Ready? I'm starting.>cosplaying 2B>plan this photoshoot with a photographer you just met in a remote place>really cool place t b h, just really far away from any civilisation>start shooting and it goes great>exceptnot.jpg>the thing is I'm on my period>15 minutes in and I feel overflowing my pad an bleeding to my legs>there is no bathrooms or anywhere I can change my pad>my white panty is now red>thankfully we are not doing any butt shots>it's too early to finish shooting but I'm scared that blood will be too much and reach my lower legs where skirt doesn't cover>to add sprinkles I can't see very well with visor thingy and this guy has a camera>I start subtly complaining about how tired I am>which is not a lie because period cramps>it tooks 20 minutes of complaining to convince him it's enough>which I feel about because the photographer was also excited about this shoot>I get home and take off everything>my panty is all red, my skirt lining is almost covered in bloodBut I think he didn't notice. I was stressed to hell though. Now I'm too scared to plan photoshoots in cool places.
>>10140024>padthat's where you went wrong but even then, even wearing a tampon, I have a horrific fear of wearing something like a swimsuit cosplay or leotard or whatever and the string dangling out
>>10140028I wish I could wear tampon or those cup thingies. I tried a thousand times but I can't stick anything down there, idk if it's vaginismus or something else but it's shitty.
I use a ss to buy from closet child. I just get so confused and anxious when trying to order from them I rather use a ss.
>I resell items I buy off of mercari and japonica for way more than I buy them for. I’ll wait a long time, sometimes years, so nobody catches on and scatter the order items are sold in so I can’t ever be linked with this behavior. You can easily turn a ¥300-500 item into a £20.>I pay for a good chunk of my shopping addiction that way>>10140024What the actual fuck? Why is your flow that heavy? I thought mine was bad but I’ve never bled through my pad let alone all over everything.
>>10140057anon probably didn’t think she would bleed as much as she did so put a smaller pad than neededhappened to me before so can relate
>Do first photoshoot as photog two years ago>Actually seem to manage to make friends with the cosplayer I shot with>Think "oh shit wait is this a good way to make friends?">Fast forward two years later, I have not made a single close friend from photogging>Am somewhat in demand for shooting with now, fill up at every con>My relationship with the people I shoot with only extends to cosplayer -> photog >have drank and chilled with some of these people at con nights and even outside of cons after being invited to join them or running into them sometime during the night, but It still really feels like they only keep me around because I take decent shots>no one DMs me or talks to me much outside of that>can't say I actively want friends or invite people out myself because that would be admitting I have an ulterior motive outside of simply shooting, and a male photog asking a woman he shot with to drink or chill later in the night would be dipping into "creepy guy with camera who only wants to sleep with women" territory>I legitimately do not want to sleep with with anyone I work with, or even any cosplayers as a whole, as it seems akin to sleeping with someone from your workplace which is a huge fucking nono in my eyes>no males seem to want to shoot or book with me so no chance of hitting up males to chillI still aim and prioritize to give people shots that they love, but when I started I wanted to have fun and make friends while getting nice shots, not turn this into a straight up business where I am simply seen as a walking cameraFeels like the past two years have been a waste in terms of socializingI still really like photography and want to continue shooting, but this feels like such a lonely, isolating experience despite working with so many people.I know it's probably my personality as well, but fuck man I figured I could have at least buddied with O N E person.Dunno if this belongs here or the feels thread since this is a bit of a confession.
>>10140024Oof that's why I always layer up when I'm cosplaying on my period. Actual panty with the pad, skin tight safety shorts, then some nude Spanx. Gets warm desu but it saves some anxiety of things seeping through.
I once applied to a Lolita brand fashion show as a joke... I ended up getting in.
>>10140057>I thought mine was bad but I’ve never bled through my pad let alone all over everything.You think you have a heavy period but you've never bled through a pad? It's medically not considered heavy unless you go through at least one pad an hour for more than four hours. I can't travel when on mine at all because there's no way to guarantee I'll be able to make it to the bathroom every 45mins. Can't imagine going through with a photoshoot, op is brave.
>>10140165I wasn’t aware there were medical qualifications for how heavy my period is. I feel better about my flow now. My cramps are crippling though and some days I can’t get out of bed so that still sucks ass.
I told myself I wasn’t going to buy any more main pieces for a while, but I saw one of my dream items for an absolute STEAL. It was $75-100 less than it usually goes for just because it had some tea stains that the seller hadn’t even tried to get out, but would probably come out really easily. I’m torn between feeling happy about getting a bargain, and feeling bad that I broke my promise to myself.
>>10140143I feel you. I am not a cosplayer in any way but learnt some sewing and hemming for my suits and general wardrobe from /cgl/. The thing is: I love wearing suits or just preppy stuff. I believe this scares people away at first glance but also makes them look with curiosity (especially the girls). But when it comes to creating meaningful friendships on a non-relationship basis, I'm practically a NEET.
>>10140646When you can grab a bargain, grab a bargain. Old business rule. If not, there's always another bargain coming up.
>>10140057>hoarding items for years just to resell them for 15 bucks moreClean your room and get fucken therapy anon.>>10140162And then?
>>10140057Japonica still charges a ¥500 commission per item even if it’s dirt cheap though?? Between that, domestic shipping, international shipping, and customs, are you actually turning a profit?
>>10140782Yeah. Sometimes I use them other times I get friends to buy my item.>>10140769No I think I’ll keep on scalping and making money but thanks.
>>10140165What kind of pad, anon? Is there a baseline?
I'm a lesbian, which should make cosplay the BEST hobby to be involved in to find a gf that shares my interests. But literally every girl I meet is either polyamorous (which I'm not into), super obsessed with and loud about being gay (obnoxious imo) or already in a relationship. Smdh.
>>10140855If you're that picky and judgemental, no wonder no one wants to date you
>>10140855I am also a single lesbian and I’m none of those things you mentioned. Maybe we’ll cross paths one day!
>>10140855I'm bi and I feel the same way, but I think it's because I was too quiet and not outgoing enough. Eh.
>>10140910NAYRT but>Not wanting someone poly or an annoyingly obnoxious cunt >Implying that's picky or being judgmental to an extremeDo you not have preferences and do you sleep with & go out with whoever wants you?
>>10140910only 1/3 of those things was "judgemental"
>>10140910People want to date me, I just don't want to date them. And desu I don't think any of those things are outright judgemental.1- I'm not poly, and not comfortable with dating someone who dates other people?2- I'm very quiet, and very subdued about announcing my sexuality, which in my experience doesn't gel well with people who consider it an important part of their identity. 3- Why tf am I gonna go after someone in a relationship?Chill.>>10140913Heh, I'll keep an eye out for you anon!
>>10140932Also lesbians won't touch bis with a ten foot pole
>>10140143Bro are you me? I am linking my throwaway/4chan email if you want to make a friend tbf tsf rpg @ gmail com
>>10141008Because they have an irrational fear that they’ll get dumped for a dude lol
>>10141008I hear a lot about this but I've never actually experienced this in many years in the lesbian community. I know tons of gay & bi women who will go out with each other, and many who are in committed relationships. Is this just a weird stereotype, or does the fear actually exist in places?
>>10141008My a/bi friend is happily dating a lesbian so it's probably just you.
>>10140855>>10140913>>10140932Also searching for a cosplay gfWhere are gulls from?
>>10141033*where are you gulls from?
>>10140028>tamponthat's where you went wrongcups are unironically the best thing that happened to me. evidently tampons made me cramp like crazy because most of my cramps are gone now, they stay in place, they don't leak a drop, and if I wanted to I could shoot all the blood out at once by pushing it into the toilet before going on about my day - and I still don't get any leaks after that. I try to tell everyone I can about them because they're just that great. It's really, really hard to change them in public without making a mess, though, which is why I'm so happy I can push it out and wait 'til I get home to fuck with it.
>>10141020It exists for real.
>>10141033New England. I’m more of a lolita, though I have cosplayed before and have a general interest in it.
>>10140024Why would you cosplay a pantyshot-tier anything while on your period? Genuinely curious. I mean I get you don't exactly schedule getting your period and sometimes conventions and the like just have inopportune timing, but do female cosplayers not have a code red cosplay?
>>10141033Upper midwestI'm more lolita too, but I cosplayed a bit in my time and once I have more time I'll probably cosplay a bit more. I have ideas.
>>10140179I got on birth control because of this exact reason mixed with stomach aches and by medical standards a very heavy flow (I do have fibroids).I now experience little to no cramps for like an hour when I begin my period, and it lasts 2-3 days. It took 3 months to adjust to it, but it's improved my life so much.I would talk with your gyno, anon.
>>10140143I have the same problem in other fields. I really think it happens because your first impression is as a service provider rather than a regular person so from the very beginning your relationship with the people you meet is strictly professional, even if you're only shooting for fun. I know it sucks but in my experience it's not possible to make friends if your first interaction isn't on equal ground.
>>10140024Personally, when my gaping maw overflows, I like to stuff it with gravel, it sucks up any excess moisture. Gravel, natures tampon.
>>10141297Gravel isn't absorbant at all, try straw next time
>>10140024I know I'm gonna catch shit for this but next time just tell him that you're having your period and you need to stop. Contrary to popular belief, most guys are very respectful about that kind of thing and he would have probably just ended the shoot right there instead of you having to convince him that you were tired. I realize that it's your body and everything and you don't have to tell anyone shit but just consider for a second that guys can be decent human beings once in a while.
>>10141090I didn't know I was going to have my period that thay and we scheduled the shoot specifically for 2B so I couldn't go and say "imma wear this other cosplay instead" one day before the shoot. And really I wasn't expecting it to be that bad.>>10141307You have a point but I guess I was just too embarrassed. And I don't think it's only because he was a guy, I probably would do the same even if the photographer was female.
I don't really get the mentality that ugly but practical shoes are okay in lolita because pretty shoes don't work when you're going out in nature/doing a lot of walking/whatever. I do wear lolita regularly and don't see it as a costume that should only be worn to fancy tea parties or whatever, but I also do have the sense to realize when certain types of clothing are appropriate and not. If I'm going hiking lolita shoes would not be appropriate, but like... neither would the other parts of a lolita outfit. If it's hot as balls and I feel like I need to wear flip flops there is literally no point in doing the whole blouse and petticoat thing. People act like only conlitas care about matching the level of "fanciness" of their clothes with their shoes, but I wouldn't pair my designer office wear with hiking boots or sneakers either because it just LOOKS BAD and either way it would mean that only my feet are actually dressed for the activity at hand. That doesn't mean I think of the clothes as a costume.
>>10141299Well if its not absorbent, why is there an entire handful of it stuff inside me?
>>10140143You good with internet friends? What Vidya do you like?Have you considered being a cosplayer yourself?
>>10140143>Fast forward two years later, I have not made a single close friend from photoggingSame but 6 years here
I wear kinda slutty/art hoe-y clothing when I'm not in lolita and desu I'm too committed to my semi-normie fashion to be a daily lolita
>>10141391Well I get your point, and I am not saying you are like this but some people are just against any kind of flexibility in lolita and they expect every coord to fit in some mold, or clear a checklist. If it doesn't? Then it must be ita. In reality it is entirely possible to bend and shape lolita around your needs without being an ita. You feel bloated? Go for sack dresses. Travelling? No petti is way to go. Too hot weather? Go blouseless. Heck, even sneakers work in some coords. Like, if you wear sneakers with an OTT classic outfit it'll of course clash but I love cute pink sneakers in casual sweet coords. Tl;dr lolita is not something that should clear a checklist and people who treat it that way come off as conlita-ish.
>>10141068>push it outwhat the fuck ..?tried the disc just can’t get used to it, then again only tried once. wish me luck
>>10141139I’m from Wisconsin
>>10141391maybe some people genuinely like taking nature shots and enjoy wearing lolita for different occasions. i have a lightweight petti for hiking and a pair of thrift store janes or a pair of boots (if it's cooler), if i'm running errands i'm not throwing on my meta stripper platforms (i mean..sometimes i do but that's beyond the point), if i'm at work i wouldn't wear tea partie, im in a kitten heel mary jane or wearing a pair of btssb heart buckles, etc It just seems impractical to expect everyone to look perfect as a lifestyle/daily lolita.
I frequently like photos of crappy cosplays partially because it makes me feel better about myself and partially because I feel bad for thinking about people like that so I like their post hoping it’ll boost their self esteem a little
>>10142965I just like shitty pictures because I'm hoping the person will look at my profile and follow me lolGood on you for actually having goodish intentions lol
I love being accused if self posting because I'm a literal nobody but gulls are so stupid they will just make themselves believe I'm all sorts of people. Been doing it since 2014 at this point. Everyone has been wrong in identifying me in a thread. 9/10 if someone says self post its probably just me and never the actual person who got posted.
Every time I have a fight with my boyfriend I want to cut my brand into smallest pieces.Including right now. Urge is too strong.Fights themselves have nothing to do with lolita, I just want to see the world burn.
>>10140143damn that's sad, one of my best friends was one of my first clients. met her my first year offering shoots. i guess it is different being a dude. maybe the secret is working with the same people at different cons throughout the year? i hope you make some con friends soon!
>>10141088>lesbian, lolita, and in new englandWhere the fuck have you been my whole life?
>>10147057They have always been one...
>>10147057Are you new to the internet?
>>10147049Just please offer to sell dream dresses. I always wonder if people like you are the reason I can't find what I'm looking for.
>>10146453Spotted WW trying to cover her tracks making it look like she doesn’t spend ages WKing herself here
sometimes i pretend to be a trap online because i like the attention. i'm so painfully ugly and my body is so average, it feels like the only way i can feel cute. now i kind of understand why girls seem so addicted to getting male attention, it feels nice. but also feel so disappointed in myself about doing it, though.
>>10147244>girls seem so addicted to getting male attentionGirls in general more often than not are looking for attention and approval from other girls. Guys just THINK it’s for attention from them. There are some girls who are thirsty for male attention but that’s the minority. This board is a great example of girls caring more about what other girls think than what guys do.
>>10147242I'm still not her. Your meme spouting shows how uninformed you are.
>>10147049What's the point since the socks are washed before shipping them out? At least I hope they are.
>>10141139Im an Illinois lolita
>>10147291I'm also from Illinois~
>>10147292Oooooh shit lmao
>>10141008You're obviously in middle school and have never met a homosexual
>>10147293I am a dumb ass I forgot to put nayrt, but also illinois gull meet when
>>10146453>Been doing it since 2014yikes just leave already and get a real hobby you pathetic waste of space
>>10147326I love when people in here try to act like they're somehow above someone even though they post in the same shit hole.
>>10147057Bless you, you sweet innocent creature.
>>10140029ntayrt, but you absolutely should get checked out if you think it's vaginismum. It could worsen over time if you don't stop it early. But, if you feel like it's just a sensitivity thing, you could try different angles and gently rubbing yourself before inserting it. Sounds odd, but the lubrication does help.
>>10141090>implying that periods never come to ruin your day regardless of how much preparation you do
>>10147037that sounds like a form of self-harm tbqh
>>10147244>>10147246Both sexes are looking for attention, validation and approval from both sexes, that's how the human brain works.
>>10141020I think it depends on your country and how bad the stigma against bisexual women is there, and if it's very different from the lesbian stereotypes. In the media in my country bisexuals are always portrayed as hypersexual plot twists who cheat on everyone, whereas lesbians are portrayed as very masculine and kind of ugly. I've been pressured to "choose sides" by people I wasn't even dating. I used to have a lesbian friend who warned others never to date a bisexual because one of them cheated on the cousin of her friend once.
>>10147348People like you MAKE it a shithole.
>>10147493Pretty sure it's the people who just scream self post anytime someone disagrees with them.
>>10147244>thinking girls want male attentionlmao
>run into someone I vaguely know from high school mutuals >late 20s koreaboo who tries to talk in high pitched owo kawaii voice at all times>she compliments me on my cosplays>says she wants to do it too>encourage her to do it because it’s a lot of fun >turns out she’s an insta thot wannabe >keeps asking me to show her how to do cosplay things/asks me to do them for her>don’t actually like her that much or want to do anything for her>don’t want to be anything beyond acquaintances but she gives off a sad kind of vibe and I feel bad for herI don’t necessarily want to be friends with her especially because she makes me cringe a little, but I don’t want to be mean to her either. I’m thinking about telling her that I charge if she wants me to do anything cosplay related for her because I doubt she’s willing to pay for all the stuff she wants me to do for her. I know it’s just me being paranoid, but I’m also a little afraid that if I ever did go over to her place, she would murder me in her basement
I hate ita threads and usually avoid them, but I just nearly posted someone I know irl to the ita thread. I stopped myself at the last minute because I don't want to make her insecure about her body. It just really hurts to look at her coord. She's wearing an old and very rare dress that's frequently posted to dream dress threads, but it's too small for her and it looks like she can't breath. It makes me sad for people who are looking for that dress.
>>10140024Photog here and I did a shoot with someone who was on her rags. Was on the second session which was when she started bleeding out and stained the sheets. I suppose she wore black panties there wasn't stains on her but i feel bad for the cleaners who had to clean the rooms and change them sheets..
>>10141008like hell they will, get out of here with that bs
>>10140024Not sure where to post it, so here.>be in Singapore. Hot as hell.>be bored, see a Cosplay convention. Nothing to do, family goes.>highly masculine father(farming background, manly man) finds the whole thing silly, but admirable in a sense, and accepts others interest and dedication.>nerd of brother just laughs at all of it, because he’s just against it by principle, no good reason.>mother gets really into it, complementing many of the girls on their dresses and obsessing over how doll like they looked.Be now, getting into Cosplay with a friend. Tell mother, because she likes to know these things.>gets really concerned, until I elaborate.>took me two days to figure out why she was concerned.>mfw she had confused Lolita for cosplay.>mfw she thought I, and a close friend were dressing up in said dresses.I’m a six foot, well muscled, rather hairy and very masculine guy, and she thought I was dressing up in frilly pink dresses with my very close friend.
>>10147477Not in an even sense, or even a similar sense.That’s how sexual dimorphism works.
>>10148339Redirect her to diy tips online. Give her the resources enough so to pressure her to do it herself.
>>10148567blank out her facei wish people would blank out faces on ita threads in general>>10148339absolutely do not. people like that will latch onto you if you so much as give them the time of day
>>10140024unrelated, but this remembered me, that I don't have a gf who laments about her period...
>>10141307It's not that we think you wouldn't understand, it's just that most women find it embarrassing regardless of who we tell.
>>10149030Oh please. As a guy, the only thing embarrassing about it is if you start making up cutesy names whilst stating it. (Ruined sexy time with GF).Other then that, we don’t care. We pop random boners far more frequently then once a month. Compare that to a period for embarrassing.
>>10149006People would still recognise her (she has over 10k followers) and she would most definitely recognise herself
>>10149047>as a guy I have no idea what it's like to be raised as a girl
>>10149047Imagine telling the female photographer you want to stop the photoshoot because you have a boner lol
>>10140754>I wear suits so I should be getting friends, why aren't people interested in me!!>I'm not in employment, education or training when it comes to friendshipswhat the heck is going on here anon? did you have a stroke while typing this?
>>10149051>as a girl I have no idea what it's like to be raised as a guy
>>10149047Boners and periods are both disgusting and should not be shown publicly.
>>10149047Maybe she's not the right person for you if you hate cute things
>>10149073Dressing cute or being adorable but s one thing.Acting cutesy is another.Think about it this way. If someone got intimate with you, then whispered some elaborate metaphor of a body process to try and sound above such processes or simply to assign a “cute name” to it, you would be less amused.Picture someone earnestly telling you in their sexiest voice they could do “the red devil case today.” In an almost giddy voice.I don’t hate cute things. Not in fact, disgusting things.I hare people trying to make everything cloyingly cutesy because they can’t stand soiling their mouth or mind with the idea that their body does stuff.
>>10149079I would be amused. It would be weird if someone who always acts cute, suddenly got all solemn and serious about periods.
>>10149079Maybe she was just embarrassed? A lot of girls I know will try to go around the subject because they just don't like going SORRY MY UTERUS IS BLEEDING (although that's what I usually do)
>>10149094But anon, HE doesn't think it's embarrassing, he thinks acting cutesy is embarrassing. The fact that some of us were taught never to talk about periods and to hide our pads and tampons in dark bags is irrelevant.
>>10147477not womenthey look for money from men
>>10149181Oh sorry, I guess if HE doesn't think it is, then it's alright! Shit, I'm so glad we have men to cure us of all insecurities, reinforced in us for years by everyone around us, by going "but I think it ok"
Whenever I want to find something cute on aliexpress or ebay I always put "kawaii" or "harajuku" before the search word/s and I feel a piece of myself dying every time for succumbing to my weeb selfYou find some really aesthetic stuff doing that though
>>10149338Same here, I feel like I’m 13 again when I do it but it does help though
>>10149239Read a book about brains
>>10149047Are you retarded? I have no problems telling my boyfriend or family I'm on my period, but I'm embarrassed of telling men I don't know/am not super close with because of other men saying ewww gross every time the subject of periods come up
>>10149340I love the element of surprise it also always brings. You are always sure to find these three things in different forms:1. Something that is actually cool/cute2. Something that is so ugly it hurts your eyes3. Something that is so tacky you can't help but love it
>>10149088No, rather the reverse. She always tries to act and be taken seriously, to be more influential. so transitioning to acting cute and jumping a person, quite unsettling.>>10149094Oh no, she's not embarrassed of anything around me anymore. In fact, I think another time she literally said that exact phrase "Sorry, my uterus is bleeding.">>10149181Acting cutesy is not embarrassing. Suddenly 180ing your personality without a trigger is quite unsettling though.>>10149248D-do you know how male brains work?It's literally input, analysis, response list, appropriate selection.Baring those with mental disabilities or lacking sufficient mental maturity, it's a wonder people can have adverse reactions to periods at all, if one half of the population don't really have an emotional response beyond "ohh", and the other is sympathetic to said plight.
>>10149394That's not me being retarded, that's you lacking either confidence in yourself to be open, trust in the guy to act sensibly, or assertiveness to say you need to finish now.
>>10149428>trust in the guy to act sensiblyMostly this. And why should we trust guys to act sensibly when the majority, especially those on the con scene, are socially and emotionally stunted.
>>10149072I believe that’s literally illegal my guy.
>>10149475In turn, how do you expect them to develop and display sensibility without at least giving them the chance by talking to them?
A friend cosplayed Himiko Toga at a con a few months ago and ever since then i've had a fetish for that anime character.
>>10149425Whatever you personally feel about the subject doesn't matter at all when the fact is that for most girls themselves, their periods are a private thing and not something they feel comfortable sharing with others. A good chunk of girls don't just like talking about their periods in general regardless of who it's with. Although it definitely doesn't help that men love throwing around the "girl acts a little snippy, must be on her period amirite" stigma and can otherwise be assholes about it. You will never understand what it's like to experience and what kind of things you have to deal with regarding periods when growing up, so it's better to stop trying to convince girls about how to deal with the subject they've had to live with based on your inexperienced gut feeling. Also you're literally complaining about how your own girlfriend made you feel uncomfortable because she brought it up in a way you didn't like, you are part of the problem you're trying to claim doesn't exist.I do agree that OP should at least be able to just say that she isn't feeling well or that she needs a break, but there's literally no reason for her to specify it's because of her periods if she doesn't want to, and demanding that all women should be vocal about them because you're so woke is just hilariously ignorant. Idiot.
>>10140024If the photographer was even remotely professional, you could've literally just told him "hey boyo, it's that time of the month and being in a skirt and everything is getting kind of uncomfortable. Can we do another day?"But who knows, I shoot videos by myself (not cosplay related) and I'm a dude. If I were shooting someone else though I'd much prefer they tell me that so we can do the shoot another day, rather than them being uncomfortable and miserable the whole time. You look better on camera when you don't feel like shit.Side note this board is absolutely fascinating. You guys must have the least crossover posters of any board on 4chan.
>>10150215And yeah I realize that'd be like me telling a female photographer "hey can we hold on a second, I got a boner". It's embarrassing and a shitty photog will make it worse, but the end goal is to get good pictures, not sleep with them. Anyone with even half an ounce of professionalism realizes human bodies can be kinda gross and don't always cooperate.And if that's a problem for whoever's shooting you, that just means you need to work with someone else. 90% of the work of a photographer or videographer is making sure the person is comfortable while telling them what to do.
Kinda wanna have a one night stand at a con but nahhh.
I wish to dress in lolita, or gothic lolita, dresses, once in my life.Point is: I'm a (manly) male, so it would be ridiculous to even try without achieving a comical effect...
>>10150348how about aristo? long 'skirts' aren't uncommon even for men
>>10150216Or the photographer could use common sense and take a hint when someone says they want to stop the photoshoot because they're tired
Every time I get brought up on cgl, (to do with vendetta), I get a sudden influx of cosplay accounts following me. My social media is 100% lolita with no cosplay overlap in the slightest. It made me realize almost no lolitas are even involved in "vendetta-posting", it is all just a bunch of cosplayers rp-ing. It made me feel so much better about the lolita community in general, and also makes me wish cgl would put cosplayers on another board already.
>>10150368I only got posted once (afaik. I don't check cgl every day lol) and at that time the only new followers I got were cosplayers too. I just thought cosplayers like my style better than the average lolita does because I mostly post OTT coords..
Just kidding. I haven't worn lolita in years but I wanted to try out RP-ing after reading your post. I don't get what's fun about it.>>10150375
>>10150359>I start subtly complaining about how tired I amSubtlety doesn't help much here. It's going to be pretty much impossible to tell what someone actually means when they say "heh it's been such a long day". And people can typically work through tiredness, it's bleeding through your costume that's a hard stop to the shoot.But neither of us know what OP was saying to him. Maybe her idea of subtle is mention it once in passing in a very roundabout way, or maybe it means she was doing everything short of saying "I'm so tired I'm going to pass out".The point is the photographer should make you comfortable (and you should *be* comfortable) with letting them know you need a break or when an issue that requires stopping the shoot comes up.
>>10150377>>10150215>Side note this board is absolutely fascinating. You guys must have the least crossover posters of any board on 4chan. What is up with these kinds of posts all of a sudden?Seems like backlash from gulls who can't get away with being crossboarders anymore cause they keep getting called out on it.
>>10150397I'm the second one you quoted, I was actually on /g/ when I saw a banner for /cgl/ and wanted to check it out. Haven't looked at this board in years, I didn't realize it was 80% lolita
>>10150357Not really...I'm not an expert in field, so I will take a look.
More often than not, I hate printed tights. Even when they're made to exactly match the print, they just look like a shittier de-saturated version of the print. The placement of the patterns is usually unflattering and makes legs look thicker. I especially hate those Abilletage stockings every gothic lolita has, they look like Halloween costume pieces to me. Printed on corset lacing details is just so tacky to me. Admittedly I don't hate all printed stockings, I think small vertically placed designs can be really flattering and balance the colors of a print, it's really just the busy ones I hate. Usually when I see them in a co-ord, I think it would look better with solid or lace tights or simple OTK's.
>>10150404I came here because I used to post on /ck/ all the time and noticed this board and started coming here. Lurked for a long time and then started buying lolita. I don't care if trolls try desperately to cover their tracks, I'm telling everyone about how I started as a crossboarder before becoming a lolita. Dumb bitches need to stop being so damn gullible.
>>10150133>Girls acting snippy from period.Only seriously mentally immature people honestly believe this. Most often it's a silent assumption if said girl is acting highly irrationally and having emotional outbursts at every second stimulus, because those are the symptoms of menstration, and such logic is the most permissive of that behaviour.>Never understand what it's like to experience.You'd honestly be surprised. I've pushed my body so hard at times it made all my bodily muscles cramp (yes, including soft muscles like intestines. Nothing more disconcerting then collapsing in a bathroom with your guts writhing and flipping around inside you). These last three weeks I've had maybe a handful of proper valid meals, gotten about two hours less sleep then needed each night, mild hypothermia, nosebleeds, migraines and even visual hallucinations.It got bad enough that I didn't register that the pie I ate was so hot, it's literally burnt my throat raw.Imagine what that does to a mental state...I know pain.And you yourself will never know the struggle having a male sex drive is when growing up. A menstral cycle is once a month, and generally sympathetic. A male sex drive (roughly twenty times yours at your best) is constant every second.And everyone frowns on it.A period, even at its worst with the screaming and crying and haywire synapses is still comparatively an easy thing to manage.I have experience.>Feeling uncomfortable.Periods do not make me uncomfortable. It's a well known biological process.Acting completely out of character, jumping me, and talking about said process in a metaphoric or poetic fashion with the same kind of sing-song voice from a horror movie in your ear is not so comfortable.But if you don't act like that, it's fine.>No reason to specify.Unless the photographer needs or wants a reason for some reason, like particularly good light at the moment. You don't shout reasons for doing everything you do, do you?Learn to read, idiot.
>>10150133>>10151577I approve of the reaction picture though.
>>10151577Why are people like you on cgl?
>>10151577>I feel the need to jerk off 24/7 so you should feel bad for me
>>10151577I guess I'm abnormal for not thinking about sex all day
>>10151577This post is the embodiment of the "clown sitting at the computer" meme
>>10151577Can you masturbate out of your period too?
>>10151577Women don't choose to have periods or the associated symptoms, you're the one who chooses to push yourself and not eat or sleep because you're retarded
>>10151577I was gonna side with you until this post. What the everloving fuck gave you such a shittastic lack of social skills? Also there's problems for both sexes and it sucks for both. Neither side will ever understand, etc, etc, even some girls are as horny as guys.Just get a life and learn to be sympathetic that every person has a different boundary and things they are comfortable talking about, and general politeness would encompass understanding when people can't always feel ok bringing something up.
>>10151577>I know what periods are like>But women will never know what it's like to have a high sex drive!
>>10140057I'm with op. I get super heavy periods and if I know I can't guarantee changing out my shit in an hour I double up using a tampon and pad. I've still on occasion bled through that combo, but never bad enough for anyone to notice, thank god
>>10151588Quad Errum demonstratum>>10151612Come on. You can put in a bit more effort then that. Both perspectives have insight and logic, work with it.>>10151613No, that would be an abnormality if you did. You have a T count of 800 to 1100 ppm, but you also have a brain, and other pressing matters to use it for.>>10151623I aim to please.>>10151690Don't even know what your asking.>>10151696Correct, but irrelevant. The point was that I know pain. The fact that I chose it willingly should only further validate my point.>>10151703Dude, it's not me lacking social skills that's the main problem here. Sure I'm being blunt as all fuck, but the main issue, as with any argument, is the unwillingness to consider the opposing side as potentially correct, or even valid. As evidenced by your default to "Problems for both, neither understands, equal horniness" (Well, actually part of that is simply avoiding argument, but you know what I mean).Consider the following. None of the points I have made have been either biologically or sociologically invalid, and your reaction to me stating them was opposition. Hell, your response indicates that you agree with my points, but your upset that I was blunt about saying them.People, be rational. If you look at this through a scientific lens, it's really not that complex
I've always wanted to cosplay as 2B or Kaine from the NieR series.Also wanted to cosplay Miss Marvel when I was teen. But my labia are fucking huge...
>>10151929Pantyliners my friend, the stiff cheaper ones. I use them for the gym because of my... meatiness...
>>10151952It's not as much the "bulge" as that... it literally falls out on either side of the panty. Like the strip of fabric that covers your lady parts on those cosplays is really narrow.
>>10151577come on, i'm not gonna act like i didn't blast rope at least twice a day going through puberty, but i'd say if anything, high libido is pretty nice, compared to my extremely average libido nowadays.Women have different hierarchical structures and different ways of socializing. So even if you wouldn't have any qualms about saying you, for example, had a case of violent diarrhea shits, women probably would be a little more reserved about talking about that kind of stuff.
>>10151955How the fuck are your labia that long?? Do you tie rocks to them to stretch them? I’m a bit self conscious of mine for having a little bit of a “lip” but this is really making me feel worlds better that there are girls with flaps so big they cant wear specific types of garments.
>>10151955Learn to see then instead of buying premade cosplays for tiny labias
>>10151991*sew not seeMy phone’s autocorrect is out of control
>>10141061>>10141139I'm in Michigan and you anons can get in touch if you like!
>>10151893just stop dude
>>10150293yeah maybe don’t, high chance you’ll get crabs or some shit
>>10151893How old are you? Also, please consider stop posting. Its not even funny right now
I frequently browse cgl, Im not quiet open about it publically, but i am with my friends, and I would even openly say "Yes I use cgl, for lurking coords and the BST/DD threads" if asked (and I have even met a few people here!) but since no one else on cgl has caught on yet I enjoy watching people talk about me openly since I am genuinely able to tell if something is vendetta posting or not. I'm such a nobody, with almost 400 followers on instagram. I can dress myself decently well for someone newer to the fashion, but I do tend to ruffle a few feathers with how I present myself. It brings me a lot of joy seeing people shit on what I'm doing since they rarely have anything to say about my coords or my actual looks and that just makes me feel good about myself. The only thing that makes mesad is seeing people commenting on my photos wanting to friend me or who have crushes on me who will probably never message me or attempt to be my friend because they're not sure "if Ill be into that" when all I want is more friends (and maybe a gf!). I won't ever respond to any of those comments until it's common knowledge I frequent cgl though lol
>>10152217Nice blog but literally no one cares you dumb leech.
>>10152255Do you realise what thread this is...
>>10152249I can see the connection, the posts were typed similar but that's not really evidence of anything.
>>10152262Yes and there was no confession in your post.
>>10147037Please don't. Cut your boyfriend instead.
>>10152226i wrote >>10150752 and i am not the same person as op of >>10152217 and makes me feel kind of weird people think that
I'm a goth and a gothic lolita and I like pics by everyone I follow no matter what substyle but I don't follow sweet lolitas back any more because unlike classic, casual and my fellow gothic they never like my pics in return. They just follow and never interact like???
I just need to tell someone or else I will not be able to rest easy.I'm a guy and like Fire emblem and a while back I was interested in going to a con. Pick one and hooray! I'm going with friends. In my brain I think going as Edelgard is a excellent idea. Buy waist trainers, wig, and makeup to make myself look like a anime female aristocrat. Cosplay takes months and someone better then me ends up doing almost all the sewing. The cosplay looks good.My makeup makes me look different, not like a female.Con rolls around. Have a good time. Go to Fire Emblem meet.Witness a proposal. Am very happy. After the con I go to find my bus stop to go home. On the street some poor guy asks for change. I think back to earlier when i didn't give a poor person money and they yelled at me. Feel bad and open bag and get wallet and dump all my spare coin change in his bucket. He reaches inside my bag and asks me where i'm going. Confused, I pull away and then he pulls up some other guy and says hell escort me. He said "He'll be a bodyguard" but the man kept asking if I was a girl. I am getting frightened and fear what will happen if they find out if I'm a guy. Third man appears and asks whats happening and where I'm going. The only reason they didn't make a move on me was probably because other people were there. Gods gift in the form of a crossing sign alighting gives me the importunity to speed walk the fastest I can in heels away. After wandering a bit I spot my bus. I give chase since there are no stops nearby. I realize the bus is heading in the direction those three men were. Whisper screaming to the bus"TAKE ME"Thank you to anyone who sat through that.
>>10153624It creeps me out that the "escort/bodyguard" kept repeating if I was a girl or not. If your a escort/bodyguard why should the sex of the person your escorting/protecting matter?!?
>>10140024I'm normally pretty good about keeping my anxiety under control, but swapping out fall/winter clothes for spring/summer clothes brings me closer to a full blown anxiety attack every six months.And I've done konmari, everything that doesn't fit right is gone, everything I got gifted I don't wear is gone. Everything with pilling, signs of wear, or colors that don't suit me, gone. What's left over all brings me joy yet I don't even get to wear a lot of it, sometimes not even once a season. I have to consciously make outfits to wear during the week to make sure I wear stuff at least once in a half year period. Will probably part with some of the brand normie stuff during the next year, might get more for it than I bought it for as it all looks brand new. One of my problems is that I'm too good at second hand shopping and constantly find great stuff for ridiculous prices. Another problem is that I have enough disposable income, I have decent savings but I could save more for a house, but I had a really shitty childhood with a batshit mother who got off on making sure I never got anything I wanted and making me look ridiculous in public with terrible clothes. Still feel like I'm overcompensating but this is a too embarrassingly a first world problem to bother a therapist with. Not sure it's a full blown shopping addiction since I don't have any debt and decent savings, and I take care of my stuff and it's all stored and taken care of, but it still feels like addiction lite.More than enough Lolita clothes, and apart from the two dream dresses I've never seen on auction/second hand yet, I'm putting big signs in my calendar and on my pinboard to STOP BUYING CLOTHES. Last year it was just STOP BUYING BLACK DRESSES, so that's progress. Apart from socks and tights, if I wear it all until it's worn I have enough to wear until I'm fifty-five.
>>10140024Not the same thing, but for lolita, I always wear black when I'm on my heaviest day. White pad, black panties, black tights, black bloomers, black huge petticoat, and a whole lot of relief that even if I bleed through one or two layers, the blood doesn't have much chance of going through all five petti layers and the lining of my sk/jsk/op.
>>10150215I agree. Up to 50% of the population have periods for several decades of their lives, all human adults can learn to deal with period talk. If you have a photog who already is creepy, I guess you wouldn't go to a remote location with him to start with.
>>10150348Then go the opposite and get fit, and do a ladybeard.
>>10140910they literally saiddon't cheat on medon't be annoying and fakedon't make me make you cheatthose are all pretty standard things
>>10153728Poly isn't cheating, it's ethical and consensual non monogamy. Not everyone is okay with poly, and that's fine, but if it's done the way it should be (which means a ton of communication between partners) then it's not cheating. Cheating implies consent wasn't given.
>>10152510I agree with this detective-chan
>>10153973>>10152510You guys realize Poodle-chan posts in the bst and dd thread with an email that uses her name right? She's not like secretly using cgl, you guys are just stupid for not figuring it out
>>10153779Like 75% of the times I’ve seen “poly” couples, it’s just an excuse for one partner to start cheating while the other one reluctantly agrees because they don’t want to break up and be alone. It’s pathetic.
>>10153624That's some creepy shit, sorry you had to go through that. That's what being a girl is like. but anyways post qt Edelgard crossplay pics pls
>>10152543You both write tl;dr self-aggrandizing shit. Twins!
>>10154023Yeah but it's funny, since she pretends to be cutesy in here and then loves to talk about how horrible cgl is on other platforms and also whines about the mean comments kek.
>>10154499I mean cgl is horrible lmao since when is this news
>>10154568Can't be this horrible if she still uses the dd and bst thread.
>>10154600literally no one uses cgl because it's a good place to be shut the fuck up
>>10154023So her selling nudes, whining about her shitty Melanie Martinez fanart in the draw thread, and calling people “bulemic ho bags” aren’t secrets either right?
>>10154613>whining about her shitty Melanie MartinezHoly shit that was her too?
>>10154612Apparently they still use it to buy and ask anons to look out for their dream dresses, so it can't be that bad. Newfags and "lole this is a shithole let me make it even worse" fags made it the place it is now. We might always have been bitchy, but all the infighting comes from them.
>>10154459This. Usually either a fuck boi who won't quit tinder or an "in still finding my way through life" girl who is using dicks to fill the void in her heart. Usually hopped up on antidepressants that encourage risky behaviors. Had a "poly" friend who realized it was meds making her so dickhungry all the time. She realized she was being a shitty partner with time.
>>10154691I didn't even say what I use it for but thank you for confirming my beliefs. If anyone who whines about cgl would never visit it again, the board quality would immediately increase.
>>10154726NAYRT No ones trying to make it bad? were just saying that cgl is a place that is known for bad behavior and petty attitudes but we also acknowledge it's a decent resource. cgl was my first real taste of crit, i still come here for that plus the other resources. i don't usually post garbage and i try to be nice when giving crit and talking with others because i want cgl to be a better place. but between people like you screaming that newfags need to get good or leave and newfags screaming cgl is all meanies no ones actually getting shit done
>>10154747You can say the same thing about you tho
>oldschool trend and bandwagon-ridersI'm getting really tired of the current oldschool trend. Even some of my friends and comm-mates who were NEVER into oldschool are getting into it now just because "everyone else is." I miss all my oldschool brand being cheap on y!auctions and mercari and not being bought by the known scalpers. I wish this would just stop and we could all move onto the next trend already. Life was so much better for me as a lolita when everyone liked fugly AP and stupid underskirts.
>>10154777GOD literally same anon i'm so tired of paying out the ass for items that are normall dirt cheap because some bandwagoner wants to buy a dress, wear it once, then post it for x5 the price because "muh rare old skool"
>>10154740>we also acknowledge it's a decent resource. cgl was my first real taste of crit, i still come here for that plus the other resourcesThat wasn't was the anons I quoted were saying (>>10154612) and thus you shouldn't feel addressed. I wasn't talking about you.>>10154747This isn't what I was saying either. Learn what shitposts are first before using it.
>>10154871I am both anons and i never said "cgl is all bad" i was saying people don't come here because it's known to be a good place.
On saturday I wore for the first time lolita in public after collecting it for over a year, I took a walk and beeing the day before Easter went into a church, It was easier than I thought and nobody made me feel bad just more looks my way than usual
>>10151725I thought you meant doubling up on tampons for a minute and was about to lose my shit
>>10154943bad experiences get overblown honestly. like sure, some girls will occasionally get a bad egg, but while people will definitely stare more/come up to talk to you more and you will probably get the occasional "it's not halloween yet" sort of comment but i have been wearing lolita regularly for 10+ years and have never been harassed or had anyone be outright cruel. Most people just want to know why you're dressed up.
I want to support Western Indie brands but very few do basics and of the ones who do a single blouse is $80+. Even when I find a design I like, I end up getting something similar from Taobao instead.
>>10152217you're an edgy oldschoolder right? why would people shit on what you're doing and not the quality of your fits/appearance?
>>10154777give it a year anon, we all have to deal with it, unless you go punk. Punk never gets popular. Punk is dead. Please go punk lolita god Im lonely
>>10154613at the risk of being called newfag (I don't visit the draw thread) what do you mean by melanie martinez fanart and where did she call people that? Pretty sure she was defending herself in a recent CoF thread. I am curious
>>10152217I'm pretty sure I know who you are! I have actually talked to you a bit on instagram, and I really do hope we talk more. I love seeing you on instagram always, and it makes me so happy seeing a new notification and finding out it's you! Speaking of, I should check instagram now. If you are indeed who I am thinking, keep being you and doing your thing! it's great and you bring a huge smile to my face just by existing. I wish we lived close so we could hang out!
>>10151955You can and should habe surgery for that. It's not healthy because you can get an infection easily. I saw it on TV and the girl recovered pretty nicely.>>10155119This but with sh.
>>10147037Do it! No one's going to stop you
>>10155119same with shoes & tops, and often with hair accessories as well. i buy from both big brands and indie brands but it has to feel like a "special" piece ya know
>>10155210How do you know its them for sure?
>>10155303You don't have a vagina do you
>>10154777>>10154788On the plus side, when the trend ends there will be a lot in the west and I bet it will sell for cheap.
>>10155016Ok horror story, but once I bled so badly I literally didn't realize I still had a tampon in, and put another in. Didnt realize I'd lost the first one for a week either, when I felt weird, realized something in there was wrong, and after much panic fished it out. Fuck, I'd blocked that memory, I literally couldn't bring myself to wear tampons for 2 months, I was too freaked out that I could have died or something. I'd give anything to not have these stupid ass heavy periods.
Someone in my comm has been emotionally cheating on her boyfriend with me. It started out as just playful no-homo flirty jokes but now we constantly meet for one on one lolita dinner dates and have lots of fun. There's nothing physical, at most we just have a maybe 1-second-too-long hugs when we greet and depart. But I can definitely feel the emotional intensity, we both adore each other's company and she looks for excuses to extend our time together whenever she can. It's gotten to the point where her boyfriend has gotten suspicious cause she sometimes has to take selfies of us together to send him so he knows she's not spending all this time with another guy.She hasn't come out, but from our conversations I've fished out gems like:>"I kinda had crushes on girls in high school but it was uncool to be gay back then so I kinda went out with a bunch of guys to see if I was just going through a phase">"I'm okay with guys but sometimes wonder what it'd be like to date another girl">"Even when guys are okay with lolita I always feel like they never fully accept it as much as another girl would so never feel like I can truly be comfortable with guys"I'm like 5 seconds away from saying fuck it and going full on homewrecker mode by kissing her next date. She's obviously into me, I'm into her, we flirt almost non-stop now and her boyfriend is a dumb normie with the personality of a potted plant anyway. I cracked a joke to her about him pretty much being the boring plant dude from Aggretsuko and she couldn't stop laughing at how perfect of a fit it was. He wouldn't even see Aggretsuko with her because he's boring, so I took the opportunity to bingewatch with her at my place with sweets and tea.I'm ganna do it. Typing this post out gave me what I need. Look out J, I'm comin for ya.
>>10155429He sucks, please whisk her away
>>10155429>tfw no loving lolita friend to save me from a mediocre straight relationshipwhy live
>>10155429This is my kind of romcom, I'm rooting for your love anon
>>10155366Read the rest of the thread and look at the pictures.
>>10155429Pls update what happened in this thread, I love this so much.
>>10152217>they have nothing to say about my coords or my actual looksi'm pretty sure you're dollsmeat so i'll do it for you:>you're fat>your coords are a thoughtless mishmash of the cheapest shit you can find>you look like a drug addict>your face is horrible and your hair is fucked beyond belief
>>10140024>>cosplaying 2BGreat idea!>>thankfully we are not doing any butt shots....you're doing it wrong.....
>>10151893wow wtf mate
>>10155429Funny how people would go nuts if this was a guy, saying he needs to stop until she breaks it off with his current gf, etc, but because "UWU my LEZBEANS fantasy" they are all for it. Rude. Cheaters are shit, regardless of circumstances.
>>10155649Ew a boy, someone remove it
>>10155210wow, you actually spoonfed me. Thank you.
>>10155653I'm not the person you're replying to but I've been cheated on and I agree completely. Its not ok to be dishonest with your partner and it's not ok to be a homewrecker just because of "muh lesbian fantasy".
I am a daily lolita and I wear lolita when I go out with my normie friends. Sometimes people stop me to compliment on my outfit and I don't care, until someone notices that I'm with a friend and then comes the awkward>oh wow you are cute too! right! you are both cute!I feel like these awkward forced compliments are gonna destroy my relationship with my friends because they are 100% normie and there is no way they don't notice how forced those compliments are and feel weird about it.
>>10155649gays are notorious cheaters. literally all my gay friends cheat, its weird
>>10155429Good luck anon. Post updates in this thread.And always remember, if they're someone who will cheat to be with you then they're probably someone who will cheat on you later
>>10155873oh my god, this. This happens constantly with my normie friends and my partner, and I always feel awful but there's no good way to confront it without adding to the awkward. It's even been happening with my only lolita friend and I think it's because I wear toned down classic so it draws more of the normie and old lady compliments and my friend gets all the weird afterthought compliments.
>>10155873I would suggest you ask them to join you!...but they might take your compliments soooo...
>>10155119$80 for a custom blouse is a fine price. Tb is shit that might not fit or be wearable and colors might not match. New brand blouses cost $100-200, occasionally more
>>10155932People just don't start wearing lolita just because you asked them to do it.
>>10155873It won't affect your relationship with your friends unless they have extreme jealousy issues. I get those forced compliments sometimes and I'm just happy to have such cute friends.
>>10155429I think you should settle it with her and tell her to break up with her boyfriend before making a move. Cheating isn't cool, and all cheating means is that they are more likely to cheat in the future on you this time. At least let the two of em resolve it before you jump in; it already sounds like she's one step away from ending it and starting a thing with you, so it shouldn't hurt. >>10155649This is true, half the seagulls here are homewreckers and the other half are depressed because their homes got wrecked. On top of that, a lot of the ones "whose homes got wrecked" were initially homewreckers, since cheaters don't just stop cheating. Convincing someone to cheat just means they'll do it again in the future. seriously wtf is up with /cgl/, first yall have some weird lesbian forbidden love fantasies and then yall crying in the feels thread 2 months later since you don't realize that your actions have consenquences
>>10155967Agreeing with the first part of your reply. If the friend's relationship is that shitty, let her end it first. Jumping in and basically encouraging her friend to cheat with her could even chase the friend away and break this nice thing they've got going. Not going to agree with the wild assumptions the second part of your post makes though.
>>10155649I guess if you find it funny that straights love to talk about lesbians and imagine lesbian sex
>>10155967A lot of people who post here are messed up mentally
>>10140028I would double up, the pad+tampon combo.
>>10154477Is this really what being a girl is like? All the time?
>>10140057>think you are making profit >after shipping and commission you are actually losing $2 per saleyou need to keep track of how much you spent, and individual shipping and commission. years later you think "I o ly paid 500 yen for this" when the reality was closer to $15. I see people cope like this all the time when they have a shopping addiction and want to brush off how much they spend.
>>10155649I'm a lesbian and this was my first thought. This isn't cute, this is rather fucked up. I love how it's the boyfriend's fault for being boring, I guess, but she's the one dating him and that already says a lot about her.
I only go to conventions for the drinking and sex. I'm not even really into all the nerdy shit. At all.
OPs story is stupid.
I've stopped wearing makeup, (save for eyeliner and mascara), with lolitaI cut my hair just long enough to have that soft, 70s flip all the way around, and that's exactly how I wear it, even with lolitaI sometimes worry that I may look careless, especially since I mostly wear hime-able dresses, but I feel so much more comfortable and confident now
>playing csgo while gf browse reddit>waiting for round to end because I died earlier on due to ngaf because other team is trash >looks over at gf station and see her looking at some pic of a girl in lolita>"soup do you think I'll look kawaii in these dresses">be me long time lucker on /cgl/ and could tell it's some ita lolita shit >"Uh that's some ageplay shit and I think it'll be weird. don't be a pepega bruh">"I think it's jfash and really cute">"Nah looks like some fetish that people added bows to to normalize for public wearing 4head">"Oh okay cutie"Thank fucking god man. I'd kill my self to see her progress from the ita beginning to a catty seagull. Although she really needs to find herself a hobby. Just not lolita.
>>10168951Why are you stopping her from becoming a kawaii lolita gf?Her being on here would be preferred over you
>>10168951Soup why don't u want a kawaii loli gf
I tell people that CoF stands for Chamber of Farts and that it's a brapposting site
>>10168954She’s worst than me. She makes a bunch of reddit accounts to shit post. >>10169178Her beans are too big to be one.
last ax while drunk in line i kept shouting sieg zeon at some Char cosplayer, at first he was into it but we were lined up in a way that i kept seeing him so by the 10th time he wanted to dielater in the same line the lads and I started drunk singing Blood Upon the Risers and made it awkward for everyonesome /k/ weeb gave us his bitchin business card right after tho so that was nice
>>10166936How do you go about this? I feel like I could if I applied myself, I’ve been called attractive multiple times and girls talk to me at cons but I’m too retarded to make it turn into anything.
>>10169593it's called a binder let her become one of us already
I harshly judge lolitas who don't take care of their nails. Don't come to a meetup with tacky-ass acrylics or dirt under your fingernails, you swine.
>>10147348Mate. They are. Think about what you're saying there.
>>10171032How are they above anyone else here when everyone here is shit.
>>10171035Everyone shit is just the people posting shit. That's not actually common or normal.Vocal minority ruin the majority.
I constantly say that I'm unbothered by the opinions of people online, but the truth is, I'm absolutely bothered by it. I try very hard to look good and get my idol stuff going, especially given the cards I have to play with currently, but when people tell me my coords are shit, or have an obvious vendetta and can't bother to tell me in my COF posts how to improve, it absolutely crushes my self esteem. All I can remember is that I bought the dresses for my enjoyment.... But my feels hurt.I just want friends, but I suck at socializing
>>10141020My wife is bi, was once engaged to another woman and cheated on with a man.Apparently it does happen.
>>10171048You're not making any sense.
>>10166936Why don't you just go to normal bars?
>>10141307Destigmatize the Red Death!!!!!111one
>>10171151Just don't visit cof threads then.
>>10171216Nope, they make perfect sense. The people who say everyone here is shit just use it to feel better about themselves and shitting up the board, it's neither normal nor the majority.
>>10141088Im from new england too! I’m more into cosplay than lolita but I reallyyy want to get into it
>>10141008Homosexuals will fuck any same sex with a pulse.
>be me>19>go to my first con ever>character cosplayer of the same series greets me really excited and adores my cosplay>really sweet guy>in fact he's really cute, just wanna hug and cuddle and smooch him all over>oh fuck>is this feelings?>thorough the days of the con, he insists on me tagging along with them and showing me around>i look like a little duckling following a human around >god i love this guy>we even get fairly close, sharing some deep feelsy stuff>m fucking fw i learn he's 15>fucking fifteeni am so fucking disgusted at myself. i didn't think i could be even more disgusting than I already am.
>>10174523This happened to my friend and I at a Love Live concert.We thought this girl next to us was cute. We found out she was 15 and we just kinda felt bad for ourselves the whole ride home lmao. I think I was 19 at the time too actually.
>>10174523Ouch. That sucks but don't beat yourself up, sometimes you can't tell their age and I assume you backed off immediately after he told you, so you didn't do anything wrong
>>10174525>>10174526I don't have feels like that for him anymore, it feels immediately disgusting. However, I feel an odd sense of wanting to protect him now and still like hugging him, and I still talk with him as I do with everybody else in the group. Do I have to completely cut it off? Should I stop attending cons in general since it's mostly a teens and kids thing? I feel so fucking awful.What's even more ironic is that he's so much more mature than me, holy fuck. I just barely started high school (had to stay many years back because I'm retarded/autismo and kept failing) and he's almost out of it and soon will go into uni and all. Fuck. why do I fail so much at being an adult? I don't FEEL like one. and yet I'm turning 20 soon.
>>10174534Honestly your brain continues to develop well into your 20s. You likely won’t feel like an adult until you’re 27-28 and even then it’s a tossup. Everyone has their own pace anon, don’t beat yourself up for being human. Feelings and thoughts don’t define a person - actions do. Concentrate on your actions and make them things you’d be proud of.
>>10174542Brains change and develop until you're dead actually but that doesn't magically cure things like autism and ADHD
I don't like main pieces. I want to wear lolita blouses, socks, and shoes, but I don't think the main piece silhouette is flattering on me.
>>10140143You tried talking with other photographers? They have the same interests, so you've got at least a starting point, and you're not seen as a service.
>>10174534Four years is nothing. Just hang in there as friends and see how it goes. Sounds like you fancied the pants off him. T. Not a pervet, hubby is a year younger than me and no one notices unless its a 20 year plus age gap and even at that its none of their business.
>like 5 years ago>lonely, immature, suicidal, dirt poor and mentally unstable>think that getting a girlfriend will solve my emotional issues>decide to start cosplaying almost solely so I can get a gf with similar tastes as me>end up making friends instead through my efforts>meet several girls, end up as just friends>...but I find myself oddly okay with it?>keep cosplaying, going to cons, and shortly after starting, realise I'm doing it now just because I enjoy it rather than because I'm lonely>keep making friends, socializing, working on something I'm passionate about>now I'm almost entirely healthy, decently adjusted, and with a group of friends I care about and vice versa>cosplaying basically fixed my lifeI don't typically like talking about why I started doing this because it makes me feel like a creep and I hate it. Cosplay pretty much gave me a thing to actually care about and despite never actually finding anyone (besides a psychotic internet ex I guess), I'm... happy now and that's something that the me of five years ago never would have been able to imagine
>>10176732You grew as a person and that’s something to be really proud of! Though you don’t have to tell anyone about it if you don’t feel comfortable with that. I think we all have embarrassing stuff in our past that we’d prefer to forget, even if it’s only a shitty mindset we used to have. You grew over that and are happy now and that’s what matters.
>>10176739Thanks, I guess. The other half of it is that I still feel an intense guilt whenever I do still feel lonely because of how bad that mindset was, but I guess there's no avoiding that and it doesn't happen much anyway anymore.I'm glad I'm mostly free. I used to be so miserable and bitter but now I look at people who are like I was then and feel disgusted by how they behave.
>>10141068>pushing it into the toiletPls tell me you don't flush the cup too
>>10176484A lot can happen in 4 years. If you stick around as a friend, make sure it's really as a friend and you're not clearly waiting for him to be legal.
>>10155429I don't think you got what the show was trying to tell you with the ''boring plant guy''
>Unhealthy relationship with boys and intimacy>Cosplay makes me flirty>Endless cycle begins >Go to convention, end up acting like a slut>Do things I regret, go home in shame >Rinse, repeat>Gaining a reputation as 'that girl'
My confession is that I secretly hate a lot of sweet lolitas. I'm also a sweet lolita, but the reason behind why I hate them so much is because of how much ignorant bullshit they like to spew about the fashion like their opinions matter in substyles they don't wear. For example, the whole retro-looking diner angelic pretty dress that was recently released; who in their right mind has stayed in this fashion for 15-20 years and have seen solid pieces without lace or extra ruffles, that have seen dresses influenced by every god damned time period (looking at Kato and her 50s inspired lolita dresses she did for both meta and PD), see where the fashion has started and still squeal on like a retard about how somethings not "lolita enough" because it doesn't have enough lace or ruffles. Like how fucking dumb do you have to be to actually believe this when there is a 20+ year history of lolita with similar designs? Now below the knee dresses apparently aren't lolita, when 10 years ago a knee slip would have set off someone's trigger mechanism faster than you could even say the word "whore". I don't even want to interact with a lot of lolitas anymore because of this situation, it seems petty and i'm not "quitting the fashion" but it made me realize how fucking retarded some of you really are and how this community needs to get its shit together.
>>10177550Enjoy your AIDS
>>10140024Confession: >I've always wanted a 2B gf>I've never been to a con>I have no idea what to say to a 2B cosplayerWhat's something I could say that would impress a 2B cosplayer? Do I need a 9S physique?And yes, I already know the 2 rules of talking to girls.
>>10180361Idk dude 2B cosplayers aren't a different species from other girls, and I can only imagine their taste in partners is as varied as the general population's. Try just treating them like people, strike up a conversation, make friends with them, see where it goes from there
>>10180419okay anon, I will do my best!
>>10180361>And yes, I already know the 2 rules of talking to girls.which are they?please, teach me, master!
>>101804971) be attractive2) don't be unattractive
I'm currently a leader of my lolita comm but i'm stepping down in summer and I honestly cannot wait and wish I could do it sooner. I'm sick of the constant SJW bullshit, the flakiness, the weird clout-chasing within the community with no actual passion or dedication behind it. I cannot stand these people for one moment longer than I have to.The sad thing is that the vice-leader is very innocent and super sad that I'm stepping down, wants me to promise not to leave the comm etc. Not sure how to explain to her that I cannot stand these people and want to ditch them as soon as I can. It's like kicking a puppy.
>>10180568even attractive men are repulsive if they lack basic social skills1. be attractive2. know how to read a fucking room
>>10180568>>10180644well, I guess I can forget it anyway...
I want a guy I fancy from work to fuck me Madds Mikkelson polar style in my btssb Anne set.
>>10177642Along similar lines, I have had an unhealthy and lengthy annoyance with the majority of lolitas and cgl seeming to be uneducated about normal fashion.Going nuts over prints is all fine and dandy, but terminology on cuts, material, and even item names (like the definition of “costume jewelry”) is either scant or brings out unnecessary arguments because the posters don’t agree on definitions.I don’t expect lolitas to be knowledgeable of the latest Jimmy Choo heels, or be constantly on point when they’re outside of lolita. It just would be nice if they viewed the occasional YouTube video or online article on how to identify high-quality clothes, what cuts flatter what body shapes, what season(s) you are based on your hair/eyes/skin tone, etc., so that there’s a common vocabulary to use when the next big thing is released in lolita fashion.
>>10181659There's an issue of lolitas pretending to know about fashion because they're a part of a niche fashion community, so they *obviously* must know about fashion, but they refuse to acknowledge older or more modern fashion trends that exist outside of their own little sphere. Pretending modern fashion trends won't be influencing modern lolita trends is probably the dumbest thing i've witnessed in this community, that and the strong hatred of raschel lace that has existed in high and vintage fashion forever
Is it weird to be in a group chat with girls 9 ~ 10 years younger than you? Not work related but they’re coworkers
>>10183495Cuck questions for attention answers. All I see here is weakness when you even ask this dumb shit.
>>10140024Holy S H I T r9k was right 80% 80%!!!