it means you need to change something. Never give up, keep trying new things and changes to your lifestyle.
>>49991171A reduction in sugar consumption will definitely help you regardless. Be aware that lots of food has added sugar that should also be avoided. I'd recommend trying to go no sugar for a week and then switching to just getting sugars from fruits. I had to quit sugar as I was once decently fat.
>>49999788By "no sugar" here, that includes fruit too?
Jan 1st 2019 128.2 kgMar 13th 2019106.4 kg Feels good man
For those trying to quit porn: Realize that fapping to women that you will never get to smash, or worse, while watching some other dude smash, is almost the definition of cuckoldry- just imagine for a moment the pain that does to your emotional state (even beyond the scope of conscious thought). They are just starting to scratch the surface on what it does to you biologically.>”LOL whatabout le prostate cancer from not masturbating meme!!?”Find a woman or buy one for an hour.
>>50000016my outlook has changed to it doesn't make my life better and may be making my life worse
>>49999862No, only refined sugar should be avoided
>health has been shit since 2013 for reasons out of my control>had no feeling at all from late 2015 till 2017>have most of my feelings back now>feels fucking good to watch Gladiator or something and feel some emotion, as well as getting genuinely excited watching MMA and WSM>haven't watched the digital cuckold in months>fap once or twice a fortnight due to boredom or libido taking over>slowly getting healthier, will be able to lift soonFuck brahs it's almost time. Also whho're some authors I'd enjoy? My favourite are Aurelius, Yamamoto Tsunemoto, Nabeshima Naoshige, Epictetus and Mishima Yukio
>>50000114based list, if you haven't read sun and steel by yukio get it read also greek religion by walter burkert
>>50000136Is it about the actual Greek religion or Middle Eastern religion
>>50000156actual greek religion bloke who wrote it was an ancient greek scholar and this was his most in depth book covers everything from rituals to sacrifices to societal standards and philosophies etc
>>50000114>authors I'd enjoy?Charles Chiniquy, Mitsuo Fuchida, Yukichi Fukuzawa, and J. M. Carroll
already posted but still need answersfeedback please on this 4d texas
>stop microdosing acid>seems fine for a while>suddenly anxiety and depression tag teaming my sweet holes>start microdosing again>feel fucking greattake the microdose /sig/
>>50000101I see, thanks anon.
I've been stressed for the last 4 weeks, and in the last week, I've been seriously stressed. I can't eat properly, I feel sick all the time, I'm losing weight.I lost my job 4 weeks ago, but I found another one straight away, but it's factory work. I work 3 weekend nights, 12 hour shifts. The job is killing me mentally. I actually went back to my old place of work and asked if I could have my job back, and I was told 'possibly', but it ended up that they weren't able to for reasons I fully understand and accept.I have applied for other jobs, and I really hope I get this certain one, as I've had the interview and it seemed like it went well, but I feel like I'm slowly dying every single second that brings me closer to my next shift in my factory work.I wish money wasn't so goddamn important. I wish I could just chill with her, and spend my time being happy, rather than us being ripped apart most days and forced to do shit we don't like, just so we can build the life we want.I really do hope I get this other job.
>>49991129It's been a while but at least before I thought it was better on PC.
>>50000244It would be better to learn to deal with those anxieties without drugs, if just possible.If you're sure you've exhausted every possible avenue of getting rid of the anxiety, then by all means, microdose, but be honest with yourself.
>>49998011I had a weird relation with cigarettes, when I was at uni I was addicted. started smoking because I was a fucking retard (watched Cowboy Bebop and wanted to be cool like the MC) and every time i tried to quit I would cave in after like 2 days.As soon as I came home I no longer felt the addictive tendancies, and when I went back they returned. this pattern continued for 3 years, and I still buy a pack when I go up to visit now 2 years later. No idea why.
>>49999890That's great my dude, I'm on a similar venture but haven't lost it as hastily as you. are you just doing CiCo, or are you doing IF/keto/fasting? Are you working out too?
>>50000244I'd rather suffer than be reliant on drugs, I do microdose occasionally though I'm more a fan of shroom MD but to MD on a regular basis to be able to function seems like you're just blocking the problem out, not fixing it
>>49997238Not playing enough bra
>>50001475Thanks, getting into this. Should i just add the things i want to track, or even trivial things?
>>50001991You be the judge of that. I wouldn't bother adding trivial stuff that I already have a solid habit of doing anyway but if it's something you want to ingrain, it might be a good idea to add it.Just don't get bogged down by the tracker itself. Doing is more important than tracking.
>>49998999> "I don't ear processed food">almond milkDepending on the brand it can have 16g of sugar per cup.>whole grain pastaStill can have high amounts of sugar, depending on the brand.Also,>PeasLiterally half of its carbs are sugar,Not saying it is the case, but you should double check,
>>50003062>Depending on the brand it can have 16g of sugar per cup.I make sure to buy the natural shit, it's pretty easy to find in europe, so no sugar>whole grain pastaSame there.Overally I probably do eat a little bit of sugar but it's inconsequential as fuck compared to what I used to put into my body on a regular basis.
>>49987869How do I approach girls on normie social media like all my fucking friends do? Do I just say "hi" or what? Please help a virgin.
>be depressed and only have a few friends, very lonely>decide to join a frat > in a frat, have a lot more friends, still depressed and extremely lonely. Even more empty than before Why is life like this, what should I do?
>>50000114More story please. What did you do?
How does one strike up a conversation with a girl from her uni class? She's always with her friends and there's no clear time when to approach. Asking for a friend.
>>50003778Find a reason to talk to her, and then just talk to her. There is no "magic trick" other than putting yourself in a position for a conversation.
>>49991171Natural sources of sugar are better for the body than artificial sugars cuz fiber. With coffee it depends on how it’s brewed. Brewing it at home is probably better than at Basedbucks. Also love the gif, I miss playing Plat.
>>49990883based, sending love
>>50000326Update:I got the other job
>>50004438Congratulations anon! I'm happy for you!Have a cat.
>had a wet dream about my ex>fapped furiously 6 times>now i miss my other ex, not the one i dreamt about
>>49995346>29 and a virgin>I'm not an inceli cannot sanction this copery
>>50004551Incel is a mindset. You can be an incel while not being a virgin.
>>50004512FactsThen it's the hot coworker who you think may be warming up to you
I've been on nofap for 8 months, but this February I've basically been on a fap bonanza. I would masturbate 4 times a day, go a week or two without masturbating then jack it 4 times in a single day, or two in a row.I honestly can't explain how I've managed to go 8 months without masturbating. I think it reflects badly on my mindstate considering how my reason for doing it was me hating the sexual aspect of humans, pretty much being disgusted by myself and my sexuality. There was nothing more, nothing less to my reasoning, no nofap memes that get paraded around here. Other than that, my mind in those months was extremely dull and foggy, this isn't too unusual for me but I was taking it to the next level, I reversed my day and night cycle, I ate scarcely (sometimes not more than once a day), I felt very weak and my mind always felt like exploding. I think I'm doing better now, at least my day/night cycle has fixed itself.It's been 9 days since my last fap bonanza. I'm hoping that this fit of debauchery has come to an end. I still can't convince myself wholeheartedly in a more noble reason for nofap, and I think I'm getting back into my old, decrepit routine. But I think there's still hope it gets better.Sorry for the blogpost, I can't even tell where I was going with this. I just started typing and ended up with this. I wanted something to write, I've been pent up in my head for so long and I think writing is good for your head.
Anybody got tips on improving posture?Already greatly improved from the complete hunchback i used to be, but i'd like to stand with my shoulders back a bit more, and behind a desk my head just seems to fall forward.Problem is now as soon as i dont think about posture it turns to shit.
>>50004580incel means involuntary celibate. its just the bad mindset people have taken over the word, just like fatties have taken over curvy.
>>49988792>men who have nothing better to do other than larp as womenwould you expect anything else?
Random observation about flossing. >eat healthy food>pull nothing on string>eat shit food>pull shitload of debris from between teeth
>>50006520interesting desu its as if the healthier foods have the natural byproduct of being more harmonic to the body
>>49988481Try to bring yourself into the moment. You may be putting a lot of subconscious time and energy into the past.
>Volunteering at Uni>Womens Vollyball team is ahead of me in the assemblyline >Had multiple chances to talk/flirt with the hot ones>One girl was even in a class I had>I did not talk to any of them and left after my hour was upWhy am I like this bros? How do I gain confidence in social situations? How do I become confident? Alpha?
Is working 40 hours a week a lot?Ive only ever done 20 hours a week until now.
>>50009730I'm phone posting right now and when I look at it, it's just a bunch of js en css files and I don't know what it's purpose is
>>49988481stop drinking, stop smoking, stop taking drugs
I think Ive done it lads. Got lucky and met a girl who wants a clean and traditional lifestyle. Looks like pic related. Wants kids. Doesn't drink or smoke. Saving herself for marriage. I've only been dating her for a month or so and everything in my gut is telling me this girl is the right one. I know I'm going to struggle abstaining from sex (been doing NoFap and NoPorn on top of it) and it's going to drive me crazy at times. But I believe it is worth it for a wholesome relationship.
>>50010805A girl who won’t put out while dating isn’t going to be the girl to cheat on you.
>>50009513why didn't you?
>>50011081I should have but I chickened out, froze up. I don't know why
>>49994115not by searching, but by observing
>>49988481Life swings like a pendulum backward and forward between pain and boredom.
>>50011100checked.it sounds like you got in your own head. in the sense that a thinker thinks about thinking, it creates feedback. just be observant. obviously they're all hot, but were their any that gave you a second of attention, checking you out? if so go for them. talk to them, get them to talk (when they talk they loosen up, you learn who they are and if they are worth your time, etc). and GENUINELY BE INTERESTED. whats to loose? were all going to be dead at some point
>>5000985340 is average
>>50011155Thanks for the advice anon
>>5000985340 is literally full time work lol
>>50000244Been meaning to try thisWhats a good amount to microdose with?
>>50000244>using an external outlet (even worse: drugs) to combat your problems instead of finding a solution through yourself the irony of your situation is that you aren't fixing anything; you are just making things worse
>>50011673This. Do anything that you can before relying on drugs or meds.
>>50000114Nassim TalebHe's my vote for recent addition to the stoic cannon
>>50005483You hit on something at the end. You should start keeping a journal. It stops me from being as shitty. I stop and think "do I want to have to write about this?"
>>50009853It's enough to feel busy, but 70 to 80 hours a week is doable if you hate yourself in the right away.
How do I force myself to wake up early, /fit/?
>>50012449>alarm goes off>wake up>tell self FUCK YES IM GONNA GET UP, IM GONNA DO IT>do itthat's itover time it gets a little more natural
Nofap is just a meme, noporn is the real redpill
I'm turning 19 years old in 6 days and I'm still a virgin.I fucking hate myself.
>>50013431>not even in his twenties>thinks he can complain
>>50013462If I can't get my shit together before 21 I'm going to kill myself.
>have been talking to this chick I'm sorta into for 2 days>our conversation is rolling pretty good and it seems like we're both liking each other's company>conversation leads to being something to do with kinks>tells me she likes the part near the abs where the crease is shown and scars>asks me what I like>say ass for the first time but wants to know >can't really think of anything so I used her as a base>say I like smooth silky hair>she starts mocking me for it>we say good night to each other and haven't talked for 3 days nowI fucked it up didn't I?
>>50013480>>50013431Buddy you still got a long way to go.
>>50013480LMAOstop being a drama queen, 19 is nothing, 21 is getting slightly weird but it's still ok. 25 in most people's minds is where you probably have issues, so take that as your cutoff if you absolutely have to have one (protip: you don't).
>>49987869Just got this.Gonna start microdosing this week. Any tips?
>>50013481>she likes the part near the abs where the crease is shown and scars
>order new bar and plates off amazon>gets delayed for 3 days>wake up to find the order cancelled pretty annoyed, once the refunds gone through I'll reorder and cross my fingers
My ears have been hurting and my doctor said I have a lot of wax built up in them. He recommended using candles to remove the ear wax.I have long heard that is bullshit and a very cursory google search reveals it is still considered so. In the past he has also said he has reservations about vaccinations.Time to find a new doctor? I think so. Kind of sucks to have to go through that process because I liked this guy and thought he was a help in a lot of ways, but it must be done.
>>50009853Yes, it's a lot. It's the average, but the average is too much.
>wanna better myself and see the world>uni offers exchange programs to Japan for 4 weeks during their WinterAre these worth it? I've always wanted to do exchange but I've been too anxious to pursue it. Have you guys got any experience?
>>50013690Nobody regrets traveling to Japan. Do it.
>>50013431I lost mine at 22To a prostituteDont worry kid
>>50013679How is having reservations for vaccinations a reason to change doc?Please don’t tell me you are actually anti vac in a generation that has access to internet and thus all needed information?
>>50013743Learn to read. I'm not anti-vac, I suspect he is.
>>50013644I forgot what's it called lol but I think u get it.
Just found out about the custom board list option.I filtered out all the non-patrician boards and I am already wasting less time on 4chan. I actually feel somewhat productive on 4chan now.
>>50012449put your phone with your alarm at the other end of the room
>>50013784Lmao I thought by “reservations” you meant he has planned appointments.My bad.
>>50013679>candles to remove the ear wax.... wow. Please change your doctor. For your ears, go to a pharmacy and ask for something that helps soften the wax buildup. Then reserve a time for a nurse to rinse out your ears.The day before the rinse, put the solution you got from pharmacy into your ears, block the ears so it stays in and let it stew over night. Yeah, it's uncomfortable and gross.Next day, hope the nurse gets everything and then enjoy your improved hearing.
>>49987869>The question isn't "how do I get a gf", it's "how do I become a person who can get any gf he wants".I want to say something on this.What precisely does being that person have to do with it? You can be the most attractive guy in the world, and you can still miss hints, or think you're screwing up, or whatever. I've had instances in which a girl was attracted to me, I was attracted to her, and we both knew it, but nothing happened. Some of this had reasonable excuses (one time she was under 18), but not every time.Every time, though, it was an extension of that same idea. It was a thought of "well, it's clearly not okay to date her in that situation, so is it okay to date her in this one?" It's then that I became obsessed with the morality of dating. Not just "some dating is immoral", but "some dating is better than others". So my question has mostly always been, "what's the best dating option?"Some things I can say>it's not about attractiveness, or desire, it's about matchmakingTry to be objective about it. If you were a matchmaker, and you saw yourself and the girl in question, would you think that you two made a good couple? Do you two get along well?>when it is about attractiveness or desire, it's about fun and nothing elsethere's literally nothing wrong with attraction, it's just not everything. When you don't particularly care about whether a girl is right for you, it's about equivalent to playing video games. Just try to have fun with it.>lean on your friends hardyou're not going to be able to see what's going on too much, so rely on their opinions heavily. Trust that they know more than you and take their advice.
>>50001847Fasting mostly One meal a day or skip eating for between one or two days (no more) I've been hitting my shoulders and back so I don't lose the "built" look I have going but it's nothing too strenuous and no cardio other than walking 40 mins to University Good luck bro were all gonna make it
>>50013431I didn't lose my virginity until I was 22. Now I'm with that same person at 25, engaged, and looking for houses together, before we start having kids.Your virginity isn't all that important, look for meaningful relationships.
I just threw away all my weed, I may not be capable of self control but I am capable of being better than I am
>leave /pol/ to escape Christchurch discussion>almost as much on /fit/Stupid glowniggas gtfo. Killing civilians is dishonorable, especially religious peoples at prayer.
>>49991129Just use both? They sync lol. Habitica is bae though, good start anon.
>>50013679Use a fucking ear swab every once in a while? lol
>>49987869Am I a moron for feeling like I can see through people?I've spent a lot of time watching how other people interact, from the outside looking in I suppose. I sat on my own all the time in school and spent all my time people watching. Any time I'm in a coffee shop or a restaurant I like to get a quiet seat and watch the world unfold around me. I study people's body language, how they talk, how they walk, how they dress themselves, how they act, I take it all in. Then I match the patterns together in my mind, cross-referencing with the thousands of other people I have met, and I can make comparisons, draw similarities, and in my mind I develop an accurate representative framework for how this person perceives the world, how they make their decisions, what they value, what they care about, what they don't care about. People's eyes tell you everything. I feel like I can honestly just stare into their soul. People have this energy that they carry with them and I feel like I can pick up on it immediately. Is this really weird? It sound pretty weird now that I have typed it out.
>>50014899no but it's egotistical if you think they can't/don't see through you
What the fuck did you guys do to me? Went two weeks or so on nofap. Invited a 200 lb braphog over last night and engaged in the most degenerate aggressive sex of my life. I feel disgusting with myself.
>>50015265next time you do nofap you'll remember not to give into your desires, you can't gain complete self control over instincts over night anon, takes time
Any suggestions on something productive I could do this weekend? I'm already planning on doing some reading, but I don't want to read all weekend.
>>50009730>>50009426>>50009924I really should upload the README!.txt file too when I get home.I have to check those saved webpages again why I saved them and If there really is good content in them.Regarding the folder:>Because some already asked:>There are folders with all kind of funny files, they belong to a saved website, it is its saved content.>There is a *.html file with the same name as the folder.>Open that *.html file to view that saved website.pic related as example.
>104 days of NoFap>still virgin>but I don't feel bad about virginityYES!
>>50015390Try some hiking. Spring is almost here and walking around the woods can be pretty good to reduce stress and do some introspection.
Is there any way to escape a flatline? My motivation is going away and I fear it won't come back until a week or two.I just want to lay down, read comics amd browse 4chan.
>>50015265Based and redpilled
>>50010805Where did you find her?
>>50015684Would taking a walk in the park count?
Holy shit waking up at 6AM and 8AM is such a difference. I can't tell if its because of my perception of time or what but waking at 6 made me feel like I got so much shit done and still had time to spare compared to getting up at 8.
>>50016761Not him, but just being outdoors can help, especially if it's a nice day.Get outside, get some fresh air. It does help.
>>50016795You got it. Crack of Dawn is where it's at.
>>50016795>>50017527Is it unhealthy to sleep only six hours? I usually go to bed at midnight and I probably couldn't sleep any earlier than that (or maybe 11PM I guess.)
>>50013810>no /asp/ya ain't gonna ding-dong diddly make it with the wolves here, kid
>>50017542It varies person to person. Most people need 5 sleep cycles to be healthy, and these are on average 90 min. So that makes the average healthy time 7.5 hours. So you might be fine with just 4 (6 hours) or you may have really short sleep cycles. Probably the former option though. The best advice is to really listen to your body and compare how you feel with 6 hours versus 7.5.
>>50001095lol nice gyno
some advice and laughshttps://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSRJqnsZa5KwVmsM9iNxuLMAZ27K1AxB3
>>49991127Joined and the first thing I see is: "Latin Americans. Be glad America won't be a nig country." I'm a bit wary on the "self-improvement" thing. Normally wouldn't be a big deal, but given the admin said that . . . IDK. We'll see. I'll stick around for a bit and give it a fair shake.>>49997260That he's a badass mofo who has more than earned his clout (if no fraud).>>50013741Can do one """better""".- 24- to a prostitute- who was also a literal crackwhore who got beat up for not paying money she owed people- who scammed me- and grumbled about cleaning herself when I told her to wash upSo, to the anon who is 19 and worrying, keep "trying" and give it a few more years before you freak out./fit/, what are some of the most redpilled/self-improvement-ish religions? At the library so I'll check out a few books on the legit ones.
>barely talk anymore>computer engineering major so I don't really have to, there are a lot of quiet people in my classes who never say anything>no hobbies, no passion for anything, doing my degree for the money>despise myself, like really really hate myself>see everything as absurd, spent way too much time on my own, losing my grip on how to behave like a normal person>horrible breakup with a borderline line ex who treated me like shit>all my "friends" have gradually faded out of my life because I regularly get really depressed and none of them actually give a shit about me >parents are narcissistic and cold, I really feel like they never had any interest in getting to know me at all>don't have a single person who gives a shit about me this isn't good fellas and it's getting worse by the month, I've been living like this for over a year now. it feels like the isolation is eating my inside apart
>>4998998290% will wear you out. I work from 70-80% up to a new PR about every month or so.
>>49991385>actual benefitsMore aggressive when aroused. Better stamina and skin.>actual drawbacksIf you break, you break hard. Don't let yourself fap to whatever the fuck is in your deep hidden porn folder. It will be very tempting
>>50021005You have to be proactive or it’s only going to get worse. Start listening to opinions that differ from yours just to try and break out of your bubble. I don’t mean go listen to a Bernie rally or something, but go pick up a book like Siddhartha or The Eastern Church. Something that’s going to make you question the spiritual side of human nature. Most depressed people are very analytical people who reject all sorts of spirituality from their life in favor of being rationalists. You don’t have to really socialize yet if you don’t want, but just try to venture out if your comfort zone when you can. You need to be lifting consistently, you need to develop patience and discipline. The key to a happy life imo is living in tune with the things around you, given that they are reasonable.
>>50021704I don't even know what I want anymore. I genuinely hate being social. I get a lot of looks from girls and I lost my virginity to a female housemate who was basically the first woman I had properly met / got to know. Outside of opportunities for sex I get nothing out of social interactions, may as well be honest here, sure as shit can't say it IRL. I come from a dysfunctional family where there was constant fighting and arguing at home, I don't know if that has anything to with it. I was so worn out from my parents that I preferred being alone. spent most of my teenage years as a hermit only leaving the house for school (sat on my own for nearly 3 years) realised eventually Id have to make some kind of living so started leaving more.im behind socially and people just really haven't been nice to me over the years. I'm fully aware that I'm a strange person and I see it as dishonest to pretend I'm something I'm not. I am serious, I don't smile, if people knew the shit I've been through they wouldn't smile much either. so yeah, pretty much given up on trying to make friends
>>50021005Fellow computer engineering major slowly having the same thing happen to me>No friends in college>Highschool friends stopped caring about me>Join clubs swimming etc. doesn't do anything>Plan to lift and get degree for money then escortmaxx
>>49989711I wanted to shit on you for pdf-spamming without giving a tl;dr, but this shit is actually interesting. Why is no-one talking about this (not ITT but in general)?
Been lifting for about a month now. 6’2 and now weigh 145. Up from 135 when I first started and 125 back in Jan. Lifts are now squat: 125, dL 145, ohp 60 BP 85 and pendlays 75. Mostly starting from bar only. Ripped my underwear today doing squats feeling great and starting to see my pecs and can feel my abs. Pics later. We’re all gonna make it.
>>50016795yes... keep waking up early so you can work more and earn more for all those things you don't need so that you can show it off to people you don't like. and when you later die, you can wonder where all that time went. the govt. wants us chase these bullshit lifestyles so that you're busy busting your ass over superficial shit instead of being real person.but congrats on waking up at 6 am tho.
i'm an emaciated 5'9", 135 pounds at 27 years old. obviously this is ridiculous and i should be at least 20 maybe even 30 pounds heavier (i think i have a pretty small frame so low weight would happen regardless, my wrists are about 5.5-5.75 inches circumference, yes im serious) but i just don't like eating. i dont know how its possible, i dont think i have an eating disorder... i just dont like doing it, its like my body rejects it and doesnt careill be starving in the morning when i get to work, try to eat a simple bowl of oatmeal with milk and peanut butter and just give up eating it halfway through, like i get tired of it. i eat basic ass lunches usually revolving around some sort of small sandwich every day. my dinners are pretty small as well. i probably eat literally less than 1500 calories every day and have basically my entire lifei dont know if this was a mindset established by my parents in childhood who let me eat a bowl of cereal every morning as my only breakfast, a shitty sandwich at lunch and having small dinners where they would restrict me from eating more if i was hungry so they could have leftovers to not have to cook. i remember when i went to college with an all you can eat cafeteria i gained about 20 pounds (to my current weight ive kept since then) within the first few months. but i definitely cannot comprehend these people who say they can't stop eating and get really fat. i literally don't think i have ever felt overly full in my entire life, even at something like thanksgiving. people say how they just eat nonstop during holidays and gain 10 pounds in a month, i dont think ive ever gained 10 pounds in a year outside of that college timemaybe im just too lazy. i dont know. anyone dealt with this who can advise? probably "dude just eat lmao"
>>50022526I had to do some searching for this shit, most poeople don;t even consider that this sort of shit could be true, the scientific materialistic dogma and social conditioning has been too strong for the past several centuries, for some reasons TPTB wanted to try out a world without magic. It didn't work, and now we are living on planet that is dying. That's the direct result of the loss of respect for the divinity of the earth and all it's creatures, there's no doubt there.
>>50023196What if you wake up at 6 am to do things you love, all day, until you fall asleep from exhaustion and do it all over again.
>>49988068Go to networking events and make friends with sales people, watch how they interact.
>>49991171Just drop them entirely bar special occasions. They’re unhealthy, expensive, rot your teeth and have shit macros.
>>50023313I was like you, but then I started to enjoy eating and I got fat... my advice is to not view this as a problem that needs fixing.
>>49994783You can meet the one at any age, but your focus should be on yourself. Thots are good for sex, and that’s about it. Keep in mind that really conservative girls don’t like guys who sleep around.
>>50023494come on man, obviously it would be bad to get fat, but i highly doubt this is going to happen to me being 27. and it isnt like eating to get out of skelly level will make you overweight. i wonder if maybe this is a result of my miserable life i've had forever, like instead of overeating a bunch of shit like people do in depression, i do the opposite and just dont eat at all.
>>49995346You are literally an incel. Start by making friends because it sounds like you are incapable of any relationship.
>>49997702Actively practice listening and hold yourself back.
>>50003062>>50003090Stop. Sugar isn’t some big evil that causes AIDs, and quitting it causes your dick to grow 3 inches. If you are feeling fine “on” or “off” sugar, then great.
>>50005804Then you need to keep thinking about it. Until it’s part of your muscle memory you will have to be vigilant.
>>50013690Stay at home or go on an adventure. What do you think?
>>50014808Ear swabs don’t work, they push wax further into your canal and can cause thicker deposits.
>>50014899No, you’re just autistic. Try talking to people and you’ll find out your ‘gift’ is entirely average and often wrong.
>>50017542Average person needs 8 hours of sleep. If you can thrive on less, then go for it.
Kind of late to ask this, but what are some alternatives to running for leg day? It's freezing where I live and always snowing in the winter. Do people just run during that to or are there indoor alternatives?
>>50023681Bike, Swimming, Speed bag, etc.
Anyone ever have those periods where they just "shut down"? I'm a stupid worthless incel loser, but I'm not one of those ones who just sits in a corner never talking to anyone. I'm weird but I'm actually relatively talkative and joke around a lot, make people laugh, I'm just too weird, aloof, and angry/mean I guess to make any friends or relationships. But every so often, I'd say every 2-3 weeks, I just go into periods where I completely shut down into basically a mute. At work, barely speak more than a few words to people, don't talk to anyone, no joking around, nothing, leading people to ask what's wrong with me. I don't know why, something just comes over me
>>50023649Not if you know how to use them.
>>50024041>I'm a stupid worthless incel loser,Why do you think this?
When are beginner gains supposed to start becoming noticeable?
>>50025535For lifting I mean
>>50025507For a dude? About a month, but it depends where you're at and how fat you are. Skelly-mode will see muscle growth pretty quick.Fatty won't see much until some fat is lost.
>>50025617I'm pretty thin, but having trouble going past tdee without eating garbage. It's been almost a month and I don't really see a difference.
>>50025627Can you eat nuts? Almonds? Those are very easy way to push calories with. Also obviously get protein shakes.
>>50025636They're pretty expensive here but I'll try that.
>>50025638Peanuts shouldn't be too expensive, they'll do in a pinch. Also don't forget the almighty egg. If you can handle beans, those are good too but might mess with your stomach. Just mind you don't go overboard with just fat, get your protein.Do your best!
Hey /sig/, I've been on the path for self improvement for a while now, and I've been making some good progress for a while now. I started meditating and looking after my nutrition, found a cute girlfriend that loves literature even more than me, and generally have been a more stoic person. The only issue I've been having is lifting. I'm 21 years old and I'm cursed with a skinnyfat body of my own making, because I only read and never did any sports in my earlier youth.There is so much conflicting information regarding if I should cut or bulk first and what kind of programm to follow. Should I go full skelly mode first or become chubby with some muscle?I have access to a bench, squat rack, ez curl bar and some dumbells in my home.
>>50025733You should get into a gym and start lifting. Don't worry about cut and bulk bullshit. It literally does not matter. Just stop being a faggot and do heavy compounds. You can run whatever fucking program you want as long as you lift heavy, with occasional high volume.
>>50025738Thanks, that sounds true. I just need to lift weights and I'll make gains somehow.
I'm getting all vitamins and minerals with roughly 3,500 calories a day after only getting 1,200-1,600 for several months with a cheap multi vitamin. I'm gonna start doing exercises again here soon, too. Praise me, /sig/.
>>50025658Okay, thanks anon.
>>50025752You'll make great gains, I am sure. We are all capable of powerful, beautiful bodies. To point you in the right direction, I would suggest basing your routines around some core exercises which should be:>Pullups>Rows>Deadlifts>Overhead press>Squats>Dumbell bench pressI might have left a few out, but to me these are crucial. I would also suggest: >Farmers carries>Heavy rack pull/shrugs>Turkish get ups>Sprinting>Power cleans>Upright rows>Face pulls
>>50025848Also, try and mix up rep ranges and weights. A great app that I have used is "Strong". A lot of lifting success is in progressive overload. By tracking your previous weights and making an effort to lift more weight or do more reps with each week or month will go a long way.
>>50025848>>50025860Thanks mate, I really appreciate it. How important is form vs weight in the beginning? I know I'll never reach perfect form as a novice lifter, but is it worth sacrificing weight for better form or vice versa?Also that album is goat, you have great taste.
>>50025872Take it easy in the beginning and get your form right
>>50025783Breakfast>10 packs of Quaker Instant Oatmeal Original in water (no sugar, none added / 1,000 Calories, 40 Protein)Lunch / thought the day>10-11 servings of Jif Creamy Peanut Butter (1,900-2,090 Calories, 70-77 Protien)Dinner>3 packs of Maruchan Ramen without the flavoring (1,140 Calories, 24 Protein)I also take these as soon as I wake up.>1/4 serving of Bluebonnet Calcium, Magnesium, Potassiumhttps://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001RMAX9S/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1>full serving of GNC Mega Men Sport Daily Multivitaminhttps://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00416V1DY/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&th=1>full serving of Nature Made Flaxseed Oilhttps://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B008NC7QQS/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s01?ie=UTF8&th=1I never feel like I eat as much peanut butter as I do, so roughly 3,500 Calories and roughly 135 Protein a day. I know it's not what I SHOULD be getting everything I need from but between the oatmeal, vitamins and supplements I am getting ALL the nutrients and minerals a person needs a day. Potassium I reach with the peanut butter. I know flax seed isn't as good for you as fish oil because while your body can synthesis alpha linolenic acid into EPA and DHA it can only do so at a rate of less than 1% to, in the best case, roughly 9% to the amount you took, but I have a fish allergy and the plant-based supplements seem iffy to me (though I know fish get EPA and DHA from algae, I'm just superstitious due to my condition).I certainly feel better since eating again. I'm a shut-in with little money and basically no means of getting anything outside of the mail because otherwise I'd eat better and GOMAD. As for now, all I drink is water. The shut-in cannot be fixed, but I have plenty of space to freely move around. R8.
>>50026022Well, I actually need to eat more oat meal and peanut butter to get my Potassium a day, but I'm 71-75% there! I get everything else. I'll fix that by eating more once I'm more accustomed to eating once again.
>>50026022>>50026045So you eat the peanut butter by itself? Other than that neato.
>>50026072Yep, big spoon fulls I try and eat as quickly as possible with water. It's not pretty, but it gets the job done.
>>50013639Do not engage in drugs, you dimwit.
DAILY REMINDER THAT YOU CAN CHOOSE BETWEEN TWO TYPES OF PAIN: THE PAIN OF DISCIPLINE AND THE PAIN OF REGRET. IT'S UP TO YOU WHAT WILL YOU ENDURE
>>50026380>lifting for girlsY I K E Si cannot imagine letting somebody have that much control over your head spacerenting that shit out for free
>>50026415Getting girls is a byproduct of taking care of yourself. You lift to stay healthy and to gain muscle. Girls see you bigger and in good fitted. That's why they get more pussy.
>>50026380Guy at the top right's nipples always weird me outAre they going to pop off
It's been 6 months since I've had contact with the dealer or friends that smoke regularly.Yesterday I threw all of my weed down the toilet. Deleted their contact information.>inb4 weed is not addictive.THAT SHIT IS PSYCHOLOGICALLY ADDICTIVE.
>hit pr on bench>would draw extensively as a kid and teen but haven't picked up a pencil since (in 9 years)>gonna jump back in and grind, maybe do courses online, make this my signature creative outletthe "how good would i be if i stuck with it" is pinging around my head but i cant let that get to me
>>50026022Absolute shit diet man, -100/10. Get a job, or at least a better one, and try and get over your shyness/social anxiety. Start by going to the grocery store and getting actual food, when you have the money:>chicken thighs>bags of rice>bags of dried beans (black, pinto, chickpeas, etc)>potatoes>lentils>carrots and onions>frozen broccoli>natural peanut butter (the kind you have to stir)>eggs>oranges to prevent scurvyI can pretty much guarantee you that this stuff will be as cheap if not cheaper than the other stuff you eat, and it will be better for you. I'm also telling you this because you are going to get sick of eating this same shit every day (20 tablespoons of jif peanut butter are you a fucking golden retriever???(The maruchan noodles aren't helping, even without the sodium those noodles aren't very high quality, shit calories desu))Just buy actual food, don't buy everything at once, build up a pantry that you only have to restock every once in a while.Best of luck man.
>>50026647Imagine being so buttfrustrated and whiny you actually draw a tl;dr
>>50027294>20 tablespoons of jif peanut butter are you a fucking golden retriever???Lel
>>50027294Completely different anon here but thanks. I came to /fit/ to look for some diet advice.
>>50027376I basically posted a very commonplace "healthy+frugal" shopping plan, if you have extra funds to spend on good food there are other things you can eat that are healthy, pretty much anything you can buy at the grocery store that you have to cook from a raw/semiraw format with the least amount of processing (breads obv are ok in small amounts) is good to go. Don't forget to buy spices and cooking oils.
>>50027294>and try and get over your shyness/social anxiety.I'm actually quite the outgoing individual to the point of having no trouble with ad-libbing public speaking, but I'm also a violent schizophrenic. I am missing parts of my brain. There is simply nothing to be done about that. However, >riceSeems like a shit thing to eat compared to oats in every way expect unit cost (price per serving), but still seems shit nutritionally but for what it's famous for, thiamine.>bags of dried beansNo excuse here, I just don't know how to cook. I also don't know how the price would come out in that, but the nutrition would probably be tops.Too be honest, the rest of everything on your list is either a messed up ratio between what you get for the cost or is just otherwise nutritionally defunct.>are you a fucking golden retrieverMore or less.>Just buy actual food,I have 200 sheckles a month, my man. I can get 336 servings of nutritious oats for 72.52. 400 oz of nut for 29.10-54.44. I will probably just switch the noodles for more oats. I'm was and am still more concerned with getting pure nutrition before calories, and that's why oats are great. If I wasn't interested in micros, I would buy a tub of palm oil.
>>49987869When a girl rejects me, do I ignore/ghost her when she pesters me for attention or just tell her I don't want to be friends?
>>50027592I'm telling you dude, humans aren't a monofood species like other animals, your body is going to be begging you for more variety. I hope you find a way to get more sheckles, I really do.
What's a recommended workout routine for a beginner? I want to gain strength and muscles. Looked at the /fit/ sticky but a lot of dead links and outdated sources tells me, it isn't a reliable source now.
>>50027747We'll see, and>monofood speciesgive me some credit because I am eating oats AND peanut butter. I don't know. The rest of my nut will arrive in the mail tomorrow and then I can start moving my bones. This is not my first time exercising but it will be the first time I do so without weights. I worked out for a year when I was in high school, put on 20lbs and became the best runner at the school but then lost it all to homelessness. Here's hoping I still give a fuck.
i need help, brahs. sorry for the inconvenience >thought that the girl who rejected me just wasn't ready for a relationship>stayed friends in part because she was going through some hard times losing her dad to cancer, i'm going through a similar thing with my family>3 months later, still friends. Don't love her anymore like I used to but it still makes my day when i see her. >its clear to my group that i want to be around her, most of my friends rooting me on to try and ask her out again>Bring her to a party, in just a couple hours I see her stuck to a friend of mine, coming on to him hard>Try to laugh it off, but it feels like someone blew a hole through my chest>pull her aside, tell her how i felt about her and that i just hurts, she tells me she doesnt see me as anything more than a friend but is sympathetic>takes her stuff out of my room and leaves the party with the guy she just meti feel like trash. I'm so fucking worthless as a man. I want to enjoy the Sisyphean struggle but its hard to not be bitter when I have zero wins under my belt and an endless loss streak. I just want a girl to hold me and tell me its alright bros, someone to provide for and to give me a reason to be around. My life has been a turbulent shitstorm as long as I can remember, and I gotta be fair to myself for sticking it out this long and being relatively successful. But none of that shit matters. With no one who i want to share it with, it's worthless. Being alone for too long ruins you, man. it feels like you're failing your very purpose in life. Its like every failure is one step closer to me checking out for good.
>>50027673I would just tell her. No reason to be a pussy. Also look the way you would want to be treated in the situation she is in
>>50027888I understand how this has made you feel like a failure of a man. But try and see the bigger picture. Think of this event as a signal, as in a mechanical system. When the control system of a car senses the speed has dipped below the goal, the computer will send a signal to the throttle to increase the fuel supply to correct the error. The woman that left you is a signal that you are not what you needed to be in order to achieve what you desired. This may mean two things:1. You need to work on yourself as a man. This may mean improving your social skills, your confidence, your social standing or you physical appearance. 2. You need to aim at different things in life as what you aimed at was not meant for you.Take it as a lesson. Also, cut ties with this broad. If you told her how you feel and she left with the other guy she is obviously not concerned with your wellbeing. Keep at it, don't give into apathy. You can improve. This life is good and holds joys.
>>50027934I have absolutely no idea why people like Sam. It's gotta be only Boomers.
>>50027978Bc he perfectly tapped into weirdo fringe internet culture in a none pandering “lol meme!” way
>>50016795But do you go to bed 2 hours earlier? You have to go around 10pm which is pretty early
>>50025627As a fellow skelly, I've found that I have a lot of difficulty noticing gains in myself. After all, I see my own body every day and even beginner gains don't show up overnight. So day to day, I don't think I'm growing. If you compare your body now to a picture from a month ago, you might see a difference.
>>50027888something like that is happening to me brokilling me to be honest
>>50027888Sort of thing happened to me aswell but I didn't even dare to talk to her about my feelings for her.. But after all I started to see her flaws and think I might have dodged a bullet with this one. Try to see the positives of it even though it's hard at first. And it really helps to talk about it with someone you really trust.
>>50028512and im too much of a fag to just stop seeing her completely because i dont want to stop going out with my friends
>>50020614Bumpity. I'd like to know this too.
>>50027888Listen to me man, I know how it feels, I've been through it many times myself, like many others before us have; and will again. You need to realise that there is nothing special about this girl of yours. You're not in love with her, you're in love with the idea of having a girlfriend. You are deluding yourself and basing your wellbeing on another persons opinion of you. If you continue going down this road you will be hurt again and again, until you realise that women shouldn't ever be the source of your happiness, but a nice byproduct of having a good life. Even if you have to see her in the future, see this as an opportunity for growth, enjoy the pain and stop giving her any attention. She is the one who missed out on getting you, not the other way round. If you stay on your mission like a man, proud and grounded in yourself, you will find quality women that crave your company. The ironic thing is that, at that point, you'll realise that all your expectations were based on a fantasy, and you'll be happy regardless if you are alone or not.We're all in this together and we're all gonna make it.Godspeed anon.
>>50027888that sucks. take a deep breath anon. don't, under any circumstances, speak to this chick again. if she texts you, ignore it. if she snaps you, don't view it. when this thing with her new guy doesn't work out she WILL try to come back to you for support, do not let that happen.
Just found out my most recent ex is fucking some dude and I feel like shit right now. I’m apparently not as over her as I thought. How do I best deal with this?I’ve been feeling a mix of rage and sadness since i found out.
>>50028832Also, I have a booty call lined up this weekend, so thats something atleast. Fucking someone else will hopefully keep me sane
>>50027904Thanks, it makes sense.
>>50028899Don't do this. You're just feeding the machine. Literally cut off all contact and go on with your life.
>>50000174Holy shit i didnt know i need thisNot same anon btwDanks
>>50028832move on and pursue other women. It's the only way
>>50028832What's so awful about being sad? It's not gonna kill you. At worst you'll be feeling like shit for a bit. So what? Process your breakup.Better that than trying to run away from it or getting angry and then end up falling apart every time you hear something about her that you didn't want to hear.
Whenever I start working out I feel really dehydrated, in a way that chugging a liter doesn't cure.Is there anything I can do about this?Am I just being stupid and mistaking exhaustion for thirst?
>>50000016Based and anti-porn pilled! I never saw it that way. Damn, those feels of enlightenment.
tried meditation for the first time because of this post. I felt refreshed/recharged when I was done.
Hey guys, do any of you use Dailyo or something similar? It's an app that is supposed to be used as some sort of diary. You register things you've done, and the way you're feeling in a scale of 1 to 5, quite customizable.I struggle with mood swings and rage control in my day to day environment (shitty family situation), so I thought about using it to have perspective and see if I can get some meaningful results I could learn fromI'm too lazy and a lot of times I feel like I don't have much to register in it though. I'll do it for a few days and then forget.Anybody does something similar about registering their moods daily? I'd like some reference about a ''''workflow'''' for this thing
>>50029410Good idea.I use Year in Pixels>>50029406Great to hear man, keep it up.
>>50020614>>50028604>/fit/, what are some of the most redpilled/self-improvement-ish religions? At the library so I'll check out a few books on the legit ones.Tantra ( not the new age sex stuff )Read Tantra Illuminated by Christopher Wallis ( https://dropfile.nl/f/ruR )
>>50029410I don't see it how looking at my mood swings will help me in any way.
>>50025658Is 2 eggs enough?
>>50029966Count your calories and macros.
>>49990202Dump her before she dumps you.It's a lot easier to get over screwing someone over than it is from getting screwed over.
>>50029410>another "app" and spending even more time on your spyphone every day will make your life better rather than worse
i feel like i've been improving these past couple of weeks, although i still feel a bit sad sometimes but i don't know why, it just comes out of the blue.other than that i feel great