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>>10218633That picture gives me anxiety.
Cursed thread, no reply until a new contender rises.
>>10218633bet she still somehow looks better than me.
>>10218666That is some crazy broken self-esteem right there.
>>10218667you tellin me bruh lol
>>10218666> tfw same
>>10218633Feels - this photo makes me feel ill. That swollen hand tapering to thinner fingertips...is it diseased? Feels I actually came here to post - nightmares are keeping me awake this week and my lack of sleep perceptions are freaking me out. Every little thing bothers me way too much right now. I'm avoiding my friends.
Decided to go out and be social and went and had wings with my local LARP community to introduce myself. Everyone seems chill and fun, and I'm looking forward to some fun RP and being able to put my creative and crafting skills, plus ridiculous collection of costume bits to use somewhere other than lolita.
yikes. does that ring need to be cut off?
everything is too much this week. I'm so emotionally and physically exhausted i can barely do the minimum amount of care to be a social human. i fantasize about being in a car accident or something possibly non lethal but impactful enough to be quietly hospitalized for a few weeks
I keep feeling bad about going to cons, buying cosplays/materials and spending money on stuff like this. People tell me I need to stop overworking and being too hard on myself and let myself live, that I'm at the prime age to live (20) before it's too late . but I just feel too awful especially being pretty poor amd having bills to pay. the guilt and anxiety consumes me too much.
Okay, so I cannot be the only one who feels really bad for the older people that sit around at conventions because their 30 year old incel son can't drive and wanted to go to a convention right? At colossalcon there was a woman who was clearly disabled, that sat in the same position for probably 12 whole hours. Everytime I passed her she looked so bored and miserable. I almost threw off my cosplay to change into normie clothes and hang out with her. I suppose I can't assume anything, but I'm pretty sure she was there with a much older guy who just left her there and used her for a ride at the end of the day. You fucking weeaboos need to learn to drive, and stop relying on your moms/grandmothers to go somewhere. It's pathetic and makes you look like a huge virgin. They shouldn't have to sit at a convention for 12 hours while you go and try to seduce a sexy cosplayer to bring home with you.
>>10218633That can’t all be fat right? I have a friend with hands sort of like this from horrible water retention.
I got diagnosed with psoriasis yesterday and I'm pretty down about it. I was hoping these patches on my skin were something that could be cleared up easily but they aren't responding to weaker steroids so they're putting me on strong (and expensive) ones. Most of the plaques are on my elbows and shins so I can do an okay job covering them in Lolita but I'm getting really self conscious.
>>10219029This is one of my biggest fears, my mom has psoriasis and I already am very hard on myself about my appearance
>>10218906If it's bothering you that much, do a little of both, to ease your conscience? Write down some goals you want to accomplish, but don't make them too big. One goal for fun, and one goal for making progress in your life. It could be something like starting a savings account or it could be just using a little out of each check to put into things that make your home nicer. But in the end, if you're not the type of person that wants those things, there is nothing wrong with having fun with your hobbies. And fwiw, I think 30s are your prime, honestly. Those people are probably afraid they won't be able to do anything fun at 30, but the reality is that's when you're more able to do things you couldn't in your 20s.
I want to wear lolita more, but on top of the hot weather is my horrible self esteem. I’m super self conscious about my face and I’m always worried I’ll be judged for a butter face I can’t help. I know I could just not put pictures online, but part of the fun with lolita for me is sharing it with other lolitas online.
>>10219062I feel this one anon. I love taking photos of my coords but I have a pretty big nose and feel like I don't have a very cute face. But in the end we are our harshest critics. Plus you can put selfie stickers over your face if you really can't stand it.
I fucking HATE women brosHow can I turn myself gay?
>>10219116Learn to suck dick, practice anal masturbation / prostate stimulation, ease yourself into your transition to homosexuality and God's Speed anon
>>10219116Fuck trannies, it’s what all you closeted homos do
>>10219113Ayrt, I too have a huge nose that I wish i could shrink...
>>10219006No excuse for this when Uber lets you request rides for other people. Poor lady could have stayed home.
>>10218750Nice /cgl/ feel.
>>10218633I'm currently a NEET and borderline hikki and the biggest thing keeping me applying to more shitty jobs is wanting more brand money. Currently, positive interactions with online lolita communities and finding and bookmarking cute pieces on sale are two of the biggest seratonin boosts I can get. Also, I spent a weekend with my gf and realized that I can't afford to visit her again until I have a steady income stream. Feels pitiful.
>>10219029i feel you anon, I have heavy psoriasis all along my hairline and some spots on my scalp. Can't tell you how mortifying it is to have someone pick stuff out of my hair thinking it's lint or something but it's actually a chunk of my skin. People are going to give you a whole lot of useless advice on how to treat it or they will confuse it with eczema. don't let it get to you - I used to get super triggered because people were convinced i had dandruff and i "wasn't trying hard enough to get rid of it".Do whatever you need to feel comfortable in your own skin and don't feel the need to reason with others about it. personally, i just wear hats and keep my bangs long - the less people see, the less they will comment. atleast in lolita i can slap on a wig and enough distracting headwear, that's how i manage ~_~
>need two specific wigs for upcoming con, found perfect ones on Arda but they've been out of stock and say they'll come back late June>it's now almost halfway through July>message Arda about when they'll come in>"They should arrive early next week! :)">that was on Friday>now one of the backup wigs I was going to get from Epic Cosplay is out of stockThis is why I don't order from Arda unless I need to, ffs
Feels,I wanna open up a resin shop just to try to even out costs for how expensive my resin/jewelry making hobby is becoming. Wouldn't know if its worth it though, with how saturated etsy is. Going to try and start with basic resin rings/earrings/pendants with gem shards and gold flakes and see what happens. Its weird I feel like normie resin jewelry is easier to make, but lolita jewelry is so much cuter.
>>10219452Avoiding friends = not going to lolita meets = dressing in lolita less. Happy now, my darling little dim bulb?
>>10219586hmmm it doesnt look terrible, maybe you could pick up some clinique or bareminerals foundation to cover it up without aggravating it?
>>10219586It's not THAT noticeable desu. I have all over my back and it's REALLY bad, enough that I don't like going swimming :/
>>10219586Looks like a birthmark more than a skin condition.
>>10219590>>10219592>>10219599This is the biggest single spot but I have a lot of scatter on my hip and elbows. Also bad psoriasis all over my scalp.
>>10219592NAYRT but sun protection swim shirts are a thing now, I wear one because I burn badly. I don't get any bad or odd looks for it.
>>10219062Ever considered the casual lolita look? I think mixing things like a normal t-shirt and a nice skirt looks pretty good. And it's more practical for summer.
suddenly feeling a massive nostalgia fueled urge to get back into 2010 sweet even though I’ve never liked how it looks on me and I’ve come to prefer classic and gothic. Tyler’s video on old ap ads got me fucked up
I was feeling a little down about being an older fan (early 30s, eeesh) but seeing posters and threads on /cgl/ with the same concerns have made me feel a little better. It's kinda weird, because there a lot of people older than me in my other hobbies (roleplaying, fan fiction, etc), but it kind of feels like people my age are kind of.. the first major generation to stick at weeb crap, so we're kinda the first wave of oldies?
>>10219764>I was feeling a little down about being an older fan (early 30s, eeesh)same here gurl, same here.
Ok. I have a confession. I'm basically selling off half of my wardrobe for my SO. I want to be able to move to another country to be with him, but at the same time I'm afraid of change. I'm afraid to let go of treasured pieces that I've held onto for years. And I'm afraid of this second shot I have at love. What if it doesn't work out and I have nothing left? Like.. some of this shit is so fucking hard to find and expensive af. So I'm really feeling like I'm losing pieces of myself to chance.
>>10219770Any chance you can put some of it into storage or leave it with your parents? They can always ship it to you later.
>>10219771my parents are unreliable, and i've heard horror stories about putting expensive things into storage.. but ty for the reasonable suggestions.
>>10219062>>10219113obviously this isn't for everybody, but why not go into a clinic and see what you can change? It's already intervening in the way you enjoy your hobbies. Lolita is an aesthetic based hobby, so at its core, if you don't like the way you look, you'll have a harder time having fun. My friend got the "five minute nose job" and wow, the difference is subtle but great, and her confidence sky rocketed. If your wardrobe is big enough, maybe sell a few pieces to start savings.
>>10219782hm not op but i've never heard of the "five minute nose job" I'm usually not a fan of facial reconstruction dealies but i looked it up and it's actually really subtle and looks nice.Ah but desu I think it's worse to be fat than have a not so cute face, yk? there's nothing worse than a boobloaf or painfully obvs stretching of brand sadly
>>10219764we're not quite first wave. first wave is going to be the old fucks who had to bring VCRs to anime club in college and daisy chain them to copy VHS tapes from Japan. mfw some of the guys I know are hitting 50 soon. we're at least second, maybe third gen fansfuck the fun police and do what you do. I went to aqours TWICE this past weekend and I give absolutely zero fucks. Give me a couple of decades and I'm going to be still in the pit swinging my penlights in the air.
>>10219062You will be judged, everyone is. The fashion is about aesthetics. Get past being self-conscious by working on your coordinating, styling and makeup skills until they are really good. Take valid concrit gracefully when you get some, but you should also politely ignore shitty and judgmental remarks when you get them.
>>10219770no man is worth it. vacuum seal what you cant pack and ship it to yourself at a minimum
>>10219770Been down this road, it's scary but if you have a friend you can pay to jelp send you your shit later, you'll be ok.
>>10219480How did you get a girlfriend?
RERELEASE YOUR GODDAMN SHOES ALREADY VM REEEEEEEEEE
>>10219943First off, I'm a lesbian. We met in college, back when I wore lolita a couple times every week. We were in the same class, and we both engaged with the course material and had really interesting discussions, to the extent where we'd walk together to my next class to continue them. There was a free classical music event, so I suggested that we go together, not realizing this was a date. We've been dating for about two years.
>>10220020That's sweet, makes me think even a clueless introverted NEET like me can find love
>>10220033Being a lesbian helps, i'm just bi, but lesbian weebs are some of the thirstiest people i encounter.
>love VOTOMS and Chirico>no clue how I would make his jumpsuit>own none of the tools I would need>am about become extremely busy in less than a month>am too crappy of an artist to sell art to other fans>brokemuseru
>>10218885Is taking some time off and just ignoring the world an option for you? I need to do that a few times a year.
>>10220066I'm an ace lesbian so that's not helping my case
>>10220085>I'm an ace lesbianThat sounds so much cooler than it actually is
>>10220093Not much plane piloting and a lot of existential crises
>>10220112Have you ever considered getting an aerial license? Two labels for the price of one.
>>10220112You might know you're born to lose and think gambling's for fools, but keep on playing for the high one, dancing with the devil, going with the flow like it's all a game to you. You don't want to live forever anyway, right?
>>10220119Considering how much driving stresses me out I doubt piloting would work out for me>>10220128The pleasure is to play
there's this skinny 16 year old girl I met at a con that's already emancipated, studying abroad, engaged, she's pretty, she's skinny, she's finished most of her HS subjects early, she's a popular cosplayer, meanwhile I'm much older, getting fat, ugly, and a failure, I bet she was sneering about me with her friends at how ugly me and my cosplay was, and while I don't hate her (I think) ever since i met her and started following her something flipped a switch in me (le triggered meme, I guess) and I've been feeling worse and worse. I've been noticing every pretty skinny girl and ripped handsome guy around me and being envious and hating myself so much as if this wasn't a thing already my entire life. What's worse is I've been gaining so much weight for no apparent reason I can't fit into my clothes anymore. It's so fucking humiliating. What's the point of even investing in burando if I'm a fatass.I used to eat whatever I want, was MUCH less active than I am now, and was an absolute skellychan. What the hell happened?It's just not fair. I don't understand. More and more sometimes I wish I died back then when I hung myself.I just want to be pretty and happy.
>>10220147Piloting is much less stressful, as there's far less traffic to worry about. The hardest parts are landing and taking off.
>>10220170My guess is all the angst is making you eat your feelings and you don’t realize you’re eating more because it’s just a little bit here and there, which adds up. And if you’re stressed it creates cortisol which tells your body to store belly fat. Chill out and unfollow that girl
>>10220178I've unfollowed but it's too late, like I said I'm noticing patters everywhere, every skinny/muscly/pretty girl/guy. And I've been tracking my food and exercising but so far it seems to do nothing. Fuck me.
I feel sad to discover that the Lolita Amino is full of itas who think it is lolita to wear clown makeup, no Petticoat and no blouse
>>10220170You are in a bad loop, you need to break out of this. Snooze her and anyone making you feel inadequate immediately or better yet, take a social media hiatus.Why not resolve to commit yourself to doing a deep-dive into changing your pattern to re-focus on being your best self and living your own best life, go on a diet to jump-start working on yourself and changing your mindset. Don't let this get any further out of control.
>>10220189Lolita and Jfashion related amino is pure cancer, none of it is any good.
>>10220170>>10220188You have absolutely no idea what goes on in these people's lives outside of what you see. They could be far more miserable when you aren't looking than you are now
>>10220189True You just have to look underneath the last confessions... Pure ita trash
>>10220191It's not just social media. It's anyone I see. Even just going outside. Even today in the shopping mall, especially while browsing cute clothes, or even online browsing through online shops and looking at moderus. I'm not going to lock myself in the house even more than I already do, am I? (if I do then I'll REALLY become a fatass) I'm exercising, but in the middle of it I see a pretty girl and think, wow, what's the point? She has such a pretty jawline, I'll never be able to afford jaw surgery, why am I even trying, I should just give up and resign to my fate, etc>>10220195See, you're probably right. That's the most rational thing to think. But for some reason I simply seem to be unable to accept it. maybe this is all just my bitch period coming or meds or hormones going out of whack or something, idfk. thanks gulls... talking about it is surprisingly a bit better, I suppose.
>>10220204It's ok to have freakouts sometimes; they happen. Just remember to stay grounded in what's real and don't lose yourself in what isn't.
>>10220204Glad you can talk about it, now get a grip. Its your life, that why it's worth it, don't just waste it. There are some things you do control including how you choose to deal with everything. If you are getting fat, rein that in quick, before it really does become impossible. That's why. If you give up now, you are cursing future you. And future you will be even more pissed about that than you are about this stuff right now.
>>10220212I know this is pasta but I gotta admit, the ocean between what I see in lolita fashion magazines and websites is very far from most people’s attempts at it and I wish everyone would just try a bit harder to polish their style a little more and raise the standard just a little bit higher. Meets would benefit, everyone would be more inspiring to each other instead of insecure nitpickers 24/7, and we’d all be living just a tiny bit more of our best lolita life. Do I think we all suck? Of course not. But admit it, we can all easily do just a little bit better.
>>10220085I'm >>10220020.Both my partner and I are autists and ace; I'm a weeb, my partner's into Austrian history and musicals. We support each others' hobbies and give each other themed socks for holidays and stuff. I'm memorizing like 10 songs in a foreign language just so we can sing along to a musical together.
I'm 27 and I just realized that my power is significantly less than it used to be.I am a woman and I am starting to slowly see that people don't notice me as much. People don't talk to me in public, male or female. I heard about this, how women past a certain age are just invisible. I didn't realize it would feel like this. I put time into school, but it didn't pay off. I have a boyfriend and I am not alone, but I am just feeling for the first time that society at large isn't interested.It sucks.
>>10220236Not even that. I must follow like the top 10% of lolitas or something on IG because when I go to lolita events it really isn't like that. Lots of people who don't even know how to put on a wig, or apply blusher like a blind football player. Makes the top 10% stand out even more though imo.
>>10220367welcome to what the rest of the world experiences. we have to initiate our own conversations.
>>10220367That timing is supposedly different for everyone. I'm the opposite, I will be more relieved when I can finally be left in peace with my grumpy ass frills. Still waiting. >>10220428No one asked you.
>>10220367I overheard a 60-70 year old man discussing this with his friend over breakfast in a diner. Feeling completely alone in a sea of people is normal, feeling invisible is also normal. I get why you're feeling pushed out, but people still notice you, others respect you moreso, but now less random people have demands on you and your time.Be around the people that care about and validate you. Everyone wants a feeling of belonging, a lot of people feel the way you do, so if you don't have people to go to, step outside your comfort zone and reach out. You'd be surprised what you'll get into.
My black heels broke so I finally have an excuse to buy another pair.
>>10220170>16 year old girl >emancipated>engaged>comparing youself to a literal child bride>being jelly of a literal child bride
>>10219759Please do. I'd love to see more 2010-tier sweet.
>>10220170>already emancipatedAssuming US, doesn't that generally mean they're home life is such hot garbage that they got a judge to agree 'yeah ur better off on your own'
>>10220170Getting married at 16 sounds like such a hilariously bad idea, how old are you that you’re actually jealous of that impending train wreck?
The hand that hath made me good hath made me ugly
>>10220170i too know many people who peaked in high school
>>10220367>>10220460i'm almost 30 and i'm still waiting for this to happen. move to the southern US anon, everyone will talk to you no matter what. i hate it
>>10220241That's amazing, one day I'll have a relationship like that
>>10220538>>10220549idk, she seems pretty happy, but I don't know the details. hell, I could be wrong, I HEARD she's engaged but I never see about it on social media and idk who it is, but I do know she's emancipated or at least some form of independent because she seems to have her own house, car, etc>how old are you20>>10220547not US, europe
I've tried 5 times at making my first cosplay and every time its failed in a different way. The last attempt at the hardest piece I thought was going well but then I ruined it at the last step and I realise I don't even know what I'm supposed to be doing. And then I missed this years con as a result.
>>10220578>16 years old>seems to have her own house, car,>EuropeLegally impossible.
>>10220597oh sorry im retardedstill, in a way that just makes me even more envious. it means her parents are giving her everything and all her free will the complete opposite of mine
>>10220589You must be trying to make things well beyond your skill levels. Many fabricating and crafting skills take practice. Start smaller, learn your skills, practice.Saw a cosplay ’performance’ on Instagram, she made a Sakizo design and was lip synching. The costume and wig were well made, it was a very pretty costume. But I feel like hyping up this kind of ’performance’ as some sort of high artistry is a bit lame. She didn't even dance.
>>10220600We get it, you are consumed with jealousy. Big deal. It's a bad trait and it will just keep you stuck. Do something about it besides complain. Several people have commented to you but the bottom line is that you are wrecking yourself with your own fucked up thinking. Stop focusing on other people and things outside yourself and focus on becoming the best YOU that you can be. Envy is not only deathly poison, it steals away your own life because you are constantly comparing your insides to someone else’s outsides, and that keeps you stuck not ever improving yourself to reach your own potential. Everyone's path is different. Walk your own path and stop giving free rent in your headspace to foolish comparisons. She is herself, you are yourself. In life, someone is _always_ going to have something that might seem ’better’, but many very successful people got that way by making the most of and valuing their own opportunities, maximizing their own good things, not by ignoring them and coveting someone else’s. It's literally a waste of your time that could be spent bettering yourself instead.
>>10220613I considered my sewing skills passable from all the plush toys I've made, but I guess they don't transfer to clothing much at all.
>wife wants to cosplay character with weapon>build the basic parts for her with Pepakura, harden them and shit>some of the parts were kind of a bitch, proud of how it turned out in the end>leave it for her to just sand, paint and assemble>1 1/2 years later>finally have time to go into my workshop again because Uni sucks the life from me>all the parts are still in there in the exact spots I left them>tell her that I'm taking it into my own hands because I don't want some work I'm proud of for once to never go anywhere>she gives me the old "I was planning to do it tomorrow!"-shtickI know it's silly since it was hers to do with as she pleases once my part was done but I'm still pissed. It's rare for me to like anything I work on and it just feels like she took a shit on my efforts.
>>10220831It's weird to me she wasn't a part of the process, helping out and encouraging you. Maybe that's just me though.
The past two dream dress threads, somebody has replied to my post saying they have what I'm looking for, and both times they've disappeared after me dropping my e-mail for them. >pic related
>>10220627Anon. She said all those things because she's 16 and wants to be impressive to a 20 yo. Chances are everything she said and posts is lies or embellishments. Chances are there really isn't much interesting to say about this girl aside from 'oh how pretty'.Also, you're in your 20's, your high metabolism you once had has slowed down, it's comically normal.And stop baiting with /r9k/ chad bullshit, none of us care.
I don't like being snobby, but lately I've had a prideful feeling that won't go away.>recently left lolita comm because of mod infighting>big event coming up in adjacent j-culture comm>lolita comm has hosted "panels" within that big event, will do one again>lolita comm posts volunteer sign-up on big comm page early>mrw they're still looking for volunteers three weeks out because the lolita comm isn't big enough or skilled enough anymore to pull off a simple panel.I'm going to go watch, just for a minute.
>>10220842>And stop baiting with /r9k/ chad bullshit, none of us care.???
>>10219586I've got really bad psoriasis over my body too, oddly enough I found that Kim Kardashians body foundation really helped mine I got into it because she showed loads of videos of her putting some on her psoriasis and I was desperate, Maybe something to look into?
>>10220873I really got a lot of hope after seeing those videos, oddly enough. Unfortunately my shade is sold out, but I did go get a big chunky dermablend stick today and I'm going to try that out this week.
Screaming "projection" at everything is such a cope lmao
I got banned from a (non-lolita) discord server. I keep forgetting the rest of the world doesn't let you say what you actually think like 4chan, you gotta mask it in five frilly layers of artificial niceness or you're a big ole meany poo and hewt feefees
>>10220954I mean you sound annoying on here too but I guess it's better to talk to the void than with actual human beings.
>>10218633ARE THOSE AEROGEL NAILS THATS AMAZING
>>10220954You mean people outside here have self-control and manners, they do not just blurt out their first impulsive autistic and blunt thoughts and actually give consideration to social propriety, politeness and the golden rule? The horror!
>>10220954perhaps should should just stay here if you can't turn off autism mode for 3 seconds
>>10220954You mean saying things that are rude and unnecessary outside of your little safe space may have actual consequences?
>>10220970>>10220979>>10221005>>10221018All I said was that pro-choicers are just secret eugenicists that want to force-feed abortions to the blacks. It wasn't even that bad desu
>>10220870>I've been noticing every pretty skinny girl and ripped handsome guy around me and being envious and hating myself so much as if this wasn't a thing already my entire life. >not chad postingOk.
>>10221058Sounds like they take themselves a little too seriously around there. Also I may or may not have snorted cherry coke out my nose whilst reading your reply.
>>10221058It’s pretty batshit, I don’t think there’s any amount of niceness you could have put on that to make it look less batshit.
I keep buying dresses even though I'm starting an office job and won't have time to wear lolita anymore despite making way more money
>>10221058State enforced pregnancy is somehow better?
>>10221058You cannot prove that it is meant to kill off any race more than another or that it is really eugenics. Pro choicers have to make their own choices in life with their doctors. Whether it is a mistake or not again isn't up to anyone else. Its whatever people choose to do for themselves. Wouldn't that make black women more empowered if anything in your own words too? No one is forced into anything but education on birth control methods etc is a good thing and really in the grand scheme of things Eugenics is ultimately a good thing too. I don't think any child deserves to be born with debilitating diseases if that can be avoided . No one should be forced to risk going to term since it can put a heavy toll on any woman and the issues that can happen postpartum too.
>>10221058guys please stop taking the bait.
>>10221065sorry, it wasn't my intention at all
>>10221114What about weekends?
>>10219170Just a note to remind you that telling someone to commit suicide can land yourself in jail. IP's can be traced. Think twice before advising someone to self harm, then don't post.
>>10221155nayrt, but how about a long drop from a short rope?
>>10221155I'm sure they can enact that kind of policy on facebook or twitter, but 4chan is where people say edgy bullshit and get away with it with admin who don't care so long as people don't break the law.
>>10220578Clearly she is living the life of a shoujo manga character who has a few years of freedom before her arranged marriage. Maybe has one or two tragic relationships who finds out the guy she's engaged to while all along appeared to be the cool indifferent type is actually sensitive all along and helps him heal from his inner pain.
>>10219764Fellow 30s anon here, also into the same stuff. Seems like I’ll never grow out of it honestly, all I can do is hope I’ll continue to be able to maintain friendships with people who are into the same things. It’s just so much fun, you know?
The pic for this thread...it completely creeps me out. Shudder every time I see it in the catalog listings.
>>10219428They probably couldn't afford an uber after their $60 admission badge and then the $300 they spent on a jerk off figurine
>>10221155good luck getting a prosecutor to do that one. if it was a sustained effort where you're telling the same person to kill themselves over and over maybe but on 4chan where everyone is anonymous? haha fuck no. it'd be hard as hell to prove that the same person was telling someone to commit suicide
>>10219770If you aren't married, you shouldn't be moving to another country with someone, especially if its causing you this much anxiety and lifestyle changes. Basically no one is likely to stay together these days, divorce rate is at least 50% and general relationships have even worse odds and you both might become completely different people in a new country.
>>10220170My sister is like 5 years younger than me, and I went through a similar slump around the time I was heading into my mid-20s and she was a on the verge of adulthood and everyone's golden-child. I went through a "I'm not a youthful cool teen anymore" crisis and thought life was over and ballooned up to my highest weight ever and was off again on again with my longterm SO. She was pretty, 100 pounds wet, and still blonde unlike my hair when turned super dark and ashy.Longstory short I came out of the slump and never gained that weight back while my sister dropped out of school, fell into a bad crowd and super-heavy drugs and then went to jail on dealer charges. After she got out she married someone in her recovery program and had 2 kids a few years later and her body is a complete wreck now. Most people now think I am the younger sister.You can effectively be young, healthy, and attractive at any age if you take care of yourself and pick up a few tricks and are determined enough. Don't let petty comparisons tank your motivation and allow you to take the easy road of self-pity and failure.
>>10221155Kill yourself. Do it.
>>10221114Sounds like your priorities are messed up.
>>10221214>One daughter is a weeb>One daughter is a druggie>legit don't know which is worse.
Recently I've been consumed by pipe dreams of my ideal house. My mind is a mess of ideas for interior or exterior decor. Wardrobes, bathrooms, kitchen, everything goes and I toss and turn my power level to see what sticks. Lolita and weebshit will inevitably be part of my life.But my most disturbing and fascinating idea is that I want a stuffed seagull. A literal preserved animal corpse on display on some shelf. It's partly because of this place, I won't deny. Partly because despite their behaviour, seagulls are very beautiful birds. Their sleek shape, simple colour and characteristic expression sparks joy in my ideas of a perfect home...How the fuck do I go through with this stupid dream? Is it hard to take care of taxidermy? Am I utterly tasteless?
>Be me>Want to cosplay as Beowulf for the upcoming con>There aren't a lot of Skullgirls fan in the local community that I know of, perhaps even none at all>Realize I'd just look like a dude in a weird outfit and fur on his legs when you don't know the costume>Anxiety eats me up>Send help
>>10221221Get one to hang on the wall, away from dogs, cats, kids. https://www.etsy.com/listing/693001017/real-gull-taxidermy-stuffed-bird-mountBut there are other ways to represent in decor too.
>>10221235If I don't know what it is from, every dude looks like a dude in a weird costume. Do it anyway. Be the dude in the weird outfit and have fun. It's about fun, remember? If you want to have a reference, post a comparison of you and the character art with a link on your social media. Maybe some people you meet will become new fans.
>>10221442Lolis...smilies...sending nudes at 15. Just get out.
>>10221155I'll be fine. I graduated top of my class in the Navy SEALs
>>10221235I am willing to bet that there are a dozen of other weird dudes in weird outfits, it's a con it's half the fun. I suggest that you get beo's outfit and try it on in front of the mirror, try his poses and smile. I think that you will be fine
>>10221453>smiliesNayrt but that’s an ironic smiley, you get out
>>10221453Rude, should I really? I thought it was a feels thread though it suited more in confession thread. And yes I know being groomed by a 40 year old was a bad thing but hey, that’s precisely why I want them gone. Guess you’re better than me right? Anyways I don’t care about my face out there anymore and just posted a coord with my face out, and I barely take selfies/photos of myself (yes because of this trauma)
>>10221470The obvious answer is to hotline the FBI.Doubtful your cp is the only pizza he has.
>>10219006>Okay, so I cannot be the only one who feels really bad for the older people that sit around at conventions because their 30 year old incel son can't drive and wanted to go to a convention right?It's worse when their kid is a vendor/artist. Its silly the amount of times I've seen a 50+ year old parent manning a stall full of stock they know nothing about because their son is busy pretending to be an anime business man and trying to get in the pants of barely legal artist girls.
I have been waiting almost 4 months for Baby to restock my last dress in my wishlist... I hate Baby's low reservation stock, and random and unpredictable restock system reeeeeeeee
My con crush just broke up with his genderqueer boyfriend because they refused to use female pronouns and it made him feel gay.Should I ask him to cosplay with me?
>>10221235To most people, you'll look weird, but you'll make someone's whole day. Do what you love.
Went to a con this past weekend that sucked but thankfully my friends made going worth it. Got to hang out with someone who I really like a lot and I think I made a pretty good impression, they hugged me when I left which made me super happy.I feel like whenever I try to make meaningful connections with people I make an ass out of myself. I hope she likes me and that I wasn't being annoying the whole time. Pic related, I'm Moby.
Why are you guys so autistic
>>10221792welcome to 4chan, pot.
>>10221793Somehow you guys are worse that /vg/
>>10221796Because according to the book my mom got me autism works differently in females and it's basically we're hyper emotional, don't know how to deal with it, and end up crying into pillows a lot.
I met a guy who is really cute and likes a lot of the same obscure nerdy things I do. I think he’s got potential to be an awesome friend that I can hang out with at cons and cosplay with, but because he’s cute I’m kind of looking at him like “maybe potential boyfriend someday?”Only problem is that he’s like a decade younger than me. He’s old enough to vote and all, but I still don’t think it’s a good idea. So here I am trying to will these weird feelings to die so I can be his friend without it being weird, when out of the blue he texts that he misses me and wants to hang out so we can discuss the ending to this anime we both watch. I definitely want to meet up to nerd out but I’m hesitant because the feelings are lingering and I don’t think now is the time to see his face. He throws his schedule at me and seems so eager to hang out that it makes me feel even more awkward. I’m sure these romantic feelings are mixed up from being super excited to meet someone I have a lot in common with. But I’m still not about to see him until the heat dies down. >tl;dr is she really thinking about cradle robbing? The answer will shock you
>>10221806See a therapist, get some help. Unless you actually like your life atm then enjoy it
>>1022181110 whole years? Damn. How much experience have you had with relationships?
>>10221814Most of my relationships have been long term with a few seasonal flings thrown in. I’d like to believe I’m quite experienced in dating, but I still have a lot to learn about not becoming “one unit” with someone and remaining my own person if that makes sense.
>>10221821Yeah that makes sense. I guess the age-gap is kind of a bummer. I know people who have talked about seeing an age gap between a 19-year-old and a 25-year-old look fishy. I guess it just depends on how much backlash you might face from other people. I'd say if the connection between you two is strong enough, but you may want to try looking for people closer to your age.
>>10221807Can't remember the title, it was along the lines of "a guidebook on autism in young people" but i'm probably wrong.
>>10221824The age gap is definitely what makes me want to put out the feels. I know most guys don’t mind dating an older woman but I think a lot of people judge women for dating younger men? I’ve dated an assortment of ages but never one this far apart, whether it be older or younger than me. It seems like all the men I meet that are close to my age that like me are unappealing. I’m in such a weird age bracket right now where my choices are either tinder smashers or creepy guys who obsess easily. Maybe it’s my location too. Either way I’m probably gonna sit this one out and hope to gain a new dude friend
>>10221835Just out of curiosity, how big is the gap exactly?
>>10221838If I remember his age correctly it’s actually 11 years?
>>10221843Oh wow, that is a really big gap. Yeah I'd say being friends seems fine but going for a relationship could turn out bad. Either way, I hope you're able to get into a healthy relationship someday!
>>10221843my partner and I are 9 years apart anon (i'm the older one, and a woman). we have been together for 3 years. I'm 38, not sure how old you are, but too young and it might be drastically different priority wise, and you may regret that, especially if you feel more like a mom than a partner. BUT maybe that's what you want, or maybe that's not how it feels because he is more mature, either way, don't say no completely just because of an age gap.
>>10221845Thanks anon! I’m content with being his friend for now, he’s a really cool person and I’d hate to ruin our chances of being good friends over a failed shot at a relationship >>10221846I’m on the fence on if I’d like to be the more mature one or not. I like having control in a relationship, which is a really toxic trait of mine that I’m trying to stop. So sometimes I wonder if I’m gravitating towards him because since he’s younger, he’d give me more control? But with that being said, especially what you wrote about our priorities potentially being different, it could also be a good opportunity for me to learn how to not be a control freak. I’ve been single for a while now and have been fixated on my personal goals in life. So much so that I don’t think any partner, whether they be younger or older, could shake me from them. But maybe dating someone younger would be a fun change since he seems to be really goal oriented as well. Either way I guess we’ll find out because I don’t intend on not being his friend because my backwater brain caught feelings lol. Maybe it could turn into a relationship in the future, maybe not.Thank you to all the anons who replied to my feels. It helped me navigate through my rational mind on the situation and I feel less conflicted and a lot better
>>10221843My folks are nearly 20 years apart.Seconding >>10221846
>>10221847Man I wish an older woman would date me
>>10218633Goddamn cgl, I got a serious deadline. If I get this done tonight I'm buying another dress tomorrow.At least the picture doesn't give me anxiety and I smug af fit into unshirred brand, unlike the owner of that swollen appendage.
>>1022184318 to 29 is a very different situation from 28 to 39
>>10221811So, he is 18 and you are 29? Fling, maybe. LTR, nah, hard pass on that. He's too young at this stage of his life and still has school, then his career to establish. If it was 28 and 39 or anything older it wouldn't be so unusual. You'd have more in common at those life stages.
>>10221887My partner is 10 years younger. I only considered him because he was already very strongly established in his career track already (so a relationship would not derail that part of his life and his career goals) and because he pursued me pretty singlemindedly. We were friends in a group, that's how I met him. At first I tried to convince him that someone a bit younger than he is would be better but he convinced me that he did not want someone younger. We had many of the same life goals already in common so it worked and here we are some years later, very happy.
>Browsing lacemarket>"Oh what a lovely dress/blouse/whatever! And what a price! Better check it ou-">Reserved for [insert name]Every time
Huh, as a guy (30) i feel like an immense creep even thinking about dating someone significantly (more than 3 years) younger than myself. Though, not that it matters because i have weird trauma when it comes to hitting on/flirting with women, especially with online dating, partially thanks to admitting i was Bi on a dating site in the past, and being involved with the local furry group. Both of which involved men acting in a very predatory manner towards me and now i feel that almost all women are constantly assaulted by men like this and i'd just be part of the creepy disgusting noise.
I think I have to leave my comm. I’ve had too many people pretend to care about a serious issue of mine but then talk about me behind my back and accuse me of lying. The last couple times I went I just cried on the way home.
>>10221894how do we know anon's guy is 18? she just said he was old enough to vote, meaning at LEAST 18
Happy Feel! I've been wearing lolita for 3 years now and yesterday was the first time I was asked for a photo! I just thought it was sweet. And the fact they asked too. At first I thought they were asking for directions and I was like, "Hmmmm? Huh? Oh!" It wasn't at a con and I was just out getting lunch.
>>10222102I was just trying to say that the same age gap is very different at different ages, I have no idea how old anon and her crush are
>>10222102I feel like she would have said ’early 20’s’ if he was 20 or over. I don't have a problem with the idea of a 10 year age gap in general if the younger one is over 25, any younger and it risks getting into the question of ’well are they established enough on their own yet and mature enough that the gap doesn't really matter?’. Maturity and life events vary from person to person and I'm sure there are exceptions. But in general, I don't think an 11 year gap with either partner being only 18 is so good. At 29, I personally am not at all attracted to any 18yo guys as a dating prospect though. I know a few and we really do not have much in common even though we may like a lot of the same things.
>>10222074At this age, you are right to feel this way, there's usually a big maturity gap. But you really sound like you've got a lot of issues to settle within yourself first anyway so by 33 or so, dating anyone over 27 will give you a wider dating pool.Women are usually always aware, and yep, a lot of creepy noise is constantly playing in the dating pool.
>>10222086Why are you dragging out your ’serious issue’ repeatedly with multiple people at comm meets? That's probably what they are talking about. I would be talking too, saying ’fuck that’. We are sick to death of people on high overshare with their ’issues’ when we are just trying to dress frilly, gather and drink some tea. That's NOT the right time and place.
>spend $300 on a commission for something I've wanted to do for a few years now when the person wanted some emergency commissions for something>wait months for them to even start and ask for measurements >they leave the city temporarily to go look for work elsewhere after getting fabric>still waitingCon's technically not until September and it was promised for then, but I'm losing my patience quickly as I'd like to do a shoot with it before the con, and I've had an emergency come up and would honestly rather just get my money back. But it's a casual friend so I'd feel back asking for a refund when they're stating they're broke and out looking for work.But you also don't blow off the work you already have.idkSad and annoyed.I know they're not scamming but there's really no excuse for leaving before finishing when it's been as long as it has.
>>10222175- Don't commission someone who offers emergency commissions. That's pure proof they already aren't handling things well because they are depending emergency commissions.- Don't commission friends. At best, completely awkward if something goes wrong. If it goes badly, the friendship nearly always suffers or dies over it. At this point you can't ask a refund because they may finish it in time, but if they don't, you're screwed for your con and still have the awkward problem of refund to deal with, and I'm betting they will not have the money then either. - Don't pay full price up front. Negotiate 1/2 down 1/2 on completion next time, it keeps people motivated to deliver.
>>10222186Trust me. I know now. Made the mistake because they were reliable in the past, but meh. Last time I'll be a bleeding heart in regards to money.
>>10222189You could maybe tell them you are getting a little worried since it has been a long time (are-state how long for emphasis) and tell them you'd like weekly status updates until they finish, just to make sure things stay on track?
>>10222197Kind of hard for them to make any sort of weekly update when they just left for "an indeterminate amount of time" to look for a job.Going over this with some local cosplayers. I might just ask for a refund at this point. Idk if it stresses them out.
>>10222259Don't hold your breath, I doubt they have any money to pay you if they are broke and looking for work. My feel is that I feel like shit. I have a summer cold and I'm a bored and whiny bag of snot stuck in bed browsing the chan on a Monday afternoon. What a life.