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this might make little sense to the users here..

I have had boyfriends before.
And I am quite attractive.
So it isn't hard to meet men.
The problem is I have low confidence when I really like someone, so I end up is relationships with men I don't feel much for trying to make it work.

And the one time I really liked the guy, I was going through so much and he also just felt low and it just kinda ended really sadly. And even trying to restart with him is too hard.

I feel empty.
I want a real love.
I don't want a pointless filler relationship and I lack confidence that any guy would stay with me or try for me or whatever.

I'm in my late 20s now.
I want to give up.
Pic is me every night alone in dreamland.
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What sort of man do you think would be good for you? And what do you have to offer in a relationship?
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>>21118455

I have a lot to offer besides waning confidence issues from childhood. It comes and goes.

I want a guy to be my best friend, I can be myself and feel accepted, to love me as much as I love him. I only had that with one guy..and I can't even see him anymore. life seems unfair sometimes. I'm in a mood now.. it'll probably get better later tonight.
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>>21118463
>I only had that with one guy..and I can't even see him anymore

Feel for you bro. All I can say is don't put him on too much of a pedestal. I've broken up with really great women because they didn't meet my ex's standards only to realize too late that while they fell short in some places they were better in others.
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>>21118422
Dont give up OP. Having loved and lost happens to a lot of us, and with that comes a lesson in better understanding your needs, what you want in a relationship, and what you need to work on personally. I lost my gf recently too and hindsight is 20/20, she was an amazing person but we just weren't right for each other, it's saddening how much we both wanted things to work out between us. The voidish feeling comes every now and then, I wish I knew a way to deal with that too. All I can say is that there's always a chance you'll find someone right for you if you keep searching.
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>>21118422
>I feel empty.
>I want a real love.
>I don't want a pointless filler relationship and I lack confidence that any guy would stay with me or try for me or whatever
Cute as fuck
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>>21118422
Stop having pointless filler relationships. We can't tell the difference when we want to ask you out.
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>>21118463
>I just want to love and be loved
Everyone does. That's a useless description of what you want in a relationship. You still haven't given us any idea of what you are like and what sort of man would be good for you.
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>>21118529
>>21118788

I appreciate this a lot but my ex has been more than anyone I've ever in terms of fitting together. And we worked out fine, I still want to be with him, and I'm pretty sure he feels the same, but it's just still not the right timing I guess.

>>21118806

Oh, thanks for this too.
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Sounds like you are an emcel. You fucked too many guys and swallowed too much cum and now your brain is fucked and you can't pairbond. Didn't your mom tell you not to be a slut?
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>>21118823

You're right and I stopped that phase years ago.

>>21118828

Sorry I had to do some work.
I think I want what everyone wants and found it in my ex. I think I offer the same, according to his words, he said I was special and important to him. Just that comfortable yet heart fluttering feeling. Vague I guess..
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>>21118832
>still not the right timing I guess.

Maybe the next 100 random cocks will fill the void from the last 100 random cocks
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>>21118842
Extremely vague. We know absolutely nothing about you except you are a lonely female in your late 20s. Maybe this plays a part in the whole thing, you don't have a clue of what you want in a relationship.
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>>21118834
>>21118844

why are you memeing
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>>21118895

I want my ex.. that's all really.
He is what I want in a relationship.
I am actually less lonely now than my childhood, many friends.
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>>21118895
>Stopped years ago

The damage is done. You lost the ability to pairbond and your fertility is gone and you are riddled with disease. What part of the horse escaped the barn do you not understand. It's not that you have no value you have negative value
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>>21118944

很可爱啊 :3
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>>21118921
You should not be hung up on wanting something you will never have. Just put yourself out there, go on dating sites and tinder and bumble.
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this is what happens when you're passive
find a man you like and be assertive with your intentions
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>>21119000
She's too old for that and everyone who wanted a quick lay already been there done that. Stretched out diseased cunt has no appeal
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>>21119003
No one wants some fat aggressive old slut pawing at them
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>>21119000

I am scared to be abandoned by falling for someone again, I haven't bothered to even try in a couple years even with several interested men.

>>21119003

I'm not passive.. I really tried and ended up finding a guy I really liked and loved for my first, and after that everything has been filling his void. But he's a bit cowardly I guess.. he thinks I can do better no matter what I say otherwise.

I get what people are saying but it isn't so simple.. I mostly blame myself for being this way.
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Really shoulda tied the knot in your mid 20s. Go do things where men are and realize at your age compromises AND effort from your end will have to be made.
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>>21119023
>late 20s
>too old
Wut.
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>>21119083
Guys get turned off if you want a replacement for your ex. Nobody wants to be constantly compared to your ex, which is what you constantly do. Get back together with your ex if you want him so much.
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>>21119083
It's called being an old maid, over the hill, leftover women. Shouldn't have spent the last decade riding the cock carosel but that is water under the bridge. You fucked up hoard cats
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Welcome to the wall. No one wants you now and in three years you will be invisible to men even incels
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>>21119096
Yep, can't have a baby, fat, wrinkled, bitchy, smelly not to mention over a decade of letting random men use her as a toilet. Haha Chad doesn't want that even for a blowjob behind the bar
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>>21119096
Every day I am grateful for being a guy. I can still fuck around until my early 30s and be in my prime. Late 30s too if I stay very fit. But women have to make the most of their beauty before their late 20s and some don't even know they have to before it's too late to learn how to change.

OP needs to deal with her issues, maybe a therapist will help. Her not trying but wanting at the same time is just gonna lead to some bitter 30s.
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>>21119087

I did have many chances but marriage doesn't mean much unless it's the right person. I offered to stay with my first and only love, but I was so young and he wasn't and he wanted better for me. I'd marry him right now if I could. Sign the paper. I don't care about any ceremonies or ring or anything. I doubt anyone wants to hear the back story to this, I just wonder if I am going to be like this until I die.

>>21119099

I know which is why I didn't intend to date them and why I left and haven't been on a date in two years. I have friends, I'm not alone. Just sad for what I feel was lost.

>>21119101

为什么说的很多吗? 哈哈
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>>21119083
>really tried and ended up finding a guy I really liked and loved
then do it again
get the fuck over your ex holy shit
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>>21119115
That would be late 40s, you teenager virgin.
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>>21119117
30s

And 40s and 50s and 60s until she falls down and her cats eat her while she wonders what went wrong
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>>21119118
>I doubt anyone wants to hear the back story to this,
Im down for story time, shoot
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>>21119118
Did you really think taking 100 random cocks was the key to a healthy relationship
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>>21119118
Your ex probably has a girlfriend who is better than you in every way. If that won't make you move on then nothing will.
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>>21119146
Move on to what she's a crazy bitch with no self awareness who feels entitled to a man of her choice despite having negative value
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>>21119118
Fucking reee don't be obtuse just type out the back story

Look you're clearly still fixated hard on your ex. You need to get over him.
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>>21119148
I'm sure she feels the same way about you. And maybe your ex does too.
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>>21119171
That's the difference between a volcel like me and an incel like her
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Oh my fucking god id give up all the 2 cents I've earned each time some anon asked for medical help on 4chan if it meant anons who said they had a story to tell but didn't tell it got viciously mauled
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>>21119224
>>21119157

I never intended to post it, I'm trying to work through these feelings. I desire what I have with my ex, it's hard to find a genuine guy who is compatible. I do find the replies helpful, they force me to see me from an outside perspective. I don't have much else to say so I'll read while I fall asleep.

>>21119146

He is single and not over me either. We need time to heal before seeing each other again, but I wonder if I'm healing and he isn't.

>>21119141

Perhaps in the future, remember this keyword for me, vitamin E, it will be me.

>>21119132

That's emotionally exhausting.

>>21119145

我们朋友吧

Anyway have a good night anons
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>>21119299
Aren't you too old for dating and past your expiration date?
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You sound like you took a few dozen too many cocks. That's not good for your mental health. How many STDs do you have?
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>>21119492

>the difference in posters and replies

damn girl you baited him harder than his peepee is writing these comments right now



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