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What is the correct perception of reality? I think my perception is hurting me, I need someone else's perception to compare. Just tell me your daily habits, thoughts, etc. I just wanna know how mentally sick I am.
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There is no "correct" way, but if you want to be happy .. basically never criticize , never complain, never compare yourself to others, be grateful for anything you can think of, believe that the world is safe, that people are essentially good and friendly, that there is enough wealth and abundance for everybody , that the state of humanity is improving, and so on.

There are many ways to interpret reality and you can choose the ones that serve you more effectively.
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>>20448646
Are humans supposed to want to be happy naturally?
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>>20448646
>never criticizing and never complaining makes you happy
spotted the "nice guy"
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>>20448663
Stfu narcissist bitch
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>>20448663
It's not about being nice, it's about not burdening yourself with stupid shit. If there are people around you who are worth getting upset over, you should remove those people from your life.
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>>20448653

Maybe happy is the wrong word. How about meaningful, satisfying, fulfilling? Since I've adopted better mindsets there's times where I literally feel like crying about how beautiful life is.
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>>20448667
at least get your insults right, how is that narcissistic?

>>20448678
confrontation is unavoidable and letting yourself get pushed around makes you unhappy. running away from people isn't always going to be an option
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>>20448681
Can you describe your mindset? I want to see the world better. Specifically what do you think or do around family, friends, co-workers, etc. Also how are you when you're alone? What do you think of?
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>>20448684

There's better and worse ways to deal with confrontation.

Say you have a disagreement at work, you don't have to look at it as a conflict. Chances are you both have similar overarching goals but disagreements about implementation. You try to share as much information as possible and reach the most mutually beneficial result. Resolving your conflict is a collaborative effort. If you are going through life and just continually becoming involved in serious conflicts, I don't know what to tell you, perhaps you're doing something wrong.

You might want to check out the book "crucial conversations".
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>>20448610
Same here. I'm getting tired every day, I lost my interest in everything. After my work, I stayed all night at my desk and thinking is this reality?
PS. I live alone and I don't have any friends, Just my online gaming friends but they're busy now with their life.
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>>20448646
>never criticize , never complain, never compare yourself to others
How do you even function at work? Talking shit is a survival mechanism.

>believe that the world is safe, that people are essentially good and friendly, that there is enough wealth and abundance for everybody , that the state of humanity is improving
So, basically deny reality and live in a world of self-delusion.

The only thing I agree with you on is that you should be grateful for what you've got.
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>>20448688

I think about things I'm grateful for. I think about how lucky I am. I think that I'm destined for continual growth and success.

The people in my life, I rarely ask them for anything. I never try to "take" anything from others, or expect that they owe me anything. I try to figure out what people want, and how I can give it to them. I trust that when I give other people the things that they want, they will reciprocate on their own terms and they will think better of me and speak well of me to others. If I sense that people will only take advantage of this, then I just distance myself from them. I'm not angry or judgmental that they act this way, they're just at a certain point in their development where they think that they need to be "takers" to get what they want, hopefully they'll grow out of that sooner than later.
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>>20448702

>How do you even function at work? Talking shit is a survival mechanism.

I can't say that I relate at all. Everyone I work with loves me to death and I have nothing bad to say about any of them.

>So, basically deny reality and live in a world of self-delusion.

Reality is almost completely subjective.
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>>20448724
The world is perfect. Disagree? Well, reality is subjective.
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>>20448708
What if somebody punches you in the mouth? What then?
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>>20448732

I didn't say it was perfect, I just assume its generally good, and things tend to play out that way for me. But why are you arguing with me? Its just my perspective, youre free to believe whatever you like.
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>>20448738
Damn, I don't know. Maybe try to defend myself? Hopefully there are beautiful people around that will restrain the aggressor.
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>>20448610
Dear OP
If you think you are mentally sick pleasr talk about it with people irl. Preferably a therapist or family.
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>>20448758

I find it very strange that you feel compelled to mock people who have a positive outlook on life. What does that say about you? Might be worth thinking about.
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>>20448759
I already am. I'm still struggling to understand what the proper way of seeing the world is. Also I have a fear that people have bad intentions. I'm afraid of myself because all the repressed anger is giving me destructive urges and I just wanna be ok
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>>20448762
How did I mock anything
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>>20448762
Positive and delusional are not the same thing. Sorry to break it to ya.
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>>20448764
There is no wrong or right way to view the world. That should be a first realization. There is however a right worldview for you individualy, a view and mindset that will make you feel 'ok'.
Humans are social creatures and need to be loved. You however seem to be a bit paranoid or anxious of people being malicious. I hope you are working on that with your therapist
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>>20448773
One last thing. What are you like with the opposite sex?
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>>20448771

So you feel that it's necessary to enforce your worldview on others through mockery? Does that seem healthy to you?
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>>20448764
Not everyone has bad intentions, plenty of people do, but you have to be able to recognize the signs. The only way to know the signs is to be around people more often.

You should find a way to let out that repressed anger, hit a punching bag, scream in your car, listen to metal... something so that you let it out in a way that's not self-destructive. Just remember the point is to let it out and move on.
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>>20448794
Well, when you put it like that; yes and yes.
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>>20448843
Even people who had bad intentions can be made to change their tune based on how you react. Imagine you're getting bullied in middle school and people are calling you names - if you take it personally and start crying then people will continue to mock you. If you laugh with them then they'll rationalize that they were "just joking".


>>20448848
Best of luck on your journey anon.
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>>20448857
What if they say "why are you laughing?".
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>>20448857
You're a faggot.

Also, I just disproved what you said.
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The mind plays tricks on itself. I know for a fucking fact that you are just like most people OP. For whatever reason you believe yourself unable to properly see the world, but perhaps your not seeing yourself clearly either. Literally no "normal" person worries about if their view of the world is wrong.
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>>20448863
I love you too anon
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>>20448874
I want to nuke every ghetto on Earth. Literally why are these places real.
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>>20448793
Not good I'm 20 and never had sex. I have no confidence when it comes to girls.
This has caused me mental issues.
But I recognize that's where my main issue lies. I work on that with my own therapist
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>>20448941
Your perception sucks. Keep being a doormat you beta cuck bitch. No wonder you get no pussy.
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>>20448941

>>20448949

Imagine being so buttblasted by someone's worldview that you literally spend an hour impersonating them and samefagging to try to make them look bad. Lol.
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>>20448968
Sadly it's me the OP who called him a beat cuck faggot. I have problems that I need to solve.
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>>20448610
Kind of a more philosophical approach, but I learned this in my philosophy 101 elective in college

We studied a guy named Albert Camus, he's a proponent of absurdism which is the belief that what the universe can offer and what people desire (inherent meaning) is a gap that cannot be bridged, versus existentialism which is where you may create your own meaning and nihilism which is there is no point for any grandiose or personal meaning. But absurdism is slightly different to nihilism because it advocates to "rebel against the absurd," which is this impossible gap, by simply enjoying life to the fullest without attaching any meaning at all. For example, to eat cereal in the morning and just enjoying the present moment, without worrying about what it means.

He wrote the work the myth of Sisyphus which in summary is a dude gets imprisoned by the gods and he's forced to push a boulder up a steep hill just for it to roll down again, and repeat this for eternity. This was his punishment, and Camus' central question was whether or not Sisyphus should be happy. The answer you should arrive at is "yes, he is happy" because Sisyphus represents every individual, whose efforts are in the end meaningless and if we are able to lead happy lives while being conscious of that fact, then Sisyphus should be happy as well rolling that boulder for eternity.

Just my two cents
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>>20448977

Oh I see. Well that's ok. Just another reminder to myself about why this website is a waste of time.
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>>20448610
Well my day it pretty odd and it consists of the following:
>simulating my reaction to extremely unlikely situations in my head (ex: what if someone started shooting up the place?)
>hyping myself up to talk to people and then shutting down when the time comes
>thinking about what my relationship would be like with a girl near me and then reminding myself that it'll never happen
>worrying about my relationships with others and if they actually hate me or are trying to betray me
>trying to please others at the expense of my own happiness
>afraid of dying 24/7, prepping for it
>porn
>think about suicide quite often but don't think I'll ever actually do it but still believe I deserve to die (even though I have never actually done anything wrong/evil)
>watch movies or tv, have a rather unhealthy obsession with movies
>being overly ambitious but lacking any motivation
so yeah, that's the life of one of todays many failures
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>>20448996
Absurdism made me do it.
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>>20448610
What is your perception and why don't you think it's good enough?
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>>20448998
You have some kind of anxiety and you've been living with it for so long it's normal. This is why you retreat into scenarios in your head. Are you the hero in them? Even if you die? It feels normal to be this way, but you can be better. Real life is better than the scenarios. The relationship is always better than the one in your head.
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>>20449089
I know something is wrong but don't know how to go about solving it so I just live with it. I'm hoping there's just some pill I can take that'll help me to form real bonds with people.
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>>20449149
There isn't. I've been looking for a very long time. I'd have found it by now. My next step is CBT with someone. You can do that online, as well, but those suck.
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>>20449149
I know no one ever listens to book recommendations or even has the attention span to read one here, but check out 'letting go' by David Hawkins.
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My day is me waking up then being on the PC all day until I sleep. I'm bored and I can hang out with friends until I start uni but all my life I've never gone after things I barely want.

I don't know what else to say OP. When interacting with people I follow the principle that no one owes anyone else anything. What makes you think you're mentally sick?
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>>20449852
Best gore and xvideos we're my cartoons as a child. I've been masturbating since I was 7 and have shrunken testicles. I lost my opportunity to grow when I was 16 due to insomnia and am now an inferiority creature. I can't even bring myself to talk to



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