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What's the best way to suggest to your gf that she should lose weight without making her sad?
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Tell her you started running and you want her to come with you because it's fun.
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>>21003151
Be truthful. She's an adult. Tell her
>I'm not as attracted to you at your current weight.
It's up to her what she does with this information.
>>21003158
Not everyone finds running fun.
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>>21003180
>Be truthful. She's an adult. Tell her
"I'm not as attracted to you at your current weight."
It's up to her what she does with this information.

HAHAHA ANON DONT DO THIS SHE WILL DUMP YOU (and tell all her friends and orbiters which will tell her shes perfect as she is and deserves better)
>>21003180
giving shitty advice that could fuck people over is fun but atleast be slightly subtle about it man hahahahahah
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There is no best way that I've discovered. Just be prepared for the outburst when you do tell her. Squeeze her fat rolls playfully to make her self aware.
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>>21003185
>HAHAHA ANON DONT DO THIS SHE WILL DUMP YOU
Do you, or anyone else, want to stay with someone so weak willed?
>and tell all her friends and orbiters which will tell her shes perfect as she is and deserves better)
Do you, or anyone else, want to stay with someone so delusional?
>Shitty advice
>fuck people over is fun
Nothing about this is shitty advice, and I don't find this fun. Would you rather settle for someone you need to coddle, or be able to communicate like a functional adult?
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>>21003192
We would all love to live in a perfect world where you could say this to your girlfriend and she'd either refuse it and out herself as pathetic or accept it and decide to be a strong person but this just isnt going to happen, and I can tell you have never dated a woman before since you expect this high of a standard (that to your credit makes sense on paper)
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>>21003206
You'd be wrong. I'm more preemptive than letting it get this far. I always slip into early dates how I don't date fat chicks and I don't tolerate them. But this isn't about me.
>Tell her you started running and you want her to come with you because it's fun.
Do this, OP. When she gets tired of running because the majority of people absolutely fucking detest running, then you can move on to the next by-the-book of this situation: Cooking together. When you get fucking tired of daddying her, then you can suggest getting a gym membership together, which will no doubt lead to the
>Do you think I'm fat?
Conversation, where you will either go
>Yes, and I want you to lose weight
Or you'll buckle and tell her you'll love her no matter what, silently resenting her as you realize she lacks the self-respect to do anything to remain healthy.
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Is she overweight to a health danger level, or just aesthetically for your taste? Did she get fat after you started the relationship, or was she a fatty-chan before?
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Don’t do it. My friend did it and she told the world via social media he was abusive. Now he never leaves his house.
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>>21003151
Say you want to lose weight and ask her to join your diet/exercise program to keep you honest
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>>21003911
This only works if you're fat too
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>>21003225
Your incel is showing.
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>>21003911
This!
It doesn’t matter if you’re not fat, you can always exercise and live a better life
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>>21003151
Mine already knows, but I am having difficulty getting her to exercise.


Lead by example? like what he said
(it doesn't have to be running)
>>21003158
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>>21003151
Lol ve done that xd
Not matter how u do it u always lose.
Imho the open communication is a meme, it works in favor of a women. Notice how often u speak and they keep quiet. OC works only when u say what they want to hear or u agree with them. Any time u say things that r against they will they rage attack u. U want tell her that cos u r problem solver. U say it and u believe she will act accordingly. She wont. She wants benefits with least work required. Unless u r really precious and socially valuable she will attack u with fat shaming
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>>21004402
Mine landwhale after being told she is fat (extra 10kilos + damn tattoos) cried and rage at me for like a week. Eventually she started trying to lose weight. But she knew she had problem yet hoped for being loved for who she is not allowing me to be a men: enjoying nice body and biological need of fine sex drive. But still used female tactic to demand profits which i should deliver as a men.
4 months later, she was mb -3kilos and during a fight (we r bowe emotional and fucked up on our own way) she dumped me. And i surrendered as i really enjoy her company
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>>21004433
It all really depends on ur life/social situation. If ur position is higher then her and u have time and possibilities to find another one u can engage her directly. How do u handle stress? Do u fap?
Im 30 yo, handsome yet fucked up guy. Sober for 6 years, clean from drugs for like a 8 years yet had small relapse with weed and ciggs, back on a track now but still a bit out off balance. Im hypersexual, i need to fuck at least 2-3 a week if i dont i use porn, since ive been 13-14 yo. And i knew that if we finish i might slide to the black hole again. My tattooed land whale started to go on a gym again, she plan to do diet, and we r about to live together so i disconnect her from her
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>>21004466
Fucked up mom who created this shame in her which she solved by over eating (her mom is also a battle ogre level 58)
Yet ive also come to realisation that im over sexualized due to porn and might overvalue sex and look above the bonding we have, and decided to give her truly love and acceptance she needs so she fells safe and not forced to "i will love IF". don't get me wrong, im not sure if ive been fucked and dominated or chosed what best for me, i still kind of fell disguste when looking at her but still know she is amazing inside. Every case is complicated..
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Ask her to be your gym buddy and get gym memberships together, go to the gym together and you can support her but also make sure she's pushing herself

Don't forget, if this works and she starts losing weight, don't mention the weight loss and ask "have you lost weight?", definitely don't do that, but start showering her with compliments on like how beautiful and sexy she's looking to condition her to think "weight loss, being healthy = adoration from bf" and she'll want to more

Also diet is a big part of losing weight, not just exercise, so eat healthy meals together

I'm 5'4 and 157lbs, luckily I've been blessed with a good figure but I could definitely stand to lose some weight. I hope to become gym buddies with my boyfriend too! I feel like it will be good bonding for our relationship too
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>>21004519
Simple question: have u ever said straight in a women face that she is fat?
Yes or no?
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>>21004519
Ahh u r women.
Dont litsen to her bullshit buddy
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The best way to get your girl to lose weight is to break up with her. She'll be fuckable and ready in no time flat for the next guy in spite of you.
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>>21004566
Kek
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Try to have a healthy and fun routine with her, then she loses weight and you can get approached to each other.
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>>21004545
Nope
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>>21003151
All my man had to do was call me a fat bitch a few times....
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Say you go alone to the gym and want her to be your workout buddy
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>>21003206
Bro, get some balls. Sometimes your woman screws up and you need to treat her like an adult. She won't love it, but most women can handle it. She might get angry, but afterwards Sherri realize that you were right.

If she can't handle it, it's better to end things quickly than be a doormat to her weakness
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>>21003151
I usually preface. Anything more is playing games or manipulating -- not healthy for relationships.

So just preface, then be super honest.

"Anonette, I want to tell you something, but I'm concerned it will make you feel sad"
"go ahead"
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>>21004966
>>21004977
Dubs of truth.
>>21004519
I mean look at this fucking bullshit. You KNOW you stand to lose some weight, so just fucking do it.
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>>21005318
I have been though, almost 10 lbs down now from changing my diet and doing a workout regimen at home, but I still wanna be gym buddies with my boyfriend because we both need to lose weight/be healthier and also it could be a good bonding experience

The nonsense at the top of my post is my advice for anon because he doesn't want to make his girlfriend upset, so I'm guessing she's probably one of the people who would get all uppity about it, so I posted how to go about it basically on tiptoes

Personally how it went for my boyfriend and I was we were cuddling and he was like "you're getting a little thicker" and I was like "hm you're right"
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>>21003151
call her a fat bitch, if she can't emotionally handle that, she can't handle your children
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>>21004519
I'm not OP, but I know so many people who do this shit and then it never works out. BF can't make the gym because he's late at work? "Awwwww, better skip it without my buddy!"

Not to mention the "healthy meals together" thing, not everyone sees each other each night and has the ability to cook a meal together. Or monitor the consumption habits of another person. My ex got chubby enough for me to dump her. We tried "healthy meals," but while I was eating one meal a day, like I do when single, she was having a breakfast, morning yogurt at the office, lunch, afternoon snack, and THEN our decently healthy dinner. There was no stopping her.

Of course, I never talked to her about it like I should have, I just dumped the chick, so I don't know if I have amazing advice about what to say.
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>>21003415
The lesson here is:
don't marry a cunt
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>>21003151
>What's the best way to suggest to your gf that she should lose weight
just tell her that you think a particular female athlete is hot or has a good body. If you don't wanna be that bold, just say that you admire said athlete because of her training or some shit like that. Then you get her involved in the activity along with you on the pretext of it being an interest or hobby of yours. Whether it be running, cycling, weightlifting or even a sport, as long as she's active, she'll lose weight and tone up while thinking you're both spending quality time together.
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Just tell her. Don't be afraid of women's "feelings" it's only a ruse they use to keep you their slave.



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