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My gf and I want to add some mild tasteful domestic bdsm stuff to our relationship, basically I get to enact silly rules and if she breaks them I get to spank her (I have different tools and methods, open to new ones too). So far the only real rule is she has to take off her clothes on command and can't put them back on without permission. Any ideas for other rules? I don't any weird or disrespectful stuff, just playful and sexy things for her to obey (and be tempted to break).
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Is she into that DDLG shit where she calls you daddy?
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>>20901753
She calls me daddy and likes being ordered around, but in moderation.
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>>20901760
I have a blonde GF who's into that shit as well

It's cute as fuck and it's really hot.

Start by making practical rules as well such as bed time, eating properly, etc.
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>>20901765
Tell me about how the punishments work
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>>20901770
Punishments can be anything you want, something you know she won't enjoy.

For example, I forced my gf to watch a bunch of porn while she was horny without touching herself at all for breaking a rule

It can be fun, and it can be physical. Spanking, cock tease, all those sorts of things
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>>20901787
That's pretty clever, I want the punishments to be fun for her too. Like thing she won't want to get too often and maybe will kind of instinctively want to avoid but still feel like sexed up fun when they're actually happening. Basically spanking, my other ideas are to force her to stand facing the corner naked with her hands on her head for a few minutes or make her do squats.

One idea I had was to require her to take showers on command or at a certain time of day, maybe with me and make her wash me as a chore.
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>>20901907
Feel free to contribute
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come on guys give me reasons to spank my girlfriend
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>>20902248
Whenever she or anyone else says a certain word, when you guys are alone have her immediately assume position and spank her however many times the word was spoken. Have her count. If she can't remember, spank her an extra five times and start from scratch. Make it a common word

t. BDSM degenerate who thinks about doing stuff like this to a girl a lot.
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>>20902287
That's a good excuse to spank and maybe I'll use it if she starts using an annoying word but I'm looking more for rules that have some sort of benefit to them, the one I have so far means I get to look at her naked whenever I want, which is pretty good.
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Also, any good objects to spank with that don't hurt that much? Hands are kind of awkward and don't do enough, but belts go too far.
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>>20902377
A solid object with a flat and smooth surface. Also, spanking can get stale. You need to think of other pumishments to add variation.
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>>20902494
But anon gorillas are bigger than humans...
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>>20902548
you dont have absolute units where you live?

shame really
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>>20901745

Like others have said, don't go for spanking all the time. Denial often goes naturally with correcting bratty behavior. Also, do not be afraid to explore kinks together. I had a sub once who was rather shy, but just by sending her to the local pharmacy bare under a miniskirt she discovered a fondness for exhibitionism.
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Reposting this
My girlfriend gave me permission to do anything in bed to her. 2 restrictions though. No anal sex and no threesomes. I’m not the most experienced guy and I’m thinking what I could do that’d be fun and novel. Any tips? Ps. Toys not preferred
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>>20901745
>All that hair on her ass and back
Damn, Sasquatch has a nice ass, apparently. Still disgusting, tho
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>>20903567
Tie her up so she's bend over something and fuck her hard with no foreplay and no lube and spank the hell out of her butt while you do.
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>>20902600
Is just making her do chores for me out of bounds? I feel like that would seem like I'm just taking advantage of a sex game.
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>>20901745
Get a leash and walk her around the apartment. Put her dinner on a plate on the floor by your feet and make her eat it without hands. If she's good you feed her chocolate from your hands, if she's bad you facefuck her.

Tell her to be quiet while you finger/lick her and if she doesn't she gets a ball gag and anal as punishment.
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>>20904469
*Anything* can be a sex game.

Sitting on your gf while watching a movie can be part of a sex game. Taking off her panties before going outside can be a sex game. Rubbing your dick on her face before she meets her parents can be a sex game.
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>>20904502
Lol that's a little too much
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>>20901745

Google "BDSM for beginners" for books and sites with a lot of advice
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>>20901745
No-bra Tuesdays
No-panty Thursdays
Text her at work "Get to a private place and send me a pic of your tits within 4 minutes or be punished"
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>>20902377
Get some thin leather strips - the sort they make for bootlaces. Tie a few together at one end and have a whip that will sting sensually more than hurt
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>>20904469

>Is just making her do chores for me out of bounds?

Nothing is out-of-bounds unless it is considered a hard limit for one party or another. That says you need to decide how much your kinks are going overlap into your "real world" activities. As a Dom, it isn't as much of an issue since there is a clear and agreed upon separation of authority. A typical relationship is much more "equal," so you need to assess if either party is going to consider it taking advantage.

I generally don't give out chores often unless there is a good REASON to. For instance, I had a little who had to clean her room for me, but that was part of the play and made natural sense as punishment for being bratty. Doing chores is kind of boring in most contexts, however.

Try to think a little more outside-the-box. What if she was doing chores for you with an egg vibrator pressed against her clit which just so happened to be controlled by you from a controller or phone? Might be much more entertaining if she had to complete said tasks while not being allowed to get off as punishment. I'm sure you could find ways to make it difficult for her though.
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>>20901745
Goddamn it!!! This is girl is amazing, can't stop thinking about fucking her.
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>>20901745
is iggy amore the sauce?
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>>20901745
if neither of you has thought your fantasy out yet then what the fuck are you doing
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>>20902377
>don't do enough
Use your hands better.
Paddle maybe but no cane.



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