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i’m sick of being a lonelita in my area but i‘ve been inactive long enough that i don’t know the new crowd.
>what has your comm done over the summer to stay in touch?
>does your comm have regular casual monthly meetups?
>have you ever helped revive a comm? particularly after drama or mod switches?
>how do you keep a comm active when it involves two cities?
>inb4 “just plan a meetup yourself” the problem is that the same three newbies/itas attend and older members only go if their friends do
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just plan a meetup
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Where did the old local comm thread go? There's no way it hit autosage
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>>10235482
someone started one a couple days ago themes around some comm putting up flyers and it saged.
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>>10235505
It didn't sage, it was deleted by the mods.
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>>10235221
This.
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>>10235511
Blame Oregon comm.
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>>10235214
op what is this picture
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Best site to find local groups?
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>>10235578
i’d say facebook but it seems like a lot of comms/lolita groups have made their groups private to avoid being zucc’d
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>>10235482
Where they all go. Mods deleted it because people don’t know how to be vague about bitching about comm drama
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>>10235580
Do cosplay groups have alot of guys?
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>>10235652
Wrong thread, buddy.
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>>10235578
i've heard a lot of comms are moving to discords but i don't know how new members would find them
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Ok so who can caps of that shit that went down at 2am on CoF
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>>10235562
Seriously? They do this every time, mass report anything about their comm. I don't know why they keep getting away with it.
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>>10236844
but it wasn't even about oregon... it was az
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>>10236844
So what? I think its great that they can get together as a community and prevent assholes from ruining things for no reason.
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>>10237063
which one? the vegan shoplifter girl?
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>>10237070
oh, nope, the vegan shoplifter is white and chubby
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>>10237063
>>10237070
they got banned, among other things, for doxxing people on here and stirring shit about the comm over half-decades old drama no one still cares about. they made their own comm and are so desperate for members they have to put flyers up at card stores and barcades.
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>>10236857
I knew it was AZ. It's always AZ. I live in one of the major cities and I have no desire to attend meets after seeing how they all behave on here.
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>>10237105
I mean.... ok but the people responsible are banned so I dunno what you're taking a stand against exactly
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>>10237115
I know for a fact that the mods come here and I have no way of knowing if they're actually helpful and contribute to the community or if they're all just catty bitches too. One of them is a mod for RC: Uncensored which for a mod of a comm I don't think is very...I dunno, professional isn't the right word but I can't think of a better one.
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>>10237125
Nah the new mod who also mods RC:U is still a catty bitch. She’s the one that started the “moderator” role and icon shit we have seen recently. I wouldn’t be surprised if she was the one that posted >>10234178 in the ita thread. She’s done it many times before. Flounced, we got our shit together, no one posted. She came back then bam suddenly old ass images are in the ita thread from albums that where forgotten about. I mean she mods a well known cesspool of a lolita forum on Facebook, why would you not think it wasn’t her starting shit here again?
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>>10237125
>expecting 'professional' behavior for a volunteer position
anon
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>>10237506
Nayrt but it’s not a matter that it’s work done for free. It’s a matter of people being able to trust the mod for serious questions without being made fun of and creating an inviting environment for newer members or members still learning their way in the fashion without getting posting and laughed at on an anon board. Considering how this said mod is a mod of RC:U which is quite literally the bad part of cgl on facebook, it doesn’t look good on the mod in the comm. it makes people not trust the mods ethics and real intentions of the status and using said status to get away with bad behavior that have gotten other members of the comm banned. So why should one member be banned for posting new members here for laughs and making fun of them while a mod who is known for doing such behaviors and runs a group known for such behaviors be exempted from the same judgment? She’s not very professional when she talks with members and uses cgl memes a lot. She passive aggressive and that isn’t what a good mod would be. I’m sorry if you’re her, but you really do not belong in that position. You just cause more tension in the community.
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>>10237528
This, mods from all communities should be people new and old members feel safe to approach with their issues without fear or repercussions of being laughed at on an anon board. This is what causes communities to die and part ways. Of a mod has a history that is still generating more bad rap in current situations, they shouldn’t be trusted with being a community mod due to the fact that local communities are full of new lolitas still learning the way. Getting posted isn’t the worse thing that can happen, but no one wants their mods to be the person posted them when they where given the position to be helpful and answer questions members have. Moderators have to be a neutral force in a group to assure others are following rules and keeping conflicts down. Not stirring them up and making people feel I welcomed. That shows bias and taking a side rather then remaining neutral.
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>>10237506
I did say professional wasn't quite the right word but I couldn't think of another.
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>>10237599
Of I was approached I would have considered it too. I saw the application and knew there where much more justified options who would do great in that role then myself which is why I didn’t apply since I know there’s people who could do the role better then myself. But how where we supposed to know they where not getting that many applicants? We don’t see the applications. We just see the finishing results.
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>>10235214
well to keep this from getting deleted over single comm drama (again?), my comm started dying out back in 2017 and so we started having regular monthly meetups. it was nothing major, we’d just vote on facebook for where to meet up (boba tea, all you can eat sushi, bookstores, cafes, karaoke etc) and would have a casual thing once every 4-5 weeks or so. we voted on the weekend date every time too, so it varied a lot, but after going to three or four i ended up becoming friends with some people i previously hadn’t ever seen at a meetup. i’m in california though so maybe we have more lolita-friendly places than where you live.
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>>10237604
Ooh, I like this monthly meetup idea. It sounds like a great way to get to know each other in a setting that's a lot more casual than stuff like museums/tea parties. Does the same person hold the meetups each time?
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>>10238112
actually, it’s not really hosted by anyone in particular. sometimes our mods don’t even attend. it’s kind of more like “we all agree to meet up at the most-voted location”. it works well for us because no one person or group of people have a regular commitment of organizing it. i’m not sure it would work in all comms, (ymmv) but i go nearly every month
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What's with the girl in all the mentoring groups saying she needs a custom petti because she's "got a unique body ratio"
I checked her profile and she's incredibly, well, average looking.
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>>10238233
Probably dysmorphia or some mental illness.
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>>10238166
where was this, i glanced through RC and didn't see it?
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az com please check archive
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HLS comm be aware that your mods talk so much shit about you and everyone else in the comm. They're completely two faced but will flat out deny everything when you confront them.
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What's with the OC comm right now? One of the DLD organizers posted that comm excludes LGBT people or something? Anyone got any deets?
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>>10240104
It's Houston. Both comms are shit.
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>>10240105
OC comm didn't accept a middle aged man who applied to their group. Then he goes into the trans lolitas group and bawws that he's actually a woman, despite having no evidence whatsoever on his profile, and the OC comm is transphobic when he's obviously a creepy sissy. He also tattled to LWLN on twitter.
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>>10240138
this person is a hoot: https://twitter.com/GraffBunny/status/1161151855365246976
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forgot to drop pic
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>>10240148
look at this POS on the left
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>>10240150
TYLER LIKED MY COORD
ÀAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHIDJRNSBWJDJ!!!!!!
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>>10240147
>Has a gofundme for laser hair removal
wat
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>>10240147
>https://twitter.com/GraffBunny/status/1161151855365246976
oh gawd please do not come to any other comms
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>>10240104
What prompted this? There’s like... literally no drama or tea right now.
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>>10240104
also dying bc dont they have plenty of people who are lgbtq who are in the comm... you cant be trans for not wanting to add a weirdo lol. anyone know what else happened?
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>>10240179
transphobic*
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>>10240179

what's the context for this?
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>>10240187
I think they are talking about the OC comm
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>>10240104
I was having a conversation with another member and find out that some mods have been talking about members of the comm. This person is close to those mods and apparently just had it with them and mentioned it to me. I'm not sure what happened but she just flat out let everything out. I asked if she had proof to bring it to the comms attention she said no. Everything was lowkey said in conversation rather than text.

I heard rumors about this from someone else but I doubt she would try to start drama. She just seemed very upset and venting.
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What's the best way to deal with creeps in your local comm? There's an ouji in my comm who practically begs me to go on dates with him and has even contacted me through my business email to ask me out for drinks under the guise of wanting to talk to me about projects.
Here's the plot twist though: he has a really good reputation in my comm. Other girls find him to be a nice person and friendly and one of my friends was shocked when I told her about him. He's also unavoidable because he'll either RSVP as going to every upcoming event, or not RSVP to any events and will not show up at events he says he's going to attend or attend events that he said he wouldn't be attending.
I just wanna be able to attend comm-wide events again without worrying about this guy. What do I do, gulls?
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>>10240105
>>10240138
Had something similar happen in my comm. A handful of people went around all the local Jfashion, convention and cosplay communities saying that our comm hates LGBTQ+ people and we’re all horribly bigoted, racist vanilla cishets, all because the mods removed a (white) male sissy from the group after he sexually harassed several members. Over half of our mod team is bi or lesbian, btw. Gay women who defend their friends from straight men are oppressors now.

Though ngl I can’t be too upset about this, because it has actually weeded out a lot of the tumblrsexual cosplay ita’s that normally try to join our comm after con season and then cry bully when we tell them “neko loli” isn’t really a lolita substyle.
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>>10240210
our comm literally just banned someone who had a seemingly good reputation for being nice and friendly despite posting hate and doxxing on cgl/otherwise. this is creepy behavior and you should report it all (with as many screenshots / details with dates as possible) to your mods. i’m sorry you have to go through that. i’ve stopped going to meets because some people made me so uncomfortable
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>>10240210
Screenshot everything, especially any instances of you telling him no and him persisting anyway. Bring it up to a mod you feel comfortable with and show her the screenshots if she asks for proof. Even if they decide it’s not a ban-worthy offence right now it’s very helpful to establish a documented history of his behaviour and to let people know what’s happening so they can keep an eye on him. People are more likely to be skeptical if you keep quiet for a long time and then suddenly complain (what looks to them) out of nowhere, so please tell people now even if you’re not sure anything can be done about him (yet).
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>>10240165
That you know of...
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>>10240149
This is one of the funniest posts I've ever seen on this site.

I like you, anon.
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>>10240150
I just want (unpassing) trannies to go from our comms and fashion. They will never look good
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How do you start a comm where one exists in your area already? I'm in SW England and the only one that seems to be in existance turned into a general jfashion community. Would it do no harm to invite those from there to a comm where it's just strictly lolita? Or will it be seen as elitist for most?
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>>10240108
To be fair, the other houston comm (HLC) has new mods (as of last year I think?) who actually organize decent events and keep the community active.
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>>10240149
For someone who loudly proclaims to be against fetishists and creeps Tyler sure is giving a nice pose and smile here.
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I think modship in most communities nowadays is just fucked. it usually consists of old fags who refuse to relinquish power but sit on their ass getting fatter every day while doing nothing, straight up sociopaths who use their power to manipulate and bully members, or meek ones who don’t do shit when members are harassed or stalked by others or allow fetishists to force their way into the group. It’s a laugh and a farce, because there’s no reasonable way to actually kick out bad mods because whose going to take away their modship? This fashion is ridiculous.
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>>10240367
Excuse me but you just described the Houston comm perfectly.
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>>10240337
If they were a lot welcoming and not so cliquey and judgmental I would join. The last meets have left a sour taste in my mouth.
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>>10240369
Wasn’t even trying to, my bad lol. It is one of the more infamous ones though, so you’re not that far off. I remember dealing with HLC during the Anime Matsuri fiasco was like talking to a bunch of cult members, not sure if much changed since last I visited.
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>>10240367
Is this a TX comm?
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>>10240352
Well yeah but she’d look like an asshole for refusing him. Especially as a brand ambassador for BB&B, she’s got to be on her best behavior 24/7
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>>10240387
you get a lot of weird people showing up to have their photo taken with someone. this is on par with Tyler taking a photo with that creepy brolita at Tekko
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What is the Dutch comm like?
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>>10240387
>>10240398
Its just super hypocritical of her, since she threw Cathy Cat under the bus for working with John under contract from her job. She would do the same shit.
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>>10240406
She had a 5 minute interaction with a sissy she had no prior contact with and got a photo with him, she didn't plan to attend an event months ahead of time with him. This is nothing like CathyCat and John Leigh you salty cunt.
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>>10240221
Nah, I am pretty up to date. What do you feel is tea-worthy? Genuinely curious.
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>>10240369
>>10240371
Literally what even are you talking about. If anything, there has been less drama, more unification, and more legitimate olive branches being made since all the shit in 2015. Stop being so fucking negative and enjoy the peace. People have been literally asking why we even still have 2 comms anymore because it has been so great. Stop your drama mongering and fuck off, we have had enough in the past 4 years to last a lifetime.
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>>10240406
Taking a photo with someone who asks at an event is nothing at all like working with and defending them, but ok
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>>10240406
Taking a photo with someone who asks at an event is nothing at all like working with and defending them, but ok
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>>10240406
Calm down there.
I despise agps/sissies and shit but this is not hypocritical and not at all comparable to the cathy cat and anime matsuri dramu

>>10240400
As in Belgium? Went once they were sweethearts
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I was wondering what people's thoughts were regarding the formality of meets. I'm active in two comms:
- Comm A is very casual with meets. Apart from some very sporadic bigger events, we generally book a table for X people at a restaurant and just kind of let the whole afternoon/evening take its course. People might take up to an hour to show up & then just order whatever they like (there's no set meal or anything), after we're done we might go somewhere else for drinks with whoever's left, it's generally very freewheeling.
- Comm B has quite 'organised' events, you generally need to put a deposit down a month or so in advance, have quite specific activities planned and the time/participant limits aren't very flexible. It doesn't generally have any casual outings in the style of 'show up here at X o'clock and we'll see how it goes'

What's everyone's comm more like? I'm wondering whether the location/country makes a difference too. I'm thinking it might be fun to organise some more planned events for comm A, but I'm thinking it might put people off.
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>>10240454
I hate A because it’s rude to everyone. Businesses don’t want you to just casually take up space all day, bigger venues have deposits and time limits. Waiting on late people is exhausting.

I only do casual A type with a small group but bigger stuff needs B organization.
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>>10240410
>Less drama
Just because it's not being said publicly or posted on social media does not mean that drama is not happening.

>unification
Yeah after mods left HLC which means those mods either started the drama or were making vague posts on their personal pages. Then being called out or lowkey saying shit behind everyone's back.

>drama mongering
No one here is being negative but no one outside of Houston will associate with either comms because you guys have a stick so far up your ass you don't see the shit you do. Calm the fuck down. Houston comms has an image issue and you're blind to not see it. People step out of the comms so much because you're not welcoming, members are brandwhores who look down on others that don't wear AP, and HLS has lazy mods who barely put any effort in meets. People avoid your comm like the plaque because it's consistently showing how Houston members attitudes gives little fucks about new people, the fashion, and community aspect. If you're not a brandwhore you barely get looked at and greeted. No thanks. I'll stick to my comm.
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>>10240456
>Businesses don’t want you to just casually take up space all day, bigger venues have deposits and time limits

This HEAVILY depends on the city/country. I haven't organised an awful lot of meets to be fair but in my experience I have never been asked to put a deposit down for a larger booking unless it's something like Christmas season/an actual venue and not just a bar/restaurant.
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>>10240461
The fact that you are having to reference mods who stepped down quite literally years ago is telling, but go off I guess.

1) Yea we have a few bitches, but every comm does, 2) we know we have an image issue—and people like you perpetuate that despite 99% of us trying to mend the divide, 3) it’s been so peaceful that our old friends from NOLA have been coming back more and more to visit us oldfags, 4) you sound like you are salty because you can’t fit into the new Honey Cake. Sorry about your inferiority complex.
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>>10240512
Idk why you're waiting for comm mods to do that? The mods mainly exist to delete off-topic posts. All the guidelines and useful documents in my comm are made by other members, not the mods. If there are a lot of issues in your comm, maybe suggest to them to add a simple "no harassment" rule and report NSFW posts. I assume most comms already have those rules. And again, don't wait around for someone else to call out creeps, comm mods are just volunteers with no leadership experience. Simply make a post to the comm that warns other members of a creep. The same way you see people make warning posts about scammers. Keep it short.
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>>10240454
I greatly prefer small, casual type A meets but my comm is too big for those to work outside of picnics so we pretty much only have type B meets. And even with casual picnics we still get people complaining when we don’t all travel together the entire way or have a detailed enough list of who is bringing what. I swear it sometimes feels like I’m organizing birthday parties for children.
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>>10240454
my comm turned from A to B when people weren’t showing up for meets with deposits; it got too chaotic.
i loved all the planned meets, themes, specific activities etc for a while but it got boring very quickly desu. it didn’t feel like a fashion comm anymore but a weird club that i had to pay for events to see my lolita friends, (and it felt cheesy to always have a theme and planned activities) so i stopped wearing it and stopped attending.

i think the perfect comm is a mix of both. casual lolita (and even just j-fashion friendly) hangouts or meetups - although i don’t like the idea of people being an hour late and zero structure - and the occasional, maybe 3-4x a year planned events
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>>10240454
I prefer a combo of A and B. The casualness you described is too annoying. As a host, fuck people who show up an hour or more late because it's "casual". Your host still has to figure out how many seats to get, try and help if someone is lost, try to gauge attendance for future meets, etc. But I sure do love having an "after meet" where we go somewhere else with a small group. I dislike over structured events that are over at a specific time. It always ends up being kind of early due to venue restrictions.
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>>10240579
Imagine not being able to afford a deposit for a meet in a fashion with expensive dresses. Sorry you're poor. You don't need comm meets to meet with your friends if they're actually your friends.
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>>10240454
Well, we have A type meets a lot, but we tell people to show at "roughly" some decided on time. Usually this is at festivals and places like markets/malls. Sometimes we'll move on to a second location.

If we're going to a restaurant, we make reservations and ask people to try to be on time. If we have picnics we try to get people in at around the same time also so that we don't have to worry about waiting on people before we start eating.

We've never taken deposits for anything though. It's almost to the point where I kind of want to start though, because we have so many issues with people flaking out last minute.
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>>10240613
You'd be amazed at how many lolitas are or live like poorfags because they can't balance a budget. They live paycheck to paycheck and spend all their leftover cash on dresses. Try throwing a meetup that costs more than $50 to attend, even one with a full venue and activities, and people are going to bitch and moan about how expensive it is. I've even gone out to meals with lolitas who can't afford to tip.

The only exception is Japanese brand parties in the US and overseas. They generally cost a lot more, yet people seem more receptive to paying over $100 to attend. But those cater more to lolitas who care a LOT about their image and either have money or don't want to look like they care about the cost.
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>>10240454
My comm is great, we have a healthy mix of both A and B. Our monthly meets are like A, but a little more structured. We have a meetup time, wait for about half an hour for stragglers, then walk to the restaurant we agree on. After, we usually split into smaller groups for dessert/shopping and the "organizer" updates our location on the Facebook event page (stuff like "oh we're eating at x place now" or "we've finished lunch, some people are going to daiso and some are going to ice cream at x place")

And of course we also have events like B where deposits are usually collected up to a week in advance too
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>>10240367
This sums up the AZ comm pretty accurately desu.
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>>10240469
>Few bitches
More like the majority of the comm.

>Mend the divide
Oh sweety, that's because you oldfags are getting married and fat.

>NOLA
Having one e-famous fag doesn't count honey. She's a sweetheart but the only one I see visiting you oldfags which shows who you are.

>new Honey Cake
Oh honey, I can do you one better. I can at least fit in the old Honey Cake. Try harder. The only one with the inferior complex is you with added denial. Whatever makes you happy. Houston comm is trash.
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>>10240469
>salty because you can’t fit into the new Honey Cake.
I bet I can fit into YOU, Honey Buns ;D
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>>10240367
>tfw my comm is well dressed, low drama, and we're all friends and also located in the us
you too can have a good comm if you all could just stop being bitches for one moment and enjoy life
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>>10240463
Protip: the waitstaff hate you
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>>10240579
>so i stopped wearing it
I don't even know how to respond to something so ridiculous
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>>10240654
We just don't think it's worth it to pay $50+transport to meet you. At a brand tea-party I can buy brand in person so that is worth it.
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>>10235578
Facebook
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>>10240679
.... the fact that you don’t know what NOLA is literally just proved every point I made.
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>>10240679
bro you just posted cringe
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>>10240613
exactly where did i imply i can’t afford a meet deposit? i said it’s just annoying if it’s the only regular way to hang out as a comm. check your fucking eyes
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>>10240670
sounds like our comm as well. it's nice since its more casual and not "so loli desu" tea parties all the time
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>>10240699
Your experience is not everyone elses.
I used to work in the service industry and I loved working a packed house, it felt like being at a party.
Getting paid to party with customers is bitchin.
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>>10240679
>being mad that people are getting along and having peace
You’re the main problem in the lolita community
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Just curious, how many male lolitas are in your comm and how many sissy's do you meet a year on average? And which comm are you in if you've met any?

I'm in the Dutch comm which is pretty big but I haven't seen any males so far. I'm not sure if that's unusual. Maybe it's more of an issue in other parts of the world?
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>>10237105
If you like being alone then own it! Nobody is sitting around wishing you were here lmao
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>>10240830
I wish you were here, anon.
I wish you were here all the time. <3
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>>10240826
Same comm here. We do have some brolitas and male oujis and afaik we currently have no sissies, though we did have at least one in the past. It also depends on what part of the country you’re in and how often and far you travel for meets. Some members mostly stay in their own corner of the country so if you live far away you never meet them.
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>>10240673
Just letting you all know none of you still guessed right lol Didn’t think it would be that hard considering it’s one of the biggest cities in the country /shrug
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>>10240826
We have one male lolita that I see fairly often and some boyfriends who will come to meets dressed in aristo-type coords sometimes.
No sissies yet.
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>>10240597
Aww yea I love me some after meets.
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>>10240856
Then name and shame?

>>10240826
There was one likely sissy (guessing a sissy because their Milanope-tier dress with a super-petti around their obese apple shape just screamed it) who showed up two hours late to a meet, just as most of us were packing up. That was a year ago and we haven’t seen them since.

We have one ouji who’s regular.

There is one good brolita who isn’t regular, but that is because they work weekends and most of the meets are arranged on weekends.
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>>10240461
>>10240679
Wow, just.... full of inaccuracies. Except for the Houston comms being older, fatter, and married. But when the alternative is to die young and alone and leave a skinny corpse.... I'm guessing an AMfag is trying to stir up drama because they're hateful and bored, and their forays into thotdom aren't being well received.
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>>10240856
I don’t think any one was actually guessing. I wasn’t. You just posted something that was relatable.
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>>10240367
i hate my comm’s mods so i just became a lonelita. lots of areas have this prob
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>>10240149
Why does this guy look familiar? S2G I've seen him post on COF or somewhere
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>>10241220
Same. I’ll interact with some members of my comm, but I don’t go out with my comm any more. I just go it alone and deal with the questions by myself. My wife has grown accustomed to curious people asking questions and has grown to answer them with me. Sometimes she will dress with me, but she doesn’t care much for the fashion like I do.
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>>10240333
You could try to do a tea party or something to draw the lolitas out (while unfortunately allowing non-lolitas in)? And then from there talk to them in person about meeting up more often, and then boom! You have a discreet foundation for a comm that is built through friendship and common interest.
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Asking for a friend, how active is the LA comm, or other comms in the area? Asking for my friend who's trying to join but the FB groups are apparently inactive? She submitted a request a while ago but hasn't had a response so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Every time I plan a meet it goes directly to the shitter.
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>>10241583
LA comm is pretty dead except for the two events the mods host a year. Everything else will be a good drive away to attend, but tend to be more smaller meets than ticketed events.
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>>10241610
I'm kind of surprised, would've thought the opposite for a big city like that. But ty for the insight that's very helpful! I'll pass the info along.
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>>10241794
LA comm has had some drama over the years that it’s understandable that it’s kinda dead.
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I want to plan a meet, but last time I tried, literally nobody showed up. It was likely because of the time and place. Back then I also posted about it to cgl about it, and I was told people in that comm don't attend your meet if they don't know you well.

Since then I haven't been able to go to any meets because they are all too far away or on the wrong day for me. So I'm still a nobody, but I want to give it another try. I just can't think of anything I should do differently than last time..
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>>10241806
research bait, look at how the good ones started, look at what they do today, have something to offer that they want, become the fisher of people
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>>10241801
Its not dead if you're in the right social circles.
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>>10242065
That's not a comm
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>>10242065
Social circles isn’t a comm. That’s a group of friends with a like interest acting outside of a community. Communities are regulated to keep organization. Social circles are more “ hey I’m going to the movies, wanna go with me?”
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Did anyone get caps of the "I don't read rules so Lolita updates is racist" thread? I saw the beginning then it was deleted when I went to finish reading.
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>>10242313
Some black lolitas can be such a fucking pain. Everyone disagreeing is a raycist wypipo uwu jealous of their melanin.
Also i cannot stand people using ghetto language or AAVE as they call it. You sound like a retard with that "dialect", speak properly
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>>10242345
I honestly think they say that shit to feel better about themselves. No one is jealous of your skin tone and no one really cares about your race. But a bitch comes in all colors and religions and I’ll call you one of you act like one.
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>>10242364
I don't have caps, but it was a white chick accusing the group of being racist against Americans, iirc.
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How long in advance do you organise a meet? I feel like if it's announced too long in advance, there will be a lot more flakes.
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>>10242404
If I have an idea for a meetup that requires rsvps like a fancy tea or limited time event, I usually go no more than one month in advance. I usually do that because I know places tend to have a minimum and people in my comm tend to need to schedule their days off a month in advance. If it's something casual, maybe 2 weeks in advance, so long as there's a gap between other meets already planned.
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>>10242404
My comm has had some planned as soon as a week before the meet to 6 months before a meet. So it depends on what kind of meet. The ones that are a week are usually smaller ones for like movies, malls, museums and festivals. Longer meets tend to be rsvp private dining meets. Those are usually our ILD meets.
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>>10241806
>literally nobody showed up
they didn't cancel beforehand?
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My comm's Halloween meet is at a restaurant with really bad reviews and it looks like their Halloween menu is mostly for children. How shitty would it be if I organise a meet one week before or one week later with a scary theme?
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>>10242513
A lot of comms do that actually. As long as it’s not competing with the other meet there usually isn’t that much drama. We usually do a ghost tour of one of the old buildings in town for Halloween then eat at haunted places.
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>>10242521
I started looking for things to do and I think I'm starting to understand why it's at such a shitty restaurant. My country doesn't celebrate Halloween so there isn't anything Halloween themed to do in our city. She must have found one of the only places in the entire city that will do a Halloween menu.
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>>10242537
Could always go for a normal restaurant and just make or buy little Halloween goodies to make it more in theme.
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We have casual meets that are hosted by one girl and the mods usually take on the bigger meets.

Although the girl who hosts casual meets has hinted at making her own space for them. Do two comms usually cause a divide in the city? I like her meets but I also like my comm.
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>>10242619
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>>10242345
She wasn't black, lol. She was saying Lolita Updates is racist against Americans.
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>>10242660
Eh? I mean, there's a bit of a divide in that older lolitas willing to pay a bit of money for meets are more active in the original group, and younger lolitas who would rather more inexpensive meets are more active in the newer, London-only group, yes. But most people are a part of both groups, and invited to both meets, as well as events being cross-posted?

Admittedly, I do think the newer London-only group didn't really need to be made, since meets were fine where they were, but I don't think it's caused any drama or anything. Just a mild sense of "You really wanted to be a mod, I guess? Okay..?"
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>>10242401 I’m >>10242364 and I wasn’t talking about what was happening in >>10242313 comment. I was replying to another anon talking about black people flying off the handle in >>10242345.
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>>10242853
That's not what the OP was talking about, she means the two potential London comms.
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I live in a metro area of a small-ish US state. While there are plenty of lolitas who are cool and fun to hang out with in my comm, everyone who lives within a 45 minute drive of my house is either a weeaboo ita or an autistic special snowflake. I wish I had some lolita friends I could just chill at a cafe with after work.
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>>10242853
After tpc disbanded, there was no real London comm. So it was just a case of who you knew. I'm happy to finally have a comm here and I'm struggling to see it from your point of view.
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>>10241610
>>10241610
there are literally 2 upcoming events and people posting interesting things to go to constantly
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>>10242345
Black lolitas had nothing to do with that chicks meltdown, wtf?
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>>10243103
i feel this plus the fact that there aren’t really any cute cafes or lolita-friendly businesses where i live, and the weather is terrible most of the year
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>>10243103

i'll take the weeaboo ita over the snowflake anytime. at least weeaboos can have a good time
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>>10243103
Oh god same. There are lot of girls in my comm I get along with but they all live in different cities an hour+ away. The only “lolitas” in my city are a female brony in a public BDSM relationship who styles every “coord” around a pony and a middle aged woman obsessed with Dr Who who wears mini hats with everything and has like ten guinea pigs.

save me
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>>10243107
I like the newer London comm, but I don’t like that some of the mods are very pushy about being mods and claiming that it’s “their” comm when they’re riding off the back of the already established London community.

If the other group had been properly moderated when TPC finished, we wouldn’t have needed a second comm, and we definitely do not need a third if there’s someone considering making another one.
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Is there any sort of organized comm in Japan? I'm moving to Kansai soon and would like to check it out if there is one, but haven't had any luck tracking one down online, either English or Japanese. Anywhere in the country is fine, really.
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>>10243369
From what I understand the Japanese lolita community mostly centers around official brand events or stuff like KERA parties. There is the gaijin comm in Tokyo as well though.
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>>10241583
That depends on whether your friend has anything remotely lolita related on their profile, I think. I know I submitted a request that got accepted instantly because I have some pictures of me publicly in the fashion, but my friend had to wait a long time and had to contact a mod because she didn’t have anything publicly available to show she was interested.
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>>10243388
Are there still Kera parties?
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>>10243388

I've heard of the gaijin group but haven't been able to find them. I'll have to look harder, I wouldn't mind travelling a few times a year for meets. Thanks for the tips!
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>>10243734
International Tokyo lolita group on fb. I was able to find them with that pbrade.
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>>10243751

Wow sausage fingers to the max. Meant phrase.
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>>10241600
What kind of meets do you plan? Maybe people just aren't interested in the kind of meet you're hosting, or can't make it... there are plenty of reasons meets don't work out, don't give up on hosting!
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>>10243369
Yes but they're on LINE
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>>10242345
>>10242364
lmao the racists jumped out before the ship even reached harbour
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I got banned from my local comm for refusing to play along with the delusion of a tranny so the handmaidens threw themselves at me.
Fuck troons and fuck those cocksucking libfems,some of them pretend being lesbian kek give me a fucking break. It was a black TiM so he got lots of oppreshun points, went as far as saying "muh body is more oppressed than cis women bodies".
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>>10243916
Post screencaps or get psychological help for your compulsive lying
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>>10243920
caps of what? Just got cried at for being a TERF
with a few "umM YIKES" and some fb groups being tagged.
I'll call a man in a dress a man, end of the story, trans identity is a delusion and i won' "change my mind" to be politically correct. Also men forcing themselves in lesbian spaces or women spaces is mysoginistic and lesbophobic
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>>10243922
What do you mean caps of what? Caps of what you say happened. Are you trying to say it all happened in person?
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>>10243922
You sound like a man who spent 10 minutes reading terf rhetoric
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>>10243262
>>10243103
I feel this. A lot of girls in my comm are itas and talk about Communism (in a hobby about buying things) and how capitalism is the reason they don't have money a LOT. Completely unsolicited.
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>>10243916
name and shame
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Is it too early to plan an autmn meet that'll take place in November?
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>>10243953
Happened in a separate group that had nothing to do with lolita,had a fight with the troon,called him what he was and he went to cry to his cockfondlers including comm mods who saw it and banned me saying i was being intolerant,a terf,... and i got a radfem friend who's still hiding in the group sending me caps of them mocking me in the groupchat with violent memes like "punch all terfs".
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>>10243929
No male would care about males infiltrating lesbian/women spaces.
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>>10243961
And you can't take caps of that because...?

>>10243962
He is infiltrating this thread
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>>10243955
Never too early. Just be sure to post updates to remind people about it. Updates on location, parking, dress code etc.
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>>10243922
I know you're biased and all, but lolita is not a women only space.
You got booted from your comm for very obvious reasons, judging by your caustic attitude. Doesn't even sound like the comm member in question did anything, you just went atomic TERF on a comm-mate, unprovoked.
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>>10243916
>>10243922
>>10243961
Oof the obvious level of pinkpill in these posts. Cmon sis at least try to talk like a human when you're not on lolcow
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>>10244034
nayrt but the fuck is a pink pill?
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>>10244077
It's almost the womens version of mgtow, except it makes some sense here and there.
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what's everyone's favorite comm? A comm that inspires you, has well-dressed lolitas and fun events with little drama?
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>>10243916
From one lesbian to probably another, get therapy bitch!!!! obsessive terf shit is a disease, you literally think about penis more than any gay man ever has lol
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>>10244144
That’s because a TERF isn’t a lesbian, they just play it like it’s some fantasy role.
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>>10244158
honestly? makes sense
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>>10243922
Huh?
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Where's the list for finding local comms? I'm visiting Europe soon and would like to meet up.
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>>10243930
This, trying way too hard.
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>>10243734
Gaikokujin.

Stop repeating a word you learned once.
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>>10244144
Please stop writing like you're from tumblr. And just because she said she doesn't like mtfs and openly stated it, that doesn't mean she thinks about them 24/7. This is the same level of "you hate trannies that means you want to fuck them!!" bullshit argument they love to spread to cope.
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>>10244158
Explain how not liking men pretending to be women and feeling attracted to actual women is mutually exclusive.
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>>10244275
You just like casting that bait line don’t you?
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>>10244312
What bait line? It's a honest question about what their thought process is.
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>>10244316
Uh huh, okay. Sure. Keep harping that.
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>>10244312
>>10244323
Don't reply to trolls
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Anyone have a link to the vetted discord? Got booted due to inactivity.
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>>10243955
No, our comm already has ILD booked pretty much.
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>>10240290
>implying trannies can pass
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>>10244323
>facebook filename
>no answer reply
Tell me how not liking trannies disqualifies one from being a lesbian.
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>>10244134
Finland comm is the best dressed.
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>>10244158
>That’s because a TIM isn’t a lesbian, they just play it like it’s some fantasy role


I fixed it for you, you're welcome.
TIMs = men larping as lesbians.
TERFs = actual women and lesbians.
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>>10244570
TIMs = men larping as lesbians.
TERFs = heterosexual women larping as lesbians.
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>>10244570
You're retarded

>>10244614
kek,sure, go back to /pol/

>inb4 xd ur a tranny/troon troon defender!1!!
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>>10243341
Isn't it their comm? Seems like most of the older group branched off or organise international events. Only a few people regularly organise London events anyway, so I don't see the fuss. London comm always has someone posting on 4chan to make drama when there really isn't any.
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>>10243341
Agreed on the third part though: no need for a third comm. Why bother fragmenting it?
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>>10244273
i never said anyone wanted to fuck anyone, just that terfs think about penis for an ungodly amount of time. are you retarded?
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>>10244742
>This is the same level of bullshit argument
>And just because she said she doesn't like mtfs and openly stated it, that doesn't mean she thinks about them 24/7.
No, I'm not the one with the reading comprehension of a toddler spreading dumb shit to cope.
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>>10244743
so you ARE retarded. thanks for clearing that up.
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>>10243734
None of the 3-4 meets they host in a year are worth traveling to
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>>10244614
A few years ago the transbian who harassed several girls in my comm called at least one girl a “fake lesbian” for not being attracted to him. His post-ban freakout derailed an entire thread. I wonder if he still posts here...
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>>10244268
Gaijin is a common slang word, Anon, even in your glorious Nippon. It's OK, I promise.
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>>10243369
There is both a Tokyo and Kansai comm on Facebook
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I'm organising an evening dinner to celebrate the anniversary of my comm. I want it to be luxurious, beautiful, perfect food, drinks, comfortable seats.. but I think my comm members would only spend around 30-40 dollars including drinks, and with that we can't even have 2 courses at the restaurants I want, or a good afternoon tea. Assuming we would have a glass of wine or something too.

How much do you spend on a dinner when you eat out to celebrate something?
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>>10245505
When I go out for dinner to celebrate something, usually I spend around 50 euro at an average restaurant. There are no luxurious dining places where I live. At a "cheap" dinner like a Chinese or pizza place I spend around 25 euro. Drinks can make it much more expensive. I make sure to only order one or two "real" drinks. Your comm members need to learn to drink slowly and order free water. But I assume if you want a private room you need to spend a certain amount.
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>>10245509
Also, high tea as they call it here has a standard price of 20 euro at the cheapest places



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